Friendshipping!
296 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 169 ratingsHow do I quit feeling so jealous of successful friends? Can I befriend my ex? Should I ask my coworker why she unfollowed me on Twitter?
Every week Jenn & Trin answer your questions about friendship! We try to advise on the tricky stuff that's making you feel weird.
Write us your questions at [email protected], and visit FriendshippingPodcast.com for more info. Remember that we're not therapists or doctors, although we have spent plenty of time with them.
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Episodes
The Width, Depth, Length, and the Girth of a Friendship
January 13, 2017 01:42 - 26 minutes - 24.5 MBALRIGHT, we went for it. This episode is about coping with the end of a friendship. You may not want to close the door, but it could just be friggin' time. This is all about what to do, what the heck not to do, how to write therapeutic letters, how to heal, and finally, what the hell happens after it's over. This is all about leaving someone behind without getting haunted by the ol' friendship ghost and you know what? WE AIN'T AFRAID OF NO GHOSTS.
Silver Medals and Hulk Hogan
January 05, 2017 19:52 - 29 minutes - 27.5 MBHave you ever felt like a runner-up in a friendship? Second best? Not good enough for your own pal? We discuss "ranking systems" in relationships. Trin invents a name and rich backstory for one of our askers. Hang in there, Clarisse.
Howdy, Partners
December 30, 2016 22:06 - 27 minutes - 24.8 MBIt's the taint of the year and we're back with advice! This one's all about friendship as it relates to romantic partners. "My girlfriend is better to her friends than they are to her!" and "I've been seeing this guy for a few months. We're in dating mode, but I want to be his friend." Some bonus advice from us to you: Never forget that you are more genetically similar to a banana than your own sibling. That isn't true at all, but it is fun to say.
Engage Hobbit Mode
December 22, 2016 21:06 - 23 minutes - 21.2 MBThis week we get into doing friendship while you're depressed. Should you muscle through and hang out with friends, or go into Hobbit Mode? We suggest BOTH! Also, Jenn has a head cold that is just bad. So bad! It's okay to laugh at her pain.
Trolls and Email Etiquette
December 15, 2016 16:52 - 27 minutes - 25.5 MBNot to be all braggy, but this might be our best episode. Ever? Yep. It's full of sound advice for handling friends who show thoughtless Internet behavior on Twitter and email. And a surprise twist: Trin can do a celebrity impression that she's just been like, selfishly keeping in her back pocket this whole time. What! YEAH.
Ghost Stories and a Communication Breakdown
December 09, 2016 01:21 - 25 minutes - 23.6 MBGhosting is when a friend just, POOF, disappears! And neglects your friendship. Without explanation! It's EXTREMELY COMMON and it extremely sucks. So what do you do then? Call? Write another email? Send a muffin basket and demand an explanation? Here's an episode about feeling left behind. As a fun bonus, Jenn reveals a new celebrity crush that may delight or confuse you!
One Out of Ten Weird
December 01, 2016 18:30 - 25 minutes - 22.9 MBHow do I connect with my older sister? Should I try to hang out with my cool cousin even though our families aren't close? A timely episode for the holidays--this one's all about doing friendship (or not) with family members. Also, Trin drops some incredible wisdom about social currency that everybody needs to hear, and Jenn has to concentrate all of her brain power for a solid minute to recall the one single event on our calendar next year.
At Least Oprah's Getting Married! Also, pal-atics
November 17, 2016 21:44 - 19 minutes - 17.9 MBThe election's done and we're all coping with bad, dark feelings. Here's our attempt to provide you with some coping mechanisms so you get help yourself first and then get your ass out of bed to get to work to help your community. If nothing else, this episode is worth a listen if you need a break from life. We offer you some quintessential Friendshipping quirks, like confusion over wedding traditions and a pep talk that's just yelling. Here's the song featured in this episode: https...
You Huge Nerd
November 10, 2016 20:07 - 29 minutes - 27.4 MBYou're a nerd. Your friends are nerds. But are you good at being a nerd, or do you need a brush up? This week, we discuss making your friends watch Stranger Things, and being nice to jocks. We also get slowly drunk throughout the episode because the Cubs won, and Trin tries to do math. CW: alcohol, brief sex mention, brief violence mention.
