Carlie's Couch
294 episodes - English - Latest episode: 14 days ago - ★★★★★ - 108 ratingsGet comfortable with Carlie and Lex on the Couch as they explore a wide range of topics to help you live your best life - whatever that looks like for you! Visit www.carliescouch.com to watch, listen and learn more about Carlie & Lex. You can also watch all episodes on the Carlie's Couch YouTube channel.
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142: Have Deeper Conversations with THIS Framework
June 06, 2021 18:18 - 57 minutes - 105 MBIf you want to have deeper conversations, this episode is for you! Giving advice can be great, but how can we be better coaches, friends, mentors, and resources for those around us? Tune in this week to learn a framework to help you remain curious in conversations and help provide the space for people to develop their own ideas and solutions. This week’s shoutout is the Fire in Little Africa team and their new album out anywhere that you listen to music! Shoutout to FILA! Watch this episod...
141: Challenging Your Inner Bully ft Stevon Lewis
May 31, 2021 07:00 - 101 MBDo you suffer from impostor syndrome? This week, we choose violence. Violence in the form of licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and corporate consultant Stevon Lewis. Stevon specializes in helping clients identify, challenge, and overcome impostor syndrome. Tune into this week’s episode to learn more about impostor syndrome, how it may be manifesting in your life, and some solid tips from Stevon that you can begin implementing today to challenge the inner bully in your head. To learn more a...
141: Challenge Your Inner Bully ft. Stevon Lewis
May 31, 2021 07:00 - 55 minutes - 101 MBDo you suffer from impostor syndrome? This week, we choose violence. Violence in the form of licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and corporate consultant Stevon Lewis. Stevon specializes in helping clients identify, challenge, and overcome impostor syndrome. Tune into this week’s episode to learn more about impostor syndrome, how it may be manifesting in your life, and some solid tips from Stevon that you can begin implementing today to challenge the inner bully in your head. To learn more a...
140: Feeling Insecure?
May 24, 2021 07:00 - 40 minutes - 73.8 MBWe all get thoughts from time to time that we’re not good enough. What causes insecurity, what happens when we’re feeling insecure, and what can we do to kick insecure thoughts and actions? This week’s shoutout goes to The Anchor School founded. by Destiny Woodberry Watch this episode on YouTube!
139: Make it Last Forever ft. Sanford & Anastasia Williams
May 17, 2021 07:00 - 56 minutes - 103 MBHow do you define a successful relationship? How do you make it last while pursuing your goals and supporting your partners? In this episode, we chat with Sanford and Anastasia Williams to learn some keys to a happy and successful relationship. Married 31+ years, 3 kids, a JD and an MD under their belts, the Williams’ share their story and the building blocks of how they have been able to keep the fire ablaze for themselves and their dreams. If you’d like to connect with the Williams about ...
138: How to Think More Critically
May 10, 2021 07:00 - 30 minutes - 56.1 MBAre you a critical thinker? If you want to grow, get unstuck, or expand your horizon of knowledge and understanding, then this week is for you. We explore the importance of applying critical thinking to your life, how we can get stuck in patterns or socialized thinking, and ways to sharpen your skills. Watch this episode on YouTube!
137: Closed Mouths Don't Get Fed
May 03, 2021 07:00 - 34 minutes - 62.3 MBNobody is an island. Everybody needs help from someone at some point or another and we all know it; so why is it hard for us to ask? This week, we explore the vulnerability it requires, discuss ways to improve, and challenge you to an exercise to help you practice asking for help. Watch this episode on YouTube!
136: Master Professional Networking
April 26, 2021 07:00 - 37 minutes - 68.8 MBNetworking can be shallow, overwhelming, and a waste of time, or it can be the key to your next big client or opportunity! It’s all in how you do it. This week, Carlie & Lex explore ideas to expand your business network intentionally, the do’s and don’ts of partnerships, and how to foster client relationships. Watch this episode on YouTube!
