Conversations with Toi
193 episodes - English - Latest episode: 23 days ago -A Blogcast from Lifestyle Blogger ToiTime. Discussing life's journey whether that is through failure or success. We all have a few things that we wished we could learn from the mistakes of the past and that is the journey we take. From motherhood, being a wife, dealing with anxiety, and everything else in between there's nothing held back. This a podcast for all. We will laugh, cry, and share the ups and downs together. Are you ready?
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Mental Health Doesn't get a Vacation
June 21, 2024 04:00 - 42 minutes - 39.1 MBThis is the last episode of Season 10. Do not worry I will be back. I love to incorporate breaks. But be on standby in case anything should happen. In addition, check out the many other episodes from past seasons until our official return. ............................ On this episode I am covering summer vibes. How to take care of your mental health during the summer. Summer may be light but mental health doesn't take a vacation. ................. Solo trips, staycations, and filling you...
The way these fathers are set up
June 14, 2024 03:28 - 56 minutes - 51.9 MBIts Fathers day weekend and I am not sugar coating how these fathers are. However it is not in the way that you think. I share my own pain around my own biological father. What it means to have that Kirk Franklin' Somebody's son(daughter) experience. .... Why are some Content Creators so mean and full of drama? Yall just eating it up. Everytime you share bad content, controversial content, and more you help line their pockets. Share content that best sets well with you. If you are going to...
People Pleasing and Mental Health
June 07, 2024 05:03 - 54 minutes - 49.7 MBIf you ever been in your people pleasing phase then you know the toll it takes on your mental health. From being mad at yourself for always feeling giving in and not saying no when it needs to, from feeling as if your being nice is hurting you, and more, You know that people pleasing isn't where you want to be. So like Melissa said, we not holding hands anymore. No more trying to get folks to see your side. Also we learning to use NO alone where only NO is strong enough to work. .............
It's a Wild Time in the World
May 31, 2024 10:12 - 47 minutes - 43.7 MBThe news broke of Trump being a 34 time felon while I was driving and talking to my grandma-what a wild time in the world. As a political science major I do not argue folks down about who they vote for. It is not my business. However it does say a lot on both sides about people. So don't let the election take you into the arguing with people way it's not worth it. ....................... However having an ex president try to become the President again with felons is wild in a world where ...
We Outside but we outside right
May 24, 2024 10:55 - 46 minutes - 42.8 MBIt's Memorial Day weekend which means the unofficial summer has begun. We taking trips and using our PTO but we have to act right. What is your mental health regiment for flying or taking a road trip? I have mine that has been working. From packing a few weeks to a week before, arriving to airport 2 hours ahead to eat and have a beverage. There are things that we can do to help ease things like anxiety and more. Don't get on the no fly list trying to be funny-leave the jokes to the comedians...
Kevin Ross starting Memorial Day off the right way
May 18, 2024 12:08 - 45 minutes - 41.9 MBWe have none other than Kevin Ross. He is a breath of fresh air. You may know him from his hit Long Song Away. He is a writer, singer, and producer. His songs are mesmerizing and his range undeniable. He is coming to Philadelphia to a sold out show on May 25th at City Winery. He does have tickets available for the Pittsburgh show happening that Sunday. ........... We talk about his passions, what sets him apart, and a great conversation for Mental Health Month. What does Kevin do? He is s...
You need balance and better communication with my Mom, Rhonda Allen
May 10, 2024 02:58 - 53 minutes - 49.3 MBHappy Mother's Day to all of the moms. Its a hard job with no days off but when you are doing it right it is the most rewarding. For all of those who do not have their mom or have a strained relationship with their mom I am sending love your way .......................... With it being Mother's Day I wanted to make sure that I had the mother of all mothers on and included my mom. We talk about going no contact, the frustration of not seeing your mom from her perspective, the good. bad, and...
Beautifully Broken with Ella Shae
April 26, 2024 04:00 - 59 minutes - 54.9 MBSometimes in life we believe in order to inspire you have to have it all together. That is not the case. Today's guest is Ella Shae. ............................. Mental health advocate Ella Shae’s book, From Broken to Beautifully Broken, offers her first-hand experience on the importance of self-care and why taking time for yourself ultimately makes you a better partner, parent, companion, and friend. Her story begins with a traumatic car accident as a child that later manifested in an ea...
