How to Get Over Your Ex
296 episodes - English - Latest episode: 6 days ago - ★★★★★ - 509 ratingsBreakup coach Dorothy, outlines the steps to get over your ex without it “just taking time”.
She has combined her background in psychology with her life coach certification tools to provide actionable insights so that you're not only learning the why but you're learning the HOW to getting over your ex.
Note: Dorothy utilizes the "he" pronoun when talking about her ex but this work can be applied to anyone. All genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply the tools.
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Ep. 86 - When it felt so right
February 15, 2021 10:00 - 9 minutes - 13.1 MBOftentimes after a devastating heartbreak we are mired with the idea that “it just felt so right”, “I thought he was the one” or “something right went wrong” which can lead to us questioning our judgment. “How did I not catch that?” In today’s episode, learn why it felt so right, why that’s not a problem, and how to find out what’s right for right now. What to expect: Learn the real reason it felt so right Find what’s right for right now Become someone who no longer questions ...
BONUS: A Vday Gift [Braveheart Festival]
February 11, 2021 09:44 - 16 minutes - 29.4 MBHappy early Valentine's Day my Bravehearts! If you didn't have plans for Valentine's Day... YOU DO NOW. Surprise! The first annual Braveheart Festival. An all-day event that's all free for you! So excited to hang out with you all. See you Sunday (2/14/2021)! Grab your itinerary HERE.
Ep. 85 - I wasn't worth fighting for
February 08, 2021 10:00 - 10 minutes - 14.4 MB“I wasn’t worth fighting for” is a common storyline that plays over and over in many brains after the end of a devastating breakup. It hurts, you feel inadequate, rejected, and unworthy of your ex, life, and new partners. I see this story break amazing, accomplished, and wonderful humans down. Today, we talk about how to drop the idea that you weren’t worth fighting for and show you how to stand up and fight for the life you actually wanted. What to expect: Learn why the “I wasn’t wo...
Ep. 84 - Compassion blankets
February 01, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 20.7 MBDuring a breakup, there are many moments where you are overwhelmed with huge pangs of negative emotion. In those moments most are quick to react to them, and if they know their thoughts create their feelings, they want to quickly find a new thought to make them feel better. When we do this, it robs us of the real lesson within the pain. Today, learn a tool called “compassion blankets” that provides you relief in the midst of pain while you navigate your breakup. Compassion blanket...
Ep. 83 - Breakup Q&As
January 25, 2021 10:00 - 31 minutes - 42.9 MBIn today’s episode Breakup Coach Dorothy answers questions asked by Bravehearts covering a variety of breakup topics. From how to move on when your family loves your ex to how to handle your ex treating their new partner better than they treated you to how to stop comparing your new love interests to your ex and so much more. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy for a casual chit chat about all things breakups, healing, and moving forward.
Ep. 82 - How to stop the "what ifs"
January 18, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 20.7 MBAfter a breakup many of my bravehearts have brains that consume them with the “what ifs”. “What if I would have acted/shown up differently?” “What if I would have loved him differently?” They could go on for hours asking these questions and forming alternative realities in their head. The problem is, when you’re busy asking the wrong questions you never solve for the right questions that actually move you closer to getting over your ex. Today, learn how to let go of the questions that keep...
BONUS: Dear Bravehearts
January 15, 2021 10:00 - 9 minutes - 17.2 MBA little impromptu braveheart love letter. Sending so much love, Breakup Coach Dorothy
Ep. 81 - How to say goodbye
January 11, 2021 10:00 - 28 minutes - 38.8 MBYou’ve decided you no longer want to be in the relationship you’re in. Or, if you’re being honest, you’re still not even sure but “think” you don’t want to be in the relationship anymore. But how do you actually leave? In today’s episode we talk about how to leave a relationship. We cover obstacles you may face and how to overcome them when deciding to leave your significant other. What to expect: Learn what holds you back from leaving your relationship Understand the obstacles that m...
