Let's Just Face It
279 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 months ago - ★★★★★ - 3 ratingsWelcome, I'm your host Rakel Colina. If you're facing challenges in your relationship, there may be hidden aspects that you haven't fully grasped yet. For years, I found myself in a toxic relationship without realizing the extent of the abuse until the day I finally walked away. Now, I'm here to assist you in identifying the abusive patterns and behaviors, but it's not solely about them. It's time to confront the issues that might be hindering your personal growth and preventing you from becoming the best version of yourself.
Ladies, together let's break down the barriers that hold you back from moving forward and embracing your best life, even in the aftermath of abuse. Remember, it's not just about seeing through their facades; it's about empowering you to overcome your own obstacles. By facing your fears, no matter how small, you can initiate significant transformations. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and liberation. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and liberation. Get ready to take charge of your life!
"Facing small fears can lead to big changes." - Rakel Colina
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This is the year I took my narcissistic ex on vacation with me
February 10, 2022 13:05 - 15 minutes - 10.6 MBIn this episode, I talk about the last vacation I took and how I unknowingly took my narcissistic ex along with us. My ex seems to still want to know where I am and with whom. Since I started spending time with someone else, he decided he needed to keep tabs on me. The funny thing is how he did it. He'll go through anyone just to get what they want and don't care who he drags along for the process. He tried to be slick and the funny thing is that I always catch him. I no longer interfere in...
62 - This is the year I took my narcissistic ex on vacation with me
February 10, 2022 13:05 - 15 minutes - 10.6 MBIn this episode, I talk about the last vacation I took and how I unknowingly took my narcissistic ex along with us. My ex seems to still want to know where I am and with whom. Since I started spending time with someone else, he decided he needed to keep tabs on me. The funny thing is how he did it. He'll go through anyone just to get what they want and don't care who he drags along for the process. He tried to be slick and the funny thing is that I always catch him. I no longer inte...
61. Embracing Solitude: 5 Ways Isolation May Help You
February 03, 2022 05:00 - 13 minutes - 9.55 MBHealing requires isolation, the problem is that we go through different childhood traumas and toxic, abusive relationships, but we have no idea that we need to isolate ourselves to heal. You need people to support you in your journey, but you need to take the time to isolate yourself to be able to process the things that are happening inside you and around you. Even though it may sound like a contradiction you need your support just as much as you need to take the time to be with yourself, b...
5 ways isolation can help you heal
February 03, 2022 05:00 - 13 minutes - 9.55 MBHealing requires isolation, the problem is that we go through different childhood traumas and toxic, abusive relationships, but we have no idea that we need to isolate ourselves to heal. You need people to support you in your journey, but you need to take the time to isolate yourself to be able to process the things that are happening inside you and around you. Even though it may sound like a contradiction you need your support just as much as you need to take the time to be with yourself, b...
61. 5 ways isolation can help you heal
February 03, 2022 05:00 - 13 minutes - 9.55 MBHealing requires isolation, the problem is that we go through different childhood traumas and toxic, abusive relationships, but we have no idea that we need to isolate ourselves to heal. You need people to support you in your journey, but you need to take the time to isolate yourself to be able to process the things that are happening inside you and around you. Even though it may sound like a contradiction you need your support just as much as you need to take the time to be with you...
60. Using abuse to create avalanches with Leticia Blaque Rose
January 27, 2022 15:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBToday's episode brings a very special guest, Leticia Blaque. We met online and I just fell in love with her story. We tend to believe that abuse is a certain way and at times we believe that it's only happening to us, but Leticia has a very different story because her story begins when she was very young. The trauma that she experienced within her own family unit took her on a spiral that affected her decisions from a very young age. She talks about how one comment from a family mem...
60. Using Abuse to Create Avalanches with Leticia Blaque Rose
January 27, 2022 15:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBToday's episode brings a very special guest, Leticia Blaque. We met online and I just fell in love with her story. We tend to believe that abuse is a certain way and at times we believe that it's only happening to us, but Leticia has a very different story because her story begins when she was very young. The trauma that she experienced within her own family unit took her on a spiral that affected her decisions from a very young age. She talks about how one comment from a family member at a...
