Latest Porn addiction treatment Podcast Episodes
You Can Rewire Your Subconscious Mind—and Break Out of Porn/Sex Addiction!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 24, 2023 12:00 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 199, Steve is on the road traveling so Mark is flying solo on the PBSE podcast. Everyday we think, talk and act on "autopilot" in SO many ways! All of this is "hard-wired" in the subconscious mind's computer. And one of the most powerfully hard-wired programs the subconscious mind...
SPECIAL EPISODE! For My Recovery & My Partner’s Healing—How Can I Stop “Scanning in Public”?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 17, 2023 12:00 - 1 hour ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsEpisode 198 is a very special episode! You will notice that this episode is much longer than what is typical for PBSE. That's because we're doing a "re-broadcast" of a special "on-location" Dare to Connect session we did for addicts in recovery back in January 2023. We are doing this in respons...
Sick and Tired of the Roller Coaster Ride of Porn/Sex Addiction? Here Are Some Simple Tools to Start Breaking Free.
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 10, 2023 12:00 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsAfter years or decades of feeling stuck in the endless "addiction cycle," it can be easy to become weighed down in hopelessness and the seeming "inevitability" of continuing relapse. In Episode 197, Mark Kastleman shares some simple, yet powerful tools to begin breaking free from the shackles ...
My Spouse “Fooled” Me and Everyone in Our Family for Years! Now I Can’t Stand to Even Look at Him! Is there any Hope for us?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 03, 2023 12:00 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsEpisode 196 is in response to a very raw and painful situation shared by the spouse of a porn/sex addict. Here's what she had to say— Hi and thank you both so much for what you do, I found you through the worst time in my life by the grace of god. I am in my second marriage with a man who is te...
What is the Difference Between “Codependence” and Authentic Feelings & Boundaries?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 26, 2023 12:00 - 32 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThere is an old, antiquated psychology model that is unfortunately still referenced by too many people out there regarding how porn/sex addiction impacts a spouse/partner. That old model is called, "Codependency." For many years, Mark and Steve have practiced a far more effective and correct m...
How Can a Porn/Sex Addict in Recovery, most effectively project His Authenticity and Higher Self?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 19, 2023 12:00 - 36 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 194, Mark and Steve respond to what may be the most brief situation and question ever submitted to PBSE. It comes from a sex addict trying to reconcile with his partner. Here's his submission— "How can I reconcile my infidelity and my care for women’s rights? My wife says that I’m ly...
What is “His” Role and “Her” Role in Rebuilding Trust?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 12, 2023 12:00 - 32 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode #193, Mark & Steve talk passionately about a super-crucial part of addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing—rebuilding trust! This episode was created in answer to the following situation sent in by a sex/porn addict actively seeking recovery and yearning to rebuild trust with h...
Should I Marry My Porn-Addicted Fiancé or Move On?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 05, 2023 12:00 - 31 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsWe KNOW this is a VERY intense episode title! We decided to tackle this topic because it was submitted by a PBSE listener who is engaged to a porn addict and wants to know if she should proceed or end the relationship. Here's how she describes her situation— "Hi, I really appreciate this podcas...
What Happens when Porn Use/Sex Addiction is Blamed on the so-called “Inadequacies” of a Partner?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 29, 2023 12:00 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 191, Mark and Steve take on what is an extremely difficult and painful topic for the partners of porn/sex addicts. This episode is in response to a PBSE listener vulnerably and transparently describing a very hurtful and traumatic situation and history she is facing with her partner. ...
After My Lying and Gaslighting, My Partner Won’t Believe Me! How Do I Show True Empathy & Rebuild Trust?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 22, 2023 12:00 - 32 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 190, Mark and Steve take on some excellent questions asked by a PBSE listener. He is in good, solid, active recovery from porn/sex addiction and alcoholism. He is doing a LOT of right things and amassing some really good sobriety. But, based on his long history of addiction, lying, ga...
Boundaries, Trauma and “Long-Distance-Sex”–Where do We Go From Here?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 15, 2023 12:00 - 38 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 189, Mark and Steve answer three critical questions sent in by a PBSE listener who is trying to balance her own healing from sexual trauma and her relationship with a 15-year-porn-addict who refuses to get into recovery. And he insists on a long-distance, "digital/cyber" sexual relat...
Will Confronting my Addict’s "Acting-Out Partners" Help Me Heal?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 08, 2023 12:00 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsEpisode 188 addresses a PBSE Listener's painful situation and heart-felt, crucial questions: "Hi Mark and Steve, Firstly I want to thank you for hearing my previous question about my addict partners "empathy Button" being broken. Your podcast really reiterated that we are on the right track. Ou...
What Place Does “Edging” Have or Not Have in Healthy Recovery and Healing a Relationship?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 01, 2023 12:00 - 29 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 187, Mark & Steve take on a topic and question from a PBSE listener that hasn't been specifically addressed on the podcast before. Here's what a listener submitted— "Hi Mark and Steve - long time listener now and I've recommended your podcast many times to others in recovery. Thank y...
My Partner’s Definition of “What is Porn” is Different from Mine—We are at an Impasse—Now What?!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - July 25, 2023 12:00 - 35 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn episode 186, Mark & Steve address a very difficult and sensitive topic sent in to PBSE by the partner of an addict in recovery— "My husband and I have been in healthy recovery for an extended amount of time. He thinks someone can be objectified whether they have clothing or not, so if he wan...
