Carlie's Couch
294 episodes - English - Latest episode: 14 days ago - ★★★★★ - 108 ratingsGet comfortable with Carlie and Lex on the Couch as they explore a wide range of topics to help you live your best life - whatever that looks like for you! Visit www.carliescouch.com to watch, listen and learn more about Carlie & Lex. You can also watch all episodes on the Carlie's Couch YouTube channel.
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191: Do I Need to Control Everything?
May 16, 2022 07:00 - 46 minutes - 86.4 MBAre you a control freak? If you have trouble delegating and try to control the people, situations, and what’s happening in your life, then this episode is for you. This week, we discuss control: where this need stems from, how it can be harmful, and then explore the art of surrender as an alternative way to release anxiety and handle things. Watch this episode on YouTube
190: Be Yourself, Don't Lose Yourself!
May 09, 2022 07:00 - 37 minutes - 68.1 MBEvery time you make a decision to fit in, you are burying a little piece of yourself. How often do you bend, shapeshift, or maneuver who you are to feel loved, accepted, or gain the favor of others? In this episode, we talk about how to be yourself, how to identify when you’re off track and why, and ways to practice being authentically you. Watch this episode on YouTube
189: A Candid Conversation about Mental Health
May 02, 2022 07:00 - 48 minutes - 89.4 MBIt’s always a good time to talk about mental health. May is “Mental Health is Health Month,” so this week, we take the time to have a candid conversation about mental health; sharing our own personal experiences, growth, and ways to better support those around us. Let’s create spaces for more of these conversations so that others know they are not alone! This week’s shoutout is Didi Hirsch and Mental Health is Health Month activations. Visit mentalhealthishealth.org and check them out on I...
188: Wtf is Manifestation?
April 25, 2022 07:00 - 42 minutes - 77.8 MBManifesting and manifestation are plastered all over social media and the internet, but what is it? Do you believe in it? This week, we explore the power of thoughts, the laws of attraction and assumption, concerns and skepticism with both, and ways to actually manifest things in our lives. Watch this episode on YouTube!
187: Validation is an Inside Job
April 18, 2022 07:00 - 32 minutes - 60 MBWhen your happiness is dependent upon external validation, you may find yourself in a rinse and repeat cycle of expectation and disappointment. This week on the couch, Carlie and Lex discuss validation -why it’s dangerous, and how to navigate your feelings when you find yourself craving validation from others. This week’s shoutout, happiest of happy birthdays to Kiare, JoJo, and Ace!
186: Stay Curious
April 11, 2022 07:00 - 37 minutes - 68.7 MBCuriosity killed the cat… or did it? One of the best ways to be open to new possibilities is to stay curious. This week, we explore the importance of this trait that’s rampant in youth and rare in adults, explore ways we can re-spark it, and give tactical applications to stoke your curiosity in your everyday life. And this week’s shoutout goes to John Conyers, who was a guest on EP 127. He’s officially running for Congress in Michigan’s 13th District and you can learn more about his campai...
185: Challenge Negative Thoughts with This Framework
April 04, 2022 07:00 - 49 minutes - 36.1 MBDo you struggle with negative thoughts? We all have them, so how do we actually deal with them? This week, we explore how to know when your negative thoughts cross a line and you need a change and discuss a 5 step strategy to help us get to the root issue and move through those plaguing negative thoughts. This week’s shoutout is Donald T. Boone and Boxed Up, an online equipment rental marketplace delivering high-end production gear to your door. Congratulations to them for their round of fu...
184: How Detachment Could Improve Your Life
March 28, 2022 07:00 - 31 minutes - 58.2 MBThe only constant in life is change. We all know that, so why is it so hard to let go of our attachment to a specific outcome? What is detachment and how can we use it to improve our lives? This week, we explore “non-attachment,” ways to recognize what you might be attached to in your life, and how to begin the practice of acceptance and detachment. Watch this episode on YouTube!
183: How to Flip a Scarcity Mindset
March 21, 2022 07:00 - 36 minutes - 67.6 MBAre you standing in your own way? You might be. If you have a mindset of scarcity or lack, you could be blocking your blessings. This week, we explore the mindset of lack vs the mindset of abundance, how the different mindsets look in your life, and how to transition it to one of abundance. This week’s shoutout is Bryan Proctor, founder of Dumas Rum out of Maryland. Buy a bottle here and visit them on IG here.
182: No Regrets?
