Listen, Learn & Love Hosted by Richard Ostler
789 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 days ago - ★★★★★ - 812 ratingsWelcome to our podcast!
My name is Richard H. Ostler and I am a native of Salt Lake City, small business owner, married father of six with several grandchildren. I believe in and am deeply committed to the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and want it to work for a wider group.
I am the author of three books:
“Listen Learn and Love: Embracing LGBTQ Latter-day Saints” published in 2020 available at Deseret Book (deseretbook.com/product/5248297.html) and Amazon (amazon.com/dp/1462135773)
“Listen Learn and Love: Improving Latter-day Saint Culture” published in 2022. The book explores who we can do better to help all Latter-day Saints feel more welcome, needed and a feeling of belonging in our congregations. Available at Deseret Book (deseretbook.com/product/6003149.html) and Amazon (amazon.com/dp/1462139566)
“Listen Learn and Love: Building the Good Ship Zion” released in Sept 2023. The book explores additional topics to help all Latter-day Saint feel welcome and needed on the Good Ship Zion. Available at Deseret Book (deseretbook.com/product/6026921.html) and Amazon (amazon.com/dp/1462145280)
The purpose of all three books is to help us better create Zion by helping more feel welcome, a sense of belonging, and needed in our congregations.
Proceed from the books go the Stockton Power Memorial Scholarship (www.standingforstockton.com) in honor of Stockton Powers a gay Latter-day Saint teenager who died of suicide in 2016. Everything I do is a self-funded labor of love ❤️
I am the author of two Ensign articles:
‘How the Savior’s Healing Power Applies to Repenting from Sexual Sin’ (August 2020/YSA Digital Only) www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2020/08/young-adults/how-the-saviors-healing-power-applies-to-repenting-from-sexual-sin
‘7 Tips for Overcoming Pornography Use’ (October, page 72) www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2020/10/young-adults/7-tips-for-overcoming-pornography-use.
This podcast is designed to discuss some more complicated issues in our church to help all of us better “listen, learn and love” so we can minister in a more effective way to all of our Heavenly Parents’ children.
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Episodes
Episode 416: Connor Berg, RM, Age 22, Gay Latter-day Saint
June 02, 2021 02:00 - 1 hour - 97.4 MBMy friend Connor Berg (grew up in South Weber, Served a mission in the Jacksonville Florida Mission, currently at Utah State) shares his journey. Connor talks about growing up and learning he is gay in a world that makes it difficult to be gay. That led to years of shame, self-harm and depression. Connor eventually came out to his family (very supportive) which led to a path of therapy, hope and healing. Connor talks about dating a boy during his senior year and then deciding to serve a mi...
Episode 415: Dason Harker (former LDS) and Taylor Smith (active/believing LDS)
May 30, 2021 02:00 - 1 hour - 110 MBMy friends Dason and Taylor join us to share principles about how to keep relationships together when one goes through a faith crisis/transition. Dason and Taylor were friends growing up in Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada and both served missions. After they both got married and started families, they lost contact until Dason’s Facebook post in 2019 about this faith transition. Taylor reached out to Dason with a desire to validate Dason's experiences/concerns, as well as share how he (Taylor...
Episode 414: Tony Fieldson, Building Bridges between Active LDS and Former LDS
May 27, 2021 16:23 - 1 hour - 118 MBMy friend Tony Fieldson, who was on Episode 359, shares 10 keys for responding to your loved one’s questions or faith transition (see Tony’s video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lm3visvgAFk). Tony also talks about The Restoration Table Facebook group (https://www.facebook.com/groups/720024265292786) and its goals to implement these 10 keys among its members (comprised of active Latter-day Saints, to those unsure about their future, to former Latter-day Saints). No one in this group i...
Episode 413: Bo Buchi, Clinical Therapist, Disciple of Christ, Solving Porn
May 25, 2021 03:30 - 1 hour - 83.6 MBMy friend Bo Buchi (masters degree, licensed clinical therapist) talks about his role as a therapist to help clients use the Gospel of Jesus Christ to improve their lives (including ending pornography use and living the law of chastity). Bo also talks about listening to the right voices (our leaders, scriptures) to make the hard decisions to improve our lives. Bo explains the psychological principle of dissonance and how it relates to the Gospel and healing from spiritual illness. In ad...
