How to Get Over Your Ex

Ep. 162 - The dating to engaged process

October 03, 2022 09:00 - 23 minutes - 31.6 MB

Are you over your ex and ready to start the dating process but don’t have a real step by step guide to follow? Join me today as I share the entire dating to engaged process that not only worked for me but many of my clients. In today’s episode: Learn what the dating process is Understand where you can improve your dating experience Be the person who actually enjoys dating (or become the person who gets engaged - if that’s what you’re looking for) Links: - wants episode (117) found ...

Ep. 161 - The breakup pep talk you didn't know you needed

September 26, 2022 09:00 - 15 minutes - 20.8 MB

A much needed breakup pep talk to uplift you through the rest of your week. Recently inspired by Living Untethered by Michael A Singer - https://www.amazon.com/Living-Untethered-Beyond-Human-Predicament/dp/1648480934 Sending so much love, Dorothy

Ep. 160 - I let my ex treat me poorly

September 19, 2022 09:00 - 12 minutes - 17.4 MB

The way someone else treats you isn’t your responsibility. Oftentimes we get confused about the “ownership” piece of “letting people treat you poorly”. Today I demystify this idea of letting someone treat you poorly and what to do with the shame you experience around your past relationship. In today’s episode: Learn what it actually means to let someone treat you poorly Understand what’s been holding you back from letting go of the shame and potentially even embarrassment of what you al...

Ep. 159 - How to pick the right person next time

September 12, 2022 09:00 - 19 minutes - 26.4 MB

After a traumatic heartbreak, many of us want to make sure that we pick the right person next time, that we don’t get hurt like we did and that we don’t avoid the red flags like we did that time. In today’s episode I’m going to help you pick the right person next time and provide you with the confidence you need to move forward in your healing journey. In this episode: Learn how to pick the right person next time Understand what it means to pick the right person Become someone who’s ...

Ep. 158 - I won't meet anyone like my ex again

September 05, 2022 11:46 - 16 minutes - 22.6 MB

After a breakup it’s easy to turn to the idea that we will never meet anyone as great as our ex again. It’s a common thought error that many of us have. Join me today as I explain what the real problem is about this thought (it’s not what you think) and how you can use this story to catapult your healing journey. In today’s episode: Learn the real issue when you’re telling yourself “I won’t meet anyone like my ex again” (it’s not what you think) Understand how you can use this story to ...

Ep. 157 - Leaving the half a energy of the half a relationship

August 29, 2022 09:00 - 43 minutes - 59.7 MB

Staying in a relationship that is “almost” everything you’ve ever wanted is pretty common. Typically it’s fear that keeps us from moving forward and exiting the half ass energy loop that is creating a half ass relationship. Join Nikki this week as she talks about what it was like to leave the half ass energy of a half ass relationship and build a bigger and better life for herself! In today’s episode: Learn how to leave when it’s almost everything but not everything you ever wanted Und...

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August 24, 2022 09:00 - 22 minutes - 30.3 MB

You have the ability to get over your ex AND you could choose to do it differently. Not alone, not trial and error, not struggling your way through but in a way that is supportive, where you're held, given proven steps that get you to self security and oblitorates the fear of your future without your ex in it. Be ready to blow your own mind: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex First come first serve, will be closed once all spots are filled. From the bottom of my heart, I cannot w...

Ep. 156 - I should be over him already

August 22, 2022 09:00 - 22 minutes - 30.7 MB

So much shame is created and cultivated by believing that we should already be over this… no matter our age, no matter how long the relationship was or how long the breakup happened - this seems to be a reoccurring theme among Bravehearts. Join me today with Gracie as she gives us words of wisdom around shame, what to do when your problems don’t feel big enough, when you think your best days are behind you, and when you care a lot about what your ex thinks of you. In today’s episode: Lear...

Get Over Your Ex (the experience) is ALMOST OPEN!