Supporting Black Moms beyond Black Maternal Health Week
April 17, 2024 10:12 - 25 minutes - 23.6 MBWhat is the call to action for Black Maternal Health week? To save our black moms. All moms deserve to deliver safely, to be heard during postpartum care and more. But we know that there is a disparity. According to the CDC: Black women are three times more likely to die from a pregnancy-related cause than White women. Multiple factors contribute to these disparities, such as variation in quality healthcare, underlying chronic conditions, structural racism, and implicit bias. .................
You can be both faith based and check in on your mental health
April 12, 2024 07:35 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MBMental health doesn't stop at the prayer line. It is important to be faith based in life but when warranted get the help you need from a professional. If you ever grew up under a faith based lifestyle many times you hear that you have to pray, give it to God,and move on. ........................... Moving on when your mind isn't allowing you to is hard. Moving on when you need to see a therapist or more need to take medication for your needs is not feasible nor can it be sustainable-let's...
Joi and Grace with Joi Carter
April 05, 2024 11:56 - 52 minutes - 48.3 MBOn this episode we talk about grace and the challenge to give grace in the same way that we seek it from others. I learned a lesson in therapy this week that grace isn't always once and done. You have to remind yourself often. .......................... I talk about therapy, parenting, doing new things that are uncomfortable for you especially in your mental health healing journey. All things are meant to inspire you ................... We also have Joi Carter who you may know from Read...
Owning your Power even in your Mental Health
March 29, 2024 04:01 - 48 minutes - 44.1 MBWhen you are living in your mental health often times you second guess yourself on all levels. After months and years of going through it many times you look for validation from others. Listen, no...We must find ways to validate ourselves. Learning to tell your story without waiting for those to tell it for you. Owning your power is key. .......................... On the podcast we talk briefly about Diddy but more on being embarrassed about the way your mental health has come forth. For ...
Jessica Pettway's Life can save your life
March 22, 2024 04:24 - 54 minutes - 49.8 MBNo one I know wants to us their life to save others if there life has to be on the line. However we honor the life of Jessica Pettway by using it to help us save the countless of other women who need second opinions and more. .................................... Trigger warning: Cervical Cancer, death, misdiagnosis, and more We talk about the death of Jessica Pettway as it pertains to the mishandling of her case. She leaves behind her husband and two daughters. 9 months since her diagnosi...
Struggle Love, Mental Health, and it's not a flex
March 15, 2024 03:33 - 39 minutes - 35.8 MBI wonder if men knew that bragging about how strong your significant other was by staying in a relationship with someone is NOT a flex. Every relationship has their ups and downs. However, if you saw that by stepping over my boundaries multiple times and being okay with that is crazy work. .......................... How do we justify bad behavior time and time again? Men and some women, please understand that the mental health breakdowns that occur when you are betrayed can last forever ....
Staying Committed with Joris Kondija
March 08, 2024 05:00 - 42 minutes - 38.6 MBWhat does commitment have to do with the Cirque du Soleil Corteo? Everything as we have acrobat Joris Kondija share his reasons for starting with gymnastics and how staying the course led him to the brand of Cirque du Soleil. ................................. We have to stay committed to something in this world that seems to want to encourage failing. So here's to you taking this conversation and sticking to your personal commitments in life. In addition we cover: Ressa Tessa being signe...
Spring Awakenings: Shedding Seasonal Depression and more
March 01, 2024 05:49 - 47 minutes - 43.2 MBIs anyone else looking forward to shedding this seasonal depression and step into a Spring awakening? From travel since its National Plan a solo trip day to letting go of the things that holds us back I get into all of that this episode. ...................................... Are we giving participation awards to parents and specifically dads? Lil Scrappy had a lot to say this week on why people don't mention the parenting he does as the mother of his kids leaves to do the things that she ...
Your anchor holds your future
February 23, 2024 06:17 - 44 minutes - 41.1 MBHave you ever questioned your past choices in life? We all make mistakes so this isn't about perfectionist. In life, there will be times when you realize later on aka your future self finally understands the past was building the good for your future. On this episode: I also cover the 50 part plus Rissa Tissa, Wendy Williams, and leave you with some encouragement that I hope on your darkest day illuminates your path. If you are looking for the viral Rissa Tissa story its on TikTok Follow...
