Carlie's Couch
294 episodes - English - Latest episode: 14 days ago - ★★★★★ - 108 ratingsGet comfortable with Carlie and Lex on the Couch as they explore a wide range of topics to help you live your best life - whatever that looks like for you! Visit www.carliescouch.com to watch, listen and learn more about Carlie & Lex. You can also watch all episodes on the Carlie's Couch YouTube channel.
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241: Could It Be That You're Overwhelmed?
May 01, 2023 07:00 - 52 minutes - 96.2 MBWhile feeling overwhelmed may not be a conscious choice, we can deliberately choose to become more aware of our emotions and how they shape the quality of our life. In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we talk about what it means to be overwhelmed, how it manifests in your life, and ways to better process and deal with it. This week’s shoutout is Dr. Stevie Johnson and Fire in Little Africa for bringing Tulsa to Harvard’s Campus and performing the album that was recorded during the documentar...
240: The Art of Preparation ft. Will Medley
April 24, 2023 07:00 - 42 minutes - 77.1 MBAre you ready to make changes or grow in your life? Whether switching careers, learning a new skill, or working towards goals, being prepared is one of the best ways to see movement and success in your life. But how do you properly prepare? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we chat with Will Medley, who has not only mastered the art of preparation to accomplish his own goals, but now works to help others learn how to best prepare for opportunities of their own. You can follow Will and ever...
239: Keep Your Hands to Yourself: The Effects of Sexual Harassment
April 17, 2023 07:00 - 47 minutes - 87 MBIn this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we tackle the issue of sexual harassment and overall inappropriate behaviors that negatively affect others. We discuss why harassment can be difficult to talk about, how it can impact our lives, and what we can do to prevent sexual harassment. Watch this episode on YouTube
238: Revolutionizing Education ft Dr. Charli Kemp
April 03, 2023 07:00 - 50 minutes - 93 MBWe all know the education system is failing, but what can we actually do about it? What are some realistic action steps we can take? This week, we speak with Dr. Charli Kemp about revolutionizing the education system, practical ways to fund it and create holistic learning experiences, and what we can all do to help make a real difference. Connect with Charli and Change the Tune here on IG, their website, follow her amazing playlists, or email her at [email protected] Watch on YouT...
237: The Gift of Grief
April 03, 2023 02:49 - 51 minutes - 95.2 MBOften, the act of grieving is reserved for the deaths of loved ones and while those are important, we all experience varying degrees of loss daily: relationships, friendships, rejection, older versions of ourselves, our vision for how we thought life would be, etc. But how do we actually grieve? We’re never really taught how to take, give, or hold space in those moments of loss. This week on Carlie’s Couch, we discuss the six stages of grief, finding meaning in these moments, and how to sup...
236: Whose Opinion Matters?
March 27, 2023 07:00 - 33 minutes - 61.1 MBShould you care what others think or about their opinions? To some degree, absolutely; but when does it become too important? And whose opinion actually matters? This week, we explore the idea of caring about others’ opinions, challenge you to determine whose actually does, and offer some action steps if you find yourself holding others’ opinions above your own. This week’s episode comes from a listener, shoutout to Kayla Monae for the question! Watch this episode on YouTube
235: Are We Compatible?
March 20, 2023 07:00 - 23 minutes - 43.6 MBWhen choosing friends, business partners, or romantic partners, compatibility plays a very important role. This week, we discuss compatibility, explore how it affects long-term potential in relationships, and give insight into how you know that you’re truly compatible with someone. Watch this episode on YouTube
234: Do This to Regulate Your Nervous System
March 13, 2023 07:00 - 41 minutes - 34.8 MBDo you know what state your nervous system is in? Most people don’t and before this week, we didn’t either. This week, we explore the three states of our nervous systems and why this is so integral to overall health and well-being, discuss signs that your’s could be dysregulated, and explore “the science of safety” and action steps on how to regulate it. Watch on YouTube
233: Is Happiness a Choice?
March 06, 2023 08:00 - 49 minutes - 90.7 MBThere is so much value placed on our own individual happiness. How much control over our own happiness do we actually have? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore happiness, scientific research into what attributes to our happiness, what we can control, and how to make it more sustainable.
