Therapist Uncensored Podcast
519 episodes - English - Latest episode: 2 days ago - ★★★★★ - 1.3K ratingsLearn to use the sciences of the mind to help you understand what makes you emotionally tick. Two Austin therapists and their world-recognized guest experts break down the research in modern attachment, relational neuroscience and trauma in a challenging but entertaining format to keep you off autopilot and moving towards closer connections. www.therapistuncensored.com
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Managing Unconscious Defense & Fear, with Ann Kelley PhD and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP
November 02, 2021 02:00 - 43 minutes - 30 MBCatch up with hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott while they discuss the difference between cognitive understanding of modern attachment and regulation and the bottom-up experience of it. We distort information coming in - either by not registering interpersonal information or by over-interpreting the importance of an exchange (up-regulating with fear). This is an unconscious process that to undo we have to have the courage and the resources to feel the feelings that cause us to defend. They ...
TU 160: Disorganized Attachment, It’s Not Crazy; It’s a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem –- REPLAY
October 26, 2021 08:15 - 38 minutes - 26.8 MBThe is the third and final episode of our three-part series on attachment where Ann and Sue take a deep dive into the fourth category on what we call the basic attachment spectrum: disorganized attachment. No matter your trauma history, this category relates to everyone and can be applicable in many areas of life. Follow along to see how disorganized attachment appears and affects adolescent and adult life, and ways to help conquer this disconnection and form healthier, more secure relationsh...
Disorganized Attachment, It’s Not Crazy; It’s a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem –- REPLAY (160)
October 26, 2021 08:15 - 38 minutes - 34.8 MBThe is the third and final episode of our three-part series on attachment where Ann and Sue take a deep dive into the fourth category on what we call the basic attachment spectrum: disorganized attachment. No matter your trauma history, this category relates to everyone and can be applicable in many areas of life. Follow along to see how disorganized attachment appears and affects adolescent and adult life, and ways to help conquer this disconnection and form healthier, more secure r...
TU 159: Preoccupation in Relationships – Signs and Solutions to Anxious Attachment – REPLAY
October 11, 2021 15:29 - 36 minutes - 24.8 MBThis is the second of three episodes on the basics of modern attachment and the attachment-regulation spectrum. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott break down the red side of the attachment spectrum, anxious attachment. Find more at www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes
Preoccupation in Relationships – Signs and Solutions to Anxious Attachment – REPLAY (159)
October 11, 2021 15:29 - 36 minutes - 33.1 MBThis is the second of three episodes on the basics of modern attachment and the attachment-regulation spectrum. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott break down the red side of the attachment spectrum, anxious attachment. Find more at www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Are You Cool, or Just Cut Off? Dismissing/Avoidant Styles of Relating in Adulthood – REPLAY (158)
October 05, 2021 06:25 - 36 minutes - 33.2 MBThis is the first in a loosely organized 3 episode series on the basics of modern attachment. New season starts Nov 1. You may think you are calm cool and collected, but ask around. :) This episode pairs with the next 2 in discussing attachment patterns in adulthood and are the core content from which we will pick up again Season 6. We keep learning a lot and updating our model so tune in and see where we go with it over time, okay? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privac...
TU158: Are You Cool, or Just Cut Off? Dismissing/Avoidant Styles of Relating in Adulthood – REPLAY
October 05, 2021 06:25 - 36 minutes - 25 MBThis is the first in a loosely organized 3 episode series on the basics of modern attachment. New season starts Nov 1. You may think you are calm cool and collected, but ask around. :) This episode pairs with the next 2 in discussing attachment patterns in adulthood and are the core content from which we will pick up again Season 6. We keep learning a lot and updating our model so tune in and see where we go with it over time, okay?
Treating Complex Trauma and Attachment with Guest Dr. Daniel Brown REPLAY (157)
September 24, 2021 17:59 - 50 minutes - 46 MBThis episode replay is packed with cool content which is why we wanted to share it again! Learn about complex trauma, debunk myths of false memories from an expert witness for the prosecutors of child sexual abuse, and revisit the 3 Pillars Model of effective treatment for attachment disturbances, Dr. Daniel Brown! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU157: Treating Complex Trauma and Attachment with Guest Dr. Daniel Brown REPLAY
September 24, 2021 17:59 - 51 minutes - 35.1 MBThis episode replay is packed with cool content which is why we wanted to share it again! Learn about complex trauma, debunk myths of false memories from an expert witness for the prosecutors of child sexual abuse, and revisit the 3 Pillars Model of effective treatment for attachment disturbances, Dr. Daniel Brown!
What Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams – Replay (156)
September 15, 2021 21:37 - 44 minutes - 41 MBIt’s hard to verbalize the problem with “evidence-based” models of care, but renowned psychoanalyst and psychologist Nancy McWilliams does just that. In today's replay, she further describes what happens in quality depth-oriented therapies such as psychoanalytically-informed, attachment-oriented therapy, and integrates the neurobiological aspect that Freud started that has now been confirmed. Enjoy this episode replay, because it still has so much wisdom to share. See Privacy Policy...
TU156: What Actually Heals in Therapy with Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams – Replay
September 15, 2021 21:37 - 45 minutes - 31.4 MBIt’s hard to verbalize the problem with “evidence-based” models of care, but renowned psychoanalyst and psychologist Nancy McWilliams does just that. In today's replay, she further describes what happens in quality depth-oriented therapies such as psychoanalytically-informed, attachment-oriented therapy, and integrates the neurobiological aspect that Freud started that has now been confirmed. Enjoy this episode replay, because it still has so much wisdom to share.
Speakably Sexy – Communicating to Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More Alive with Dr. Susan Ansorge REPLAY (155)
August 31, 2021 16:22 - 38 minutes - 35.1 MBIn this episode Therapist Uncensored co-host Dr. Ann Kelley joins guest Dr. Susan Ansorge to talk about was to communicate about sex. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU155: Speakably Sexy – Communicating to Make Sex Hotter and Relationships More Alive with Dr. Susan Ansorge REPLAY
August 31, 2021 16:22 - 39 minutes - 27 MBIn this episode Therapist Uncensored co-host Dr. Ann Kelley joins guest Dr. Susan Ansorge to talk about was to communicate about sex.
Conquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling, with Guest Expert Dr. Steve Finn – REPLAY (154)
August 25, 2021 17:56 - 59 minutes - 54.4 MBUnpack the neuroscience of shame with Dr. Stephen Finn and co-hosts, Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP. It is probably one of your least favorite feelings, but it contains important interpersonal information for us and is a good one to deep-dive around. This is a replay from the archives, but is highly relevant today as nobody is feeling very good about themselves right now. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/pr...
TU154: Conquer Shame by Understanding the Science Behind the Feeling, with Guest Expert Dr. Steve Finn – REPLAY
August 25, 2021 17:56 - 1 hour - 41.4 MBUnpack the neuroscience of shame with Dr. Stephen Finn and co-hosts, Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP. It is probably one of your least favorite feelings, but it contains important interpersonal information for us and is a good one to deep-dive around. This is a replay from the archives, but is highly relevant today as nobody is feeling very good about themselves right now.
How Good Boundaries Bring Us Closer – REPLAY – with Juliane Taylor Shore (153)
August 18, 2021 21:34 - 51 minutes - 47 MBInterpersonal co-regulation requires boundary-setting. Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott join the founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin, Dr. Juliane Taylor Shore, in a discussion on interpersonal neurobiology and regulation. We’ll explore the three types of boundaries, how to co-create them plus how to stay regulated using internalized relationships with the self. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19...
TU153: How Good Boundaries Bring Us Closer – REPLAY – with Juliane Taylor Shore
August 18, 2021 21:34 - 52 minutes - 35.9 MBInterpersonal co-regulation requires boundary-setting. Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott join the founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin, Dr. Juliane Taylor Shore, in a discussion on interpersonal neurobiology and regulation. We’ll explore the three types of boundaries, how to co-create them plus how to stay regulated using internalized relationships with the self.
Helping the Intense Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach REPLAY (152)
August 08, 2021 19:24 - 55 minutes - 51.1 MBIn this episode replay, we’ll go over where many parents go wrong, what we can do instead, and how shifts in our strategies can revolutionize our households. Learn the strategies of the Nurtured Heart Approach with expert guest, Elizabeth Sylvester. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU152 – Helping the Intense Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach REPLAY
August 08, 2021 19:24 - 56 minutes - 38.9 MBIn this episode replay, we’ll go over where many parents go wrong, what we can do instead, and how shifts in our strategies can revolutionize our households. Learn the strategies of the Nurtured Heart Approach with expert guest, Elizabeth Sylvester.
