What Lights You Up
295 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 1 year ago -If you are tired of getting by, you want to feel better, and step into the version of yourself that makes your heart sing, this podcast is for you!
Our inner light is often first dimmed by the environment we were raised in. No one is the blame for this. We are all products of societal structure, culture, and conditioning designed to keep us "safe."
This podcast guides you to question what you think about yourself, your life, and how the world works. The darkest moments we witness or encounter are perfect opportunities to rediscover and shine your light!
It encourages you to step into and embody your own truths and to create a life you enjoy. It challenges the world views and dogmas that aren't in the highest service to your spirit. It provides insight to our triggers and solutions to living in a state of empowerment.
Bring your open mind and heart for real and raw topics delivered with love.
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44. Stop Dwelling On The Past And Change It
January 28, 2021 10:00 - 20 minutes - 34.5 MBWhen we aren’t operating with a managed mind, we often find ourselves wrapped in memories of past experiences that are painful. Because there are no “do overs” in life, regret, sorrow, or remorse will often creep in. Why do we do this to ourselves? What if the story that you have created in your mind could be rewritten? This episode is about shifting your perspective and coming to the realization that you don’t have to punish yourself anymore. The past exists only in our minds and the extent...
43. Perfect Is An Illusion: How Perfectionism Keeps Us Stuck
January 21, 2021 10:00 - 28 minutes - 44.4 MBI have a question for you, today. What is it in your life that you are trying to get perfect right now? More importantly, how is that working for you? Perfectionism isn’t what we think it is. We have this vision that others will see us a certain way if we show up perfect. That’s not only an illusion, it’s a lie. Trying to be and do everything “just right” will only keep you stuck, and you could be missing out on some of the greatest experiences of your life! I want to show you why you feel t...
E43 - Perfect Is An Illusion: How Perfectionism Keeps Us Stuck
January 21, 2021 10:00 - 28 minutes - 44.3 MBI have a question for you, today. What is it in your life that you are trying to get perfect right now? More importantly, how is that working for you? Perfectionism isn’t what we think it is. We have this vision that others will see us a certain way if we show up perfect. That’s not only an illusion, it’s a lie. Trying to be and do everything “just right” will only keep you stuck, and you could be missing out on some of the greatest experiences of your life! I want to show you why you feel t...
42. How To Feel When Bad Things Happen
January 14, 2021 10:00 - 30 minutes - 47.1 MBThere have always been (and always will be) bad things that happen in our world and in our lives. Moments that shake us will eventually shape us. When you get past the initial shock of witnessing a tragedy unfold, what you are left with are a whole lot of difficult emotions to sort through. In this episode, I’m going to address the hard things, because doing so is crucial to our overall well-being. When everything around you seems to be wrapped in darkness, it is the perfect time to shine yo...
E42 - How To Feel When Bad Things Happen
January 14, 2021 10:00 - 30 minutes - 47.1 MBThere have always been (and always will be) bad things that happen in our world and in our lives. Moments that shake us will eventually shape us. When you get past the initial shock of witnessing a tragedy unfold, what you are left with are a whole lot of difficult emotions to sort through. In this episode, I’m going to address the hard things, because doing so is crucial to our overall well-being. When everything around you seems to be wrapped in darkness, it is the perfect time to shine yo...
41. Creating Time For Consistent Action
January 07, 2021 10:00 - 26 minutes - 41.8 MBHow are you going to go about the business of achieving your personal goals when you just don’t have the time? I know you want to see results quickly. However, consistency is key to accomplishing anything you want in this life. In this episode, I’m going to call BS on your time excuse and help you understand how to reprioritize those things that you say matter. While many of us may be on the bandwagon of improvement in January, I want to assure you that ANY day is the day to start. Let’s mak...
E41 - Creating Time For Consistent Action
January 07, 2021 10:00 - 26 minutes - 36 MBHow are you going to go about the business of achieving your personal goals when you just don’t have the time? I know you want to see results quickly. However, consistency is key to accomplishing anything you want in this life. In this episode, I’m going to call BS on your time excuse and help you understand how to reprioritize those things that you say matter. While many of us may be on the bandwagon of improvement in January, I want to assure you that ANY day is the day to start. Let’s mak...
HNY! My Word, Reflections, And New Podcast Title
January 01, 2021 10:00 - 27 minutes - 38.8 MBHappy New Year! Today, I’m reflecting on wins over the past year and improvements to make going forward. I’m compelled to share this so that you can understand how it’s done. And by the way, this exercise can be done at ANY time, no matter the day. If it’s a Thursday in August when you hear this, do it now, because you have one precious life. Spoiler alert: one of my personal improvements includes changing the title of this podcast. I’ll explain it all in this happy little bonus that I’m sur...
