When They Were Young: Amplifying Voices of Adoptees
93 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago -What happens when the adoptee is centered as the hero in their own story? These are whole-hearted conversations on how we can create a thriving, healing, community and impactful relationships the centerpiece of our lives. This is for the adoptee, parents, and the adoption-curious.
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Ep. 31 Solo chat: Let Me Tell You How I'm Doing
June 05, 2021 19:00 - 9 minutes - 6.86 MBI just wanted to check in with you on all the things happening in my life, and give you some tricks to overcome even the deepest sorrow. It's summer time in Chicago and I churn this heat into opportunity, here's how! Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS: Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children) Black Hair Care Guide to Transracial Adoption ...
Ep. 30 Obakeng Beddny: A voice from Botswana
May 29, 2021 06:00 - 59 minutes - 40.5 MBToday’s interview is a testament a perseverance. I connected with Obakeng Beddny three times because of technical difficulties. Obakeng is a natural orator who will spur you to stand up, no matter what your beliefs may be, and invite you to recognize the love that already resides in you. He is such a brilliant mind and radiant force in this world. GUEST: Obakeng Beddny @Obakengbeddny Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS:...
Ep.29 (Part 2) Jamie-Lyn Richartz: My Mother Is My Best Friend
May 22, 2021 19:00 - 52 minutes - 36.1 MBThis episode Jamie-Lyn Richartz returns to chat with me about how she felt the convo with her mother went. See episode 28 for part 2. We are modeling how to have a conversation about adoption with a loved one. You’d think that it was easy, but let me tell you—I have friends who’ve never talked to their husbands or adoptive families about their adoption. Again, I’m not saying that you need to talk about adoption all the time, or ever-- for that matter. I am simply examining why aren’t we ...
Ep.29 (Part 2) Jamie-Lyn Richartz: My Mother Is My Best Friend
May 22, 2021 19:00 - 49 minutes - 33.7 MBLast season for five episodes we listened to adoptees having a dialogue specifically about adoption with an adoptive family member. Starting with episode 14 of season 1, with Lionel and his dad. We explored conversations with Juliana and her husband, and Schai and her brothers, and Laurie and her parents. We are modeling how to have a conversation about adoption with a loved one. You’d think that it was easy, but let me tell you—I have friends who’ve never talked to their husbands or adoptiv...
Ep. 28 Jamie-Lyn Richartz: Adoptee Interview! Mother and Daughter
May 15, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 52 MBLast season for five episodes we listened to adoptees having a dialogue specifically about adoption with an adoptive family member. Starting with episode 14 of season 1, with Lionel and his dad. We explored conversations with Juliana and her husband, and Schai and her brothers, and Laurie and her parents. We are modeling how to have a conversation about adoption with a loved one. You’d think that it was easy, but let me tell you—I have friends who’ve never talked to their husbands or adoptiv...
Ep. 28 (Part 1) Jamie-Lyn Richartz: Adoptee Interview! Mother and Daughter
May 15, 2021 06:00 - 1 hour - 53.3 MBWe are modeling how to have a conversation about adoption with a loved one. You’d think that it was easy, but let me tell you—I have friends who’ve never talked to their husbands or adoptive families about their adoption. Again, I’m not saying that you need to talk about adoption all the time, or ever-- for that matter. I am simply examining why aren’t we talking about? Is it because of fear? This episode Jamie-Lyn Richartz has a lovely conversation with her adoptive mother, Denise. This...
Ep. 27 Solo for Mother's Day Weekend
May 08, 2021 06:00 - 12 minutes - 8.61 MBI share what I do while in self-preservation mode, and how I get back into a space where I can feel the full spectrum of my emotions--without it consuming me. And of course, we talk about mothers and what that means to me as an adoptee this Mother's Day weekend. Material: Poem by William Butler Yeats "Heaven's Embroidered Cloths" Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOO...
