Authentic Parenting

When Your Needs Are Not Met with Yvette Erasmus, PhD

Yvette Erasmus on what happens when your needs are not fulfilled, the difference between needs and feelings, choicefulness, taking responsibility, stopping playing the victim and much more.  Effective communication is at the heart of strong relationships.  A critical aspect of effective communication is learning how to express our needs. But in order to learn to express first we need to get in touch with our needs.  Communication can come into conflict when needs are unfulfilled. Unmet...

When Your Needs Are Not Met with Yvette Erasmus, PsyD

Yvette Erasmus on what happens when your needs are not fulfilled, the difference between needs and feelings, choicefulness, taking responsibility, stopping playing the victim and much more.  Effective communication is at the heart of strong relationships.  A critical aspect of effective communication is learning how to express our needs. But in order to learn to express first we need to get in touch with our needs.  Communication can come into conflict when needs are unfulfilled. Unmet...

How to Master Your Difficult Feelings with Joan Rosenberg, PhD

Dr. Joan Rosenberg is a cutting-edge psychologist, speaker and trainer. She is a two-time TEDx speaker and the author of 90 Seconds to a LIfe You Love. Most of us are not comfortable with our unpleasant feelings. We tend to avoid, numb out or distract ourselves from feeling their discomfort.  Knowing how to deal with intense, overwhelming and uncomfortable feelings is essential to building confidence, resilience and authenticity. Yet when we disconnect or distract from these feelings we...

Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel

Renowned neuropsychiatrist and author of many influential books Dr. Dan Siegel talks about the importance of showing up in our parenting with presence. He discusses the 4 S’s; safe, seen, soothed and secure and goes in depth into the 2 S’s; feeling safe and feeling soothed. As well as we talk about the importance of parental regulation and he shares some practical strategies of developing the 4 S’s in our children. We also talk about the process of Repair after ruptures in parent+child r...

When Your Children Say They're Transgender with Paria Hassouri

Paria Hassouri, the author of an utterly engaging memoir Found in Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change shares her story of finding acceptance after dealing with loss and grief, anger and fear.  As her 13 year old daughter transitions from male to female, Paria discovers her own capacity to evolve. She eventually comes to realize how the deep-seated insecurities she was carrying as an Iranian immigrant were causing her to parent with fear rather than love. B...

The Year in Review: Confessions, Top 10 Episodes and What's Coming

In the final episode of the year I sat down with Julie Star, an active member of the Authentic Parenting Community to review the year 2020. We talked about what the podcast meant for me, what lessons I've learned, we share the top 10 episodes of the year, my favorite episodes, we talk about our amazing Support Group and what to expect in the new year. As well, we both share our lists 21 for '21.  BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the po...

Top Lessons Learned From 2020

The year 2020 has challenged us and changed us in many ways. In this episode I sat down with one of the members of the Authentic Parenting Community, Julie Star and talked about this historic year.  Here is a list of questions for you to reflect on. Hear our answers in the episode.  1. What is the most important lesson you learned this year? 2. What is the best thing that happened? 3. What challenges did you overcome? 4. What new skills did you learn? 5. What did you do for your ...

Parenting Your Challenging Child with Dr. Ross Greene

How do you feel when you are faced with challenging behaviors such as screaming, crying, kicking, hitting, swearing, biting, spitting...Do you feel angry, helpless, overwhelmed when your child outright doesn’t listen, cooperate and shows defiance? Do you want to know how you can get them to do things without rewards and punishments? Solve problems collaboratively rather than unilaterally and proactively rather than reactively. BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can co...

10 Ways of Feeling Better in the Pandemic with Anna Seewald

This has been a challenging year. Besides the global COVID-19 pandemic many of us have also dealt with other life matters. This year has particauly been a challenging year for me in many ways, with lots of ups and downs, and personal struggles but there are things, practices that I have been doing to keep myself emotionally well balanced, mentally strong, well-resourced, so that I can serve others.  I was interviewed on the MIndful Mama podcast and this episode features that interview.  ...

10 Ways of Coping with the Pandemic

This has been a challenging year. Besides the global COVID-19 pandemic many of us have also dealt with other life matters. This year has particauly been a challenging year for me in many ways, with lots of ups and downs, and personal struggles but there are things, practices that I have been doing to keep myself emotionally well balanced, mentally strong, well-resourced, so that I can serve others.  I was interviewed on the MIndful Mama podcast and this episode features that interview.  ...

