When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees
93 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago -What happens when the adoptee is centered as the hero in their own story? These are whole-hearted conversations on how we can create a thriving, healing, community and impactful relationships the centerpiece of our lives. This is for the adoptee, parents, and the adoption-curious.
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Ep. 69 SOLO: The Attachment Styles
July 09, 2023 03:00 - 24 minutes - 16.6 MBToday we talk about the science of attachment styles inspired by the book "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller. This book has revolutionized how I approach all of my relationships. These are my reasons why you should read this book and how I now use it to healthfully allow people to be as they are. REFERENCES: Attached written by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller Disordered Attachment Article Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshel...
Ep. 68 Shelby Redfield Kilgore: Behind the Lens
June 25, 2023 04:00 - 41 minutes - 28.8 MBToday our guest is Shelby Redfield Kilgore who is a two time Emmy award-winning filmmaker and author of the blog, “Behind the Lens” and also co-writer of the book “Rooted in Adoption: A Collection of Adoptee Reflections”. Today's topics: Her filmmaking and how she found her artistic voice How the stories she collects have informed her own adoption journey The societal pressures of single mothers in Korea and The resentment that surfaced toward her culture because of what happened to her ...
Ep. 67 Melissa Guida-Richards: The rise of Adoptee Thoughts
June 18, 2023 00:00 - 55 minutes - 38.4 MBToday we have author, activist, podcaster, and educative content creator Melissa Guida Richards; who was also a guest on episode 6 ,and a panelist on my 2020 panel series. A lot has happened since we last chatted a few years ago; Melissa's second book launched and her tik tok / IG platforms now have a huge following of people who want to learn more. Topics today include: The ramification of Separating siblings Her relationship with her adoptive mother, and what it was like to be on the Ca...
Ep 66. matthew anthony: "You Can Not Burn The Sun" A Book of Poetry
June 10, 2023 14:00 - 44 minutes - 30.3 MBToday I speak with poet, artist, and activist matthew anthony. Matthew has a podcast called "Little Did You Know" and a vibrant poetry book called "You Can Not Burn The Sun." We discuss: - Reclaiming ones name - Rehoming and separating siblings - What "with-ness" is in regards to solidarity - And the resiliency of a black spirit brought up in a Sun Down town GUEST: matthew anthony https://drum.io/cantburnthesun?fbclid=IwAR0XqFmMZsW8-XJwJO4UiyiJugu-LIgsbWJIt9UMHj-vtGBOCU9reHZk8N4 REFEREN...
Ep. 65 Lorah Gerald: The Adopted Chameleon
June 03, 2023 12:00 - 1 hour - 43.1 MBToday, we speak with Lorah Gerald (aka The Adopted Chameleon). It was a delight to have a light worker with such a profound grasp of a plethora of healing modalities. Lorah is a trauma-informed Kundalini Yoga instructor, Intuitive, Tarot & Tea reader, and Reiki healer. You can find her on Instagram @theadopteechamelean sharing her gifts as a healer through movement and mindful practices. We talk about: The adoption summit she attended called “Untangling Our Roots” Lorah’s Medium energy ...
Ep. 65 Lorah Gerald: The Adoptee Chameleon
June 03, 2023 12:00 - 1 hour - 43.1 MBToday, we speak with Lorah Gerald (aka The Adoptee Chameleon). It was a delight to have a light worker with such a profound grasp of a plethora of healing modalities. Lorah is a trauma-informed Kundalini Yoga instructor, Intuitive, Tarot & Tea reader, and Reiki healer. You can find her on Instagram @theadopteechamelean sharing her gifts as a healer through movement and mindful practices. We talk about: The adoption summit she attended called “Untangling Our Roots” Lorah’s Medium energy ...
Ep. 64 SOLO: Why is May Mental Health Awareness Month & Asian, Asian American & Pacific Islander Month?
