Say The Things

032: Say What You Need To Say:

April 01, 2021 09:00 - 14 minutes - 13.8 MB

We communicate every day. Are we strengthening our relationships or hurting them? Learn: 4 Types of Communicators Characteristics of Unhealthy Communication Characteristics of Healthy Communication We often don’t know what healthy is until we know what it isn’t. Episode Quotes and Resources: “A chain is as strong as the weakest link” ` unknown “a thread usually breaks from where it is the thinnest” ~Basque Proverb

031: Awake or Asleep

March 25, 2021 09:00 - 12 minutes - 12.5 MB

Nature is waking up, spring is here. What in your heart, mind, soul, spirit is awakening? Today I provide 9 ways to know you are waking up. Episode quotes & resources: ‘The daily practice of letting go of who we thing we are supposed to be and embracing who we are. Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect. ~Brené Brown “Radical consistency comes from the focus on the process, not perfection.” ~Robyn Downs https://chopra.com/articles/10-s...

030: The Purpose of Spring:

March 18, 2021 10:00 - 11 minutes - 18.8 MB

Spring is often ‘everyone’s favorite season'. What can we learn from transforming from rest to new growth? Today’s episode we will discuss what spring offers and the stages of transformation. Episode quotes and resources: “If ever you were to admire the spring-blooming trees; May you see much more than flowers and rustling green leaves. May you start to see the history. Roots tied deep-in the dirt for trees do not blow from clouds, but from the ground, the root, the earth.” ~M...

029: Share Your Story

March 11, 2021 11:00 - 15 minutes - 23.5 MB

Stories exist in every culture through all of time. What is your story? What is your comfort level with sharing your story? Listen as we find out why our stories are important, why we should share ours, and what stops us from sharing. Your story matters, reach out to me on Instagram (link below) if you want help or want to share your story with me. https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ What She Wishes You Knew Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-she-...

Share Your Story

March 11, 2021 11:00 - 15 minutes - 23.5 MB

Stories exist in every culture through all of time. What is your story? What is your comfort level with sharing your story? Listen as we find out why our stories are important, why we should share ours, and what stops us from sharing. Your story matters, reach out to me on Instagram (link below) if you want help or want to share your story with me. https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ What She Wishes You Knew Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-she-...

028: Self-Love:

February 18, 2021 11:00 - 10 minutes - 16.4 MB

Episode Quotes: “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” ~ Oscar Wilde “There are two types of relationships, imperfect and toxic.” ~my wise brother “We are often told to love people unconditionally, but sometimes we need to get rid of people unconditionally.” ~unknown “You’ve got to know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em, know when to walk away, know when to run.” The Gambler by Kenny Rogers “Today I craved intimacy So, I sat down with...

027: What is Love?

February 11, 2021 11:00 - 14 minutes - 22.1 MB

It’s the time of year we make time to celebrate love. We freely speak of all the things we love, it is really love? Are we being clear with the people in our life what we mean when we say we “love” something or someone? Random References: https://www.fluentin3months.com/words-for-love/ “Looking for love in all the wrong places, no fine girls just ugly faces.” Young MC Night at the Roxbury, Saturday Night Live skit with Will Ferrell and Chris Kattan to the song “...

026: Multitask Myth:

February 04, 2021 11:00 - 13 minutes - 21.1 MB

We live in a culture of hustle and accomplish, the way we can do all the things is to multitask. What is multitasking? What is the harm in doing multiple things at once, and what is the alternative? Connect with me during the week on Instagram: @NicoleHagman_Writes Episode Resources: “What looks like multitasking is really switching back and forth between multiple tasks, which reduces productivity and increases mistakes by up to 50%.” – Susan Cain Dr. Bryant Adi...