Using abuse to create avalanches with Leticia Blaque Rose
January 27, 2022 15:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBToday's episode brings a very special guest, Leticia Blaque. We met online and I just fell in love with her story. We tend to believe that abuse is a certain way and at times we believe that it's only happening to us, but Leticia has a very different story because her story begins when she was very young. The trauma that she experienced within her own family unit took her on a spiral that affected her decisions from a very young age. She talks about how one comment from a family member at a...
He believes you deserve the abuse
January 20, 2022 15:15 - 14 minutes - 10.1 MBHe thinks it's your fault!. You deserve the abuse because you allow it. You keep putting up with the abuse you don't even realize is going on, but because of that, you allow it. Most of the time when you're in the abuse, you don't seem to quite understand what is going on. Therefore are not open to seeing the abuse because you're confused and made to feel like you're going crazy and everything is your fault. Most of these abusive behaviors go unnoticed by us because we have no idea what we'...
59. He believes you deserve the abuse
January 20, 2022 15:15 - 14 minutes - 10.1 MBHe thinks it's your fault!. You deserve the abuse because you allow it. You keep putting up with the abuse you don't even realize is going on, but because of that, you allow it. Most of the time when you're in the abuse, you don't seem to quite understand what is going on. Therefore are not open to seeing the abuse because you're confused and made to feel like you're going crazy and everything is your fault. Most of these abusive behaviors go unnoticed by us because we have no idea ...
59. He Believes You Deserve The Abuse
January 20, 2022 15:15 - 14 minutes - 10.1 MBHe thinks it's your fault! You deserve the abuse because you allow it. You keep putting up with the abuse you don't even realize is going on, but because of that, you allow it. Most of the time when you're in the abuse, you don't seem to quite understand what is going on. Therefore are not open to seeing the abuse because you're confused and made to feel like you're going crazy and everything is your fault. Most of these abusive behaviors go unnoticed by us because we have no idea what we'r...
Abuse is a choice
January 13, 2022 15:15 - 14 minutes - 9.99 MBDid you know that abusive behavior is a choice? Think about this. You think it's because they can't control themselves and that's why they act with you like that. Right? Well, let me ask you this, how is it that they're not abusive at their jobs or with their friends? Or just when they go out in public? It is as simple as that. They most likely will be pretending to be something totally different to the outside world than what they're portraying or playing inside the home. Abusive behavior ...
58. Abuse is a choice
January 13, 2022 15:15 - 14 minutes - 9.99 MBDid you know that abusive behavior is a choice? Think about this. You think it's because they can't control themselves and that's why they act with you like that. Right? Well, let me ask you this, how is it that they're not abusive at their jobs or with their friends? Or just when they go out in public? It is as simple as that. They most likely will be pretending to be something totally different to the outside world than what they're portraying or playing inside the home. Abusive b...
58. Abuse Is a Choice: Empowering Yourself to Break Free
January 13, 2022 15:15 - 14 minutes - 9.99 MBDid you know that abusive behavior is a choice? Think about this. You think it's because they can't control themselves and that's why they act with you like that. Right? Well, let me ask you this, how is it that they're not abusive at their jobs or with their friends? Or just when they go out in public? It is as simple as that. They most likely will be pretending to be something totally different to the outside world than what they're portraying or playing inside the home. Abusive behavior ...
57. Know your self-worth
January 06, 2022 21:40 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MBToday, I'm going to talk to you about yourself. This is the perfect time of the year to go into this subject because it's a new year, new you kind of deal. And the first thing that you have to do this year is figuring out how to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, if you don't accept yourself, if you don't value yourself, nobody else is going. When you're in a toxic relationship you're being brainwashed into thinking that you are the problem, but you have to learn to recognize...
Know your self-worth
January 06, 2022 21:40 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MBToday, I'm going to talk to you about yourself. This is the perfect time of the year to go into this subject because it's a new year, new you kind of deal. And the first thing that you have to do this year is figuring out how to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, if you don't accept yourself, if you don't value yourself, nobody else is going. When you're in a toxic relationship you're being brainwashed into thinking that you are the problem, but you have to learn to recognize that yo...
