How She Really Does It
977 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 months ago - ★★★★★ - 200 ratingsHow She Really Does It, is a place for you to learn how to create the life you want. It is the place where inspiration + possibility meet.
Here you can create your life, your way in a REAL way that fits you, where you belong.
This show is a place for you to learn, grow, create and tweak your life. The show is a place to see the glimmer of possibilities from other people's experiences and/or research.
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Travel + busy schedules
April 14, 2023 09:00 - 39 minutes - 36.1 MBIn this episode, I share my travel checklist and how I try to travel in a way that supports my schedule. I share examples of how you can swirl social responsibilities with other life responsibilities while on a trip and the various methods that I use to support myself so that I can travel and be at my best simultaneously. If you're traveling in the near (or far) future, you don't want to miss this! Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3moYyeR
Living the dream
April 07, 2023 09:00 - 30 minutes - 29.1 MBLiving the dream does not mean living in the promised land without any problems. It is both a challenge and an accomplishment worth celebrating. In this episode, I share some examples of dream scenarios and the promise of said dreams. I unpack the reality that our dreams are not always what we thought they would be, and why this is actually beautiful. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3JXuyhR
Allowing wonder to make a mark
March 31, 2023 09:00 - 31 minutes - 30 MBWith the power of retrospect, I see how lucky I am that I was curious enough in my life to find mentors, curious enough to be a collegiate swimmer, and curious enough to change when it was time. All of our experiences add up, and you never know what doors, connections, and gifts will come from a simple act of curiosity. This week, I share the curious results that unfolded from being open to possibility in the hopes that it inspires you to be open to possibility too. Get full show...
The truth about parenting
March 24, 2023 09:00 - 29 minutes - 27.8 MBBeing a parent is not for the faint of heart. Many of us find that parenthood isn’t the fairytale sold to us by our culture, and when it really gets hard, we tend to ask ourselves a lot of the same questions: Am I doing it right? Will I damage my kid? Am I a bad parent? This week, I share the importance of using your values to pilot your parenting style and how to make decisions by loving yourself. Hear my own struggles with parenting at every stage of my children’s lives and learn all...
The importance of being a newbie + play
March 17, 2023 09:00 - 28 minutes - 27.5 MBAs children we are encouraged to play as a means of exploring and integrating our world. It may sound small, but as adults, it is the fun, the play, the little success of hitting the ball just right, that then make room for larger successes within your life and your greater community. In this episode I share a recent adventure and how it challenged me to invite play and imperfection into my day-to-day routine. I indulge in the newbie-mentality and share how giving myself permission to ...
Creating space for work travel
March 10, 2023 10:00 - 38 minutes - 35.7 MBTravel can bring so many benefits. It can encourage you to connect with yourself as well as connecting with others. But when you travel, how do you take care of yourself? In this episode, I share some key learnings that can come from travel and the importance of creating downtime for yourself during and after traveling. Hear what travel looks like for me and why I enjoy it so much, and why it is completely possible to create space for both meaningful work and a meaningful life. G...
Email Overload
March 03, 2023 10:00 - 42 minutes - 38.6 MBSo many of us have text, email, social media, and other communication mediums on our phones. With all of these methods of communication, there is an invisible, unspoken demand that we need to respond to everyone right away, and it leaves us feeling overwhelmed. Discover how to manage email overload in your life. Learn why it is your responsibility to teach people how to treat you, why not everybody will agree with or like your boundaries, and why it is so important to do this work. ...
Affordability
February 24, 2023 10:00 - 43 minutes - 39.3 MBFind out where your beliefs and attitudes toward money come from and how to get clear and real with yourself about what your money is for. Hear some obstacles you might come up against when it comes to money and how the concept of permission-based spending can change your relationship with money. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3IK804U
Hope
February 17, 2023 10:00 - 40 minutes - 36.7 MBI have recently shared about the fact that I’ve been struggling, and that life is challenging. But the reason I can share when I’m struggling is that I have hope that these challenging times will pass. This week, I share the importance of being real and truthful with ourselves in times of struggle, and not judging yourself as you own your story. Hear why having hope is so important to wellbeing, some ways you can cultivate hope in your life, and the importance of actively doing so. ...
