Closeness
166 episodes - English - Latest episode: 3 months ago - ★★★★★ - 125 ratingsSan Diego's number one rated sex, intimacy and love coach takes you on a passionate journey through all the forbidden questions you've always wanted answers to. Get clear, sensual, guidance to help you learn about your body, experience more passion and uncover hotter chemistry. Learn how to do all of it simply by tuning in and applying what you learned. If you're currently experiencing heartbreak, emotional pain or betrayal there are plenty additional episodes to help you get through it all. Tari's unique blend of wisdom, intelligence and humor takes complex and often uncomfortable subjects and breaks them down into something you can do something with, tonight! A must for anyone who wants to elevate themselves or their intimate relationship to the next level. The Closeness podcast is also a supplement to real world in-person and virtual coaching sessions.
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Part 2: Who should initiate sex?
October 05, 2018 01:18 - 25 minutes - 35.6 MBAsking for what you want Do you ever wonder why women don’t try again after initiating sex or intimacy but once? We’ll explain how women internalize rejection and what both partners can do about it. We’ll then break down how …
Who should initiate sex and intimacy in relationships?
September 13, 2018 19:04 - 28 minutes - 38.7 MBDo you have a sense of how much sex you want in a given day, week or month? Do you refuse to quanitfy it? What are your thoughts on who should initiate sex when you’ve already slept together a few times? These are big questions that eventually lead to couple’s coaching. One of the cornerstones of Closeness Coaching is learning not to have sex out of obligation while still being available and receptive towards your partner for intimacy. This episode is an excellent place to examine the al...
Part 1: Who should initiate sex: Common misbeliefs
September 13, 2018 19:04 - 28 minutes - 38.7 MBDo you have a sense of how much sex you want? Do you refuse to quanitfy it? What are your thoughts on who should initiate sex after you’ve slept together a few times? These are big questions that eventually lead …
Is it a deal breaker if your partner doesn’t share the same hobbies and sports as you?
September 03, 2018 00:59 - 27 minutes - 37.2 MBWe are as passionate about our hobbies and activities as we are about our relationships. For some this borders on obsession and infatuation, while for others it’s as important as religious beliefs and whether or not to vaccinate our children. …
Is it a deal breaker if your partner doesn’t share the same hobbies and passions?
September 03, 2018 00:59 - 27 minutes - 37.2 MBWe are as passionate about our hobbies and physical activities as we are about our intimate relationships. For some, this borders on obsession. For others, it is as important as religious beliefs and whether or not to vaccinate children. But what happens if your intimate partner doesn’t feel the same way about the things you love to do? What if quite simply, they just don’t care? Should they never show up to your events and performances? Or is it their moral duty to force themselves to d...
Deep listening and oral sex part 2: How to go down
August 21, 2018 18:47 - 42 minutes - 57.8 MBTo get anywhere with your partner, we must first accept that both men and women are not mind readers. We can be very intuitive and sensitive, but it’s destined to fail when we expect someone to just know what turns …
How to go down part 2: Deep listening and oral sex for her
August 21, 2018 18:47 - 42 minutes - 57.8 MBTo get anywhere with our partner intimately, we must first accept that neither men nor women are mind readers. We can be intuitive and sensitive, but it’s destined to fail when we expect someone to “just know” what turns us on. Many of us believe we are very “rare, special creatures who are like no one else.” How then can we possibly expect our partners to know what our exact “special” needs, desires and wants are, if we are so very special and rare to begin with? The definition of being ...
How to properly go down on a woman part 2
August 21, 2018 18:47 - 59 minutes - 54.2 MBTo get anywhere with our partner intimately, we must first accept that neither men nor women are mind readers. We can be intuitive and sensitive, but it’s destined to fail when we expect someone to “just know” what turns us on. Many of us believe we are very “rare, special creatures who are like no one else.” How then can we possibly expect our partners to know what our exact “special” needs, desires and wants are, if we are so very special and rare to begin with? The definition of being spe...
