Relationships the good & the messy - Sally Kalan artwork

Relationships the good & the messy - Sally Kalan

532 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 months ago - ★★★★★ - 12 ratings

Coaching & mentoring for over 10 + years, here to give you the answers you need ..

Leading you into the best healthiest version of you after toxic/ narcissistic relationships

Breaking toxic patterns, break up recovery , inner child work, stay or go, narcissistic relationships, attracting the wrong ones, finding love & more

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#282 What is it like living in a narcissistic relatiinship? Im going to be telling you

February 02, 2024 10:01 - 3 minutes - 1.53 MB

Teaser ~ I have my new book “ confessions of a relationship junkie, healing narcissistic chains” coming out soon🙏💗documentng my personal story with educational strategies throughout the book to help YOU.. if you want to know what it feels like living in a toxic narcissistic relationship that spanned over a decade I share my love to hell story, as well as how I healed & started over ~ this is a book for you if you have been in a toxic relationship 🩵I will be showing up each week as s professio...

#281 2 big reasons you keep going back to your toxic ex

November 30, 2023 03:13 - 8 minutes - 4.02 MB

Im back !! Here to help YOU let go and understand why is it so hard to not go back to toxic ex.. just a snippet of whats to come with my co host ! We wre launching in 10 days so stay tuned. We eill be offering 24 /7 break up recovery coaching .. let ne know how we can help

#281 2 big reasons that you keep going back to your toxic ex 🩵

November 30, 2023 03:13 - 8 minutes - 4.02 MB

Im back! Here to help YOU let go and understand the question, why is it so hard to NOT go back to my toxic Ex?Just a snippet of whats to come with my new co host, Lauren… cant wait for that to happen ! We wre launching in the near future so stay tuned. We will be offering 24 /7 break up recovery coaching programs. let me know how we can help you heal and empower you forwards🙏You are not alone ❤️

#280 You NEED to know this

August 10, 2023 01:40 - 14 minutes - 6.99 MB

Excuse my initial fast talking in todays podcast but I needed to get this message out today .. I did not plan uploading, but then it felt authentic & captured the real urgency of healing sooner than later ...❤️❤️❤️ i hope it lands with you. I offer 1.1 coaching and its a deep beautiful dive into healing and ultimately finding healty love, most people DO NOT realise how much their childhood is affecting their choices, it really is the reason you choose who you do🌸I hope this helps and PLEASE...

#280 You meed to know this

August 10, 2023 01:40 - 14 minutes - 6.99 MB

Excuse my initial fast talking but so needed to get this message out today .. didnt plsn uploading but then it felt authentic abd csptured the real urgency of healing sooner thsn later .. i offer 1.1 coaching and its a deep beautiful dive into healing and ultimately finding healty love..most people font realise how much their childhood is affecting their choices, today,hope this helps and DM to book a free initisl call on TT or instagram 💗

#279 3 signs you are in a narcissistic relationship

July 24, 2023 05:24 - 10 minutes - 5.26 MB

Hello my loves, Sharing today the 3 signs you are in a narcissistic relationship. The pain and confusion of these relationships means we often dont even know if we are with a narcissist or not,.. but these signs gives you a pretty good idea that you are. Healthy love isnt like this. When you are in a healthy relationship there is a sense of deep peace even when you have disagreements.. nobody should live in these type of relationships, they are bewildering, confusing and soul crushing. If y...

#277 The narcissist sleeps around

July 03, 2023 01:34 - 10 minutes - 5.29 MB

I want to give you all the facts in helping you break free of narcissistic relationships, because they are like no other type of relationship. Over the next few weeks i am sharing narcissistic abuse help & snswers because the sooner you leave and heal the happier you will be and you do not deserve the crazy narcissists bring. .. please drop a comment or review snd reach out if you would like to coach with me 1.1. Limited spots atm but i can add you to the wait list in the meantime I am here a...

