Friendshipping!
296 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 169 ratingsHow do I quit feeling so jealous of successful friends? Can I befriend my ex? Should I ask my coworker why she unfollowed me on Twitter?
Every week Jenn & Trin answer your questions about friendship! We try to advise on the tricky stuff that's making you feel weird.
Write us your questions at [email protected], and visit FriendshippingPodcast.com for more info. Remember that we're not therapists or doctors, although we have spent plenty of time with them.
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Episodes
You're Not The One
February 28, 2019 19:40 - 40 minutes - 36.9 MBYou can't solve every problem for your friends. You simply can't fix everything. In this episode, we give you permission to go easier on yourself. Important content warnings for this one: we discuss gatekeeping within the queer community, as well as gender, sexuality, and depression.
When It's Time to Quit Swimming
February 21, 2019 21:33 - 31 minutes - 29.2 MB"My friend puts herself down constantly. She's always insulting herself, and it bums me out. How can I talk to her about this?" This episode is about self-esteem, something neither of us have, which makes us the perfect candidates to lead this discussion. Content warning for discussions of therapy and body shaming.
Help, I'm Friends With A Creep
February 14, 2019 17:58 - 35 minutes - 32.3 MBA concerned and confused 21-year-old wrote in and asked, "I have a friend who is older, and he makes a woman in our group feel uncomfortable often. How do I handle this?" We have some ideas on how to get this person out of your life ASAP. This one's a doozy, y'all! Content warning for discussions of harassment.
The New Rude
February 07, 2019 22:45 - 37 minutes - 34.8 MBWe already know that the rudest thing you can do online is email someone's wife. So here's an episode about the other kinds of modern etiquette: keeping your headphones in, texting during conversations, and adding someone to a new group text. (CW: Mouse death. Yeah.)
The Swamp Queens Cometh
January 24, 2019 20:54 - 33 minutes - 30.7 MBA listener asks how to become a functioning social adult after working from home full-time. Try keeping slippers at your desk! Then we hear from somebody who's being hard on themselves with their sleep & clothing habits. Hey, stop that!
Let's Get Real
January 17, 2019 18:38 - 36 minutes - 33.4 MBHow do you wind down a friendship? If your friends get divorced, must you choose between them? As a new mom, how can I tell my friends who don't have kids that I can't relate to them now? This week, we heard from a few folks who are interested in breaking things off with their friends. BUT FIRST! Let's make sure that's the right move! Content warnings for drugs and discussion of pregnancy.
The Soft Block
January 10, 2019 16:53 - 28 minutes - 26.5 MBShould I de-friend my ex on Facebook? How do I handle an intense Twitter crush? We attempt to answer these questions before debuting our new podcast, The Jeff Probst Fan Show! Content warnings for lots of sex talk. Important links mentioned in this episode: Michael B. Jordan's instagram. https://www.instagram.com/p/BsUoyd5Ai6R/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link PS: Just to be clear, we do not think that EVERYone bangs at conventions. We're just friggin' goofballs!
God Bless Nancy
January 03, 2019 23:59 - 36 minutes - 33.3 MBWhat are you supposed to do when someone you barely know surprises you with a gift? What if the gift is a terrible painting? No, wait: what if it's a terrible painting that they made themselves? This one's about what to do when you don't know what to do. Nancy, help us.
That's Gonna Be No From Us
December 27, 2018 17:10 - 32 minutes - 29.4 MBSo, how was your holiday? Awesome? Terrible? Let's listen to someone else's problems for awhile. Our first question reads, "I came between a friend's marriage. Therapy was had, I sincerely apologized, we moved on. It's been two years. Can I reach out and rekindle our friendship?"
Yikes-A-Roni
December 20, 2018 20:27 - 29 minutes - 27.2 MBBefriending your colleagues can be tricky. Especially if your colleagues happen to find your Twitter account. This episode is about Personal Twitter, Work Twitter, and when maybe you should just lock your account and throw your computer into the eye of a hurricane.
A Hot Meal and A Warm Bath
December 13, 2018 17:59 - 33 minutes - 30.9 MBJenn has a cold, Trin wants a haircut, and we both have advice for a new listener who is lonely and has frankly been through some tough shit. This episode is about making new friends after a bad break up, filling your empty hours, making your apartment feel nice, deciding when to date again, and when to give your beef to a friend. Content warning for brief mention of masturbation mid-episode.
Where's My Pwesent?
December 06, 2018 23:35 - 40 minutes - 37.3 MBWe're back! We're back! Did you miss us? Did you miss the crap out of us? Here's an episode about exchanging gifts with friends and co-workers. One listener wants to know what the frick to do now that her close friend gave her a bottle of wine for her birthday even though... wait for it... she does not drink.