August 22, 2022 09:00 - 15 minutes - 20.9 MB

The Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less experience is almost open. Here's everything you need to know to be prepared to save your spot! No matter how long you were together and have beent trying to heal, you can Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less. I want you to feel fully secure in yourself and confident in your choices -- so much so, you're no longer pining over someone who left you, but you're rapidly calling in all the things that are FOR you. Let's do this! https://dorothyabjoh...

Ep. 155 - No longer angry after an affair and 24 years of marriage

August 15, 2022 09:00 - 37 minutes - 51 MB

Divorce after 24 years of marriage can be difficult. You took your vows seriously and your ex didn’t. How do you recover from that? Not only recover but can you even thrive after something like that? Listen in today as Lisa shares her story. She was committed to her ex, she took those vows seriously but after an affair while your mother was dying from cancer, she said enough was enough. In today’s episode: Learn how you can let go of anger no matter your breakup situation Understand wh...

Ep. 154 - My future wasn't possible without my ex

August 08, 2022 09:00 - 31 minutes - 43 MB

After a traumatic breakup experience it’s easy to feel like what you wanted with your ex is no longer available to you. Or at least it feels like it’s on pause until you find another partner. Listen in on today’s episode where Janet talks about her heart healing journey going from feeling like her future was gone at age 32 to feeling empowered to take the next step regardless of her relationship status. In today’s episode: Learn the key to creating the life you want regardless of what yo...

Your Official Invitation! Do More Than Move On 2 Day LIVE Immersive Event

August 01, 2022 09:00 - 10 minutes - 14 MB

Save Your Spot Today: https://breakupcoachdorothy.com/morethanmoveon I’m ready to help you do more than move on - I want you to build a life your ex regrets leaving!! To build a life you deserve regardless of what your ex is doing. Come join me in a live 2 day immersive event FOR FREE where I’m going to give you tangible steps/”how tos” to actually creating the life that’s better than the one you had with your ex. You do not want to miss this. Seats are limited, do not wait to sign up: h...

Ep. 153 - How to commit to getting over your ex

August 01, 2022 09:00 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MB

After a devastating heartbreak, Cara has ZERO answers about why or what happened. Crying all the time, missing him, knowing deep down that she had a good life but at the same time she had a really strong desire for her ex. At 46 years old, she wanted to find someone who was committed to her but felt so lost when it came to this area of her life. In today’s episode: Learn how to commit to getting over your ex no matter what your breakup situation is Understand what’s kept you from the bi...

Ep. 152 - I want my ex to see how great I am now

July 25, 2022 09:00 - 12 minutes - 17 MB

Now that you’ve learned that thoughts create feelings and you’ve been working on yourself since the breakup, you want your ex to see how well you’re doing. Maybe if they saw great you were doing they would want to come back? Or at the very least they would prove to them that you learned and are doing great after the breakup. In today’s episode: Learn what the real problem is in wanting your ex to see how great you’re doing because it’s not what you think it is Understand the one thing ...

Ep. 151 - Build a life your ex regrets leaving

July 18, 2022 09:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MB

It’s not about the “doing” when it comes to getting over your ex. It’s about the “being”. Learning to “be” the powerhouse you already are. Learning to “be” the powerful, purposeful and peaceful self that already exists inside of you is where it’s at. And that comes from changing your brain. Literally changing the neuro pathways that have been embedded in you since you started your relationship with your ex. Changing the brain may feel effortful right now but that doesn’t mean it can’t be eff...

Ep. 151 - The More than Move On Mindset - build a life your ex regrets leaving

July 18, 2022 09:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MB

It’s not about the “doing” when it comes to getting over your ex. It’s about the “being”. Learning to “be” the powerhouse you already are. Learning to “be” the powerful, purposeful and peaceful self that already exists inside of you is where it’s at. And that comes from changing your brain. Literally changing the neuro pathways that have been embedded in you since you started your relationship with your ex. Changing the brain may feel effortful right now but that doesn’t mean it can’t be eff...