Ep. 80 - How Bravehearts got their ex back
January 07, 2021 10:00 - 26 minutes - 36.4 MBWhat if your ex really was meant to be? Believe it or not, as a breakup coach, I’ve had clients that got back together with their exes. In this episode, I bring in these Bravehearts to tell you how exactly they got their second chance. Sometimes all it takes is working on ourselves to create a new, better relationship with the same person. Tune in if you’ve believe there’s still something left with your ex—you won’t want to miss their stories!
Ep. 79 - How Bravehearts moved on after cheating
January 06, 2021 10:00 - 22 minutes - 30.3 MBCheating is a touchy and intense topic for those who have gone through it. In this special episode, I bring on my clients who have been on both sides of the situation. This conversation unravels the topics of dealing with anger, the true meaning of forgiveness and how to let go of something even if you don’t believe what happened was right.
Ep. 78 - How Bravehearts got over the ex they left
January 05, 2021 10:00 - 24 minutes - 33.3 MBWe always talk about the dumpee but not the dumper. The truth is, there is still plenty of pain in breaking up with someone, just as there is in being broken up with. In this special episode, I interview my former—and healed—clients who were the ones that got away. This episode talks about the perspective, personal stories, and regret that come with leaving someone you loved.
Ep. 77 - How to get over your ex for good
January 04, 2021 10:00 - 34 minutes - 47.4 MBLiving your life heartbroken is miserable. How are we supposed to be our best selves when we’re consumed with thoughts about someone else? As a breakup coach who has helped thousands, I am certain that healing is possible for everyone—but most of us aren’t given the right tools. Freedom from pain begins when you prioritize healing your heart. What to expect: · What being “over” someone means · Understand what keeps you heartbroken · Practices that will heal your heart faster than you...
Ep. 76 - How to guarantee a new you after your breakup
December 28, 2020 10:00 - 15 minutes - 21.8 MBWhat if you guaranteed yourself that after this breakup you were a brand new version of yourself? Many people do this during the new year #newyearnewyou. But what if that didn’t require a new year. What if simply required you to heal your heart in the most powerful, transformative way? What to expect: Learn what a new you will create in your life Understand how to guarantee yourself a new you Become the new you, you always knew you could be
Ep. 75 - How to have a merry holiday during your breakup
December 21, 2020 10:00 - 21 minutes - 30.2 MBA part of heartbreak includes unfulfilled expectations. Expectations of yourself and expectations others had for you. During the holidays, these expectations are typically top of mind, as the year ends, family gathers (or not) and feelings are felt about everything that didn’t happen. Learning to feel content and do I dare even say “proud” during this time is possible. Learn to stop focusing on what you don’t have so that you can focus on what you do. What to expect: Learn how these ex...
Ep. 74 - How to “be here now” during your breakup
December 14, 2020 10:00 - 11 minutes - 15.8 MBWhen you’re heartbroken, you’re either stuck in the past or afraid of the future. But to heal, we have to move outside the chatter in our heads and into the moment we’re living right now. This episode, I’m going to make this process simple for you to practice. What to expect: Learn how “being here now” will propel your healing How the subconscious brain keeps you from moving on How to “be here now” to find peace and calm in the midst of heartbreak
Ep. 73 - How to drop confusion around your breakup
December 07, 2020 10:00 - 15 minutes - 20.8 MBDo you feel like you need answers from your ex? Many of my clients suffer because they are “confused” about how their breakup went and wish for clarity. The truth is, trying to figure out every detail of your breakup is why you haven’t moved on. Let me show you how to reach peace without making things more complicated. What to expect: Understand what is causing your confusion Why confusion worsens heartbreak & how to move on A fast & simple way to heal without relying on external vali...
