Complex PTSD Recovery: We Are Traumatized Motherfuckers
282 episodes - English - Latest episode: 26 days ago - ★★★★★ - 152 ratingsPeer-review and irreverent dark humor meet relational trauma recovery, without the "enforced bright sides." Let's talk about the complicated experience of rectifying a life built on trauma and relearning to be human... more healthily than those shitheads who raised you. You aren't alone, damaged, doomed, or dead yet. But with all the grit and gumption necessary to keep growing, you might be a real MF.
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1.2. What is Trauma? Brain Mechanism of PTSD
October 24, 2021 13:51 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MBIt's not so mysterious, actually. We’ve really made Trauma into a big word with a lot of negative connotation, qualification, and over-complication. I don’t know a single person who hasn’t shamefully uttered the phrase “But I wonder if that’s really bad enough to count as trauma, when other people have had it worse.” So let’s stop right there and clear up the fact that trauma has nothing to do with being in the top 1% of human tragedy. That’s not how this works. That’s not how any of this...
1.1. Intro
October 24, 2021 13:31 - 15 minutes - 14.1 MBSo, how’s life been lately? But how has it really been? Having some variety of experiences that goes beyond your normal baseline standard depression, anxiety, self-hatred and disinterest in being alive? If you're new here - needing answers or a lobotomy ASAP - welcome to the club. Together we've had 18 months of trauma-learning through peer-reviewed research, connecting dots from our conversations in the community, and a bit too much personal experience. Apparently this one-human project...
1. Intro
October 24, 2021 13:31 - 15 minutes - 14.1 MBSo, how’s life been lately? But how has it really been? Having some variety of experiences that goes beyond your normal baseline standard depression, anxiety, self-hatred and disinterest in being alive? If you're new here - needing answers or a lobotomy ASAP - welcome to the club. Together we've had 18 months of trauma-learning through peer-reviewed research, connecting dots from our conversations in the community, and a bit too much personal experience. Apparently this one-human projec...
“I’m doing fine,” and other human lies
October 19, 2021 15:57 - 24 minutes - 22.3 MBRevisiting an old post, from May 2020. Tired of painting on a happy face? We all are. For better or for worse, we have all been programmed to keep our heads down and project utter bliss, or at least sufficient satisfaction, to the entire planet. This only equips us with the universal expectation that everyone is actually fine, and we should be too. If you're tired of being "fine," you know where to find other Fuckers. Join up at www.t-mfrs.com --- Send in a voice message: https://anch...
Off Script. Going No-Contact and Reclaiming Your Brain
October 14, 2021 13:51 - 52 minutes - 48.5 MBEver feel like you're not allowed to be yourself? Like your words aren't valid? Like your only utility is performing for others? And all the rest is "N/A?" Yeah... So, as you might guess, mental health podcasting got to be a hard effort after being immersed in my Family of Origin for a year. But with a solid month of "no contact" comes the re-mergence of access to your own thoughts and feelings again. Fucking fancy. Today, I'm taking ten steps backwards and radioing in with a conversation ...
Defining Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissists
October 01, 2021 19:51 - 1 hour - 76.5 MBHave you been convinced that everything about you was "wrong?" Does someone in your life make you feel "off," in a way that's anxious, fearful, defeated, and self-doubting? Ever see that the person "helping" actually seemed to make the situation a lot worse? And then... do they bring it up for the next 20 years or so as proof of their merit? Ah, yeah. So my recent realization comes to a head, thanks to some deep dives into Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissist research. How about you? Today, we're ...
Spot Cyclical Abuse Patterns
September 30, 2021 15:11 - 48 minutes - 45.2 MBSo, we've learned to identify what counts as "abuse" with more clarity. We've accepted our early challenges and intend to move on from them. BUT, still find ourselves getting sucked into relationships that recreate our old circumstances and mental / emotional downfalls. NOW WHAT. Let's talk about pinpointing the trends in our romantic lives, by using our internal monitoring systems to notice the patterns IN US that have carried through multiple relationships. Talking energetic, emotional...
Public Ed: Abusive Relationships on Repeat
September 24, 2021 11:00 - 42 minutes - 39 MBSo why are all of your romantic (and otherwise) relationships chronically abusive? Especially when you're so dead set on breaking the chain? Is it as simple as "accepting and perpetrating abuse because mom and dad demonstrated violence" like these researchers state? Today, let's talk about the actual brain patterning problems at play. What's going on in our heads that makes abuse seem both "normal" and "correct," especially when we live in a society that echoes all the same narratives and ...
