Confidently She
321 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 months ago - ★★★★★ - 7 ratingsRebekah Buege, author of The Body Image Solution and Social Currency, gives her tips for building confidence, improving body image, and thriving as a single woman in today's world. Tune in most Thursdays for episodes that feel like advice from a good friend, not a lecture from an expert.
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S2 E98: She uses discernment and identifies safe people for her life team
October 24, 2019 08:19 - 28 minutes - 38.6 MBWho is on your life team? Go read the book Safe People by Henry Cloud & John Townsend, then get back to me. This episode is essentially a master class in discernment, emotional vulnerability, and picking the right people for your life. Relationships influence everything, you might not notice it right away, but over time you will see how the people you surround yourself with impact what you value and how you live. Listen in to this episode for a download on discernment, wisdom, and why it's s...
101 | She trusts her Heavenly Father
October 24, 2019 07:00 - 25 minutes - 35.3 MBOur worth primarily comes from our parents growing up. Especially our fathers, so when we don't have a loving, faithful, caring father it's hard to feel a strong sense of self worth. This is why I love that God is our perfect, heavenly father who truly gives us our identity and value! No matter what kind of earthly father you have, your heavenly father gets the final say in who you are (and he has great things to say about you!) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confid...
S2 E97: She asks for what she wants, with the humility to hear "no"
October 17, 2019 08:27 - 23 minutes - 32.1 MBI see a lot of advice around "how to get anything you want" but in my experience, I don't want to get anything I want. Sometimes I've wanted really bad things. Instead, in this episode I'm giving you "how to get what you need" by changing this slightly. It is Biblical to ask for things, absolutely. Asking for things means you have the confidence to speak up, but the humility to be wrong about it. Listen to this episode for encouragement about speaking up for yourself, pursuing a life you des...
100 | She shares her testimony
October 17, 2019 07:00 - 1 hour - 92.4 MBThe best way to celebrate 100 episodes of this podcast and my journey over the past 2 years is by telling the story God is writing with my life. Want to give me the BEST present ever? Leave a rating & review before you listen. This episode is my testimony of God's goodness, love, and endless pursuit of my heart through a whole lot of pain, stress, mistakes, and heartache. I love you for listening. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this p...
99 | She loves people in practical ways
October 10, 2019 07:00 - 30 minutes - 41.3 MBBuilding self confidence starts with focusing LESS on yourself! You can use the 5 love languages to focus on loving people in your life. I'm not talking about just a boyfriend or husband. There are so many people in your life you can love - coworkers, friends, strangers, etc. it's more practical than you think! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
98 | She uses discernment
October 03, 2019 08:00 - 28 minutes - 38.6 MB"I don't want to judge" - well, okay...but you realize there's a difference between being a jerk and being smart, right? Confident women carefully choose their center of influence. Confident women have discernment about who they date, who they marry, who they're friends with, what they listen to, etc. In this episode, I'm sharing how I do that - and what God has to say about it. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anc...
S2 E95: (Q&A) She responds to hate with love
October 03, 2019 04:00 - 20 minutes - 27.7 MBHow do you reply when someone is mean? What's the confident way to handle rude comments? If you have a question please email [email protected] and I'll respond in an episode. When you have an encounter with someone rude or intentionally nasty, there's a few ways to emotionally protect yourself while still responding to the situation. Listen to this episode to hear how I handle these scenarios with grace...because I used to have a rude, nasty side of me that came from insecurity. It wasn...
S2 E94: She finds peace living as a work-in-progress
September 26, 2019 08:48 - 20 minutes - 28.5 MBThe idea that we ever "finish" or "arrive" is a lie to make you unsatisfied with where you are right now. Eternity is set in the hearts of man. We always long for more, different, or better. In this episode, we're thinking about that moving goal post of "success" and how to find peace as a living work-in-progress.
97 | She asks for things
September 26, 2019 08:00 - 23 minutes - 32.1 MBWhy are we so afraid of hearing 'no'? Confident women know how to ask for things without getting too attached to the outcome. It's okay if the answer is no, but if you never ask - you're never going to get what you want! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E93: She has boundaries with apologies (but takes ownership when necessary)
September 19, 2019 08:54 - 25 minutes - 34.8 MBDo you apologize for everything? Are you constantly saying you're sorry? Or on the flip side, do you avoid taking any kind of responsibility for hurting others? These are all insecure responses to when things go wrong in life. Say it with me, balance! You gotta find the balance in your apology life. Confident people should be quick to show empathy, discerning about what they take responsibility for, and humble in their apologies for wrongdoing. However, somehow we got it all twisted up and a...