232: How to Practice Radical Honesty
February 27, 2023 08:00 - 38 minutes - 30.1 MBWhat would your life look like if you didn’t lie? At all, not even white lies? How could this affect your relationships? Business? What would it look like to be honest with yourself about what you want and need? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we discuss radical honesty, what it is, how it can impact your life, and ways to begin practicing it in your life. Watch us on YouTube!
231: How to Deal with Disappointment
February 20, 2023 08:00 - 36 minutes - 66.3 MBAh, disappointment. Something as inevitable in life as death. Whether by friends, lovers, the world, our jobs, or even ourselves, at one point in time, we will all be disappointed. How can we get better at handling it? This week we discuss the important emotion of disappointment and explore ways to improve how we cope, to better manage our expectations, and to help combat it. This week’s shoutout is Emmolei for doing the score for Three Ways out now on Hulu. Watch the movie and check out h...
230: Maybe You Don't Deserve a Partner with Everything
February 13, 2023 08:00 - 34 minutes - 31.4 MBYou actually don’t deserve everything. Maybe you should settle. When it comes to romantic relationships, people should have their non-negotiables, but are our expectations too high? When do expectations become unrealistic and entitlement settle in? This week, we discuss common misconceptions and some mindsets that could be holding your relationships back. Shoutout to @yourdiagnonsense on IG whose post inspired our question for this week. Watch us on YouTube!
229: Signs You May Deal with Seasonal Depression
February 06, 2023 08:00 - 40 minutes - 35.9 MBAs seasons change, the daylight shortens, or the holidays approach, you might notice your moods and overall wellbeing shift. Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) affects over 3 million people a year. This week, we identify symptoms and explore actionable steps you can integrate in your everyday life to manage and ease it’s effects. Watch us on YouTube!
228: Making the Industry Transparent ft. Rae Benjamin
January 30, 2023 08:00 - 39 minutes - 71.9 MBHave you ever wondered what it takes to get started in the entertainment industry in Hollywood? This week, we speak with tv show writer, Prestige podcast host, and founder of In the Cut, Rae Benjamin. During her transition into entertainment, Rae recognized how important it is to be a gate opener and uplifter of others, which led to In the Cut. In this episode, Rae shares her tips on getting your first job in entertainment, shares how she has furthered her career and discusses how she is cre...
227: You’ve Got Self-Discipline All Wrong
January 23, 2023 08:00 - 35 minutes - 64.4 MBLast week we talked about valuable business lessons, and each week on the podcast we’re having conversations about the way we’re growing in our lives. One of the biggest things we need in order to be successful in all areas of our life is self-discipline. So in this episode, we ponder the role that self-discipline plays in our lives, why it’s the key to everything, differentiate it from willpower, and what you’re missing when it comes to self-discipline. In our discussion, we referenced Ma...
226: 6 Valuable Lessons in Business
January 16, 2023 08:01 - 35 minutes - 64.8 MBSucceeding in business, whether you own it or are working in it, is dependent upon relationships, leadership skills, and so much more than the job itself. It’s a lot of trial and error, and you have to be prepared to learn from the risks and decisions that you make along the way. In this episode, Carlie & Lex discuss 6 of the most valuable lessons that they’ve learned in business to date. This week’s shoutout goes to What We Watch and @mspeacherino for holding the brand’s first ever film f...
225: Can People Really Change?
January 09, 2023 08:00 - 46 minutes - 84.5 MBDo you ever get tired of hearing yourself say you’re going to do something, just to never get it done? Can people really change? This week on Carlie’s Couch, Carlie & Lex talk about what makes people actually change, what keeps people stuck; and they explore some of their most successful, personal changes like becoming a better listener and communicator, creating morning routine, and building confidence in themselves. Watch this episode on YouTube
224: New Year, New Me?