Rebuild | Your Trauma Life Recovery Starts Here
September 13, 2021 18:07 - 20 minutes - 19.2 MBFor a year we've talked CPTSD research and actual life outcomes, diving into the past to understand our cognitive and emotional origins - from violence to narcissist manipulation to societal narratives. Plus, why we keep living the same self-destructive loops with the same people who are wired the same as everyone we grew up with. Brain patterning, "connection," and automatic program activation are really something. Now, it's time to move on from the past. Let's stop living IN trauma, and ...
Emotional Dissociation | Depersonalization
September 03, 2021 19:41 - 21 minutes - 20.3 MBEver wonder where your feelings went? Yeah, well, we all do. But ever wonder if you really exist at all? Intense stress will do that to you, from your emotions to your mental faculties, and finally all the way down to your attachment to your own life. Let's talk about the super common process of disintegrating so wholly, you doubt your own experiences. For the full episode, jump into the Patreon Blanket Fort. Just search "traumatized motherfuckers." --- Send in a voice message: https://...
BS | Shit Relationships Pt I
August 17, 2021 23:00 - 23 minutes - 21.6 MBSo we allllll wonder, "Why do I end up with people who abuse me and relationships that sink me?" Answer: How long've you got for this discussion? Well, as relationally traumatized fuckers, this is the focus of the show for the foreseeable future... So I hope you're ready for a long ride and a lot of depressing observations, drawn from peer-reviewed and personal research that - trust me - just won't quit. TMFRs is about to get relational, reflective, and romantic... with the same mix of sma...
Personal Message | Archie Update
August 14, 2021 17:42 - 23 minutes - 21.6 MBHeads up, this one is an emotional, neurologically-special pet update for all the Fuckers who've loved and supported the floppiest, goodest boy. 24/10 would love if you met him. If you're already feeling too many feelings, uh, probably don't listen today. If you're failing at feeling - hey, this cracked my sternum wide open, maybe it'll release your emotions and remind you how to "experience" too. Find his full TMFR episode, check Archie As A Metaphor See his chair to free-walker st...
BS | Intro to Trauma Self
August 11, 2021 16:55 - 28 minutes - 26.7 MBThis is the introduction to the Full 1.25hr Research Episode! Available with all the rest of em at patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers! Time to have a rough talk. Ever meet someone who seemed strangely "rooted" in their trauma, from a personally obstinate place? As in, they don't seem to WANT to believe that they can feel better, live better, expect better? Ever feel like... you might have a little piece of that inside yourself? Well buckle up, because we all do. It's time to learn about s...
Workbook | Fuck Fawning
August 03, 2021 14:21 - 48 minutes - 45.2 MBSo, how can we start to notice the breadth and depth of fawning responses in our lives? Is there a way to pump the brakes on our programmed servitude to others? And what can we plan for when we give them the ole extinction procedure on their expected abuse acceptance? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/complextrauma/message
Bonus! Workbook | Fuck Fawning
July 31, 2021 17:00 - 22 minutes - 21.3 MBSo a lot of folks have taken those Fawning episodes and... unhappily realized they've got a new traum-problem to work on. Let's do it. Time to start identifying some F'd fawning behaviors. Here's a sample of the Exercise Episode that accompanies the Full Extended Fawning Episode! A way to start thinking about your learned fawning instincts and reframing them in the moment. Let's rewire that brain. There's a lot more to work on here. For the full fawning rundown, check into the Blanket Fort...
Fawning, Enmeshment, Relational Triggers (What is CPTSD, Alex)
July 27, 2021 17:16 - 38 minutes - 35.4 MBAs CPTSD trainees, we're programmed to give a lot of our energy to others. A lot of access to our brains, too. So what happens in life when you're pre-emptively influenced by the thoughts, feelings, and desires of everyone else instead of your own? When fawning, fronting, and worrying becomes your relationship style, what are the long term effects on a brain? Uh... your life on CPTSD, that's what. Talking abuse, boundaries, codependency, defeat, emotional entanglement, fawning, generational ...
Supplement: What's Fawning?