Apologies and Going No Contact
February 16, 2024 05:50 - 56 minutes - 51.4 MBComedian Mo'Nique and her son, Shalon have been creating a stir this week. Since Mo'Nique's rise it's been no secret that Mo'Nique doesn't have a desire to be a wife or parent. Fast forward to Mo'Nique's appearance on Clip Shay Shay where sh talk about her lack of parenting with her son. ................................................... Its easy to also note that Mo'nique has 2 other sons. Either way the exchange leads to what is no contact, and apologies This episode: Mental health ...
There's Space for all of us
February 09, 2024 05:00 - 45 minutes - 41.9 MBNo matter what field you are in there's always room for more. I dislike when I hear people use tactics to be the mean girl/women and disinclude others. Often it's from their own insecurity but still its unnecessary in every way. ........................................... We have this week Elle of Siponwhat as we talk about her moving into the Content Creator space, tips she's learned, forging her own ways, and friendships along the way. Tune in as we talk about that and aspects of being ...
Research, Joys, and Clapbacks with Camille Mola
February 02, 2024 05:00 - 44 minutes - 40.7 MBUnfortunately in content creation or blogging there is always room for clapbacks. We have Camille Mola of Positive Publicity as our guest as we talk all things writing, pop culture, and more. She shares how she got into the joy of writing. Whatever your joys are one thing is for your gift will make room. .................................................................................................... Camille is not only an amazing blogger, writer, but she has experience with PR and can ...
Yes People with Amanda of Phillyfoodandbarrs
January 26, 2024 05:00 - 1 hour - 57.8 MBI love my Content Creator friends. So I will be bringing them on for a few weeks as we talk about different things in the industry. This is definitely something to tune in if you want to start something new (whatever your new is) but you are hesitant about what to do first. We have on today's episode is Amanda of Phillyfoodandbarrs and we talk about content creation and wanting to be on the scene and more. ................................... This episode is dedicated to my friend, Charisse...
Ain't Too Proud...for a Show or some Goals
December 29, 2023 05:00 - 56 minutes - 51.5 MBGoals and The Temptations? Yes on this last episode of the season and year I talk to E. Clayton Cornelious about his role as Paul Williams on the Broadway show of Ain't Too Proud coming to the Kimmel Cultural Campus January 3-21st. Tickets are now available. ........................................................................................................................................... E. CLAYTON CORNELIOUS (Paul Williams) is a Grammy winning Broadway/Tv veteran actor of 25 years...
Christmas Help: Controlling personal anxiety
December 22, 2023 11:57 - 59 minutes - 54.9 MBChristmas is a wonderful holiday. Everyone is getting gifts and you may be thinking of what you don't have, missing those who aren't here, and so much more. While everyone is wrapped in joy you may be seriously in a place of despair. It may be a silent issue as you feel like saying that would damper others so you smile in rooms you don't want to be in. .......................... With that being said, here are some of the ways I use to help me: honesty take breaks journal therapy sessio...
The Gospel according to Jess
December 15, 2023 10:55 - 1 hour - 66.7 MBOh how transformative gospel music can be. However when you are queer the church institution is one of the most isolating. Trying to water who you are out of fear of not being accepted is one thing but straying away from the faith seems to be the solution until Jess performed in the Color Purple Broadway show and it brought her back to it all. ....................... Tune in as we listen to Jessica Johnson as we talk about how the power of gospel music is so transformative. In addition cat...
Back then isn't Our Right Now
December 08, 2023 11:45 - 56 minutes - 51.7 MBIf you ever had an old school momma or aunt or whomever in your life tell you about how back then used to be and the changes that we see now, this is your episode. We respect and love what back then taught us. We love the richness of the history but right now we also have to add in skills set to live that helps us be better people. ...................................... With Mental Health often times people are scared to try the things that could help them because someone in their life wit...