AMA - Ask Muss Anything
November 15, 2018 19:59 - 32 minutes - 29.9 MBAll about us! Us! You asked and we answered. Who's more inspiring, Odo or Nog? What's the worst advice we've ever given? And what about gymnastics?
We'll Complain For You
November 08, 2018 19:40 - 35 minutes - 32.5 MB“My boyfriend is close friends with a sexist ass. I’m trying to be civil. How do I proceed here?” Well we have some ideas! We would not call our ideas particularly civil. In this week's episode, allow us to get mad on your behalf.
Let's Get Mystical About This Shiz
October 25, 2018 16:06 - 34 minutes - 31.9 MBOur first question asks, "I made a close friend online months ago. But my partner has no idea. It's been going on for months. How can I clue my partner in without feeling guilty for hiding it from him?" This episode is a bumpy thrill ride and we've almost certainly lost one listener, perhaps two.
Gender is Weird in Los Angeles
October 18, 2018 23:43 - 47 minutes - 43.4 MBIn this very special episode, we consider how you can best support your non-binary friends. Discussion of pronouns, gender spectrums, and why we let boys run into the street but not girls for some reason. A million thanks to Ian and Maya for guesting!
Drop a Smoke Bomb and Run
October 11, 2018 20:10 - 31 minutes - 29.1 MBThis week's theme is all about confrontation! Bringing up the thing that's bothering you! Our starting question: "My best friend has been in a long-distance relationship and it's making him SO UNHAPPY. I think they need to break up. Should I say as much?" and then we move into "I worked for a photographer for a weekend. I got payment but not the social media shout-out that he mentioned." Content warning, we muse over sex toys for a bit and now it's unclear why.
You have Great Hair, Your Personality Sucks, I Love Your Shoes
October 04, 2018 23:51 - 43 minutes - 40.2 MBIt's time for a group activity. The first asker is going on a road trip with old friends and we're fully clenched on her behalf. The second asker's roommate is now dating the annoying dude in her jam band, and it's just the worst. CLARINET! CW: sex mention, group sex mention
Friends Push Each Other on Swing Sets
September 28, 2018 20:48 - 28 minutes - 25.8 MBA concerned listener asks, "My partner is smoking a lot. More than she has before. How do I approach this with her?" In response, Jenn and Trin put their heads together and deduce that weed is funny. Surprise appearance by Dave Matthews! Please note content warning for the first few minutes. We briefly discuss the hearing and men and their mistakes (without names and details). Skip to 5 minutes and 45 seconds in if ya need to.
Satan is Coming to Get Ya
September 20, 2018 17:33 - 44 minutes - 40.4 MBThis episode is all about BOUNDARIES! How do you quietly back out of a friendship with someone who is asking time you don't have? How do I manage friendship with a somewhat famous person I admire? As a woman, how do you handle having a best friend who's a guy? We answer all this and more in Jenn and Trin's weekly fever dream.
XOXO 2018
September 13, 2018 23:48 - 42 minutes - 39.1 MBLive from XOXO Portland! Failed jokes, crowd work, pesky microphone habits--this episode has everything you never asked for. We also managed to give some advice on awkward small talk, making friends at conferences, and finding collaborators on your creative projects. And at the end of the show, YOU SIMPLY CANNOT MISS a few special version of our theme song from the ridiculously talented Molly Lewis.
Meatballs All The Way Down
August 30, 2018 18:35 - 25 minutes - 23.1 MBDid you know that your friend recites sonnets in their sleep? Or that they take 28 minutes to make a bowel movement? Or that they get hangry when you failed to give them the bananas they require? This is the kind of stuff you'll learn when you take a trip with friends. Here's a few thoughts about group travels, food, and logistics.
The Return of Toby Diaperman
August 23, 2018 16:40 - 34 minutes - 31.5 MBHow do I get my friend to stop selling me stuff? What are the best ways to support my pal's comic book shop? Can I spar with my co-worker over Girl Scout cookies? Please note that in spite complaining in this episode, Jenn loves her old Girl Scout Troop Leader, who is just a wonderful person.
Come Collect Your Sad Friend
August 16, 2018 16:10 - 38 minutes - 34.9 MBWhat's the etiquette for a locked Twitter account? What do I do if my co-worker won't stop requesting to follow me on my private Instagram? Should I do something to intervene when my friend Tweets really sad stuff? In this episode, we dive into the murky waters of social media and privacy!
Show Me The Beast
August 09, 2018 17:16 - 31 minutes - 28.7 MBWhen is it time to cut the cord and move on from old friends? And when is time to tie the knot and hang on? These are huge questions that we don't know the answer to! But we do know that your friends need you, and you need your friends. Content warning for discussion of depression.