E40 - Unbothered By Uncertainty
December 31, 2020 10:00 - 19 minutes - 27.5 MBWhen we go through life expecting the rest of the world to play out our mental “movie script”, we are setting ourselves up for negative experiences. Sure, there are many times that things unfold according to your plan and then, as 2020 has demonstrated so well, there are times that absolutely nothing plays out as expected. You may know that you do not have control of what happens in the world. You may not know how to control your reaction to it. When the unexpected happens, whether large o...
40. Unbothered By Uncertainty
December 31, 2020 10:00 - 19 minutes - 32 MBWhen we go through life expecting the rest of the world to play out our mental “movie script”, we are setting ourselves up for negative experiences. Sure, there are many times that things unfold according to your plan and then, as 2020 has demonstrated so well, there are times that absolutely nothing plays out as expected. You may know that you do not have control of what happens in the world. You may not know how to control your reaction to it. When the unexpected happens, whether large o...
E39 - Comparing Life Experiences: Illogical Connections
December 24, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 32.1 MBIt is natural for us to compare ourselves and our lives to others, either in a positive or negative light. Sometimes we want what other people have. Other times we think our problems aren’t big enough when others seem to be suffering more. These connections we are making are not logical. The way one person’s life is unfolding doesn’t mean anything about your own life. That doesn’t stop our brains from observing and comparing. Learn where your power truly lies and how to focus on your own exp...
E39 - Comparing Your Life Experiences To Others
December 24, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 32.1 MBIt is natural for us to compare ourselves and our lives to others, either in a positive or negative light. Sometimes we want what other people have. Other times we think our problems aren’t big enough when others seem to be suffering more. These connections we are making are not logical. The way one person’s life is unfolding doesn’t mean anything about your own life. That doesn’t stop our brains from observing and comparing. Learn where your power truly lies and how to focus on your own exp...
39. Comparing Your Life Experiences To Others
December 24, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 36.6 MBIt is natural for us to compare ourselves and our lives to others, either in a positive or negative light. Sometimes we want what other people have. Other times we think our problems aren’t big enough when others seem to be suffering more. These connections we are making are not logical. The way one person’s life is unfolding doesn’t mean anything about your own life. That doesn’t stop our brains from observing and comparing. Learn where your power truly lies and how to focus on your own exp...
E38 - When People Talk About You
December 17, 2020 10:00 - 15 minutes - 22.8 MBHave you ever found out that people are talking about you? Of course, you have! It’s what people do to entertain themselves and we have surely been doing it since the dawn of time. This really only becomes a problem when you allow yourself to create a story about you around their talk. Still, we will bend over backwards to try to prevent it from happening. To try to control the perceptions and the narrative. Stop it. You’re going to lose that battle every time. In this episode, I’ll give y...
38. When People Talk About You
December 17, 2020 10:00 - 15 minutes - 27.3 MBHave you ever found out that people are talking about you? Of course, you have! It’s what people do to entertain themselves and we have surely been doing it since the dawn of time. This really only becomes a problem when you allow yourself to create a story about you around their talk. Still, we will bend over backwards to try to prevent it from happening. To try to control the perceptions and the narrative. Stop it. You’re going to lose that battle every time. In this episode, I’ll give y...
37. It's Time To Crush Your Excuses
December 10, 2020 10:00 - 23 minutes - 37.6 MBWe are well into that time of year when we start setting goals and then rapidly finding excuses not to do the thing. Whatever it may be. If you’re in the habit of setting New Year’s Resolutions, you probably know by now that you’ll likely abandon them by February. “Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.” – Jim Rohn While this quote certainly resonates, I want you to know that there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s not the program or equipment that you bought that didn’t wo...
E37 - It's Time To Crush Your Excuses
December 10, 2020 10:00 - 23 minutes - 33.1 MBWe are well into that time of year when we start setting goals and then rapidly finding excuses not to do the thing. Whatever it may be. If you’re in the habit of setting New Year’s Resolutions, you probably know by now that you’ll likely abandon them by February. “Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.” – Jim Rohn While this quote certainly resonates, I want you to know that there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s not the program or equipment that you bought that didn’t wo...
E36 - How To Be Alone With Yourself
December 03, 2020 10:00 - 28 minutes - 40.5 MBI want to know if you enjoy your own company. Do you welcome time alone or does that feel lonely? How do you spend your alone time when you have it? Most of us look for simple pleasures as a momentary escape, like a movie or a good book. While there’s nothing wrong with that, we aren’t spending the time WITH ourselves when we indulge in distractions. This can keep us from finding out what we really want to do in life. The relationship that you have with yourself is the most important relat...
