Confidently She
321 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 months ago - ★★★★★ - 7 ratingsRebekah Buege, author of The Body Image Solution and Social Currency, gives her tips for building confidence, improving body image, and thriving as a single woman in today's world. Tune in most Thursdays for episodes that feel like advice from a good friend, not a lecture from an expert.
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124 | She allows space in friendships
April 02, 2020 06:00 - 19 minutes - 26.5 MBI told my friends in Minneapolis I'm moving to California - it was hard. But I reminded myself strong, real relationships allow for space. Closeness isn't the only measure of friendship. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
123 | She's calm in a crisis
March 26, 2020 08:00 - 26 minutes - 36.6 MBStay sane during the coronavirus self quarantine by remembering you've been through uncertain times before. Confident women are calm during chaos and crisis - but it's necessary to have a place to rest and be vulnerable. This is why having a Safe Harbor is essential. LINKS: Facebook Group | Private Coaching | Safe Harbor Article --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
122 | She's an Aries
March 19, 2020 08:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MBWelcome to the first sign of the Zodiac Series! March 21 - April 15 is Aries. Your personality tendencies have a huge impact on how confidence and insecurity show up for you. So I'm breaking down each Zodiac type and showing examples of what insecurity and confidence will look like for that sign. Just like with Myers Briggs or the enneagram, these aren't always 100% accurate - but this helps you know more about someone even if they've never taken one of those assessments! All you need to kno...
122 | Zodiac Confidence Series - Aries
March 19, 2020 08:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MBWelcome to the first sign of the Zodiac Series! March 21 - April 15 is Aries. Your personality tendencies have a huge impact on how confidence and insecurity show up for you. So I'm breaking down each Zodiac type and showing examples of what insecurity and confidence will look like for that sign. Just like with Myers Briggs or the enneagram, these aren't always 100% accurate - but this helps you know more about someone even if they've never taken one of those assessments! All you need to kno...
Aries - Zodiac Confidence Series
March 19, 2020 08:00 - 21 minutes - 29.3 MBWelcome to the first sign of the Zodiac Series! March 21 - April 15 is Aries. Your personality tendencies have a huge impact on how confidence and insecurity show up for you. So I'm breaking down each Zodiac type and showing examples of what insecurity and confidence will look like for that sign. Just like with Myers Briggs or the enneagram, these aren't always 100% accurate - but this helps you know more about someone even if they've never taken one of those assessments! Join the Confidentl...
S2 E120: She trusts herself to make changes without regret
March 19, 2020 07:59 - 19 minutes - 26.2 MBDo you beat yourself up for not making necessary changes soon enough? I've felt that. No matter how long you stayed somewhere you "shouldn't have" you still made the courageous decision to make a change. Change is one of the hardest things for people to do! In this episode, I'm offering some encouragement and perspective on making changes and the two ways people respond to it.
S2 E119: She speaks with confidence (public speaking 101)
March 12, 2020 09:52 - 23 minutes - 32.2 MBHow do you speak with confidence? Let me tell you. This episode has some gems from my college days as a speech kid winning multiple state championships and (in my book) tying for 2nd place in the nation in persuasive speaking. The ability to articulate your thoughts and opinions is a vital tool in your confidence belt. These tips will help you become better, no matter what level you're currently at.
121 | She wants the confidence to stay single Feat. Jessica Hottle
March 12, 2020 08:00 - 34 minutes - 47.4 MBRelationships are great, but getting the confidence to stay true to your standards? That's a gift - my friend. I'm joined by Jessica Hottle for this conversation about dating, sex, relationships, confidence....how to really know who you're dating and how to hold onto your standards (even when he's nice) We are all designed for relationships, so it definitely gets lonely when you're single. But I'm opening up about why I broke off my engagement to encourage you and show you that it's worth be...
S2 E118: She challenges cultural conditioning around body image
March 05, 2020 12:48 - 30 minutes - 41.3 MBWhew! Have you thought long and hard about why you're insecure about what you're insecure about? There are women half way around the world feeling insecure about completely different things...why? Because nearly everything we believe is a result of cultural conditioning. When you grow up in a patriarchal culture, misogyny can play a role in how you view yourself and other women. In this episode, I'm breaking down where your worth comes from and how that's tied to your self-worth.