Power of Writing with Sheila Bender
December 01, 2023 04:15 - 1 hour - 55.7 MBHave you ever thought about writing? Feeling like you don't know where to start this is your episode. In addition writing is therapeutic. It heals parts of you just from being vulnerable and willing to share your story. Today's guest is Sheila Bender. ........................... Sheila Bender is a poet, essayist, memoirist, and master teacher, who has helped hundreds of people write from personal experience. She believes that when it comes to writing-in-progress, there is no bad writing ...
Y'all not Capable of Duality?
November 24, 2023 15:04 - 48 minutes - 44.7 MBEver since the news and shock for some/confirmation for others regarding Diddy/Love accusations regarding Cassie came out people are unable to live in Duality. Victim shaming is at an all time high. Instead of people focusing on men in power to not abuse women they (unfortunately mostly men) would rather focus on how long it took for the woman to get enough strength and grit to speak up on the abuse. ...................................... Most folks only went off what is revealed on social...
Passion or Talent Track: Which is your go to with James Earl Jones II
November 17, 2023 07:54 - 59 minutes - 54.2 MBIn this episode we will discuss if its better to lean into something you are passionate about or what you are good at with James Earl Jones II. We talk about his career and what led him going into his career. .................................................. James Earl Jones II (Harry) National tour: 1st Nat’l Come from Away, 1st Nat’l Gershwin’s Porgy & Bess. Regional: Porchlight Music, Goodman, Marriott, Court, Chicago Shakespeare, Writers, Lookingglass, Lyric Opera Chicago, SF Opera, C...
Boundaries are Necessary
November 10, 2023 05:00 - 53 minutes - 49.2 MBAs we dive into this week's episode boundaries are going to be your best friend. Whether in everyday life, for the holidays boundaries are good for all relationships. Did you catch the conversations with Jeezy and Nia Long? IT was more weighted than than simply listening in for whether or not if cheating is the reason why Jeezy and Jeanie Mai had infidelity was the reason for their marriage demise. .......................................... Listen to it for your own and come to your own c...
Keith Lee Effect
November 03, 2023 04:00 - 40 minutes - 36.8 MBKeith Lee is out here doing the lord's work. Keith Lee was on a food tour in Atlanta and Atlanta dropped the ball. If influencers did more work in being honest myself included we all would be helping in our own way. Restaurant industry is shaking and they should IF they aren't giving good customer service and don't plan on doing it either. .........................As soon as Mariah Carey thawed out we are all in a holiday mood or are we? For some this season will be hard. Not everyone is a wa...
Who ya'll dating in these streets?
October 27, 2023 04:00 - 59 minutes - 54.8 MBWe are covering in this episode:The infamous dating list for first dates. Hear my take since some of y'all forgot that dating in your life and stage does matter.Bryan Mcknight or whatever his new is gives a whole new meaning to toxic parent (s)Sleep we need it as we get ready to go into daylight savings this weekend in the midst of a sugar highThe holidays are approaching so let's talk about a plan before we get caught up in drama Subtopics: Mental health, Parenting, Dating, Holidays, and so ...
Team Hallelujah or Halloween
October 20, 2023 04:20 - 43 minutes - 39.5 MBIF you grew up in my church night you either celebrated Hallelujah night in replace of Halloween. So no dressing up, no ability to go trick or treating either. I had been dressing up and trick or treating until I turned 10 .......................... As an adult i get to set the standard for what I want to have happen. We choose trunk or treats for the most part. It's a way to safely experience Halloween. But always make sure that you check all candy. ............................... Juss...
Who Are you On and Offline?
October 13, 2023 03:33 - 33 minutes - 30.9 MBIn a world of pretenders its easy to forget that when the camera goes off who you really are has to shine through. A saying my mom taught me was "every actor has to lay that part down sometime."..........................What that meant was simply that eventually who you are shines through. I had to own who I was and not play the blame game when I was called out in my 20s. Now in my 40s I have learned to embrace who I am. When people meet me they say how much they appreciate that I don't flip ...
What do you love?
October 06, 2023 07:15 - 42 minutes - 39.2 MBApart of your wellness plan should also include the things that you love and like. We talk about self care all of the time but adding joys to your world is important too. Often times when depression comes no one is prepared for it. ..........................October is Depression awareness and education month. Using our platforms to speak up about the fact that depression is silent. It doesn't have a certain look to it. You can be in a crowded room and interacting with others and still feel lo...
