Friendshipping!
296 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 2 years ago - ★★★★★ - 169 ratingsHow do I quit feeling so jealous of successful friends? Can I befriend my ex? Should I ask my coworker why she unfollowed me on Twitter?
Every week Jenn & Trin answer your questions about friendship! We try to advise on the tricky stuff that's making you feel weird.
Write us your questions at [email protected], and visit FriendshippingPodcast.com for more info. Remember that we're not therapists or doctors, although we have spent plenty of time with them.
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Episodes
Give Me More Than Emojis
January 19, 2018 22:25 - 45 minutes - 41.4 MB"I'm a touchy kind of person but my friends aren't. How do I approach this without making anyone uncomfortable?" and "I'm in a group text with 14 people I barely know. It's all baby pictures. How do I get out of this politely?" Thank god for Jenn's bachelor's degree in communications or we never would have been able to answer this week's questions, all about: conflicting communication styles! (Note: The first eight minutes of this episode are nutty. Trin shares her bizarre and amazin...
Golden Retrievers and How Many Snakes is Too Many Snakes
January 11, 2018 18:37 - 46 minutes - 42.5 MBIt's 2018 and we're backstreets back, ALRIGHT! Miss us? In this episode we tackle "My co-worker is just too OUTRAGEOUSLY FRIENDLY for me" and "When I vent to my friend, she gives me advice and tries to fix everything, even when I specifically ask her not to."
Maybe You're in The Wrong Greenhouse
December 21, 2017 18:13 - 32 minutes - 29.4 MBA "cactus friend" is a pal who doesn't need a lot of watering or sunlight to feel loved. Did you know that term? Now you do. We think our friend Kate made it up. In this episode, we kinda-sorta lovingly lecture one of our listeners for maaaybe being too much of a cactus friend. Sometimes you DO need to water your friends! Call them back! Answer that text! (Hey, content warning for the first few minutes: sex mentions. And Christmas. Together.)
It's Getting Crowded in Here
December 14, 2017 20:34 - 45 minutes - 41.9 MBIs it possible to have TOO many friends? WE KNOW this sounds like a humblebrag. We swear it is not. Here's an episode about feeling socially overwhelmed, spreading yourself too thin, and caring for your inner introvert when you would rather throw your iPhone in a lake than participate in another group text. 'Tis the season!
A Mistake Did Become Made By You
December 08, 2017 22:57 - 34 minutes - 31.4 MB"I texted about my friend ... TO THAT FRIEND!" and "My two friend groups are fighting. I'm stuck in the middle. Now what?" This episode is all about handling conflict and then moving past it. Also, if you thought the last episode was wackadoodle, hang on tight for THIS thrill ride. Shakespeare, Air Bud, and Jenn's muscles: this episode truly has nothing you asked for.
It’s Time We Discuss Marriage
November 30, 2017 18:29 - 41 minutes - 38.2 MBIs it okay to not allow booze at my wedding? How do I navigate my sister-in-law's nasty divorce? Check out this episode about weddings, marriage, divorce, and toxic family members! This is absolutely the weirdest we have ever been. You know when you're overtired and slap-happy? That's this whole episode.
Merry Chrimbus
November 23, 2017 16:32 - 34 minutes - 31.2 MBThe holiday season is upon us and we've all got a bad case of the Travel Butt. This week, we're giving advice about all of our favorite holiday traditions, like decking halls, giving gifts, and running into people who hated you in high school. Trin regales us with tales of her AP Biology teacher's farm, and Jenn once again gives us damning evidence that she's a huge nerd. Enjoy. Resketch notebooks are found here.
Bitch I Own Two Swords
November 16, 2017 17:46 - 31 minutes - 29.1 MBHow do I learn to friend again? How can I help my distressed friend who lives far away? Today’s episode is about bad feelings, and naming the mean voice in your head after your least favorite character on the American television sitcom, Friends. Also, we have two corrections for this episode: Steven (yes, that Steven) actually named his brain goblin Vincent, not Victor. He chose the name because “he sounds like a mean gay.” Trin in fact owns three swords, not two.
Touched By An Angel
November 09, 2017 17:36 - 34 minutes - 31.6 MBThis week, we've got two questions about feeling SHUT OUT. If a friend (or a group of friends!) is making you feel like you don't belong, this is the episode for you. Relax your rectums and enjoy this feel-good episode where we discuss Die Hard and share some small daily tasks to improve your mental health.