Secure Parenting While Under Stress with Dan Siegel & Tina Payne-Bryson REPLAY (151)
August 04, 2021 00:55 - 1 hour - 71.1 MBLearn the cheat code to parenting in a pandemic with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson as they break down the science behind attachment and showing up. This is literally from the father of interpersonal neurobiology and his colleague as they apply the actual science to managing massive uncertainty and unprecedented stress. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU151: Secure Parenting While Under Stress with Dan Siegel & Tina Payne-Bryson REPLAY
August 04, 2021 00:55 - 1 hour - 53.3 MBLearn the cheat code to parenting in a pandemic with Dr. Dan Siegel and Dr. Tina Bryson as they break down the science behind attachment and showing up. This is literally from the father of interpersonal neurobiology and his colleague as they apply the actual science to managing massive uncertainty and unprecedented stress.
TU 150: Ann & Sue’s 150th Episode – Recaps & Recommendations for Growing Security
July 22, 2021 16:41 - 43 minutes - 29.7 MBSue Marriott LCSW CGP and Ann Kelley PhD conclude their fifth season of this podcast. Therapist Uncensored is packed with incredible content and has an archive of episodes developed over the past 5 years with the theme growing security. The expert guest list is an embarrassment of riches. This episode reviews some of the highlights and points you in the right direction based on your interest. Shownotes at therapistuncensored.com/tu150.
Ann & Sue’s 150th Episode – Recaps & Recommendations for Growing Security (150)
July 22, 2021 16:41 - 43 minutes - 39.6 MBSue Marriott LCSW CGP and Ann Kelley PhD conclude their fifth season of this podcast. Therapist Uncensored is packed with incredible content and has an archive of episodes developed over the past 5 years with the theme growing security. The expert guest list is an embarrassment of riches. This episode reviews some of the highlights and points you in the right direction based on your interest. Shownotes at therapistuncensored.com/tu150. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/priva...
Modern Attachment Regulation Spectrum – An Integrated Model of Change (149)
July 08, 2021 05:15 - 44 minutes - 41.1 MBThe Modern Attachment-Regulation Spectrum - a model developed to describe attachment and neuroscience discussed by Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley. They summarize the 5 seasons so far and give a review of what they've learned. If you have ever wanted to understand attachment or keep up to date with the science, this podcast is packed with resources for you to learn and grown. See more at www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California P...
TU 149: Modern Attachment Regulation Spectrum – An Integrated Model of Change
July 08, 2021 05:15 - 44 minutes - 30.8 MBThe Modern Attachment-Regulation Spectrum - a model developed to describe attachment and neuroscience discussed by Sue Marriott & Ann Kelley. They summarize the 5 seasons so far and give a review of what they've learned. If you have ever wanted to understand attachment or keep up to date with the science, this podcast is packed with resources for you to learn and grown. See more at www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes
TU 148: Emotionally Focused Therapy & Attachment with Camille Scent
June 25, 2021 12:45 - 58 minutes - 39.8 MBToday's episode dives into a specific form of healing relationships, Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). Co-host Sue Marriott talks with therapist Camille Scent about Sue Johnson's widely-respected treatment model. EFT is based in attachment science is a powerful tool in transforming even very difficult relationships.
Emotionally Focused Therapy & Attachment with Camille Scent (148)
June 25, 2021 12:45 - 57 minutes - 52.7 MBToday's episode dives into a specific form of healing relationships, Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). Co-host Sue Marriott talks with therapist Camille Scent about Sue Johnson's widely-respected treatment model. EFT is based in attachment science is a powerful tool in transforming even very difficult relationships. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU 147: Body-Focused Therapy with Dr. Robert Coffman
June 01, 2021 07:19 - 1 hour - 50.8 MBBioenergetic therapist Dr. Robert Coffman joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley for a conversation on body-focused therapy. Learn the about the interplay of your nervous system and how that relates to attachment and trauma.
Body-Focused Therapy with Dr. Robert Coffman (147)
June 01, 2021 07:19 - 1 hour - 67 MBBioenergetic therapist Dr. Robert Coffman joins co-host Dr. Ann Kelley for a conversation on body-focused therapy. Learn the about the interplay of your nervous system and how that relates to attachment and trauma. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU 146: Behind the Scenes in Therapy with Lori Gottlieb
May 17, 2021 19:10 - 27 minutes - 18.7 MBLori Gottlieb & Sue Marriott share surprising insights about what therapy delivers and her NYT best-seller "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone." Surprisingly, people go to therapy to unlearn themselves.