Life is challenging
February 10, 2023 10:00 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MBWhen life is challenging, it can be easy to slip into thinking that you are alone in dealing with the challenges. But thinking in this way adds so much extra pain to an already painful situation. In this episode, I share the key to accepting that life is challenging and how to do so in a way that is caring and nurturing toward yourself. Learn how to ensure you are always giving yourself what you need in any moment when up against challenges. Get full show notes and more informati...
I’m struggling
February 03, 2023 10:00 - 34 minutes - 32 MBWhen we are in our own struggle, we forget that everybody else has struggles too. We talk about the end result, but we don’t share the messy middle. So in this episode, I share a recent experience where I struggled, why it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you when you struggle, and how to manage your mind in a way that doesn't take up your energy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3XHomQS
You aren’t being mean by having boundaries
January 27, 2023 10:00 - 21 minutes - 21.9 MBThis week, find out why we need boundaries in our lives and why you are not being mean by having them, even if they inconvenience someone else. I’m helping you uncover the beliefs you have tied up in the boundaries and sharing some examples of beliefs that prevent people from setting the boundaries they want to set in their lives. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3D0fU6Y
The myth of confidence
January 20, 2023 10:00 - 27 minutes - 26.3 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing some myths about confidence and giving you some quality questions to ask yourself in the face of vulnerability. Discover what confidence comes down to, the importance of cultivating confidence in your relationship with yourself, and the key to cultivating self-confidence in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3w6OuYY
Sharing with others
January 13, 2023 10:00 - 13 minutes - 15.7 MBWhen it comes to sharing our stories, we need to do so with people who have earned the right to hear them. But we also need to do so with people who have the capacity to hear them. Join me this week to discover the beauty of asking whether someone has the capacity to hear your story. Find out why it is vulnerable to ask somebody what their capacity is and how I learned the importance of this work. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3VHFQe2
We aren’t supposed to go it alone
January 06, 2023 10:00 - 19 minutes - 19.9 MBAs humans, we are not supposed to go it alone. Many of us do, but we are social beings and wired for connection. We need teams. And most of us have them, even if we don’t see them. In this episode, I’m diving into what team support and invisible systems look like. Learn how to develop an awareness of your own teams and why we all need people to help and support us in solving problems when they arise. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3VBMBy0
The cost of verbal vomiting
December 30, 2022 10:00 - 26 minutes - 25.9 MBVerbal vomiting is a great strategy to uncover what you have pushed down. But, like with anything, something that can be a valuable practice can also have a huge cost. In this episode, I’m sharing more about verbal vomiting, what it is, why it’s important, and the cost of doing it at work. I’m showing you how to notice the impact it has on others so you can create an awareness of how it’s impacting you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3hocmnz
The Vulnerability of White Space
December 23, 2022 10:00 - 25 minutes - 24.9 MBDo you feel like you are constantly busy in your life? We all need downtime, and having white space in our lives is so important. There is tremendous vulnerability in white space, and we may find this difficult, but great things come from vulnerability. This week, I’m showing you how I have learned to be comfortable in white space, how there is so much beauty on the other side, and how to start managing your mind with intention and awareness. Get full show notes and more information he...
Holiday obligations and expectations
December 16, 2022 10:00 - 26 minutes - 25.9 MBThe holidays are a stressful time of year for many people. Maybe it’s the endless purchasing and giving of gifts. Maybe it’s the agony of having to go back to your family of origin. Maybe it’s the family traditions that you have just always done but never really thought about. We have been culturally programmed to approach the holidays in a certain way, but this doesn’t always suit us. It's time that we started approaching the holidays without the obligations, and this week, I'm showing you ...