#277 the narcissist sleeps around

July 03, 2023 01:34 - 10 minutes - 5.29 MB

I want to give you all the facts in helping you break free of narcissistic relationships. Over the next few weeks i am sharing narcissistic abuse help & snswers because the sooner you leave and hesl the happier you will be .. please drop a comment or review snd reach out if you would like to coach woth me 1.1. Limited spots but i can add you to the wait list in the meantime im here and on tik tok primarily . Sending love ! Does this podcast resonate ? Love Sally 🙏

#276 2 signs the narcissist is about to discard you

June 06, 2023 00:40 - 11 minutes - 5.7 MB

The episodes I share at present are all about living & healing from narcissistic abuse. There is an epidemic of people living in these situations & I am here to help as many people as possible break the cycle and heal ! Please Dm if you are interested in coaching with me .. TIK TOK I share daily messages @ sally kalan relationship coach, come follow me ❤️You are not alone I promise 🌸

#275 3 signs you are in a narcissitic relationship

May 22, 2023 01:00 - 17 minutes - 8.5 MB

Hi lovely humans, being in and then surviving after a narcissistic relationship is not easy . It is soul destroying . I am going to br doing a series here on natcisstic abuse over the coming weeks . So stay tuned . Every episode for the next month will be around this subject . I am here to help you heal . If you want 1.1 with me via zoom or what’s app please Dm me on my website or Instagram direct messsge.. come follow me on tik tok or Instagram .. let me know if this episode helped . Love yo...

#273 I’m single❤️what I’ve learned 5 things ❤️

April 20, 2023 02:36 - 13 minutes - 6.53 MB

Let’s celebrate being single lovely humans ! Sharing today what I’ve learned from being single and I know you will resonate❤️These are the days to celebrate too, your single season 🍀Let me know your thoughts I love your feedback. … I’m also looking for guests for the new launch of my new podcast show coming .. if you have been in a toxic situation but recovered and found real love I wanna hear your story .. please Dm Instagram @sallykalan .. Back here in a few days and please share my podcast...

#271 WTF do they keep coming back?

March 27, 2023 00:46 - 11 minutes - 10.8 MB

Hey lovelies, in todays show I am sharing the 5 reasons why they come back and what to do, when they do.. firstly you need to keep moving forward and not buy into any of the bulllshit they tell you as they try and maneouvre their way back into your life., go check the rest of the podcast out and Let me know if you agree with these 5. What’s your experience? If you would like to work with me 1.1 to heal after a break up / break toxic cycles then DM Instagram @ sallykalan ! I offer an initial f...

#271 WTF do they keep coming back

March 27, 2023 00:46 - 11 minutes - 10.8 MB

Hey lovelies , This is why they come back sharing 5 reasons why & what to do if they do.. You need to keep moving forward and not buy into any of the bulllshit they tell you as they try and maneouvre their way back into your life ! Let me know if you agree with these 5 ? What’s your experience? If you would like to work with me 1.1 to heal after a break up / break toxic cycles then DM Instagram @ sallykalan ! I offer an initial free call .. remember tnst You are amazing & deserve a healthy lo...

#270 WTF do they always come back

March 26, 2023 23:01 - 17 minutes - 8.47 MB

First off aoooligies to the static in some of this episode ! It’s such a good one though I still wanted to post it ! This is for anyone who finds their ex always comes back and you find yourself in this loop! This was me and yes so toxic because we really believe they have changed when they show up but they ultimately haven’t ! I break it down for you what’s going on ! If you would like to work with me 1.1 get over your Ex and find real love please DM me about my 1.1 coaching ! Ps.. you are a...

#269 a must listen 3 reminders to keep moving on from that ex

March 24, 2023 01:20 - 6 minutes - 6.29 MB

You need to hear this if you have a pattern of going back & forth with an ex and this time you are done ‘ it’s not easy but you deserve someone who is so in love with you and treats you well ! These reminders will keep you on the path forward ! You are amazing ! If you are wanting to work with me I have my 1.1 coaching program which helps anyone break from toxic to healthy as well healing after heartache ‘ there are steps please DM ON IG to book a free call to see if I can help you heal & tra...

#269 A must listen, 3 reminders to keep moving on from your EX!

March 24, 2023 01:20 - 6 minutes - 6.29 MB

You need to hear this if you have a pattern of going back & forth with you ex who was probably a narcissist, and this time you are done. It is not easy to keep moving forwards but you deserve someone who is so in love with you and treats you well and capable of a healthy love. These reminders will keep you on the path forward. You are amazing and you owe it to yourself to keep doing the next right thing so you break free. If you are wanting to work with me I have my 1.1 coaching program which...