96 | She knows how to handle mean people
September 19, 2019 07:00 - 20 minutes - 27.7 MBHurt people, hurt people. In this episode, I share how confident women respond when people are nasty for no apparent reason. When you're confident in yourself, you aren't as quick to retaliate when someone hurts you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E92: She confronts sexism within purity culture
September 12, 2019 09:10 - 30 minutes - 41.5 MBDid the church make you feel like having sex outside marriage makes you less valuable as a woman? Yikes. I bet it did, cause same! Guess what? Thankfully, that's not true. Your worth as a woman does not depreciate by the number of men you've slept with. It also does not appreciate by only having intercourse with your husband. Ope. Sorry. Not according to God. Is purity important to God? of course. But impurity comes in 10,000 different flavors and sex outside marriage is just one of them. Th...
95 | She's a work in progress
September 12, 2019 07:00 - 20 minutes - 28.5 MBYou're never going to reach a point where you stop feeling inadequate. Yikes - too harsh? It's not because you're behind or there's something wrong with you, it's because we aren't meant to fully "arrive" during this life on earth. We're imperfect humans, we'll never stop being a work in progress...but that's kinda a freeing thought, isn't it? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E91: She's justified in her jealousy
September 05, 2019 09:18 - 23 minutes - 31.9 MBHas someone called your jealousy a sign of insecurity? This is a tricky topic because it's misunderstood. You're allowed to feel jealous when someone is being unfaithful to you in friendship, business, or a romantic relationship. God has this trait, He is jealous when we worship things other than Him. This is not a flaw in God (blasphemy?) so it is not a flaw in us. Listen for the full context for this episode about having healthy expectations and standards for your relationships- and why yo...
94 | She outgrows some friendships
September 05, 2019 08:00 - 33 minutes - 46.3 MBJoin me as I coach Hailey through how to move into a new season of her life without feeling guilty about leaving some friends behind. As iron sharpens iron, one man sharpens another - you become who you hang out with. Finding new friends is challenging, but you need friends who are strong in their faith so you can be poured into. Updates: Marigold confidence app is launching September 17th! Private coaching with me is now customized based on your goals. --- Send in a voice message: https...
93 | She's comfortable saying "I'm sorry"
August 29, 2019 07:00 - 25 minutes - 34.8 MBThere are 3 kinds of "I'm sorry" - each one takes on a higher level of responsibility for the situation. Listen to find out 3 ways confident women know how to say "I'm sorry" ...and a 4th that they NEVER use. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E90: She heals damage from past relationships
August 29, 2019 04:00 - 23 minutes - 32.6 MBTime doesn't heal all wounds. This listener is searching for the courage to cut her hair even though her ex boyfriend told her she never should. If you have a question, email me at [email protected] and I'll answer in an episode. Letting these limits control your life, even if they seem harmless, shrink your confidence and make you doubt yourself. In this episode, I cover how to work through actually healing from damage past relationships have done to your body image and confidence. P.S...
92 | She doesn't have to be a virgin
August 22, 2019 08:00 - 30 minutes - 41.5 MBYour sexual history doesn't disqualify you from anything. Feeling shame and guilt around your body because of your sexual past isn't something you have to live with! Nothing you've done disqualifies you from fully enjoying and experiencing marriage (and sex) in the way God intended. You can't change your sexual history, God forgives sexual sin just as completely as any other sin, so you're 100% free to move on from that. You don't lose anything by not being a virgin. --- Send in a voice m...
S2 E89: She knows the value of beauty
August 22, 2019 04:00 - 35 minutes - 48.2 MBDo you feel like your beauty is only worth something if someone else sees it? Specifically, if you can use it to get attention from a guy? Yikes. I have been there, though. Beauty is valuable without anyone else seeing it. Your beauty does not need to be a tool to influence or manipulate other people into giving you attention. The relationship I used to have with my own beauty and confidence was definitely not being used to glorify God, but I'm really trying to figure out what the purpose is...