Unnecessary suffering
December 09, 2022 10:00 - 21 minutes - 21.5 MBJust because we can do hard things doesn’t mean we are always supposed to do them. This week I’m sharing some examples of unnecessary suffering that you may have experienced in your own life and where you might be continuing these unhelpful patterns of behavior. Find out why even though you can do hard things, not everything has to be hard, and how to give yourself permission to eliminate unnecessary suffering in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/...
It's time to stop hustling with Jadah Sellner
December 02, 2022 10:00 - 58 minutes - 51.5 MBHustle culture isn’t working for anyone, and the great news is you can opt out of it and instead, create a life that is fulfilling while also doing meaningful work. That is exactly what this week’s guest did and she's here to talk about. Jadah Sellner is a bestselling author, business coach, international keynote speaker, TEDx presenter, poet, and podcast host. Tune in to hear us discuss how to create a business you love without ignoring the values you have and what really matters to y...
Your past doesn’t have to create your future
November 25, 2022 10:00 - 23 minutes - 23.6 MBIn this episode, I’m showing you why your past doesn’t have to create your future and the problem with hanging onto the story that it does. I’m showing you how to tune in to your own agency and desires to establish what you really need, why everything is learnable, and the key to creating what you desire in life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3NPr3f5
When you are great, and others are NOT...
November 18, 2022 10:00 - 32 minutes - 30.6 MBIn this episode, I’m showing you how to hold space for those who are having a difficult time and what that means. I’m diving deeper into the pitfalls and boundaries around holding space and being in an environment where someone may be suffering, and showing you how to own your experience when you are in a good place but others are not. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3sURplY
We are not okay
November 11, 2022 10:00 - 33 minutes - 31.3 MBJoin me this week and find out why it is okay not to be okay right now, and why it doesn’t mean you are weak, ill, or doing something wrong. I’m showing you how to meet yourself where you are, acknowledge your own status and take care of yourself, and sharing the importance of giving yourself permission to feel your feelings. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3gQ0v0B
The other ending (we don’t think about)
November 04, 2022 09:00 - 25 minutes - 25.1 MBIn this episode, I’m showing you how to start looking for other possible endings to the things you want in your life and giving you a new perspective to help you overcome the loss of what didn’t happen. Discover some key learnings you can implement to help you overcome when something doesn’t happen that you want, and how to start seeing alternative outcomes that you aren’t currently thinking about. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3SHdxe7
Integration
October 28, 2022 09:00 - 38 minutes - 35.8 MBIn this episode, I’m showing you how to bust the old stories and beliefs you have about yourself and replace them with new ones. Discover what exactly it takes to integrate what you’ve learned, how to remind yourself over and over about what you’re committing to believe about yourself, and how to allow yourself to be in your true beliefs so you can create the results you want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3ggo5Dz
Magical endings
October 21, 2022 09:00 - 32 minutes - 30.3 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing what meaningful work really looks like and the importance of letting go of the magical endings and happily-ever-afters. I’m giving you some examples of magical thinking, the problem with stealth expectations, and where you can really find purpose and meaning in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3EUZyhK
What do you need to overcome your anxiety?
October 14, 2022 09:00 - 27 minutes - 26.5 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing more about a recent experience where I had some anxiety that caught me by surprise. Discover 3 key learnings from my recent solo trip to Italy, some effective tools to help you the next time you experience resistance or anxiety, and how to focus on the next step you can take in a situation where you feel anxious. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3MrgG0c
Key Learnings from 16 years of HSRDI
October 07, 2022 09:00 - 54 minutes - 43.5 MBHow She Really Does It is celebrating its 16th birthday, and to celebrate, I am joined this week by the woman behind the podcast: Trudi Roth. Trudi is a writer, community leader, and meditation teacher. She is an incredible woman and long-time friend of mine, so join us this week to hear more about her and her amazing work, the story of where How She Really Does It began, and the impact we have had upon each other’s lives. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bi...