Ep. 72 - How to let go of cheating
November 30, 2020 10:00 - 28 minutes - 38.8 MBWhether you’ve been cheated on or cheated on your partner, this episode dissects what it is about cheating that keeps you from getting over your ex. Resentment and guilt are emotions that can eat you alive—but it doesn’t have to be like this. What to expect: The root cause behind why people cheat How not healing from cheating can affect future relationships Clear steps on how to let go of you or your partner’s infidelity so you can finally move on
Ep. 71 - How to enjoy the holidays during a breakup
November 23, 2020 10:00 - 13 minutes - 18.3 MBDreading that feeling of loneliness during the holidays? It doesn’t seem possible to appreciate this magical time of year when you’re heartbroken. Tune into this episode and learn how to not let your breakup control your joy this season—or any other. What to expect: Why being heartbroken during the holidays is actually an advantage Learn how to feel good internally no matter the outside circumstances Steps on how to heal from your breakup during the holidays this year
Ep. 70 - How to invest in yourself during your breakup
November 16, 2020 10:00 - 21 minutes - 29 MBWhat do you believe are priorities in your life? Look at your calendar. Do your daily tasks match what you believe to be important? Most people will find that the things that matter to them (loved ones, self-care, hobbies) are pushed aside for other things & people. This episode will teach you what it means to invest in yourself and how it will change your life. What to expect: How time, energy, effort, & money matter in a breakup Why getting over your ex is a priority Learn how to us...
Ep. 69 - How to be the “main character” in life
November 09, 2020 10:00 - 17 minutes - 24.1 MBDo you ever wish that life was like the movies, where everything always works out in the end? Well, I’m here to tell you you’re one step away from a life that feels like your favorite movie: you have to identify as the “main character.” Breakups (and hard times in general) make us feel so down about ourselves that we feel like we’re on the sidelines. This episode will teach you how to romanticize the life you have as a single person. What to expect: How to prevent being a “side charact...
Ep. 68 - How to feel your feelings
November 02, 2020 10:00 - 27 minutes - 37.5 MBEmotions can feel overwhelming at times. But if we learn how to feel them instead of trying to “fix” them, we come out the other side as a healed person. If you’re tired of hearing that you need to “feel your feelings” without further explanation, this episode is for you. What to expect: Four ways to feel your feelings so you can heal How to release emotions in 30 seconds or less Tips on being present + letting go of pain long-term
Ep. 67 - How to find peace in the reality of your breakup
October 26, 2020 09:00 - 15 minutes - 21.3 MBThe #1 struggle I see in my clients is thinking their breakup should’ve gone differently. Without exception, this thought process always leads to more pain. In this episode, I’m going to teach you how to embrace the reality of your breakup so you can have peace of mind. Your healing process begins with acceptance. What to expect: Why rejecting reality leads to pain How to begin accepting what has happened/how they acted Finding empowerment in the circumstances of your breakup
Ep. 66 - How to find out what’s stopping you from getting over them
October 19, 2020 09:00 - 21 minutes - 29.7 MBThey say once you have awareness, half of the job is done. There are things that are holding you back from getting over your ex that you may not even recognize—and therefore can’t fix! This episode is here to solve that problem for you. It isn’t as obvious as “I’m still in love with him” or “I need closure.” And your solution is as simple as one thought away. What to expect: Learn what is holding you back from moving on Understand why your unchecked brain may be sabotaging you Leave...
Ep. 65 - How to live with “calm confidence”
October 12, 2020 09:00 - 13 minutes - 18.7 MBHow would your actions change if you /knew/ you’d always get the result you wanted? Living in fear isn’t protecting you, it’s sheltering you. This is a big part in getting over your ex—knowing that your life will 100% be better on the other side. I call it living with “calm confidence”: a mindset that whatever you want, you shall have. It’s the empowerment you need. What to expect: Get practical examples of what “calm confidence” looks like Understand why it works Learn how to apply...
Ep. 64 - How to do heartbreak the new way
October 05, 2020 09:00 - 56 minutes - 77.3 MBHave you gotten over your ex through google searches, shopping, or your friend’s advice? If you’re reading this, the answer is probably no. And it’s not your fault. I’ve led thousands of people to handle heartbreak in a new way. Spoiler: time and distractions aren’t the answer. Today I brought on six of my clients who have gotten over their exes in three months or less. Their insight could be your answer. What to expect: Six transformational stories Learn new ways to cope with your br...
