Marriage Is Tougher Than Woodpecker Lips
162 episodes - English - Latest episode: 8 days ago - ★★★★★ - 8 ratingsWe want to create a community where men can share and learn from each other about marriage. We all know we can be better but how do we do that? Our thought on the matter is this: By sharing our experiences and asking questions we can create discussions to find the answers we need. Listen in while we interview men from around the world. Anywhere from engaged all the way to widowed, we can explore everything marriage has to offer. We can't wait to hear from you!
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Episodes
To Mayor Or Not To Mayor?
May 25, 2022 01:00 - 20 minutes - 14.4 MBThis week on the pod we talk about when it is and isn't appropriate to be the mayor of the town. Most of us men know that our wives can crave our attention. Is it worth taking that away from them just show that you know people? We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas Don't forget to rate, review and subscri...
Complimenting/ Praising Your Wife
May 17, 2022 09:00 - 27 minutes - 19.1 MBIn this week's episode we talk about what we can do to compliment our wives. We cover whether or not it becomes insincere. We landed in a good area with some great realizations so have a listen and don't forget to rate and review the show. We appreciate you and hope you're getting what you need from the show. We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be...
Spite? I Thought You Love Her...
May 10, 2022 09:00 - 26 minutes - 18.5 MBThis week on the pod we talk about taking spiteful actions in your marriage. Some food for thought: Considering the definition of spite, What's one thing that triggers a spiteful action in you? What are you willing to do to change? We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas Don't forget to rate, review and sub...
Can Being Direct Go Wrong?
May 03, 2022 09:00 - 26 minutes - 18 MBThis week we talk about being direct in our conversations with our wives. When different communication styles butt heads what do you do? We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe!!! This goes a long way to help us get our message out to more men ready to be better hu...
Meeting Our Emotional Needs
April 26, 2022 09:00 - 28 minutes - 19.3 MBThis week we talk about who's responsibility is it to meet our emotional needs? Also, is it our job to make sure our wive's emotional needs are met? We get into being aware of your emotions and how that can play out. We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe!!! This ...
Most Valuable Skill? (Getting Or Keeping Your Woman)
April 19, 2022 09:00 - 26 minutes - 18.2 MBThis week is a fun little episode. We talk some hypotheticals but mostly just want to know... What makes you the real MVP? Maybe the Most Valuable Husband for that matter. We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe!!! This goes a long way to help us get our message o...
What's Your Place Of Recovery?
April 12, 2022 09:00 - 33 minutes - 23.4 MBThis week on the pod we talk about making rest a priority. We all know we need it! I couldn't imagine if I weren't able to get just a little down time from all of my responsibilities. This down time can come in many different forms. Something we need to keep in mind while we search for this time for ourselves is to make sure our wives are also getting their fair share of rest and rejuvenation. If you can think back to a space when she simply didn't have the energy for you then maybe take an...
How Many Mistakes Do We Get?
April 05, 2022 09:00 - 26 minutes - 18.1 MBThis week we chose to talk about how we learn from our mistakes. We get grace from our wives. Then we make more mistakes! Many times the same mistakes. Why do we do that and how can we stop? Listen for our take on the situation and feel free to add to the conversation over on Instagram or Facebook. We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be a guest ...
Bonus* Protecting Family w/ Nate Williams aka Concise The Barber (The Will Smith Slap)
April 02, 2022 21:00 - 1 hour - 46.3 MBHere is a bonus episode that discusses the events at the Oscars in 2022. If you have a pulse, that's probably all I need to say for you to know where this conversation is headed. So, without further ado. We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe!!! This goes a long w...
Kaizen Marriage
March 29, 2022 09:00 - 25 minutes - 17.2 MBThis week's episode heavily focuses on the improvement of your marriage. We talk about the term Kaizen, which is a business term, but the principles can technically be applied to anything you'd like to improve. Have a listen and be ready to get to work!! We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher www.instagram.com/marriageistougher/ Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas Don't forget...
Confronting Yourself
March 22, 2022 09:00 - 27 minutes - 18.7 MBThe one year mark is finally here! Thank you to all of our listeners. We truly hope you are receiving value and entertainment from this podcast. If you've listened to the first episodes you will know that we have come a long way in making this podcast the best it can be. We know we still have room to grow and we are striving to make it even better. This week we focus on taking a long hard look at ourselves in the mirror to not only confront ourselves but also to take action on those things ...