Behind the Scenes in Therapy with Lori Gottlieb (146)
May 17, 2021 19:10 - 26 minutes - 24 MBLori Gottlieb & Sue Marriott share surprising insights about what therapy delivers and her NYT best-seller "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone." Surprisingly, people go to therapy to unlearn themselves. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU145: Class, Race, Culture and Attachment, Re-examined
April 27, 2021 00:51 - 44 minutes - 30.6 MBAttachment science is one of the most empirically validated theories of human development and is considered by many to be biologically driven and universal. But how can psychological science developed by educated European scholars in the 50's not unintentionally have some implicit bias? Join us in re-examining our assumptions about healthy child development, maternal sensitivity and attachment "insecurity." It's an overdue awkward and highly imperfect conversation but exactly what we shoul...
Class, Race, Culture and Attachment, Re-examined (145)
April 27, 2021 00:51 - 43 minutes - 40 MBAttachment science is one of the most empirically validated theories of human development and is considered by many to be biologically driven and universal. But how can psychological science developed by educated European scholars in the 50's not unintentionally have some implicit bias? Join us in re-examining our assumptions about healthy child development, maternal sensitivity and attachment "insecurity." It's an overdue awkward and highly imperfect conversation but exactly what...
The Case of Feli, an Awkward Goose (144)
April 12, 2021 15:36 - 14 minutes - 13.2 MBA poignant short story about isolation to connection. There is hope for us all - no matter your attachment history, there is hope for change with relationships. In this episode, Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP shares a specific case about an awkward goose named Felicity as another way of looking at change in attachment. Dan Stern's paper linked and recommended. Find more at www.therapistuncensored.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://a...
TU144: The Case of Feli, an Awkward Goose
April 12, 2021 15:36 - 15 minutes - 10.6 MBA poignant short story about isolation to connection. There is hope for us all - no matter your attachment history, there is hope for change with relationships. In this episode, Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP shares a specific case about an awkward goose named Felicity as another way of looking at change in attachment. Dan Stern's paper linked and recommended. Find more at www.therapistuncensored.com
TU143: Fear of Abandonment and Narcissism, with Dr. Ramani Durvasula
March 30, 2021 21:33 - 49 minutes - 33.7 MBDr. Ramani Durvasula joins us to deepen our series on challenging personalities and to discuss the underpinnings of narcissism as it relates to attachment. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Dr. Durvasula discuss how to identify and navigate these tough relationships. See more at www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes
Fear of Abandonment and Narcissism, with Dr. Ramani Durvasula (143)
March 30, 2021 21:33 - 48 minutes - 44.5 MBDr. Ramani Durvasula joins us to deepen our series on challenging personalities and to discuss the underpinnings of narcissism as it relates to attachment. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Dr. Durvasula discuss how to identify and navigate these tough relationships. See more at www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Trauma-Informed Therapy with Children, with Robyn Gobbel, MSW, RPT-S (142)
March 10, 2021 17:58 - 53 minutes - 48.8 MBLearn more about the science of trauma and what heals. For parents and for therapists treating children and adults - Robyn Gobbel has resources to support you in addressing dysregulation and in applying the neuroscience of attachment. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU142: Trauma-Informed Therapy with Children, with Robyn Gobbel, MSW, RPT-S
March 10, 2021 17:58 - 53 minutes - 36.6 MBLearn more about the science of trauma and what heals. For parents and for therapists treating children and adults - Robyn Gobbel has resources to support you in addressing dysregulation and in applying the neuroscience of attachment.
How We Become the Person’s We Are with Dr. Alan Sroufe, Attachment Through the Lifespan (141)
February 15, 2021 18:22 - 1 hour - 56.1 MBLeading attachment researcher Dr. Alan Sroufe shares personal reflections of his lifetime of studying attachment from infancy to adulthood. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discusses his new book, A Compelling Idea, How We Become the Person's We Are (2020) and the take away's from the 40-year and ongoing Minnesota study. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU141: How We Become the Person’s We Are with Dr. Alan Sroufe, Attachment Through the Lifespan
February 15, 2021 18:22 - 1 hour - 42.7 MBLeading attachment researcher Dr. Alan Sroufe shares personal reflections of his lifetime of studying attachment from infancy to adulthood. Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP discusses his new book, A Compelling Idea, How We Become the Person's We Are (2020) and the take away's from the 40-year and ongoing Minnesota study.