Ep. 63 - How to break unhealthy cycles
October 02, 2020 09:00 - 17 minutes - 24 MBHealing begins when we stop going in circles. To do that, you have to break the cycles with your ex that hurt you, like: breaking up/getting back together, blocking/unblocking their number, & hating/loving them. Today we have Lisa, who talks about how she overcame the cycles that she thought were impossible to break. What to expect: Learn how to get unstuck from negative behavior Recognize what keeps you making the same mistakes Find out what Lisa did to propel her forward & fina...
Ep. 62 - How to grieve so you can feel better
October 01, 2020 09:00 - 16 minutes - 22.3 MBGrief isn’t based on time—but practice. My client, Chelsea, is giving you insider info on her first four weeks of working with me, and why she felt the need for coaching just days after her breakup happened. What to expect: Understand what grieving is in the context of a breakup Learn to distinguish what kind of grief gets you better vs worse Develop the skill to let go of the negative emotions that run through you www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex Find Chelsea at: @clham_ on I...
Ep. 61 - How to feel at peace in your chaotic breakup
September 30, 2020 09:00 - 40 minutes - 55 MBSometimes, life throws us chaos that we feel we don’t deserve. Maybe we don’t “deserve” bad things to happen to us, but these events work in our favor—if we let them. Today, my client Jake tells his story on how his chaotic breakup turned out to be his path toward ultimate peace. What to expect: Identify the difference between the pain of your breakup and the pain you create Learn how to rewrite negative stories so they empower you Become so peaceful that your ex’s actions don’t aff...
Ep. 60 - How to love your life without them
September 29, 2020 09:00 - 37 minutes - 51.1 MBMy former client, Purvaja, is like you: she thought an ideal life meant having a partner. However, this need to find someone to be happy kept her from creating the life she really wanted. In this interview, you’re going to learn how Purvaja threw away this belief and became the Braveheart she is. What to expect: Be in love with your life w/o a partner Let go of the pressure to find someone and trust a higher power to figure it out Create calm confidence within & attract the people m...
Ep. 59 - How to get better when things seem like they’re getting worse
September 28, 2020 09:00 - 22 minutes - 30.5 MBImagine how life would feel if we didn’t spend time worrying about the worst-case scenario. If you’re heartbroken, you’re already in pain—you don’t the extra anxiety. Today, I’m interviewing my former client, Ellie, about her very first heartbreak. You will learn how she handled her breakup so that her pain would turn into power. What to expect: How things got better for Ellie when life got “worse” Learn why investing in yourself leads to fearlessness Why Ellie is her best self & ho...
Ep. 58 - How to be a badass "braveheart"
September 21, 2020 09:00 - 14 minutes - 19.6 MBBreakups don’t have to be a drag. It can be the time where you find the best, most liberated part of yourself—and become a “Badass Braveheart.” A “Badass Braveheart” is someone who has been heartbroken and manages to stand up taller than before. They are their own #1, self-loving and confident. Today, I’m teaching you how to be a BB. What to expect: Why being a badass = being over your ex Learn how to show up like a BB in your everyday life Leave knowing your next step towards your be...
Ep. 57 - How to get over your ex in 3 simple steps
September 14, 2020 09:00 - 15 minutes - 21.7 MBEverything you’ve been told about how to get over your ex is wrong. If you had the right tips, you’d have the right results. But I have good news: the real answers aren’t even complicated. In today’s episode, I’m going to outline the three steps that have left 100% of my clients over their ex. You don’t have to wait for time to heal you; it’s all in your hands. What to expect: Learn the 3 steps that have always succeeded in healing heartbreak Tips on how to apply them practically to y...
Ep. 56 - How to stop holding onto your breakup rules
September 07, 2020 09:00 - 22 minutes - 31.4 MBWhat is the “right” way your ex should act after a breakup? Your many answers to that question are the set of rules you’re expecting him or her to follow—and it’s keeping you heartbroken. So, in this episode, I’m going to help you break them. Unlike laws, there aren’t established “breakup rules.” Like laws, even if there were legitimate policies on how to act, people are going to disobey them anyway. That being said: in order to get over our exes, we have to learn to let go of th...