Fight or Flight
March 15, 2022 09:00 - 40 minutes - 28 MBWeek 51 babaayyy! I'm so excited to think that we are just one week away from completing a year. We have made a conscious decision to work on our marriages for a solid...whoa whoa whoa I'm a week ahead of myself. Either way, thank you to all who have been listening this long and also thank you to any new comers. This week we dive into how we might go into fight or flight mode in our marital confrontations. I think acknowledging this as an issue has opened up my eyes to some solutions that ar...
Power Tools No Instructions
March 08, 2022 10:00 - 34 minutes - 23.9 MBOUR 50TH EPISODE!!!! We are so grateful to all of you who have been listening. We are more than a year in the making and quickly approaching a year worth of episodes published. This week we talk about how we as men think that we can just pick something up that we've seen someone else use and think that we can do the same. Some of us think that because we've seen relationships happen that we must be able to do it too. However, we don't always see the work that goes into making a relationsh...
Empowered Questions For Empowered Solutions
March 01, 2022 10:00 - 30 minutes - 21.1 MBThis week we talk about bringing empowered questions to your marriage. We know life is hard. Having the life you want and seeing others with the things you want are both tough scenarios. So, choose your hard scenario. Be willing to put some effort into changing your mindset. You will find that it will work wonders in all aspects of your life. Whether that be in your marriage, professionally or in some other arena. When you start to realize that you can have most things as long as you are w...
How To End An Argument
February 22, 2022 10:00 - 30 minutes - 21.2 MBDo you ever choose to end an argument or do you just hope that time will pass and issues will resolve themselves? I think some of us live this life without even realizing it. In this week's episode we gain some tools in order to deal with what we may be feeling in the moment. We come to the realization that our wives are learning to adjust to our new reality of growth. We learn there will need to be continued efforts in that growth in order to prove that this is not temporary. There is mo...
Purpose In Marriage
February 15, 2022 10:00 - 33 minutes - 23.1 MBThis week we talk about finding purpose not only for yourself but in and for your marriage. These days it is all too easy to hop into a marriage without a thought of what your marriage has the potential to bring to the world. You might even be thinking at this moment that is an absurdly audacious statement to make. If that is indeed the case I would challenge you to listen to the conversation we have. You might change your mind or simply gain some perspective. Well, at least I hope you will...
Husbands, Own Your Outcome
February 08, 2022 09:00 - 30 minutes - 20.7 MBToday's episode I hope will leave you inspired. We talk about taking more control over your life, your actions and your mindset. We think that this will ultimately help to propel you towards your true potential not only as a man but as a husband. Do you know what happens when you hit your stride? What is really possible when your husbandry potential is reached? We plan to expose all the tools to help you find out! We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com ...
Mandatory Date Night w/ Guest Damon Sumner
February 01, 2022 09:00 - 49 minutes - 34 MBBrothers, I don't know what to tell you. We are all here for a reason. That reason may be different for each of us, but one thing will ring true for all. We NEED to make date night a priority. Yeah, that's right I said NEED and PRIORITY. Stop making excuses and get down to the business of connection. In this episode you will hear lots of information on how you can accomplish this no matter what stage of your marriage you are in from our guest Damon Sumner. Damon is a fellow husband, fathe...
The Three Rings Of Marriage
January 24, 2022 09:00 - 25 minutes - 17.9 MBIn case you didn't know there are actually 3 rings in any marriage. Two of them are infamous and maybe even the most spoken about. Then there is the third. This bad mamma jamma needs to be spoken about so we can avoid it. Listen in while we talk in detail about this third ring. We speak from our experiences and have some revelations on issues we contribute to which can be fixed. Thank You to all of you who have been listening and those of you who are new. Check below for all the ways you c...
Put Your Mask On First
January 18, 2022 09:00 - 36 minutes - 24.9 MBThis week landed on a topic of great importance! Put your mask on first is something that we typically hear on a flight before take-off. But, what if as husbands we took the same frame of thought before hopping into a marriage. What if, while we are already in a marriage we chose to make ourselves better and healthier so we could be the best versions of ourselves for our families? I choose to believe that we have the ability to accomplish these kinds of goals. This is what this community i...
Influences To Your Marriage
January 11, 2022 09:00 - 41 minutes - 28.5 MBIn this week's episode we talk about how our marriages are influenced. What things or people have we let in? What things or people do we want to let in? How can we have conversations with other men or couples about hard topics? Importance of filtering the information we receive. Paying attention to your surroundings which can impact your marriage. We touch on all this and more... Thank You to all of you who have been listening and those of you who are new. Check below for all the way...