025: The Task at Hand

January 28, 2021 11:00 - 10 minutes - 8.53 MB

Do you have people in your life that approach tasks, work, chores completely different from you? Some people seem to get lost in the process, process people and others are happy when the task is complete, end-result people . Which one are you? What’s the difference? What are some pros and cons of both? Connect with me during the week on Instagram @NicoleHagman_Writes

024: Decision Fatigue:

January 21, 2021 11:00 - 11 minutes - 9.14 MB

Ever start the day full of yes, hope, activities, dreams and creativity and then barely make it though the day not accomplishing a fraction of what you hoped? Are you a victim of decision fatigue and don’t even know it’s existence? This episode discusses decision fatigue, how to recognize it, and ways to overcome it. Parole Story based on William Palmer in California. Resources mentioned in episode: Greg McKeown; Essentialism Cultivate What Matters: Powersheets ...

023 Who Do You Think You Are:

January 14, 2021 11:00 - 11 minutes - 15.8 MB

How do we see ourselves, do we know the adjectives we use to describe ourselves or do they change with our mood? Self-concept matters. We discuss three aspects of self-concept, how the way we see ourselves is influenced and some ways to determine yours if it’s been a while since you’ve thought about who you are. Quotes: “Each of us, whether we realize it or not, has a self-image. We see ourselves in some way - smart, slow, kindly, well-intentioned, lazy, misunderstood, meticulous or...

022: More

January 07, 2021 11:00 - 10 minutes - 12 MB

2021 as arrived. 2020 gave us a lot, was scarcity mindset one of the take-aways? Let’s dare to dream of what more looks like, find space and time for living and loving a life we want. Shift from scarcity to abundance. Ralph Waldo Emerson quotes: “We become what we think about all day long.” “What lies behind you and what lies in front of you, pales in comparison to what lies inside of you.” “Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. He is...

021: Silence the Unsavory Virtue

December 31, 2020 11:00 - 12 minutes - 17.6 MB

“Silence is a virtue”. What does that mean? Silence feels like tortue, what is the value? Listen and explore some of the benefits silence has for our brain and stress levels. The Weaver and the Loom. Go In and In: Poems From the Heart of Yoga by Danna Faulds Brain, Structure and Function - 2013 significance of silence on mice. Marianne Williamson says “When we answer the call of our own heart, we help awaken the heart of the world.” Dr. Fiona Kerr, Founder ...

020: Celebrate Life

December 24, 2020 11:00 - 13 minutes - 18.9 MB

2020 has highlighted the need to celebrate and be intentional with acknowledging accomplishing milestones big and small. Some celebrate the small things with ease, others dive into holidays with festive hearts. Where do you fall? Who in your life lives and celebrates with ease? Quotes: “When we give ourself treats, we feel energized and cared for; and contented, which boosts our self-command - and self-command helps us maintain healthy habits.” ~Gretchen Rubin Better than Before ...

019: Savasana, the Winter of Yoga

December 17, 2020 11:00 - 13 minutes - 21.4 MB

We are nearing the first day of winter, a season that's fairly polarizing. What is the purpose of winter, what can we learn from nature? If you practice yoga, what is the purpose of savasana? How do we feel about rest and restoration, not for others and not sometimes; but for ourselves, regularly. Join me as we discuss the purpose of rest and surrender in our lives, do we really understand it? “He that can take rest is greater than he that can take cities.” Benjamin Franklin ...

018: The Pose Begins When You Want to Get Out of It

December 10, 2020 11:00 - 13 minutes - 20.7 MB

Life is full of opportunity to withdraw or engage. Are your responses intentional or reflexive on the effort you put into your commitments and relationships? Learn to be curious on what makes us want to disengage in life, activities, responsibilities and relationships. “The pose begins when you want to get out of it.” ~Baron Baptiste Carol Dweck: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success “Steve (her husband) said, ‘I don’t know. I really don’t. All I know is that my life is better w...

017: Self-Compassion

December 03, 2020 11:00 - 11 minutes - 18.4 MB

Self-compassion, showing kindness to oneself. How are we doing with this? My inner critic has quieted, but there’s little kindness and I watch the lack of softness for myself play out in front of me. Today, we discuss self-compassion and ways to add it to our day. Research based off Dr. Kristin Neff - self-compassion.org https://self-compassion.org/the-three-elements-of-self-compassion-2/ https://self-compassion.org/tips-for-practice/ “Children have never been good at lis...

