IN TRANSIT with Sundae Bean
327 episodes - English - Latest episode: 10 months ago - ★★★★★ - 24 ratingsSteady advice in an unsteady world. Funny and heartfelt, this weekly podcast draws on the realities of life transitions. Rated Top 5% globally for five years and counting, you can trust IN TRANSIT with Sundae Bean to support you through Ambitious Transformation regardless of what life slings at you.
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127: Clear Signs You’re In Expat Quick Sand
June 09, 2019 22:00 - 28 minutes - 25.8 MBThey say, you can’t build your castle on quicksand and expect it not to sink. There are four areas of quicksand where expats unsuspectingly get stuck. Once you start to sink, it’s easy to get trapped. We get trapped in an unmet hunger for connection, a sense of paralysis when all you want to do is take action, the deep desire for more purpose and a yearning to have a clear direction. You are not alone, we have all walked across this quicksand at some stage of our expat lives. The post ...
126: What Every International School Counsellor Wishes You Knew
June 02, 2019 22:00 - 50 minutes - 46.3 MBWouldn't you love to know exactly what’s happening behind the scenes with your kids? What they are really feeling? How they are really coping with transition? How would you like to get the inside scoop from somebody who watches your kids when they are at their best and supports them at their worst? Our special guest, Eliza Pomiecinska, is an international school counsellor, psychologist, play therapist and she’s privy to what you need to support your international kids. The post 126: What...
125: Grief And Guilt Raising TCKs With Ruth Van Reken
May 26, 2019 22:00 - 53 minutes - 48.6 MBIf you are raising your children abroad, chances are you’ve heard the term Third Culture Kid. If you haven’t, you will want to pay extra close attention. If you have, this episode has something brand new for you. Together with today’s special guest Dr. Ruth van Reken, co-author of the book Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds, we explore grief, guilt, and identity as well as the pride and absolute joys of raising our children abroad. If you think you’ve heard this all before, wait: ...
124: Desperate To Get My Career Back
May 19, 2019 22:00 - 23 minutes - 21.2 MBThe fact that so many expats feel that they are the only one out there who is struggling is concerning. That’s why in the next two weeks Expat Happy Hour will feature real-life individuals who are going through the same things you are so that you can see that you’re not alone. Today’s volunteer will sound familiar to many: expat, wife and mother who is desperate to find her way back to her career and most importantly her purpose. The post 124: Desperate To Get My Career Back appeared fir...
123: Change Shame
May 12, 2019 22:00 - 19 minutes - 17.6 MBWe all know shame - that feeling of embarrassment for doing something we regret. Change shame, however, is different. It shows up when you look back on who you were or what you did then and feel shame creep up, asking yourself why you didn't make those changes sooner. Why is it that we don’t use these moments to celebrate instead of chastise? It is time to turn this around. The post 123: Change Shame appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
122: Where We’ve Gone Wrong About Expat Friendships.
May 05, 2019 22:00 - 25 minutes - 22.9 MBThe topic of friendship and expat life is a difficult but important one. Research shows the following: “You have a 50% increased odds of survival if you have a solid social network.” As expats it can be difficult to nurture and maintain friendships with people that are no longer in our time zone. This makes us err on the side of caution when creating new friendships, not wanting to keep losing good friends. The post 122: Where We’ve Gone Wrong About Expat Friendships. appeared first on ...
121: Why Only 25% Of International Assignees Are Women
April 28, 2019 22:00 - 38 minutes - 34.9 MBSomething about this is just not right. Research suggests that there is no difference between male and female expatriates effectiveness, yet only an estimated 16 to 25 % of females have the lead assignment. What is going on here? We put this question to Global Mobility Expert, Cathy Heyne, who helps us untangle the assumptions when considering female assignees placement. Listen to the Full Episode: https://sundaebean.com/2019/04/29/121-why-only-25-percent-of-international-assignees-are-w...