{Special Episode} Anxiety Relief Strategies for You and Your Struggling Child

In this edition of our special episode with Laura Froyen we tackle issues related to emotion regulation, stress management, and helping kids with virtual learning. We received countless questions related to anxiety in the parent and the kids. Learn the red flags of stress in yourself and your kids. Increase autonomy and lessen control to diminish defiant behaviors. Examine your expectation for yourself and for you kids. Adjust those expectations as needed. How connection and cooperation are ...

{Coaching} Finding New Solutions to Pandemic Parenting Challenges

On this on-air coaching call I help Hilary, a busy mom of two young kids, to rethink her current routines, bring the same flexibility and mindset that she applied to her business to her home life and parenting, find time to connect with her spouse, and most importantly reestablish her somewhat struggling connection with her 4 year old son. She finds herself lacking in patience, snapping at her kids, difficulty managing her stress, finding time for herself, connecting with her husband and k...

10 Ways to Support Your Child and Teen Through This Pandemic

How to Raise a Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud

How to Raise a Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud, PhD

Building a Happy Family Even if You Didn't Grow Up in One

Larry Hagner, the host and creator of the Dad’s Edge Podcast and a father of four boy talks about how regardless of growing up virtually in a "fatherless environment” for most of his life found his passion for being a dad.  In this episode we primarily focus on improving your communication with your significant other, an area most couples can use some help, and strengthening your marriage.    Also... how to raise money savvy kids, a topic that he is really passionate about especially ...

How to Unlock Your Authentic Self Leaving Behind Your Performing Self with Ritu Bhasin

Are you performing at life or living your authentic life?  Choosing to live authentically is the most important step you can take to thrive in your personal life, your relationships, and your career.  In this episode with Ritu Bhasin we explore what it means to truly embrace who you are. She talks about her transformational framework of the three selves: the authentic self, the adapted self and the performing self. Ritu alos shares her early experiences of bullying, racism, self-loathing...

Real-life Advice on Parenting During a Pandemic

We are continuing the 3  R’s of Pandemic Parenting. I have a compilation episode. I reached out to some of my favorite online people, and asked them to contribute their thoughts and best tips for regulation, routines and relationships. Now more than ever we need to prioritize our children’s mental health and emotional well-being, and not focus on grades, performance, achievement, chores….and “good” behavior.    People who appear in this episode:  Hunter Clarke-Fields Laura Froyen ...

The 3 R's of Pandemic Parenting with Anna Seewald

In this solo episode Anna shares what she calls the 3 R's of pandemic parenting: regulation, routines and relationships. She emphasizes that we need to prioritize our children’s mental health and emotional well-being now more than ever.  Anna talks about:  Her thoughts on the current state of our lives; loss, stress, emotions, uncertainty and how she thinks this might be considered an adverse childhood experience  Her own struggles and her experience of stuckness  The weekly Support C...

Healing Relational Trauma with Dr. Nima

As children we need attuned, caring, consistent, present and safe caregivers for optimal growth and development. Parental presence shapes who we become. When there is consistent disruption of a child's sense of being safe and loved within the family relational trauma occurs.  In this episode we are exploring how to deal with emotional triggers and heal our relational wounds with Dr. Nima.    Other episodes you may enjoy:  152: How Trauma Gets Stuck in Your Nervous System 227: Movi...

{Audiobook} 15 Keys to Effective Communication: Building Strong Parent Child Relationships by Anna Seewald

As parents we want to have loving, meaningful and strong relationships with our children. One way we build and maintain these relationships is communication. Learning to communicate effectively, listening with love and responding with care and respect is the foundation upon which healthy attachment develops. In this easy to follow guide Anna Seewald offers simple, yet practical tools for deepening your connection with your child, learning to be present, listen without judgment, make requ...

Should You Worry About Kids' Screen Time in This Pandemic? with Anya Kamenetz

How can you set limits around screen time without feeling guilty? What to do when your kid has an explosive reaction when screen time is over? How much is too much and what kind of content is ok? Is Tik Tok inherently bad? Will violent video games cause aggression in kids? These and other important questions in this episode with an education correspondent for NPR and the author of The Art of Screen Time: Digital Parenting without Fear Anya Kamenetz.  With social distancing limiting our a...

What to Do When Your Kid Uses Bad Words, Name Calling and Swearing

In this Special Episode Anna is joined by her friend and colleague, co-host Laura Froyen. In it they:  Tell personal stories from their lives Answer your parenting questions Share helpful resources  Here are some of the questions answered in this episode: "How to start setting limits when they haven’t been set/enforced in the past. When things have gotten so out of control, where to start first?" "How to set limits on the unkind words and teasing between the siblings. " "How to ha...

