Conversations with Toi
193 episodes - English - Latest episode: 23 days ago -A Blogcast from Lifestyle Blogger ToiTime. Discussing life's journey whether that is through failure or success. We all have a few things that we wished we could learn from the mistakes of the past and that is the journey we take. From motherhood, being a wife, dealing with anxiety, and everything else in between there's nothing held back. This a podcast for all. We will laugh, cry, and share the ups and downs together. Are you ready?
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Trauma Doesn't Have An Expiration
April 30, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 70.6 MBThe world is in an uproar at least in the comment section about Oprah's newest book that is coming out. She is telling parts of her story that she has been reluctant to share. Apparently she is too rich to STILL have trauma. Which we know that is a whole lie and a half. Trauma doesn't have an expiration-you carry the scars for life. We discuss both sides of the discussion. Also Mendeecees stated that if the roles were reversed with Yandy went to jail for a few years, he's not sure if he...
Staying the Course
April 23, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 66.6 MBToday's Sponsor is by Bruush an electronic toothbrush company. They are offering our listeners 15% off with code POD15 at https://bit.ly/3xe5g7S Staying the course even when giving up seems too easy and comfortable. Like Beyonce says winner doesn't quit on themselves. So we talk a very personal story where I had no choice but to stay the course. Self care go tos the week. What are they and how have I been managing. RIP to George Floyd and a continued conversation and action plan for what ...
Humble My Eyesight
April 16, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 64.9 MBSometimes we get so caught up in the admiration of others who we will are doing better than we are that we don't humble our eyesight. We don't know what someone has been through to get to where they are. We need to find a way to love ourselves a little more. Our condolences to DMX's Family and friends. We said last episode that we would keep him in our prayers and sadly he has passed. Black Lives Mattering is more than just an organization its about the actual lives. What brings you joy? ...
That's Ron Isley? Well Looka Here
April 09, 2021 11:00 - 57 minutes - 84.9 MBWe discuss the epic Verzuz TV battle between the Isley Brothers vs. Earth, Wind, and Fire. This was hosted by Steve Harvey who waited his entire life for this moment. Ya'll got to see Steve Harvey pretend he's the member of both groups Don't forget, Baxter Blue as discussed in the show, https://baxterblueglasses.pxf.io/3PeZDr to save 10% off a pair Did you hear the Nick Cannon song, No weapon featuring Gospel's angel, Kierra Clark Sheard? It's a sample from Fred Hammond's No weapon. I al...
National Reconciliation Day They Say?!
April 02, 2021 04:23 - 55 minutes - 59.2 MBListen forgiveness and forging relationships at the same level as before...it doesn't always happen. We talk about counting up whether or not to forgive or not and what goes into the process and self-care through it all Here is the blog that goes along with this episode: https://toitime.org/national-reconciliation-day/ Also both vaccines complete how did I make out? Happy Easter weekend! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toitimeblog Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/toitimeladies ...
The Lies Write Themselves
March 26, 2021 02:23 - 1 hour - 67.4 MBIts been an entire media storm this week. Derrick Jaxn has been living an entire lie. He is a "relationship guru" who has sold a lot of women the story line of what to look forward to when they find the man of their dreams. Yet he is a living and walking nightmare. His wife is a victim. However in her eyes....listen in! Today's Episode is sponsored by The SkinStore. They are offering our listeners 20% off of your next purchase; some exclusion apply https://www.skinstore.com/pod.list.com...
Lookin For A Revolution-Accountability
March 19, 2021 05:16 - 1 hour - 106 MBThis week we had to discuss the accountability of when parents go left. Also kids can go left too. Such as the perceived notion of the leaked snippet of Kirk Franklin and his grown son. Can parents push kids grown or not too far? We discuss this as well as accountability of owning yourself. This week I had a personal blow up that was seasoned from childhood silent treatment tactics. Today's sponsor is Away Bags which is one of my favorite bags to travel with: www.podgo.co/away.com Spring...
Gracing Through A Pandemic and Life
March 12, 2021 08:10 - 1 hour - 87.1 MBThis has been a year to remember. A year of loss and emotional ups and downs. The hardest part is not being able to see loved ones. Watching my children lose their social skills and being in the house for the betterment of the year. The joys have been there as well. Although a large majority of my extended family had Covid-19 we were safe. Reminding myself of that point daily has been crucial. This week's self care has been about honesty. Taking time out when necessary and doing it without...