July 27, 2021 13:42 - 15 minutes - 14.2 MBBefore we dive into a loooong episode on enmeshment, codependency, boundaries, and the ways that we're brain-patterned not to understand any of the above... let's talk about one of the big portions of the discussion that often gets overlooked. What the fuck IS fawning? Answer: Way more mental health-hijacking than you think. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/complextrauma/message
YOU v. BRAIN v. PROGRAMMING pt II
July 20, 2021 16:01 - 1 hour - 56.9 MBPart I: you're not your brain. Part II: ready to conceptualize the terrible brain programs you're accidentally engaging each day? How'd they get there, how can we rethink them instead of accepting them, and how can we redirect them? Talking family patterns, distraction, indecision, ADD, hypervigilance, trauma, and PTSD fog all in one. Ready to understand your neural patterning better? Then jump into the exercise episode currently streaming in the TMFR Blanket Fort! Plus, get the intricate ...
YOU v. BRAIN v. HUMANS pt I
July 13, 2021 23:00 - 56 minutes - 52.1 MBRough times, huh? Emotional/cognitive scrambling? We've been talking tiny details - TODAY, going the opposite route. Laying out BIG picture concepts for rethinking your entire existence so far, and having more control over your brain every day into the future. Let's cement a line in the sand about who YOU are, versus your BRAIN, versus your automated meat jump suit. It's the brain-conceptualizations that have saved my soul (or... whatever this thing is) Motherfuckers. A way to start studyin...
Preview! Workbook Episode 1
July 11, 2021 16:09 - 19 minutes - 18.3 MBSurprise MF! New benefit in the Patreon Blanket Fort! Catch you there for all the full episodes! Education is one thing, but seeing how all of this research ACTUALLY fits into your life is brain changing, clarifying, and self-hate relieving. Welcome to the newest shit I'm adding to my work plate - Application/Exercise/Plain English Summary episodes to accompany the mountain of lifelong learning we're doing. Today, in the first ever Application post, I'm giving you two ideas for noticing t...
BS | Family Brain Hijinks (Pt III of Brain Patterning Series)
July 06, 2021 11:00 - 18 minutes - 16.9 MBAbuse warning! SUMMARY EPISODE! Find the full thing on the private stream (below) Well, if the past few episodes haven't been damning enough... today we're talking about the generational trauma indoctrination, abusee role-acceptance, and mental abuse tactics that come pre-programmed in our connection-hungry little brains. Not to mention, the explanation for black sheep syndrome, the role of boundaries, and the ways we can finally stop being our families' brain puppets: going Limited and No ...
When Emotional Numbing Ends
July 03, 2021 00:18 - 41 minutes - 38.6 MBEver do that thing where you don't feel anything, for, I don't know... 8 months straight? Bet you have. So, sometimes I'm a bit harsh about not being the victim. Sometimes I'm too worried about homelessness to stop working. Both of which make me intellectual >> emotional to my own detriment. Today I want to clarify that it's okay to feel how you feel. There are days you're going to feel like garbage in this CPTSD life. It's just not okay to believe you're doomed to live that way forever. Als...
Early Release! Connection Addicts: The Science of Your Fucked Up Relationships
June 24, 2021 00:00 - 17 minutes - 16.6 MBSurprise Early Release! We're celebrating the date! Catch the full episode NOW on the private stream - hell, cash in on the June 24th good luck discount and get em cheap and on-demand for the rest of the MF year. Cheers Fuckers "What is this 'connection' thing that pulls me in and maintains horrible relationships?" Today we're talking about the damning effects of synchrony and emotional contagion... Especially when you come from an unhealthy family. Experience-dependent learning starts at d...
Bite Sized | Lifelong Effects of Emotionally Dysregulated Parents (Narcs, Neurotics, and Negligence)
June 23, 2021 11:00 - 17 minutes - 16.2 MBThis is the summary of the full hour-long episode! Find the full fuckery and jump into the TMFR Blanket Fort. How do the four basic parenting types - plus the Narc parenting variant known as "affectionless control" - play out? How do they relate to generational trauma? Talking about the mental terror that overtakes baby brains from dissociation onwards, alters their development on a cellular level, and contributes to a full lifetime of inappropriate responses to internal and external stimul...
Just saying... Welcome, Motherfuckers.
June 19, 2021 15:42 - 15 minutes - 14.3 MBYou know, this WAS for the new Fuckers in the Patreon Fort, but I feel the same about all of y'all. Thank you for listening to this weird old punk. I'm going to cross-share the post. New Patreons?! Damn! Been meaning to say "hey" without seeming too thirsty... you know? Buttfuckit this is overwhelming. Introductions aside, I just wanted to give a quick unsolicited recommendation (in case you didn't get enough of those about your mental health from all directions). If you're "new" to comp...