Ep. 150 - How do I get to the point of "wanting" to get over my ex?

July 11, 2022 13:20 - 14 minutes - 19.5 MB

“Wanting” to get over your ex is the first step to actually getting over your ex. For some of us this step is more difficult than others. You may be someone who knows they shouldn’t want to be with this person but they feel addicted to them.. Or maybe you’re the person who truly thinks your ex is the most amazing human on the planet and that keeps you from committing to truly getting over your ex. Regardless, learning to decide to get over your ex because you want to is important. In today...

Ep. 149 - The love story that inspired me to move w/ Garrett

July 04, 2022 09:00 - 32 minutes - 44.2 MB

If you’re feeling defeated in love, today’s episode with Garrett, author of Dare to Move is a must listen! Her breakup stories and dating experiences are not only interesting but inspiring. Learn all about the love story that inspired me to move into my own fairytale. Leave the episode feeling alive and full of fresh air around your love story. In today’s episode: Learn what kind of dating experience is right for you Understand how heartbreak can fuel your love story Become reinvigora...

Ep. 148 - How do I accept my breakup

June 27, 2022 09:00 - 24 minutes - 33.1 MB

Accepting the reality of a breakup when you didn’t want it in the first place is such a big pill to swallow. Today I’m going to go into the specifics around acceptance. I’ll show you why acceptance doesn’t have to be something difficult or scary and exactly how to get there. In today’s episode: Learn what’s keeping you from acceptance Understand the key components of creating acceptance Become the version of you that finds acceptance and is able to move forward

Ep. 147 - What to do when you live with your ex

June 20, 2022 09:00 - 16 minutes - 22.7 MB

Sometimes we must live with an ex before we can move out. It can be difficult watching your ex go on and live their life like nothing’s wrong while you’re completely devastated. Today I’ll show you the ins and outs of what it’s like to live with an ex and how you can navigate this sort of short term situation. In today’s episode: Learn how to remain confident in yourself while living with an ex Understand how living with your ex can actually catapult your healing Become immune to...

Ep. 146 - Dreams about your ex

June 13, 2022 09:00 - 12 minutes - 17.5 MB

Dreaming about your ex is bound to happen. The interesting part is what you do when you wake up from the dream. Too many of my Bravehearts spend countless hours ruminating about what the dream meant or wallowing in how they feel after waking from the dream. But here’s the simple solution when you’re feeling alarmed by the dreams you have about your ex. In today’s episode: Learn why you’re dreaming about your ex Understand what to do with the dreams you have about your ex Become someo...

Ep. 145 - I'm a complete failure

June 06, 2022 09:00 - 19 minutes - 26.3 MB

As a society we have gotten used to using the word “failed” when speaking about a completed marriage or relationship. This has led many of my Bravehearts to believe that the ending of their relationship means “they are a failure”. No matter how many completed relationships you’ve had, telling yourself you’re a failure won’t get you closer to the kind of relationship you actually want. In today’s episode: Learn why your divorce/breakup doesn’t mean you’re a failure Understand what a divo...

Ep. 144 - My ex wasn't who I thought they were

May 30, 2022 09:00 - 11 minutes - 15.9 MB

Do you feel like your ex isn’t who you thought they were? Maybe they said they wanted children and to get married and now after years of dating they no longer want that. Or maybe they’ve had a hidden life the entire time you’ve dated. Either way - being stuck on how he wasn’t who you thought he was is super frustrating. In today’s episode: Learn why we get super fixated on who our ex was or wasn’t after a breakup Understand what we can do about it Become who you want to be regardless...

Ep. 143 - How to do grief differently w/ Krista St. Germain

May 23, 2022 09:00 - 33 minutes - 45.5 MB

Grief is a natural part of life. During heartbreak it feels heavy sometimes almost debilitating. Join us in today’s episode with expert grief coach Krista St. Germain. She coaches widowed moms and will talk to us today about post traumatic growth and a new way of handling grief during heartbreak. In today’s episode: Learn the basics about grief in a way you’ve never heard before Understand what it would look like to use post traumatic growth in your heartbreak Become the kind of pers...

