Your Real, Your Ideal
155 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 2 months ago - ★★★★★ - 6 ratingsTwo women taking on life’s questions as posed by their listeners. Through their unique journeys in weathering life to date, Amy and Sandy, tackle the probing questions and issues by first recognizing the real in life’s situations to get to the desired ideal. Practical. Honest. Fun. Curious. Helping women create the ideal they want most in our shared journey of life.
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S2 Ep. 3 Silence is Golden
September 23, 2021 12:00 - 30 minutes - 28.6 MBWe are talking about the noise in our lives in this episode. Whether that is business, commotion or actual noise, these things take away an opportunity to think. How can you create the space needed to process your thoughts? We share how we do it and what the benefits have been. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtu...
Silence is Golden
September 23, 2021 12:00 - 30 minutes - 28.6 MBWe are talking about the noise in our lives in this episode. Whether that is business, commotion or actual noise, these things take away an opportunity to think. How can you create the space needed to process your thoughts? We share how we do it and what the benefits have been. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtu...
S2 Ep. 2 - What We Crop Out
September 16, 2021 14:00 - 33 minutes - 31.1 MBOur favorite discussion to date. We all use filters and crop our photos to bring into focus what we think is important. What do you crop out of your photos? Is it really the important stuff? Whether in photos or in life, many times we are focusing on the wrong thing. Sometimes what is happening in the background of our lives can be more important than what we originally thought. We have several challenges this week, all asking you to notice the background and keep it as part of your story. ...
What We Crop Out
September 16, 2021 14:00 - 33 minutes - 31.1 MBOur favorite discussion to date. We all use filters and crop our photos to bring into focus what we think is important. What do you crop out of your photos? Is it really the important stuff? Whether in photos or in life, many times we are focusing on the wrong thing. Sometimes what is happening in the background of our lives can be more important than what we originally thought. We have several challenges this week, all asking you to notice the background and keep it as part of your story. ...
S2 Ep. 1 - Passion or Sweet Spot?
September 09, 2021 13:00 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MBLiving your passion is a conquest everyone seems to want, but is seemingly unattainable or unrealistic. The common result is not taking any steps forward. We discuss the upsides and downsides to following your passion and also explore the Inverted U Concept. There is an attainable sweet spot somewhere in the middle. Taping Outline: Taping twice. Have video and pics! What’s your passion? What inspires you? Looking for the ideal state. 4:33 - Sandy talks about how she has better defined he...
Passion or Sweet Spot?
September 09, 2021 13:00 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MBLiving your passion is a conquest everyone seems to want, but is seemingly unattainable or unrealistic. The common result is not taking any steps forward. We discuss the upsides and downsides to following your passion and also explore the Inverted U Concept. There is an attainable sweet spot somewhere in the middle. Taping Outline: Taping twice. Have video and pics! What’s your passion? What inspires you? Looking for the ideal state. 4:33 - Sandy talks about how she has better defined he...
S2 Trailer - Winds of Change
August 08, 2021 17:44 - 6 minutes - 6.09 MBThey're back and working on season 2. Hear what Sandy and Amy have been up to and what they're planning for this fall. The winds of change are blowing. If you're experiencing change, they want to hear your story. You can send a note through the links below. Thank you for joining the conversation. Email your story, suggested conversation topics or questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com...
Winds of Change
August 08, 2021 17:44 - 6 minutes - 6.09 MBThey're back and working on season 2. Hear what Sandy and Amy have been up to and what they're planning for this fall. The winds of change are blowing. If you're experiencing change, they want to hear your story. You can send a note through the links below. Thank you for joining the conversation. Email your story, suggested conversation topics or questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com...
Ep. 42 Seniors 2021 Milestones Modified
May 13, 2021 12:17 - 32 minutes - 30 MBThe seniors of 2020 got all of their activities cancelled but the seniors of 2021 are getting it all back, albeit a bit modified. Amy has 2 seniors - one in college and one in high school who are experiencing their senior year during the pandemic. Sandy has lots of questions about how it’s going and how everything is getting modified. We want to thank all of our devoted listeners, you all are great!! We've enjoyed hearing from you! We have decided to take a little break. This is the l...