Episode 412: Tom Fairholm, Gay Latter-day Saint, Gifted Musician, BYU Grad, RM
May 23, 2021 07:41 - 1 hour - 91.6 MBMy friend Tom Fairholm (who recently graduated from BYU with degrees in music composition and Russian) shares his story as a gay Latter-day Saint. Tom, who has deep testimony of loving Heavenly Parents, the Savior, the Book of Mormon, talks about coming out to his parents in his teens (good experience), serving a mission, trying to make dating women work, and coming out more broadly earlier this year. ** Please Check Out My New Book At: ** Deseret Book: www.deseretbook.com/p/listen-learn-...
Episode 411: Elin and Randy Dastrup, Active LDS, Randy’s Infidelity
May 21, 2021 15:03 - 1 hour - 98.4 MBMy friends Elin and Randy Dastrup join us to talk about Randy’s life-long battle of feeling broken and having no worth. This partly resulted from being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Randy (who served a mission in Puerto Rico) talks about his battles with pornography and having an affair. Elin and Randy share the moment Randy told Elin about the affair, how they kept their marriage together, and the role of the Atonement of Jesus Christ to heal and give hope. They recognize s...
Episode 410: Ty Mansfield and Jeff Bennion, Co-Founders of North Star
May 19, 2021 05:49 - 1 hour - 106 MBIn anticipation of the upcoming North Star Conference, on June 10th-13th, my friends Ty Mansfield and Jeff Bennion join us to share their story of the founding of North Star—how and why it all started. They share the goals, vision, and mission of North Star, as well as address some common misconceptions about North Star. Ty and Jeff also share some of their personal stories as Latter-day Saints navigating the intersections of sexuality and faith and their personal paths forward. You can lear...
Episode 409: Jordan Hanks and Adam Paulsen, Gay Latter-day Saints, Getting Married, Raising a Child
May 16, 2021 07:10 - 1 hour - 115 MBMy friends Jordan and Adam share their journey as gay Latter-day Saints. Jordan and Adam served missions, completed college, have strong careers, have been together for three years and now feel their path is to get married. While we all understand their path is outside the doctrine of our Church, this episode is about how to come together in our differences as the same human family, reduce divisiveness, and show love and support. They also talk about raising Adam’s six-year old son from ...
Episode 408: Jed Alldredge, LDS Father of Gay Son
May 13, 2021 02:51 - 58 minutes - 81.1 MBMy friend Jed Alldredge shares his story about being the parent of a gay son, Jeffrey Alldredge (episode 270). Jeffrey came out at age 12 to his parents Jed and Starlyn—which is over 15 years ago. Jed has been on this road for a longtime and has wonderful insights into being the parent of a gay son. Like all families, there are some difficult moments and some great moments. The Alldredge family story is really a beautiful love story of coming together, having honest and vulnerable ...
Episode 407: David and Ann Rickey, Active LDS, Married 44 Years
May 07, 2021 07:38 - 1 hour - 109 MBMy friend David (gay) and Ann (straight) Rickey share their journey. David, who kept the shame of his sexual orientation to himself for over 40 years, decided the time was right to come out to Ann in 2012 while serving as a Bishop in Nevada. Ann and David talk about the difficult and painful days that followed—but the joy, happiness and peace that is now in their marriage and lives. It is a beautiful love story. They also talk about the wonderful support from their adult children. Ann...
Episode 406: Tanner Robinson, Early Release Missionary, Bisexual Latter-day Saint
May 04, 2021 04:30 - 1 hour - 102 MBMy friend Tanner Robinson joins us to share his story. Tanner (age 24, active LDS, and working on a Doctor of Audiology) starts with his mission in Taiwan and returning home early because of fibromyalgia. Tanner then shares his journey to understand and be at peace with his sexual orientation as a bisexual Latter-day Saint. I have made many incorrect assumptions about those who are bisexual—so I’m grateful that Tanner (and others who have been on the podcast) are willing to step forward ...
Episode 405: Emerson Fersch, Former Stake President, Disciple of Christ
May 01, 2021 03:56 - 1 hour - 137 MBMy friend Emerson Fersch, recently released as Stake President in the California Long Beach East Stake, talks about ‘creating Zion’ in his stake where everyone felt welcome, loved and needed. That included a significant outreach to LGBTQ Latter-day Saints in his stake—as well as working to make sure other groups who often feel on the margins feel a sense of belonging. Emerson also talks about his conversion story to the Church and falling in love with his dear wife Darcy (they now live in...