Couples Therapy Through the Eyes of Experts: Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson (140)
February 01, 2021 21:36 - 53 minutes - 49.2 MBEvery couple has its ups and downs, but it's easy to think that our relationship is uniquely challenging. Experts in couples therapy and a couple themselves, Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson join co-host Sue Marriott to discuss what most people get wrong about working with couples, and how to help get it right. Together, they'll dive into the dos and don'ts of couples therapy, from the perspective of the therapist and the patient. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and Ca...
TU140 – Couples Therapy Through the Eyes of Experts: Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson
February 01, 2021 21:36 - 54 minutes - 37.5 MBEvery couple has its ups and downs, but it's easy to think that our relationship is uniquely challenging. Experts in couples therapy and a couple themselves, Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson join co-host Sue Marriott to discuss what most people get wrong about working with couples, and how to help get it right. Together, they'll dive into the dos and don'ts of couples therapy, from the perspective of the therapist and the patient.
Boys and Sex, Modern Young Men and Sexuality with Peggy Orenstein (139)
December 13, 2020 20:14 - 58 minutes - 53.6 MBDive into hook up culture, locker room talk, and the modern shifts in youth sexual behavior and health. Peggy Orenstein unpacks her new book “Boys and Sex” with co-host Ann Kelley. In this peak behind the curtain of the experience of young male sexuality, we’ll see how boys struggle with the conflicting needs of the conquest narrative of sex and their own internal understanding of pleasure. Her book was written about both cis and trans men, and covers the whole spectrum of sexual or...
TU139: Boys and Sex, Modern Young Men and Sexuality with Peggy Orenstein
December 13, 2020 20:14 - 58 minutes - 40.2 MBDive into hook up culture, locker room talk, and the modern shifts in youth sexual behavior and health. Peggy Orenstein unpacks her new book “Boys and Sex” with co-host Ann Kelley. In this peak behind the curtain of the experience of young male sexuality, we’ll see how boys struggle with the conflicting needs of the conquest narrative of sex and their own internal understanding of pleasure. Her book was written about both cis and trans men, and covers the whole spectrum of sexual orientation...
What if it’s You that’s the Difficult One? Holding Your Own Challenging Personality Traits (6 of 6) (138)
December 10, 2020 06:56 - 1 hour - 58.8 MBSo we've been studying how to hold our own with challenging people, but what if you become aware that that difficult person is you? Cringe. Yea, us too, we get it. We summarize and review the series and focus on how to change your life for the better. Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley take you along on some personal examples of being difficult themselves. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
TU138: What if it’s You that’s the Difficult One? Holding Your Own Challenging Personality Traits (6 of 6)
December 10, 2020 06:56 - 1 hour - 44.9 MBSo we've been studying how to hold our own with challenging people, but what if you become aware that that difficult person is you? Cringe. Yea, us too, we get it. We summarize and review the series and focus on how to change your life for the better. Sue Marriott and Ann Kelley take you along on some personal examples of being difficult themselves.
Holding Your Own S5, Malignant Narcissism (5th in a series)(137)
November 30, 2020 05:58 - 38 minutes - 35.5 MBAccusations are their confessions. In this episode learn why we elect, promote, excuse and love those with malignant narcissist tendencies. Sort out the other forms of self-involvement, psychopathology and anti-social traits from this dangerous personality structure. Sue & Ann finish out their series on Holding Your Own with Challenging Personality Traits - this is session 5 of 6. Find more here www.therapistuncensored.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and Cali...
TU137: Holding Your Own S5, Malignant Narcissism (5th in a series)
November 30, 2020 05:58 - 39 minutes - 27.4 MBAccusations are their confessions. In this episode learn why we elect, promote, excuse and love those with malignant narcissist tendencies. Sort out the other forms of self-involvement, psychopathology and anti-social traits from this dangerous personality structure. Sue & Ann finish out their series on Holding Your Own with Challenging Personality Traits - this is session 5 of 6. Find more here www.therapistuncensored.com
Holding Your Own S4 -“Borderline” Traits (4th in a series)(136)
November 18, 2020 22:32 - 43 minutes - 39.9 MBWhen does sensitivity cross the line into clinical reactivity? Borderline traits, or those with highly reactive personalities, are another common challenge in relationship that we might need support to navigate well. Today's episode sees co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott unpack high reactivity through a caring and developmental approach. Together, they discuss how these dynamics and traits arise, what they look like, and what we can do when we find ourselves in relationships with ...