Ep. 142 - Productive problem solving during your breakup

May 16, 2022 09:00 - 12 minutes - 17.3 MB

“I wasn’t enough” “I will never be enough” “he’s become the man I always wanted and now I’ll never find a partner as good as him” – these are common thought patterns that happen in breakups and divorce. In today’s episode learn to how turn these common thought patterns into productive problem solving to help you create a life bigger and better than the one you had with your ex. In today’s episode: Learn what productive problem solving in your breakup is and why you haven’t been doing it ...

Ep. 141 - Leaving the on again off again relationship

May 09, 2022 09:00 - 37 minutes - 51.1 MB

Leaving an on again off again relationship is difficult. You’ve built up a reward loop in your brain that makes it feel like an addiction. You’re not crazy, you’re simply human. Join us today as Monique talks about her experience finally leaving her relationship for the last time. She’ll discuss her biggest obstacles like guilt about leaving and how she overcame them with certainty, clarity and confidence. In today’s episode: Learn why you haven’t left for good even though you really want...

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May 06, 2022 16:06 - 5 minutes - 8 MB

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Ep. 140 - How to create everything I ever wanted with my ex

May 02, 2022 09:00 - 17 minutes - 24.5 MB

Building everything on your own doesn’t mean you’re alone forever. I talk about the concept of building a bigger and better life than you had with your ex. Learning to build that on your own so that no one can take it away like your ex did. People get this confused and think I’m saying … let’s get good on your own so you can be good in a relationship. Close, but not that’s not exactly what I’m saying. In today’s episode: Learn what it looks like to build the life you always wanted regard...

BONUS: Real parents, real advice

April 27, 2022 09:00 - 47 minutes - 65.1 MB

In today's episode real parents share their real advice on parenting dos and don'ts while experiencing a divorce/breakup. These parents have been through the Get Over Your Ex in 3 months or less program and have been avid listeners of the podcast just like you!

BONUS: A Kid's Guide to Divorce and Life After It w/ Daisy

April 26, 2022 09:00 - 52 minutes - 71.8 MB

Today's episode is with my friend Daisy (11 year old) author and illustrator of the book called "A Kids Guide to Divorce and Life After It". Her book releases on Thursday, April 28th 2022 and you can sign up here to be alerted when it goes live for 99 cents on Kindle! http://www.daisyfreestone.com/

Ep. 139 - How to help your kids during heartbreak

April 25, 2022 09:00 - 45 minutes - 63 MB

How do I help my kids process the change? What do I do when my child is constantly asking to go back to live with my ex? How do I help them through emotional turmoil? Some childrens’ first heartbreak is the heartbreak of their parents. In today’s episode learn how to help your kids while going through your own heartbreak. In today’s episode: Learn what you can do to help your children with their emotions during a time that is emotional for you Understand what is most useful for them du...

Ep. 138 - She created the impossible

April 18, 2022 09:00 - 48 minutes - 66.3 MB

She thought buying a home after her divorce was impossible. The data was stacked against her odds. Money, time, what her ex had done - there was no way. But in 3 short months of healing, getting over her ex, and believing in the not yet seen - she did it! In today’s episode join fellow Braveheart Sara as we show you how to create the impossible when all the odds are stacked against you. In today’s episode: Learn how to believe in what feels impossible to you when getting over your ex...

Ep. 137 - I feel indifferent about my ex

April 11, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 103 MB

Have you wanted to feel indifferent towards your ex? Like no matter what he did or didn’t do, it just didn’t affect you? You don’t have that knee jerk emotional reaction to seeing him, his words, or anything about him? Join me today as Bravehearts Emily and Heather talk about how they got to indifference when it came to not only their ex but everything else in life too. In today’s episode: Learn how to feel indifferent about your ex Understand what’s been holding you back from feel...

