Closeness
166 episodes - English - Latest episode: 22 days ago - ★★★★★ - 125 ratingsSan Diego's number one rated sex, intimacy and love coach takes you on a passionate journey through all the forbidden questions you've always wanted answers to. Get clear, sensual, guidance to help you learn about your body, experience more passion and uncover hotter chemistry. Learn how to do all of it simply by tuning in and applying what you learned. If you're currently experiencing heartbreak, emotional pain or betrayal there are plenty additional episodes to help you get through it all. Tari's unique blend of wisdom, intelligence and humor takes complex and often uncomfortable subjects and breaks them down into something you can do something with, tonight! A must for anyone who wants to elevate themselves or their intimate relationship to the next level. The Closeness podcast is also a supplement to real world in-person and virtual coaching sessions.
To schedule an appointment for you and your partner, fill out an intake form at www.cravecloseness.com/intake
Homepage Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Episodes
13 Easy to fix roadblocks that are keeping you from having sex right now… and what to do about them
April 06, 2024 04:49 - 1 hour - 85.1 MBCHAPTERS: 0:00 Introduction 3:42 1:Logistics 8:03 The three categories of affection 11:33 Logistical problem 1a: Your furnishings 13:37 Logistical problem 1b: Lovers can't find the time 14:12 2. Family, extended family and kids 15:58 3. No locks on your doors 18:30 4. The zoo that lives with you 19:57 5. Energy 22:35 Not wanting to. Needing it to feel natural 29:25 7. You're not there emotionally 32:01 8. She shuts down emotionally, feels defeated and broken 36:04 9. Y...
What to do with an extra horny wife or girlfriend… when your libidos are mismatched
December 12, 2023 04:41 - 50 minutes - 69 MBCHAPTERS 0:00 Intro and the types of relationships that are like this 2:34 Women who want it but their husbands drive is not there 3:42 You're trying, you're having good sex but it's still not enough for her 5:06 Thoughts on what to do if you have a very sexual wife or girlfriend 11:26 Distinguishing between a woman who doesn't want you vs someone who is turned off from you 15:02 If you're super aggressive or a non-affectionate man this doesn't apply 15:52 it's imperative as a man...
20 Things to consider when dating a woman who has children
November 19, 2023 18:51 - 1 hour - 98.4 MBChapters: 0:00 Intro 2:25 Disclosures 3:45 Connecting with your children is not something that ever ends 5:45 1. Anytime something goes wrong, it’s going to require mom’s instant attention 7:06 A taste of my story 9:50 2. Many women think their ex is crazy or a narcissist 12:00 The usual disclaimers 14:00 A contribution from a single mother 15:57 3. The length of your commitment matters 17:56 4. Her children must come first 22:15 5. You can’t just come over 23:29 5a....
The incredible experience of knowing when a woman is in love with you… and how to reciprocate back! 15 ways
November 11, 2023 18:41 - 59 minutes - 81.4 MBChapters: 0:00 Introduction 7:23 1. When she's deferential towards you 14:26 2. She looks at you directly, frequently 16:47 3. The way that she looks at you 20:55 4. Admiration 24:12 5. Her desire to have sex with you 28:50 6. The way she'll have sex with you and what she's willing to do 35:30 Putting yourself in her position 41:12 7. Little notes and mementos 42:56 8. Gifts 45:57 9. She wants to talk to you and be near you all the time 48:30 10. She gives you her softn...
Sexual Tension. What it is, how to play with it and why you must build it with your partner
October 31, 2023 03:24 - 58 minutes - 81 MBCHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 1:39 Men and women show sexual interest differently 3:41 Puppy dog love 8:34 Men and women initiate differently 12:33 What does it look like when a woman makes herself sexually available to you 14:23 Finding the right "time" to initiate 15:58 How to be sexual with your consensual partner 18:37 Why men have a hard time with timing 21:14 Don't ask her to do it, show her 22:16 What it means to bring your masculine energy to the relationship 24:25 Distingui...
