What Place Does “Edging” Have or Not Have in Healthy Recovery and Healing a Relationship?

In Episode 187, Mark & Steve take on a topic and question from a PBSE listener that hasn't been specifically addressed on the podcast before. Here's what a listener submitted—

"Hi Mark and Steve - long time listener now and I've recommended your podcast many times to others in recovery. Thank you for all you professionalism, vulnerability, and all the resources you've put together! My question today is about so-called "edging" which refers to masturbation without orgasm. There seems to be confusion about whether this behavior is harmful, how or whether it fits into recovery, and how or whether it fits into a committed relationship, even without pornography or fantasy. Would you please share any wisdom you have around this behavior? Thank you for all that you do."

-  What is "Edging"?

-  How does it apply to various forms of "acting out" in addiction and life?

-  How can you step back from "narrow definitions" to focus on the real  keys—

Key #1—What is your "true intention"?

Key#2—What is the "honest impact" on the individual and couple?

Key #3—Does the "edging" behavior move you closer or farther away from what is truly "authentic"  for you as an individual and in your most important relationships?


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