36. How To Be Alone With Yourself
December 03, 2020 10:00 - 28 minutes - 45 MBI want to know if you enjoy your own company. Do you welcome time alone or does that feel lonely? How do you spend your alone time when you have it? Most of us look for simple pleasures as a momentary escape, like a movie or a good book. While there’s nothing wrong with that, we aren’t spending the time WITH ourselves when we indulge in distractions. This can keep us from finding out what we really want to do in life. The relationship that you have with yourself is the most important relat...
E35 - Boundaries: "No" Is Not A Bad Word
November 26, 2020 10:00 - 13 minutes - 19.8 MBIt’s that time of year when our lack of boundaries really starts to show up in full force and that’s what I want to address in this episode. For many of us, this occurs any day, really. We think we already know what the other person WANTS us to say, and that’s a lie. It’s what people-pleasers do, yet we don’t really know a thing about what anyone else thinks! It is indeed a continuous practice to be aware of those sneaky thoughts of yours. If you find that you are struggling to find a way ...
35. Boundaries: "No" Is Not A Bad Word
November 26, 2020 10:00 - 13 minutes - 24.3 MBIt’s that time of year when our lack of boundaries really starts to show up in full force and that’s what I want to address in this episode. For many of us, this occurs any day, really. We think we already know what the other person WANTS us to say, and that’s a lie. It’s what people-pleasers do, yet we don’t really know a thing about what anyone else thinks! It is indeed a continuous practice to be aware of those sneaky thoughts of yours. If you find that you are struggling to find a way ...
34. When You're The Victim In Your Story, Consider A Rewrite
November 19, 2020 10:00 - 31 minutes - 49.1 MBIt is often hard to admit that there are parts of the stories we tell ourselves where we’ve committed ourselves to the role of victim. This can show up in our lives as inconvenience or something much deeper from our past. Regardless, attaching our identity to this role isn’t helpful to our current and future selves. Continually replaying the drama in our minds isn’t helpful either. Learn to separate the facts of your story from the “truths” you have created and get to the business of writing...
E34 - When You're The Victim In Your Story, Consider A Rewrite
November 19, 2020 10:00 - 31 minutes - 43.4 MBIt is often hard to admit that there are parts of the stories we tell ourselves where we’ve committed ourselves to the role of victim. This can show up in our lives as inconvenience or something much deeper from our past. Regardless, attaching our identity to this role isn’t helpful to our current and future selves. Continually replaying the drama in our minds isn’t helpful either. Learn to separate the facts of your story from the “truths” you have created and get to the business of writing...
E33 - Ditch Your Dread Of The Holiday Season
November 12, 2020 10:00 - 28 minutes - 40.5 MBYou may find yourself dreading the holiday season for one reason or another. Sometimes your “to do” list is overwhelming. You may be anticipating unpleasant interactions with extended family members. Perhaps you are grappling with loss this year. The holiday season comes with its own set of challenges, to be sure. Nevertheless, the time is here. If you’re questioning your ability to participate in joy and gratitude right now, I’m going to give you some tips in this episode to curb the dread....
33. Ditch Your Dread Of The Holiday Season
November 12, 2020 10:00 - 28 minutes - 45 MBYou may find yourself dreading the holiday season for one reason or another. Sometimes your “to do” list is overwhelming. You may be anticipating unpleasant interactions with extended family members. Perhaps you are grappling with loss this year. The holiday season comes with its own set of challenges, to be sure. Nevertheless, the time is here. If you’re questioning your ability to participate in joy and gratitude right now, I’m going to give you some tips in this episode to curb the dread....
E32 - Catastrophizing Over The 2020 Elections (And Beyond)
November 05, 2020 10:00 - 26 minutes - 37.9 MBIt’s time for some real talk about the US Elections of 2020 because I see how it’s impacting you. You’re glued to media, barely sleeping, waiting for something to happen, and spinning out with anxiety of what might be. This is catastrophizing and of all the things our minds do, this can be the most harmful. Stop putting your time and energy toward all of the stories you’re hearing, seeing, and manufacturing yourself. Life’s challenges are simply opportunities for growth. It’s just harder to ...
32. Catastrophizing Over The 2020 Elections (And Beyond)
November 05, 2020 10:00 - 26 minutes - 42.4 MBIt’s time for some real talk about the US Elections of 2020 because I see how it’s impacting you. You’re glued to media, barely sleeping, waiting for something to happen, and spinning out with anxiety of what might be. This is catastrophizing and of all the things our minds do, this can be the most harmful. Stop putting your time and energy toward all of the stories you’re hearing, seeing, and manufacturing yourself. Life’s challenges are simply opportunities for growth. It’s just harder to ...
E31 - Buying Into The Notion That You Are Enough
October 29, 2020 09:00 - 31 minutes - 44.4 MBThere are so many of us out there in the world, functioning just fine on the surface but dealing with a lot of turmoil internally. The one thing that holds us back from pursuing any of our self-improvement activities or personal goals is our perceived shortcomings (held firmly in place with all of the seemingly reasonable excuses). These manifest as statements like, “I’m not ____ enough.” Yes, it’s about perspective, but also the ways in which we talk about and to ourselves. How do you sho...