March 14, 2022 10:39 - 36 minutes - 67.2 MBDo you have regrets? Should you? Our first inclination is a resounding "no!"... but maybe we should! Society encourages us to live a “no regrets” lifestyle, but this week we explore why they might actually be an integral part of life and the most common regrets people typically have. This week’s shoutout is Tijahnni, an artist and creator, who started her own jewelry company to inspire the community to create through art and self-expression. Check her out here on IG @Tijahnni Watch us on ...
181: The Dark Side of Being Too Positive
March 07, 2022 08:00 - 38 minutes - 69.6 MB“Other people have it worse.” “At least you’re still alive.” While people mostly mean well when trying to be supportive, sometimes their words have the exact opposite effect. Positivity, when forced or not intersectional, can be very toxic. “Good vibes only” sounds cool, but isn’t a manual for life. This week on the Bouch, we explore the problem with toxic positivity, the paradox of tragic optimism, and ways we can be more mindful for ourselves and those in our lives. This week’s shoutout g...
180: Entrepreneurial Activism ft. Karim Webb
February 28, 2022 08:00 - 49 minutes - 91.3 MBRising tides raise all ships. This week, we chat with we learn about Karim Webb’s journey: why he chose a route of entrepreneurial activism and how we can all get involved. He discusses the important role that entrepreneurship plays in accelerating equitable outcomes and removing barriers to help close the Nation’s wealth, health, and achievement gaps, changing society for the better. You can find Karim @KarimWebb on IG, Twitter, and LinkedIn, and learn more and support his mission at 4thMV...
179: Changing the Narrative on Incarceration ft. Daniel Forkkio
February 21, 2022 08:00 - 90.3 MBWhat are you passionate about? What does it take to make an actual difference in the world around us? This week, Daniel Forkkio, the CEO of Represent Justice joined us on the couch to discuss his and his organization’s work in reimagining the justice system through storytelling, the importance of changing our personal narratives and humanizing those within the system, and gave actionable tips and insights into what it takes to create real demand for change. Represent Justice has a document...
178: Let's Talk About Sex ft. Dr. Stasia Gordon
February 14, 2022 08:00 - 44 minutes - 80.9 MBThis week we are having a very necessary and often avoided conversation about S-E-X. Dr. Stasia Gorden joins us on the Bouch to talk all about sex: how to create brave spaces for exploration and vulnerability with our partners, ways to keep the spark or reignite a relationship, 3 keys to great sex, and the underlying reasons why so many struggle with owning their sexuality.
177: To Help Just One Person ft. Jaren Doby
February 07, 2022 07:47 - 47 minutes - 87.7 MBKicking off the month with an expert on mental health. This week we chat with psychotherapist, Jaren Doby, about disparities in the mental health field and practice, how we can better show up for ourselves and those around us, and the importance of trying to help just one person.
176: 7 Types of Rest
January 31, 2022 08:00 - 34 minutes - 62.8 MBWhat if you get a full 8-10 hours of sleep, but you’re still tired? If you’ve been feeling blah, disconnected, or just plain tired, you may need a different type of rest. This week, we explore the 7 types of rest that we all need to be rejuvenated and refreshed in our daily lives. This week’s shoutout is our February programming! To celebrate Black History Month, we have some amazing experts from the community and for the community visiting the Bouch. Stay tuned for some amazing discussion ...
175: Create a Morning Routine that Sticks
January 24, 2022 08:00 - 40 minutes - 74.4 MBHow you start something is typically how you finish. How are you starting your days? Morning routines, or lack thereof, set the tone for the rest of the day. Tune in this week for an outline on how to intentionally create a successful morning routine that is customized to you. Watch this episode on YouTube
174: How to Break Free from People-Pleasing
January 17, 2022 08:00 - 37 minutes - 68.6 MBAre you a people-pleaser? Before you say no, run through this checklist with us. This week, we explore what people-pleasing looks like in our everyday lives, why we do it, and ways to break from the habit.
173: What's Triggering Your Anxiety?
January 10, 2022 08:00 - 37 minutes - 68.8 MBHave you ever felt anxious but couldn’t quite identify why? Sometimes triggers aren’t always clear to us, but in this episode we give tips on how to identify anxiety triggers, list some of the most common ones, and share some tips on how to cope and become more familiar with yours. Are there any topics you’d like to hear more about from us? Hit us at 323-505-2030 or message us @CarliesCouch on IG, Twitter, or TikTok with your questions, topics, guest suggestions, or prompts! Watch this epi...