120 | She changes her mind without regret
March 05, 2020 09:00 - 19 minutes - 26.2 MBMaking big changes can make you regret not doing it sooner - don't be like that. You can choose a perspective of confidence and see the opportunities before you, rather than the time behind you. Change is a good thing and instead of worrying what people think about your decisions, move forward with confidence! Have you signed up for The Confidence Kickstart yet? Girl. What are you waiting for? I've been known to just "take things down" so get it while you can :) www.rebekahbuege.com/programs...
S2 E117: She knows what Biblical leadership means (with Phylicia Masonheimer)
February 27, 2020 09:41 - 29 minutes - 40.7 MBSexism in Christianity - it's all over the place, what do we think about it? Well, the Bible elevated women above their social status at the time, which was a very feminist thing to do - if you ask me. To help in the heavy lifting of this discussion, I brought a guest. Again, I don't always have guests, but when I do, I prefer to have guests who are very smart and provide deeper insight I simply don't have exposure to at the moment. We are blessed by Phylicia Masonheimer to do a mini Bible s...
119 | She speaks with confidence
February 27, 2020 09:00 - 23 minutes - 32.2 MBI'm a nationally ranked competitive speaker - I've won several state championships in competitive speaking events. NERD alert, I know. But through all this - I know how to put words together. In this episode, I'm sharing some basic things to help you speak with confidence, because even if you're not in front of a microphone or crowd of people - the more confident you are when you speak, the more people hear what you have to say. These tips are actually backed up by the biblical teaching in J...
S2 E116: She's equipped to face her day-to-day insecurities
February 20, 2020 12:10 - 31 minutes - 43.4 MBStruggling to love yourself just as you are? Can't seem to feel confident 24/7? Yikes. Same, girl, same. Misogyny makes you believe even existing as a woman is a burden. There's a lot to unpack around that topic. Thankfully, confidence isn't a state of being. Confidence isn't a personality type. Confidence is a practice and mindset! Listen to this episode to get my no-longer-a-secret sauce to facing my day-to-day insecurities and how I think about day-to-day things like buying new jeans, etc...
118 | She deconstructs sexual conditioning
February 20, 2020 09:00 - 30 minutes - 41.3 MBFeeling sexy in your body is a huge part of confidence, but I want you to think about why sexiness is so important to you. Social conditioning starts young, especially for girls about their body. We're taught (conditioned) to believe our bodies are designed for sex. The more men who find us sexually attractive, the more worthy women are. This needs to stop if you're ever going to feel freedom and confidence in not only your body, but who you are in every aspect of your life. Program --> www....
S2 E115: She's working through her fear of standing out
February 13, 2020 12:05 - 28 minutes - 39.7 MBDo you have a fear of being noticed? Are you afraid to stand out? Women are socially conditioned to expect criticism for standing out, whether they look good or bad. This causes a hindrance on your ability to express yourself. Self expression is one of the purposes of life. I believe and see in scripture that God designed us to express his glory through our unique and distinct attributes and gifts. This is something you should practice doing if you want to grow in your confidence! Listen in ...
117 | She leads with dignity + grace feat. Phylicia Masonheimer
February 13, 2020 09:00 - 29 minutes - 40.7 MBYou don't need to become more like men in order to be confident and secure as a woman. One frustration I've had as a confident woman is finding that balance. How to be strong without overbearing? How to be a leader without being emasculating? Basically, how to be a confident woman without becoming a man. There are feminine qualities of leadership and masculine qualities, but at the core - there are biblical principles that show us leadership is about serving and sacrifice - not about power o...
S2 E114: She is made in the image of God
February 06, 2020 11:56 - 35 minutes - 49.3 MBWhat's your go to verse on body insecurities? Womp. womp. Someone asked me this and I didn't have an answer. Why? Because body image actually isn't the issue. It's a symptom of an underlying illness. That illness could be pride, shame, but ultimately it's insecurity. The Bible speaks to how to deal with pride and shame, but obviously not body image. One challenge with trying to solve body image from a worldly perspective is that it's based in nothing more than your own opinion and belief. An...