Bad parenting is a thing
March 05, 2021 04:23 - 1 hour - 73.4 MBTrigger alert! This notion that elders are incapable of bad vibes or even bad intentions have to be dispelled. Even with that in mind, you can disengage with a parent and not out right disrespect them. You can stand up for yourself and not hit below the belt. We talk about this culture of embarrassing children on social media channels. It's disheartening to say the least. I understand being a parent that children are from the Try it School of life. We as parents are not supposed to act agg...
Who's Making the Decisions Around Here?
February 26, 2021 04:35 - 1 hour - 73.4 MBFirst comes love than marriage, than the baby in the baby carriage or something like that. What happens when the love of your love wants to stop having kids and you may or may not want to? Do you get your tubes tied out of his request or benefit of your health for a man who asked for your hand in marriage but isn't your husband? That man now has had more babies with his new wife because changing of minds is real.. Who makes that decision? We explore the notion of permanent decisions with ...
Motherhood and Ego
February 19, 2021 05:52 - 1 hour - 73.7 MBIts amazing for those who have a desire to experience motherhood to hold that baby for the first time. Unchecked trauma can creep almost instantly. Having to be told by a child that your delivery is of off putting can be hard to swallow. Parenthood comes with a lot of gut checks and laying the ego down to give a child what they really need Blac Chyna's mom goes on a rampage calling her all kinds of names and dragging her. Aren't parents supposed to protect? Can moms be jealous of their dau...
The Winter's Tale
February 18, 2021 21:43 - 46 minutes - 63.5 MBI interviewed Ms. Katrina Hall of Philadelphia, PA. She is an actor, director, and playwright. She is Phoenix Theatre's 2021 Virtual Artist in Residence. Listen in as we discuss the production and the surrounding themes such as forgiveness, relationship, and how religion can sometimes influence us good or bad. Get tickets here: http://www.thephoenixtheatrepa.com./ The play runs from Friday February 19-21st virtually!! In Hall's adaptation of William Shakespeare's, The Winter's Tale, aban...
Common Sense Lack Week-Gorilla Glue and Foolery Week
February 12, 2021 13:51 - 1 hour - 72.2 MBWe had to talk about the Gorilla Glue incident as well as Trey Songz. I am married not blind. However we do talk about adulting and the 3 things that got me through this hectic week. We all need some practical things that we can do in addition to therapy. Happy Love Week. This week is full of emotions. Some couples fight more this week too. So don't think everyone is as in love as they post their trinkets. Here is the Episode of my husband and I if you're finding your mate is dealing with...
Difficult Folks We All Got Them
February 05, 2021 15:09 - 55 minutes - 83.3 MBWho doesn't know a difficult person? We have them all around us. From being contentious to down right rude the world needs a spirit lift. We talk about how to navigate around them We also discuss therapy for the week. What were the easy parts and how navigating towards your healthiest mindset can be an asset to everyone. Grown grown-that point in my your life where you no longer deal with folks excuse of bad behavior. I'm in the stage of putting folks out of my presence to preserve peac...
10 Years...Philly Jawn
January 29, 2021 13:23 - 54 minutes - 83.9 MBWhen I moved from my small town of Lancaster to Philly I didn't think I would last 2 weeks let alone 10 years. Here we are showing up for myself, exploring life, raising a family, and becoming whole! Cheers to 10 years and many more adventures! Also check out the podcast featuring my husband as we talk mental health it will make more sense as you listen to both: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/conversations-with-toi/id1523002422?i=1000494949128 Also check out the recent bonus episo...
The Little Princess Interview with Renea Brown
January 25, 2021 19:25 - 45 minutes - 37.8 MBQuintessence Theatre Presents The Little Princess by Frances Hodgson Burnett. Renea Brown plays Sara a young lady who is sent to a boarding school while her father is at war. He is pretty well off so while there he showers her with lavish gifts. One day he died and didn't leave anything for her care at the Boarding School and well that's when things goes left.... I interviewed Renea to find out what her passions were and how she began her acting career at such a young age. Read the review...
Short Week Long Week Loops
January 22, 2021 13:05 - 57 minutes - 89.9 MBWhat a week. It was the longest shortest week. However it was full of amazing history. We have a new President and in the first time in history we have a woman, a Black woman, and an Asian American woman in office. For all of the little girls who dream big dreams-its their time to shine Catching up with the week with self care tips and this weeks joys and pitfalls. Learning to apply the lessons of Dr. Martin Luther King's legacy. Honoring him in our actions beyond social media post. Get mo...