Self-Compassion

December 03, 2020 11:00 - 11 minutes - 18.4 MB

Self-compassion, showing kindness to oneself. How are we doing with this? My inner critic has quieted, but there’s little kindness and I watch the lack of softness for myself play out in front of me. Today, we discuss self-compassion and ways to add it to our day. Research based off Dr. Kristin Neff - self-compassion.org https://self-compassion.org/the-three-elements-of-self-compassion-2/ https://self-compassion.org/tips-for-practice/ “Children have never been good at lis...

016: Thanksgiving 2020

November 26, 2020 11:00 - 12 minutes - 20 MB

There are so many benefits to gratitude. Today we discuss research from Robert Emmons about myths of gratitude. The benefit of developing a practice of gratitude and 8 ways to be more grateful. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/profile/Robert_Emmons Intro story is a Chinese Proverb alerting us to be cautious labeling events blessing or a curse. What seems like a blessing may be a curse. What seems like a blessing may be a curse. Contact me: [email protected]

015: Priorities:

November 19, 2020 11:00 - 12 minutes - 19.3 MB

Song : Ants Marching - Dave Matthews Quotes: “It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do consistently.” Tony Robbins “By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” ~Benjamin Franklin “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule but to schedule your priorities.” ― Stephen Covey “Successful people are simply those with successful habits.” Brian Tracy “The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too s...

014: Speak Your Truth

November 12, 2020 11:00 - 15 minutes - 21.5 MB

Fear keeps us from sharing our truth. Learn three areas of life to share our emotions. Practice mindfulness and emotional intelligence to share our feelings. Emotional word list for adults and kids: https://tomdrummond.com/app/uploads/2019/11/Emotion-Feelings.pdf https://hope4hurtingkids.com/emotions/understanding-emotions/emotions-chart/?subscribe=error#blog_subscription-2 Indigo Girls, Closer To Fine https://youtu.be/HUgwM1Ky228

013: Emotional Intelligence:

November 05, 2020 11:00 - 17 minutes - 24.5 MB

Emotional intelligence is the ability to connect easily with emotions and make informed decisions to build a meaningful life. Learn 5 components of EQ and 7 characteristics of emotionally intelligent adults. https://www.6seconds.org/2017/05/15/emotion-feeling-mood/ http://www.danielgoleman.info/purchase/ O.A.R. Shattered https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qa5Mawz92xU

012: Be Intentional With Your Time:

October 29, 2020 10:00 - 14 minutes - 20.9 MB

Everyone is busy, let’s call it what it is. Join in and learn tips to be intentional with our time to eliminate revenge bedtime procrastination. Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolehagman_writes/ Dog tastebuds - akc.org Mary Carver - https://marycarver.com Bedtime procrastination study https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2014.00611/full

011: Communicate like the Crow:

October 22, 2020 10:00 - 16 minutes - 23.1 MB

A week in Colorado initiated curiosity of how crows can teach us about intentional communication. What are three types of communication to focus on to communicate clearly to lessen arguments? Men are Like Waffles -- Women are Like Spaghetti (Bill & Pam Farrel) “People who can’t communication think everything is an argument.” ~unknown Quoted lyrics from Vanilla Ice and Snoop Dogg

010: Help!:

October 15, 2020 10:00 - 12 minutes - 18.7 MB

Answer three question to be confident and intentional requesting help. Simple ways to offer your best help. References: Helen Keller said “alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much.” Definitions from M-w.com Pretty Woman The Movie Help! The Beatles

009: The Masks We Wear

October 08, 2020 10:00 - 15 minutes - 22.1 MB

Who do we let see ‘beneath our beautiful’? Look at the masks we wear, when did we first put them on. Learn to set them aside for authentic relationships and accept our vulnerability is our superpower. Labrynth - Beneath Your Beautiful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bqIxCtEveG8 Brene Brown Daring Greatly: https://brenebrown.com Excerpt from Chapter 2: Debunking Vulnerability Myths Myth #1: Vulnerability is Weakness “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have know...