Post-Pandemic Depression
June 15, 2021 15:00 - 21 minutes - 19.8 MBSo everything changed in the past month. In the aftermath, we're feeling a bit wild, huh? Up, down, obsessed, depressed, overloaded, anxious, excited, and dreadful. What's going on with the internal chaos, and what can we do to reintegrate our ideas of life before, during, and after a global health catastrophe? Wanna share your post-pandemic experience? Send written or audible recordings to [email protected] and get featured on the Listener Experience episodes! Looking f...
Post-Pandemic Wilds (Anxiety-Depression-Obsession-Deintegration)
June 15, 2021 15:00 - 23 minutes - 21.8 MBSo everything changed in the past month. In the aftermath, we're feeling a bit wild, huh? Up, down, obsessed, depressed, overloaded, anxious, excited, and dreadful. What's going on with the internal chaos, and what can we do to reintegrate our ideas of life before, during, and after a global health catastrophe? Wanna share your post-pandemic experience? Send written or audible recordings to [email protected] and get featured on the Listener Experience episodes! Looking f...
BS | Implications and Life-Declusterfucking Applications of Fragmented Personalities (Emotional Numbing, Stagnation, Overdrive, Relationship Failures, Work Terror, And Everything Else... Explained)
June 09, 2021 11:00 - 19 minutes - 17.6 MBCheck patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers to get THIS full, hour-long episode and ALL the full research episodes... delivered straight to your chosen streaming app with the new private TMFRs podcast feed. Available at Patreon.com or right through your streaming app for $3/mo. So we've covered the signs. We've covered the scientific "how." Now... what the fuck to do about our trauma-programmed personalities? What else do we need to understand about our dissociative neural networks, what com...
BS | Common Presentations of Fragmented Personalities (Your Life Destruction, Explained)
June 02, 2021 11:00 - 15 minutes - 14.2 MBThis is the summary version of the full-length episode, streaming weekly at Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers for $3/mo. Not sure? Check the past 80-something hour-long episodes to see if you're a good match for the Blanket Fort. | So we've talked endlessly about HOW neural networks (fragmented personalities) develop through trauma on a biological basis. Today, we're talking about how that looks from the outside, per Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors by trauma specialist...
Note: Trauma Cannot Make You "Lose" Yourself. (And other shit you need to accept ASAP)
June 01, 2021 18:46 - 8 minutes - 7.52 MBJust seeing some negativity that needs to be stomped out - our perception of "lost" versions of ourselves. Stop hating who you think you are now. Stop worrying about "who you used to be." Stop assuming you can never be that person again. It's all about your neural networks (the discussion continues). Hurry up and jump into the full episodes so you can find your "old selves" already. The annual deal ends TOMORROW at Patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers --- Send in a voice message: https...
BS | Eviction Notice - Is this direct enough?
May 28, 2021 11:00 - 8 minutes - 8.11 MBThere's been some confusion expressed about this "motherfucking blanket fort" and "private podcast stream for full episodes" thing. Let me clarify - as directly as possible. Ready to get the password? Head to patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers now that I've explained myself. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/complextrauma/message
BS | Neurological Basis of Fragmented Personalities (Your Trauma Life on Survival Neural Networks Pt I)
May 26, 2021 11:00 - 23 minutes - 21.5 MBSo we know how trauma works - but how does it impact our brain structures to elicit semi-rigid trauma reactions that are intricate enough to be considered full "personalities?" Today, we're talking neural networks, Schema Theory, and Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors by Janina Fisher. If you've been wondering why you keep failing at trauma recovery, you might want to tell your Git Shit Done self to listen up. Looking for the full hour-long episode, bonus shows, and casual c...
Bonus from the Fort | "Boundaries" - Reexamining Our Worst Trauma Trap
May 22, 2021 15:00 - 29 minutes - 27 MBWhat do trauma survivors commonly fuck up? Our understanding, appreciation, and acceptance of boundaries. Today, we're coming at you with the original Motherfucking recording spirit... unscripted, imperfect and honest talk from my natural trauma recovery environment. The place where I've been bonus-episoding all over the Patreon Blank Fort. The woods. Put in your headphones and let's take a walk. Looking for a hiking partner? Find about 5 more of these, already loaded into the TMFR Blanket...