Part 1: Why fights and disagreements explode and what you can do about it
June 13, 2023 03:47 - 1 hour - 105 MBToday's episode is less about sex and more about the silly conflicts that arise which prevent us from experiencing true intimacy or a great connection! Fighting is often trite, exhausting and most couple's can't even remember what their last ten or twenty petty fights were all about. While some altercations may be symptomatic of a deeper issue, others can simply be avoided with a little presence. In this episode we'll teach you how to understand and navigate conflict in a healthy way. Cha...
Understanding how your partner starts fights and provokes you… and what you can do about it
June 13, 2023 03:47 - 1 hour - 98.4 MBThis is admittedly a dense episode. It's less about the usual sexy and thought provoking ideas we usually explore and more about the inane conflicts that arise in relationship which prevent us from experiencing true intimacy or a great connection! Fighting is often trite, exhausting and most couple's can't even remember what their last ten or twenty petty fights were all about. While some altercations may be symptomatic of a deeper issue, others can simply be avoided with a little presence....
Closeness Interview: A glimpse into a millennial military spouse’s marriage. Could this also be your relationship?
February 13, 2023 07:25 - 1 hour - 113 MBIn this unprecedented interview read by the podcast host, a Closeness Client shares her struggles with intimacy and grapples with her desires for dominance and assertiveness in relationship. A two part interview with a "director's cut" version: commentary from the host, as well as an unadulterated interview. Does her experience hit home? CHAPTERS: 0:00 Intro 2:15 The basis of this interview 6:04 The unedited interview begins at about 58 minutes 6:24 The interview begins 7:09 How lon...
How to move things forward and have sex when you feel like roommates, best friends or are simply not progressing
February 05, 2023 07:36 - 1 hour - 101 MBWithout a doubt, one of the number one reasons people struggle in long term, committed relationships, is because they feel like best friends or roommates at home. There's no passion or excitement! Nothing is moving forward, or things have gone stale. In this hour long episode you’ll learn how to immediately take the reins again and change that immediately. CHAPTERS: 0:00 Intro 0:57 The Waiting game 3:47 Why this happens 4:57 Women can take the lead without being outrageous 8:13 If...
Why your female partner or wife isn’t having sex with you, and what you can do about it
November 01, 2022 03:53 - 29 minutes - 40.6 MBOften the things we aren't doing in bed can be as detrimental as the ones we are. Here are ten reasons why your wife or girlfriend doesn't want to have sex with you.
Interview: Intimate insights from the mind and heart of a 20 year old college student
October 03, 2022 16:26 - 1 hour - 158 MBAn unusually intelligent and intellectual college student explores her boundaries of sexuality, and intimate desires. How men and women at the university level interact with each other these days in the dating world is different than what we've seen before. Together, we explore who should initiate and seduce in the bedroom, male and female nature, teaching inexperienced men how to have sex, what confidence looks like in a man, handling rejection, solving the eye contact dilemma, what eye ...
10 ways women can feel more sexually desirable and connected in and out of the bedroom
September 04, 2022 22:46 - 1 hour - 84.8 MBChapters: 0:00 Intro 4:45 Speak up for yourself 12:00 Speaking unconsciously for obnoxious lengths of time 20:26 Making her come well and relax often triggers women to talk 22:24 Learning to be open and in a receptive mode to welcome intimacy 25:58 Don't have sex with people you don't like sleeping with 27:02 Beating up your man for mistakes from his past that he has remedied 33:05 Not letting insecurities get in the way of a good time 36:38 Toning down the arrogance, entit...
Staying hard, getting it up, finishing too early, ED, PE, and other fascinating subjects for men and women
May 21, 2022 20:36 - 1 hour - 110 MBThe most difficult subject for any man to think about much less discuss is likely to be: keeping it up, getting it up and finishing too quickly. This is an episode you'll want to listen to with your partner because there are tools, tips and tricks in here for both men and women. Don't skip out on incredible intimacy when the answers can be found right here! CHAPTERS 0:00 Introductions 1:33 Finishing too quickly is not an option for a successful relationship 2:35 It’s not enough to on...