Episode 404: David Woods(Gay Latter-Day Saint) and his niece Bekah Clements (Ally)
April 28, 2021 05:16 - 1 hour - 105 MBMy friend David Woods (early 60’s) and his niece Bekah Clements (married mother of three, HR Director) share their story. David (who served a mission in Switzerland) talks about being gay in Utah, moving away from Utah and leaving the Church, developing a successful multi-faceted career, returning to the Church after being out for several decades, moving back to Utah (where he is currently serving as a temple worker and ward clerk). It’s a moving and remarkable story. David talks about t...
Episode 403: Kristen Reber, Author and Podcaster: Early Release Missionaries
April 25, 2021 04:16 - 54 minutes - 37.6 MBMy friend Kristen Reber (active LDS, married mother of three) joins us to talk about her early release from her mission 10 years ago. Kristen talks about the myriad of feelings that accompanied that experience including anger, pain, relief, and feelings of failure and frustrations with that experience. Several years after her early return, Kristen, realizing others are walking the same road, wrote a book and started a podcast on this subject (both are called Early Homecoming). Kristen has gr...
Episode 402: Sharla Goettl, LDS Author
April 22, 2021 02:40 - 43 minutes - 30.3 MBMy friend Sharla Goettl joins us to talk about her outstanding new book called “Spiritual Resilience: Leading Our Youth to Go and Do”. This wonderful book is for LDS parents and will give you added tools, learned from Nephi's teenage years, to help guide your own children. The book is available at Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08T8L88TV or from Sharla’s web site at www.sharlagoettl.com. Thanks for being on the podcast Sharla. You are awesome. Thanks for your work to help...
Episode 401: Michael Broadhead (High School Friend)
April 19, 2021 02:47 - 1 hour - 43.3 MBMy long-time friend Michael Broadhead joins us to share his journey being gay and raised LDS. Michael is joined by his husband Michael Massoni (they have been together for 25 years and married for 7 years). They both work for Southwest Airlines and live in Phoenix. Michael shares doing his best to navigate being gay, trying to find his way in the LDS Church, working through tough situations and finding a way forward. Michael, who is no longer in the LDS Church, has great insights on how ...
Episode 400: Jeanie Edwards (Mom) and Sean Edwards (Gay Son)
April 16, 2021 10:35 - 1 hour - 49.1 MBMy friend Jeanie Edwards (active LDS, married mother of three, teacher in Princeton NJ) and Sean Edwards (RM, Married to Matt, School Administrator in Utah) share their family story. Sean and Jeanie share Sean’s coming out at age 17, serving a mission, trying to date women, dating men and eventually getting married to Matt (also a RM) 2 years ago. Sean shares his deep love for his Heavenly Father and the Savior and the support he is receiving from his family, friends, and school community. ...
Episode 399: Jeffrey Scott Parsons, Gay Latter-day Saint, Talented Performer
April 13, 2021 02:43 - 1 hour - 41.5 MBMy friend Jeffrey Scott Parsons (late 30’s, RM, talented signer, dancer and actor) shares his story as a gay Latter-day Saint. Jeff shares positive and difficult Church experiences, why he stays in the Church and attends his Ward, his hopes for the future, and how congregations can work with LGBTQ Latter-day Saints to be stronger and enjoy a better sense of belonging. Jeff also has wonderful insights for other LGBTQ Latter-day Saints. Thank you for being on the podcast Jeff. You are ...
Episode 398: Alec and Irene Barrow's Children
April 10, 2021 05:43 - 1 hour - 51.9 MBAlec and Irene Barrow’s (episode 397) children join us to talk about their love for their gay father (who is a seminary teacher in Utah) and their parents wonderful marriage. Their children are Amalia and her husband TJ, Ben and his wife McKaela, Clark and his finance Tegan, Caroline and Elizabeth. The Barrow kids love their gay father Alec and straight mother Irene and are proud to be their children—their family story is a beautiful love story. They are not embarrassed to have a gay f...