91 | She's jealous (and not ashamed to admit it)
August 15, 2019 08:00 - 23 minutes - 31.9 MBJealousy is not a sign of insecurity, it's a character trait of God and I'm done apologizing for it. The important distinction to make, though, is between jealousy and envy. Listen up, ladies - this one is a favorite of mine. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E88: She takes good care of her body
August 15, 2019 04:00 - 41 minutes - 56.8 MBYou are called to care for your body. Loving your body starts with knowing the definition of love. We have a perfect definition in scripture and it's the best way to get started fixing the relationship you have with your body. I used to hate my body and wish I could switch places with someone else. Go to www.thebodyimagesolution.com/program to get the course on how I changed this relationship with my body. To start, listen to this episode for the full context on what it looks like to really ...
S2 E87: She submits to her husband (but not every man, in every scenario, always)
August 08, 2019 10:27 - 49 minutes - 67.4 MBWhat does it mean to submit to your husband? Yikes. The church talks about this one a lot, but you know what they don't focus on? The character husbands need to have in order to be worthy of submission. The Proverbs 31 woman seems to be married to one heck of a man, and not every guy who shows up to church on Sundays is worthy of that type of wife. This idea of wives submitting to husbands has caused so much abuse and pain within marriages and "Christian" community. It's used to further sexi...
90 | She GETS that haircut
August 08, 2019 08:00 - 23 minutes - 32.6 MBHow do you handle when someone you've dated didn't want you to wear your hair a certain way, and then you get out of that relationship and you want to do the things you "weren't allowed" to do but you're scared? - That's a question I got in my DMs. Toxic relationships plant insecurities that stick around long after the relationship ends unless we do the work to WEED THEM OUT. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://ancho...
S2 E86: She trusts when she's being redirected (with Stefanie Gass from The Stefanie Gass Show)
August 01, 2019 10:33 - 31 minutes - 43.4 MBEver wonder what a "good Christian woman" looks like? You probably have the image of a quiet wife, loving mother, and Pinterest perfect family pictures every Christmas. There are so many more ways God is able to use you besides casting you in the role of "wife" and "mother". You can be used by God use as you are and I'm talking with Stefanie Gass about pursuing a purpose for your life that God places on your heart, whatever that may look like.
89 | She embraces feminine qualities of confidence
August 01, 2019 07:00 - 35 minutes - 48.2 MBI used to think masculine traits made you confident, but it actually made me frustrated and insecure! So I had to figure out how to be confident in a feminine way, the way God intended us to be. Feminine confidence lies in the balance between striving for acceptance and giving up completely. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E85: She frees herself from bitterness
July 25, 2019 11:06 - 23 minutes - 32.3 MBHolding onto anger doesn't make you strong. The strongest thing you can do when you're hurting and someone refuses to give you the apology you deserve is to heal without bitterness. Listen to this episode if you're feeling bitterness or resentment towards a situation you've held onto for too long. Don't forget to join The Body Image Solution email list and grab my downloads! Want to join the list? www.thebodyimagesolution.com/join Ready for the 8-week course? www.thebodyimagesolution.com/...
88 | She's a good steward of her body
July 25, 2019 08:00 - 41 minutes - 56.8 MBTake a look at how the God defines love and measure that against how you treat your body. You probably aren't doing to hot, huh? We all struggle with believing our imperfect bodies are worthy of love - but you don't need to feel guilt or shame about this. Start with whatever advice on this episode feels easiest for you and once you gain momentum, build your confidence from there! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://an...
S2 E84: She's getting better at handling rejection
July 18, 2019 10:17 - 29 minutes - 41.1 MBDating is hard...for everyone involved! If you desire a godly marriage and are feeling discouraged in your dating life, this episode will give you some peace. Harsh rejection isn't fun, but sometimes it's worse when it's not communicated or clear. My hope is that as Christians, our dating interactions will be much better than those within the world, but often times they are just as bad. Listen to this episode for the full context on how I'm viewing rejection and dating at this point in my li...