Seasonal Depression Tools that I Use
September 29, 2023 05:04 - 1 hour - 60.3 MBMental health is one of those spaces where one size doesn't fit all. What works for me may not work for you and vice versa. If you are encouraged by what you hear in this episode may it spark rejuvenation to one not give up but also fight for you. You are deserving of the life you seek. Use the tools that resonate to you, add a few more, but trust that as temporary and compelling as seasonal depression is, it doesn't have to define you..................................If you are of faith it's...
Oh Father....Broken but healing story journey with Athena Monet
September 22, 2023 04:01 - 1 hour - 64.4 MBIn this episode we will be talking about:Kirk Franklin's documentary... Father's Day-possible trigger warning!Topics will include: faith, fatherhood, abandonment, healing, and redemptionOur guest today is Athena Monet. Athena Monet is an author, gifted intuitive healer, and spiritual guide. Born into a lineage of remarkable women, Athena inherited the extraordinary gifts of clairvoyance and clairsentience from her family. Fueled by a deep curiosity and thirst for knowledge, Athena immersed he...
Mental Health and Your Inner Circle
September 17, 2023 13:21 - 1 hour - 59.4 MBIn today's episode I talk about how your circle matters when you are going through your journey. Although your journey is personal keep in mind that who supports you and tries to stop your healing journey will delay or could delay your healing..............................Get the wrong friend who is encouraging you to not go to therapy because as a person of faith you should pray it away vs the friend who will pray with you that you find the therapist that will help, give you suggestions on f...
Manifesting and Laws of Attraction with Kurt Johnson
September 08, 2023 09:22 - 1 hour - 60.8 MBOn today's podcast we will talk about the laws of attraction and what manifestation is. Also we will cover the following:FriendshipsInterpersonal RelationshipsSelf ImprovementMan who hit woman with a brick and a little more Today's guest is Kirk Johnson. Kurt Johnson - a Law of Attraction Master and a Twin Flame coach on a mission to reshape lives through a holistic approach. He stands apart from conventional online spiritual figures by steering clear of spiritual bypassing guiding individual...
What is Cannonball and how does it fit with Fringe Fest
September 01, 2023 04:01 - 49 minutes - 45.2 MBHappy Friday it's podcast day. Thank you for all of your support. Today's blog we will be discussing the following topics:CannonballFringe FestThe ArtsChildren and Mental health and more................................We have Sam Tower Program Manager and Performance for Young Audiences Cohort Artistic Producer as we talk about Cannonball Fest..............................Cannonball has doubled down on offering something for everyone this year. As the size of the hub has exploded, so has the ...
Energy and Healing with Liz Peterson
August 25, 2023 09:17 - 1 hour - 56.2 MBDo you believe your gifts come before you are born? We discuss that with Liz Peterson as she discusses what happened right after her mom died......................Trigger warning: Talks of grief..............................Liz Peterson is a seer, seeker, spiritual explorer, intuitive energy healer, Reiki Master, spiritual coach, oracle reader, and podcaster who has been a lifelong student of healing, personal growth, and metaphysics. She is the host of the podcast Raise the Vibe with Liz. .....
Nala, The Lion King and Self Care with Khalifa White
August 11, 2023 04:01 - 24 minutes - 22.5 MBThis bonus episode is special as we have Khalifa White who plays Nala in The Lion King Musical on tour now and coming to the Kimmel Cultural Campus on August 16-September 10, 2023. Tickets are on sale now. KHALIFA WHITE (Nala). "To whom much is given much is required." Broadway: Caroline or Change, Off-Broadway: Little Shop of Horrors (Ronnette), School of Rock 1st Nat; Aida (Aida), Ain't Misbehavin, The Bodyguard, Smokey Joe's Cafe, Dreamgirls, Beehive, Hairspray, HKDL|WDW(Nala/Tiana/Kibibi)...
Marriage is a Ministry with Keisha Bass
July 28, 2023 05:46 - 45 minutes - 41.4 MBMarriage is not as easy as everyone paints it. What happens when you are at end of your rope? How do you know when its time to hold on or let go? Keisha Bass is a Wife/Marriage Coach, Motivational Speaker, Author, Healthy Marriage Advocate, and Founder of "Her Dope Marriage". HDM is a faith-centered coaching and consulting brand, led by Keisha Bass, who has been married for over 32 years. While Keisha has always had a strong passion for coaching women to be the best wives they can be, it was ...