Ep. 41 Pack It In
May 06, 2021 12:40 - 36 minutes - 33.9 MBDo you overpack or travel lite? Sandy likes to travel lite and Amy is an over packer. One time Amy got challenged to write an article about how to pack lite for a trip. She decided to do it as an actual experiment and documented her packing and traveling for a week with only a carry on. She learned a little about herself and what is really needed to enjoy a vacation. Sandy on the other hand has done a trip with just a string backpack. What was she trying to prove?? Enjoy our conversati...
Ep. 40 Acts of Kindness
April 29, 2021 12:00 - 38 minutes - 35.6 MBRandom acts of kindness not only feel good for the receiver, but also the giver. Sandy and Amy set out for a fun week of doing acts of kindness, asking about acts of kindness during this pandemic and getting some video. It didn’t all turn out as planned, but as always, we had a lot to share. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourreal...
Ep. 39 Surprise
April 22, 2021 12:54 - 36 minutes - 34.2 MBMost episodes Sandy and Amy are in different states but last episode, Sandy surprised Amy with an in person visit. It was so fun, it got us thinking, who likes surprises? We polled friends and family and found out not many people like surprises. But there is an interesting twist to this little tidbit. Enjoy our conversation. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Faceboo...
Ep. 38 Villains and Victims
April 15, 2021 13:19 - 43 minutes - 40.5 MBThe easy route when dealt with conflict is to play victim. Women are especially good at this. It feels good and most people sympathize with the victim. Win-win. But there are no victims without villains. All drama is constructed of the villain and victim mentality. Are real life stories really those of villains and victims or is the truth somewhere in the middle? Is a true friend one who doesn’t automatically sympathize and help build the villain, but one who shows compassion and helps learn...
Ep. 37 Love Languages
April 08, 2021 14:51 - 33 minutes - 30.8 MBIf you feel any kind of disconnect with a child, spouse or friend, it could be because you’re speaking different love languages. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman outlines the different languages we speak, why we need to speak others love language and how to do it. It’s a very interesting concept to explore in your relationships. Show Links: Oprah and Chapman conversation: https://omny.fm/shows/oprah-s-supersoul-conversations/oprah-and-dr-gary-chapman-the-five-love-languages Dete...
Ep. 36 Conflict - Avoid or Embrace?
April 01, 2021 12:00 - 32 minutes - 30.1 MBConflict can be so uncomfortable, especially when working with a team. It feels much better when everyone is in agreement. Is it possible to shift our thinking about conflict and consider it more of a gift. The people who share different perspectives can help you see your blind spots. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyouri...
Ep.35 Get ‘er Done
March 25, 2021 12:14 - 33 minutes - 30.8 MBGet ‘er done is a tongue-in-cheek quote (most often associated with Nebraskan, Larry the Cable Guy) but this action carries a lot of significance. Starting something is great, but finishing is the grand prize. Many of us (including Amy and Sandy) struggle with kicking the can over the line. Not only is it important to finish what we start, but to pick the right things to start and finish. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Inst...
Ep.34 Untamed Book Discussion
March 18, 2021 12:00 - 33 minutes - 30.7 MBWe all know our authentic self but have we adjusted to match societal expectations...are we caged? Sandy and Amy recently read the book Untamed by Glennon Doyle. She’s a great story teller that explores stepping out of our cages and honoring the knowing. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube...
Ep. 33 Where are You From?
March 11, 2021 20:34 - 34 minutes - 31.8 MBAs we celebrate St. Patty’s Day, enjoying our Irish heritage (or pretending we have Irish lineage), we are reminded that we are all from somewhere. From family who immigrated from another country generations ago to our childhood beloved hometown, we hold dearly our roots. Amy and Sandy discuss the human connection to our heritage and need to belong to something deeper than ourselves. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram...
Ep. 32 Take Me Away
March 04, 2021 13:07 - 32 minutes - 30.3 MBWe are on the road again! After months of dreaming for our days of travel to be back. Amy and Sandy are finally enjoying some much wanted travel. But as with all things in life, especially a life riddled with COVID, our journeys have changed. Although we are giddy to pack our luggage again, we are also finding travel feels a lot different, some good and some bad. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instag...