May 28, 2023 03:00 - 18 minutes - 12.9 MBToday it’s just me.This month has been many things for me. Officially it’s Mental Health awareness month and Asian, Asian American, Pacific Islander Heritage Month. I want to take the time to honor both things. First I’ll tell you why Mental Health awareness is so imperative on a personal level and on a community level. REFERENCES: Film One Child Nation Asian Nation Blog https://www.asian-nation.org/index.shtml Asian American Contributions: https://www.nyxt.nyc/blog/asian-american-paci...
Ep. 63 Lori May Mier: A Story of Resiliency
May 21, 2023 02:00 - 46 minutes - 32.1 MBToday's guest is Lori May Mier who is the author of Marin and Her Very Bright Star; a story of resiliency which is available on her website. She also is an activator in her community. Find out why I use the word "activator" instead of "activist" in the episode. We talk about: The difference between Grief and loss Narrative therapy and how reimagining your story can change your perspective Lori's experience with parental loss The abuse Lori endured at the hands of her caregivers Lori s...
Ep. 62 Nelson De Witt: The Disappeared Children of El Salvador
May 13, 2023 19:00 - 1 hour - 45.6 MBMy guest today is Nelson De Witt who is an author, film maker and technologist. This conversation was fascinating. Nelson was born in El Salvador and raised here on East Coast. We discuss: -Coping mechanisms for his Dyslexia (and my dyslexia, because we both have it) - Joseph Campbell’s Heroes Journey, which is the most prevalent template for stories that involve a hero. The hero goes on an adventure, is victorious in battle, and comes home changed or transformed. -The complexities of reun...
Ep. 61 Solo: What is An Inner Child?
May 07, 2023 02:00 - 12 minutes - 8.34 MBThis week it's all me. I discuss healing the inner child and how that has benefited my life. There are many ways to go about it this powerful work. Listen and find out how incredibly useful it can be to acknowledge and connect with ones inner children. REFERENCES: What is An Inner Child & What Does It know https://integrativepsych.co/new-blog/what-is-an-inner-child#:~:text=Your%20%E2%80%9Cinner%20child%E2%80%9D%20is%20a,and%20dreams%20for%20the%20future. 10 Exercises to Heal Your Inner Chi...
Ep. 60 Nikki Webster: A Miracle of Tenacity
April 29, 2023 16:00 - 1 hour - 42.9 MBToday's guest, Nikki Webster is the illustrator Nikki Often, heart warming comics that "Punch you in the gut." We discuss the following: Allowing your child to sleep with you for as long as possible Nikki's work comics What is a "miracle of tenacity" How to overcome feelings of not being enough as we both dabble in public speaking. GUEST: Nikki Webster https://www.nikkioften.com/ @nikkioften Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com S...
Ep. 59 Anne Heffron: You Don't Look Adopted
April 22, 2023 16:00 - 1 hour - 48.4 MBToday's guest is the author, film maker and coach, Anne Heffron. Anne wrote “You Don’t Look Adopted,” “Making a Mess: Writing and Pooping,” “Truth Agency: Writing Ideas for people who were adopted,” and she co-wrote the film “Phantom Halo.” Anne facilitates writing workshops and retreats designed to empower, instill confidence and make people excited to be alive. We discuss: Approaching life and trauma from an angle Adoptee's relationship with Enough-ness and financial security How yoga...
Ep. 58 Isaac Etter: Founding IDENTITY to equip parents and empower children
April 15, 2023 06:00 - 1 hour - 41.8 MBToday I speak with Isaac Etter, a social entrepreneur, transracial adoptee, founder of Identity a startup focused on using technology to help foster and adoptive families thrive, and the owner of a small business strategy agency called, Etter Consulting. Identity is dedicated to equiping parents so that the children are empowered. GUEST: Isaac Etter https://isaacetter.com/ RECOURCES: Heart and Mind Therapy 15% Discount links below!!! Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @l...