Episode 397: Alec and Irene Barrow, Gay Latter-day Saint, 25+ Year Seminary Teacher
April 07, 2021 01:17 - 1 hour - 70.9 MBMy friends Alec and Irene Barrow (married 30 years, 5 kids) talk about Alec being a gay Latter-day Saint. Alec, who has done everything he knows to not be gay, eventually came to accept this part of himself and is now being given space in his Stake and his Church employment to share his story as a gay Latter-day Saint—which is deeply healing for Alec and helps us have better tools to support LGBTQ Latter-day Saints. Alec talks about how both his testimony of our Church and being gay are...
Episode 396: Blaire Ostler, Intersex and Bisexual Latter-day Saint
April 03, 2021 05:21 - 59 minutes - 40.6 MBMy friend Blaire (married mother of three) is a philosopher specialized in queer studies. She joins us on the podcast to teach about intersex variances and her own intersex journey. Blaire (no relation) does a great job of teaching the facts while also sharing her story. For me, learning more about intersex variances helps me better understand the road that some walk and how to better support them. You can check out Blaire’s other podcast episodes on this platform at 335 and 24. Thanks f...
Episode 395: Liz Brown Macdonald, Keeping Families Together When One Leaves the Church
March 31, 2021 06:27 - 1 hour - 42.7 MBMy friend Liz Macdonald (UVU psychology graduate, married mother of three, lives in SLC) shares research from her capstone project on “Exploring the Impact of Parents’ Religious Rigidity on Young Adults Disaffiliating from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints’. Liz (who does not attend Church) is not trying to pull people out of the Church—but rather shares principals and concepts that can bring LDS families together where there are different levels of belief. I believe our ...
Episode 394: Kate Mower (she/they), Non-binary, Lesbian, Latter-day Saint
March 28, 2021 00:00 - 1 hour - 45.8 MBMy friend Kate Mower (PhD candidate, University of California Riverside) brings together all the different aspects of their life into a deeply moving and spiritual podcast. Kate talks about stepping away from the Church at age 17, their suicide attempt at age 19, their path to healing, their education pursuits (including three degrees from the University of Utah), their insights in Eastern Europe History and a deeply spiritual experience resulting in their return to the LDS Church. They...
Episode 393: Rachel Grant, RM/Active LDS, Asking Questions
March 25, 2021 06:11 - 52 minutes - 36.2 MBMy friend Rachel Grant (Spain RM, BYU Philosophy Major, Digital Media Manager at Saints Unscripted) shares how we can improve Church culture around asking and answering questions. She teaches how questions need to be normalized in our families and church settings and are part of our journey to understand our religion—and how we should not fear if we or others have sincere questions. Rachel shares about her own faith crises processing complicated Church topics and why she stays a committed...
Episode 392: Warren Bittner, Gay Latter-day Saint, Early 60s, Married Father of 3
March 22, 2021 04:47 - 1 hour - 52.4 MBWarren Bittner joins us to share his experiences of living as a gay Latter-day Saint through more than 60 years. In 1976, as a teenager, he found himself in the office of the Presiding Bishop of the Church to get help for being gay, where he was put in contact with a list created by President Spencer W Kimball, which if followed would make him no longer gay. The list changed the direction of his life in surprising ways. Recently, Warren started Sons of Sacrifice. The Sons of Sacrifice train...
Episode 391: TJ Thomas, Bisexual Latter-day Saint
March 19, 2021 04:09 - 1 hour - 47.5 MBMy friend TJ Thomas (age 29, RM, Active LDS, BYU and USC Grad, Therapist) shares his journey as a bisexual Latter-day Saint. TJ shares the peace he has felt since accepting his sexual orientation and sharing this part of him with trusted friends and family. Further, TJ shares how his relationship with Heavenly Father and personal revelation has improved since coming out. You can connect with TJ on Instagram @tjcounseling. Thank you TJ for being on the podcast and your courage to sha...
Episode 390: Madison Scholes Belnap, How Intuitive Eating Changed My Life
March 15, 2021 06:35 - 1 hour - 45.9 MBMy friend Madison Scholes Belnap (active LDS, married mother of two, Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor) shares her journey to relearn Intuitive Eating, reject diet culture expectations, and heal her relationship with food and her body. Her story is deeply transformative and inspiring. Madison’s insights will help you (and help others) have better tools for making peace with food. You can learn more about and connect with Madison at https://www.intuitiveeating.org/author/madisonbelna...