January 02, 2023 08:00 - 1 hour - 114 MBIn this week’s episode, Carlie and Lex discuss what they’re leaving behind, doing differently, and what they want out of 2023 in nine areas of life: business, mental health, physical health, emotional health, spirituality, social life, travel, love & relationships, and finances. Watch this episode on YouTube
223: 22 Questions
December 26, 2022 08:00 - 35 minutes - 64.7 MBHow did 2022 treat you? In this last episode of the year, Carlie and Lex answer 22 questions to recap 2022. Think about your own answers and feel free to leave us a comment! Watch this episode on YouTube
222: Get Rid of Victim Mentality & be the Hero in your Life
December 19, 2022 08:00 - 45 minutes - 83.5 MBHow often do you give up your power by playing the victim? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we dissect what it means to have a victim mentality and discus ways to stop playing the victim and live a more empowered life. Watch this episode on YouTube
221: The Streets Are Calling
December 12, 2022 03:25 - 45 minutes - 83.7 MBAre you pleased with your social life? What’s missing? Where could you turn things up (or down) a bit more? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we discuss what we want out of our social lives, and explore actionable ways to make them more fulfilling. Watch this episode on YouTube
220: Survival Tactics Only Take You So Far
December 05, 2022 08:00 - 45 minutes - 83.8 MBCongratulations! You’ve made it this far. However, the same tactics that got us this far won’t necessarily serve us in this next, hopefully elevated, chapter of life. This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore how to transition tactics that you’ve adopted in order to survive, into habits that will allow you to thrive. How can you recognize when a survival tactic is outdated and hindering you instead of helping you? Watch this episode on YouTube
219: Dating Differently
November 28, 2022 08:00 - 47 minutes - 87.3 MBWhen it comes to dating and our love lives, we tend to see the same patterns emerge over and over again. Have you ever wondered why it seems like every relationship goes the same way and ends the same way? In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we talk about patterns that may be ruining your relationships, the attachment styles associated with them, and how to date differently to start seeing different results. In this episode we mention and recommend the book “Attached” by Amir Levine and Rac...
218: The Art of Self-Mastery ft. Kian Taylor
November 21, 2022 08:00 - 35 minutes - 64.8 MBPicking up a camera doesn’t automatically make you a photographer, and posting some photos doesn’t make you a branding and marketing expert. This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore how the pursuit of self-mastery is the integral step of mastering your craft and creating a life you love with real estate developer, Pívot Podcast editor, and documentary director, Kian Taylor. Follow Kian at @kiancreativestudios on IG and support and check out his work and projects via www.kiancreativestudios.c...
217: Their Healing is Not Your Responsibility
November 14, 2022 08:00 - 30 minutes - 55.7 MBHow do you maintain relationships when you’re doing the healing work that others are not doing? This week on Carlie’s Couch, we explore how our personal journeys with healing can affect our relationships and the way we perceive others. A large part of healing is knowing that you can’t determine if or when others will change and learning to let go of being over-responsible for them. Watch this episode on YouTube
216: Take It Slow
November 07, 2022 08:00 - 31 minutes - 57.2 MBThe end of the year always flies by, filled with rushing here, finishing things there, last-minute shopping, etc. What if we bow out of all of that? We all have room to slow down and exhale, and be present in our everyday lives, so this week, we explore making room and time in our lives for the abundance in slowing down and savoring the moment. This week’s shoutout is Heauxlistic, the Relaxation Boxes pre-orders are dropping this week so be sure to sign-up for the mailing list!
215: Politics as Usual? Bringing Compassion to Lawmaking ft. John Conyers III
October 31, 2022 07:00 - 53 minutes - 98.6 MBElection season is upon us, so in this episode of Carlie’s Couch, we chat with political organizer, John Conyers III, to better understand how everyday people can be involved in politics: where to start, how to break it down into digestible pieces, the importance of compassion and life experience in policy, and his vision for more accessible, equitable politics. Follow him and his journey on social media @ConyersThree across all platforms and email him at [email protected] Watch...
214: Become Your Own Biggest Champion
October 24, 2022 07:00 - 42 minutes - 77.8 MBGood work doesn’t always speak for itself. We’ve all heard that “closed mouths don’t get fed,” and in this episode we talk about how to stop waiting for things to happen to you by being your own biggest champion. If you don’t champion yourself, you’re not respecting your own needs. Watch this episode on YouTube
213: Jealous Much?