120: Insider Secrets For Assignees And Global HR
April 21, 2019 22:00 - 35 minutes - 24 MBA failed assignment abroad is something no one wants. Not only is it a very expensive exercise for the company, the cost to a family can cause career damage, put undue strain on your relationship, add immense stress to a child’s transition. Nevermind the relationship between the assignee and the corporation. In this week’s podcast special guest and Global Mobility Expert, Cathy Heyne, offers straight-talk on what every HR professional wishes you knew to help your family have the easiest ...
119: How To Deal With Guilt Trips From Family To Move Back.
April 14, 2019 22:00 - 23 minutes - 21.6 MBAre you one of those expats whose family is constantly putting you on a guilt trip for living abroad? Maybe you are constantly second guessing yourself: Am I really doing the right thing? Am I being selfish? Wouldn’t it just be easier if I buckled under the pressure and went home? This week’s podcast helps you deal with those guilt trips from friends and family back home. I will share tips on now only how to see it from a fresh perspective, but how to navigate it so that both you and you...
118: The Secret To Being Present With Your Kids.
April 07, 2019 22:00 - 28 minutes - 26.5 MBThe secret to being present with your kids has nothing to do with your kids and it has everything to do with you. We are so busy living our day to day lives all the while navigating parenting abroad that we sometimes forget what’s most important: In order to take the best possible care of our kids, we need to take first-class care of ourselves. This week’s podcast follows on the heels of our recent 5-Day Global Parenting Challenge to share a few of the key lessons and how we can continue...
117: Why You Should Talk About Grief Before It Strikes
March 31, 2019 22:00 - 32 minutes - 30 MBGrief is tough enough. Add being part of an intercultural family or navigating a globally-mobile life and it gets even more complicated. When loss strikes, no one wants to also manage unexpected guilt or feel unprepared when confronted with cultural expectations that are completely different from your own. This week’s podcast comes on the heels of having flown across the world to grieve with family. Listen to today’s podcast which explores four phases that can help uncomplicate the impact o...
116: Breaking Through The Stay Or Go Dilemma
March 24, 2019 22:00 - 24 minutes - 22.2 MBAnybody who lives abroad knows the excruciating feeling - indecision that keeps you up at night. Suddenly, for any number of different reasons, you find yourselves faced with a decision, “Do you stay or do you go?” You wonder how your answer will shape the future. Listen to today’s podcast for three different strategies to get unstuck when you are faced with the dilemma of staying or going. The post 116: Breaking Through The Stay Or Go Dilemma appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
115: When You Feel Like You Live In A Different Country From Your Partner. But You Don’t
March 17, 2019 22:00 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MBYou are living abroad with someone that you love, but a wedge is being driven between you because you feel as if your experiences are so different that you might as well be living on different planets. You see the country you’re living in from totally different perspectives and your priorities are on opposite ends of the spectrum. No matter how much you hate to admit it, you’re essentially living completely separate lives. Truth is if you’re unable to see things from their perspective (or ...
114: What You Wish You Could Say To Your In-Laws
March 10, 2019 22:00 - 45 minutes - 5 MB“Dear In-laws, Never tell me how to raise my children, I'm living with one of yours and there is a lot of room for improvement.” All joking aside, dealing with your in-laws under regular circumstances can be difficult enough, never mind trying to navigate this dynamic as a global family. Drawing on the voices of my clients and expat connections over the years, I have crafted a letter that you may only dream of sending to your in-laws, a letter that you may also secretly wish your spouse ...
113: Am I Unknowingly Spoiling My Kids? Overindulgence With Dr. Bredehoft.
March 03, 2019 22:00 - 47 minutes - 43.8 MBOverindulgence isn’t just about the families who give too much ice cream. Overindulgence includes a broad spectrum, from allowing too much of anything, to over nurturing or simply having too soft of structures. According to the experts, overindulgence is a form of child neglect. What?! Yes, read on. Thanks to the decades of research from today’s guest, Dr David Bredehoft, and his associates, Dr Connie Dawson and Jean illsley Clarke, parents who are committed to doing the right thing are not...
112: Global Families
February 24, 2019 22:00 - 14 minutes - 13.2 MBRegardless of our reason for living abroad, we are part of a global family. This family system - whether we like it or not - has the potential to make our experiences extremely positive or throw us off track. We all want our lives abroad to be filled with joy and amazing experiences, but sometimes the system we find ourselves in feels like it weighs us down. Listen to today’s podcast to take the first step to seeing your global family in a new way, so that you can feel happier and more balan...