Episode 389: Jordan Jasmer, RM, Age 27, Gay Latter-day Saint
March 11, 2021 04:45 - 56 minutes - 38.6 MBMy friend Jordan Jasmer joins us to share his story as a gay Latter-day Saint. Jordan shares coming out to his Mission President (positive experience) and his parents (positive experience). Jordan shares getting engaged to a woman (Jordan told her he was gay early in the relationship) and how that engagement eventually ended. They remain friends. That experience took Jordan into the most difficult emotional space of his life, filled with self-harm and thoughts of suicide, wondering how he...
Episode 388: Warren Osborn, Successful Entrepreneur, Battling ALS
March 07, 2021 20:49 - 50 minutes - 35.1 MBMy friend Warren Osborn (married father of six and award-winning Utah entrepreneur) bravely shares his 4 year journey with ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease). Warren, who has been open with his story on Facebook and Instagram, shares all he and his wife Tricia have done to treat this disease. It’s a remarkable story. Warren has shares insights on how to deal with the realities of a potentially fatal disease and advice for others who are on the same road. Thank you Warren for being on the ...
Episode 387: Brian Johnson, RM, Active LDS, Age 23, Solving Porn
March 04, 2021 04:38 - 1 hour - 47.6 MBMy friend Brian bravely shares his journey with pornography which started at age 11 and is now largely solved. Brian shares all he has learned in his journey and the role of Dr. Cameron Staley (Episode 345) and the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) approach as part of the Life After Pornography Program (check out their website https://www.lifeafterpornography.com/ or their Instagram/Facebook @thelifeafterseries) to finally be in a much better place. If you want to better understand ...
Episode 386: Aly Grunander, Early Release Missionary, Emotional Health Challenges
March 01, 2021 06:13 - 1 hour - 45.9 MBMy friend Aly Grunander (active LDS, Married, Age 21) shares her journey starting her mission in New Zealand full of hope and determination and having those dreams crushed with serious emotional health challenges leading to her coming home. Aly, who had no history of emotional health challenges before her mission, talks about that dark time in her life and the shame around her mental health and coming home. Aly shares her road to healing and Heavenly Father carefully guiding her life. A...
Episode 385: Dr. Bob Rees, Educator, Writer, Disciple, LGBTQ Ally
February 26, 2021 06:18 - 1 hour - 50.6 MBMy friend Bob Rees joins us to share principles and insights to bring our families and congregations together. Bob, who holds a PhD and is the Visiting Professor and Director of Mormon Studies at Graduate Theological Union in Berkeley (see his Wikipedia page for more info https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_A._Rees), was a Bishop in a Los Angeles singles ward from 1986-1992 and created a safe place for LGBTQ Latter-day Saints. Bob has been an LGBTQ ally for four decades with a “long-vi...
Episode 384: Gretchen Seamons, PhD candidate, Wants to Interview Early Release Missionaries
February 23, 2021 06:52 - 1 hour - 44.8 MBMy friend Gretchen Seamons (active LDS, RM, married mother of 4 and one grandchild) is working on her PhD in Clinical Psychology and as part of her dissertation wants to interview early release missionaries who came home because of anxiety related issues. If are an early release missionary (under the age of 30) for anxiety related issues and want to explore being part of her needed research, please contact Gretchen at [email protected] Thank you Gretchen for this important work and f...
Episode 383: Clark Morley, RM, Gay Latter-day Saint, BYU Grad
February 20, 2021 09:35 - 1 hour - 49 MBMy friend Clark Morley (age 27, applying to grad school, high school teacher), shares his journey as a gay Latter-day Saint. Clark shares not accepting this part about him until he realized that he was not going to be able to marry a woman. This sent Clark, for the first time in his life, in to a world without hope and feelings of suicide. Clark talks about the need to find hope which led him to come out to his parents and family—who have been loving and supportive. Clark talks abou...
Episode 382: Andy Miller, Gay Latter-Day Saint, RM, Active LDS
February 17, 2021 05:44 - 1 hour - 44.6 MBMy friend Andy Miller (Uruguay RM, Westminster Graduate, Mid-Twenties, Works in the Airline Industry) shares his journey as a gay Latter-Day Saint. Some of you may remember Andy's story from the Mormon and Gay website released by the church a few years ago (https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/topics/gay/videos/tonyas-story?lang=eng). Andy shares coming out to his parents Tonya and Dylan before his mission, his mission in Uruguay, dealing with his emotional health, and finding his way thro...