87 | She submits to her husband
July 18, 2019 07:00 - 49 minutes - 67.4 MBConfident women CAN (and do) submit to their husbands...but they're careful to hold their husbands to the standard set in the bible, too. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
86 | She knows her God-Given purpose [guest, Stefanie Gass)
July 11, 2019 07:00 - 31 minutes - 43.4 MBCan we stop with the stereotype of "church ladies" and get real about the fact we're called to be MORE than moms? God created each of us with incredible gifts to further His kingdom...aren't you curious what yours is? The opinions of others shouldn't stop you from taking direction from God and living your life for His purpose! Check out more from Stefanie at www.stefaniegass.com and she's on insta @stefaniegass --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message
86 | She knows her God-Given purpose feat. Stefanie Gass
July 11, 2019 07:00 - 31 minutes - 43.4 MBCan we stop with the stereotype of "church ladies" and get real about the fact we're called to be MORE than moms? God created each of us with incredible gifts to further His kingdom...aren't you curious what yours is? The opinions of others shouldn't stop you from taking direction from God and living your life for His purpose! Check out more from Stefanie at www.stefaniegass.com and she's on insta @stefaniegass --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message ...
S2 E83: She's done chasing perfection to prove her worth
July 11, 2019 04:00 - 31 minutes - 43.1 MBAre you feeling like you need to prove yourself? Are there idols or social currency you're chasing to feel better about yourself? This episode unpacks a word of encouragement I felt God put on my heart for you around worthiness and striving. We are not designed to strive for perfection or resign from effort. The balance in between those two polarities is where you find true confidence. Don't forget to join The Body Image Solution email list and grab my downloads! Want to join the list? www...
85 | She forgives without needing an apology
July 04, 2019 06:00 - 43 minutes - 60.2 MBWhen someone hurts you, you expect an apology...in order to forgive them. That's how we grew up viewing forgiveness...but when we don't get the apology we want - our hearts get hard and turn bitter very easily. I'm sharing my experience with not wanting to forgive my abusive ex and how God worked in my heart to show me that forgiving him was about my own freedom...not his. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm...
84 | She blesses those who reject her
June 27, 2019 06:00 - 29 minutes - 41.1 MBFeeling rejected by a brother in Christ? Confident women learn how to wish them well, without feeling hurt by them not being interested in you. Also hear me freak out over discovering a new podcast review lol. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
S2 E81: She sees her body as a work of art (my boudoir photoshoot experience)
June 27, 2019 04:00 - 21 minutes - 29.9 MBHow do you shift to seeing your body as a work of art? You make art with it. I wanted to create an experience for my body where I truly felt like art, so I booked a boudoir photoshoot for myself. On this episode, I'm sharing my thoughts and takeaways, things I learned, and why I think everyone should do this. Don't forget to join The Body Image Solution email list and grab my downloads! Want to join the list? www.thebodyimagesolution.com/join Do you know your Confidence Type? Take the qui...
S2 E79: (Q&A) She trusts in God's forgiveness
June 20, 2019 11:48 - 21 minutes - 29 MBGod's forgiveness is about God's love for you, not about how much you sin. You can send your questions to [email protected] and I'll respond in an episode. This question got me all turned around because I had never considered someone might struggle to really believe they are forgiven if they are in Christ. Listen to this episode if you're feeling doubt or discouraged in God's forgiveness. Don't forget to join the Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/rebekahbuege Check out the body ...
83 | She is exactly enough
June 20, 2019 06:00 - 31 minutes - 43.1 MBThe enemy wants you to believe your beauty is not enough and too much - all at the same time. Here's what God says of you. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
82 | She's at peace with what she eats [guest, Karen Finney]
June 13, 2019 08:00 - 23 minutes - 31.8 MBThe reason you're trying to control everything says more about your struggle than what you're trying to control. There's another way to relate to food and to your body. God put you in your body for a reason, and instead of fighting against it - you can actually choose to be at peace with it. Check out Karen Finney @karenfinneycoaching on instagram! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message
82 | She's at peace with her food feat. Karen Finney
June 13, 2019 08:00 - 23 minutes - 31.8 MBThe reason you're trying to control everything says more about your struggle than what you're trying to control. There's another way to relate to food and to your body. God put you in your body for a reason, and instead of fighting against it - you can actually choose to be at peace with it. Check out Karen Finney @karenfinneycoaching on instagram! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/s...
S2 E76 - She learns to love herself (where to start?)