111: When You Feel Unhappy With Your Body With Susan Hyatt
February 17, 2019 22:00 - 35 minutes - 32.9 MBSelf-care isn't like Godiva Chocolate - something to be indulged in from time to time. You likely put everyone in your family and community, including your pets, before your own self care and health. If we don’t start scheduling time for our own needs and pleasure our martyrdom continues and everyone loses: Our health, our partners, our children and our own self-image. Today’s guest on Expat Happy Hour, Susan Hyatt, is passionate about helping women get more of what they crave - and stopp...
110: Grand Gestures
February 10, 2019 22:00 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MBThere’s an important life event happening halfway around the world that you don’t want to miss but you are stuck in indecisiveness. Should I go? Should I stay? Living abroad without regret is one of my core principles and knowing when to make a grand gesture is part of living that. Inspired by my decision to say “yes” to 42 hours of travel to spend nearly the same amount of time celebrating my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary, I share guidelines on what to consider when contemplating wheth...
109: Finding A Job Abroad With Vici Koster-Lenhardt
February 03, 2019 22:00 - 44 minutes - 40.8 MBYou have a great professional background, but the only problem you are struggling to use it in your newly-adopted country. Find yourself asking “What is the secret to finally finding a job in this country?!” Today’s guest, Victoria Koster-Lenhardt, has the insights to help you make that career transition and land the job. The post 109: Finding A Job Abroad With Vici Koster-Lenhardt appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
108: Bounce Back From a Backslide
January 27, 2019 22:00 - 19 minutes - 17.4 MBThere are times in your life when you’re on a passionate journey to uplevel your life, when you suddenly realise that your partner is being left behind. No matter how hard you’d like to ignore it, they are just not in the same space as us. What can you do if your making big changes in your parenting approach, your health or your routines but your partner just isn't? The truth is you really cannot change anyone else, you have to make the change yourself. In today’s episode, I’m showing you th...
107: You’re Changing But Your Partner Isn’t
January 20, 2019 22:00 - 18 minutes - 16.8 MBThere are times in your life when you’re on a passionate journey to uplevel your life, when you suddenly realise that your partner is being left behind. No matter how hard you’d like to ignore it, they are just not in the same space as us. What can you do if your making big changes in your parenting approach, your health or your routines but your partner just isn't? The truth is you really cannot change anyone else, you have to make the change yourself. In today’s episode, I’m showing you th...
106: Letting Go of the Old to Create Space For The New
January 13, 2019 22:00 - 35 minutes - 32.5 MBWhen we set our sights on new and higher goals, change is imminent. While change can be challenging, the secret to up-leveling your life comes in welcoming the process of transformation. The biggest obstacle most of us face is resistance to letting go of old patterns and ideas that we are clinging to, but this […] The post 106: Letting Go of the Old to Create Space For The New appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
105: Tiny Moves. Big Impact.