Personal Responsibility
January 15, 2021 14:36 - 1 hour - 102 MBSo many times we aren't able to see that we have an issue. When we do it's up to us to take personal responsibility for our actions. Let's keep it real, adulting sucks but must be done. Social media round up-y'all knees strong enough for the Buss it challenge? I personally didn't get my Meg Thee Stallion knees for Christmas so that's a NO for me. Also New "IT" couple Lory Harvey and Michael B Jordan-what say you? Remember you can follow on the blog at www.toitime.org
Falls and Melees
January 08, 2021 03:15 - 1 hour - 57.5 MBWhat an entire week?! Welcome 2021 or something like that. We talk about falling and what grace comes from that. Of course with a New Year, everyone is doing all kinds of new diets, fads, or putting in new systems-what about sleep?! We talk about the melee that took place at the Capital-I got thoughts Remember you can always get more content by following at www.toitime.org
New Year Soon Come
December 30, 2020 04:50 - 32 minutes - 35.6 MBWe are only a few days away from 2021. Am I the only one who is scared? Pure craziness of what lie ahead is like the land of the unknown. We discuss Christmas and the stress that unfolded. Therapy has been intense however super necessary. Goal setting in 2021 what does that look like? A quick bonus episode as we prepare for whatever the New Year brings!
2021 What is That?
December 18, 2020 06:49 - 1 hour - 79.5 MBYou know how crazy 2020 has been what will 2021 bring? I don't know but I hope it is coming in right. Do we burn planners and kill dreams? Nope! We do our part to be the best version of ourselves and adjust as we need to. Also a lookback at the great things that 2020 brought since 2020 had enough negativity in it. Merry Christmas-7 days to go we will be back January 8th with a bonus in between!
Christmas and Holiday Memories-The Good and Bad
December 11, 2020 06:59 - 1 hour - 71.6 MBAs we get closer to the holidays and more and more of us are missing our family I share my memories, tips, etc. to help us get through Memories are what keeps us close to loved ones present and transitioned! What are your favorite memories that make you smile, angry, or sad? Its okay to feel it all!
Mean Mothers Breed Mean Mothers?
December 04, 2020 16:16 - 1 hour - 82.5 MBWatched Iyanla Vanzant episode with Lisa Raye and I share my thoughts. What is the concept of Proverbs 31 woman is it just to be a stay at home wife or mother? Also holiday traditions and expectations.... We extend season 2 to support others during the start of seasonal depression. We talk about therapy and how vital it is to healing. How would you deal with abandonment from your mother?
Thanksgiving and Therapy
November 27, 2020 18:38 - 53 minutes - 86.1 MBWho starts Thanksgiving with Therapy? I do. It was helpful and necessary. I don't let any one shame me in needing therapy etc. So if you need it you better get it. We talk about the actual social distant day as well as the weekend plans to shop small, local, and minority owned. Happy Thanksgiving and enjoy the weekend and time
Thanksgiving Lockdown
November 20, 2020 06:42 - 54 minutes - 63.8 MBThanksgiving is being served with a dose of Lockdown 2.0. The way in which we here in Philadelphia will be eating smaller meals as we aren't able to get together with loved ones. We also talk about comedian Mo'Nique who says that the real reason she calls her husband "daddy" is because he is raising her Anxiety Triggered this week and I am not sure if it had to do with the lockdown or just normal feelings all over the place.
Covid-19 Inclining Making my Anxiety Rise
November 13, 2020 09:21 - 45 minutes - 54.1 MBI was paying attention long enough to buy toilet paper and not enough to know that a potential lock down is on the full horizon. I have had more panic attacks than a little bit Social media round up-where do the miserable nap? Somebody grab they Pastor....John Gray out here apololizing (I spelled it correctly) again, Celebrating 6 years of blogging and I talk about staying in my lane.
Who's in Power?
November 06, 2020 04:52 - 59 minutes - 97.6 MBAre you exhausted with all of the back and forth of the election? The stress of it all is daunting to say the least. Self care is helping not only to feel good but to address the issues that are underlying. Celebrating 6 years of blogging this month. We touch on not comparing yourself to others but being grateful for where Toitimeblog has been to where it is going. www.toitime.org Lastly how do we keep the tempo of our home? Addressing your issues and having a plan in place is key1
No apologies!