My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s “Empathy Button” is Broken! What Can I Do?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - July 18, 2023 12:00 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThe title for Episode 185 may sound a bit strange—"My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s 'Empathy Button' is Broken! What Can I Do?" Actually, the idea of a "broken empathy button" comes from a PBSE listener who sent us the following situation and plea for help— "I am the betrayed partner of a sex addic...
How can we Connect When My Partner Acts Out and Then Goes to Shame—Silent, Stoic and Self-Absorbed?!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - July 11, 2023 12:00 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 184, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's situation and question. This is a VERY common situation that MANY partners describe who are struggling under the heavy burden of Betrayal Trauma— "My husband acts out & then completely turns inward about how awful of a person he is & ...
“Clearing Away the Wreckage of Your Past"—Recovery Lessons from Steve’s Metal Detecting Trip
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - July 04, 2023 12:00 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsAlmost 30 years ago, when PBSE co-founder Steve Moore was 13-years-old, his father was killed in a plane crash. This traumatic event played a big role in Steve developing an addiction to pornography as a young teen. A few weeks ago, Steve traveled to his father's plane crash site to "uncover the...
I Want My Addict Partner to SUFFER; to Feel TERRIBLE like I do! Is that Normal? How Can I Stop this Feeling?!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - June 27, 2023 12:00 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 182, Mark and Steve respond to a very authentic, vulnerable and VERY direct question from a PBSE listener— "Can you address this question on your podcast? I want my partner to suffer the same hurt as he inflicted on me. I actually want him to feel terrible. Why do I feel this way. H...
Evolve from Treating the “Symptoms of Addiction” to a Real & Lasting “Change of Heart & Mind."
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - June 20, 2023 12:00 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn episode 180, Mark and Steve address an insightful inquiry from a porn/sex addict seeking a real and lasting change of heart and mind in his recovery. Here's how he describes his situation— "Hello! I am a recovering porn addict, and I have been listening to your podcast for the past six month...
Should I Pay Off My New Spouse's "Porn Debt" So We Can Have a Solid Financial Start?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - June 13, 2023 16:00 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsWe KNOW this episode title sounds crazy! But, many partners of porn/sex addicts face some hard decisions about where to "draw boundaries" as they try to navigate the relationship moving forward. In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's genuine concerns and questions about d...
Is There a “Statute of Limitations” on Feelings, Betrayal Trauma and Disclosure?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - June 06, 2023 12:00 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 178, Mark and Steve address an all-too-common situation and question faced and asked by porn/sex addicts in recovery and their partners seeking to heal from betrayal trauma—"Should there be a limit on how long and how many times difficult feelings can be felt, expressed and processed;...
How do I Stop Comparing Myself to Porn and His Sexual Fantasies?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 30, 2023 12:00 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 177, Mark and Steve address a very heart-felt question sent in by a PBSE listener— "My partner recently came clean to me about porn addiction and online disloyalty, as well as checking out my friends. He insists that these other women's appearances have very little to do with his sex...
If “Sex is Optional,” How can a Couple Possibly Stay Connected?!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 23, 2023 12:00 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode Mark and Steve address a super common question—if "sex is optional" in a relationship, then how can a couple possibly stay connected?! This question actually came in recently from a PBSE listener. Here's how she asked it— "Hi, I’ve been binge listening to your podcast for a few...
How Can We Avoid the Traps and Pitfalls of Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 16, 2023 12:00 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsEpisode 175 finds Steve and his wife on vacation on the island of Hilo in Hawaii. Hilo is the site of an actual "active" volcano. While there, they observe that there are limited "solid footpaths" around the volcano and a LOT of areas of "thin crust" where the lava is flowing one or two inches b...
What Keeps us Stuck in Addiction and What Does “Real” Recovery Look Like?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 09, 2023 12:00 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThe partners of sex/porn addicts can find it difficult or near impossible to discern whether or not their partner is still "stuck in addiction" or in actual "real recovery." Here's how a PBSE listener describes this frustrating, painful experience— 1 year ago, iIfound my husband of almost 25 ye...
What Happens When we “Weaponize” What Could be “Healthy Boundaries”?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 02, 2023 12:00 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsHealthy Boundaries are CRITICAL to our individual happiness and authenticity—AND—to our connection as a couple. But when we're not experienced with setting and holding healthy boundaries and/or we've spent our lives "going along to get along," it can be all-too-easy to "weaponize" what could oth...
“Normal Human Attraction” vs. “Toxic/Betraying Lust”?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 25, 2023 12:00 - 29 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn Episode 172, Mark and Steve tackle a topic that is extremely difficult, triggering and traumatizing for the partners of porn/sex addicts and even for the addicts themselves—the line between "attraction and lust." This episode is in response to a situation and questions submitted by a PBSE lis...
What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 18, 2023 12:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsErectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in recovery. The discussion in Episode 171 is in response to a question from a PBSE listener— Hello, I’m an addict in recovery. I’m in good solid recovery I listen to ...
Why are Sexual Boundaries Critical for a truly "Connected Coupleship"?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 11, 2023 12:00 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsOnce an addict starts into recovery and his partner begins her journey of healing betrayal trauma, a couple should immediately look at the difficult but essential work of SETTING BOUNDARIES. Why? Because the most connected relationships are BOUNDARIED RELATIONSHIPS! The first priority is to se...
As a Partner in Betrayal Trauma, I Feel Resentment Toward my Addict Partner. How do I Manage this?!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 04, 2023 12:00 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn episode 169, Mark and Steve address a very raw and real scenario and question from the partner of a porn/sex addict. As a partner trying to heal from Betrayal Trauma, she feels a lot of resentment toward her addict partner who is in recovery and she wants to know HOW to process through these ...
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