#268 5 reasons why you can’t find love ❤️

March 09, 2023 01:16 - 15 minutes - 14.3 MB

Let me tell you a secret 🤫 there are real reasons why you can’t find love BUT you will find it and you can attract it especially if you begin to do the inner work .. knowing yourself within., healing emotional patterns that are keeping you in a cycle, you have the answers. I want for you to know how amazing it feels to have someone be there for you in every way & for you to never second guess yourself again. Your relationship choice is one of the most important choices of your life so you wan...

#268 5 reasons why you can’t find love

March 09, 2023 01:16 - 15 minutes - 14.3 MB

Let me tell you a secret 🤫 thrre are real reasons why you can’t find love BUT you will especially if you take more of what I share here today ! I want for you to know how amazing it feels to have someone be. There for you in every way & for you to never second guess yourself again ! Your relationship choice is one of the most important choices if your life so you want to attract the right kind rights! I hope these 5 reasons give you done clarity & if you would like to work with me 1.1 please ...

#267 be proud of leaving a toxic relationship! 4 reasons to be So proud of yourself

March 08, 2023 01:18 - 12 minutes - 11.3 MB

Hello my love loves If you have struggled to walk away from a toxic relationship or always attract poor relationships but now you have made a firm decision I’m so freaking done then I want to celebrate with you .. sharing today 4 reasons why you need to be so damn proud of yourself I also know it’s not always straight forward in walking away  so please reach out to me if you are needing that extra help and are interested in  working with me 1.1. The work I do is helping people connect inward...

#267 Be proud of leaving a toxic relationship! 4 reasons you should be🩵

March 08, 2023 01:18 - 12 minutes - 11.3 MB

Hello my loves If you have struggled to walk away from a toxic relationship or you find yourself in messy unhealthy patterns but NOW you have made a firm decision to heal, I’m so freaking done attitude, then I want to celebrate with you 🙏.. sharing today 4 reasons why you need to be so damn proud of yourself, I also know it’s not always straight forward in walking away, lots of twists and turns so please reach out to me if you are needing that extra help and are interested in working with me ...

#266 when a toxic relationship ends expect to feel this ….

March 05, 2023 23:02 - 14 minutes - 7.19 MB

Walking away from a toxic relationship is not easy especially when we still have connection with them but sometimes we have to save ourselves & do the right thing, right ? Sharing today how you will feel & what to put in place so the transition into your new life is easier and you feel empowered and on track ! If you are needing help moving out of a toxic situation please Dm for details about my 1.1 coaching program … Sending love & remember you are not alone ! You are amazing 🩵

#266 after a toxic relationship ends expect to feel this ….

March 05, 2023 23:02 - 14 minutes - 7.19 MB

Walking away from a toxic relationship is not easy especially when we still have connection with them but sometimes we have to save ourselves & do the right thing right ? Sharing today how you will feel & what to put in place so the transition into your new life is easier and you feel empowered and in track ! If you are needing help moving out of a toxic situation please Dm for details about my 1,1 coaching program … Sending love & remember you are not alone ! You are amazing

#265 am I with the right one or not ?

February 22, 2023 01:24 - 7 minutes - 7.31 MB

On todays episode lovely humans I am sharing 7 questions to ask yourself that will shed light on if you are with the right person ..sometimes it is too easy to just settle into mediocre or worse but you deserve a great love… it’s important to work on ourselves always though because it starts there ! Let me know if you agree with these questions and what else can you ask ? If you would like to work with me I am offering my 1 off hour coaching calls but I am also offering my 3 Month program whi...

#265 Am I with the right one or not ?

February 22, 2023 01:24 - 7 minutes - 7.31 MB

On todays episode lovely humans I am sharing 7 questions to ask yourself that will shed light on if you are with the right person ..sometimes it is too easy to just settle into mediocre or worse, just settle, but you deserve a great love… it’s important to work on ourselves always though because it starts there ! Let me know if you agree with these questions and what else can you ask ? If you would like to work with me I am offering my 1 off hour coaching calls again but I am also offering my...