Wasting time (on vacation)
September 30, 2022 09:00 - 28 minutes - 27.3 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing what can happen when we finally have the space to rest and how to deal with your brain telling you all the things you should or shouldn't be doing or that you are wasting time. Discover the importance of tranquility and how to get comfortable with it, and the importance of having space to relish in the feeling of doing nothing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3xW9AuD
What do I need?
September 23, 2022 09:00 - 25 minutes - 24.6 MBHow often do you stop yourself from doing something because you think other people aren’t allowing you to do it? Where in your life do you not give yourself your own permission? This week, I'm encouraging you to own your voice and put forward what you need, regardless of what other people think. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3QWBzkF
The highlight reel
September 16, 2022 09:00 - 23 minutes - 23.1 MBListen in this week as I share the concept of the highlight reel and show you where it might show up in your life. I’m showing you why we need to stop judging ourselves and comparing our lives to what we see in other people’s highlight reels, and why what you see in the highlight reels is always only part of the story. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3S4FVXE
Suitcase + Boundaries + Tension
September 09, 2022 09:00 - 21 minutes - 22 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing the metaphor of a suitcase and how this can help you understand how to manage boundaries. Discover how to get comfortable with the uncomfortable, accept that there is always going to be tension when it comes to managing boundaries, and how to take the appropriate lessons from every situation. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3evJ5Fy
Flowing with life vs. struggling to survive
September 02, 2022 09:00 - 21 minutes - 21.5 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing a metaphor from the pool to help you with flowing with life vs. struggling to survive in your own life. I’m showing you how to give yourself the space to breathe and the importance of doing so, and how to develop the skill sets necessary to get into the flow of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3bSMMUZ
Create a relationship with yourself
August 26, 2022 09:00 - 18 minutes - 19.2 MBJoin me this week as I’m sharing some ways you can develop trust and create a better relationship with yourself. Hear why learning to be reliable for ourselves is not something most of us have been taught to do, and how to learn to cultivate more trust with yourself and always have your own back. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3CbdanA
The Summer of 11
August 19, 2022 09:00 - 17 minutes - 18.3 MBIn this episode, I’m helping you get perspective on what you’re really desiring and longing for in your life and showing you how to take agency over your life. Discover some ways of incorporating those carefree elements into your daily structure to give you the freedom and relief you crave from the summer of 11, and the benefits of doing so. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3PtdmSj
What’s your responsibility?
August 12, 2022 09:00 - 18 minutes - 19.3 MBJoin me this week as I share some tips and guidance to help you if you feel like it’s your job to rescue everyone and solve everyone else’s problems. Learn how to stop indulging in other people’s responsibilities and focus only on your own, and some great quality questions to ask yourself to help with this work. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3QhlpST
What’s wrong with me?
August 05, 2022 09:00 - 30 minutes - 28.9 MBIn this episode, I’m helping you create an awareness of what you need right now, so you can develop the capacity to deal with any situation. We’re unpacking another way to approach the question ‘What’s wrong with me?’ and showing you how to give yourself what you need right now to fill yourself up. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3d5FjlF
You can do hard things…does it mean you have to?
July 29, 2022 09:00 - 16 minutes - 18.1 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing what it might look like to make things harder than they need to be and showing you why just because you can do hard things, doesn’t mean you have to. Hear the reasons we might make things harder for ourselves and why there are so many problems with doing so. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3cQKdTu
The chosen one
July 22, 2022 09:00 - 17 minutes - 18.7 MBThis week, I’m encouraging you to let go of the story that there are people who are successful and people who are not, and start seeing why everybody has things that they are going through. I’m showing you how to realize that we are all living paradoxes, and helping you shine a light on things you may not see in others. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3ySfzAd
Allowing money to support you
July 15, 2022 09:00 - 25 minutes - 25.2 MBThis week I’m sharing a useful tool to help you manage your finances and have the money set aside to buy things that light you up. I’m showing you how to get into the practice of putting money aside for the things you want, and why it can be truly fun to spend the money you have set aside for yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3yFhTdV
Space to achieve
July 08, 2022 09:00 - 20 minutes - 21 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing an example of what is possible when we have the mental, emotional, and physical space to try something that may be outside of what we practice. Discover the the importance of committing to the best-case scenario, how to unpack the obstacles you see, and why we should always give ourselves space to achieve. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3NLlkoP
What if it could be easy?