172: The Danger in Setting Your Goals Too Low
January 03, 2022 08:00 - 31 minutes - 57.3 MBAre you setting your goals too low? The beginning of the year is a great time to set goals, but what happens when we set them too low? This week, we explore how to check your goals to see if they are too low, why we struggle with low goals, and the dangers of not raising the bar. Listen to this week’s episode before you set your goals or to double-check them. This week’s shoutout is Estelle Colored Glass, a Black-woman owned luxury brand of hand-blown colored glass cake stands and stemware ...
171: What a Difference a Year Makes
December 27, 2021 08:00 - 29.1 MBIt’s about to be 2022, y’all! Take a moment to pause and reflect with us. In this quick end-of-the-year episode, we pose some questions to help you reflect on your year: the good, bad, and everything in between. Happy New Year and stay safe! Watch us on YouTube!
170: Stop Making Excuses & Accept Responsibility
December 20, 2021 08:00 - 44 minutes - 82.2 MBAre excuses holding you back? In this episode, we talk about ways to identify your excuses and how to take more accountability to see more progress in all areas of life.
169: The Danger of Consuming Too Much
December 13, 2021 08:00 - 44 minutes - 81.5 MBWe spend so much of our time consuming: food, music, social media, shopping, meetings, etc., but when does it become too much? This week we explore the dangers of overconsumption, how to recognize when you are overconsuming, and ways to become a more conscious consumer. Watch us on YouTube!
169: Are You Consuming Too Much?
December 13, 2021 08:00 - 44 minutes - 81.5 MBWe spend so much of our time consuming: food, music, social media, shopping, meetings, etc., but when does it become too much? This week we explore the dangers of overconsumption, how to recognize when you are overconsuming, and ways to become a more conscious consumer. Watch us on YouTube!
168: Are You Suppressing Your Feelings?
December 06, 2021 08:00 - 40 minutes - 74.5 MBDo you know how to feel your feelings? We often suppress our feelings without even thinking about it. This week, we explore why this is so hard, how we can retrain ourselves to honor our feelings, and discuss 6 tangible steps to help us experience our feelings without over-intellectualizing them or brushing them off. This week’s shoutout is Alaiyo Waistbeads “an ancient practice for the modern girl.” Check them out on IG here! Watch this episode on YouTube!
167: How to Recover from Burnout
November 29, 2021 08:00 - 39 minutes - 72.1 MBWe’ve talked about needing breaks and feeling burnt out, but what does recovery time look like? How can we do what we need to take care of ourselves without letting our responsibilities slide in the process? This week we explore the recovery process after burnout and discuss daily practices and long-term practices to help you recharge and get you back in balance. This week’s shoutout is Nick Brooks storyteller, entrepreneur, and author for signing a book deal with Henry Holt for his young...
166: Stop Negotiating with Yourself
November 22, 2021 08:00 - 38 minutes - 70.4 MBEvery day we make choices, will our actions align with our vision and goals? Or are we setting ourselves up for failure? So often we get lost in the hustle and bustle of life that we lose sight of our long-term goals. This week, we explore our daily choices for instant gratification that deter us from our highest self and explore ways to stand firm in our decisions and stop negotiating with ourselves. This week’s shoutout is Small Business Saturday! Go support Black, Brown, and POC-owned bu...
165: 5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship
November 15, 2021 08:00 - 37 minutes - 68.2 MBHow can we get better at relationships? While knowing you and your partner’s love language is important, what more can we do to build stronger relationships? This week, we discuss 5 pillars of a healthy, fulfilling relationship and actionable ways to practice this today. This week’s shoutout is People of Color Beauty, founded by Jacqueline Carrington. It their mission to celebrate and represent people of color through our nail polish collections and the stories that they tell. Check them ...
164: What Do You Need?
November 08, 2021 08:00 - 34 minutes - 63.4 MBWhat do you need? If we asked you right now, would you be able to tell us? Most people have trouble articulating their needs, and that can be problematic as we elevate and move forward in our lives. So, how do we begin to figure out our needs? And then how do we own them? This week, we explore some exercises to help you get clear on your needs. Don’t forget to support our Cap Soc team for Alive Together! https://tinyurl.com/capsocteam. This week’s shoutout is Hoka. Carlie is teaching a Holi...
163: 4 Signs Your Relationship WON’T Last
November 01, 2021 07:00 - 45 minutes - 83.5 MBWe can’t see the future, but according to the Gottman Institute, there are 4 predictors to tell if your relationship is doomed with over 90%+ accuracy. This week, we dive into the 4 horsemen, as they call them, their causes, practical examples, and how they impact you and your relationship. But don’t worry, if you do have any of these, we explore the antidotes and practical applications too. This week’s shoutout is Didi Hirsch’s Alive Together: Uniting to Prevent Suicide event supporting su...