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April 07, 2022 09:00 - 2 minutes - 3.85 MB

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Ep. 136 - What if there's no one else out there for me?

April 04, 2022 09:00 - 31 minutes - 43.8 MB

Many Bravehearts think that their ex was the best they could do, that there’s no one else out there for them. But Braveheart Robyn realized that in reality, she could now get married. That she now could have a step dad for her children that would actually BE and SHOW up as the dad she always wanted her children to have. This realization changed the game for her getting over your ex journey. What would that be like for you? In today’s episode: Learn how to overcome the constant thought...

Ep. 135 - Handling the negative things your ex says about you

March 28, 2022 10:00 - 26 minutes - 36.1 MB

Getting negative feedback is difficult, especially when it’s from your closest friends/family/loved ones. If your ex said negative things about you during or after the relationship ended take a listen to today’s episode where we get clear about what negative feedback is and what to do about it. Sometimes we want to work on the things we got feedback on and other times it’s simply mind drama that we can become aware of and address. In today’s episode: Learn the difference between the simp...

Ep. 134 - The Marshmallow Experiment

March 21, 2022 09:00 - 1 hour - 103 MB

I spent an entire month letting my inner voice make the decisions. Here’s what happened. How I navigated a number of big losses and huge successes while building a deeper connection with my inner voice/intuition/inner alien. Learning to utilize the inner voice during deep sadness, pain, grief, and loss is a tool that has been overlooked. It can be used in processing emotions, making decisions, and finding guidance in times that are filled with overwhelming uncertainty. In today’s e...

Ep. 133 - Losing something you never had

March 14, 2022 10:00 - 25 minutes - 34.3 MB

At the end of your relationship were you living a dream? Or were you living off the potential of the dream? Looking at and acknowledging the potential of your ex or the dreams you both talked about? Sometimes we are mourning/grieving something we never even had. Grieving the life you thought you were going to have with your ex. In today’s episode join me as I walk through a real world example of what it was like for me to lose something that never even existed and how I used this experie...

Ep. 132 - Guilt before/during or after a breakup

March 07, 2022 10:00 - 19 minutes - 27 MB

Are you feeling guilty for the reasons your ex broke up with you? Responsible for how the relationship ended? Or maybe you feel guilty because you promised to love him forever and now you’re ready to end things? Or maybe you’re feeling guilty because after you left he didn’t have support and help which caused a downward spiral in his life. Or guilty because if roles were reversed, he wouldn’t do this. In today’s episode we are going to be talking all about guilt. Guilt when leaving/left a...

Ep. 131- When your ex is struggling with addiction w/ Karilyn Ivers

February 28, 2022 10:00 - 51 minutes - 70.1 MB

Join me today with expert Karilyn Ivers as we discuss what it’s like to get over an ex who is struggling with addiction. We will answer all your burning questions about guilt/shame in leaving someone who relies on you for stability, whether or not to get back together with someone once they are clean, and how to move on after those overdose moments. In today’s episode: Learn how to move on from someone who is struggling with addiction Understand the ins and outs to overcoming shame and...

Ep. 130 - Running into your ex or their new S.O.

February 21, 2022 10:00 - 20 minutes - 28.8 MB

Running into your ex happens. Or better yet, running into your ex’s family or NEW PARTNER. Join Breakup Coach Dorothy and fellow Braveheart Alumni Julia as they discuss how to become an expert at handling situations like these. In today’s episode: Learn what happens naturally when you run into your ex/their family or new partner Understand how to handle those kinds of situations differently Become the kind of person who feels calm, comfortable, and PROUD of the way you show up when r...