You Huge Nerd
November 10, 2016 20:07 - 29 minutes - 27.4 MBYou're a nerd. Your friends are nerds. But are you good at being a nerd, or do you need a brush up? This week, we discuss making your friends watch Stranger Things, and being nice to jocks. We also get slowly drunk throughout the episode because the Cubs won, and Trin tries to do math. There are more Neopets mentions in this episode than all previous episodes combined. CW: alcohol, brief sex mention, brief violence mention.
Different Stokes for Different Frolks
November 04, 2016 17:34 - 23 minutes - 21.9 MBThe blinding relief of finishing our Kickstarter campaign must've been hitting us hard, because this episode is JAM PACKED with goofs, chortles, and belittling Ringo Starr. We did manage to give out some practical advice, including "how to befriend introverts" and "how to speak up to your friends when you really need their support." Two difficult, important tasks!
Red Flags, Negging, and James Eat World
October 25, 2016 18:47 - 26 minutes - 24.5 MBThis week a listener asks, "I'm distancing myself from a toxic friend. What are some red flags I should look out for in the future?" We list some common iffy behaviors and define negging, which was oddly cathartic. Sillies abound.
My Taco Juice is In Your Hand
October 20, 2016 17:14 - 50 minutes - 46.2 MBThis episode was recorded live with an adorable audience at NerdCon! Jenn may have been hungover but that didn't stop us from dropping knowledge all over Minneapolis. Questions included, "How do I talk to my friends about my illness?" and, "I have a friend who isn't really a friend who will not stop talking to me about her wedding." Thank you to our producer Alex for joining us onstage! (Content Warning: we share some stories about barfing, feel free to skip 8:00 to 11:30.)
Cut My Life into Pieces, This is My Book Report
October 12, 2016 18:40 - 22 minutes - 20.3 MBLook, we talk about emotions and empathy and social cues a lot on this here podcast. It's kind of our thing! But we're overdue in addressing that some people? Some people are emotionless Vulcans and that's just fine, too. We also address the question, "my friend posts vague sad lyrics on Facebook. All the time. WHY?" (IMPORTANT PRODUCTION NOTE: If you're a member of Jimmy Eat World, please do not listen to the last 2 minutes of this podcast. Super important. THANKS!)
A Personal Bubble of Your Very Own
October 06, 2016 12:31 - 25 minutes - 23.2 MBA listener sent in a really important personal question this week: How do I deal with a friend who is too physically touchy-feely for me?
Kickstarter Joy and Winter Squash
September 29, 2016 18:53 - 13 minutes - 12.1 MBA very loopy episode as we celebrate our Kickstarter project, and then dive into this strange concept known as: feeling joy. Discussion topics include: the time Trin met Will Ferrell while he was wearing sweatpants; what Jenn says to her dog every morning; Tweeting with The Jackson Five.
But My Stories Are On
September 22, 2016 22:51 - 24 minutes - 22.4 MBUncle Joseph Biden sent us a fax in the middle of the night begging us to do an episode about the election. We never turn down urgent requests from Washington so here we go: "How do you debate politics with friends?" and, gulp, "My friend supports Trump. Now what?" (Content warning: uh, this whole election.)
Life Rafts and Water Noodles
September 14, 2016 15:52 - 21 minutes - 20 MBA discussion of when your support network of friends kind of, um, won't stop trying to support you even if you don't really want their support. We start with the question, "I'm a very private person. How can I tell my friends that I don't want to talk about my feelings?" and it's entirely possible Jenn submitted that in her sleep.
Making Friends (or not) in Geek Spaces
September 08, 2016 19:42 - 56 minutes - 51.7 MBA very special episode that isn't an episode at all, actually. Got ya. This is our live audio recording from our Making Friends in Geek Spaces panel. We also gave an exciting announcement...and that announcement is a Kickstarter project. We're doing a Kickstarter project soon. Spoiler alert! A huge, tremendous thank you to our panelists Maya, Khahil, and Jamie for sharing their wisdom.
Broshipping
September 01, 2016 17:53 - 33 minutes - 30.8 MBBill and Steven guest host while Jenn and Trin are out on assignment. They're men! What? Crazy. It turns out being men in friendships isn't all that different than being any other gender! In this modern age, even men can be friends. What a time to be alive.