162: We Need to Talk
October 25, 2021 07:00 - 43 minutes - 80.5 MBDifficult conversations are something we all wish we could avoid, but we cant. So how do we actually get better at difficult conversations? This week, we need to talk, and we’ll be discussing the anxiety and other factors holding us back and exploring a simple framework to help you feel more confident starting or having these difficult conversations. This week’s shoutout is the Babe Cave L.A. Studios, a WOC empowered safe work space and community for all artists founded by multidisciplinary...
161: Mastering Self-Forgiveness
October 18, 2021 08:48 - 37 minutes - 68.5 MBWe are taught that we should forgive others, but what about ourselves? Have you ever practiced self-forgiveness? Self-forgiveness is an important part of growth and becoming who you want to be. This week, we explore ways to practice self-forgiveness and discuss why it is detrimental to your journey. This week’s shoutout is Filipina-owned BRWNGRLZ jewelry by Gretchen Carvajal.
160: Why Wait?
October 11, 2021 07:00 - 29 minutes - 54.4 MBWhy are you holding yourself back? In what areas of your life do you find yourself waiting? What are you waiting for? This week, we discuss ways you could be holding yourself back and how to own your power and spark yourself into action. Watch us on YouTube!
159: Stop Explaining Yourself
October 04, 2021 07:00 - 34 minutes - 62.4 MBDo you ever catch yourself over-explaining yourself to others? This episode is for you. There are ample situations where we feel like the other person requires an explanation when in reality, they don’t. This week, we are talking about what causes us to over-explain and why changing this behavior can be empowering and help you level up in every area of your life. Thrive Health Lab Wellness Week and So Hum Wellness Present a Mental Health Reset: Black and POC instructors offering FREE welln...
158: Worry About Yourself
September 27, 2021 07:00 - 41 minutes - 75.1 MBWatch this episode on YouTube
157: Self-Care Isn’t the Answer to Everything
September 20, 2021 07:00 - 48 minutes - 88 MBIf you are exhausted by what you have to do or feel that you are never doing enough, this episode is for you. This week, Carlie and Lex explore personal and professional burnout, delve into the root causes, and discuss actionable ways to help you process and get through it. The answer is NOT just self-care. Take some time to pour back into you and add these tools to your toolkit. This week’s shoutout is Band of Vices, a Black-owned art gallery in the West Adams district of Los Angeles. They...
156: You're Not Alone in Feeling Alone
September 13, 2021 07:00 - 41 minutes - 57.4 MBJust because you’re feeling lonely, it doesn’t mean that you are different or weird. In fact, it means that you have more in common with the people around you than you realize. In this episode,e we are going to talk about feeling like you’re alone. This week we discuss feeling alone. If you are feeling alone and suicidal and need help, then the suicide call hotline is 800-273-8255 and the text hotline is Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a crisis counselor. Watch this episode on YouTube!
155: REAL Ways to Build Your Self-Esteem
September 06, 2021 05:06 - 38 minutes - 70.8 MBHaving high self-esteem is key to living your best life. But if it’s so great, how do we actually raise it? This week, Carlie & Lex do a deep dive into self-esteem: what it really is, why it is vital to living your best life, and some actions you can take today to help build yours up. September is suicide prevention month. If you or anyone you know is having suicidal thoughts please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), or text the Crisis Text Line (text HE...
154: What it Takes to Pursue Your Dream ft Mario West
August 30, 2021 07:00 - 87.4 MBSo you have a dream… how do you make it happen? In this episode, we chat with former NBA player Mario West about how to achieve any dream in life. He laid out the playbook in his most recent book, and this week he elaborates on the 5 keys to life and the most important actions you can take to make your dreams come true. Follow Mario at @MarioWest6 on IG and www.MarioWest.com and support his non-profit at www.MarioWestFoundationInc.com Watch us on YouTube!
153: How to Be Less Judgy
August 23, 2021 07:00 - 37 minutes - 69.5 MB* We had some technical issues with the audio this week! We’ll be back with that A1 next week. What makes a person judgemental? How does being judgy affect our lives long term? In this episode, we explore how judging others and ourselves makes us unhappy, why we do it, and how to be more aware of and decrease our need to judge everything.
152: Breaking Through Your Upper Limit
August 16, 2021 07:00 - 45 minutes - 84.2 MBEver feel like everything was going amazing and then BAM! Something happens? Do you have a habit of self-sabotaging? Then this week is for you… and us too lol. In this episode, we explore the upper limit problem: from the roots in our limiting thinking, to our habits and self-sabotage, and what it takes to break through and break into our genius zone. This week’s shoutout is Heaux Butters!!! Carlie recently launched the first first product of her self-care line of products. Heaux Butters ar...