How to properly be dominant and assertive with a woman in the bedroom
January 30, 2022 01:52 - 1 hour - 117 MBCHAPTERS 0:00 Introductions 3:29 How exactly does a man learn to be dominant 8:06 What does healthy dominance mean? 14:30 When a woman is ready for sex before you are and understanding gender roles 16:15 What is sexual foreplay? 22:05 Women often can't express what they want 24:03 How do you handle bad results and fears 25:37 Welcome to Deep Listening™ 29:04 What do women want in bed? 30:15 The shadow side of aggressiveness is not sexually attractive 32:45 What are some better ...
Can you have it all in relationships? Plus, female mating strategies
November 24, 2021 02:02 - 1 hour - 86.3 MBCHAPTERS 0:00 Introduction and can you have it all? Recitals and disclaimers 2:44 In a nutshell 4:20 What does it mean to have it all? 9:40 Misunderstandings 12:40 Should one person be your everything? 15:21 COVID and Politics 16:26 Are you really perfect, just the way you are? 17:40 The Disney Fairytale 21:30 How Women Select mates 24:39 How men often think of intimacy 25:45 Great sex does not come naturally to most many men 33:04 How does one become a skilled lover? 37:...
30 things to never say to your partner again
October 04, 2021 07:25 - 1 hour - 101 MBChapters: Avoid these thirty expressions to have a better life
Profound life lessons from 30 expressions we no longer need
October 04, 2021 07:25 - 1 hour - 165 MBChapters: 0:00 Intro 6:40 Oh you really don't care? 7:38 Words carry power 8:35 I don't sugar coat 12:46 A certain type of emoji 14:55 Who hurt you? 17:00 Cute 22:55 It is what it is 30:42 Like I said 34:27 Thoughts on talking and conversing 36:10 Useless filler words 38:55 Pour some sprinkles on me 39:23 Low key pointless phrases 41:06 Other phrases that have gone out of style 44:00 I feel like... 48:20 Next time 49:15 It depends 52:07 I just can't possibly ima...
30 Things you never need to say to your partner again
October 04, 2021 07:25 - 1 hour - 101 MBChapters: Avoid these thirty expressions to have a better life
30 Things you don’t need to say ever again
October 04, 2021 07:25 - 1 hour - 165 MBChapters: 0:00 Intro 6:40 Oh you really don't care? 7:38 Words carry power 8:35 I don't sugar coat 12:46 A certain type of emoji 14:55 Who hurt you? 17:00 Cute 22:55 It is what it is 30:42 Like I said 34:27 Thoughts on talking and conversing 36:10 Useless filler words 38:55 Pour some sprinkles on me 39:23 Low key pointless phrases 41:06 Other phrases that have gone out of style 44:00 I feel like... 48:20 Next time 49:15 It depends 52:07 I just can't possibly ima...
To come or not to come. Whether men should finish and how women feel about it
June 29, 2021 05:03 - 41 minutes - 56.7 MBOne of the biggest questions of our time as it pertains to intimacy is whether or not a man should always "finish" when having sex. This episodes dives deep into the pros and cons and explores the little known avenue of pressure that women can place on men. Topics include: 0:00 Introduction 0:53 Societal expectations around finishing 1:33 Typical expectations around male ejaculation 9:10 Is a male orgasm bad? 12:03 The spiritual minded orgasm 13:17 Restraining for energy 14:44 ...
To come or not to come. The male ejaculatory response, and how women feel about it
June 29, 2021 05:03 - 41 minutes - 56.7 MBOne of the biggest questions of our time as it pertains to intimacy is whether or not a man should always "finish" when having sex. This episodes dives deep into the pros and cons and explores the little known avenue of pressure that women can place on men. Topics include: 0:00 Introduction 0:53 Societal expectations around finishing 1:33 Typical expectations around male ejaculation 9:10 Is a male orgasm bad? 12:03 The spiritual minded orgasm 13:17 Restraining for energy 14:44 ...
Empathy, understanding and answers for sexually inexperienced men
April 11, 2021 22:00 - 41 minutes - 57.6 MBPlease listen to this episode with your partner. Sexually inexperienced men do not get a lot of attention. Because this subject is so sensitive, there isn't much real world instruction around it either. In fact most men grapple with a great deal of shame and guilt around the subject and often will not reach out for help. This episode is for you. CHAPTERS: 0:00 Introduction Cause and Effect 6:34 You're not alone 9:11 Sex does NOT suddenly become a skill once you're married 12:47 Wome...