Ep. 57 Emma Stevens: Book "The Gathering Place: An Adoptee's Story"
April 08, 2023 06:00 - 52 minutes - 36 MBOur guest Emma Stevens is an mother, trainer and the author of "The Gathering Place: An adoptee's Story" and newly released, "A Fire is Coming." We unpack the uses of the healing modality, EMDR Therapy (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing), and she touches on her tumultuous childhood with her adoptive parents, the gift of learning how to take up space, Benefits of tapping as another tool of healing, how she chose life after years of alcoholism, and how deconstructing belief system...
Ep. 56 Patrick Armstrong: Dear Asian Americans
April 01, 2023 06:00 - 1 hour - 48.6 MBToday's guest, Patrick Armstrong (he/him) discusses creating his podcasts and what that entails, how he builds empathy with and for the community outside of the adoption constellation, and how "adoptee" is an identity that one inhabits. We also delve into what differentiates an activist from advocate and how he navigates the construct of "whiteness". Patrick is an adoptee from Korea, a podcaster, speaker, and community facilitator. He is one of the hosts of the Janchi Show, a podcast tha...
Ep.55 SOLO: Calling In Vs Calling Out
March 25, 2023 12:00 - 22 minutes - 15.8 MBWe start this season off with a one-on-one "calling in." I talk about the adverse affects of conflict avoidance and the true promise of accountability. REFERENCES: Victoria Albina "Feminine Wellness" https://victoriaalbina.com/podcast/ Calling In vs calling Out https://edib.harvard.edu/files/dib/files/calling_in_and_calling_out_guide_v4.pdf?m=1625683246 Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DIS...
Ep. 54 Solo: Why "Courage, My Love?"
July 10, 2022 01:00 - 13 minutes - 9.49 MBI want to breakdown why and what I mean by "Where can you apply courage?" and "Courage, my love." This word is the the bedrock of this work, so let's find out why. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @youngadoptee @lantoines References: Brene Brown William Ernest Henley "Invictus" Support the show
Ep. 54 End of Season 3: Why "Courage, My Love?"
July 10, 2022 01:00 - 13 minutes - 9.49 MBThis is the last episode in Season 3! Hoorah! And before we go on a short hiatus, I want to breakdown why and what I mean by "Where can you apply courage?" and "Courage, my love." This word is the the bedrock of this work, so let's find out why. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @youngadoptee @lantoines References: Brene Brown William Ernest Henley "Invictus" Support the show
Ep. 54 End of Season 3: Why "Courage, My Love?"
July 10, 2022 01:00 - 14 minutes - 10.3 MBThis is the last episode in Season 3! Hoorah! And before we go on a short hiatus, I want to breakdown why and what I mean by "Where can you apply courage?" and "Courage, my love." This word is the the bedrock of this work, so let's find out why. References: Brene Brown William Ernest Henley "Invictus" Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS: Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (E...
Ep. 53 Sandy Whitehawk: We Must Keep Our Birth Names
July 02, 2022 18:00 - 1 hour - 44.5 MBToday’s guest is Sandy Whitehawk who is the Executive Director at First Nations Repatriation Institute. She and I take the gloves off with this one. We discuss white supremacy in indigenous communities, systematic removal and problematic placements of adoptees, changing of adoptee names, and what unconditional love looks like. The mainstream doesn’t talk about what happens when the adoptee is adopted into an unsafe or unsupportive household. You hear stories of re-homing because the child ha...
Ep. 53 Sandy White Hawk: We Must Keep Our Birth Names
July 02, 2022 18:00 - 1 hour - 46.6 MBToday’s guest is Sandy White Hawk who is the Executive Director at First Nations Repatriation Institute. She and I take the gloves off with this one. We discuss white supremacy in indigenous communities, systematic removal and problematic placements of adoptees, changing of adoptee names, and what unconditional love looks like. The mainstream doesn’t talk about what happens when the adoptee is adopted into an unsafe or unsupportive household. You hear stories of re-homing because the child h...
