Not So Linear

Grief & Anxiety, with Josh Fletcher (@anxietyjosh)

November 25, 2021 23:56 - 48 minutes - 67.2 MB

In this episode I speak with Joshua Fletcher (@anxietyjosh on IG), who is a psychotherapist specialising in anxiety disorders. I wanted to understand why grief can often be a catalyst for anxiety and how we can learn to retrain our brain to manage it more effectively. Josh opens up about the experience of losing his brother to cancer as a teenager and how the unprocessed grief led him to a mental breakdown. However, he now commits his career to providing psychoeducation and spreading awaren...

Darkness is Golden, with Mary Hoang

October 25, 2021 10:39 - 55 minutes - 76.6 MB

Mary Hoang is a psychologist who thinks creatively about what makes humans lead more meaningful lives. She is founder of the mental health organisation 'The Indigo Project' and is tearing down the walls of traditional psychology. After her fathers death in 2017, Mary turned to art and writing to explore how the darker aspects of life hold the keys to insight and purpose. Losing him was her life changing moment, which she so beautifully documents in her book ‘Darkness is Golden’ and explores...

Tam Talks #1

October 20, 2021 18:00 - 15 minutes - 21.7 MB

Hey everyone! I'm back from a little break in podcasting and returning with a new sort episode type called 'Tam Talks', which is full of my little ramblings and thoughts! I talk about: Lockdown lifting in Sydney Taking your time to get back in to socialising Australia's crazy border rules Feeling excluded as a temporary visa holder Focusing on gratitude and what I do have Trying to live in the moment Patreon Click here to become a Patron Member Support this show http://supporter.a...

My Grief Journey Pt.2, with Tamsin & Lily Millard

August 23, 2021 15:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MB

Hey! Welcome back to another episode of Not So Linear, where I talk about my grief journey and the last 6 months of change since launching the podcast. This time I'm interviewed by my younger sister Lily, which is very special as it shows how much we've grown through our grief together. I talk honestly about how my relationship with my grief and my mum have evolved, as I have tried to make peace with my emotions and find ways to connect with her again. I also talk about the importance of fi...

Grief & Loss Education in the Workplace, with Katrina Preisler-Weller

August 08, 2021 17:00 - 33 minutes - 23 MB

Hey guys! On today's episode I am joined by fellow motherless daughter, Katrina. After experiencing multiple losses within her early life and witnessing the uncomfort and lack of knowledge around her, Katrina began her journey as a grief & loss educator. Katrina specialises in providing workshops within organisations and businesses. For many people, returning to work after a significant loss can be daunting and anxiety inducing. Therefore, it's so important that our workplaces are able to s...

Losing my twin brother Will, with George Falck

August 02, 2021 17:00 - 37 minutes - 25.5 MB

In this episode I'm joined by George Falck, who lost his twin brother Will when he was 24. Will was diagnosed with terminal cancer and the boys decided they would do as much as they could in the few years that they had left together. From following England Football matches all over Europe, to Will running a marathon in Amsterdam, they didn't let the anticipatory grief get in their way of quality time together. However, George is very open about how he felt relief once Will passed away, sin...

Justice for Jon, with Jennifer Solorzano

July 26, 2021 21:00 - 31 minutes - 21.9 MB

Trigger warning: This episode contains conversation around gun crime and violence. In today’s episode I talk with Jennifer from LA, who lost her boyfriend Jon in last year, in a brutal, unprovoked attack. His killer shot him multiple times. We talk about how she has coped with her grief after losing him in such a horrible way and how she’s now protesting current policies in place that are preventing his killer serving a full sentence. Don’t forget to follow and you can find me on Insta...

Heartbreak, with Jessie Stephens

July 19, 2021 18:00 - 44 minutes - 30.6 MB

In this episode, I am joined by Jessie Stephens, a Sydney based writer, podcaster and Assistant Head of Content at Mama Mia! We talk all things Heartbreak and how it is often a form of grief that is totally dismissed. Jessie explains how a series of failed relationships and whirlwind romances, led her to feel isolated, depressed and a lack of self esteem. Until one day, she realised she needed to move through the grief, face her emotions head on and as a result wrote her new book 'Heartsic...