To Be Heard with Aggie Jordan
July 21, 2023 07:43 - 51 minutes - 46.7 MBWomen should be heard. Our voices matter and they always have. On today's podcast we have Aggie Jordan. Aggie Jordan, Ph.D., is the former founder and CEO of Jordan-DeLaurenti, Inc, a training and contract management company. Since selling this business, writing has been her life’s work. A former small business columnist for the Dallas Times Herald, and Prime Women, an online magazine, and a writer for The View, the monthly magazine for the Sun City Shadow Hills Community in Indio, Californi...
Becoming Flawsome with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani
July 14, 2023 05:23 - 46 minutes - 42.2 MBKristina Mand-Lakhiani is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist, and mother of 2 kids. As a co-founder of Mindvalley, a leading publisher in the personal growth industry, Kristina dedicated the last 17 years of her career from teachers like Michael Beckwith, Bob Proctor, Lisa Nichols, and many more. She started her career in a government office in her native Estonia and, by her mid-20s, achieved a level of success mostly known to male politicians at the end of their ...
Anniversary Vibes: Cheers to 3 Years of Podcasting
July 07, 2023 04:40 - 42 minutes - 39 MBI can't believe that on Monday, July 10th will be 3 years of starting the podcast, Conversations with Toi. What a journey. From learning how to continue and use my voice, to being consistent and more. ...............................On this week's topics we talk about my cousin (in my head) Keke Palmer as we talk about the comment made by her son's father regarding her wearing too revealing clothes-do you know the mental health that women go through when they have a baby?-is he attempting to b...
Letting Go to Enjoy Vacation: Disney Recap
June 30, 2023 05:57 - 51 minutes - 47.5 MBDisney is the happiest place on the Earth. As soon as you step foot on the property the pixie dust takes over and the magic begins. However if you deal with anxiety and more you may find certain aspects of it to be overwhelming and it can cause you to struggle...........................Vacations are great for renewing your mind, body, and spirit but sometimes letting go to do just that is harder than it seems. Have you struggled while on vacation to let your mind truly take a rest? You can ch...
Vacation or Stay?
June 16, 2023 10:54 - 55 minutes - 50.7 MBDo you need a vacation or do you need to shake the table of your life? Ever hear people need a vacation every 2 seconds? When in reality what they crave is a change in pace or location? What if they really just needed to make changes in who has a front seat into their world?....................................If this is you don't worry on today's topic we talk about mental health and learning the art of resting. Do you need to take a few breaks online and offline? If you take mental health br...
Self Care or Self Preservation with Tamar and Lane
June 09, 2023 10:05 - 41 minutes - 38 MBThis week's episode, we have Lane Kennedy and Tamar Medford, hosts of Laughing without Liquor. We talk about what is self care and self preservation. With over 37 years of continuous sobriety from booze, white powder, pills, and Snicker Bars, Lane Kennedy and Tamar Medford bring a wealth of experience and authenticity to their discussions on living in recovery.......................................Lane and Tamar are on a mission to empower women (especially mothers) to break free from drinki...
Getting it Done with Terri Banner Fitzsimmons
May 26, 2023 06:19 - 49 minutes - 44.9 MBWhat would you do if you knew you could do anything? When do you start living? Our minds can trick us into thinking that when we fail that life stops. What if failing propelled you to your greatest triumph. Terri lost it all and in her late 30s decided it was time to live. How did she do it at almost 74 years old she still in the gym, encouraging others, writing books, and living life on her own terms and without fear. Terri Banner Fitzsimmons is the author, motivational speaker, and best-sel...
Tarte Be Gone
May 19, 2023 05:19 - 56 minutes - 51.7 MBMay is Mental Health awareness month. Let's talk about ways to support others and acknowledge that its real and needs to be treated and more............................................If you have lived under a rock you may not have heard about the drama with Tarte and brand trips. Now it's not my place to say what exactly went down but I will say there are some things that we can learn from it.How do you voice your disdain for feeling as if you are being treated unfairly? If you aren't a cont...