Ep. 52 Julie Ryan McGue: Twice A Daughter
June 25, 2022 23:00 - 34 minutes - 23.8 MBJulie McGue graces my podcast today. We talk about the journey she took to write the extraordinary memoir, “Twice A Daughter” with her twin sister. Julie and I delve into the challenge of asking adoptive parents for adoption information, and how important it is to know your medical history. She also found some kismet moments where writing her story opened new up conversations and opportunities for healing GUEST: Julie McGue https://juliemcgueauthor.com/ Angela Rye: Comments on Supreme Co...
Ep. 51 Lina Vanegas: Rescripting The Narrative
June 19, 2022 02:00 - 50 minutes - 34.4 MBMy guest today is Lina Vanegas who is an advocate for Displaced adoptee rights, mental health awareness, suicide prevention and is also the co-host of the podcast “Rescripting The Narrative”. We discuss how war is a prime opportunity for displaced children ending up in the adoption cycle, what advocacy can looking like in the adoption community, and suicide preventions for adoptees. GUEST: Lina Venegas @linaleadswithlove Rescripting The Narrative Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/pod...
Ep. 51 Lina Vanegas: Rescripting The Narrative
June 19, 2022 02:00 - 47 minutes - 32.3 MBMy guest today is Lina Vanegas who is an advocate for Displaced adoptee rights, mental health awareness, suicide prevention and is also the co-host of the podcast “Rescripting The Narrative”. We discuss how war is a prime opportunity for displaced children ending up in the adoption cycle, what advocacy can looking like in the adoption community, and suicide preventions for adoptees. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoines @youngadoptee DONATE TO THE SHOW: https://ko-fi.com/whentheywereyo...
Ep. 50 Sara Easterly: The Dangers of Calling Adoption A Blessing
June 11, 2022 14:00 - 30 minutes - 21.1 MBOur guest today, Sara Easterly is an author and essayist who wrote a spiritual memoir called “Searching for Mom”. She writes about adoption, parenting, and grief through the lens of her Christian faith. We go into how using faith to justify adoption can make adoptees feel alienated and insignificant by framing adoption as a “blessing”. And her answer to my final question “where to apply courage” was one of my favorites. Let's lean in! GUEST: Sara Easterly https://saraeasterly.com/ S...
Ep. 49 Jill Ashley Hoffman: How to trust your body
June 04, 2022 23:00 - 29 minutes - 20.1 MBToday, Jill Ashley Hoffman helps me unpack cultural programing and conditioning around relationship with food, learning how food can be medicine and addressing thyroid disorders. Jill is a healing artist; Reiki healer, Health coach, thyroid health coach, graphic designer and #1 Best selling Co-author. Jill is here to guide us towards a healthier and holistic path. I’m so about this conversation, y’all! Let’s lean in. GUEST: Jill Hoffman https://jillashleyhoffman.com/ @embodydmentor Sup...
Jill Ashley Hoffman: How to trust your body
June 04, 2022 23:00 - 26 minutes - 18 MBToday, Jill Ashley Hoffman helps me unpack cultural programing and conditioning around relationship with food, learning how food can be medicine and addressing thyroid disorders. Jill is a healing artist; Reiki healer, Health coach, thyroid health coach, graphic designer and #1 Best selling Co-author. Jill is here to guide us towards a healthier and holistic path. I’m so about this conversation, y’all! Let’s lean in. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoines @youngadoptee Guest: https://...
Ep. 48 Brandi Ebersol: Bring My Whole Self Always
May 28, 2022 17:00 - 33 minutes - 22.9 MBThis week in light of all the collective heart-breaks I wanted check in with everyone. How is your heart? My guest is the perfect person to share space in this tender moment. She is such a light in this world, as a mentor and adoptive parent herself. She helps to shatter the myth that BIPOC people don't adopt--they do! And she just happens to be an adoptee to boot. We chat about how being a Korean adoptee informed her path as an adoptive parent of a little black boy and how people referenc...