Expat life during a global pandemic, with Caroline Mckenna

July 11, 2021 23:00 - 43 minutes - 29.6 MB

In this week's episode I speak with Caroline McKenna, about how it feels to be an expat in Australia during a ban on international travel. It is an unusual type of grief for those living overseas, since it can be emotionally stressful, anxiety inducing and tiresome not knowing when we can reunite with loved ones again. By day Caroline is a teacher but within her spare time, she hosts social events and her podcast 'A County Down Under', to help people feel les alone. Expect to hear a very ...

Australia's Black Summer, with Ray Law

July 05, 2021 17:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MB

In the summer of 2019/2020, Australia experienced grief and loss on a national scale. It was one of the most catastrophic bushfire seasons in history, resulting in the loss of 33 people, 3 billion animals and 24 million hectares of land. In my new season of Not So Linear, I speak with Ray Law, from one of the worst hit regions in New South Wales. I was curious to know what life was like during those months and to my surprise, I learnt of the sheer negligence that the community experienced ...

My Daughter Dorothy, with Rachel Whalen

April 18, 2021 01:00 - 1 hour - 43.2 MB

In this week's episode I talk with Rachel, who some of you may recognise from her blog and social media community 'An Unexpected Family Outing'. It's a place for her to share and connect with others, over the loss of her daughter Dorothy. At 28 weeks, Rachel was diagnosed with severe preclampsia and HELLP syndrome. She was left fighting for her life, whilst having to deliver Dorothy still born. Prior to Dorothy, Rachel had also experienced two miscarriages, so becoming a mother was somethi...

Losing my superhero grandad, with James Roycroft

April 09, 2021 01:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MB

Hey guys, welcome back to Episode 9! This week I chat with James, who is the host of 'The Rut pod', a podcast that explores men's mental health. It's important to note that we do talk about depression and suicidal thoughts, in case this is triggering for you. James speaks so openly about losing his grandad, who he was incredibly close to. Quite often people are floored by the grief of a grandparent, yet society can sometimes dismiss it because of the person being elderly. Please remember, ...

How can I process my complicated grief? With Dr. Chloe

April 01, 2021 22:00 - 31 minutes - 21.7 MB

Hey listeners, welcome to Episode 8! In this episode I chat with Dr. Chloe, who is a chartered counselling psychologist that specialises in traumatic loss and grief. We talk through my 'layers of loss', as I experienced losing my mum twice - once whilst she was alive (due to her mental health condition) and then her passing away when I was 18. We cover: Dr Chloe's background and research in trauma and grief What is complicated grief? What are the symptoms? What frameworks / advice can I...

From fighting in Afghanistan, to the war on his own mental health, with Craig Monaghan

March 25, 2021 23:00 - 33 minutes - 23.3 MB

Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions around suicide and self harm. Craig fought in one of the bloodiest battles in Afghanistan, where he lost 10 soldiers within his company and a further 10 to suicide upon returning to the UK. He encountered serious blast injuries and had difficulty adjusting back to 'normal' life. How could anybody else understand what he had just witnessed at war? He then spiraled in to a path of self destruction, which led to drinking, fighting and sadly...

Navigating sudden loss, to becoming a mental health first aid officer, with Sandra Rodriguez

March 18, 2021 23:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MB

In this week's episode I talk with my friend Sandra, who I met through my Sydney support network 'our grief'. Sandra received a call to say she'd suddenly lost her mum to suicide and had the exhausting task of returning back to the US to be with her family. We talk about how she brilliantly navigated the return to work, how opening up to peers and a therapist helped her to process the grief and how she is now training to be a mental heath first aid officer. A big thank you to Sandra for com...