151: Beginner's Mind: Ways to Be Mentally Limitless
August 09, 2021 07:00 - 39 minutes - 72.6 MB"In the Beginner's Mind there are many possibilities. In the expert's mind there are few." -Shunryu Suzuki This week is about exploring the concept of beginner’s mind: what it is, how to apply the framework to your life, and what you can gain when you commit yourself to being curious and staying open to what’s possible. This week’s shoutout is Thomas Glenn or TAG II Productions for producing the live show Talk in Tokyo for the Olympics! Watch this episode on YouTube!
150: Catching Up With Your Faves
August 02, 2021 07:00 - 104 MBThis week is our 150th episode!!! 1-5-0!!! To celebrate, we decided to catch up with some of your favorite guests on the Bouch! Kiara Imani, Coach Ace, Derria Underwood or Dlolo, and Preston Dawson drop some valuable life lessons and inspiration for your journey and update us on all the amazing things they’re working on now. You don’t want to miss it. Share this with someone who could use a little extra love and celebration this week! Upgrade your life and follow our dope guests here: Kiara...
149: Believe What You Wanna Believe
July 26, 2021 07:07 - 46 minutes - 85.8 MBThis episode is about gaslighting. The term gets tossed around often, but what is it, really? Tune in this week to learn what it looks and feels like, how you could be doing it to others, and how to identify when you’re a victim of it. This week’s shoutout is US!!! We are celebrating our 150th episode next week and are excited to be bringing back some of our favorite guests. If this episode helped you please share it with a friend!
148: Decolonizing Therapy and Building Relationships that Last ft Sandra Espinoza
July 19, 2021 07:00 - 43 minutes - 32.1 MBWhat is decolonizing therapy? How does decolonizing apply to mindsets and relationships? This week we are hype to have licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Sandra Espinoza grace the couch and share her expertise on decolonization, how it is currently being implemented in therapy and in education, and how it can elevate our personal growth and therapy sessions. With 10+ years experience as a marriage and couples therapist, Dr. Espinoza also gives her top 3 keys to building a strong foun...
147: Building Your Self Care Toolkit
July 12, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 65.2 MBWhat does self-care look like for you? Self-care isn’t one-size-fits-all so it’s important to figure out what works for you. Tune in this week for ways to build your self-care toolkit. Your practice will ebb and flow as you and your life do, so these are some ways to support you throughout that journey. This week’s shoutout is The Mental Motel, a community, brand, and resource built for self-love and mental health awareness and support. Check them out on IG here! Watch us on YouTube!
146: Personal Values & Knowing Who You Really Are
July 05, 2021 07:00 - 37 minutes - 67.8 MBHow do you know who you really are? What are your personal values? Do you value what you say you do, or are you lying to yourself? This week is important because your values determine how you live your life. Explore the importance and impact of your values and try this exercise with us this week to help you define your personal values and ensure you're living your life according to them. Watch us on YouTube!
145: Redesign Your Life ft. Nannearl Brown
June 28, 2021 07:00 - 47 minutes - 86.2 MBWhat happens when you find yourself on a path that no longer fits you? How do you know when it’s time for a change? This week very special guest Nannearl Brown, UX Researcher & Host of Unpacked Angles, shares her journey from engineering to tech dropping some major gems on moving with intention, starting over, self-care, and not letting your career define your life. Follow and connect with Nannearl on LinkedIn and check her out on Unpacked Angles. Watch us on YouTube!
144: Here’s Why You Can't Always Trust Your Instincts
June 21, 2021 07:00 - 82.7 MBAt the end of the day, it comes down to you. Your decisions, your thoughts, and how you navigate through your life. So how do we know that we can trust ourselves? How can we sharpen our instincts and self-awareness? This week, we explore why our first "instinct" might not always be in alignment with our higher selves and might be problematic, and delve into some tactics to help us refine our instincts. This week's shoutout is Synthea Gonzales and all of the amazing work she has been doing ...
143: Don't Force It
June 14, 2021 07:00 - 52 minutes - 95.6 MBStop forcing. Start flowing. Oftentimes, forcing anything brings about the exact opposite of our desired outcome and limits our possibilities… not to mention adds compounding stress to ourselves and whatever or whoever it is that we’re trying to force. Why do we try to force things? Join us on the Bouch this week for some indicators that you may be trying too hard or forcing things in your life and some pragmatic tips to letting go of control, flowing, and focusing on you. This week’s shout...