Confessions of an ex NYC male sex worker
April 11, 2021 22:00 - 1 hour - 159 MBIn our first interview with a male guest, we're pulling out all of the stops. Sebastien is an ex New York City rent boy and long term friend of mine. We’ll go in depth about his ‘job,’ the world of chemsex, his spiral into addiction and his recovery. Tune in to listen to his story now. CHAPTERS 0:00 Introduction 4:02 How we met 6:25 How did a foreigner find himself at UCLA 7:12 Dry wit disclaimer 9:48 What kind of household did you grow up in? 10:39 Did you have a sense of your ...
What to do and what it means when a woman says she needs space
March 15, 2021 00:26 - 1 hour - 83.9 MBOne of the most difficult things someone can hear, is that their partner needs space. Nothing is clear, the terms are undefined, and once uttered it usually ends up in disaster. Tune in now to find out what to do. CHAPTERS: 0:00 Introduction 5:25 Malignant phrases 6:20 How to handle short term space 8:38 When she takes days, weeks and months of space 13:15 What you're supposed to know when she says she needs space 16:08 If you're going to try to make it work, here's what you shoul...
Part 3: How to properly handle and move on from a breakup
February 16, 2021 06:57 - 1 hour - 69.1 MB1:45 Actions speak louder than words 5:55 What do you actually owe the other person? 8:24 Do unto others as you would have them do unto you 10:36 When we invest ourselves too much and get overextended 13:54 Self care and taking care of ourselves 20:23 When you think you don't want anyone else but them 23:28 getting over your previous relationships 24:36 an exercise to show yourself you can get past this... using your exes 26:20 Caring for and helping others...once you're healed...
Part 2: How to properly handle, cope and deal with a breakup
January 26, 2021 04:05 - 1 hour - 82.8 MBOne of the biggest challenges of being alive today, is handling, processing, surviving and getting through a breakup. In this 90 minute episode I am going to help you get through it. CHAPTERS 0:00 Intro 2:45 You are probably in crisis right now 7:09 We look for ways to resent our partner to get over them 8:05 Understanding the emotional scale 9:08 There must be a grieving process 10:20 The disaster of distracting yourself vs healing yourself 12:14 The age old adage, that everyt...
How to properly handle a breakup…before it happens Part 1
October 11, 2020 03:50 - 1 hour - 60.2 MBBreakups are extremely painful and can often take months and years to heal from. But there are always warning signs and things we often ignore. In part one of this three part series, we help you identify what's working and not working right now in your current relationship, to see if it will last or if it's time to breakup, given how you're being treated.
Ghosting and Blocking and Curving Oh My!
June 29, 2020 05:31 - 1 hour - 140 MBIt's one of the most detrimental behavior patterns of our generation. Here's everything you need to know to recognize it, avoid it and if you are afflicted with this disease, how to cure it. CHAPTERS: 0:00 What is ghosting? 2:25 Why do people ghost? 6:25 When does emotional involvement begin? 10:17 Preliminaries and disclaimers 13:15 Having to make backup plans 14:41 Taking our own insecurities out on others 15:16 The most important sentence when it comes to dating 16:45 Runaway brides 1...
How to Create Hot Sexual Chemistry from Nothing
May 25, 2020 19:11 - 1 hour - 93.7 MBWhat’s your definition of hot passionate chemistry? Do you believe that it’s just “there or it isn’t?” In this episode we will put that myth to an end. We’ll explore over twenty concepts including: - How to have naturally good chemistry with everyone around you -Is chemistry for men inevitable or bound to happen regardless of what happens? -How many kinds of chemistry are there? -How to have good chemistry by "allowing it" to happen and letting yourself go there -How we constantly s...
Is she asking for it and is she asking for it sexually?