BONUS - S.M.A.R.T. - E.R. Marriage Goals
January 08, 2022 21:00 - 15 minutes - 10.7 MBThis is episode is just a quick hitter bonus for our audience. Paul goes it alone but still brings you massive value. You will hear him talk about setting goals within your marriage. He makes some key points on how to do this in a way many sales people might be familiar with. There is however a little twist which I think we can all learn from. Listen in and learn about S.M.A.R.T. - E.R. Goals More specifically how to use the method while setting goals in your marriage. We hope you enjoy!...
What's Your Number?
January 04, 2022 09:00 - 41 minutes - 28.6 MBWellllll... We started to have a conversation about respecting differences in a relationship. Then in true Bryan style, the talk got flipped, turned upside down (in my Will Smith voice). We started to talk about how much money do you need to make. How can you be self aware enough to know what you need and what you want. There is a path to figuring out what you want to accomplish in life. There is also a path to determining exactly what that will cost and how to earn the necessary means to...
Romance
December 28, 2021 09:00 - 32 minutes - 22.1 MBWelcome back and Happy Holidays! This week on the pod we are talking "ROMANCE". We felt that this is probably a topic that most of us need to work on. So, why not talk it out on an episode to get our thoughts, tips, and perspective on the subject out to the world. More importantly though, get our actions on the subject rolling so our wives can be the benefactors. Some Ideas: Writing letters, flowers, reading together, other joint activities, date night What you may notice is not every id...
Being On The Same Page
December 21, 2021 09:00 - 31 minutes - 21.6 MBThis week we have a great conversation about being on the same page in your marriage. We talk about the benefits of communicating through everything You can't assume what the other person is thinking How does being on the same page pay off? We mention how it eliminates disappointment for unspoken expectations Less friction day to day We tell our stories of how we are personally working on getting on the same page in our marriages We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marr...
What Do We Truly Need In Marriage?
December 14, 2021 09:00 - 41 minutes - 28.4 MBIn this week's episode we discuss needs. More specifically, what is it that we need from our wives and from our marriage? What is it that we need outside of our marriage? I think the answer we come to may surprise you. There is a possibility that we are convincing ourselves of needing some things that we definitely don't. What process could we use to determine what is a true need and how do we differentiate that from a mere want? What kind of conversations do we need to have with our wive...
Happy Wife Happy Life w/ "Concise The Barber" aka Nate Williams
December 07, 2021 09:00 - 46 minutes - 31.6 MBHopefully you stayed plugged in and ready to hear this next episode. Once again we have a conversation with Nate Williams aka Concise The Barber. IG: concisethebarber https://www.instagram.com/concisethebarber/ YouTube: ConcisetheBarber https://www.youtube.com/c/ConcisetheBarber We bring back the topic of Happy Wife Happy Life. Nate brings his unique style to the conversation, and I promise, he does not disappoint. Paul finds where this tragedy of a saying actually comes fro...
Working Alongside Your Wife w/ "Concise The Barber" aka Nate Williams
November 30, 2021 09:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBOooooo Weeeee! You're going to be happy you downloaded today's episode. We sit down with YouTube creator and Barber, "Concise The Barber" for a chat on how he makes his marriage work while being right alongside his wife. IG: concisethebarber https://www.instagram.com/concisethebarber/ YouTube: ConcisetheBarber https://www.youtube.com/c/ConcisetheBarber He drops some CRAZY valuable information! I know I learned a ton and I'm sure you will as well. Work life balance Sharing ...
Communicating The Hard Things
November 23, 2021 09:00 - 33 minutes - 23 MBThis week's episode dives into why as men do we struggle so much with having those hard conversations with our wives. There are so many tough things that we deal with day in and day out. Tough things that we handle well without even flinching. Then there is our wives, sitting there just waiting for us to have the tough convos so we can just move on. But, so many of us get stuck in our own heads coming up with all kinds of scenarios and outcomes. Let's be honest with ourselves! Most of the...
Before You Say, I Do (Knowledge, Preparation...)
November 16, 2021 09:00 - 1 hour - 49.7 MBWe've got a special episode this week. Paul invites his son Isaiah on the pod to discuss his plans for marriage. This is one bright young man! Isaiah sits with us and takes a deep dive into his relationship and his plans for their future. This wouldn't be a MITTWL interview if we didn't ask him our core questions. BUT, Isaiah gets to turn the tables and ask us some questions as well! We're excited to introduce to you this stellar example of a future husband! We hope you enjoy! Please ...
Does Your Current Circumstance Define You?