135: Fight Me Then!
April 18, 2021 15:05 - 36 minutes - 67.1 MBConflict has a bad rep, but it’s a necessary part of life. Conflict is an important building block for relationships and key to personal development. This week, we discuss the importance of conflict, explore conflict management styles, and give some tactical tips to help you improve in the heat of the moment. Watch on YouTube here!
134: Coming Undone ft. Eniafe Isis
April 12, 2021 07:00 - 54 minutes - 99.5 MBEverything starts with you, your story, your heart. This week the Bouch hosts special guest, Eniafe Isis, writer, storyteller, entrepreneur, and founder of All Her Words. This alchemist of emotion gives insight into her journey on what it means to come undone, talks us through sharing her story and processing through writing, and discusses creating a conscious community that supports and uplifts women. You can follow Eniafe Isis and All Her Words on IG and through their website! In celebrat...
133: Embrace Your Femininity
April 05, 2021 07:00 - 36 minutes - 67.6 MBThere is so much power in allowing yourself to embrace everything that you are, powerful and soft, assertive and receptive, rational and emotional. This week, Carlie & Lex highlight the importance of embracing our femininity, (this is for the men too!), and discuss ways we can allow ourselves to be softer and tap into our feminine energy. This week’s shoutout is Yvonne Bulimo of fitness brand Zoezi Sport. Check them out on IG @zoezisport and shop with them at https://zoezisport.com/ Watch ...
132: Essentialism: Less, but Better
March 29, 2021 07:00 - 45 minutes - 83.8 MBPrioritize your life, or someone else will. If you have ever found yourself overcommitted or never having enough hours in the day to get it all done, this episode is for you. While we can’t help add more hours to the day, essentialism can help you do less, but better. This week, Carlie & Lex explore the tenets of essentialism and discuss practical applications and activities to help you narrow down your focus and find your highest point of contribution. Watch this episode on YouTube!
131: It's Just as Important to Receive
March 22, 2021 07:00 - 38 minutes - 71.1 MBWhile most of us enjoy giving, did you know that it is just as important to be able to receive? From compliments to gifts, love to support, let's stop blocking our blessings, and learn to receive. This week, Carlie & Lex explore the importance of receiving, how it relates to personal and professional success, and provide a few challenges to help you improve and welcome abundance. This week's shoutout is the incomparable Stacyann Russell. Former nuclear engineer turned consultant, and Natio...
130: Tuning In To You
March 15, 2021 07:00 - 35 minutes - 65.6 MBYou are the steward of your own potential. It’s up for you to incorporate time in your schedule to pause & reflect. In this episode, Carlie & Lex discuss ways to harness your mind, tune in to you, and reflect on how you’re feeling by using in-between moments more wisely This week’s shoutout goes to Celeste, who actually gifted the book that inspired this episode, for all of the good energy, hiking adventures, friendship, and sharing valuable resources. Watch this episode on YouTube!
129: Who Needs Them?
March 08, 2021 08:00 - 29 minutes - 53.8 MBHow do you define your self-worth? Jobs, relationships, success and failures, are so often the criteria we use to define ourselves. What would it look like if we detached from those external sources, and validated our own self-worth? This week, Carlie & Lex explore the concept of self-worth, how we often attach it to things outside of us, and how we can own our power and validate ourselves. Bronzeville is back! Season 2 of the audio series executive produced by Larenz Tate and Laurence Fish...
128: Drugs, Sex & Mayhem
March 01, 2021 08:00 - 44 minutes - 80.6 MBWhat’s your experience with things you grew up thinking you “shouldn’t” or “weren’t supposed” to be doing? This week on the couch, Carlie & Lex are discussing how their mindsets around drugs, sex, etc. have changed over time. Regardless of what you were taught, here’s why you may or may not be more likely to try something ‘forbidden.’ This week’s shoutout goes to The Aura Shop, by artist Symone Seraphim Watch this episode on YouTube
127: Grief is Like a Ball in a Box
February 22, 2021 08:00 - 57 minutes - 106 MBWhat do you do when you lose someone or something? Or when your life is changed suddenly? This week, Carlie & Lex bring special guest John Conyers III on the Bouch to help unpack grief: how it can look and feel, processing, healing, lessons learned, and the intricate journey of getting back to yourself.