April 13, 2020 22:19 - 16 minutes - 15.7 MBChapters: 0:00 Intro 1:16 Is she asking for it? 8:04 Men don't really like to be teased the way women do 8:43 You should always be able to say no 9:43 He's reading your cues accurately if you're advertising sex 10:04 The same cues you use to flirt are the same cues people use to have sex 13:52 When a man takes you shopping...
Interview with a stripper, escort, cam girl and sugar baby, with Heather
April 13, 2020 22:19 - 1 hour - 106 MBIf you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, modeling, dancing, “sugaring” or being a sugar baby and more. Subscribe and tune …
Interview with a Stripper, Escort, Cam Girl, Sugar Baby
April 13, 2020 22:19 - 1 hour - 104 MBIf you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry, you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, If you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry, you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, modeling, dancing, “sugaring” or being a sugar baby, and more. Subscribe and tune in as she spills story after story in this very detailed and intimate account of Heather’s life as a sex worker. It’s gua...
Interview with a Stripper, Escort, Cam Girl, Sugar Baby, with Heather
April 13, 2020 22:19 - 1 hour - 106 MBIf you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry, you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, If you’ve ever secretly wondered what it’s like to be involved in the sex industry, you’re in for a big treat. Heather has done it all: camming, modeling, dancing, “sugaring” or being a sugar baby, and more. Subscribe and tune in as she spills story after story in this very detailed and intimate account of Heather’s life as a sex worker. It’s gua...
An Intimate Sensual Meditation About Kauai
March 24, 2020 23:41 - 24 minutes - 34.3 MBIn this unprecedented time of worry and concern regarding COVID-19 (or coronavirus), this is our corona-free offering to soothe you and help you relax: a sensual meditation to listen to again and again, anytime you need it. Think of it as a rampage of appreciation. We won't reveal much, but make sure you're in a comfortable and relaxing place before you listen. Fifteen minutes is just the right amount to help shift your focus without demanding too much of your time. Are you ready to com...
Kauai: A sensual meditation
March 24, 2020 23:41 - 24 minutes - 33.9 MBIn this unprecedented time of worry and concern regarding COVID-19 or the Corona Virus this is our Corona-free offering to soothe you and help you relax: a sensual meditation to come back to again and again, anytime you need it. …
How to Properly Have Sex with a Man and How to Turn a Man On
March 15, 2020 23:57 - 1 hour - 107 MBCountless Closeness episodes focus on how to pleasure a woman, but what can you do to take care of your man? Put down your magazine and let's get deep. Sure, we can talk about how to go down and how to arch your back, but what about the stuff everyone is afraid to talk about? Let’s get closer: Closeness Coaching for sex, intimacy, relationships and quality of life: www.getcloseness.com/coaching Subscribe to Closeness on YouTube: www.youtube.com/closeness?sub_confirmation=1 ...
How to properly have sex with a man
March 15, 2020 23:57 - 1 hour - 107 MBCountless Closeness episodes focus on how to pleasure a woman, but what can you do to take care of your man? Put down your magazine and let’s get deep. Sure we can talk about how to go down and arch …
How to properly kiss! 10 juicy steps
March 10, 2020 22:03 - 1 hour - 92.7 MBLearning to kiss our partner in a way that really turns them on is not innate. Like most things we do for the first time, we're sloppy and we don't take the time to learn good technique. Yes even kissing has a technique and it isn't taught in school or by our family, fortunately. Enter the Closeness podcast: a guide to kissing, replete with all the do's and don'ts you need to be a successful lover as well as understanding all the different varieties of kissing. One of the best tips we c...
How to kiss properly. 10 big juicy steps.
March 10, 2020 22:03 - 1 hour - 92.7 MBLearning to kiss our partner in a way that really turns them on is not innate. Like most things we do for the first time, we're sloppy and we don't take the time to learn good technique. Yes even kissing has a technique and it isn't taught in school or by our family, fortunately. Enter the Closeness podcast: a guide to kissing, replete with all the do's and don'ts you need to be a successful lover as well as understanding all the different varieties of kissing. One of the best tips we ca...