November 09, 2021 09:00 - 29 minutes - 20.6 MBWelcome back to the Pod! Today's episode is a discussion about whether or not we are able to change ourselves. Are we able to decide that we would like something better for our marriage and then make it happen? I tend to believe the same knowledge that Gary Vee spits, "If you see someone who looks like you who has what you want then you don't have an excuse"! This does mean you will have to put in the work. You will have to make a decision and act on it. Where do you start? In my mind t...
Pandemic Survival Part 2
November 02, 2021 09:00 - 45 minutes - 31 MBWelcome back to this deep diving episode where our friend John tells us a lot more about the way he dealt with the ordeal of the pandemic. We want to thank John for being as open and raw with all of the details of his experience. We would also like to thank his wife Heather for being the "Real MVP" while helping our close friend and her husband through this tough time. I'm sure you've had plenty of struggles of your own during these times which is a testament to your strength! Thanks again...
Pandemic Survival Part 1
November 02, 2021 08:00 - 55 minutes - 37.9 MBGet ready because this is a two parter for your listening and learning pleasure. We talk to John Kochanski today about his experience with job loss due to the pandemic. We discuss the impact this had on his marriage and mental health. Many people through this Covid 19 pandemic have gone through something similar. We thought it a good idea to have someone come on and share their perspective and experience. What things worked and what things did not. We hope you enjoy! Please reach out t...
Are Female Friends Ok?
October 26, 2021 08:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBWelcome back fans and welcome first time listeners! Today we talk about wether or not co-ed friends are ok for a marriage. Can you even imagine your wife telling you to go spend time alone with another woman that you weren't related to? Now, we know this is sometimes unavoidable at places like work etc. We wanted to know what are the parameters if any for this type of relationship. When I say, "if any" I mean would it even be allowed. Have a listen for some good advice to live by which j...
Sorry / Not Sorry
October 19, 2021 08:00 - 38 minutes - 26.2 MBToday we discuss the word sorry. It seems like such a simple little word. We all know that it sometimes has magical power and yet we use it so infrequently. What's the reason for that? How can we get over our hang ups on the word? Does apologizing give our wives all the power? Can we learn to apologize and move on with our lives? If there's one thing I've learned from this episode it's... We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com Let us know if you would li...
That's it...DIVORCE!!
October 12, 2021 08:00 - 53 minutes - 36.7 MBOn today's episode we talk to Carlos about his marriage experience. He tells us all about how it started and how it ended. We push him a little on where he thinks he could have made some changes . Divorce is a tough topic especially when children are involved. If you find yourself in a similar situation you may find some wise words in this episode. We hope you enjoy! Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share to...
Does Marriage Need Love?
October 05, 2021 08:00 - 38 minutes - 26.7 MBIn today's episode we review an article which states knowledge is more important that love in order to make your marriage work. We are curious for your thoughts on the topic... Self reflection time: Does your marriage exude love? Could you exist in a loveless marriage? Do your children have an impact on whether you stay married? How do you define love? Is knowledge more powerful than love in the success of your marriage? Let us know your thoughts! Visit us on Facebook and click the "send...
Finances And Marriage
September 28, 2021 08:00 - 48 minutes - 33.3 MBOn this week's episode we talk about getting your finances in check. We talk about doing this as a team with your spouse and having a plan to do so. We talk about ways we have messed up and we talk about wins. When we first started this conversation we weren't sure where it was going to end up. I have to honest though. I'm so glad we had this conversation because it got real. It will show you that it is ok to mess up. Couples fall down and they get back up, and the key is to commit to pick...
Best Friends Or Nah?
September 22, 2021 02:00 - 39 minutes - 27 MBToday our friend Harlan Tabron brings a great topic for us to discuss. That is "whether or not your wife is your best friend"? I can already see some of the reactions that may happen out there. You who have been listening for a while now know we intend to keep this podcast 100% authentic. You can agree or you can disagree. The fact of the matter is we all have our own experiences that we bring to the table. By sharing our experiences we get to learn from each other. My hope is that we a...
Perseverance In Marriage
September 14, 2021 08:00 - 52 minutes - 36.4 MBWe have a monster of an episode in store for you today. We invited our friend Justin Bradshaw to be a guest and he more than delivered for the audience. I'm not going to do the typical show notes here, but know this! If you are struggling in your marriage and you want it to work. Listen to this episode! You may think that the end of the road is staring yo down. You should listen to this episode! You may think all love is lost. You may be trying to overcome sickness. You may think God has ...
Holiness Or Happiness, Which Did God Intend?