Ep. 26 Kevin Barhydt: The author of the book "Dear Stephen Michael's Mother"
May 01, 2021 06:00 - 46 minutes - 32.2 MBMy guest, Kevin Barhydt is the author of “Dear Stephen Micheal’s Mother” and the host of an educative youtube channel. His wisdom is astounding. The depth of his vulnerability and authenticity truly inspired me. Kevin shares how he pivoted out of fear into faith by building a foundation of courage. ** Please note that this episode mentions sexual assault, abuse, and addiction but doesn't go into detail. GUEST: Kevin Barhydt https://www.kevinbarhydt.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCp...
Ep. 25 Nicole Koharik: The Adoptee In Me Blog
April 24, 2021 06:00 - 25 minutes - 17.4 MBToday’s guest has a blog called The Adoptee In Me. She speaks so beautifully about her connection to her son and father. Like me, she came from a single parent household. It’s rare that we have adoptees raised by just a father. Lionel in season one episode 14 is the only other adoptee I know. She and I connected instantly over the topics of family, worthiness and belonging. GUEST: Nicole Koharik https://theadopteeinme.com/ https://www.adoptionnetwork.org/ Support the show CONNECT WITH HOS...
Season 2 Trailer! April Launch!
April 01, 2021 16:00 - 1 minute - 1.32 MBWe will be back this month! I have been on hiatus but preparing to go live with some exciting new conversations. Thank you for your continued support. Thanks for writing an itunes review :) Missed you! Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS: Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children) Black Hair Care Guide to Transracial Adoption ADOPTEE CONVERS...
Ep. 23 Happy Glorious New Year To You!
January 02, 2021 18:00 - 10 minutes - 7.5 MBHey loves! This week I just want to give you three books that have helped me create more than I ever have before this past year. Even though the sky was falling outside I continued to flourish in my artistic life. I want to share with you ways you can set, accomplish and hold fast to anything you set out to do. This is going to be a triumphant year! Let's fly! REFERENCES: Podcast "Don't Keep Your Day Job" with Cathy Heller https://www.dontkeepyourdayjob.com/ “Co-dependent No More" by Melo...
Ep. 22 (Part 2) Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans: "I'm proud of my hubby"
December 26, 2020 17:00 - 42 minutes - 29.5 MBMerry Holidays! We check in with Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans to see how she feels last week's convo with her husband went. She's been married for 20 years! I had to find out her advice on enduring partnerships and figure out what it was like for her dating as an adoptee. Whether we know it or not our adoption impacts every relationship. It's up to you as to whether that impact is good or bad. GUEST: Dr Juliana Olson Deans @_dr_juliana_Deans REFERENCES: Esther Perel: https://www.estherperel.co...
Ep. 21 (Part 1) Dr Juliana Olson-Deans: Adoptee Interview! Wife talks to Husband
December 19, 2020 13:00 - 37 minutes - 25.8 MBDr. Juliana Olson Deans is back! She is a licensed professional counselor, mental health counselor, and national certified counselor who imparted great wisdom in episode 5 and co-founded the Interracial Adoptee Panel series with me this past summer. Juliana is here with her husband Derek. As I said before, these familial chats are the most challenging conversations to have yet these conversations can change a life. I personally have experienced that. It’s all in pursuit of stronger relatio...
Ep. 20 Christine Heimann: The Adoptee Bridge
December 12, 2020 12:00 - 30 minutes - 21 MBToday I chat with Christine Heimann who is the co-founder and executive director of Adoptee Bridge where they offer education, mentorships and support for international adoptees and their families from any age. GUEST: Christine Heimann Organization "Adoptee Bridge": https://www.adopteebridge.org/ Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS: Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equip...
Ep. 19 Marissa Lichwick: The French Film, "He Even Has Your Eyes"
December 05, 2020 13:00 - 51 minutes - 35.2 MBI want to highlight one of my favorite films, the light hearted comedic French film “He even has your eyes” available on Netflix. It’s about a Congolese couple who want to adopt and end up with a Caucasian blue eyed baby. If you were shocked by that image, that's exactly why they made the film to address the double standards and prejudices in interracial adoption. The way they highlight the social workers and family responses is hilarious, but true. Marissa Lichwick is an actress and filmmak...