Ep. 31 Truth Hurts
February 25, 2021 17:04 - 32 minutes - 29.9 MBHonesty is a coveted virtue. One we place highly as a building block to integrity and character. But what about when the truth hurts? What if a white lie is told to avoid pain or ugliness of a situation? Is truth always the golden rule? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2o...
Ep. 30 Needs vs. Wants
February 18, 2021 13:00 - 32 minutes - 30.2 MBReviewing our financial years for 2020 vs 2021, most of us see stark differences in where we spent our money. Looking at fluctuations in income during COVID year as well, the financial comparison has been a good reflection; not only on core needs vs. wants but also the ROI (return on investment) in how we spend our money in relation to how we spend our time. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.c...
Ep. 29 Taming Your Advice Monster
February 11, 2021 13:00 - 33 minutes - 31.2 MBWant to help someone head in the “right” direction? Well, we are sure you have some advice on share. You might even use some advice our listeners shared on Episode 17 of our podcast. We share advice because we want to help, but is there a little more to it? We discuss how to tame that desire to “help” and how to switch the conversations to curiosity not solutions. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.i...
Ep. 28 Chasing the Bright Side
February 04, 2021 13:25 - 31 minutes - 29.4 MBOh, to be optimistic. Amy joined Sandy’s book club in reading Chasing the Bright Side by Jess Ekstrom and on this podcast we have a mini book discussion. What resonated with us is the concept of hope for the future which was highlighted in her stories of resilience and perseverance. Email your book recommendations, suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook....
Ep. 27 When Life isn’t Beautiful
January 28, 2021 14:19 - 35 minutes - 32.8 MB“To heal we have to remember” - President Joe Biden regarding the loss of lives due to the pandemic. It’s been a rough year for some of us. How do we move forward when life isn’t always beautiful. We’ve all had those events that have left their mark. Amy and Sandy share a few and how they moved forward. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.faceboo...
Ep. 26 Judgy Judy
January 21, 2021 13:10 - 37 minutes - 35.1 MBWhat is the difference between an opinion and a judgement? Although being judged feels harsh, too often we ourselves rush to judgement before taking the time to form honest opinions. Sandy and Amy dig into this topic. When do you share an opinion? Just because you have it, doesn’t mean others want to hear it. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.fac...
Ep. 25 Perfecting the Pivot
January 14, 2021 12:00 - 38 minutes - 35.7 MBI was reading an article about how successful businesses perfected their pivot to survive the COVID shutdown and changes forced from the pandemic. I got to thinking how this applied to individuals as well. How do you react when change happens? Do you successfully pivot or cower from the obstacle? Let’s discuss how to perfect the pivot. PS- Amy mentions this is episode 24, but she was off. It’s really 25!! Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected]...
Ep. 24 You Win Some. You Lose Some.
January 07, 2021 15:16 - 36 minutes - 33.7 MBAmy and Sandy will reflect on their wins and losses for the year. What worked and what didn’t? From parenting and work to relationships and goals, it is an episode on the reflection of the good, the bad, and even a little bit of ugly. Things may always look rosy from the outside view, but the failures are real and necessary for future wins. Related quotes: “Mistakes are portals of discovery” - James Joyce “Good judgement comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgement” - Ri...
Ep. 23 Goals and Habits into the New Year
December 31, 2020 16:18 - 55 minutes - 51.7 MBCome January 1st self improvement is on everyone’s mind, including Sandy and Amy’s. What can we do different this year to be better? Research shows that of the 50% of adults that make resolutions only 10% will keep them more than a few months. Yep, we’ve been there. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https:/...
Ep. 22 How to say Goodbye
December 24, 2020 15:00 - 1 hour - 55.7 MBChange is hard. Leaving relationships along with the security and the investment that went into them is even harder. We hold on to what brings us comfort. And then there's death and mortality, the ultimate fear for most. So much in this conversation! Some tips we discussed: 1. Don't rush your goodbyes; it's a continual process so start early. 2. Keep objects as a memory prompt. 3. Pinpoint exactly what you will miss. 4. Don't forget to say goodbye to places and things. Email your suggeste...