Ep. 129 - Recreating your identity after your breakup

February 14, 2022 10:00 - 51 minutes - 71.1 MB

After a breakup your identity often feels completely shattered. Something you thought you knew so well is no longer a part of your life and you begin to question who you are, what you know, and what you want in your future. Join us today as we talk about what it’s like to recreate your identity after a breakup including tangible next steps that you can take today to begin this rebuilding process. In today’s episode: Learn the most common mistakes people make after a breakup when it com...

Ep. 128 - Detachment while in a relationship

February 07, 2022 10:00 - 12 minutes - 17.1 MB

I’ve had many Bravehearts ask “how do you practice detachment while in a relationship to not get overly attached too fast?”. When you learn how to reduce desire and attachment inside of the Get Over Your Ex program this is a skill you’ll have for a lifetime. In today’s episode: Learn how to practice detachment while in a relationship while also falling madly in love Understand that detachment and falling in love are not mutually exclusive Become the person who is no longer overly att...

The Braveheart Festival 2022!

February 01, 2022 10:00 - 4 minutes - 6.5 MB

Happy February and EARLY Valentine's Day Bravehearts! This year, I'm celebrating YOU with the Braveheart Festival, an all day event dedicated to celebrating the love you have for yourself. You'll leave feeling proud, powerful, and fully yourself prepped and ready to handle Valentine's Day like a champ! Learn all the details inside today's episode. Here's the link to register: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/braveheartfestival

Ep. 127 - Living a fairytale

January 31, 2022 10:00 - 12 minutes - 16.9 MB

We often hear that the journey should be better than the destination. You should love the process as much as you love the outcome you’re creating. Well… my 26 year old self (I’m not 31) would be saying “you made it!” “you’ve arrived” - but my current self feels like that’s not really true. What if there were multiple fairytale “endings” within our life? And what if we allowed ourselves to experience them while they were happening instead of looking towards our past or our future? I...

Ep. 126 - Hating your ex

January 24, 2022 10:00 - 9 minutes - 13.3 MB

Sometimes it feels easier to hate your ex. Hating that person might seem easier than loving someone who no longer wants to be with you. But how’s the one left experiencing negative emotion when you hate on your ex? You. In today’s episode: Learn how hating your ex is more hindering than you realize Understand what it looks like to redirect hate towards your ex to something else (not loving your ex - don’t worry) Become the version of yourself who turns that pain into purpose

Ep. 125 - My ex and I had the deepest connection

January 17, 2022 10:00 - 15 minutes - 21 MB

Many of my Bravehearts use connection, attraction, and chemistry as a way to increase desire for their ex. They think that they can’t have that kind of connection with anyone else. They won’t find anyone as physically attractive as they did their ex. Join us today as we talk about how connection, attraction, and chemistry is the perceived problem but not the real problem in this situation. I’ll explain what’s actually happening and how to create real connection, intimacy and chemistry wit...

Ep. 124 - Deadlines

January 10, 2022 10:00 - 15 minutes - 20.7 MB

Many times throughout my life, I’ve been asked “when is the deadline” - even I’ve asked others “when is the deadline?”. It recently hit me, why do we ask others when a deadline is for something WE desire? Why do we leave it up to someone else to decide when we start or finish something that is important to us? In today’s episode: Learn why we look towards others to determine our own deadlines Understand how to begin setting your own deadlines in life Become someone who creates and fo...

10 Things You Need to Know After a Breakup - Day 5

December 24, 2021 10:00 - 8 minutes - 11 MB

Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you. Sending all the love, Breakup Coach Dorothy https://dorothyabjohnson....

10 Things You Need to Know After a Breakup - Day 4

December 23, 2021 10:00 - 8 minutes - 12.3 MB

Welcome! To the 10 things you need to know after a breakup. I will be sharing with you 10 core messages I hopes all Bravehearts know after having gone through a heartbreaking and devastating breakup or divorce. I hope you not only hear these lessons but I hope you embody them, live them, and take them on as your truths. You are special, you are worthy, you are enough, and you are so taken care of. I love you. Sending all the love, Breakup Coach Dorothy https://dorothyabjohnson....

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