#264 7 signs you are with an emotionally needy man

January 30, 2023 02:14 - 13 minutes - 6.29 MB

Lovelies, emotionally needy people can drain our life but it’s not always easy to spot, it’s a gradual slow boil in parts of the relationship and the other parts we see, we believe is a good thing because they seem obsessed with us! However these relationships can end up super toxic & so I want you to be aware of some of the signs someone emotionally needy means the relationship can turn very manipulative and you can become confused about who you are, what's actually going on, it's messy, esp...

#263 10 signs you are NOT over you ex

January 19, 2023 22:36 - 10 minutes - 9.95 MB

My darlings this is an episode for anyone who is feeling like they may not be over ex and Also what to do ! It really is hard letting people go whether it was you or them it’s not easy so have a listen and know that you are not alone because right now there are millions of people feeling like you ! It will pass so please be kind to yourself and if you would like some high level emotional healing and transforming from this please reach out and ask about my 1.1 coaching that I do ! It’s an expe...

#262 Fall in love with a persons values❤️

December 29, 2022 20:20 - 8 minutes - 7.57 MB

Morning lovelies ! 2 days left of 2022 and. I wanted to leave you with this reminder.. know your values and build a life around them … I can not emphasis enough the importance so have a listen and share and write yours down 😀if you would like to work with me 1.1 please go to my booking on Instagram as I am taking a handful of clients for the first half of next year ❤️always here for you and know you are not alone @ sallykalan on Instagram

#261 signs you have a father wound 💗

November 28, 2022 01:59 - 18 minutes - 16.8 MB

Hello lovelies, I’m sharing today the signs you a father wound ! When we carry these wounds around they greatly influence how we feel and the choices we are making ! What is a father wound ? Do you attract emotionally unavailable men ? Are you anxious stressed out in your relationship ? Well answering all here today ‘ if you wish to work with me next year and go on a journey of waking up healing patterns finding love then DM Instagram and book your initial FREE call ! ❤️you deserve to have th...

#259 this is why you can’t find love

October 31, 2022 02:38 - 10 minutes - 10.1 MB

Hello my lovelies, This is a reminder of an earlier podcast I did because I really want you to understand how important this message is .. I want you to have the greatest love & I know why so many people don’t or struggle to find the healthy loving relationship they want so I’m Keeping it short & sweet but to the point so please listen up ok? Ps. If you want to find real healthy love if you are ready to invest in your future so that you don’t keep going around in circles them I’m here ! I off...

#258 why you must do this after a break up ! The wide awake chapter

October 10, 2022 02:14 - 13 minutes - 6.25 MB

Hey beautiful people I am so passionate about seeing you find love. I know if you have a pattern of not the best type of relationships then you gotta look inwards to self examine certain beliefs ‘ I created the wide awake chapter 1.1 coaching program because I kept seeing people go from one relationship to another and experience the same outcome! When we want great things we gotta be good at them and I want you to be good at relationships ! Sharing here today why you must do the " single cha...

#257 3 core steps in finding healthy love

September 19, 2022 02:29 - 12 minutes - 5.79 MB

Hey lovelies, are you someone that seems to spears attract the wrong relationship, are you tired of going around in circles as you watch all your friends settle down ? Well there are 3 things you need to do to get you on a new relationship path! Change is not easy but it’s so worth it & these 3 steps require you to do different but will completely transform your life ! I am here as your 1.1 coach so if you are ready to make HUGE changes then book a call with me 💗my 1.1 wide awake chapter coac...

#256 here’s why your beliefs are creating your unhappiness or happiness

September 07, 2022 23:53 - 14 minutes - 6.78 MB

My loves I am here sharing scenarios of how you can have unconscious beliefs around relationships & how they can be sabotaging your future in having a beautiful relationship . I can help you gain clarity & understanding if this lands with you and you want answers. If you would like to work with me VIP 1.1 coaching please book an initial free call to discuss how I can assist and guide you into the best you possible. I hope you find this episode helpful because you really can have great love !...