57. Embracing Self-Worth: A Journey to Overcoming Toxic Relations
January 06, 2022 21:40 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MBToday, I'm going to talk to you about your self-love. This is the perfect time of the year to go into this subject because it's a new year, a new you kind of deal. And the first thing that you have to do this year is figure out how to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, if you don't accept yourself, if you don't value yourself, nobody else is going. When you're in a toxic relationship you're being brainwashed into thinking that you are the problem, but you have to learn to recognize t...
Are you ready for 2022?
December 30, 2021 05:00 - 11 minutes - 8.03 MBYou've made it! Today is December 30th. We're just two days away from 2022. Are you ready? Have you already started planning what you're going to do for 2022? I definitely have tried, but vacations at the end of the year didn't help me. I am now coming with a vengeance to attack my goals come January 1st. In this episode, I talk about the 5 steps I am going to be using to start the year the right way and I invite you to do the same. After the pandemic hit and everything came, all of my habi...
56. Are you ready for 2022?
December 30, 2021 05:00 - 11 minutes - 8.03 MBYou've made it! Today is December 30th. We're just two days away from 2022. Are you ready? Have you already started planning what you're going to do for 2022? I definitely have tried, but vacations at the end of the year didn't help me. I am now coming with a vengeance to attack my goals come January 1st. In this episode, I talk about the 5 steps I am going to be using to start the year the right way and I invite you to do the same. After the pandemic hit and everything came, all of...
56. Embracing Change: Setting Goals for a New Year
December 30, 2021 05:00 - 11 minutes - 8.03 MBYou've made it! Today is December 30th. We're just two days away from 2022. Are you ready? Have you already started planning what you're going to do for 2022? I definitely have tried, but vacations at the end of the year didn't help me. I am now coming with a vengeance to attack my goals come January 1st. In this episode, I talk about the 5 steps I am going to be using to start the year the right way and I invite you to do the same. After the pandemic hit and everything came, all of my habi...
An abusive partner can have a good behavior but it's all an act
December 23, 2021 18:32 - 17 minutes - 12 MBIt becomes difficult to understand your partner because you think you are in a healthy relationship and it's easier to excuse the behavior than to acknowledge the red flag. Many times during my toxic relationship, I had to make excuses for what was going on because I knew it was not normal, but I did not recognize what it was. The abusive and unhealthy behavior escalates slowly. You're going to feel that something isn't right, but keep asking yourself "why is going on? I feel something is g...
55. Unmasking the Act: The Deceptive Behavior of an Abuser
December 23, 2021 18:32 - 17 minutes - 12 MBIt becomes difficult to understand your partner because you think you are in a healthy relationship and it's easier to excuse the behavior than to acknowledge the red flag. Many times during my toxic relationship, I had to make excuses for what was going on because I knew it was not normal, but I did not recognize what it was. The abusive and unhealthy behavior escalates slowly. You're going to feel that something isn't right, but keep asking yourself "Why is going on? I feel something is g...
55. An abusive partner can have a good behavior but it's all an act
December 23, 2021 18:32 - 17 minutes - 12 MBIt becomes difficult to understand your partner because you think you are in a healthy relationship and it's easier to excuse the behavior than to acknowledge the red flag. Many times during my toxic relationship, I had to make excuses for what was going on because I knew it was not normal, but I did not recognize what it was. The abusive and unhealthy behavior escalates slowly. You're going to feel that something isn't right, but keep asking yourself "why is going on? I feel someth...
Once Upon That Time
December 16, 2021 05:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MBIf you're new here, I was in an abusive relationship and I had no idea that it was abuse until the day I left. Therefore I have made it my mission to help women understand the toxic traits and techniques of an abuser because if I didn't know, there's hundreds, if not thousands, or maybe even more women out there that are in a toxic, abusive relationship and they have no idea what's going on. They're being blind-sighted because the one thing that is common in an abusive relationship is that t...