5 Simple Practices for Daily Happiness with Anna Seewald

Today I want to share with you 5 practices that I’ve learned from the podcast that enrich my life, contribute to my daily happiness, and my overall well-being.  These are practical exercises that I have adopted from 5 fantastic guests of the show. Here are the 5 episodes where you can find the full interviews.   Ep 109: Mindful Parenting in a Messy World with Michelle Gale Ep 148: The Upside of Your Dark Side with Todd Kashdan, PhD Ep 203: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Tra...

How to Cultivate Self-Love

What is self-love?  Where do the roots of low or lack of self- love originate? Are there degrees of self- love? Is the opposite of self-love self-hatred? Can you love someone if you don’t love yourself fully? How can you cultivate and practice more self-love?  This is the topic of today’s exploration. I’m joined by Nathalie Ellis.  I’d love to hear from you. 3 things I’m particularly interested in:  What’s your understanding of self-love?  Can you love someone if you don’t love yo...

Overcome Your Negative Childhood Messages That Still Drive Your Life

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5 Shifts in Agility for Thirving in the Time of Disruption

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The Secret to Getting Kids to Listen and Cooperate

What does it mean to have real influence over our kids? What’s the difference between control and influence? The real reason why our kids don’t listen to us and how on earth can we get our children to willingly cooperate without yelling, threats, rewards and punishments? We share 2 real life scenarios from our life and explain how we got our kids to cooperate willingly.  Also, how can we cultivate more self-love by looking at our own unworthiness, shame stories? How do these stories sho...

3 Ways Your Childhood Affects How You Parent

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3 Steps to Effective Limit Setting

In today's episode I'm helping Adriana, a mom of 2 kids, ages 2 and 4 years old with limit setting. I demystify the limit setting process and ask Adriana to get clear on her why behind saying "no". Setting limits doesn’t have to be unpleasant. You don’t have to be harsh or angry.  It’s all about knowing your why, staying calm and present, communicating the limit with compassion and holding that limit knowing that kids will have emotional reactions. You don’t have to feel guilty or even g...

How To Make Good Decisions

Why Kids Resist and What To Do About It

Finding Yourself After a Broken Marriage

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Tips for Managing Anxiety, Stress and Overwhelm During Lockdown

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The Impact of Loneliness

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How To Deal With A Narcissist with Dr. Ramani

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6 Signs a Marriage is Headed for Divorce with Dr. Elizabeth Cohen

Dr. Elizabeth Cohen talks about divorce.  There is still a stigma around divorce. You may be viewed as a failure. You may view yourself as a failure. And divorce can be traumatic. Depending who initiated the process, it can come as a shock to the other party. It’s always emotional. And both men and women feel a sense of loss.  While no two divorces are alike, there are still some common reasons for it.  Can you see it as an opportunity to grow rather than an ending of something?    ...

3 Secrets To Thriving as a Single Dad with Justan Mitchell

Black Single Father on Race and Resilience

Moving Beyond Trauma with Ilene Smith

Ilene Smith talks about moving beyond trauma, discovering true healing, ease and vitality.  Trauma is part of life and we all experience it. Trauma doesn’t just reside inside your mind-much more importantly it locks itself in other parts of your body. Learn how Somatic Experiencing can help you heal the damage done by trauma on your nervous system.    BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a ...

Practicing Conscious Parenting

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Fulfilled

Fulfilled with Anna Yusim, MD

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Helping Kids To Manage Emotions, Ease Anxiety and Stay Focused

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Parenting in Quarantine

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Staying Calm During Coronavirus {Meditation}

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Finding Happiness by Connecting to Your Authentic Self

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How to Play with Your Kids When You Don't Like Playing

Deep dive into play on this SPECIAL episode with Laura Froyen. We answer YOUR questions. Don't enjoy playing with your kids? Feeling guilty? How much should you play anyway? How to say "No, I don't want to play right now" to your kids?  Also:  simplifying the environment  encouraging independent play open ended toys child led play on the value of roughhousing  moms vs dads and what kids get  BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production ...

How To Break Free of the Drama Triangle and Victim Consciousness

Barry Weinhold, Ph.D talks about the Drama Triangle.  The drama triangle is a dynamic model of social interaction. It was developed by Dr. Karpman when he was a student of Eric Berne, M.D. father of transactional analysis. Karpman and other clinicians point out that “victim, rescuer, and persecutor” refer to roles people unconsciously play, or try to manipulate other people to play,  The triangle maps a type of destructive interaction that can occur between people in conflict.  BECOM...

Modern Manners for Moms and Dads

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