Ep 55. - How to believe you’re over your ex
August 31, 2020 09:00 - 11 minutes - 15.9 MBIn what I believe to be my best episode to date, I will be teaching you how to authentically feel like you’re over your ex—even when you don’t have the evidence to back it up yet. This teaching is based on a piece of wisdom that shouldn’t be underestimated: you have to believe in something before you can see it. You may have heard this as the common phrase “fake it ’till you make it” but, slang or no slang, this stuff is SO real! When you’re sitting on your bed blowing more tissues than yo...
Ep. 54 - How to be the one in control of getting over your ex
August 24, 2020 09:00 - 13 minutes - 18.1 MBAre you feeling out of control in your breakup because of your ex’s actions? Whether they were the one who ended things or you felt forced to break it of because of something they did, it’s common to feel helpless when you’re heartbroken. However, your feelings of helplessness aren’t giving you the empowerment you need. In this episode, I will teach you how to take control in a situation that feels out of control—a lesson that will aid you through your lifetime. Through my coaching experti...
Ep. 53 - How to create a compelling reason
August 17, 2020 09:00 - 10 minutes - 13.8 MBCreating a compelling reason to get over your ex is one of the most important pieces to getting over your ex. Without it you won’t succeed. Secondly, it’s important that your compelling reason isn’t “demotivating” meaning you feel deflated and defeated when you think about it. The difference between my successful bravehearts and my struggling bravehearts is simple, their compelling reason withstands the voice in their brain that wants to reach out to their ex, or stalk him on social media. I...
Ep. 52 - He said something hurtful
August 10, 2020 09:00 - 18 minutes - 26.1 MBSometimes our ex says things about us. Sometimes we interpret those words as “hurtful” or “mean”, we think we feel hurt and betrayed because of what they said. As an expert at breakups and helping women no longer feel hurt by what people say about them I was shocked I was feeling hurt by something my braveheart told me the other day. Listen in as I described my experience in correlation to an experience my client had with her ex to let go of and no longer feel hurt by what other people say a...
Ep 51 - BONUS Episode - Decision making
August 03, 2020 09:02 - 16 minutes - 22.1 MBDecision making is so important when it comes to rebuilding your self-confidence. In today’s episode, I share a sneak peek of the decision making content I provide in module 6 of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program. We talk about 3 main areas when it comes to learning the skill of decision making that will help you not only rebuild confidence in yourself but also show up and make NEW decisions and feel AMAZING about them. In this episode: 3 important tips about making decisio...
Ep. 50 - BONUS Episode - Your worthiness
August 03, 2020 09:01 - 20 minutes - 28.3 MBMany of us have heard that our worthiness is 100%, your productivity doesn’t equate to your worthiness. Something that hasn’t been talked about much is WANTING from inadequacy which is tied to how worthy YOU feel. In this episode, I share with you a sliver of what is shared in module 5 of the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or LESS program. www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex In this episode: The truths about worthiness that haven’t been shared The worthiness tree What’s keeping you...
Ep. 49 - Regret after a breakup
August 03, 2020 09:00 - 15 minutes - 21.5 MBAs an expert at breakups, I see two forms of regret after a breakup occurs. The first kind is regret about how you behaved during the relationship, especially after you’ve learned everything I’ve taught you in the podcast. The second kind is regret about your decision to leave the relationship (if you’re the one who left). In today’s episode, I talk about how regret can be useful and how it can also (and more oftentimes) be used as punishment. I of course will finish up the episode giving yo...
Ep. 48 - The truth about external validation
July 27, 2020 09:00 - 20 minutes - 27.5 MBMany of my clients have brought up this topic of wanting to feel validated by others and their ex. I’m here to tell you two truths about external validation that you’ve never heard before and the specific techniques I use with my clients to let go of the graspiness. You’ve never once been externally validated nor is validation a problem. Learn more in today’s episode as I unpack this all with you. In this episode: The two truths about external validation What to do about it Specific b...
Ep. 47 - Trust after a breakup
July 20, 2020 09:00 - 12 minutes - 16.8 MBIf you’re anything like me, learning to trust after a horrific breakup was the biggest hurdle that seemed to last forever! After overcoming that hurdle I found that trust was the missing piece I needed for so many areas of my life. It changed EVERYTHING. Join me as I talk through the 2 types of trust you need to have prior to placing your trust on anyone else. In this episode: What is trust? The types of trust. How to trust in a higher power, yourself, and others to be able to stand ...