54. Once Upon That Time: When You Know, You Know
December 16, 2021 05:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MBIf you're new here, I was in an abusive relationship and I had no idea that it was abuse until the day I left. Therefore I have made it my mission to help women understand the toxic traits and techniques of an abuser because if I didn't know, there are hundreds if not thousands, or maybe even more women out there that are in a toxic, abusive relationship and they have no idea what's going on. They're being blind-sighted because the one thing that is common in an abusive relationship is that ...
54. Once Upon That Time
December 16, 2021 05:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MBIf you're new here, I was in an abusive relationship and I had no idea that it was abuse until the day I left. Therefore I have made it my mission to help women understand the toxic traits and techniques of an abuser because if I didn't know, there's hundreds, if not thousands, or maybe even more women out there that are in a toxic, abusive relationship and they have no idea what's going on. They're being blind-sighted because the one thing that is common in an abusive relationship i...
53. Overcoming trauma after emotional abuse
December 09, 2021 19:40 - 15 minutes - 10.8 MBWhen you have been in a certain place for a long enough time to make it feel comfortable when you're not really comfortable because it is familiar and we tend to get familiarized with things and then just succumb to whatever it is and that is when this comes out. How did I know that my relationship was abusive? One of the reasons why I recognized that my relationship was abusive was the fact that I started journaling. I didn't start journaling till after I left the relationship. I d...
Overcoming trauma after emotional abuse
December 09, 2021 19:40 - 15 minutes - 10.8 MBWhen you have been in a certain place for a long enough time to make it feel comfortable when you're not really comfortable because it is familiar and we tend to get familiarized with things and then just succumb to whatever it is and that is when this comes out. How did I know that my relationship was abusive? One of the reasons why I recognized that my relationship was abusive was the fact that I started journaling. I didn't start journaling till after I left the relationship. I did write...
53. Unveiling the Journey: Overcome Trauma After Emotional Abuse
December 09, 2021 19:40 - 15 minutes - 10.8 MBWhen you have been in a certain place for a long enough time to make it feel comfortable when you're not really comfortable because it is familiar and we tend to get familiarized with things and then just succumb to whatever it is and that is when this comes out. How did I know that my relationship was abusive? One of the reasons why I recognized that my relationship was abusive was the fact that I started journaling. I didn't start journaling till after I left the relationship. I did write...
52. Lessons Learned this year: Navigating Abusive Relationships
December 02, 2021 21:35 - 16 minutes - 11.5 MBDuring this year I have learned a very important lesson as well. The more I talk about toxic and abusive relationships to help you understand that you were in an abusive relationship and help you with the tools to get moving away from this relationship. I have also learned a few lessons myself. Going from a toxic abusive relationship into a healthy relationship is not going to be as easy as you once thought it was You have to unlearn all the behaviors that you have learned. You have to chang...
52. Lessons learned this year from a toxic relationship journey
December 02, 2021 21:35 - 16 minutes - 11.5 MBDuring this year I have learned a very important lesson as well. The more I talk about toxic and abusive relationships to help you understand that you were in an abusive relationship and help you with the tools to get moving away from this relationship. I have also learned a few lessons myself. Going from a toxic abusive relationship into a healthy relationship is not going to be as easy as you once thought it was You have to unlearn all the behaviors that you have learned. You have ...
Lessons learned this year from a toxic relationship journey
December 02, 2021 21:35 - 16 minutes - 11.5 MBDuring this year I have learned a very important lesson as well. The more I talk about toxic and abusive relationships to help you understand that you were in an abusive relationship and help you with the tools to get moving away from this relationship. I have also learned a few lessons myself. Going from a toxic abusive relationship into a healthy relationship is not going to be as easy as you once thought it was You have to unlearn all the behaviors that you have learned. You have to chang...