A Little Bit Country, A Little Bit Rock and Roll
November 02, 2017 20:01 - 38 minutes - 35.3 MB"Should I tell my friend to quit smoking?" and "My friend plays video games all. damn. day." This episode is all about that E word: ENABLING--what to do think you may be enabling your friend's habits, for better or for worse! Oh, also, be sure to commit this to memory: when Trin was in 6th grade, she went as a toilet for Halloween and Jenn dressed as Harry P before anyone else on the planet did. Wow.
Stop Right Now Thank You Very Much
October 27, 2017 17:11 - 31 minutes - 29.1 MBOur first asker wonders how to get closer to a friend who doesn’t want to be alone with them. Another asker seeks advice on confronting a friend repeatedly for a mistake. And finally, in our grand finale, a listener wants to know how to handle group Snapchat drama. And to all of these questions we say: "Nah. You can stop there. Ya done."
Are You Kitchen Pals or Are You Kitchen Friends?
October 19, 2017 20:41 - 38 minutes - 35.1 MBIf you see something, say something! Maybe! In this episode we discuss if and when you should tell a friend who is feeling low that you think they oughta go back to therapy. And what about crushes? Do you have to tell a friend if you are having feelings, the warm squishy kind? This one is all about: speaking up.
Don't Forget Your Bravery Juice
October 12, 2017 15:20 - 30 minutes - 27.6 MBPartying, partying, YEAH! This week, we got a question from a listener who says they're just bad at attending parties. Luckily we've got a whole slew of tips for surviving a crowded social gathering where you don't know anyone. Discussion includes how to handle small talk, how to remember someone's name, and how to maybe put your shirt back on before the host gets upset.
IRONFORGE, Long Has it Been
October 05, 2017 20:43 - 32 minutes - 29.9 MBWe're Jenn and Trin and we're here to say: you do not have to be nice and giving tuh-day. You don't have to do crappy favors for friends all the time. And you don't have to forgive people who wrong ya. In this episode, we answer: "I don't want to write a letter of rec for my friend, do I have to?" and "My friend neglected my pet while he was catsitting!" Ohhhh, let us at 'em. (PSST: Listen after the credits for a blooper.)
Romantically Interested In Your Gums
September 28, 2017 20:02 - 30 minutes - 27.6 MBFriends, we've uncovered something very interesting: dentists love Trin. DENTISTS LOVE TRIN. If you don't want to hear about teeth and how much fun Trin has at her dental cleaning appointments, skip ahead to 7:15 because our two actual topics this week are incredible: "How do I ask an Internet friend to meet without being imposing?" and "My friend uses the word fat without realizing they are being hurtful to me." Please note our content warning: we mention some of the shitty ways so...
You Don’t Have to Hang Out With Tom Felton
September 21, 2017 17:26 - 30 minutes - 27.6 MBHey everyone, Jenn and Trin here, just a coupla podcast bad boys giving advice that's so dangerous and naughty you can't bring it home to mommy. We start off by offering survival tips for attending a bachelor party when you are broke. It involves our tried and true tactics for sneaking into alcohol into restaurants (but do tip your bartenders). If that's not your style, hang tight for our second question which is a real monster: "My friend is going through a divorce and flirting with...
This is Your Brain on Drugs, This is Your Brain on Horny
September 14, 2017 19:42 - 33 minutes - 30.3 MBYou'll need SPF 150 for this red-hot episode. Our first asker wants to know what to do when you've got a "good friend" who is sexist. As you can imagine, we did not hold back! We got mad! We're still mad! Then we uncovered some new sexy territory with how to: manage a crush. On your: co-worker. While you're: in a monogamous relationship.
You Can’t Get Into This Bathtub With Me
September 07, 2017 20:01 - 43 minutes - 40 MBYou’ve got 99 problems and your friend asking to come over to your house everyday is all of them. In this episode, we discuss the polite-but-firm way to say “no thanks, I don’t want company tonight.” To practice, Jenn attempts to turn down Trin's invitations to hang out and fails in spectacular fashion. Also, we discuss when and how to step in when you suspect your friend is being teased in a group setting. Lots to cover, y’all. Jump into this friendship pool, the water’s fine.
The Roommate Drama Special: Do You Know Where Your Mops Are?