#256 here’s how your beliefs are creating unhappiness or happiness

September 07, 2022 23:53 - 14 minutes - 6.78 MB

My loves sharing here scenarios of how we create beliefs around relationships & how they can be sabotaging our future with a great love ! I can help you ! If you want to work with me VIP coaching please book a free call to discuss how I can help you ! I hope you find this episode helpful because you really can have great love ! Here for you 😍

#255 Here is how to have a great relationship 😊

August 22, 2022 02:33 - 13 minutes - 6.32 MB

Hello lovely humans, sharing here today why finding and having a good solid person can feel uncomfortable if we are used to the struggle in love & used to the messy .. Please listen in today lovelies if you are wanting to experience real love, someone who is going to treat you with respect and be an asset to your life not a liability. You deserve a love that makes you shine brighter ☀️ .. please reach out & book a FREE CALL if i can assist you on your healing journey, link in my Instagram bi...

#255 here’s how to have a great relationship

August 22, 2022 02:33 - 13 minutes - 6.32 MB

My loves sharing here today why finding a good person can feel uncomfortable if we are used to the struggle in love ! I want you to listen to this if you want real love someone who is going to treat you so amazing and you wtf going to find them to be more than you could have imagined ‘ listen and book a FREE CALL link in my Instagram bio! Limited time only ❤️you deserve the best kind of love so let us get this happening

#254 DO THIS TO GET OVER A BREAK UP

July 27, 2022 00:45 - 14 minutes - 6.87 MB

My loves welcome back ! Here are my best tips on getting over a break up and I I have an opportunity for you to come & work with me 1.1 so please head over to Instagram book that initial FREE CALL ! Let me know how you find these tips and a big hug to you & thank you for all the love & support you guys bring me, our connection is recipricol ❤️ps. I have walked your path, so I not only help and guide you as a professionally trained coach but as someone who has walked the path of being in a tox...

#253 you CANT HEAL in a weekend

July 25, 2022 02:41 - 10 minutes - 4.93 MB

Hey beautiful souls I have seen a few relationship accounts growing on Instagram ( using bots and all sorts for growth ) 20k extra followers in less than a week etc and also promising to heal your relationships in a super quick time, please please do your homework lovely humans ! Have a listen here as to why you can’t heal in a weekend but how you can heal over time, and it doesn't have to be years, but up leveling our old patterns takes awareness and a conscious way of living. I am here to h...

#252 listen to this ! How much are you worth ?

July 11, 2022 00:53 - 7 minutes - 3.76 MB

Love love love this quick message to you all ! We can spend years trying to convince people of our worth but they will never see it because some don't want to, and with others they see it without us doing anything ! Go where the love is and can you relate to the analogy I share ! I’m here for you ! Book a free call with me to discuss my 1.1 program ! You won't regret it as I can pretty much tell you in the first 10 minutes why you are struggling in your relationships and what you can do to c...

#251 are you ready for change ? I got you

June 27, 2022 02:15 - 8 minutes - 3.96 MB

My darlings is there ever a right time to invest in yourself ? Probably not because we hope things will just work out but often we can then spend years going around & around ! I love helping people make changes, I love seeing someone go from feeling like they will never find love to not only finding love but being in the best place of their life. ! It’s a journey ! Please book a feee call with me today & I can share with you what my program offers. In the meantime I hope you feel inspired to ...

#250 how I can help you save years of your life

June 10, 2022 01:14 - 7 minutes - 3.72 MB

Morning lovelies ! I have lived the path and I know how much time I wasted in my life trying to figure things out on my own, that was until I invested in my own healing ‘ with what I know now I want to save you years of your life and give you what you need, to go from unhealthy to healthy love ! Book a FREE call to discuss with me how I can help you on your life journey, booking at my bio on Instagram @sallykalan or via website . I see you❤️

#249 REMINDER to keep going forwards!

May 30, 2022 01:29 - 13 minutes - 6.71 MB

Beautiful people ! A super quick reminder that change isn’t going to happen just because you understand why, change happens when you ACTUALLY DO different ! I’m here cheering you on for change in your life and to book a free call with me to discuss where you are at & how I can help you get to where you want to be . Head over to Instagram its all in in my bio. With over 15years coaching experience & decades of life experience I know how to do it ! Let’s create the change together ❤️@sallykalan...