Ep. 18 (Part 2) Schai Belair Toussaint Schairer: Adoptee Interview! "My Brothers With Good Souls"
November 28, 2020 13:00 - 45 minutes - 31.3 MBPart of the Adoptive parent conversation series! We are back withe Schai who graced us in episode 4 with her poetry. This is the conclusion of Schai’s conversation with her brothers Manny and Jaccen. They go in about their own individual adoption journeys and give us some advice on how we can do adoption better. At the very end I check in with Schai to see how she thought the interview went, so stay tuned for that. This trio is incredibly inspiring! I love how they support and uplift one ...
Ep. 17 (Part 1) Schai Belair Toussiant Schairer: Adoptee Interview! Two Brothers One Family
November 21, 2020 13:00 - 46 minutes - 31.9 MBPart of Adoptive parent conversation series! We are back with sister soldier Schai, who interviews her two brothers; one is biological and the other is adopted. She leads them through a conversation on how she met her twin in adulthood, how they think adoption could be improved and what it means to have them all get along within this complicated familial web. What a beautiful model of a whole hearted conversation. GUEST: Schai Belair-Toussaint Schairer www.fistdc.org Support the show ...
Ep. 16 Laurie Nordahl: Adoptee Interview! An illuminating chat with her White Parents
November 14, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 55.7 MBPart of Adoptive parent conversation series! Interracial Adoptee Panelist, Laurie Nordahl chats with her parents about how the family received her when they brought her home from Colombia, ethics behind adoption and the importance of consent when someone needs space to process their feelings. I gave Laurie core questions and she created her own powerful conversations that surprised even her. Such incredible work! GUEST: Laurie Nordahl Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadopte...
Ep. 15 (Part 2) Lionel Boisvert: Adoptee Interview! A White Father & Black Son Discuss Adoption
November 07, 2020 13:00 - 51 minutes - 35.6 MBThis is the conclusion of a conversation with Richard and Lionel Boisvert tackles the efficacy of adoption support groups and how one prepares a black child for the black community and the police. At the very end, I check-in with Lionel to see how it went for him. Lionel Boivert is a Haitian adoptee who came from the same orphanage as me, "Haiti Home For Children." We might have even been at the orphanage the same time but officially met this year when he spoke on the Interracial Adoptee P...
Ep. 15 (Part 2) Lionel Boisvert: Adoptee Interview! A White Father & Black Son Discuss Adoption
November 07, 2020 13:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBPart of Adoptive parent conversation series! This is the conclusion of a conversation with Richard and Lionel Boisvert tackles the efficacy of adoption support groups and how one prepares a black child for the black community and the police. At the very end, I check-in with Lionel to see how it went for him. Lionel Boivert is a Haitian adoptee who came from the same orphanage as me, "Haiti Home For Children." We might have even been at the orphanage the same time but officially met this ...
Ep. 14 (Part 1) Lionel Boisvert: Adoptee Interview! A White Father & Black Son Discuss Adoption
October 31, 2020 16:00 - 57 minutes - 39.6 MBAt last we have adoptee interviews with their own parents. In observance of November being National Adoption Month, I've coordinating one on one conversations between adoptees and their parents. Adoption is rarely spoken about in the home, why is it that? There is so much unresolved pain in the single word "adoption." I'm here to show you that these conversations are possible. Here are some examples of questions you can ask on your path to deeper healing and understanding; that we might be a...
Ep. 14 (Part 1) Lionel Boisvert: Adoptee Interview! A White Father & Black Son Discuss Adoption
October 31, 2020 16:00 - 59 minutes - 41.2 MBPart of Adoptive parent conversation series! In this compelling conversation a white father and black son discuss growing up in South Carolina in an all white community, their support systems and what prompted the father to adopt as a single parent. GUEST: Lionel Boisvert (Adoptee) & Richard Boisvert (Father) Support the show CONNECT WITH HOST: @youngadoptee @lantoines www.laniseantoineshelley.com SPONSORSHIPS: BetterHelp Show Link HERE! DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS: Isaac Etter's ...