127: Grief is Like a Ball in a Box ft. John Conyers III
February 22, 2021 08:00 - 57 minutes - 106 MBHow do you cope when you lose someone close and life suddenly changes? This week, Carlie & Lex bring special guest John Conyers III onto the Bouch to unpack grief: how it can look and feel, processing, healing, lessons learned, and the intricate journey of getting back to yourself. Watch this episode on YouTube! Follow John on Twitter & Instagram
126: Lessons of Love in Education
February 15, 2021 08:00 - 56 minutes - 103 MBThis week on the couch, Carlie & Lex chat with Marcus Harden about lessons of love and how they can transform a classroom of students. Marcus is an educator who incorporates love into his work as a means for creating better culture and climate for students, families & staff. Listen and learn about how you can incorporate these lessons of love when working with youth and others. You can follow The Academy for Creating Excellence Atlanta and Marcus Harden on Instagram!
125: I Apologize
February 08, 2021 08:00 - 41 minutes - 76.2 MBDo you know how to apologize? Why is it important to not only apologize but to apologize in a particular and meaningful way? This week, Carlie & Lex delve into the art of apologizing, providing practical tips to improve apologies and confronting why it can be so hard for us in the first place.
124: Trust Issues
February 01, 2021 08:00 - 39 minutes - 72.4 MBHow do you rebuild trust? Why would you even want to? Whenever trust is violated, it hurts and relationships can be at stake. There are some important questions the people involved need to ask themselves. This week, Carlie & Lexi explore what happens when there is a breakdown of trust, important conversations that need to be had, and thoughtful ways to move forward whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of the trust violation. Watch this episode on YouTube
123: How to Fix America
January 25, 2021 08:00 - 32 minutes - 59.1 MBHow can we fix America? There isn’t just one solution, but many, and many that are actionable and plausible right now. The New York Times gathered insight from thought leaders and experts from a variety of sectors and professions across the US on practical and actionable ways to begin fixing America. This week, Carlie and Lexi explore these ideas, go in-depth on the solutions they found most impactful, and discuss ways we can begin to see change in our world. For more information, check out ...
122: Processing Emotions
January 18, 2021 08:00 - 48 minutes - 88.4 MBEmotions are a form of energy, and can influence our thoughts, decisions, and lives. If we aren’t dealing with them in healthy ways, they can become overwhelming. Processing your emotions is an important step in transforming that breakdown into a breakthrough. This week, we explore why processing emotions is so necessary, potential blocks we may have, and ways to practice in your life. Watch this episode on YouTube!
121: Identifying Emotions
January 11, 2021 08:00 - 35 minutes - 64.4 MBHow are you feeling? Welcome to part 1 of our 2 part series on emotions. (Yes, we’re talking about them feelings!) This week, Carlie & Lex discuss why being able to identify emotions is so important and explore ways to practice getting in touch with and articulating your emotions. Watch us on YouTube!
120: Create Space in Your Life
January 04, 2021 08:00 - 33 minutes - 62.4 MBBag lady (or gentleman, or fam) you gon hurt your back, dragging all them bags like that. Typically the beginning of the year is filled with goal setting, resolutions, and planning. But do we even have enough space for everything we are trying to manifest? What are you carrying around that you no longer need? What’s taking up space that you can let go of? This week Carlie and Lex explore areas in our lives that we can declutter and provide a self-check to help us create more space for all th...