Eviction Notice | The End of Complex Trauma Recovery; We are Traumatized Motherfuckers
May 13, 2021 07:04 - 1 hour - 62.8 MBTime for our big talk. After a year of effort... it's time to end of this open-door trauma rehab house. We need to have a hard conversation about the final days of TMFRs as you know it. But, if you want, we can still be Fucked up Friends. www.patreon.com/traumatizedmotherfuckers --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/complextrauma/message
BS | Fuck Off Boomers; The Covert Narc Echo Chamber
May 10, 2021 22:00 - 8 minutes - 8.01 MBWe've all heard your story. Now it's time to hear ours. It's the Bite Sized summary of the full episode, ready for a quick taste? Why do so many of our parents have the same unfortunate covert abuse tactics in their front pocket? Why did we grow up with an unhealthy narrative about self-worth and self-accountability? Where did all this narcissistic energy come from, originally? Well, I was going to do a deep dive into the Silent and Boomer generations to let you know, but after the spring...
Fuck Off Boomers; The Covert Narc Echo Chamber
May 10, 2021 10:00 - 48 minutes - 45.1 MBWhy do so many of our parents have the same unfortunate covert abuse tactics in their front pocket? Why did we grow up with an unhealthy narrative about self-worth and self-accountability? Where did all this narcissistic energy come from, originally? Well, I was going to do a deep dive into the Silent and Boomer generations to let you know, but after the springtime personality disorder uprisings have tried my last nerve... let's reapproach this episode from a less enabling perspective. One th...
Fuck Off Boomers
May 10, 2021 10:00 - 46 minutes - 42.9 MBWhy do so many of our parents have the same unfortunate covert abuse tactics in their front pocket? Why did we grow up with an unhealthy narrative about self-worth and self-accountability? Where did all this narcissistic energy come from, originally? Well, I was going to do a deep dive into the Silent and Boomer generations to let you know, but after the springtime personality disorder uprisings have tried my last nerve... let's reapproach this episode from a less enabling perspective. One t...
Parent Narcissists and CPTSD
May 03, 2021 23:00 - 1 hour - 56.3 MBLast time we learned about a new type of Narc; the "Covert" variety... who sound an awful lot like our mothers, collectively. So what happens if you WERE raised by a Narcissist mom, in particular? What are the common characteristics of the relationship? What are the common childhood templates under Narcissistic Abuse? What happens to kids - specifically daughters - in the long run? And how do you deal with someone who doesn't want to treat you differently? Have a CovNarc parent of your own...
Bite Sized | Parent Narcissists and CPTSD
May 03, 2021 23:00 - 17 minutes - 16.4 MBLast time we learned about a new type of Narc; the "Covert" variety... who sound an awful lot like our mothers, collectively. So what happens if you WERE raised by a Narcissist mom, in particular? What are the common characteristics of the relationship? What are the common childhood templates under Narcissistic Abuse? What happens to kids - specifically daughters - in the long run? And how do you deal with someone who doesn't want to treat you differently? Have a CovNarc parent of your own?...
Bite Sized | Defining Covert (Vulnerable) Narcissists
April 26, 2021 23:42 - 12 minutes - 11.8 MBQuick takes from the full episode, ready to consume in one sitting. Have you been convinced that everything about you was "wrong?" Does someone in your life make you feel... "off," in a way that's anxious, fearful, defeated, and self-doubting? Ever see that the person "helping" actually seemed to make the situation a lot worse? And then... do they bring it up for the next 20 years or so as proof of their merit? Ah, yeah. So life comes to a head, thanks to some deep dives into Covert (Vulnera...
Bite Sized | The Problem with Stigmatizing Abuse(rs)
April 20, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 14 MBBack with a quick, consumable rundown of the full episode on Abuse Stigma. For the complete recording... uh... click again. You've probably realized, abuse is a dirty topic not to happily discussed in the public sphere. Victims are blamed. Cases are dismissed. And perpetrators are enabled. But what's the point of our ignorance towards domestic abuse? Is there a reason why we tend to limit the scope of "abuse," blame-shift, and willfully forget? And how does abuser stigma actually perpetuate ...
Bite Sized | Stigmatizing Covert Abuse
April 20, 2021 10:00 - 14 minutes - 13.3 MBBack with a quick, consumable rundown of the full episode on Abuse Stigma. For the complete recording... uh... click again. You've probably realized, abuse is a dirty topic not to happily discussed in the public sphere. Victims are blamed. Cases are dismissed. And perpetrators are enabled. But what's the point of our ignorance towards domestic abuse? Is there a reason why we tend to limit the scope of "abuse," blame-shift, and willfully forget? And how does abuser stigma actually perpetuate ...