January 06, 2019 22:00 - 32 minutes - 29.4 MBAs we enter 2019, our energy is focused on the new experiences we want to create this year, whether they are for our health, our family, or in our professional lives. As we set out to accomplish our big goals, we have to remember that the small steps along the way are what add up […] The post 105: Tiny Moves. Big Impact. appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
104: From Military Sergeant Mom To Mary Poppins Overnight
December 30, 2018 22:00 - 19 minutes - 17.5 MBAs we enter the space of transition into the New Year, we have a special opportunity to reflect, and enter 2019 with our eyes wide open, and our intentions clear in our minds. As we set goals for moving forward, you might find that there is something you want to show up for even more […] The post 104: From Military Sergeant Mom To Mary Poppins Overnight appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
103: How Food Impacts Your Resilience, Adaptation and Feeling of “Home” – with Mauro Clerici
December 23, 2018 22:00 - 50 minutes - 46 MBI had only lived abroad for nine months, when I made my first trip home to be in a friend’s wedding. And in those nine days, I ate twelve bagels! Food plays a key role in helping us establish our lives abroad, bridging our experience of our first home, as we create new ones. Today […] The post 103: How Food Impacts Your Resilience, Adaptation and Feeling of “Home” – with Mauro Clerici appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
102: Going Solo with Michelle Ponto
December 16, 2018 22:00 - 36 minutes - 33.3 MBWe all know the joys of arriving in a new place and discovering the adventures that are to be had. But it can be hard if we don’t know anyone who can join us on our journeys, or if the person we really want to be there isn’t available. My guest today knows this predicament […] The post 102: Going Solo with Michelle Ponto appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
101: Swinging on the Intercultural Pendulum with Dr. Kris Acheson
December 10, 2018 03:00 - 40 minutes - 36.9 MBYou’ve probably heard me mention my academic, interculturalist side from time to time, but today I’m bringing it out on full display to share an exciting project I’ve been working on with my guest on today’s episode. Dr. Kris Acheson is the incoming director of the Center for Intercultural Learning, Mentorship, Assessment and Research at […] The post 101: Swinging on the Intercultural Pendulum with Dr. Kris Acheson appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
100: Behind The Scenes – 100 Episodes of Expat Happy Hour
December 02, 2018 22:00 - 44 minutes - 40.6 MBI am thrilled to celebrate my 100th episode of Expat Happy Hour! Every week, for the past 100 weeks, I have had the pleasure of discussing the joys and challenges of life abroad with all of you, and exploring all of the ways that we can live deeply engaged and meaningful lives. Today I am […] The post 100: Behind The Scenes – 100 Episodes of Expat Happy Hour appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
99: 3 Things You Can Do When You Are Extremely Stressed
November 25, 2018 22:00 - 18 minutes - 16.9 MBWe all have strategies to manage our stress day-to-day. But when it becomes severe, and we experience it in the context of an intercultural relationship, it can feel insurmountable. So, what to do? We need to develop tools to help us connect with our partner when it feels like we are speaking different languages, and […] The post 99: 3 Things You Can Do When You Are Extremely Stressed appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
98: Are You Living the Example You Want to Set for Your Children?
November 18, 2018 22:00 - 28 minutes - 25.8 MBW.E.B Du Bois famously wrote, “Children learn more from what you are than what you teach.” This timeless statement cuts to the core for any of us who are parents, and likely brings back memories from moments when our children have reflected our behaviors back to us, whether we liked what we saw or not. This week’s episode is an opportunity to look closely at the ways we are living, and consider whether they are in accordance with the example we want to set for our children. If we aren’t pare...
97: Nothing Will Change Unless You Do
November 11, 2018 22:00 - 17 minutes - 16.4 MBWe all have things that we want to change—in our work lives, our families and relationships, and our personal aspirations. Whether that longing for change is new or has been hanging around for years, we can’t continue expecting that anything will change, unless we are prepared to make sustained effort until we see the result. When we gain clarity about our goals, take action, and remain accountable for the outcomes, we can see incredible impact manifesting in our lives. Today’s episode will ...
96: Be the one who walks, not talks.
November 05, 2018 16:07 - 21 minutes - 19.9 MBIt’s easy to feel comfortable in routines—they support us and keep our daily lives moving. But if we rely on them without looking deeper, we can slip into ways of conducting our life that leave us feeling like a shadow of our full potential. If you want to break out of static patterns, but don’t know how to shift into a new and greater domain, then I have a message you need to hear: You are only one step away from completely transforming your life! Listen now | Listen in iTunes The post 96...
95: You Are One Step Away
October 28, 2018 22:00 - 22 minutes - 20.4 MBIt’s easy to feel comfortable in routines—they support us and keep our daily lives moving. But if we rely on them without looking deeper, we can slip into ways of conducting our life that leave us feeling like a shadow of our full potential. If you want to break out of static patterns, but don’t know how to shift into a new and greater domain, then I have a message you need to hear: You are only one step away from completely transforming your life! Listen now | Listen in iTunes The post 95...