119: Being Kind vs Being Nice
December 28, 2020 08:00 - 36 minutes - 67.6 MBAre you kind? Or are you nice? What’s the difference and why is it important? Often used interchangeably, they are vastly different. This week, Carlie & Lexi explore the roots and motivations of each, what kindness and niceness look and feel like, and how they’re affecting your life. This week’s shoutout is Vessel, men’s and women’s contemporary clothing. Some water to get you through the drought. Check them out on IG here. Watch us on YouTube!
118: Petty is as Petty Does
December 21, 2020 08:00 - 28 minutes - 53.5 MBBeing petty is often applauded, but can be highly problematic. This week it’s all about pettiness: where it comes from, ways to catch yourself being petty, and how to deal with petty people. This week’s shoutout is Michael Nelder’s first poetry book Birth of Light, prose on the path to self-acceptance. It drops January 2021. Check him out and pre-order at michaelnelder.com Watch us on YouTube!
117: How to Delegate
December 14, 2020 08:00 - 37 minutes - 69.4 MBEver feel like there’s not enough time in the day to get everything finished? You can’t duplicate or scale yourself, but you can learn how to delegate. If we know we can’t do it all alone, then why is it so hard for us to give other people things on our plate? This week, we discuss why delegation is so important, why we might struggle with it, and ways to get better. This week’s shoutout is SKNMUSE | Skin + Bodycare, elevating the beauty experience for Black women. Founded by Ezinne Iroanya...
116: Dealing with Rejection
December 07, 2020 08:00 - 38 minutes - 70.3 MBRejection, an inevitable part of life no matter who you are. As unfortunate as it can be, it can also be necessary. While most of us recognize the pain, there are also benefits to be had. This week, we explore rejection: it’s roots, the fear of it and the impact it can have on us, and healthier ways to deal with it. This week’s shoutout is Farfellow Candle Co., a Los Angeles based candle company, and it’s founder Brian Wong. Get some gifts for yourself or loved ones via their IG or website....
115: Intro to Entrepreneurship
November 30, 2020 08:00 - 42 minutes - 77.2 MBReady to take the next step? If you’ve been contemplating entrepreneurship, this week’s episode is for you. In this introduction and the beginning of a mini-series into entrepreneurship, Carlie & Lex explore questions to ask yourself, perspectives to ponder, and practical ways to set yourself up for success in your every day. Watch this episode on YouTube!
114: Are You Listening?
November 23, 2020 08:00 - 37 minutes - 69 MBListening was a seemingly lost art even prior to the pandemic. Are you a good listener? Are you sure? This week, we explore common barriers to active listening and practical tips to help you become a more effective listener. This week’s shoutout is Trokon George and the launch of 1043 Mixed Media, his studio gallery in the DTLA Fashion District. Check out their website here and support on IG here.
113: Finding Freedom in Your Routine
November 16, 2020 08:00 - 37 minutes - 68.5 MBContrary to popular belief, having a routine isn’t restrictive. You can create freedom and free up energy for things you actually want to focus on by ironing out what your every day looks like. This week, we discuss our routines, things to think through, and what you can create habits for to help free up space. Watch this episode on YouTube!
112: Who Are You, Really?
November 09, 2020 08:00 - 40 minutes - 73.5 MBWe wear a lot of masks, sometimes subconsciously. But who is the real you? How do you know? In this episode, we discuss why we avoid authenticity and how to connect with yourself to better identify the real you. This week’s shoutout is Dominic Jones for DPing a series of commercials highlighting small Black businesses across the country through Budweiser.
111: Talk to Me Nice ft. Jason Quaynor, Part 2
November 02, 2020 08:00 - 47 minutes - 86.8 MBIn this sequel episode, Carlie & Lex finish their conversation with Jason Quaynor on self-talk and retraining your brain & habits. He dives deeper into his thesis, "Dear Kobe: The Secret Mentor Effect and Its Influence on Motivation and Self-talk;" and gives great tactical tips that you can implement today to enhance your performance. Contact him at [email protected] with questions about self-talk or to hear more about his thesis and Sports Psychology studies. Watch this episode on YouTu...