August 31, 2021 08:00 - 52 minutes - 36.4 MBOk, we know...The audio on the last episode was terrible. It wasn't just terrible, it was down right awful. I hope you will give us some grace as we weren't sure what was causing the issue. Insert audio engineer friend here with a simple fix. Thank you to our masked man whom for your listening pleasure told me, Bryan, stop messing up! Alright, I just had to own that real quick! We are very excited to share with you our mutual friend and first guest of the podcast...Drum roll please... Harla...
Boundaries And Deal Breakers
August 24, 2021 08:00 - 34 minutes - 23.8 MBIn today's episode we talk about the need for boundaries in our relationships. How do we create said boundaries in a healthy manner. Let's be honest, some of the people we know and spend time with aren't the best for the health of our marriages. We also talk about deal breakers and when its time to cut bait and let people go. There are toxic people, toxic situations and toxic behaviors alike. You know who they are and what time with them can lead to. Have you considered that it may be time...
Do You Trust Me?
August 17, 2021 08:00 - 32 minutes - 22.4 MBIn today's episode we discuss the topic of trust. Trust can sometimes be a touchy issue. We often think that we are trustworthy. We often think that we have the trust of our significant others and then when the cards hit the table find out that may not be the case. Listen in on this episode to find out some things we have gone through which may also hit home for you. Get some advice on how to regain trust when it has been broken plus much more... We hope you enjoy the episode. Please reach...
When Your Wife Rejects You
August 10, 2021 08:00 - 50 minutes - 34.6 MBHello All, Today we have an unpacking session on the topic of rejection. We learn some things about ourselves in this conversation as I'm sure you will as well. Types of rejection Coach vs. player mindset How our wives put the family first How can we take on more of that mindset Earning time for yourself by helping out We hope you enjoy the episode. Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas www.f...
Happy Wife Happy Life, Or So They Say
August 03, 2021 09:00 - 41 minutes - 28.5 MBHello again and thank you for listening. In today's episode we talk about putting your spouse first. They say happy wife, happy life but is that mentality just a sign of defeat? What does happy wife happy life mean to you How can I practice putting my wife first Does it make me less of a man Do I not get what I want Decide what the expectations are by having an upfront conversation and more... We hope you enjoy the episode. Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com Let us ...
Patriarchy And Marriage: Whoa Did He Just...
July 27, 2021 09:00 - 28 minutes - 19.7 MBHello Listeners, Fans and the like, Maybe you're reading this now because you fell for the click bait. Well I'm kind of sorry and kind of not. In this episode we talk about what being a Patriarch means to us, marriage and the community. We discuss why it is important to your family. We consider how someone might become the Patriarch (leader, elder etc.) of their family. Can this title be claimed or must it be given What things make a good Patriarch Why would someone be named the Patriar...
We Need To Talk: Just Do It
July 20, 2021 09:00 - 20 minutes - 14.3 MBToday we follow up on the last episode with some tips on how to talk to your spouse. If you are anything like us, then you know what it's like to get stuck in your own mind. You know what it's like to not be able to say the things you want to say or should say. Just Do It Practice writing first Have a conversation about what your intentions are Give yourself some space as you navigate this project Be willing to show your legacy that you are willing to admit when you need to work on some...
How To Be A Good Listener
July 13, 2021 09:00 - 25 minutes - 17.3 MBThis week we talk about being a good listener. Using these tips can help you not only in your marriage but in life in general. Create a safe space to communicate Show you are engaged in the conversation Don't try to overtake the conversation by inserting your own agenda Clear away distractions and focus Share your tips with us We hope you enjoy the episode. Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas...
When Moving In Together Gets Real
July 06, 2021 09:00 - 28 minutes - 19.9 MBOn today's episode we talk about moving in together and everything that might entail. Who's place? What to expect when shopping for an apartment or house. Budgeting What to keep and what to toss I'll be in my man cave We hope you enjoy the episode. Please reach out to us at: www.marriageistougher.com Let us know if you would like to be a guest on the show or share topic ideas www.facebook.com/MarriageIsTougher
Traveling Alone Together
June 29, 2021 09:00 - 31 minutes - 21.9 MB"Traveling Alone Together" I know I know, you're probably thinking to yourself what does that even mean? When you have so much going on in your life that you can't remember what your wife looks like dressed up... You need to make some time for yourselves. Make some time for the both of you to be "alone together". Find a babysitter, quietly ditch your friends (they'll understand) and really focus on each other in a unique opportunity for some well earned QT! (quality time, for those who may ...