Ep. 13 Indigo Ciochetti: My Grandfather Would Have Shot Me
October 24, 2020 13:00 - 31 minutes - 21.6 MBThis week performer and artist Indigo Ciochetti and I chat about the book My Grandfather Would Have Shot Me by German adoptee, Jennifer Teege. Teege discovers that she has an ancestral connection to the Nazi’s, most specifically Amon Goeth, an infamous commander of a concentration camp featured in Schindler's List. She, of course, is distraught by this revelation considering that she is a half black half white German adoptee who'd spent time studying in Israel. At the outset she has jus...
Ep. 12 Indigo Ciochetti: My Grandfather Would Have Shot Me
October 24, 2020 13:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBThis week performer and artist Indigo Ciochetti and I chat about the book My Grandfather Would Have Shot Me by German adoptee, Jennifer Teege. Teege discovers that she has an ancestral connection to the Nazi’s, most specifically Amon Goeth, an infamous commander of a concentration camp featured in Schindler's List. She, of course, is distraught by this revelation considering that she is a half black half white German adoptee who'd spent time studying in Israel. At the outset she has jus...
Ep. 12 Lanise Antoine Shelley: Bornday Reflections
October 17, 2020 13:00 - 13 minutes - 9.14 MBThis week I give reflections of my journey into the adoption community. October 17th is my birthday, so I am celebrating it in different ways. Many adoptees (including myself) find it hard to truly celebrate themselves, birthdays and holidays. These things can trigger scarcity and shame. I'd like to invite you to celebrate your worthy existence. If you take note of the bad, why not celebrate the small and large triumphs of the everyday. There are many aspects of my life that are not ideal at...
Ep. 11 Kim Noonan: "Multiracial White Boy" Podcast
October 10, 2020 13:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MBKim Noonan is a filmmaker and the host of the podcast "Multi-Racial White Boy." Kim and I talk about the idea of “whiteness” which is pervasive in the interracial adoptee community. Some adoptees grow up wanting to “be white” in order to fit in. I was lucky enough to have black role models in the dance world who encouraged me to love my skin. James Baldwin wrote an exquisite short essay called “White…and other lies,” which I've included in show notes below. As participants in this community ...
Ep. 11 Kim Noonan: "Multiracial White Boy" Podcast
October 10, 2020 13:00 - 43 minutes - 29.8 MBKim Noonan is a filmmaker and the host of the podcast "Multi-Racial White Boy." Kim and I talk about the idea of “whiteness” which is pervasive in the interracial adoptee community. Some adoptees grow up wanting to “be white” in order to fit in. I was lucky enough to have black role models in the dance world who encouraged me to love my skin. James Baldwin wrote an exquisite short essay called “White…and other lies,” which I've included in show notes below. As participants in this community ...
Amanda Transue-Woolston: The Lost Daughters
October 03, 2020 13:00 - 37 minutes - 26 MBWarning! This episode mentions sexual violence. This episode unpacks the healing powers of the blog "The Lost Daughters." Amanda created the blog, whose group of adoptee contributors is ever growing, to propagate her mission of empowerment and peace. I found the blog on facebook and submitted a piece on racism. Amanda is a licensed master social worker, a therapist, an author, a speaker, podcast host and teacher. She is also the co-founder and co-owner of Roots Incorporated. This conversati...
Ep. 10 Amanda Transue-Woolston: The Lost Daughters
October 03, 2020 13:00 - 40 minutes - 28.2 MBWarning! This episode mentions sexual violence. This episode unpacks the healing powers of the blog "The Lost Daughters." Amanda created the blog, whose group of adoptee contributors is ever growing, to propagate her mission of empowerment and peace. I found the blog on facebook and submitted a piece on racism. Amanda is a licensed master social worker, a therapist, an author, a speaker, podcast host and teacher. She is also the co-founder and co-owner of Roots Incorporated. This conversati...