#248 why you CANT leave a toxic relationship

May 23, 2022 00:47 - 24 minutes - 11.6 MB

Hey my loves, this is why you can’t leave a toxic relationship, in todays episode I spell it out. The good news is I can help you and not only that but break toxic patterns and help you get over an ex in the healthiest way. Listen all the way through & reach out to book your free call with me @sallykalan on IG , let me know how you found my podcast today and investing in yourself is the best healthiest thing you can ever do. You deserve a real love where you are safe loved and supported. ! W...

#247 YOUR TOXIC RELATIONSHIP will cost you ! A must listen

May 15, 2022 00:55 - 8 minutes - 4.09 MB

This is for you my loves my passionate self giving you the low down on what happens when you keep opting back with an ex or repeating toxic patterns ! Please listen and book a FREE CALL today @sallykalan Instagram

#246 JOHNNY DEPP AMBER HEARD TRIAL -~ my thoughts

May 13, 2022 02:31 - 19 minutes - 9.33 MB

I wasn’t going to chime in but as a trauma survivor and coach I thought I would share my own thoughts ! So many of us can relate to the situation ! Let me know what you think ? PS DM via Instagram for a free call for June intake for 1.1 coaching heal & evolve program ❤️ love you to share these episodes too guys with love

#245 what you must do to change the past and create a new future

May 03, 2022 00:41 - 24 minutes - 11.9 MB

My loves change isn’t easy as we face resistance from our own minds which is what Lu most people stay stuck repeating the same patterns over & over and time waits for no one, before you know it 1, 3, 5 years have passed and hit much has changed inspite of you having the info you need ! Action is a must to mark changes ! Consistent action! These 5 musts will change your life, even just one of them will but you gotta commit to the change ! You have to imagine the life you truly want and DO diff...

#244 interview with my ex partner ~ cheating why I did it!

April 25, 2022 12:01 - 27 minutes - 45.1 MB

Ok guys sorry about the poor quality sound but we didn’t want to redo it as this was authentic and to the point ! I feel so grateful to be in a place of deep peace and healing over the years that I can even have this type of conversation, grateful that he agreed to share as it’s not easy but I hope this brings some light to what can be going on with our partners ! At the end of the day it wasn’t ok, and never will be, our relationship had many other traumatic things happen ( another day ). We...

#244 interview with my ex partner ~ cheating why I did

April 25, 2022 12:01 - 27 minutes - 45.1 MB

Ok guys sorry about the poor sound but we didn’t want to redo it as this was authentic and to the point ! I feel so grateful to be in a place of deep peace and healed over the years that I csn even have this type of conversation and grateful rob agreed to share as it’s not easy but I hope this brings some light to what can be going on with our partners ! At the end of the day it wasn’t ok but we are all struggling in different ways and inner trauma manifests so many ways ! Please feel free to...

# 243 intro interview with ex cheating

April 25, 2022 11:51 - 4 minutes - 1.99 MB

Just a quick framework around the next episode with my ex partner ! So grateful he wanted to sit and chat please let me know your feedback $ and apologies in advance for the poor quality recording but the message is there ! I feel it’s super important for us all to be able to heal and share stories ( if we feel comfortable to do so ) because so many of us have trauma and it manifests in so many different ways ! So have a quick listen snd head to the next episode for the interview ❤️🙏

# 243 Intro about my interview with my EX cheating on me

April 25, 2022 11:51 - 4 minutes - 1.99 MB

Just a quick framework around the next episode with my ex partner ! So grateful he wanted to sit and chat please let me know your feedback and apologies in advance for the fair quality recording but the message is there ! I feel it’s super important for us all to be able to heal and share stories ( if we feel comfortable to do so ) because so many of us have trauma and it manifests in many different ways, not making excuses for icheating but, we all have our shit so to speak ) So have a quick...

#243 love isn’t enough , comparability is key

April 11, 2022 04:19 - 18 minutes - 9.05 MB

Hello lovely humans, todays show I’m sharing the signs that you are a compatible match with your partner or for future partner ! Tell me your thoughts ? Whilst chemistry is a must being compatible predicts the success of the relationship ! Let me know how you find this podcast and tell me what you would like me to discuss on here ! Come work with me 1.1 on an epic healing journey do you never opt in to toxic again DM @sallykalan IG

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