110: Talk to Me Nice ft. Jason Quaynor, Part 1
October 26, 2020 07:00 - 46 minutes - 84.4 MBWe all have an inner dialogue, but what is it? Where does it come from? This week, educator and mental performance consultant Jason Quaynor joins Carlie & Lex on the Bouch for part 1 of our discussion about self-talk. He gives great insight into why it’s so important and tactical steps that you can implement today to help improve your self-talk and performance. Jason’s thesis is Dear Kobe: The Secret Mentor Effect and Its Influence on Motivation and Self-talk. Contact him at jquaynor4@gmail...
109: When to Say No
October 19, 2020 07:00 - 27 minutes - 49.8 MBNot every opportunity is one you should take. When presented with an opportunity that doesn’t feel quite right, do you have a hard time saying no? This week on the couch, Carlie and Lex explore 5 signs that you should probably stick to your gut and say “no!” Wanna ask us a quick question to be aired on the podcast? Leave us a voicemail at 323- 505- 2030! Watch this episode on YouTube!
108: Be a LinkedIn Guru
October 12, 2020 07:00 - 55 minutes - 101 MBNot taking advantage of LinkedIn? You should be! Pull up your profile and push play; because in this episode, Lex and Carlie give you lots of tactical tips for amplifying your LinkedIn presence for connecting and gaining more professional opportunities. This week, make sure you’re registered to VOTE! Watch this episode on YouTube Call us and leave a voicemail! 323-505-2030
107: Q4 Check-In
October 05, 2020 13:17 - 41 minutes - 75.2 MBThe episode about nothing… in particular. This week, Carlie & Lex check-in with where and how they are and how they want to finish the year. The fourth quarter of 2020 just started, where and how are you? What are you focused on and how are you going to finish this year? This week’s shoutout goes to Nick Brooks, guest from Ep 74 Storytelling & Alchemy, dropped an EP this week Return of the Jedi out on iTunes, Spotify, & Tidal. Check him out on IG here. Watch this episode on YouTube
106: Moving Beyond Either/Or Thinking
September 28, 2020 05:21 - 38 minutes - 70.9 MBDo you think in terms of either/or? What does this signify and how may it be holding you back? In this episode we explore the power of both/and thinking and the benefits of not being confined to limited outcomes. This week, we shoutout music artist, Dad, and invite you to check out his latest music video, Memory Foam! Watch this episode on YouTube
105: Don't Take it Personal
September 21, 2020 07:00 - 33 minutes - 62.2 MBDo you find yourself taking things too personally? From getting cut off on the highway to overthinking personal interactions, taking things too personally can be giving away your power. In this episode, Carlie & Lex explore what this looks like in our lives, why we do this, and ways to reframe our thoughts and maintain our peace. This week’s shoutout is Angie Douglass, founder of Second House Collection. Home + Lifestyle Brand to enhance the homebody’s experience. Check them out at @Shopsh...
104: How to Win ft. Ashley Hill
September 14, 2020 07:00 - 41 minutes - 75.6 MBReady to take it to the next level? This week, International selling author & Certified Extreme Execution Coach Ashley Hill joins Carlie & Lexi on the couch. Coach Ash shares insight into the coaching process, how she helps her clients level up their mindset and their lives, and how owning your superpower helps you win. Learn more about extreme execution coaching with Coach Ash here and check out her Set-up Sundaze and DISCover You podcast via her IG. Enter to win a free DISC Assessment & C...
103: Be a Better Finisher
September 07, 2020 07:00 - 32 minutes - 58.6 MBDo you finish what you start? If you’re a serial starter, or find yourself excited about starting, but rarely finishing - then this episode is for you. Carlie & Lex explore what keeps us from following through on projects and discuss some strategies to help get you across the finish line. Check out episode 98 for more info about focusing on the process and 102 to confront perfectionism.