August 31, 2017 16:12 - 31 minutes - 29.1 MBLil pop quiz for all you roommates out there. When was the last time you swept the kitchen floor? How about cleaned the toilet? Do you even know HOW to clean the toilet? BAM, you’re on notice. In this episode we discuss living dynamics, roommate drama, and being the odd person out. And as a fun bonus, we deeply analyze the best party snacks you can offer, which is advice you didn’t ask for but maybe should have.
So You Didn't Get Your Plant
August 25, 2017 15:15 - 41 minutes - 38 MB"I helped my friend get a great job. Now, they're not doing well at this job and I am pissed about it." Whoa! Okay. This episode is about helping your friends, but also butting out. Helping them...to a certain extent. You know there's only so much you can do. BTW, our producer said this is his favorite episode ever, and he has to listen to all of our unedited bullshit. JUSTICE FOR NANCY!
Sucky Eel Friends and Midwestern Dads
August 18, 2017 16:47 - 42 minutes - 39.3 MB"I feel like I'm a doormat. How can I stick up for myself to my friends?" Take it from Book 1 Neville Longbottom, this isn't easy to do. This week, we discuss voicing your needs and boundaries. And if your friends continually ignore those boundaries, it may be time to spring-clean those mofos. (Also, Trin was recording from afar and sounds like she's in a bath tub. Sorry about that!)
Use Your Freaking Words
August 10, 2017 16:27 - 26 minutes - 24.1 MB"How do I make my friends feel heard? What are some empathic words I can use?" Hey, talking clearly and directly about your feelings is difficult. Asking your friends about THEIR feelings is difficult, too! In this episode we discuss how language, while powerful, is still limited and you are probably doing your best, so good job. Also, Trin knows her name is Elizabeth Barrett Browning, not Emily Barrett Browning. She just got excited.
If I Delete That, Will They Notice?
August 03, 2017 19:05 - 31 minutes - 28.5 MB"I was shamed on Facebook for de-friending someone!" and "My friend leaves WAY too many comments on my posts." This week, we tackle these excellent questions about doing friendship on the world wide web, the final frontier. And uh, not to sound too braggy, but we know a LOT about being weird online.
Save the Day, Save the World (the Wonder Woman episode)
July 27, 2017 21:13 - 43 minutes - 40.3 MBOur gushing review of the new Wonder Woman movie and the friendships it celebrates. Steve Trevor and consent, Etta Candy and female friendship, Ben Affleck barely appearing -- this movie rocked our ass. Diana will fight for those who cannot fight for themselves and WE WILL, TOO. This one's light-hearted, dorky, and full of fandom love. Enjoy.
Doing the Most Good and the Least Bad
July 20, 2017 19:06 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MBWe here at Friendshipping, LLC accept all political views, unless your political view is shitty. This episode is about choosing to accept your friends in an imperfect capitalist society. Starting with: "So my friend eats at Chick-Fil-A..." CW: discussion of homophobia and racism.
Doing the Most Good and the Least Bad
July 20, 2017 19:06 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MBWe here at Friendshipping, LLC accept all political views, unless your political view is shitty. This episode is about choosing to accept your friends in an imperfect capitalist society. Starting with: "So my friend eats at Chick-Fil-A..." CW: discussion of homophobia and racism.
Know Your Angles
July 06, 2017 19:42 - 27 minutes - 24.8 MBFind out how Trin supports the long distance friends she never sees and when Jenn realized she was becoming a capital-a Adult. In this light-hearted ding dong of an episode, we interview each other about our personalities, relationships, the smell of Chicago, and what, exactly, makes tomatoes so cute to look at!
Highway to the Friend Zone
June 29, 2017 17:10 - 26 minutes - 24 MBWe got a great question from a student at university (that means college) about taking your friendships to the NEXT LEVEL. Maybe you've got a dozen acquaintances (all over campus, at your work place, whatever) but you're looking for something more more meaningful. Some depth. You know? We've got a few ideas for how to do that! Also, Jenn talks about her most hilariously embarrassing story from college.
Get Some Plants and Play The Sims
June 22, 2017 17:05 - 35 minutes - 32.4 MBAre you constantly worrying about your friend's bad life decisions? Always helping your pals move apartments? Giving rides to the airport? Organizing their schedule? Providing wisdom and advice? If you said YES to one or more of these questions, UH OH! You may be a Helicopter Parent to your friends. This episode is about being the "mama bear" -- when you are too controlling, really involved, care a lot, or simply exhausting yourself at the expense of your friends. Trin admits she wa...