July 01, 2022 09:00 - 21 minutes - 21.5 MBListen in this week as I encourage you to consider what you can make easy so you have the energy, resilience, and wherewithal to get through the hard. Hear why just because you can do hard things doesn’t mean you have to, and the importance of knowing when to work on the things you need to overcome and when you can allow things to be easy. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3a1F3ml
Windows of possibility
June 24, 2022 09:00 - 38 minutes - 35.2 MBHow do you want to live your life? What do you want life to look like? In this episode, I’m sharing the power of windows of possibility and how opening up to them can create a huge change in your life. I’m sharing some experiences of this in my own life and encouraging you to open up to windows of possibility in yours. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3Acjo5R
Stop waiting for someday
June 17, 2022 09:00 - 28 minutes - 27.6 MBWhat are you waiting for? So often, we know what we want, but we tell ourselves, “Someday, but not right now.” On today’s show, I’m sharing how to see the specific areas you’re holding back in your life, what you want to take action on, and why simply making decisions about what’s important to you is the most amazing catalyst for taking extraordinary care of yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3mNGN5A
Disappointment keeps us small
June 10, 2022 09:00 - 30 minutes - 29 MBWe don’t ask for what we want because we think it’s not important. We think we’re not important, and we are so afraid of vulnerability that we don’t allow ourselves to have space for joy. So in this episode, I’m sharing why you are innately worthy exactly as you are. I’m showing you how to stop playing small, start taking up space in your own life, and start asking for what you want. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3H2NIRs
Being a taker of our bodies
June 03, 2022 09:00 - 37 minutes - 34.3 MBI’m sharing what it looks like to be a taker of our bodies, and some examples of how to be a giver instead. I’m sharing some ways you can give to your bodies and take exquisite care of yourself, and how to ignore the cultural programming and prioritize what feels good for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3lZzGql
Turning 50
May 27, 2022 09:00 - 33 minutes - 31.6 MBIn this episode, I’m sharing what I’ve learned over recent years and some of the changes I'm making in my life as I turn 50. Hear how I have started to become the woman who is taking extraordinary care of herself, how I stopped buying into societal expectations, and why you should stop waiting to be found and start owning what you want in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/38IhBKt
I was wrong, burnout is for real
May 20, 2022 09:00 - 21 minutes - 21.8 MBDo you take care of yourself the way you should? In this episode, I’m sharing my learnings over the years and a new way to look at burnout. I’m exploring what you can do to replenish yourself before you get to burnout, and where to start when it comes to taking care of yourself to avoid burnout. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3LrGiYT
What to do when you feel overwhelmed
May 13, 2022 09:00 - 20 minutes - 21.3 MBDo you ever feel overwhelmed? So many of us experience overwhelm and end up over-functioning as a result. In this episode, I’m sharing my biggest lesson on overwhelm and how I learned what to do when feeling overwhelmed. If you feel like you’re not coping with the stress, you need to listen to this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/3stDh3u
Other people’s judgments
May 06, 2022 09:00 - 15 minutes - 17.3 MBDo you worry about what other people think of you? Do you let other people’s judgments hold you back from doing what you want? In this episode, hear the reasons we focus on other people’s judgments, and why trying to get other people to change the way they see you doesn’t work. I’m showing you how to stop playing small and how to use other people’s judgment to create opportunities in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://bit.ly/37dsvXC