94: You’re Selfish If You Don’t Do This
October 21, 2018 22:00 - 17 minutes - 16.1 MBToday we are shattering a well-intentioned, but misguided perception that I encounter all the time. Over and over, my clients tell me that they are exhausted and doing everything they can to take care of their families, but that at the end of the day, they have nothing left for themselves. Yet, when we explore the idea of putting ourselves first, they invariably worry that they are being selfish. In order to support ourselves and the ones we love, we must practice putting ourselves first, an...
93: Challenges and Benefits of Expat Families Living with Disabilities
October 14, 2018 22:00 - 1 hour - 62.9 MBLiving abroad can present additional challenges for families living with disabilities. Among the many concerns that parents have, it can be particularly hard to ensure that children have access to educational environments that support their personal learning styles, and that are sensitive to the culturally diverse backgrounds they often bring with them. But life abroad has many benefits as well, and can support families living with disabilities, if they are prepared to utilize the resources ...
92: How to Get Published Abroad with Olga Mecking
October 07, 2018 22:00 - 37 minutes - 34.5 MBWho wouldn’t love to live abroad and get paid to write for major publications? If we’re honest, we can probably all admit that we’ve thought about it at one time or another. Today’s guest, Olga Mecking, is a writer, journalist, and translator, who has been published in media outlets that include the BBC, the Guardian, The Atlantic, and CNN. She joins me on Expat Happy Hour today to demystify what being an author abroad really looks like, and to share some tips and insights into how you can g...
91: How to Stop Polarization and Influence Positively with Bob Burg
September 30, 2018 22:00 - 56 minutes - 51.7 MBWhen was the last time that you caught yourself in a conversation that devolved into an argumentative battle that left you feeling not only staunchly rooted in your beliefs, but angry at the person on the other end? It’s challenging not to do this in personal dialogue, when so much of public discourse today follows this pattern of polarization. Ultimately, it is up to us to change the way that conversations happen, and to engender communication that seeks to connect, build bridges, and find ...
90: Sick of Thinking. Ready to Act…But Don’t Know Which Direction to Go.
September 23, 2018 22:00 - 36 minutes - 33.3 MBIf you feel like you are ready to take action and make changes in your life, but you’re not sure which direction you want to go, this episode is for you! Today, I am outlining seven real-life strategies that will help you identify how you might be blocking yourself from starting down a new path, and what to do to remove those obstacles and move forward. Listen now | Listen in iTunes The post 90: Sick of Thinking. Ready to Act…But Don’t Know Which Direction to Go. appeared first on Sundae S...
89: A Peek Behind the Curtain of Real-Life Transformation
September 16, 2018 22:00 - 1 hour - 56.4 MBHearing stories of how others have created change in their lives can profoundly impact the way that we experience our own transformation, and inspire us to take the next step in making it in a reality. Today we are hearing from two women who I have had the pleasure of working with, and who have transformed their lives. In our conversations, they share where they felt stuck, what was challenging them, and the insights that they gained as they found new ways to move forward. Listen now | List...
88: A Message From Your Future Self
September 09, 2018 22:00 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MBIn today’s episode, we are traveling into the future! We are going to meet our future selves, and receive an important message that will help instruct us in what we are doing today. If you ever felt like you had an aspiration to do something great that was living in your head or your heart, today is the day to take action and make it real. Our future selves are here to tell us that we are capable of making changes in our lives to achieve our biggest goals, and that we can trust in the joy th...
87: 3 Mistakes I Don’t Want You To Make
September 02, 2018 22:00 - 39 minutes - 36.5 MBToday’s episode is a special one—I am celebrating 20 years of living abroad! In that time, I have learned so much, and have been shaped into the person that I am today, through many successes, failures, and encounters with all of the people and places that I have gotten to know along the way. As I’ve been reflecting on these past two decades, I want to share some of the highlights with you, including three mistakes that I don’t want you to make, so that you can benefit from my hindsight, as ...
86: Get Off the Sidelines of Your Life: Secrets from 3 Real-Life Examples
August 26, 2018 22:00 - 33 minutes - 30.4 MBI hear it all the time when working with clients—“I’m stuck.” They feel happy, but they’re hungry for something meaningful, for a sense of purpose. Today we have three powerful stories from women who have gone on a journey and found greater meaning in their lives. We’re discussing the secrets that shaped their transformation, as well as how you can apply them in your own life. If you’re feeling stumped, lost, or lacking in direction, you’re not alone, and this episode is just what you need t...