The seven recovery stages of abuse with Brie Robertson
November 25, 2021 05:00 - 18 minutes - 13 MBIn this episode I bring along Brie Robertson, she talks about her story of physical & emotional abuse while also telling us about the 7 recovery stages of abuse. I was looking at my TikTok one day and I found her, immediately fell in love with her content. I reached out to her because there was one TikTok that actually hit me and I wanted her to share this with you. There's a lot of people talking about narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse and psychological abuse, but everybody has a differen...
51. The 7 Recovery Stages of Abuse with Brie Robertson
November 25, 2021 05:00 - 18 minutes - 13 MBIn this episode I bring along Brie Robertson, she talks about her story of physical & emotional abuse while also telling us about the 7 recovery stages of abuse. I was looking at my TikTok one day and I found her, immediately fell in love with her content. I reached out to her because there was one TikTok that actually hit me and I wanted her to share this with you. There are a lot of people talking about narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, and psychological abuse, but everybody has a diffe...
51. The seven recovery stages of abuse with Brie Robertson
November 25, 2021 05:00 - 18 minutes - 13 MBIn this episode I bring along Brie Robertson, she talks about her story of physical & emotional abuse while also telling us about the 7 recovery stages of abuse. I was looking at my TikTok one day and I found her, immediately fell in love with her content. I reached out to her because there was one TikTok that actually hit me and I wanted her to share this with you. There's a lot of people talking about narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse and psychological abuse, but everybody has a ...
Beware of this trick for your mental health
November 18, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 10.6 MBYou're starting to see past this and you're starting to see them for who they are. Now you're stuck because now you see what you haven't been wanting to see and you're freaking out because now you don't know what to do. You're trying to figure it out. How to move all these different pieces, but you don't want him to know. They know, somehow they know before you tell them and their trick is that they're going to play it along. Like they don't know anything and they're going to be the perfect...
50. Escaping the Toxic Trick: Safeguarding Your Mental Health
November 18, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 10.6 MBYou're starting to see past this and you're starting to see them for who they are. Now you're stuck because now you see what you haven't been wanting to see and you're freaking out because now you don't know what to do. You're trying to figure it out. How to move all these different pieces, but you don't want him to know. They know, somehow they know before you tell them and their trick is that they're going to play it along. Like they don't know anything and they're going to be the perfect...
50. Beware of this trick for your mental health
November 18, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 10.6 MBYou're starting to see past this and you're starting to see them for who they are. Now you're stuck because now you see what you haven't been wanting to see and you're freaking out because now you don't know what to do. You're trying to figure it out. How to move all these different pieces, but you don't want him to know. They know, somehow they know before you tell them and their trick is that they're going to play it along. Like they don't know anything and they're going to be the...
49. Abuse Is Not Love: Recognizing & Leaving The Abuse Cycle
November 11, 2021 21:45 - 14 minutes - 10 MBWe believe that relationships are just hard and that we have to keep struggling through them and that is not the case. Abusive relationships are very different from hard relationships and if you don't recognize that your relationship is an abusive relationship and you work towards either moving out or understanding where you are to take the correct action, it can actually be harmful to you. It is not easy to understand, and because it is a cycle, it has an on and off button and it goes up a...
49. Abuse is not love: learn to tell the difference
November 11, 2021 21:45 - 14 minutes - 10 MBWe believe that relationships are just hard and that we have to keep struggling through them and that is not the case. Abusive relationships are very different from hard relationships and if you don't recognize that your relationship is an abusive relationship and you work towards either moving out or understanding where you are to take the correct action, it can actually be harmful to you. It is not easy to understand, and because it is a cycle, it has an on and off button and it g...
Abuse is not love: learn to tell the difference
November 11, 2021 21:45 - 14 minutes - 10 MBWe believe that relationships are just hard and that we have to keep struggling through them and that is not the case. Abusive relationships are very different from hard relationships and if you don't recognize that your relationship is an abusive relationship and you work towards either moving out or understanding where you are to take the correct action, it can actually be harmful to you. It is not easy to understand, and because it is a cycle, it has an on and off button and it goes up a...