How to properly go down on a woman and eat her out Part 1
August 17, 2018 12:59 - 1 hour - 103 MBDeep listening is about tuning into your partner with your whole being so you can give each other a more satisfying sexual experience. This is a potent form of intimacy that can really set the tone to make closeness feel electric! It's also a fantastic precursor to going down. Oral sex for a woman can be one of the most delicious and satisfying sexual experiences to receive, but unlocking her pleasure is not always easy. In this two-part series, we'll take a profound look at what's necessa...
How to go down: Deep listening and oral sex for her
August 17, 2018 12:59 - 1 hour - 96.8 MBFor a woman, receiving oral sex can be one of the most delicious and satisfying parts of a sexual experience. It’s also the most sensitive area on her body and unlocking that pleasure is not always easy. In this two …
How to properly go down on a woman and eat her out
August 17, 2018 12:59 - 1 hour - 69.6 MBDeep listening is about tuning into your partner with your whole being so you can give each other a more satisfying sexual experience. This is a potent form of intimacy that can really set the tone to make closeness feel electric! It’s also a fantastic precursor to going down. Oral sex for a woman can be one of the most delicious and satisfying sexual experiences to receive, but unlocking her pleasure is not always easy. In this two-part series, we’ll take a profound look at what’s ...
Deep listening and oral sex part 1: How to go down
August 17, 2018 12:59 - 41 minutes - 57.6 MBDeep listening is about tuning into your partner with your whole being so that you can give each other a more satisfying sexual experience. This is a potent form of intimacy that can really set the tone to make the …
How to properly prepare to go down on a woman, get your mind right and eat her out Part 1
August 17, 2018 12:59 - 1 hour - 84.2 MBDeep listening means learning to read your partner so you don’t have to ask so many questions. Tuning into her with your whole being so you can give each other a more satisfying sexual experience. This is a potent form of intimacy that can really set the tone to make closeness feel electric! It’s also a fantastic precursor to going down. Oral sex for a woman can be one of the most delicious and satisfying sexual experiences to receive, but unlocking her pleasure is not always easy. In par...
Claiming her, giving too much and knowing what to do when she just want to see where this is going.
August 10, 2018 16:27 - 40 minutes - 56.2 MBThere’s no greater gift than when a woman has chosen you and is all-in! You can see it in the way her eyes sparkle and in her actions. She wants you and only you, and it feels fantastic! But how do you make sure it lasts and what happens if you put the whole thing on bruise control? Your lady may in fact already have several other suitors waiting in the wings to be her next partner and need only turn her attention towards one of them to ignite something new. That’s a terrifying thought! ...
I haven’t told him my feelings yet because I just want to see where this is going…
August 10, 2018 16:27 - 17 minutes - 16 MBThere’s no greater gift than when a woman has chosen you and is all-in! You can see it in the way her eyes sparkle and in her actions. She wants you and only you, and it feels fantastic! But how do you make sure it lasts and what happens if you put the whole thing on bruise control? Your lady may in fact already have several other suitors waiting in the wings to be her next partner and need only turn her attention towards one of them to ignite something new. That’s a terrifying thought! ...
I haven’t told him my feelings yet, but I just want to see where this is going…
August 10, 2018 16:27 - 17 minutes - 24.3 MBThere’s no greater gift than when a woman is all-in and has chosen you. You can see it in the way her eyes sparkle and in her actions. She wants you and it feels fantastic! But how do you make …
When she just wants to see where this is going…
August 10, 2018 16:27 - 17 minutes - 24.3 MBThere’s no greater gift than when a woman is all in and has chosen you. You can see it in her eyes and more importantly her actions. But how do you keep make sure it lasts? Just because she’s in …
How to recognize a breakup Part 2
July 27, 2018 06:34 - 27 minutes - 37.9 MBOne of the most difficult and excruciating parts of relationships are breakups and the events leading up to them. Sometimes though, they can be avoided simply by recognizing the early warning signs. Why do we ignore them so readily? In this episode we’ll show you what it looks like when someone is starting to withdraw from you, as well as the twisted truth about what really happens when one of us pulls back. When others withdraw from us, it can make us feel a sense of “forced neediness,”...
Part 2: How to recognize a breakup
July 27, 2018 06:34 - 27 minutes - 37.9 MBOne of the most difficult and excruciating parts of relationships are breakups and the events leading up to them. Sometimes though, they can be avoided simply by recognizing the early warning signs. Why do we ignore them so readily? In this episode we’ll show you what it looks like when someone is starting to withdraw from you, as well as the twisted truth about what really happens when one of us pulls back. When others withdraw from us, it can make us feel a sense of “forced needines...