I had a miscarriage, with Dr Jessica Zucker

March 11, 2021 21:00 - 27 minutes - 18.9 MB

Dr. Jessica Zucker is a Los Angeles-based psychologist specialising in reproductive and maternal mental health. She writes extensively on this topic for outlets such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, New York Magazine, and Vogue. Dr. Zucker is the creator of the #IHadaMiscarriage campaign. We talk through how her own experience of miscarriage reshaped the way she thought of her own theory, how many women blame and punish themselves for something that is so out of their control and...

A pre UK Mother's Day message from me, Tamsin Millard

March 08, 2021 04:00 - 5 minutes - 4.07 MB

Hey guys! Since you said you wanted to hear more from me, I thought why not take the opportunity to send you a pre Mother's Day message. For those of you who are motherless daughter's like me, or may have lost a child, please know it is okay for you to deal with this day in whichever way suits you best. It's also important that if you are supporting someone grieving, that you reach out to check they are okay. I also chat about my upcoming birthday trip to Tasmania and the great feedback I h...

A pre Mother's Day message from me, Tamsin Millard

March 08, 2021 04:00 - 5 minutes - 4.07 MB

Hey guys! Since you said you wanted to hear more from me, I thought why not take the opportunity to send you a pre Mother's Day message. For those of you who are motherless daughter's like me, or may have lost a child, please know it is okay for you to deal with this day in whichever way suits you best. It's also important that if you are supporting someone grieving, that you reach out to check they are okay. I also chat about my upcoming birthday trip to Tasmania and the great feedback I h...

Let's Talk about Loss, with Beth French

March 04, 2021 19:00 - 25 minutes - 17.8 MB

In today's episode I talk to Beth French, founder of the UK charity 'Let's Talk about Loss'. Beth's mum passed away when she was 20 and found her grief to be both isolating and confusing. She didn't want other young people to go through the same experience, so she set up her own grief support network. We talk about what helps her to cope in the days where she still finds her grief difficult, the weird things people have said to her since her mums death and how horrendously bad bereavement ca...

Continuing Rachael's legacy, through 'You, Me and the Big C', with Steve Bland

February 25, 2021 17:00 - 25 minutes - 17.3 MB

Welcome back listeners! In today's episode I speak with Steve Bland, who lost his wife Rachael to Breast Cancer in September 2018. Rachael was a BBC newsreader and during her cancer diagnosis she set up her BBC Radio 5 Live podcast 'You Me and the Big C', to help support others in their journey. Steve talks openly about how they dealt with anticipatory grief and he tells us about the book Rachael wrote for their son Freddie, so he has memories to keep forever. We also discuss how he's navi...

Learning how to find happiness again after losing her mum to cancer, with Kathryn Hooker

February 18, 2021 13:00 - 22 minutes - 15.4 MB

In today's episode I talk with Kathryn Hooker, who you may recognise from Episode 1! Kathryn lost her mum to cancer in 2015, whilst she was at university. We talk about how she struggled with her mental health for the year after her mum's death and how important it is to find the things that make you feel better in your own grief. As motherless daughters we both have common understanding and share thoughts on how losing someone so close can often create anxiety about the death of others arou...

My grief journey Pt.1, with Tamsin Millard

February 10, 2021 08:00 - 25 minutes - 17.7 MB

Hey listeners! Welcome to the very first episode of my podcast, where I tell my own grief story. I’m joined by the lovely Kathryn Hooker, who is host of the Dead Parent Club Podcast. We talk openly and honestly about the death of my mum at 18 years old and how we can't help but sometimes feel a little bitter about being a motherless daughter. I also discuss how my grief impacted my own mental health and how I’ve now found my happy place in Sydney, Australia. You can find me on instagram...

Introduction

February 10, 2021 06:00 - 2 minutes - 1.93 MB

Hey and welcome to not so linear, the podcast that aims to normalise the topic of grief and help people feel less alone in their own journey. When I was 18, my mum died and due to our complicated relationship, my grief was difficult and unresolved. Fast forward ten years and I am now using my experience to help others! In this season I have interviewed some amazing guests, who have gone through a range of different grief journeys. Naturally there are a handful of episodes with young women ...

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