48. I think I can change him
November 04, 2021 09:00 - 13 minutes - 9.28 MBIf you've been in a toxic, abusive relationship for any amount of time you've had this mentality for a while now, and you probably already even tried to change this person. Now, let me ask you this: how many times have you tried to change him? What are the things that you have done to change him? Next question. Have you been able to change anything at all in their habits, their personality, anything at all? No. I know because these people with toxic abusive mentalities, narcissists,...
I think I can change him
November 04, 2021 09:00 - 13 minutes - 9.28 MBIf you've been in a toxic, abusive relationship for any amount of time you've had this mentality for a while now, and you probably already even tried to change this person. Now, let me ask you this: how many times have you tried to change him? What are the things that you have done to change him? Next question. Have you been able to change anything at all in their habits, their personality, anything at all? No. I know because these people with toxic abusive mentalities, narcissists, don't c...
48. I Think I Can Change Him: Part II
November 04, 2021 09:00 - 13 minutes - 9.28 MBIf you've been in a toxic, abusive relationship for any amount of time you've had this mentality for a while now, and you probably already even tried to change this person. Now, let me ask you this: How many times have you tried to change him? What are the things that you have done to change him? Next question. Have you been able to change anything at all in their habits, their personality, anything at all? No. I know because these people with toxic abusive mentalities, narcissists, don't c...
47. I Think Can Change for Him: Part I
October 28, 2021 14:00 - 14 minutes - 9.9 MBI felt I needed to become somebody different because of how badly I had been hurt and how broken my mind and my heart were from everything that I had been through. There were a lot of things that I did not have clear, and I know that there are a lot of you out there going through this right now as well or have been through it and can relate. I thought that me being in my forties, it would be easier to meet somebody. Therefore, when this person showed back up, I said, it's like, "ok this is...
47. I think I can change for him. Part I
October 28, 2021 14:00 - 14 minutes - 9.9 MBI felt I needed to become somebody different because of how badly I had been hurt and how broken my mind and my heart were from everything that I had been through. There were a lot of things that I did not have clear, and I know that there's a lot of you out there going through this right now as well or have been through it and can relate. I thought that me being in my forties, it would be easier to meet somebody. Therefore, when this person showed back up, I said, it's like, "ok t...
I think I can change for him. Part I
October 28, 2021 14:00 - 14 minutes - 9.9 MBI felt I needed to become somebody different because of how badly I had been hurt and how broken my mind and my heart were from everything that I had been through. There were a lot of things that I did not have clear, and I know that there's a lot of you out there going through this right now as well or have been through it and can relate. I thought that me being in my forties, it would be easier to meet somebody. Therefore, when this person showed back up, I said, it's like, "ok this is f...
I taught my children how to lie, to stay safe from my abuser and his flying monkeys.
October 15, 2021 02:00 - 13 minutes - 9.42 MBI didn't realize while I was in it, that I was in an abusive relationship and I had learned to lie my way through the relationship. Through the lies, I had found where I was safe. He didn't have to find out about certain things, and it was okay because I wasn't doing anything bad. I was just holding off from having a big discussion for having an argument or a fight with him. But I was lying. I was lying to him and I was lying to myself all the time. It became so common and so much a part o...
46. I taught my children how to lie, to stay safe from my abuser and his flying monkeys.
October 15, 2021 02:00 - 13 minutes - 9.42 MBI didn't realize while I was in it, that I was in an abusive relationship and I had learned to lie my way through the relationship. Through the lies, I had found where I was safe. He didn't have to find out about certain things, and it was okay because I wasn't doing anything bad. I was just holding off from having a big discussion for having an argument or a fight with him. But I was lying. I was lying to him and I was lying to myself all the time. It became so common and so much ...
46. Teaching My Children How to Lie: Finding Safety After Leaving
October 15, 2021 02:00 - 13 minutes - 9.42 MBI didn't realize while I was in it, that I was in an abusive relationship and I had learned to lie my way through the relationship. Through the lies, I had found where I was safe. But I was lying. I was lying to him and I was lying to myself all the time. It became so common and so much a part of my life that I didn't realize every time I came up with a lie. I even lied to cover his ass. I lied to the people that were around me that knew that I was in an abusive relationship and did not e...