Part 2: How to recognize when they’re about to leave the relationship
July 27, 2018 06:34 - 27 minutes - 37.9 MBOne of the most difficult and excruciating parts of relationships are breakups and the events leading up to them. Yet they can be avoided simply by recognizing early warning signs. But why do we ignore them so readily? In this …
How to recognize a breakup part 2
July 27, 2018 06:34 - 27 minutes - 37.9 MBOne of the most difficult and excruciating parts of relationships are breakups and the events leading up to them. Yet they can be avoided simply by recognizing early warning signs. But why do we ignore them so readily? In this …
How to recognize a breakup before it happens Part 1
July 21, 2018 06:26 - 36 minutes - 49.9 MBOne of the most difficult and excruciating parts of relationships are breakups and the events leading up to them. Sometimes though, they can be avoided simply by recognizing the early warning signs. Why do we ignore them so readily? In this episode we’ll show you what it looks like when someone is starting to withdraw from you, as well as the twisted truth about what really happens when one of us pulls back. When others withdraw from us, it can make us feel a sense of “forced neediness,”...
Recognizing a breakup before it happens
July 21, 2018 06:26 - 36 minutes - 49.9 MBOne of the most difficult and excruciating parts of relationships are breakups and the events leading up to them. Sometimes though, they can be avoided simply by recognizing the early warning signs. Why do we ignore them so readily? In this episode we’ll show you what it looks like when someone is starting to withdraw from you, as well as the twisted truth about what really happens when one of us pulls back. When others withdraw from us, it can make us feel a sense of “forced needines...
Part 1: How to recognize a breakup before it happens
July 21, 2018 06:26 - 36 minutes - 49.9 MBOne of the most difficult and excruciating parts of relationships are breakups and the events leading up to them. Yet they can be avoided simply by recognizing early warning signs. But why do we ignore them so readily? In this …
Part 2: Intimate thoughts on eating and diet
July 14, 2018 06:30 - 34 minutes - 32 MBExperiencing sex, closeness or intimacy with another person starts with feeling great about yourself. Our eating habits, at least partially, dictate how we look and feel. In today’s episode we’ll explore: – What an elimination lifestyle looks like – Managing cravings – Sustaining a healthy diet with your busy lifestyle – Reintroducing foods you’ve previously eliminated – Finding the line between healthy and vigilant obsession – Listening to healthy cravings and recognizing unhealthy...
Part 2. Food and diet: Eating in a way that puts you in control
July 14, 2018 06:30 - 34 minutes - 48.4 MBCloseness with another person starts with feeling great about yourself. Our eating habits, at least partially, dictate how you look and feel. In today’s episode we’ll explore: Roadblocks to an elimination diet Managing our cravings Sustaining a healthy diet with …
Intimate thoughts on eating and diet Part 1
July 07, 2018 21:56 - 32 minutes - 29.5 MBOh the things we put into our mouths. Our culture insists that the only way to health is through what we eat. We might argue that our thoughts, self talk and overall attitude of well being matter equally. However, the evidence that food also has a strong effect on our body and emotions is incontrovertible. Is it possible that what we eat effects how we share closeness with others? In this episode we’ll examine food fundamentals and debunk the one-size-fits-all myth when it comes to eatin...
Part 1. Food and diet: An attractive way of eating that puts you in control
July 07, 2018 21:56 - 32 minutes - 44.6 MBOh the things we put into our mouths. Our culture insists that the only way to health is through what we eat. We would argue that it’s our thoughts, self talk and overall attitude that matter equally. However, the evidence …
Intimate thoughts on eating and diet
July 07, 2018 21:56 - 32 minutes - 44.6 MBOh the things we put into our mouths. Our culture insists that the only way to health is through what we eat. We might argue that our thoughts, self talk and overall attitude of well being matter equally. However, the evidence that food also has a strong effect on our body and emotions is incontrovertible. Is it possible that what we eat effects how we share closeness with others? In this episode we’ll examine food fundamentals and debunk the one-size-fits-all myth when it comes to ea...