Ep. 9 Brigit Wilson: Orphans in Shakespeare and Other Classics
September 26, 2020 13:00 - 52 minutes - 36.2 MBThis week I spend time with my dear friend, Canadian actress Brigit Wilson. She and I played witches in stratford Shakespeare Festival's 2016 production of Macbeth. This week we examine the definition of "orphan" and how it has been depicted throughout our favorite plays in Shakespeare and stories like Anne of Green Gables. Brigit graced the boards of stratford for 14 years in acclaimed roles in As You Like It, The Alchemist, King John, Pericles, Peter Pan and many others. One day in rehears...
Ep.8 William Uhrlaub: From Prodigal Son to Master of His Culture
September 19, 2020 13:00 - 42 minutes - 29.5 MBI sit down with William Uhrlaub, a Haitian adoptee who has taught himself Creole after reunifying with his biological family. He was a panelist on the Interracial Adoptee Panel Series: Biological Family where he shared his reunification story and how he managed to assimilate into Haitian culture. William encapsulates the power of finding your "people" and merging your life with a culture you thought you had lost. He found it, ya'll! Let this inspire you to do the same. GUEST: William Uhrla...
Ep.7 Dr. Charmaine Borda: The importance of self-care for doctors
September 12, 2020 12:00 - 43 minutes - 30.2 MBDr Borda, PHD, LMFT, LMHC, ACC, CHT joined us as an expert for the third panel: Myth Busters. She returns to give us an in-depth view of her work in the adoption realm, combating “compassion fatigue” for doctors, the re-traumatizing nature of “re-homing” children who’ve been adopted into the wrong family and grief counseling for parents who’ve struggled having a child biologically. Dr. Borda founded The Wellness Project, Inc for practitioners suffering from exhaustion fatigue to increase the...
Ep. 7 Dr. Charmain Borda: The importance of self-care for doctors
September 12, 2020 12:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBDr Borda, PHD, LMFT, LMHC, ACC, CHT joined us as an expert for the third panel: Myth Busters. She returns to give us an in-depth view of her work in the adoption realm, combating “compassion fatigue” for doctors, the re-traumatizing nature of “re-homing” children who’ve been adopted into the wrong family and grief counseling for parents who’ve struggled having a child biologically. Dr. Borda founded The Wellness Project, Inc for practitioners suffering from exhaustion fatigue to increase the...
Ep.7 Dr. Charmain Borda: The importance of self-care for doctors
September 12, 2020 12:00 - 40 minutes - 27.9 MBDr Borda, PHD, LMFT, LMHC, ACC, CHT joined us as an expert for the third panel: Myth Busters. She returns to give us an in-depth view of her work in the adoption realm, combating “compassion fatigue” for doctors, the re-traumatizing nature of “re-homing” children who’ve been adopted into the wrong family and grief counseling for parents who’ve struggled having a child biologically. Dr. Borda founded The Wellness Project, Inc for practitioners suffering from exhaustion fatigue to increase the...
Ep. 6 Melissa Guida-Richards: Unpacking Abby Johnson's comments
September 05, 2020 12:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MBI reached out to Melissa who is actively on the front lines of educating people in the adoption community. We discuss the harmful language Abby Johnson uses to describe her own adopted son in the infamous youtube video. There are misconceptions about the black community that she perpetuates with alarming conviction. Melissa is a formidable essayist, mother, blogger, author (THE WHITE SAVIOR MENTALITY will be out in Fall 2021) and podcast host. GUEST: Melissa Guida-Richards guida-richard...
Ep. 5 Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans: Enneagram Challenge
August 29, 2020 12:00 - 36 minutes - 25.1 MBThis week I reach out to my biological aunt Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans who is a fellow adoptee as well as an adoption therapist. We discuss the 9 character types of the enneagram and how we're using the information to navigate our budding relationship. You may recognize Dr. Deans from the Interracial Adoptee Panel series, where she was co-host. I was first introduced to the Enneagram by Dr. Barbara Rila's podcast on Trauma and adoption. This episode distills how important it is to process one's...