Ep. 47 Schai Schairer: Haitian Heritage Month
May 21, 2022 06:00 - 52 minutes - 36.3 MBSchai Schairer returns to talk about Haitian Heritage Month! Listen as we fellowship on what this month means to us! We discuss reclaiming our Haitian culture as interracial adoptees, building identity by immersing ourselves in various communities, and celebrating our advocacies. The authenticity of our friendship made it difficult to end this episode. We hope you enjoy hearing our vibrant conversation on our country of origin: Haiti! GUEST:: Schai Schairer www.fistdc.org/ team IG: @dia...
Ep. 47 Schai Schairer: Haitian Heritage month
May 21, 2022 06:00 - 49 minutes - 34.2 MBSchai Schairer returns to talk about Haitian Heritage Month! Listen as we fellowship on what this month means to us! We discuss reclaiming our Haitian culture as interracial adoptees, building identity by immersing ourselves in various communities, and celebrating our advocacies. The authenticity of our friendship made it difficult to end this episode. We hope you enjoy hearing our vibrant conversation on our country of origin: Haiti! www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoines @youngadopte...
Ep. 46 Kevin Hofmann: The Book "Growing Up Black in White"
May 14, 2022 15:00 - 30 minutes - 21 MBKevin Hofmann is biracial who was adopted into a White family. Listen as he uses humor to discuss the sense of belonging, imposter syndrome, and identity. His candid experiences are written in his book, “Growing Up Black in White” in which he further explores dealing with racial tensions, his loving family, and developing into a trainer to teach others various ways to coexist with someone different than you. Get ready to be encouraged while you laugh! GUEST:: Kevin Hofmann https://www.growi...
Ep. 45 Mindy Stern: Abortion and The Better Life Narrative
May 07, 2022 15:00 - 34 minutes - 23.7 MBWe've all heard of the "Better life narrative" where people tell you that no matter what your present circumstances are they are better than your pre-adoption life. Well, that's not true nor is it healthy to perpetuate. My guest Mindy Stern and I break down why! GUEST::cMindy Stern @minster12 Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS: Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping ...
Ep. 44 Solo episode: Wellness of the mind, body and heart
May 01, 2022 03:00 - 11 minutes - 8.13 MBToday I go solo to give you some key things that helped me survive this monstrous year. It is all about a higher quality of life, my beloveds. Journel Prompt: What am I feeling this way? What can I do to shift this circumstance? Write 5 things that you’re grateful for. Write 5 lessons that you are learning from this situation. Mind Love: https://www.mindlove.com/ Cathy Heller: https://www.dontkeepyourdayjob.com/ To Be Magnetic: https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast Cold/Feve...
EP. 43 Lydia Faye Berkey: Self-Actualization & Building a Social Media Presence
April 23, 2022 06:00 - 33 minutes - 23.1 MBToday’s episode has Lydia Fay Berkey, who is an interracial adoptee. You’ll hear Lydia discuss how to build an Instagram presence, how Maslow's hierarchy of needs applies to transracial adoptees, how to protect your peace, and the struggle to decolonize Eurocentric beauty standards. The infectious laugher of Lydia will make it easy to stay engaged as she discusses her development into her authentic self who is now working as an Adoption Case Worker. Hearing her passion for the adoption commu...
Ep. 42 Edward Di Gangi: The Gift Best Given
April 16, 2022 06:00 - 32 minutes - 22.7 MBToday Ed and I discuss his wonderful book "The Gift best Given". Ed has an inspiring perspective on how it's never too late to search for the answers. GUEST: Edward Di Gangi https://www.digangiauthor.com/about-my-book Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS: Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children) Black Hair Care Guide to Transracial Adoption...