116 | She enjoys her femininity
February 06, 2020 09:00 - 31 minutes - 43.4 MBHow many times have we heard "like a girl" used to insult something? As women, there's extra work we need to do to believe that feminine things aren't bad...but actually good. It's up to us to decide what makes us feel feminine, why, and practice that when we're doubting our self worth. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message
116 | She practices femininity
February 06, 2020 09:00 - 31 minutes - 43.4 MBHow many times have we heard "like a girl" used to insult something? As women, there's extra work we need to do to believe that feminine things aren't bad...but actually good. It's up to us to decide what makes us feel feminine, why, and practice that when we're doubting our self worth. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E113: She challenges who she's comparing herself to (with Heather Creekmore)
January 30, 2020 11:48 - 24 minutes - 33.5 MBEvery time you feel down about your body ask yourself a simple question, compared to who? I have another rare occurrence of a lovely guest on the show, Heather Creekmore, the author of Compared to Who? which is a book title I'm obsessed with. Listen in to catch our conversation about comparison and body image and how to use God's truth to direct our thoughts about bodies, self worth, and confidence.
115 | She is distinctly feminine
January 30, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 39.7 MBOf course you're insecure, we've been conditioned to believe our femininity makes us inferior. Hearing "like a girl" tacked on to devalue or insult someone deeply injures a woman's identity and confidence. In this episode, I'm sharing how to reclaim feminine qualities as a good thing, something to be desired, respected, and honored - starting with you, and expanding outward. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor....
A Fresh Perspective on Femininity
January 26, 2020 22:46 - 11 minutes - 15.9 MBCurious about Confidently She? Listen to this overview of the podcast and intro from Rebekah. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message
114 | She's at peace with her period
January 23, 2020 09:00 - 35 minutes - 49.3 MBPeriods were a *hush*hush topic in my house growing up, unless it was just us girls. Something that's so integral to womanhood shouldn't be hidden, shamed, or resented but that's really how I felt about my period for years. In this episode, I'm sharing how I changed my perspective on my menstrual cycle and now feel completely at peace with my period (with almost zero cramps) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor....
S2 E112: She feels pressure and expectation to always be beautiful
January 23, 2020 05:00 - 27 minutes - 37.8 MBWhy are beautiful women insecure? Expectations create insecurity more than flaws or shortcomings. Believe it or not, looking good doesn't solve insecurities. Confidence has nothing to do with the way you look, to be honest. It's all about your mindset and perspective, what you value, and what you pay attention to. Listen in for some relatable words about feeling insecure even if people call you beautiful...and how to have real confidence.
S2 E111: She invites her mom on the podcast to talk about life
January 16, 2020 11:37 - 35 minutes - 49.1 MBI invited my mom on the show! This cute (and brutally honest) conversation with my mom showed me how much we sound alike and the generational wisdom I'm lucky enough to have - and share with you! In this episode we talk about parenting, a man's relationship with his mother, and navigating the changes of life and family with grace.
113 | She releases the burden of "better" feat. Heather Creekmore
January 16, 2020 09:00 - 24 minutes - 33.5 MBTHIS ONE IS GOLD. Heather is the author of the book "Compared to Who" and our conversation goes deep into the ideals we each hold based on where our comparisons come from. Heather shares how she discovered her "ideal" woman - and how you can walk in confidence as you get off the treadmill of self improvement and live the life God is calling you for. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/...
S2 E110: She transforms the relationship with her body through her heart transformation (with Tanner Hobbs of the Chasing Freedom Show!)
January 09, 2020 09:07 - 31 minutes - 43.8 MBI don't always have guests, but when I do, I prefer speaking with women like Tanner Hobbs. Do you know the difference between the "brand" of Jesus and having a real relationship with him? Oooof. Tanner brought the heat with this interview and didn't shy away from sharing her very relatable story of coming back to faith. If you've felt alone in your walk with God, in your journey of understanding what it even means to be Christian, this is the episode for you!
112 | She knows her insecurities are valid
January 09, 2020 09:00 - 27 minutes - 37.8 MBWhy are beautiful women insecure? As someone who's been told "you're beautiful, you have nothing to feel insecure about" I believed my feelings weren't valid for years. I thought there was something wrong with me and I should just "get over it". Turns out, insecurity has nothing to do with how you look. I'm sharing 3 main reasons beautiful women still feel insecure, and a little help to overcome it. Check out www.rebekahbuege.com/coaching for more help with confidence. --- Send in a voice...