I'm Problematic and So Are You
June 15, 2017 21:58 - 31 minutes - 28.7 MBSo I made a sexist crack, and I feel bad about it. Now what? Can I apologize? Even though it happened months ago? How do I move forward? Am I bad? Am I okay? Am I doomed? Can I see Wonder Woman again? Is Chris Pine moving up on the top Hot Chris list? This episode covers how to handle your shit when you say something problematic. PLUS some non-spoilery gushing over Wonder Woman, because we couldn't not. Content warnings: discussion of sexism, racism, transphobia.
Why Are You Crying In This Restaurant?
June 08, 2017 18:35 - 30 minutes - 27.5 MBOne time Connor Oberst emailed Trin at 2:00 AM and you have to listen to find out why. Or you can listen for the actual advice, which is about handling awkward, I-don't-want-to-talk-about-this conversations with friends. Like when your pal wants to discuss what's bothering you, but you really don't, and you get sweaty, and then your glasses fall down.
When You Have Irreconcilable Differences and Five Extra Bones
June 01, 2017 21:22 - 38 minutes - 35.1 MBHow to handle a messy friend break-up and keep your cool when you suspect someone is talkin' shit. This episode is all about zooming down the high road and being the bigger person. Even bigger than James Comey! Content warning for banter involving babies, pregnancy, and cannibalism - you can skip the first four minutes.
So Many Apples Tall
May 25, 2017 17:42 - 34 minutes - 31.7 MBListeners ask,"How do I introduce the person I'm dating to my friend group?" and "Is it going to be weird to bring my friend to a family wedding?" This episode is all about dating, friends, feeling weird, and wedding etiquette! We also try to wrap our minds around how tall James Comey is, but we can't, we just canNOT.
The Friendship Awakens
May 18, 2017 17:17 - 32 minutes - 29.7 MBFriendship is the foundation of Star Wars, so we allowed ourselves an episode to get into the significance of Rey's first desert scene, Finn and his handholding, Han Solo being A Good Older Dude, why BB8 is definitely a Slytherin, and finally... the Sisterhood of the Traveling Poe's Jacket. Plus, bonus! You can find out how Jenn feels about love triangles. This episode is for DORKS ONLY!
Take Your Friends to a Loud Eater's Club
May 11, 2017 17:56 - 33 minutes - 30.8 MBHow much advice can we pack into one episode? LET'S FIND OUT! We tackle a whole slew of questions that are big and small, important and silly. "How do I take a compliment?" and "My friend is lying about having PTSD!" and "Can I get my friend to stop chewing so loudly?" Whoooole lotta wisdom up in here, try to keep up, 'kay?
Ask Me About My Pocket Nuts
May 04, 2017 21:55 - 41 minutes - 38.4 MBListeners ask: "I want to have a birthday party with booze. Can I invite my friend who doesn't drink?" and "I'm a new baby vegan. What's the protocol with friend groups? Do I bring my own food to potlucks?" Jenn sort of daydreams about vegetables for awhile but Trin remains the expert on this subject. Go ahead, check her pockets. They're full of snacks. Also, please note our content warning for discussion of food health & mentions of alcoholism.
Meet our twins, Dave and Gary
April 27, 2017 17:54 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MBThis week we got an awesome and tough question that really tested us: "My friend's kid is turning into a jerk. Do I speak up?" We have some thoughts on how to handle little Dave and little Gary, but if you decided to rocket to the moon instead of confronting this, we'd understand. Please enjoy! We're going to go watch re-runs of Jeopardy now.
All About That Dip, Baby
April 20, 2017 16:20 - 30 minutes - 28.1 MBThis week we tackle the worldwide phenomena known as "sports" and discover that sports are basically D&D in disguise. Our first question is: "I don't care about sports but my friends really do. Do I need to make myself care to hang out with them?" And another: "My hockey team is doing badly and my friend is talking shit." Special thank you to our new editor, Ian Parman, for helping us with this episode!
Bean Mush
April 13, 2017 23:39 - 36 minutes - 33.3 MBYou've probably got a friend in need. A friend who is struggling. You do! In this episode we offer some small, everyday things you can do to help -- things that don't cost a ton of time, energy, or money. So have a listen, help your sad pal, and STAY AWAY FROM HORSES. Trust us on this. CW: mentions of masturbation and vehicular manslaughter.