Ep. 21 Thanks for the Feedback
December 17, 2020 13:21 - 1 hour - 58.5 MBUgh, feedback. It can be well received or ruin your day. If you fine tune the way you give and receive feedback, it can help you in life long self awareness and improvement. Sandy and Amy are doing a book discussion about “Thanks for the Feedback” by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Y...
Ep. 20 Location, Location, Location
December 11, 2020 14:14 - 1 hour - 57.5 MBWhere would you live if you could live anywhere? Where we plant ourselves can be different in each phase of our lives. There are many things that brings us to where we are currently living. Maybe we’ve always lived in the area, or maybe a job brought us here. These days, with more and more online work, many of us could be living anywhere. What makes your city your home? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https:...
Ep. 19 Is Gratitude an Attitude (or a must for 2020)?
December 03, 2020 14:04 - 56 minutes - 52 MBHave you heard that 2020 has been a rough year? We’re hearing a lot of people just wanting 2020 to go away. We’re taking a different approach by looking at 2020 through the lens of gratitude. This little shift in perspective can help all of us appreciate the good that also happened in 2020. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourreal...
Ep. 18 Who’s the Boss?
November 27, 2020 13:48 - 56 minutes - 52.4 MBIf we lead and are self-assured women, does this make us bossy? Being told we are confident and in charge feels good. Being told we are bossy and controlling feels judgy. What is the fine line between the two and how do we best present ourselves to come across in the most effective way? In this episode we talk about #BanBossy. You can get more info as a teacher, parent or manager at https://banbossy.com/ Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected]...
Ep. 17 You Can't Alway Get What You Want (and other good advice)
November 19, 2020 13:01 - 57 minutes - 53.3 MBWe were looking for a little advice to talk about so we asked our listeners to share their best advice. We got so many submissions! We picked a few and took a deep dive in this podcast. We had fun reading the advice and sharing why it resonated with us. If you want to read all the advice we got, you can find it HERE. Enjoy! Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Faceboo...
Ep. 16 Stop Apologizing!
November 12, 2020 14:19 - 55 minutes - 51.5 MBWe find women in my life apologize A LOT! And for things they don’t need to apologize for. They overthink situations and then go back with regret on what they say or felt. Why do women have the knee-jerk reaction of apologizing for how they feel? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/chan...
Ep. 15 What About the Dreamers?
November 05, 2020 14:20 - 56 minutes - 52.4 MBWe talk about the real in all of our discussions. But what about hopes and dreams? What about the dreamers? Should we always be realistic in our thoughts or do we need space in our brain to dream for what may seem unrealistic? Amy and Sandy explore how to encourage and support the dreams of others plus when (and if) you need to step in with some reality. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/...
Ep. 14 My Ordinary Life
October 29, 2020 16:39 - 1 hour - 56.6 MBWhat are you doing tonight...same thing as last night? If you have tried to simplify your life in the past, this moment in time with the pandemic could feel boring. We can embrace the ordinary knowing that this time will pass, but what do we do with all this free time?? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube http...
Ep. 13 Just Do It!
October 22, 2020 14:39 - 57 minutes - 53 MBWe’ve all heard “Anyone can be an activist”. There is a moment in your life when you have all of a sudden feel like you have the time to do small things to help a cause. Then, you might notice yourself doing bigger things. What’s the cause you’re willing to give your time too? It’s never too late to “Just do it” Please rate and review us!! We love hearing from our listeners! Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: ...
Ep. 12 Let’s Talk Money!
October 15, 2020 12:54 - 57 minutes - 53.2 MBMoney can be a blessing and a curse. The more we make, the more we spend. Our monthly financial obligations can turn into a ‘handcuff’ against making desired life decisions. “I can’t change careers because I can’t make what I make today.” “I don’t have enough spare money to cover cost of the course I SOOOOO want to take.” Starting with a zero budget and analyzing every cost as needed, wanted, necessary (or plan to reduce in future) is a great exercise and digging deep in what really matters....
Ep. 11 “That’s for Old People” - Aging with Dignity
October 09, 2020 17:14 - 1 hour - 58.5 MBAging is tough. We are all doing it, but in different stages. The last phase is the notably the hardest, given our mortality stares us in the face and our vessel of a body can not do the things it could do at a younger age. The key is in handling hard life choices and the aging process with human dignity and leading with this driving principle. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyou...