What a woman’s body is capable of, Part 3: Asexuality, arousal, anal and getting come drunk
July 04, 2018 23:57 - 21 minutes - 29.8 MBSometimes a woman is ready to do something sexual before you are. Yes, it happens! The result can sometimes create frustration or negative judgment in men. Learning how to sensually navigate this when it comes up is not only important, …
An Intimate Sensual meditation
July 04, 2018 23:57 - 24 minutes - 33.9 MBIntroducing an intimate sensual meditation – from Closeness Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
When she’s ready for sex before you are (What a woman’s body is capable of part 3)
July 04, 2018 23:57 - 21 minutes - 29.8 MBSometimes a woman is ready get sexual before you are. Yes, it happens! The result can sometimes create frustration or negative judgments in the minds of men. Learning how to navigate this is not only important, but also gives men a rare glimpse into what women go through when men want something that she’s not ready for. Occasionally though we come across those who are asexual, inherently not sexual or simply don’t have a strong sex drive. We’ll examine what this looks like and how it ...
What actually happens in a sex coaching or sexual guidance session at Closeness?
July 04, 2018 23:57 - 1 hour - 95.4 MBEverything you want to know about an in-person sex, intimacy and relationship coaching session. An in depth look at what makes Closeness famous for getting sizzling results. Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1
An Occasional Surpise
July 04, 2018 23:57 - 8 minutes - 13.1 MBIntroducing an intimate sensual meditation - from Closeness Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 Please consider donating to our Patreon: www.patreon.com/closeness
What a woman’s body is capable of, Part 2: Orgasms and getting comfortable with self-love
June 17, 2018 21:17 - 19 minutes - 27.5 MBSelf love and “touching yourself” is an interesting proposal. Observe how you feel even reading the question: “Do you touch yourself?” Some women have no issue being handsy multiple times every day while others rarely touch themselves with no immediate …
What a woman’s body is capable of Part 2: How to turn her on
June 17, 2018 21:17 - 56 minutes - 77.6 MBSelf love and “touching yourself” is an interesting concept. Observe how you feel when you simply read the question: “Do you touch yourself?” or “Do you masturbate?” Some women have no issue being handsy multiple times a day, while others rarely touch themselves with no immediate plans to do so in the future. If we tack on the additional challenge of touching yourself in front of your partner, it opens up an entirely different set of possibilities… and concerns! How do we unlock the abil...
Orgasms and getting comfortable with self-love (What a woman’s body is capable of part 2)
June 17, 2018 21:17 - 19 minutes - 27.5 MBSelf love and “touching yourself” is an interesting concept. Observe how you feel when you simply read the question: “Do you touch yourself?” or “Do you masturbate?” Some women have no issue being handsy multiple times a day, while others rarely touch themselves with no immediate plans to do so in the future. If we tack on the additional challenge of touching yourself in front of your partner, it opens up an entirely different set of possibilities… and concerns! How do we unlock the a...
What a woman’s body is capable of, Part 1: Sex and the shadow side of male achievement
June 10, 2018 19:14 - 22 minutes - 30.5 MBHelping a woman reach her peak and spill over into orgasm is a very exciting experience. It’s even more so if you’re able to indulge each other in multiple orgasms. But often, men feel that they’ve achieved something by doing …
What a woman’s body is capable of
June 10, 2018 19:14 - 22 minutes - 30.5 MBHelping a woman spill over into orgasm is a very exciting experience. It’s even more so if can indulge her in multiple orgasms. But often, men feel they’ve achieved something by doing this, or that they’ve performed some sort of service for a woman that deserves a reward. You don’t see her celebrating or bragging to her friends that she pleasured you, right? We think of it more as a gift that can be felt by both partners. Helping a woman reach orgasm can be wonderful, but often manual sti...
What a woman’s body is capable of Part 1: Understanding female anatomy and orgasm
June 10, 2018 19:14 - 47 minutes - 43.2 MBHelping a woman spill over into orgasm is a very exciting experience. We’re big fans of the whole process. But getting her there is not always about what you think, especially if you’re the kind of man who is destination oriented and who prides yourself on making women come. In this episode we’ll explore this and several other concepts including: – Understanding word play and loaded words – What effects repressing your sexuality has on you – Understanding what happens to sex when you...