Ep.41 Dr Juliana Olson Deans: The Drama Triangle
April 09, 2022 11:00 - 46 minutes - 31.7 MBWe launch this season with a discussion on what it means to be stuck in a drama triangle where you're constantly playing either the role of victim, prosecutor or rescuers. Adoptee, friend and biological aunt, Dr. Juliana Olson Deans helps me unpack it all. The world at large is definitely stuck in at least one of these mindsets, but you don't have to stay stuck. Let's figure out how! GUEST: Dr. Juliana Olson Deans @Dr_juliana_deans Differentiation of Self: https://www.thebowencenter.org/d...
Season 3 Teaser!!!
April 06, 2022 21:00 - 37 seconds - 467 KBWe're back! Come join me this Saturday for another round. I'm so excited! @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com DONATE TO THE SHOW: https://ko-fi.com/whentheywereyoung Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS: Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children) Black Hair Care Guide to Transracial Adoption ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENT...
Ep. 40 Solo: Forgotten First Languages Leave An Imprint On The Brain
August 07, 2021 06:00 - 10 minutes - 7.25 MBToday in this solo episode I wanted to talk to you about lost languages. I stumbled across this article called “Forgotten First Languages Leave An Imprint On The Brain.” For those of you feeling overwhelmed (like me) with the idea of re-learning your mother-tongue this article gave me so much comfort and hope. REFERENCES: Adoptees who taught themselves their native language: Jacob Taylor Mosquera from Colombia ep.39 William Uhlaub from Haiti ep.8 BOOK: Embers in the Ashes by Sabaa Tahir ...
Ep. 39 Jacob Taylor Mosquera: I Met Myself In October: A Memoir of Belonging
July 31, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 43.3 MBJacob Taylor Mosquera is a Colombian adoptee who taught himself Spanish in two years and now teaches Spanish in Seattle. He is the author of, “I Met Myself In October: A Memoir of Belonging.” He shares his extraordinary journey of discovery, self-actualization and identity. This is going to be a good one! GUEST:: Jacob Taylor Mosquera https://www.imetmyselfmemoir.com/ Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Sho...
Ep. Jacob Taylor Mosquera: I Met Myself In October: A Memoir of Belonging
July 31, 2021 06:00 - 59 minutes - 41.2 MBJacob Taylor Mosquera is a Colombian adoptee who taught himself Spanish in two years and now teaches Spanish in Seattle. He is the author of, “I Met Myself In October: A Memoir of Belonging.” He shares his extraordinary journey of discovery, self-actualization and identity. This is going to be a good one! GUEST:: Jacob Taylor Mosquera https://www.imetmyselfmemoir.com/ Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST! @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com DONATE TO THE SHOW: https://k...
Ep. 38 Astrid Castro: The Adoptee Mosaic
July 24, 2021 06:00 - 50 minutes - 34.8 MBOur guest today is Astrid Castro. You’ve heard me talk about how much I love the phrase “The Adoptee Constellation” before, and I first heard it from her. Astrid’s works in both the private and public sectors of various adoption organizations such the Oregon Post Adoption Resource Center (ORPARC), Holt International, Rocky Mountain Adoption Exchange to name just a few. She is the creator of The Adoption Mosaic which is a platform for compassionate, informed education, training and resources ...
Ep. 38 Astrid Castro: The Adoptee Mosaic
July 24, 2021 06:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBOur guest today is Astrid Castro. You’ve heard me talk about how much I love the phrase “The Adoptee Constellation” before, and I first heard it from her. Astrid’s works in both the private and public sectors of various adoption organizations such the Oregon Post Adoption Resource Center (ORPARC), Holt International, Rocky Mountain Adoption Exchange to name just a few. She is the creator of The Adoption Mosaic which is a platform for compassionate, informed education, training and resources ...
Ep. 37 Moses Farrow: #TRUTHISLOUDER
July 17, 2021 06:00 - 39 minutes - 26.9 MBToday’s guest has one of the gentlest spirits I’ve ever encountered. Moses Farrow is a very active activists and a long time family therapist. In this conversation he gives some actionable steps to come back to yourself and begin the work to reconnecting with who you are. Moses Farrow is an advocate for mental health, adoption reform and suicide prevention. GUEST:: Moses Farrow #truthislouder https://mosesfarrow.com/about-1 Website https://mosesfarrow.com/ Support the show CONNECT WITH ...