Ep. 10 Talk Less. Smile More.
October 01, 2020 21:35 - 59 minutes - 55.3 MBIt is so easy to jump to judgment and offer your two cents, state your point, before anyone else. We all want to be heard, especially when we feel passionate about something. The problem is we miss the input of others when we talk over them. Collaboration is a great thing and true collaboration involves active listen and understanding others points of view. This applies both at work and in personal relationships. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@gm...
Ep. 9 Let’s be REAL
September 24, 2020 16:12 - 1 hour - 117 MBLet’s turn things a little upside down. Instead of doing magical thinking, let’s be realistic. Let’s fill our lives with the essential, not everything. Let’s be authentic and not just follow the crowd. And lastly, are we creating a life that’s livable. Are we thriving or just surviving? The episode we talk about all these aspects of being REAL in your day to day living including the obstacles and the rewards. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to YourRealYourIdeal@...
Ep. 8: I Don’t Work with Assholes
September 18, 2020 13:26 - 1 hour - 111 MBToo often we equate being successful at work or growing our client base to requiring whatever it takes to move up to the next level. But good work relationships do matter. No one gets a pass for being an asshole. Not every relationship is a good fit, but being an asshole is a non-negotiable. Life is too short to work with assholes. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Leave a voice mail for us here: https://anchor.fm/yourrealyourideal/messa...
Ep. 7 She’s So Vain
September 10, 2020 14:28 - 52 minutes - 97.1 MBIt is a common theory that to be your best person is to be humble, definitely not vain. And is a level of vanity bad? Looking and feeling our best brings out our best in our words, actions and outlook. How do we distinguish between self-care and vanity? Amy and Sandy dig into this topic and share their "vain" moments. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] or by voice mail here: https://anchor.fm/yourrealyourideal/message Follow us: Instagr...
E7 - She’s So Vain
September 10, 2020 14:28 - 52 minutes - 97.1 MBIt is a common theory that to be your best person is to be humble, definitely not vain. And is a level of vanity bad? Looking and feeling our best brings out our best in our words, actions and outlook. How do we distinguish between self-care and vanity? Amy and Sandy dig into this topic and share their "vain" moments.
Ep. 6 Own Your Shit!
September 03, 2020 18:00 - 55 minutes - 102 MBTaking responsibility for your mistakes can be hard. No one is perfect, you can tell when people are not stepping up, there is an appreciation for people who do take responsibility, comfort in knowing mistakes are ok. We are at our best when we can create a safe space for ourselves and others to come clean. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.faceb...
Ep. 6: Own Your Shit!
September 03, 2020 18:00 - 55 minutes - 102 MBTaking responsibility for your mistakes can be hard. No one is perfect, you can tell when people are not stepping up, there is an appreciation for people who do take responsibility, comfort in knowing mistakes are ok. We are at our best when we can create a safe space for ourselves and others to come clean.
Ep. 5 What's Your Happiness Factor?
September 01, 2020 01:31 - 1 hour - 71.7 MBHow happy are you? Ask yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, how consistently happy are you at this stage in your life? There is so much talk on the quest to find happiness and joy in life. We will discuss the real behind the happiness factor and what affects this and the formula (yes, there is one!) behind achieving your ideal highest and most consistent state of happiness. Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://ww...
Episode 5: What's Your Happiness Factor?
September 01, 2020 01:31 - 1 hour - 71.7 MBHow happy are you? Ask yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, how consistently happy are you at this stage in your life? There is so much talk on the quest to find happiness and joy in life. We will discuss the real behind the happiness factor and what affects this and the formula (yes, there is one!) behind achieving your ideal highest and most consistent state of happiness.
Ep. 4 Should I Say or Should I No?
September 01, 2020 01:27 - 49 minutes - 45.6 MBHow do we create positive change in the face of all racial and political oppression of today? When is it courage to speak up or wisdom to way nothing? How do we navigate through oppression to enable positive steps forward? Email your suggested conversation topics and questions to [email protected] Follow us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourrealyourideal/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yourrealyourideal Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCAe2oZ53_s_WFyL0_7k...