S2 E109: She's outgrowing her fear of rejection
January 02, 2020 09:00 - 33 minutes - 45.4 MBDo you have a fear of rejection? Are you playing small and not pursuing the life you really want because you know your family will hate it? Especially as a Christian, lots of people aren't going to like you or agree with what you believe. You're gonna have to outgrow the evolutionary trait that tells us we must "fit in" socially...at all costs. Because in our current economic environment, you're going to be totally fine if you uproot and leave behind the small minded people who make fun of y...
111 | She pays attention to how he treats his mother feat. Theresa Buege (AKA my mom)
January 02, 2020 09:00 - 35 minutes - 49.1 MBHow a man treats his mother is a big indication of how he will treat you. It might sound weird at first, but I invited my mom, Theresa Buege, onto the podcast to talk about how you can confidently observe and handle the relationship dynamic of a mother and son. If you're looking for help on how to deal with overbearing in laws, this episode is for you. Coaching: www.rebekahbuege.com/coaching --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast...
110 | She chases freedom feat. Tanner Hobbs
December 26, 2019 09:00 - 31 minutes - 43.8 MBThe reason you want to feel good in your body is because you feel enslaved to "better" - there's very little freedom when you always feel pressured to be perfect (or at least a better version of yourself) I'm honored to have Tanner Hobbs from the Chasing Freedom Podcast share her journey towards body image freedom and how you can get out of the mindset keeping you stuck in insecurity. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https...
S2 E108: She creates her own closure
December 26, 2019 08:54 - 33 minutes - 26.7 MBHow do you get closure? By realizing not everything is about you, babe. So much of what we stress about is a result of a self-centered worldview. Listen to this episode to learn how to create closure for yourself around anything from a friendship to a breakup or job interview that didn't go "your way" (see? again, self-centered) Tap in to listen now, you won't regret it.
109 | She isn't afraid of rejection
December 19, 2019 09:00 - 33 minutes - 45.4 MBFind out why we're wired to fear something that doesn't hurt us anymore...and how to logically overcome fear of rejection. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E107: She builds her life outside of a romantic relationship
December 19, 2019 08:49 - 25 minutes - 35.7 MBIs your whole world wrapped up in romance? Yikes. That's dangerous for your heart. We are designed to flourish within a community. That means deep friendships...even if you're married, sis. For my fellow single ladies, too, an over focus on dating or progressing in a romantic relationship can trick you into being with someone who is not right for you. That's the most lonely feeling in the world! Trust me, I've been there. So this episode is encouraging every woman (single, married, or otherw...
S2 E106: She pursues growth even when it's uncomfortable for others
December 19, 2019 05:00 - 28 minutes - 39.4 MBSome people, no matter what you decide to do, won't support you. When you're starting on a healthy path, unhealthy people can't help but feel threatened by your growth and courage. Your steps make them feel insecure about their lack of progress. This is not up to you to fix or make them feel comfortable. Your growth is your business. When you're growing, you will soon see who is truly supporting you and who is just accepting the parts of you that are like them.
108 | She creates her own closure
December 12, 2019 09:00 - 33 minutes - 45.7 MBOhh closure, we think we need it and do crazy things to get it. Or at least I have. Becoming confident in yourself includes learning to let go of things without needing answers. The truth is, closure only comes from YOU. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E105: She invests in professional care for her body
December 12, 2019 08:31 - 30 minutes - 41.9 MBGirl, don't let anyone convince you that a massage, pedicure, or reflexology is a "once a year treat" - nope. I used to feel self conscious getting my body "serviced" by people. I would feel guilty, like I shouldn't be doing it. Or I would hope they didn't notice parts of my body I was insecure about at the time. This made what was supposed to be a stress-free experience...stressFULL lol. Don't let this happen to you! Listen to this episode for examples and inspiration on why investing in pr...
107 | She builds a life beyond romance
December 05, 2019 09:00 - 25 minutes - 35.7 MBNo matter your relationship status, you need to work on building out a life you love beyond romantic partners. Love shows up in so many ways, it's not just husbands and kids. Plus, you will insulate yourself from being lonely while you're single OR being completely shaken after a breakup. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E104: She's figuring out how to date as a Christian
December 05, 2019 08:21 - 32 minutes - 44.8 MBBut for real, dating as a Christian can feel like when the Israelites were in the desert for 40 years. Lots of complaining, messing up, and the thirst gets real. Here's an episode of the podcast to bring some practical advice and encouragement when you're single and dating. Remember that every man in the church is your brother before he is your husband. He's your brother in Christ who has desires of his heart and is being transformed by God right there with you. Give grace and stay humble, b...