Ep.4 Schai Belair-Toussaint Schairer: Diabolically Haitian
August 22, 2020 13:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MBThis week I discuss the exquisite poetry of Schai Belair-Toussaint Schairer, a fellow sister in adoption, spoken word poet and founder of F.I.S.T. (Fighting Injustice Standing Together) a non-profit organization working to empower incarcerated women through writing. Schai was a panelist on three of the four International Adoptee Panels sponsored by USFCH. She and I unpack her motivation for writing and confront our own privilege, resilience and Haitian pride. GUEST: Schai Belair-Toussaint S...
Ep. 3 The Women Who Raised Me
August 15, 2020 12:00 - 47 minutes - 32.4 MBI have the rare opportunity to interview my mother, Karla Shelley-Albert and my godmother Heidi Husted-Armstrong. It’s an incredibly unique thing for an adoptee to interview their parental figures, most parents refuse, but mine were eager to support me in this endeavor. They, like myself are committed to educating the adoption community, which means getting vulnerable and embracing all perspectives. Throughout this podcast series you will hear more conversations with adoptees and parents a...
Ep.3 The Women Who Raised Me
August 15, 2020 12:00 - 50 minutes - 34.9 MBI have the rare opportunity to interview my mother, Karla Shelley-Albert and my godmother Heidi Husted-Armstrong. It’s an incredibly unique thing for an adoptee to interview their parental figures, most parents refuse, but mine were eager to support me in this endeavor. They, like myself are committed to educating the adoption community, which means getting vulnerable and embracing all perspectives. Throughout this podcast series you will hear more conversations with adoptees and parents a...
Ep.2 Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part 2)
August 08, 2020 13:00 - 47 minutes - 32.7 MBI continue my conversation with The president and CEO of Fondation pour les Enfants d’Haiti, Gladys Thomas. Gladys addresses why she stopped facilitating adoptions, how she introduced her adopted son to his family and what adoptees should do under the pressure of supporting their biological family once they grow up. She is the recipient of recipient of its 2013 William Jefferson Clinton and Goodwill for Haiti Award. GUEST: Gladys Thomas http://www.usfch.org/ Watch panels: https://www.fac...
ep.2 Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part 2)
August 08, 2020 13:00 - 43 minutes - 30.1 MBI continue my conversation with The president and CEO of Fondation pour les Enfants d’Haiti, Gladys Thomas. Gladys addresses why she stopped facilitating adoptions, how she introduced her adopted son to his family and what adoptees should do under the pressure of supporting their biological family once they grow up. She is the recipient of recipient of its 2013 William Jefferson Clinton and Goodwill for Haiti Award. Links: http://www.usfch.org/ www.laniseantoineshelley.com : Instagram...
Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part 1)
July 28, 2020 16:00 - 29 minutes - 20.2 MBEpisode 1. Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part. 1) The president and CEO of Fondation Pour Les Enfants d'Haiti (sister organization to US Foundation for the Children of Haiti) the organization helming the orphanage I came from, once called Haiti Home for Children and later was known as Rainbow of Love Nursery. Gladys is one of the most powerful voices in adoption. She is an adoptive mother herself, administrator, leader, nurse, woman of faith and visionary. She has spent 39 years at the hel...
Ep.1 Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part 1)
July 28, 2020 16:00 - 33 minutes - 22.7 MBEpisode 1. Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part. 1) The president and CEO of Fondation Pour Les Enfants d'Haiti (sister organization to US Foundation for the Children of Haiti) the organization helming the orphanage I came from, once called Haiti Home for Children and later was known as Rainbow of Love Nursery. Gladys is one of the most powerful voices in adoption. She is an adoptive mother herself, administrator, leader, nurse, woman of faith and visionary. She has spent 39 years at the hel...