Episode 381: Tom Christofferson, Author “A Better Heart: The Impact of Christ's Pure Love”
February 13, 2021 05:42 - 1 hour - 57.5 MBMy friend Tom Christofferson joins us to talk about his new book which invites readers to learn more deeply about the Lord’s supernal gift of charity and shows how understanding that gift can change our very discipleship. We also talk more generally about Tom’s experiences with his former partner, his family, the local church leaders who have influenced him, and his hopes for our young LGBTQ members and their parents. If you want to better follow Christ’s example and better live His tea...
Episode 380: Rosie Card, Founder/CEO of Q.NOOR, New Temple Prep Book called “House of Light”
February 09, 2021 16:28 - 57 minutes - 39.6 MBMy friend Rosie Card joins us to talk about improving the experience for those attending the temple for the first time with her new online book called “House of Light: Your Guide to the Temple”. Rosie’s book “takes you by the hand” to understand the various stops starting at the recommend desk til leaving the temple. Rosie also, which is consistent with latest Church teachings, talks about understanding and preparing for the five covenants made during the temple and to more fulling eng...
Episode 379: Jocelyn Fowler, OCD, Depression, Anxiety and PTSD
February 06, 2021 07:45 - 1 hour - 41.7 MBMy friend Jocelyn Fowler (active LDS, married mother of three) joins us to share you journey with multiple mental health challenges. All this resulted a deep dark period of time about 2 years ago with feelings of hopelessness, suicidality and, because of emotional triggers, a decreased connection to her Church community. Jocelyn shares her journey to find hope and healing through an accurate diagnosis, better coping skills, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Exposure Response Prevention...
Episode 378: Serena Jamison, Transgender Latter-day Saint
February 03, 2021 04:41 - 1 hour - 43.3 MBMy friend Serena Jamison shares her journey as a transgender women. Serena is in her early 40’s, a convert to the Church, married with four children. She talks about her long-term journey with gender dysphoria and finally accepting herself in November 2019 as transgender. Serena helps us better understand our transgender friends and how their experience is real, authentic and often difficult (but necessary) in their journey to self-acceptance. Serena's current project is to interview trans...
Episode 377: Wendi Jagerson, Active LDS, Bipolar, MS, Family Left the Church
January 30, 2021 02:00 - 1 hour - 57.8 MBMy friend Wendi Jagerson, married mother of two and one grandson, bravely shares her journey with complicated life challenges that started after her successful mission in the Philadelphia, Pennsylvania area. Wendi starts with her journey with Bipolar II Disorder which was diagnosed in 1994. Wendi talks about how it eventually became very difficult to leave her own home and how she wasn't able to enjoy church or social contact for several years. Wendi talks about her journey to find hope and h...
Episode 376: Darcy and Zach Spafford, Zach’s 25+ Year Porn Struggles, Solved. Now Helping Others
January 27, 2021 04:09 - 1 hour - 48.7 MBMy friends Darcy and Zach Spafford, active LDS and parents of 8, join us to talk about Zach’s 25-year journey to solve porn. Darcy and Zach, who has been clean for 5+ years and serves in his Bishopric, share how they solved unwanted pornography use in their marriage and how they help others do the same. If you would like to learn more about them and their journey check them out at the resources below. The Self Mastery Podcast ttps://self-mastery-podcast.captivate.fm/listen Instagram https...
Episode 375: Sam & Autumn Duke, Hope & Healing in the Gospel after Losing Parents
January 24, 2021 18:02 - 1 hour - 55.2 MBMy friends Sam and Autumn Duke, married parents of 3, share growing up with families affected by addiction, mental illness, and suicide. Autumn’s father Klair died in 2003 from alcoholism and addiction. Sam’s mother Jeannie died of suicide in 2019 after 2 decades of severe depression. Sam and Autumn love their parents deeply. They discuss how the Gospel of Jesus Christ helps them to see their parents the way our Heavenly Parents see them. They share their thoughts on the divine worth of every...
Episode 374: Emma Errgang, Convert, LGBTQ, BYU-Idaho Student
January 21, 2021 08:02 - 1 hour - 46.6 MBMy friend Emma Errgang shares her conversation story (baptized about two ago) and coming out as LGBTQ at BYU-Idaho. Emma shares some painful experiences (which help learn how to do better) and also many positive experiences with the administration at BYU-Idaho who are deeply committed to improving the experience for LGBTQ students. In particular, the Dean of Students and Director of the Honor Code have been very helpful to Emma and other LGBTQ students. If you want to learn how to help our ...