Don't Tweet the Thing
August 25, 2016 20:04 - 22 minutes - 20.9 MBSay you're throwing a party but you maaaaybe don't want to invite every single person you know. Hey, that's fair. Just don't brag about it all over Facebook. This week we discuss party invitation etiquette, especially as it relates to social media.
The Ding-Ding Broke
August 18, 2016 17:46 - 30 minutes - 27.8 MB"My friend got an awful, obscene tattoo" and other bad decisions your friends make. Also, Jenn finds a slide whistle. (Content warning: lots of swearing, brief mention of rape and homophobia.)
I WANT ATTENTION
August 11, 2016 20:22 - 20 minutes - 19.2 MBATTENTION: lots of people want it, and not everyone can give it to you. What should you do when your friend ignores you for their boo? How do you keep from feeling discarded? Ughhh this sucks, man.
Gams Up To There
July 14, 2016 16:06 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MB"How do I compliment my friends when they post sexy selfies?" and "Can I tell my friend her sibling is hot?" We cover lots of new territory in this episode and yell NO way more than usual. Enjoy. Oh, have a content warning: mention of masturbation and sex and kissing.
Let's Get Involved
July 07, 2016 16:07 - 24 minutes - 22.7 MBHow do I make new friends? Why am I so bad at small talk? Can I learn to carry a conversation as well as NPR's Terry Gross? And other concerns.
Happy Birthday Jenn!
June 22, 2016 19:46 - 3 minutes - 3.48 MBToday is Jenn's birthday and I, Trin, recorded an episode about it. Posting episodes and writing summaries is Jenn's job and honestly it's really hard, thanks Jenn for everything you do. I'm having a lot of trouble figuring out what to say here?? okay goodbye everyone have a really nice afternoon
Happy Birthday Jenn!
June 22, 2016 19:46 - 3 minutes - 3.48 MBToday is Jenn's birthday and I, Trin, recorded an episode about it. Posting episodes and writing summaries is Jenn's job and honestly it's really hard
Give Hermione A Heads Up
June 15, 2016 17:56 - 21 minutes - 19.9 MBNew this week: we rapid-answer a range of questions, including, "Does my husband need friends?" and "Is it okay to buy the same clothing item as a friend?" and most importantly of all, "Should Trin buy us matching pajamas?"
Give Hermione A Heads Up
June 15, 2016 17:56 - 21 minutes - 19.9 MBNew this week: we rapid-answer a range of questions, including, "Does my husband need friends?" and "Is it okay to buy the same clothing item as a friend?" and most importantly of all, "Should Trin buy us matching pajamas?"
Friendship with Exes
June 08, 2016 20:01 - 31 minutes - 29 MBSome tips for gently rebuilding a friendship with your ex or exes. Or maybe deciding not to do that after all because they left with your suitcase full of cash. Don't you hate it when that happens!
Make Harvey A Real Boy
June 02, 2016 20:16 - 23 minutes - 21.6 MB"I do freelance favors for friends and colleagues. Am I being used?" and "Am I obligated to promote all of my friends' Kickstarter projects?" If you've ever asked anyone to Tweet about your Kickstarter project, have a listen to this.
Community & Event Management From Two Introverts
May 25, 2016 16:15 - 29 minutes - 27.3 MBWhen your friends RSVP to your thing but then don't show up. Youch! Links mentioned in this episode: Uplift Together
Community & Event Management From Two Introverts
May 25, 2016 16:15 - 29 minutes - 27.3 MBWhen your friends RSVP to your thing but then don't show up. Youch! Links mentioned in this episode: Uplift Together
Your Crush Probably Isn't That Big of a Deal
May 11, 2016 18:13 - 23 minutes - 21.5 MBIt's 2016 and people still wonder, "Can Dudes and Ladies ever just be friends without crushing?" Holy dang, let's get into it!
There Has Been No Giggling
May 05, 2016 19:54 - 22 minutes - 20.7 MB"My long distance friend has stopped answering my texts" and "I'm sick of driving my friend everywhere." An episode about resentment and the hard truth of long distance friendships. Things do get a little heavy, so we pause between questions for a Star Wars interlude full of giggles.