Ep. 46 - What to do with rejection
July 13, 2020 09:00 - 15 minutes - 21.8 MBWe’ve all heard rejection is god’s way to redirect you. I’ll be giving you the real explanation of this along with, of course, the HOW do we implement this into our life though. By the end of this episode, you can and will be able to turn your rejection into curiosity and compassion for yourself and others. Which will leave you responding to rejection in a whole new way. In this episode: What is rejection and how we typically respond to being rejected How to respond to rejection in a wh...
Ep. 45 - Loving yourself during your breakup
July 06, 2020 09:00 - 14 minutes - 20.4 MBLoving yourself is not the equivalent of self-care. We can take all the actions in the world and do self-care routines but if we don’t change our brains we don’t change the feelings. Instead, you might find yourself forcing the self-care routines vs letting them come to you naturally and organically. Two of my clients recently mentioned that “dating someone will have to be better than what it’s like to hang out with myself” and getting to the place where you are so obsessed with you than any...
Ep. 44 - What he's saying isn't true
June 29, 2020 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.9 MBWhat he’s saying about you doesn’t have to be your truth. Just because he says "You don't make me a priority" "You're crazy, you need to stop acting like I'm the problem, you're the problem" "You're a hypocrite" "You were the one that messed up" "You're just seeking attention" -- doesn’t mean it’s your reality. Nor does it mean you need to convince him otherwise. In this episode: Learn how to let him have his own thoughts about you without it affecting YOU Identify your true identi...
Ep. 42 - True heartbreak transformations
June 22, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 97.1 MBWhen we are in the thick of it it's hard to really even imagine what it would be like to truly get over your ex. It seems impossible even which can make you feel oh so defeated in life and 100% not like yourself. In this week’s episode hear from 5 bravehearts who are between week 5 and 12 of working together and their experience in recently getting over their ex. In this episode: From 10 year relationship to divorce to a motivated, happy, badass in 6 weeks From a broken hearted birthda...
Ep. 43 - Cracking open your pain
June 22, 2020 09:00 - 49 minutes - 68 MBLiving your life just tiptoeing around your pain doesn’t work, it’s actually more miserable than it is to just experience the heartbreak of heartbreak. Learning to dive headfirst into this experience will transform your life by awakening the dull dead pain you’ve been carrying for far too long. On today’s episode, I bring on my client Megan who talks about her experience of living and LEANING into her heartbreaks of life and coming out on the other side fully HEALED. She rewrote so many stor...
Ep. 41 - The next chapter
June 15, 2020 09:00 - 44 minutes - 61 MBHear from 5 of my clients who have worked with me from 9 months to a year and a half! We talk about what led them to coaching, who they are in comparison to who they used to be. The results they have created in their life BECAUSE of their heartbreak and their most important words of wisdom. In this episode: Inspiration from fellow bravehearts How to believe you’ll get through this on purpose Making this the most transformational time of your life Words of wisdom from those who have...
Ep. 39 - The emotional rollercoaster during a breakup
June 08, 2020 09:00 - 17 minutes - 23.6 MBI think all of us can agree that going through a breakup tends to be a lot of high highs and low lows. We have a lot of emotions. This goes for people who are broken up with AS WELL as those who did the breaking up. What if I told you, that YOU had control over these? What if you weren’t at the effect of him calling or texting? What if you weren’t at the effect of him being or not being with another girl? What if you weren’t at the effect of hearing his name or seeing him in public? In th...
Ep. 40 - Surprise BONUS episode - The power of braveheart healing
June 08, 2020 09:00 - 19 minutes - 27 MBI’m obsessed and totally in love with the braveheart community and the wonders I’ve seen through my group coaching that I include with my one on one clients. Healing while also watching others heal gives you connection, stability, security, and certainty. In today’s episode, I’ve outlined the problems we have that are keeping us from that kind of healing and what to do about it. In this episode: The main problems that keep us from healing our heartbreak with others The transformation you...