008: Ice Ice Baby:

October 01, 2020 10:00 - 11 minutes - 16.1 MB

Not every day does a favorite dance song double as great advice for living. Who would have thought I would be using lyrics from Ice Ice Baby as inspiration for a podcast? One of the lyrics I say regularly and didn’t put in here is ‘quick to the point, to the point no fakin’, which I use as motivation when a story goes rogue. You are welcome for the bonus material. http://www.vanillaice.com http://www.queenonline.com

007: Friendship:

September 24, 2020 10:00 - 17 minutes - 24.3 MB

One of the things I thought would get easier with age: friendship. This episode is an introduction to friendship series. What are the kinds of information we share, the stages of friendship and how to move through the stages to develop meaningful friendships. References: Tyler Knott Gregson @tylerknott Brené Brown @brenebrown Want to connect with me on social media? Find me on IG @NicoleHagman_Writes

006: The Purpose of Fall

September 17, 2020 10:00 - 11 minutes - 17.3 MB

We are of nature, there are rhythms and cadences nature show us and we can learn as we become aware. Learn to let go Embrace the darkness Conserve your energy Be willing to fall Embrace transitions “Letting go does not mean you stop caring. It means you stop trying to force others to.” Mandy Hale “Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hang on too long.” Mitch Albom - Tuesdays with Morrie

005: Say You Are Sorry

September 10, 2020 10:00 - 10 minutes - 14.7 MB

Apologies can be difficult, can we make it easier? Join me as we uncover apology confusion and why some people ‘do it wrong. Learn the anatomy of an apology to say the things and mend relationships.

004: Hold Space

September 03, 2020 10:00 - 17 minutes - 24.3 MB

Creating space for words to be said, thoughts and emotions to be processed for ourselves and our friends takes minimal effort with many benefits. Listen in as we define holding space, discuss ways to hold space and a few examples of it playing out. Be aware of our actions and words, understand how you can easily help bring healing or hurt.

003: Things I Don't Do:

August 27, 2020 10:00 - 13 minutes - 19.1 MB

Shauna Niequist’s Bittersweet, introduced the foreign concept has now become a way of life. My “Things I Don’t Do List” has equal value to my “To Do List” and goals and dreams; all work together. Is choosing to walk away the same as quitting? Listen in, make intentional choices, say the things to make space in your life.

Things I Don't Do:

August 27, 2020 10:00 - 13 minutes - 19.1 MB

Shauna Niequist’s Bittersweet, introduced the foreign concept has now become a way of life. My “Things I Don’t Do List” has equal value to my “To Do List” and goals and dreams; all work together. Is choosing to walk away the same as quitting? Listen in, make intentional choices, say the things to make space in your life.

The Loudest Thing In My Head

August 20, 2020 14:28 - 12 minutes - 18 MB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHx4BlF6V2o Matt Nathanson: Come On Get Higher https://www.5lovelanguages.com - 5 Love Languages https://www.16personalities.com - Personality Test http://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ - Highly Sensitive Enneagram - there are a lot of tests out there - I read a few books and descriptions and worked my way to my number. https://howwelove.com/love-styles - How We Love If you want to connect on social media, my favorite place to hang out...

001: The Loudest Thing In My Head

August 20, 2020 14:28 - 12 minutes - 18 MB

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aHx4BlF6V2o Matt Nathanson: Come On Get Higher https://www.5lovelanguages.com - 5 Love Languages https://www.16personalities.com - Personality Test http://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ - Highly Sensitive Enneagram - there are a lot of tests out there - I read a few books and descriptions and worked my way to my number. https://howwelove.com/love-styles - How We Love If you want to connect on social media, my favorite place to hang out...

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