102: The Problem with Perfection
August 31, 2020 07:00 - 38 minutes - 69.8 MBAre you a perfectionist? Perfectionism is often seen as a positive quality that pushes us further. However, this mindset can actually hold us back when mismanaged. This week, Carlie & Lex explore perfectionism from top to bottom and discuss ways to be more mindful and have healthier expectations of yourself. This week’s shoutout goes to Brilliantly Black by Dr. Byron Young and Dontae Rayford! Watch this episode on YouTube!
101: When You're Worried About a Friend
August 24, 2020 07:00 - 35 minutes - 64.6 MBIf you’re feeling worried about a friend, what should you do if anything? How can you help? What if they don’t want to be helped or haven’t asked for it? This week, Carlie & Lex discuss concern for friends and how to assess yourself first and then approach, support, and be there for them. Nick Brooks and his short film Bee won Best Short Film at the Las Vegas Black Film Festival. Shoutout to him and his team! Learn more and support his work here: TheNickBrooks.com. Watch it on YouTube here!
100: Celebrating 1 Oh Oh
August 17, 2020 07:00 - 1 hour - 128 MBCelebration, champagne, and conversation. This week, Carlie & Lex celebrate 100 episodes of the Bouch! (One hunnid!) Some special guests joined (virtually, of course) and talked through everything from starting over to balancing work/play, anime to influences for love, and processing other people's perspectives on who and how you are. Celebrate with us! Watch this episode on YouTube
99: Relax without Guilt
August 10, 2020 07:00 - 37 minutes - 70 MBIn life, there can be an overwhelming sense of always having to do something or be something, to always be pushing and to achieve constantly. This can lead to exhaustion, overwhelm, overwork, and a debilitating sense of never doing enough. This week, Carlie & Lex explore how to rest and relax without guilt, and how ultimately this is an integral piece of intentionality and success. LikeU Cards by Kiara Imani & Michael Nelder. A card game with no rules, but all the play! Watch on YouTube he...
98: Focus on the Process
August 03, 2020 07:00 - 31 minutes - 58.1 MBGoals are important and vital to success, but they shouldn’t be your primary focus. This week, Carlie & Lex challenge you to shift your focus from the outcomes to the process, and how ultimately that’s what helps you win, both short and long term. This week’s shoutout Best Damn Hip Hop Writing: The Book of Yoh storyteller and music journalist, Yoh Phillips. Watch this episode on YouTube
97: What’s Your Information Diet?
July 27, 2020 07:00 - 70.9 MBNutrition doesn’t just come from the food you eat. It comes from the shows you watch, the books you read, and what you listen to every day. How intentional are you with the information you intake? Is your information diet working towards your goals? This week, Carlie & Lex discuss intentionality, nourishment, and when it can be too much. This week’s shoutout is SwayBrand. Go sign up to be an authentika!
96: Why Procrastinate?
July 20, 2020 07:00 - 38 minutes - 69.7 MBIf you know what you need to do, why aren’t you doing it? Or why do you put it off? This week, Carlie & Lex attack procrastination, explore its origins, and discuss tangible steps on what it will take to get to the next level. This week’s shoutout is Change The Tune for hosting their first virtual summer program The Studio for over 50 middle schoolers and high schoolers. Learn more and donate here! Watch this episode on YouTube
95: Why Being Open is Key
July 13, 2020 12:50 - 64.5 MBDo you consider yourself open? Oftentimes we aren’t as open as we think we are. This week, Carlie & Lex explore vulnerability and being open, with ourselves, and in our lives. Exploring what it means, reasons we might struggle to, and how to make that change and become more open in our everyday lives. This week’s shoutout is Tyus Tillman of TablesUp Massage, Stretch Therapy, and now Rocket Yoga. Check him out here! Watch it on YouTube here.