Episode 373: Nate and Elena Jones, Converts, RMs, Active LDS, Parents of a Transgender Son
January 17, 2021 03:34 - 1 hour - 66.1 MBMy friends Nate and Elena Jones share their powerful conversation stories, finding each other at BYU after serving missions, and building a wonderful family together over the next two decades. Nate and Elena share the complexity of having their two oldest children step away from the Church—including their transgender son Glen who they love and support. Nate and Elena, like other LDS parents of LGBTQ children, are in a middle of a faith-crisis trying to figure out how their children fit i...
Episode 373: Nate and Elena, Converts, RMs, Active LDS, Parents of a Transgender Son
January 17, 2021 03:34 - 1 hour - 66.1 MBMy friends Nate and Elena share their powerful conversation stories, finding each other at BYU after serving missions, and building a wonderful family together over the next two decades. Nate and Elena share the complexity of having their two oldest children step away from the Church—including their transgender son Glen who they love and support. Nate and Elena, like many other LDS parents of LGBTQ children, are in a middle of a faith-crisis trying to figure out how their children fit in...
Episode 372: Audrey Chugg, Eating Disorder
January 14, 2021 19:12 - 53 minutes - 36.9 MBMy friend Audrey Chugg (RM, BYU Grad in Public Health)joins us to talk about identifying and then solving her eating disorder. If you have an eating disorder and want to find hope and tools for recovery, please listen to Audrey's story. If you want to develop a family culture with positive messages about food and body image, please listen to Audrey’s insights. And if you want to help others walking this road, please listen. Thank you for being on the podcast Audrey! You are brave and courage...
Episode 371: Dr. Ben Schilaty, BYU Professor and Honor Code Officer, Gay Latter-day Saint
January 07, 2021 06:58 - 1 hour - 50 MBMy friend Ben Schilaty joins us to talk about his new book from Deseret Book called “A Walk in My Shoes: Questions I'm Often Asked as a Gay Latter-day Saint.” https://deseretbook.com/p/walk-in-my-shoes-questions-im-often-asked-as-a-gay-latterday-saint. Ben also talks about his podcast with Charlie Bird called “Questions from the Closet” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/questions-from-the-closet/id1504990147 I encourage every Latter-day Saint to read Ben’s book which helps bring us toge...
Episode 371: Dr. Ben Schilaty, BYU Professor and Honor Code Administrator, Gay Latter-day Saint
January 07, 2021 06:58 - 1 hour - 50 MBMy friend Ben Schilaty joins us to talk about his new book from Deseret Book called “A Walk in My Shoes: Questions I'm Often Asked as a Gay Latter-day Saint.” https://deseretbook.com/p/walk-in-my-shoes-questions-im-often-asked-as-a-gay-latterday-saint. Ben also talks about his podcast with Charlie Bird called “Questions from the Closet” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/questions-from-the-closet/id1504990147 I encourage every Latter-day Saint to read Ben’s book which helps bring us toge...
Episode 370: Bradley Talbot, Gay Latter-Day Saint, RM, BYU Student
January 03, 2021 03:11 - 1 hour - 52.2 MBMy friend Bradley Talbot, Winnipeg Canada RM and former EFY teacher, shares his story as a gay Latter-Day Saint. Bradley talks about his desire to stay in the Church, close with God, marry a man, and together raise a family having family night, attending Church and reading the Book of Mormon. Bradley is graduating in Psychology and hopes for a career in criminal psychology. Bradley is the founder of Color the Campus at BYU (see @colorthecampus on IG) to help bring more understanding and...
Episode 369: Carson Perez, Gay Latter-day Saint, Emmaus Board Member, Convert
January 01, 2021 03:00 - 1 hour - 46.5 MBMy friend, Carson Perez, joins us to share his remarkable story. Carson begins by reading his spiritual journey, which includes being raised Pentecostal and embracing the Restored Gospel in July 1996, resigning from the LDS Church a year later, being involved with other faith traditions, including earning his Master of Divinity at Yale Divinity School and nearly becoming an Episcopal priest, and being rebaptized back into the LDS Church in August 2019. He shares his love for his partner, Ale...