October 17, 2022 07:00 - 28 minutes - 51.4 MBOur emotions are indicators of our values, needs, and desires. What does jealousy mean? Is it something we can outgrow? Or is it a healthy part of the human experience? This week, we explore the polarizing emotion of jealousy and healthier ways to process when jealousy creeps in. This week’s shoutout is Thomas Glenn II for winning an Emmy for producing a show for the Tokyo Olympics !!! @from.thomas on IG and his website. Watch this episode on YouTube
212: Heal Your Inner Child
October 10, 2022 07:00 - 36 minutes - 66.8 MBWhat is inner child work? Why is it so important? Reconnecting with the younger versions of ourselves can be life changing. This week, we explore our inner child: ways to notice when it is coming up, some ways to connect with and begin healing, and the importance of reparenting ourselves. This week’s shoutout is South Central run club Keep it Run Hundred founded by Butta. If you’re in LA, go on a walk or run with them! Watch this episode on YouTube
211: 8 Ways to Improve Your Focus & Concentration
October 03, 2022 07:00 - 29 minutes - 53.6 MBWith distractions and overstimulation on the rise, it can be hard to focus. If you find yourself restless, forgetful, having mental cloudiness, or struggling to pay attention, you might need to improve your focus. In this week’s episode of Carlie’s Couch, we explore the habits worsening our focus and discuss ways to improve our concentration in our everyday lives. Watch this episode on YouTube
210: Ready to Move to Another Country? ft: Amber C. Edwards
September 26, 2022 07:00 - 57 minutes - 104 MBDone with the US? If you’re exploring the idea of moving to a different country, for a month or forever, this episode is for you. How do I actually move? What do I need to consider when leaving the country? Is it safe? Step into adventure and join us this week as we interview entrepreneur and relocation specialist Amber C. Edwards about long-term Blaxit and short-term relocating abroad. For more information on Overseas with Ease and the L.I.T. House, follow Amber on IG and visit her website...
209: Say This Not That: Supportive Conversations
September 19, 2022 22:34 - 35 minutes - 64.1 MBHaving difficult conversations is never easy, but it doesn’t have to be impossible. This week on the Bouch, we explore and practice how to be a better listener, supporter, and improve our EQ in conversations. While these conversations are more about supporting people in crisis or helping folks through a tough time, the skills work across the board at improving emotional intelligence. Check out these practice conversations that you and a friend can try and if you are supporting someone who ...
208: The Cold Shower Challenge
September 12, 2022 07:00 - 23 minutes - 42.5 MBTake the plunge with us! We accepted a listener challenge to take cold showers and note its effects for one whole week. In this week’s episode of Carlie’s Couch, we reflect on our experience and discuss the benefits of taking cold showers. Do you accept the challenge?
207: HEATED: Managing Chronic Anger
September 05, 2022 07:00 - 44 minutes - 81.3 MBHow do you stop being angry? Do you even need to stop? This week, we explore anger: the important role it can play, how to know when it’s gone too far, and how to manage and heal from it. Watch this episode on YouTube
206: Living Single
August 29, 2022 07:00 - 36 minutes - 30.1 MBWhat was once seen as a taboo thing, while still a thorn for some, has now become a choice for many. This week, we explore singleness: why it’s important, things to focus on and treasure during this time, and how to really use it as an advantage for yourself.
205: How to Make a Plan That Actually Works
August 22, 2022 07:00 - 37 minutes - 32 MBDo you have goals? Have you created a plan to help you reach them? In this episode, we talk about how to make an effective plan once you have a goal in mind. What are the steps you can take to make things happen? Watch us on YouTube!
204: Shame May Be Holding You Back
August 15, 2022 07:00 - 39 minutes - 71.7 MBWhere do you carry shame in your life? Are you sure? Shame isn’t an emotion we discuss often, but it is one that if unaddressed, can keep us from reaching our full potential. This week, we explore the corrosive nature of shame, how to recognize it, and how it plays a role in our lives.