Ep. 36 The Co-Founders of The Adoptee Collective
July 10, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 43.6 MBThe co-founder and executive director of The Adoptee Collective reached out to me about a possible collaboration. She and I instantly hit it off. Heather Enright is not an adoptee but has an in-depth perspective having worked as a social worker for 19 years. After watching my panel series she had the intuitive ping to leave her current job and start a journey as an advocacy for adoptee . The first thing she said to me was, “I wait to be invited to the table, I don’t expect a seat.” My mind ...
Ep. 34 Isaac Etter: Ethical Adoption
July 03, 2021 21:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBThis conversation is incredibly important if you have a child of another race, if your family is of another race, or if you live on this planet. You will walk away more informed. My guest Issac Etter is an incredible educator, consultant, speaker, activist and social entrepreneur. He’s the co-founder of SafeHouse Lancaster, where he is the co-executive director. Isaac also serves on the board of directors for The Keystone Business Alliance. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoines @youngad...
Ep. 35 Isaac Etter: Ethical Adoption
July 03, 2021 21:00 - 58 minutes - 40.2 MBThis conversation is incredibly important if you have a child of another race, if your family is of another race, or if you live on this planet. You will walk away more informed. My guest Issac Etter is an incredible educator, consultant, speaker, activist and social entrepreneur. He’s the co-founder of SafeHouse Lancaster, where he is the co-executive director. Isaac also serves on the board of directors for The Keystone Business Alliance. Heather Enright : Isaac Etter https://isaacetter...
Ep. 34 Solo: Perfectionism
June 26, 2021 17:00 - 11 minutes - 7.67 MBThis week is a solo episode to share some actionable steps to unlearn perfectionism. This is something that I am constantly working on and have finally gained some ground on through meditation and thought work. I've included some links to people who've helped me along the way. REFERENCES: Joe Dispenza: https://youtu.be/oFB6KDftGPY Victory Albino: https://victoriaalbina.com/ Expanded Podcast: Episode on Perfectionism https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast/2021/152 Support the show CO...
Ep. 34 Solo: Perfectionism
June 26, 2021 17:00 - 9 minutes - 6.85 MBThis week is a solo episode to share some actionable steps to unlearn perfectionism. This is something that I am constantly working on and have finally gained some ground on through meditation and thought work. I've included some links to people who've helped me along the way. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoines @youngadoptee DONATE TO THE SHOW: https://ko-fi.com/whentheywereyoung Joe Dispenza: https://youtu.be/oFB6KDftGPY Victory Albino: https://victoriaalbina.com/ Expanded Podcas...
Ep. 33 Amy Geller: Inspiring Authenticity & Empowering Freedom
June 19, 2021 17:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBToday’s episode takes a deep dive into my perfectionism, boundaries and people pleasing. I did not intend for it to play out that way, but when I met Amy Geller, today’s guest, I was disarmed. She has a magical--Jedi way of getting down to the root of the issue in a matter of minutes—I could have spoken with her for hours. I can see why she is so successful in her work helping clients through depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, loss and adoption. Amy is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Pro...
Ep. 32 Dr. Charmaine Borda & Dr Juliana Olson Deans: Sisterhood In Times of Grief
June 12, 2021 12:00 - 1 hour - 47.5 MBI lost my grandmother, and my aunt Juliana lost her mother about a month ago. We asked Dr. Charmaine Borda to interview myself and my biological aunt, Dr Juliana Olson- Deans, because Charmaine is a close friend of Juliana’s and I have loved getting to know her this last year. Both of these women are adoptees who work as clinical psychologists in the world— they have a beautifully 3 dimension view of the trauma, truth and the healing that encases adoption. I’m deeply grateful that they hav...