June 13, 2019 02:33 - 32 minutes - 44.4 MBWelcome back to Confidently She! This episode is about learning to love yourself without expecting yourself to be perfect. You don't have to be perfect before you love yourself. Listen along for practical tips for learning to love who you are even in your brokenness. Don't forget to join the Substack: https://open.substack.com/pub/rebekahbuege Check out the body image workbook here: https://www.etsy.com/listing/1479729846/body-image-workbook-for-body-confidence Visit my website for detail...
81 | She did a boudoir photoshoot
June 06, 2019 08:00 - 21 minutes - 29.9 MBI felt God whisper, "you don't need a man's desire to have permission to capture how beautiful I made you" Close up pictures of me in my underwear, what could go wrong? Building confidence is about challenging yourself to try new things. After I broke off an engagement 6 months ago, I wanted to celebrate how God is renewing me. Reclaiming me. I wanted to do a boudoir shoot for my wedding, but I felt like I couldn't anymore. Soooo I listened to God's nudge and did it even though I was a lit...
80 | She has a holistic view of health [with Nicole Scheitlin]
May 30, 2019 08:00 - 36 minutes - 50.7 MBNicole is the founder of Fit Foundations and you should follow her on Instagram @nicolescheitlin for info on how to have a good relationship with HEALTH in general. Cause lots of IG fitness people are telling you dumb stuff that hurts your body image and confidence. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
79 | She believes she's forgiven
May 23, 2019 08:00 - 21 minutes - 29 MBConfidently She - The Program starts in June! Go to www.rebekahbuege.com/program to find out more! You don't have to continue trying to be enough because the decision has already been made that God loves you. It's up to you to decide what you do with that truth from Romans 5:6-8. God forgives you when you've mistreated your body or criticized yourself horribly. It doesn't matter how bad it was before, the beauty of grace is that you can be confident you're forgiven. --- Send in a voice me...
78 | She moves forward from eating disorders without shame
May 16, 2019 09:00 - 32 minutes - 44 MBI'm launching a program June - September! This summer, you can learn the foundation of building confidence in Christ! Join here: www.rebekahbuege.com/program Disclaimer: I'm not a doctor so talking about eating disorders is ALWAYS a tip-toe subject for me. I'm only speaking from my personal perspective, my perspective on scripture in this area, and if this helps you, fantastic! That being said, I completely acknowledge the fact I don't have training in this area - so there are probably lot...
77 | She learns to love herself
May 09, 2019 08:50 - 32 minutes - 44.4 MBOh gosh, where to begin. How did liking who we are become an incredibly difficult daily struggle? When did self criticism become the norm? How did we get here? I know how, marketing. Back in the 60’s companies got really good at making us feel like something was missing. If we just bought their product, […] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
76 | She gets her identity in Christ (guest, Hanha Hobson)
May 02, 2019 08:04 - 34 minutes - 47.8 MBIf God asked you to give that up, would you? You know the thing. The thing you’re holding onto so tightly you’re terrified of letting it go. That thing. Chances are, that’s where you’re getting your identity right now. Sometimes it’s a job, a boyfriend, your kids, or even a certain lifestyle you’re living. If […] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
75| She builds a positive body image
April 25, 2019 08:54 - 30 minutes - 41.8 MBHaving a positive body image actually doesn’t start with self love. (here’s a Confidently She podcast episode about that) p.s. join the Summer Semester of Confidently She – The Program HERE That’s like saying having a birthday cake starts with lighting the candles. Sure, that’s technically what makes a regular cake into a birthday cake, […] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
74 | She sets health goals (not weight goals)
April 18, 2019 08:04 - 7 minutes - 10.9 MBDoes this come from a health goal or a vanity goal? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
73 | She NEVER does these 5 things
April 11, 2019 08:40 - 25 minutes - 34.6 MBYou might be sabotaging your confidence. Not on purpose, obviously. If you’re feeling insecure or doubting yourself, the answer might be in NOT doing certain things. Before I get into this, I want you to know I’ve personally done all these things – so there’s no judgement. Plus, my VIP coaching day is designed to […] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support
72 | She's a crappy Christian feat. Blake Guichet
April 04, 2019 08:59 - 20 minutes - 28.5 MBWhere does confidence come from? How can you be confident when you keep messing up? Confidence doesn’t come from being perfect or looking a certain way. Anyone who’s confident will tell you it comes from actually facing their inner voice and doing the work others are afraid to do. For Christians, it means trusting that […] --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/become-confidently-she/support