Oof My Knees
July 26, 2018 16:30 - 37 minutes - 34.5 MBAm I overstepping my bounds if I comment about my friend's health? This episode is all about listening to your doctor, gym etiquette, and sexy hot personal trainers. Content warning for discussions of exercise, obesity, and body image.
Hail Corporate
July 19, 2018 23:00 - 44 minutes - 41.1 MBWe are Friendshipping and we’re here to say Jeff Bezos sucks in a major way. That being said, let’s discuss how to be cool to your friends when they aren’t participating in the same protest or boycotts as you are. This episode is about the balance of holding your friends accountable while letting them be imperfect people living in an imperfect society. Content warning: this episode is all about capitalism, and there's occasional discussion of climate horror. If that's not somet...
Live and Nervous at the Moxy Hotel
July 12, 2018 19:43 - 42 minutes - 39.1 MBIt's Trin's birthday and it's Friendshipping Live! Raw! Uncut! Sweaty! Listen as we down cocktails and discuss gift-giving etiquette, group plans, and how to change up your social life when you feel like you're a boring person. Hint: you are not boring. And you have great taste in podcasts. Thank you to Dynasty Podcasts for having us and our friends for being there!
Concert Etiquette
July 05, 2018 22:22 - 39 minutes - 36 MBOur askers have questions about going to concerts! One wants to ignore their friends at concerts, and one has a Cool and Famous Friend and doesn't know how to be chill about it. We're deeply sorry to Beatles fans for the entire first two minutes of this episode, and we're equally sorry for the secret last question, in which we divulge just how emo we are. Enjoy!
Being an Open Window
June 28, 2018 18:09 - 47 minutes - 43.6 MBIn this episode, we do our best to answer: Uh, is this [interaction/feeling/action] weird? As two weirdos ourselves, allow us to tell you: YOU BET YOUR ASS IT IS! Also keep listening for the third question, which is one of the most challenging inquiries we've gotten, and note our content warning for mentions of mental illness.
Punch You in the Mouth with Facts
June 22, 2018 16:32 - 49 minutes - 45.6 MBSometimes we receive questions that are just beyond our ability to answer. That's why this week, our esteemed friends Billie and Kat of the UnLearned Podcast are here to assist with questions about friendship and race. How do I support my PoC friends? What are some common White People Fuck Ups I should be more aware of? Content warnings apply. Don't miss UnlearnedPodcast.com.
Vegan Dreams
June 14, 2018 21:15 - 37 minutes - 34.2 MBAn asker wants to know how to better support their spouse who has decided to be become ... oh my good gracious ... a vegan. Here's some tough love from Jenn and Trin, with a side of PLANTS! Yum.
Be Your Own Daddy
June 07, 2018 19:21 - 39 minutes - 36.5 MBWhat's a good way to show your friends you're proud of them? Well that's a real sweet question and we've got some ideas! We've also got a wild story about a fake girlfriend that is so good it needs its own Netflix special.
Please Respect My Bedtime
May 31, 2018 15:35 - 39 minutes - 36.3 MBMaintaining friendships once you reach your mid-30s has a few special challenges. Starting with: "My friend doesn't. leave. She insists on extending our hangouts for hours and hours. She's even just spent the night." HAHA WHOA. Let's do this. Content warning: sex/masturbation mentions in the first few minutes!
Tales of Coniferous Vegetables
May 24, 2018 16:34 - 52 minutes - 48.5 MBYour friend has taken a new lover, and now you're certain you are being replaced. Youch, that hurts. Have a listen to this episode as we apply some soothing aloe to that sting!
Skiing and Surfing
May 17, 2018 14:34 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MB"My friend had an extreme reaction when I mentioned that I am interested in trying a recreational drug." In this episode, we discuss how you don't have to tell your friends EEEVERYTHING about yourself. In fact: maybe don't! Content Warnings: Death mentions Drug use discussion Pornography/masturbation mention Sexual assault mention Show Notes Natasha Richardson is Liam Neeson’s wife and it was rude to call her Liam Neeson’s Wife Here’s the comic about breakfast: https://medi...
We’re All Dumb Here
May 03, 2018 19:46 - 33 minutes - 31.1 MBThis week we tackle one of the best questions we’ve ever received: How can I get my friend to stop being so physical and touchy with me? Come for the advice, stay for the surprise fruit delivered to your office! This episode is not sponsored by Edible Arrangements but it should be. We’ll take sixty bucks for it.
Could You Show Up And Not Yell?
April 26, 2018 22:02 - 49 minutes - 45.7 MBWhen is it appropriate to dance my face off? Can I sneak alcohol into a dry reception? It's a wedding episode! Listen as we make a wild attempt to discuss wedding etiquette as a guest, a plus-one, member of the wedding party, AND even part of the couple! Please note the content warnings for this episode from 00:40 to 09:59, we discuss sex and virginity even though virginity isn't a real thing and your worth is not based on the number of sex partners you've had. WHEW. OKAY.