Bean Mush
April 13, 2017 23:39 - 36 minutes - 33.3 MBYou've probably got a friend in need. A friend who is struggling. You do! In this episode we offer some small, everyday things you can do to help -- things that don't cost a ton of time, energy, or money. So have a listen, help your sad pal, and STAY AWAY FROM HORSES. Trust us on this. CW: mentions of masturbation and vehicular manslaughter.
Joe Biden's Face (and a special live episode!)
April 06, 2017 21:32 - 40 minutes - 28.6 MBJenn's had the flu all week, so while she's been chugging Pedialyte and disinfecting her doorknobs, Trin was kind enough to edit our live episode from Very Very Fun Day. For this one we held a workshop: How Not To Be A Jerk About Politics. This is probably our best live show. No...it DEFINITELY is. Includes some truly great questions from the audience. Thanks, audience!
You Might Be An Asshole (but you're not doomed)
March 30, 2017 18:07 - 50 minutes - 41.2 MBPobody's nerfect! We share some of our significant fuck ups, the moments when we were the assholes in a friendship. Let's improve together! We have faith that even the most egregious assholes, like the anonymous Twitter eggs with naked anime avatars, can be better. You CANNOT miss this wild episode. It's basically a confessional. (Psst! Listen until the end for a small gift surprise from us.) Content warnings for mentions of: death, gun violence, and abuse.
Dust That Can Know Itself
March 23, 2017 15:59 - 51 minutes - 47.3 MBHey! This is the most intense, honest episode we've ever done! We interviewed each other and got into our struggles with self-worth, insecurities, some memories from childhood, and going to therapy. There's laughter, there's darkness, there's a bit of everything in here. We hope you like it. We're going to go lie down for awhile. Content warning for depression, mental illness, and indirect reference to suicidal thoughts.
Manic Pixie Dream Cheetos
March 16, 2017 18:29 - 29 minutes - 26.9 MB"My friend is a serial dater and he thinks he is in love with every woman he goes on a date with." How do you tell him he's *probably* not? DO YOU EVEN? We're back after a brief hiatus to bring you some sexy advice. Also, Jenn missed Trin so much that she got her a rock.
Work Work Work Work Work Work
February 24, 2017 00:25 - 24 minutes - 22 MBBusiness business BUSINESS! Step right up for business! This episode is about working and hiring your friends. We start with the question, "I asked a friend to design a logo for me. It's terrible. What do I do now?" We'll help you out with this, but only if you let us see the logo.
You're Doing The Right Thing With Your Face
February 16, 2017 23:34 - 36 minutes - 33.6 MBDo you have a friend who makes you feel forgotten? On the regular? Whaaaat if you have a friend who nitpicks things about you, like your appearance? Well we sure hope that's not the case! But if it IS! Listen to this! We clawed our way through many terrible sports metaphors to bring you this advice. Side note: prepare thyself for Trin's upcoming spin-off podcast, Talking Skin with Trin, debuting summer 2019.
Butthole Tendencies
February 10, 2017 04:47 - 41 minutes - 38.2 MBIf you thought LAST week was a rollercoaster, well, get ready for this one. We answer the question: "I’m part of a marginalized community. I’ve had people attempt to compliment me in a manner that is either inappropriate or downright offensive to my community. How can I communicate this?" (P.S. We had to re-upload this episode because the file got all bungled up. Sorry everyone!)
Baby's First Outrage
February 02, 2017 19:51 - 31 minutes - 28.8 MBAn episode about being new to the fight! We answer, "How can I stay woke enough for my friends?" and "My friend can't turn off the politics and it's bringing me down, what now?" How to turn your discomfort into action, handle enragement fatigue, manage etiquette while protesting, and taking care of yourself and your friends in these tryin' times.
Not to Pry, But
January 26, 2017 17:41 - 27 minutes - 24.8 MBYou want to know what the hell is going on in your friend's life, BUT you definitely don't want to pry or make them uncomfortable. What do? Also, Jenn still has a head cold and Trin still has a screaming robot.
Silly Garbage People
January 19, 2017 20:06 - 38 minutes - 35.5 MBGive us your hand, and let us go on a journey...a long journey....into YOURSELF! Sorry, that was weird. Basically this episode is all about introspection and meta-thinking and examining your own behavior. We answer three (three!) questions this time, starting with "How come my friends don't let me dump my problems onto them? Are they crappy friends?"