Part 2: Thoughts on having sex with someone new for the first time
February 13, 2020 02:07 - 45 minutes - 42.2 MBSome of the juicy details you can expect from this episode are learning to: Feel into her, the moment you open the door… see what her energy and sensuality is like. Ask yourself, Is she actually ready to have sex …
Part 1: Thoughts on having sex with someone new for the first time
January 31, 2020 23:20 - 49 minutes - 45.9 MBYou’ve shared some amazing time together and now you’re ready to take things to the bedroom. Yes, logistically we all know “how” to have sex, but do you know how to navigate through being with someone new for the first …
Part 3: Who should pay for the first date and beyond?
January 19, 2020 00:57 - 1 hour - 128 MBThe much anticipated 90 minute season finale that holds nothing back. We’ll share articles, statistics, personal references, and even explore if paying for dates is a form of prostitution! We’ll discuss how people really feel when their partner fights or …
How to properly have sex with a woman
January 10, 2020 01:16 - 1 hour - 76.3 MBWelcome to 2020 and welcome to Season Two of the Closeness Podcast! To start the New Year off with a bang we’re diving in with a sexually-explicit episode that covers fifteen steps to giving a woman a phenomenal experience she won’t forget. What are some of the specific things we can do to get out of our heads, out of our egos and into our partner? Do you have strategies for going beyond yourself and getting into her? This is not a technique driven episode, but if you apply these principles ...
How to Have the Big Talk: STD’s, STI’s and Proper Etiquette
December 14, 2019 23:35 - 57 minutes - 79.6 MBExposing your sexual health and history to someone new is very vulnerable. Getting tested, asking a partner about their past and sharing your feelings are difficult territories to navigate. Since most of us feel uncomfortable even thinking about it, very few of us possess the wherewithal to have a mature conversation and make the right choices. We’re put off and grossed out by disease, but then in the moments when it counts, we don’t do a whole lot to prevent transmission. Sometimes we make ...
How to have the big talk. STD’s, STI’s and proper etiquette
December 14, 2019 23:35 - 57 minutes - 79.6 MBExposing your sexual health and history to someone new isn’t easy. Getting tested, asking a partner about their past and vulnerably sharing your feelings is also difficult territory to navigate. Since most of us feel uncomfortable even thinking about it, …
The Female Sexual Response Cycle: 10 Passionate Phases
November 15, 2019 23:54 - 49 minutes - 67.5 MBGrowing up you may have heard of the sexual response cycle: excitement, plateau, orgasm and resolution. We’d like to introduce you to something a little more provocative. In this sexually explosive episode, we’ll unravel the 10 phases most women go through as they get more and more turned on, but we’ll take it further and deeper than you ever thought possible. Move over Masters and Johnson, this sexual response cycle is hot! Are you ready to come closer? Closeness Coaching for sex,...
Part 2 How to say no: Changing your mind and maybes
November 05, 2019 06:47 - 1 hour - 59.8 MBHow many times have you changed your mind? Perhaps you didn’t desire someone at first you later found yourself wanting them? You said you were attracted, you acted like you were attracted and then suddenly something switched. As a general …
Part 1 How to say no: rejection and approaching
November 03, 2019 06:40 - 1 hour - 58.7 MBRejection isn’t easy for anyone because it leaves most people feeling unworthy and hurt. Both men and women are generally terrible at receiving it and even worse at giving it. But rejection is a necessary step towards establishing or maintaining …
How to say no, Part 2: Changing your mind and maybe
October 30, 2019 06:47 - 1 hour - 59 MBHow many times have you changed your mind? Perhaps you didn’t desire someone at first and you later found yourself wanting them. You said you were attracted to them, you acted like you were attracted and then suddenly something switched and you felt differently. Why is that? As a general rule, men love to please women. How then do you reject a man in a way that is healthy for both sexes? Delivery and tone is everything. If feeling safe is a concern, tune in to learn how sugar coating, ignori...
Part 2 How to say no: Changing your mind and maybe
October 30, 2019 06:47 - 1 hour - 59.8 MBHow many times have you changed your mind? Perhaps you didn’t desire someone at first and you later found yourself wanting them. You said you were attracted to them, you acted like you were attracted and then suddenly something …