203: Achieving What Seems Impossible
August 08, 2022 07:00 - 33 minutes - 61.8 MB“What motivates you to get past what feels impossible?” This week, we dive into a question from one of our amazing listeners and explore motivation, mindset, and how to overcome what might feel impossible in our lives. If you have questions or topics you’d like us to discuss, hit us at [email protected] or any of our social media @carliescouch on IG, TikTok, and Twitter. Watch this episode on YouTube
202: Why Embarrassing Yourself is a Good Thing
August 01, 2022 07:00 - 35 minutes - 65.7 MBIs embarrassment something we should run from or lean into? This week, we explore why embarrassment can actually be a good tool for growth and alignment and discuss practical ways to improve our relationships with embarrassment. This week’s shoutout is Carlie’s company Heauxlistic! She is expanding her product line with some new self-care experience boxes. Sign-up for her newsletter and re-up on your Heaux Butter here! Watch this episode on YouTube
201: Check Your Expectations
July 25, 2022 07:29 - 51 minutes - 71.3 MBWe talk a lot about “managing your expectations,” but what does this look like in our lives? This week, we talk about expectations: how to set them, what to do when they aren’t met, how to know if they’re too high or low, and how to adjust them. Watch this episode on YouTube
200: Say This, Not That
July 18, 2022 07:00 - 38 minutes - 71.2 MBThe words we use carry weight. Everything we say helps shape our perspective of the world around us. What kind of world are you creating with your words? Are you helping or hurting yourself? Are you communicating with confidence or deflating energy in the room? This week, we explore how to improve our language and give examples of what to say and how to improve in life, relationships, and work situations. Watch this episode on YouTube
199: Watch the Tape: Being a Student of Yourself
July 11, 2022 07:00 - 29 minutes - 53.6 MBAthletes are often lauded for their work ethic and how they approach the game. Are these skills transferable to life? What could happen if we started watching “game tape” of our lives and applied some of these same principles? This week, we explore how to be a student of yourself and level up in life through the lens and framework used to approach sports. Watch this episode on YouTube!
198: How to Live a Softer Life
July 04, 2022 07:00 - 25.2 MBWhile the world may not be easy all the time, it doesn’t always have to be so hard. This week, we explore what it actually looks like to live a softer, easier life in practice, and discuss the actions, mindsets, and thought shifts required to make the transition.
197: How Do You Build Trust?
June 27, 2022 07:00 - 30 minutes - 55 MBHow do you know if you trust someone? How does someone build trust with you and vice versa? This week, we explore the foundations of trust, how it’s built, and a framework we can use to evaluate self-trust and trust with others in our own lives. This week’s shoutout is Romar Frazier and his first patent with Boeing! Congratulations Romar! Watch this episode on YouTube!
196: It's Not About Me ft. Ambrose Clincy Jr.
June 20, 2022 07:00 - 47 minutes - 86.9 MBThe moment you can look beyond yourself is when you really begin to live. Are you living? Join us on the couch this week for a very special guest: Alexia’s father, Mr. Ambrose Clincy, Jr.! He shares valuable insights from a life dedicated to learning, drops wisdom that only life experiences can teach, talks about building a solid foundation, and helps us expand our perspectives with some great stories on love, priorities, and purpose. We’d love to hear your thoughts on the episode and if yo...
195: Nourishing Vibes Only ft. Carlie Carpio
June 13, 2022 07:00 - 40 minutes - 73.8 MBAllow us to reintroduce Carlie Carpio! A lot has changed since Carlie was last interviewed a couple years ago in Episode 56. In this episode of Carlie’s Couch, Alexia interviews Carlie and learns why nourishment is her word for this season of new ventures, maintaining boundaries, and building the life she loves. You can follow Carlie on Twitter and Instagram; check out her website and buy some Heaux Butters for yourself and an ashy friend! Watch this episode on YouTube!
194: The Woman, The Myth, The Legend: Alexia Clincy
June 06, 2022 07:00 - 73.7 MBCozy up on the Bouch with us this week as we get to know the woman, the myth, and the legend, Alexia, more deeply. The last time we interviewed each other was pre-pandemic in episode 55, and SO much has changed since then. Join us as Carlie interviews Lex on business, the next level of Cap Soc, vision, and her growth in life and love. Follow Cap Soc on all platforms and sign-up for their email list! If you have any questions for Lexi, hit her this week on Twitter or IG. Watch this episode ...
193: How to Ask Better Questions
May 30, 2022 07:00 - 30 minutes - 56.5 MBWhile there might not be “stupid” questions, there are bad ones. In this episode, we talk about what makes up good and bad questions and discuss actionable ways to ask better questions that waste less time and actually help you get to what you want to know Let’s improve the quality of the questions we ask, together. Watch us on YouTube!
192: Do We Have Free Will?
May 23, 2022 07:00 - 40 minutes - 73.3 MBWe’re raised on the idea that we can become anyone and do anything, but can we? With so many factors beyond our control, and so many situations shaping us, are our lives really up to us? This week, we explore the concept of free will and some science and psychological theories behind it. This week’s shoutout is Change the Tune, a nonprofit creating holistic revolutionary learning opportunities around the world. Change the Tune has 3 free in-person camps for youth ages 10-17 coming up in Lo...