You're Not His Jedi Master
April 28, 2016 18:15 - 23 minutes - 21.7 MB"My friend is stagnating professionally - how can I push him with love?" and "My friend cheated. Do I tell her boyfriend?" In this episode we discuss when intervene with your friends and when to back the heck off.
PAX Pep!
April 21, 2016 20:45 - 12 minutes - 11.8 MBA short, special episode about PAX! Where we'll be, what we're doing, and how we'll cope with stress!
Silent but Deadly
March 30, 2016 20:07 - 19 minutes - 18 MBAll about handling friends who are ignoring you. Giving you the silent treatment. The COLD SHOULDER. Brrr.
I've Been Getting More Fiber
March 23, 2016 17:22 - 22 minutes - 20.3 MBA discussion about peer pressure based around two questions: "My friend is badgering me about getting a boyfriend" and "My friend is continually telling me to go to therapy. I don't know that it's for me." Content warning: depression, therapy, brief mention of suicide. **Links mentioned in this episode:** [CaptainAwkward.com][1] [Twitch.tv/Friendshipping][2] [1]: http://www.captainawkward.com [2]: http://twitch.tv/friendshipping
Steal the Declaration of Independence
March 16, 2016 20:27 - 21 minutes - 20 MBThis week, we discuss dealing with friends who are problematic and say shitty things! Let's be kind and forgiving to others, but protective of our own time and energy. Mentioned in this episode: Unfollow: How a prized daughter of the Westboro Baptist Church came to question its beliefs. By Adrian Chen. How To Tell Someone They Sound Racist. By Jay Smooth.
I Can Buy My Own Dang Shirts
March 10, 2016 22:48 - 24 minutes - 16.7 MBPet sitting. Giving rides to the airport. Moving furniture. Friends help one another! But let's examine that doing favors can get complex. There's a fine line between doing something nice and obligating someone to thank you. Dun dun dun.
One Big Ridiculous Demand
March 03, 2016 21:24 - 20 minutes - 14.2 MBHow do you turn a frenemy into a real friend? When is a frenemy relationship too toxic? Wait, WHAT EVEN IS A FRENEMY? Let's get into it.
The Unfairness of Life
February 25, 2016 20:49 - 19 minutes - 13.3 MBI messed up, but it wasn't my fault! What to do when you didn't do anything wrong but it's up to you to fix it anyway. This is what we call The Unfairness of Life. TW: casual discussion of death, sex mentions.
It's Not Dumb to Feel Sad
February 11, 2016 18:55 - 13 minutes - 9.29 MBHere are some thoughts about being good to yourself and your friends while Valentine's Day celebrations are shoved down your gullet. [Please note that this episode is quite vulgar.]
It's Not Dumb to Feel Sad
February 11, 2016 18:55 - 13 minutes - 9.29 MBHere are some thoughts about being good to yourself and your friends while Valentine's Day celebrations are shoved down your gullet. [Please note that this episode is quite vulgar. Don't listen with your babies maybe? We talk about hate-fucking.]
Happy Friendship Day!
February 04, 2016 23:26 - 6 minutes - 4.64 MBWe just found out that today is Friendship Day, so here's a list of activities that are better with friends. We don't need booze and drugs to have a good time: we're all hyped up on FRIENDSHIP.
Emotional Dumping Ground (and Sexual Pooping?)
February 04, 2016 17:42 - 23 minutes - 15.9 MBBeing roped into a "third date" conversation when you're really on a *first* date is awkward as heck. Here's how to adjust, and measure how close you are with your friends & acquaintances.
Dealing with Petty Feelings and 69 Dresses
January 28, 2016 19:35 - 22 minutes - 15.4 MBOur topic this week: jealousy! If you've ever harbored envious feelings toward a friend's successes (and you definitely have), this is the episode for you.
Fuck it, Someone Else Do This
January 18, 2016 21:55 - 21 minutes - 14.6 MBBeing the "planner" or the "parent" of the friend group can get exhausting. Even worse: if your friends bail on your plans constantly! BUT WAIT: we've still got sympathy for those who bail.
Trinstagram and Jennternet
January 07, 2016 23:01 - 27 minutes - 18.9 MBThe Internet can be a roaring dumpster fire of negativity. It's also where we personally meet new people and make our friends feel loved. In this episode, we tackle moments of friendship that are made possible through Instagram, Twitter, and Tumblr. We are millennials.