October 30, 2020 05:44 - 59 minutes - 62.3 MBAs we grow and mature we find ourselves at points where what we once wanted no longer serves us. Would you apologize to the ice-cream truck that there are no more tacos at Taco Bell? No?! Stop apologizing to folks who can't bring us joy or not meant for us!
Self Care Fails?
October 23, 2020 09:58 - 1 hour - 82 MBIn a world where self-care has become a multimillion dollar market, can you fail at it? Is working from a full cup more expensive or is it more expensive not to operate at your best capacity. Self care and mental health go together!
Storr Love
October 16, 2020 07:23 - 1 hour - 95.9 MBAs promised I brought in my husband for a little he said/she said candid conversation on all things love and relationships. We talk about surviving Covid-19. We talk all things on relationships and learning about one another
Mental Health Awareness Day Being Embarrassed while Healing
October 09, 2020 05:09 - 1 hour - 83.8 MBA candid conversation about navigating your mental health. How do you deal when others know about your mental health issues or have used your mental health issues against you...
Compare or Square up?
October 02, 2020 04:49 - 1 hour - 61.4 MBWe are Back for Season 2! We catch up on what's been happening the last two weeks. We talk about comparing ourselves to others. Its an awful way to live. Should I have squared up with ole girl or take the lesson and walk away?
No more gasighting!
September 11, 2020 05:08 - 1 hour - 79.6 MBGaslighting often occurs when we trust individuals to protect the space in our lives. We also remember September 11th may we continue to uphold those in our hearts. Season 1 Finale. We will be back for Season 2 on Friday October 2!
No more gaslighting !
September 11, 2020 05:08 - 1 hour - 79.6 MBGaslighting often occurs when we trust individuals to protect the space in our lives. We also remember September 11th may we continue to uphold those in our hearts. Season 1 Finale. We will be back for Season 2 on Friday October 2!
Self Improvement Month-Call a spade a spade!
September 04, 2020 05:49 - 1 hour - 59.8 MBSeptember is Self Improvement Month. We all have so much to get better at in every area. Owning it and being an active participator matters. We deal with relationships and what we attract. No sugar coating-call a spade, a spade.
Loyal to a Fault-Being too Loyal can be harmful
August 28, 2020 05:25 - 1 hour - 58.1 MBWe all have had times where we have had to work that job that didn't serve us. Although the job market is deplorable right now, leaving a job may not be in your best interest. I talk about the regret I felt not leaving a job sooner. Being loyal to a fault will cause a broader disrespect to yourself.
One Sided Relationships
August 21, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 58.9 MBHow to stop and manage guilty feelings of cutting access to others who don't mean us well. We also talk about social media stories of Lil Boosie begging for his Instagram account, Tim Norman murder for hire plot, Kanye being Kanye...
The Devil Made Me Do it-Accountability Hour
August 14, 2020 04:13 - 30 seconds - 57.2 MBWe all have made excuses for our bad behavior one way or another. With that being said we talk about Tommcus Walker, husband of Letoya Luckett-Walker, Selah daughter of Lauryn Hill, and of our course where I have gone wrong in the past. Who should bear the brunt of our bad behavior?
What in the World, Flood me Out...
August 07, 2020 17:31 - 1 hour - 58.7 MBWe recap the week. We had a flood to our house this week. Life gets interesting. Home school on the horizon and helping parents through ad prep. Anniversary behavior was on a thousand.
Relationships and Check-Ins
July 31, 2020 04:36 - 1 hour - 59 MBWedding Anniversary is this weekend and the tidbits learned has been empowering. Tamar is setting the record straight and holding onto to her premise that she wants to get out under the drama of reality television. Checking in-ways to get to the real issue and manage stress
What if they won't take the help?!
July 24, 2020 13:00 - 57 minutes - 56.6 MBLast episode we talked about mental health but what if they won't receive help? Who is responsible for personal mental help and happiness? Who's in charge? A happy wife is a happy life but what if the wife is just miserable?
Mental Health Check In
July 17, 2020 14:00 - 58 minutes - 58 MBIn Episode 2 we discuss the real of where I really am. We talk about mirrors in relationships; no entanglements. Also what about one way relationships? Does childhood trauma green light bad behavior?
Get to Know Me
July 10, 2020 14:01 - 56 minutes - 60.6 MBFailure is inevitable. We learn so much from speaking from the place of failure but not getting stuck. In this first episode we talk about what led me to blog and start a podcast and a few tidbits I learned along the way!