How to turn a woman on with decisiveness
June 02, 2018 03:09 - 28 minutes - 26.5 MBFewer things are more exciting to a man than a fully aroused woman. But how to get her to this place? Hint: this is the episode that excites women the most. Men often think about turning a woman on by doing something to her in the moment: a touch, a kiss or something sexual. Allow us to introduce you to a whole new world. In this brief but powerful episode, we’ll learn the subtle cues that get women excited before they find themselves in the bedroom with you. Decisiveness, being directio...
Why you should talk to strangers
May 30, 2018 04:18 - 21 minutes - 19.5 MBHave you ever been on a date and suddenly retorted, “you don’t know me!” “You don’t know anything about me!” or “you’re a stranger!” Language shapes our view of the world and it can dramatically effect how we feel around others. When getting to know someone new, labeling them a “stranger” can be toxic. Do you flat out ignore people you don’t know, even if they are friendly towards you? Do you grab things off of shelves in stores without acknowledging the person who you nearly bumped ...
Why you really should talk to strangers
May 30, 2018 04:18 - 21 minutes - 29.4 MBHave you ever been on a date and suddenly retorted, “you don’t know me!” “You don’t know anything about me!” or “you’re a stranger!” Language shapes our view of the world and it can dramatically effect how we feel around others. When getting to know someone new, labeling them a “stranger” can be toxic. Do you flat out ignore people you don’t know, even if they are friendly towards you? Do you grab things off of shelves in stores without acknowledging the person who you nearly bump...
Should you talk to strangers?
May 25, 2018 04:18 - 21 minutes - 29.4 MBIs it safe to talk to strangers? Have you ever been on a date and said, “You don’t know me,” or “You don’t know anything about me!” or “You’re a stranger!” Language shapes our view of the world and it …
How to say no part 4. Dating archetypes
May 19, 2018 04:06 - 15 minutes - 22 MBNow you know how to honor your partners “no.” But what do you do when they change their mind from a yes to a no, or a no to a yes? How do you navigate your own energy and desires …
Unrequited love: What to do when you like someone more than they like you
May 15, 2018 20:58 - 21 minutes - 19.2 MBThe feeling of unrequited love is a difficult and painful subject for everyone. Somehow though, we rarely consider the impact of how the other person feels when we are the ones who aren’t interested in them. It’s a difficult subject that no one seems well equipped to discuss. This episode gives you tools to better navigate both sides of the equation with respect, love and care. When we consider that someone is giving us the best gift they have to offer, that is to say their love, their h...
Unrequited love: What to do when you like someone more
May 15, 2018 20:58 - 21 minutes - 29.1 MBThe feeling of unrequited love is a difficult and painful subject for everyone. Somehow though, we rarely consider the impact of how the other person feels when we are the ones who aren’t interested in them. It’s a difficult subject that no one seems well equipped to discuss. This episode gives you tools to better navigate both sides of the equation with respect, love and care. When we consider that someone is giving us the best gift they have to offer, that is to say their love, thei...
How to say no part 3. Rejecting with compassion and where to go after no
May 12, 2018 03:25 - 11 minutes - 15.5 MBHow many times have you changed your mind, not wanting someone at first but then later wanting him or her? You said you were attracted, you acted like you were attracted and then suddenly you weren’t attracted anymore. As a …
How to say no part 2: Manners and why men must do the approaching
May 05, 2018 02:55 - 18 minutes - 17.5 MBHave you ever learned how to reject someone in a considerate way? Have you ever thought about the best way to receive rejection? We have and we’ve got a lot to say about it. We’ll also examine why men must …
How to know when you’re being lead on
April 30, 2018 05:34 - 17 minutes - 15.6 MBWhen you’re on a date, are you guilty of telling others you don’t want them to waste your time? It’s a nasty, demoralizing expression that implies anyone who isn’t interesting to you, or who isn’t going to give you something you want, is of no use to you. Telling someone who is pursuing you or sharing their love with you that they are wasting your time has the opposite effect of achieving closeness. It devalues them and is hurtful. We say our time has been “wasted,” and yet most of us wa...