The Problem with Stigmatizing Abuse(rs) [AKA Beware the Nice Guy]
April 20, 2021 09:56 - 1 hour - 61.7 MBYou've probably realized, abuse is a dirty topic not to happily discussed in the public sphere. Victims are blamed. Cases are dismissed. And perpetrators are enabled. But what's the point of our ignorance towards domestic abuse? Is there a reason why we tend to limit the scope of "abuse," blame-shift, and willfully forget? And how does abuser stigma actually perpetuate the thing we hate? We've all said it. We've all thought it. We've all... been cognitively dissonant about it. "But they seem...
Stigmatizing Covert Abuse [AKA Beware the Nice Guy]
April 20, 2021 09:56 - 1 hour - 64.3 MBYou've probably realized, abuse is a dirty topic not to happily discussed in the public sphere. Victims are blamed. Cases are dismissed. And perpetrators are enabled. But what's the point of our ignorance towards domestic abuse? Is there a reason why we tend to limit the scope of "abuse," blame-shift, and willfully forget? And how does abuser stigma actually perpetuate the thing we hate? We've all said it. We've all thought it. We've all... been cognitively dissonant about it. "But they seem...
Guest | Monica, on Acknowledging and Overcoming Parental Abuse
April 15, 2021 13:01 - 54 minutes - 50 MBTaking advantage of an amazing MF who shared her story with me last week. Today, Monica proves her Motherfuckerdom by sharing her tales of growing up with two unhealthy parents, what she's learned since separating herself, and moving forward in her (is this called "happy?") life. Thank you Monica for being so ballsy and putting yourself out there. You help validate MFs everywhere - self included - with your experience. Reach out anytime with your tale @ [email protected] ...
Coping Strategies for Covert Abuse and Black Sheep Syndrome
April 13, 2021 16:13 - 49 minutes - 45.4 MBSo that last episode was an unexpected doozy, huh? (Still mortified.) Well, I'm back in Illinois and ready to clear the air with some actual LESSONS from this mess. In the past two weeks, here's where I've been, what I've realized, and what my therapist (and a helpful listener) has recommended for continuing to live under the same roof as an emotional abuser. Talkin' bout practical ways to distance yourself from abuse... when you can't literally distance yourself. Namely, learn to see yourse...
[TW] Personal | Covert Abuse and the Utility of Self-Harm
April 08, 2021 01:54 - 1 hour - 70.7 MBTRIGGER WARNING: emotional abuse, suicidal ideation, and self-harm. Childhood abuse can come with a lot of overt violence and aggression... or it might be more subtle than that. Years after tackling the obvious trauma, it might be a bit crisis inducing to realize your "safe" parent was the one who affected you the most, all along. Plus, seeing the ways self-harm is born from 'escaping' the parent who belittles your existence, not the one who wanted to erase it. Or so I've realized in the pa...
Neuroscience of Changing Core Beliefs and Behaviors
March 31, 2021 12:04 - 1 hour - 60.6 MBIt's the Ask Me Anything results from March - talking about the specifics of changing your trauma-born core beliefs and behaviors with a neuroscience background approach. Understand what you're trying to accomplish, reach your goal more efficiently. Here's how our neural networks are causing so many problems and how to use our trauma physiology (right brain, left brain problems) for good. Wondering about those ABA worksheets? Check the Patreon to get your hands on them. www.patreon.com/traum...
Bite Sized | Fragmented Relationships
March 24, 2021 13:00 - 13 minutes - 12.7 MBMy episodes are prolific and many of us have trauma-born ADHD. So... what if there was a convenient "wrap up" to get the MF point already? Here it is. Need more help absorbing information? Check the YouTube channel for the video version AND get ready for the animated short, coming at you soon. Why not take this to level 11. Cheers, Fuckers. - Jess --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/complextrauma/message
Black & White Views; "Fragmented" Relationships
March 24, 2021 02:00 - 1 hour - 59.6 MBExpanding on fragmented personality via lessons from Janina Fisher and John Welwood (TMFR recommended authors). One of the ways we make sense of early trauma is black and white, "good or bad," thinking. Our abusers are good OR bad, but nothing in between. Unfortunately, we have the same corresponding judgements of ourselves in that moment..... and, then, everyone we meet down the road. How does "good vs bad" patterning lead to personality fragmentation, relationship terror, and disordered at...