85: The Trick to Finding Something More Meaningful for You
August 19, 2018 22:00 - 35 minutes - 32.5 MBInevitably, there will be moments when we feel lost, and we experience a yearning to find something more meaningful for ourselves. If we are fulfilling our role as an employee, parent, or spouse, but not being nourished in other domains of our lives, we can end up acting as if everything is ok on the outside, while on the inside we are holding a secret that we’re longing for something greater. If this rings true for you, remember—you’re not alone! When we hear this voice calling out to us, w...
84: The Bitter PTA President
August 12, 2018 22:00 - 21 minutes - 19.9 MBWe all know someone who has become the bitter PTA President. At first they were giving their time joyfully, but through too much personal extension and not enough support, they’ve become resentful. Whether in the PTA, at your job, at home, or with friends, if you’re feeling like you are doing a majority of the work supporting others, but don’t feel supported yourself, it’s time to check that you haven’t developed BP TAP—Bitter PTA President syndrome! Today I’m discussing six signs that you’r...
83: Decide Now What Legacy You Will Leave At Your Goodbye Party
August 05, 2018 22:00 - 19 minutes - 17.8 MBSometimes distinct moments in time bring us opportunities to think about who we are and how we spend our time in the greater context of our lives. After recently attending a goodbye party, it left me thinking about my own legacy, and how, for many rotational expats, parties like these are markers staggered at differently spaced, though regularly expected, intervals. A goodbye party can be a vehicle through which we see our life in our community reflected back to us, and in today’s episode, w...
82: Filling your time is not a goal. Neither is coffee.
July 29, 2018 22:00 - 20 minutes - 28.2 MBA post I saw online recently got me thinking -- Don't live your life by occupying your time, live it on purpose. This idea of "filling our time" is at the core of the problem of being an accompanying spouse. You cannot accept the idea that filling your time is a goal. This will lead to disaster and leave you feeling hungry for purpose and meaning. I'm here to walk you through how you can, as an accompanying spouse, live your life in alignment with what you want Listen now | Listen in iTunes...
81: How To Get Your Confident Self Back
July 22, 2018 22:00 - 31 minutes - 28.7 MBLack of confidence can be detrimental to our ability to create change in our lives. Even though we may be competent and have skills that we have honed over years, if we lack confidence in ourselves, we hold ourselves back from putting them to work where they are most needed, and block ourselves from achieving […] The post 81: How To Get Your Confident Self Back appeared first on Sundae Schneider-Bean, LLC..
80: A Message From Your Old Self
July 15, 2018 22:00 - 15 minutes - 14.6 MBI recently got a call from someone with whom I hadn’t spoken for a while—my 15-year-old self! Through checking in with her, I discovered some important insights that my old self has to offer, that can serve me in my life today. When we feel like we’ve gone off track, or lost some part of ourself, that is the time to go back to our old self and see what wisdom they have to offer. Today I’m sharing the message that I got from my old self, so that you can go back and see what is waiting for you...
79: Real-Life Example of How to Get Unstuck
July 08, 2018 22:00 - 30 minutes - 27.8 MBToday’s episode is a real-life example of how I work with clients to help them identify where they are stuck, and create a clear path for moving forward. My guest in this conversation is Ipsita, who has moved to a new location as an accompanying spouse and is feeling stuck. We discuss what is challenging her, and how we can clarify her vision and bring it into alignment with her day-to-day life. Whether you are feeling confused about your true calling, or have been dancing around a new idea ...
78: Where Did My Power Go?
July 01, 2018 22:00 - 15 minutes - 21.3 MBWhen we give away our power to others, we may have the best intentions to take care of or work with them, but we inevitably feel the impact on our own health and wellbeing. Whether it is with friends, family, or in business environments, we have to make time and space to acknowledge the things that give us power, and to communicate our needs appropriately. If you feel fatigue, irritation, or dismay at how situations you thought you had under control have turned out, it’s time to check in wit...