106 | She meets her own expectations
November 28, 2019 09:00 - 28 minutes - 39.4 MBYou know that person who makes you feel like you're not good enough, no matter what you're doing. Rather than striving to meet their expectations, confident women know to set their own and be gentle with themselves as they focus on that. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E103: She uses dating apps (but not obsessively)
November 28, 2019 08:12 - 36 minutes - 50.3 MBDating is crazy, but does it have to be? Maybe not. If you're a single Christian woman looking to date, you really should only be going on a few dates here and there. Don't make it your main focus or priority. Godly men will come to you, and if they don't - they need to work on their leadership ability. Op. Here's my advice if you're trying to attract a Christian man on a dating app. This advice has been PROVEN to work. I got a DM from someone who made a dating profile from listening to this...
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November 28, 2019 04:08 - 3 minutes - 3.03 MBVisit www.rebekahbuege.com/retreat to get details and sign up for you spot. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message
S2 E102: She doesn't have to be a virgin
November 21, 2019 08:03 - 36 minutes - 49.5 MBWoah! let's talk about it. Everyone is sexually impure, so let's start there. It's completely possible for you to be a confident, single Christian woman and not be a virgin. There's so much shame and guilt that creeps into body image issues from that church doing an inadequate job of talking about purity. Purity has purposes beyond just "not getting pregnant". If you grew up in church, please listen to this episode to get a genuine perspective on the benefits of purity without the shame and ...
105 | She enjoys pampering
November 21, 2019 08:00 - 30 minutes - 41.9 MBDo you feel self conscious when you're getting a massage, pedicure, or anything like that? I used to be so self conscious it actually ruined the whole "relaxing" experience! So I had to learn to stop apologizing for how my body looked and remember my body deserves to be taken care of (and people aren't judging you as much as you think) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
104 | She waits to be pursued
November 14, 2019 09:00 - 32 minutes - 44.8 MBDating as a Christian is hard and takes a lot of patience. There's a ton of conflicting advice out there when it comes to how to act in a dating scenario, so I'm just sharing my perspective and how it's changed since the last time I was single. Confident women have the patience to allow men to pursue them. Feminine confidence in a dating scenario looks like not taking over, not taking control, and waiting for the guy who's gonna be willing to WORK for your time and attention. If he doesn't h...
S2 E101: She trusts her Heavenly Father
November 14, 2019 07:55 - 25 minutes - 35.3 MBIf the relationship you have with your earthly father is strained or non-existent, your perspective on God as a father is most likely suffering as a result. In this episode, we take a dive into what it really looks like to have a perfect, heavenly father and explore this component of your faith.
103 | She uses dating apps (cause it's not 1997)
November 07, 2019 09:00 - 36 minutes - 50.3 MBDating apps get a bad rep, but it's all about how you use them! It's totally possible to attract Christian men on a dating site (or app) that isn't inherently for Christians. Wanna know how? Listen to this. Hinge is my favorite, FYI. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E100: She shares her testimony
November 07, 2019 07:46 - 1 hour - 92.4 MBGod works in crazy ways and my life is no different. My journey of faith hasn't been smooth, in the 100th episode of this podcast I'm sharing ways God worked in my life to bring me back into His will for me. This will always be a journey, but this is where I'm at in this current season.
102 | She feels no sexual shame
October 31, 2019 07:00 - 36 minutes - 49.5 MBI grew up hearing damaging religious ideas about sex, women, and my body. In this episode, I'm sharing what God is showing me about why purity in singleness is more important than virginity - PLUS - why shame, guilt, and regret have no place in the mind (or body) of a daughter of God. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E99: She practices loving others in practical ways
October 30, 2019 08:10 - 30 minutes - 41.3 MBVulnerability builds confidence. If you want to build your confidence, stretching your love languages and showing love in super practical ways is a great way to get started. First, because it's kinda awkward and makes you vulnerable. Second, because you're not focused on YOU so much. You're focusing on other people and what they need. When you do this, you're more likely to appear confident because you're not so worried what people think of you...you're focused on them. Listen to hear a stor...