I Will Piss On Your Sidewalk
April 19, 2018 18:27 - 44 minutes - 40.6 MB"I want to reconnect with a friend. She's blocked me on Facebook and we haven't talked in years. Where do I begin?" Stop right now, thank you very much. You don't need someone with a human touch. You need Trin and Jenn to come in and yell at the lizard in your brain!
Jogging While Wearing Jeans
April 12, 2018 18:09 - 37 minutes - 34.3 MB"I want to be friends with more men, how can I make that happen?" is our first question. And our second: "My friend is trying to hook me up with a bit of a dud. Do I suck it up and go out?" You can prrrrrobably guess our answer to this but you should listen anyway because we discuss how to confront your friend about this scenario AND we get an exciting update on Trin's plants. Also, Jenn gets overexcited to talk about running for the first seven minutes, so feel free to skip if that'...
It Doesn’t Matter What Word It Is
April 05, 2018 17:48 - 39 minutes - 36.6 MBYour buds don’t get a pass to call you whatever words they want. A friend called our first asker a B Word (not Butthole), and then alleged that she is “sensitive” for being hurt by it. As you might have guessed, we take issue with this behavior. Then, we encourage our second asker to bone down on their friend. CWs: Lots of bitch Mention of Fat Shaming Discussion of Misogyny Suicide Mention Sex Mention
When In Doubt, Shut Up
March 22, 2018 17:18 - 40 minutes - 36.8 MBThis week it's all about physical appearances and how that can impact a friendship! Topics include: - My friend won't do anything (camping, go to outdoor concerts) where she can't be in full make-up - My friend Photoshops images of herself online and it weirds me out! - My friend's diet is completely exhausting Content warning for mentions of food + disordered eating in the last question.
Damnit Meryl Streep
March 15, 2018 16:44 - 38 minutes - 35 MBListeners sent in some great questions this week that really moved us. "I fucked up ten years ago. I was a teenager. Can I make amends?" and "My friend said something crappy to me a few months ago. It's still bothering me. Should I bring it up now?" In this episode we discuss addressing your mistakes and regrets of yesteryear, and Trin becomes several versions of Meryl Streep. (Content warning: discussions of consent in the last few minutes.)
Putting the "Significant" in "Significant Other"
March 08, 2018 16:01 - 35 minutes - 32.5 MBThis week's theme is: badness. Bad feelings, bad behavior, the whole deal. Our first question is "I've been unfriended by two people in my life. I've never done them wrong. What's the deal here?" followed by "My boyfriend is dismissive when I tell him my problems. NOW WHAT?" [cracks knuckles] Here. we. GO.
In It For The Women
March 01, 2018 20:40 - 42 minutes - 38.5 MBIf you've ever felt jealous of someone else's creative success, this episode will give you an entire THIRTY SECONDS of relief and happiness before you just feel jealous again. Also we start a bloody rivalry with Do By Friday.
Just Full of Whimsy
February 22, 2018 20:36 - 32 minutes - 29.8 MBHey, Jenn here. I just got off the horn with legal and they advised us against posting this one, but guess what? We're bad to the bone. So enjoy this episode where we answer the most important question of all time: "Should I tell my therapist I smoke weed?"
Feats of Strength
February 15, 2018 17:10 - 32 minutes - 29.5 MBTo celebrate three years of making this show, your humble narrators discuss their favorite topic: themselves. Trin shares what made her laugh today. Jenn reflects on the glory days. And if you glean any wisdom from this episode, it's purely by accident.
Don't You Wish You Were A Whale?
February 09, 2018 00:13 - 39 minutes - 36.6 MBA listener asks, "My friend REALLY unloads on me. The heavy stuff. I'm worried about her! How can I help?" We've got a few ideas! Are they good ideas? Who's to say. At least this episode is funny. Also, Trin's got a new therapist. Content warning for discussion of depression.
Speaking up or Shutting up When Shit's Awkward
February 01, 2018 20:05 - 39 minutes - 36.2 MBHoly HECK, we cover miles of territory in this episode. It’s all about speaking up — or deciding not to. Listeners ask: - My boss wants to be my friend. How do I put distance here? - My future mother-in-law insists that I call her “mom" and I am not cool with this. - And the grand finale: I moved away, and my friend ghosted! She may have changed her number! How do I reach out?
You Don't Have To Be Nice
January 25, 2018 15:52 - 38 minutes - 35.2 MBIn this episode, we discuss how it's possible for you to be both 1) kind and 2) impolite! BELIEVE IT. We also offer some suggestions for dealing with a co-worker who is disruptive in your work space. Oh, and... we formally break up with Trin's therapist. For real. Here's the article we discussed, and here's a link to Kelly Sue DeConnick's Twitter.