31. Buying Into The Notion That You Are Enough
October 29, 2020 09:00 - 31 minutes - 48.9 MBThere are so many of us out there in the world, functioning just fine on the surface but dealing with a lot of turmoil internally. The one thing that holds us back from pursuing any of our self-improvement activities or personal goals is our perceived shortcomings (held firmly in place with all of the seemingly reasonable excuses). These manifest as statements like, “I’m not ____ enough.” Yes, it’s about perspective, but also the ways in which we talk about and to ourselves. How do you sho...
E30 - Healing The Wounds Of Your Inner Child
October 22, 2020 09:00 - 30 minutes - 42.9 MBMany of us carry around memories of events that happened at some point in our lives that remain negative and impactful today. Words were said, actions were taken, and we keep reliving these memories like bad dreams. Over time, we allow it to define our self-worth. I refer to this part of us as our inner child; continually seeking comfort and safety. Join me as I recap my conversation with a dear friend and learn how together, we came up with new ways to view the path toward healing those old...
30. Healing The Wounds Of Your Inner Child
October 22, 2020 09:00 - 30 minutes - 47.4 MBMany of us carry around memories of events that happened at some point in our lives that remain negative and impactful today. Words were said, actions were taken, and we keep reliving these memories like bad dreams. Over time, we allow it to define our self-worth. I refer to this part of us as our inner child; continually seeking comfort and safety. Join me as I recap my conversation with a dear friend and learn how together, we came up with new ways to view the path toward healing those old...
E29 - How To Live With Gratitude, Even In 2020
October 15, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 41 MBHow many times have you said you can’t wait for this year to be over already? Certainly, 2020 has presented us all with challenges and changes. We have had to pivot many times and wonder if life will ever go back to the way that it was before. Well, as several thought leaders have pointed out, what exactly are we trying to get back to? We can long for the way things used to be, we can hope that 2021 will be better, or we can settle into what is and find gratitude right now. I choose the latt...
29. How To Live With Gratitude, Even In 2020
October 15, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 45.4 MBHow many times have you said you can’t wait for this year to be over already? Certainly, 2020 has presented us all with challenges and changes. We have had to pivot many times and wonder if life will ever go back to the way that it was before. Well, as several thought leaders have pointed out, what exactly are we trying to get back to? We can long for the way things used to be, we can hope that 2021 will be better, or we can settle into what is and find gratitude right now. I choose the latt...
28. The Real Social Dilemma Is Our Friendships
October 08, 2020 09:00 - 36 minutes - 55.6 MBThis is always a hot topic, so I’m sharing my thoughts on social media in this episode. While many in our friends and family circles are making changes, stepping back, or taking a break (all of which are fine decisions), let’s talk about the option that no one else talks about. How to stay and keep your sanity. Yes, it’s possible to coexist with social media and all of the content on these platforms. It is possible if you know how to manage your own thoughts about what you are seeing. Yo...
E28 - The Real Social Dilemma Is Our Friendships
October 08, 2020 09:00 - 36 minutes - 51.1 MBThis is always a hot topic, so I’m sharing my thoughts on social media in this episode. While many in our friends and family circles are making changes, stepping back, or taking a break (all of which are fine decisions), let’s talk about the option that no one else talks about. How to stay and keep your sanity. Yes, it’s possible to coexist with social media and all of the content on these platforms. It is possible if you know how to manage your own thoughts about what you are seeing. Yo...
27. The Best Kept Secret To Lasting, Loving Relationships
October 01, 2020 09:00 - 32 minutes - 50.7 MBIt’s certainly no secret that humans crave love and belonging. Of course, we need these things to be a part of our lives for our emotional well-being. Yet we spend a lot of energy in trying to get the ones we love to reciprocate in ways that are quite honestly unrealistic. Perhaps we could try approaching these connections differently. What if that were true? What if we could see things in a new way? A way that opens the door to freedom and lights that spark that you’ve been searching for. I...
E27 - The Best Kept Secret To Lasting, Loving Relationships
October 01, 2020 09:00 - 32 minutes - 46.2 MBIt’s certainly no secret that humans crave love and belonging. Of course, we need these things to be a part of our lives for our emotional well-being. Yet we spend a lot of energy in trying to get the ones we love to reciprocate in ways that are quite honestly unrealistic. Perhaps we could try approaching these connections differently. What if that were true? What if we could see things in a new way? A way that opens the door to freedom and lights that spark that you’ve been searching for. I...
26. I Didn't Ask For This! Change Resistance
September 24, 2020 09:00 - 31 minutes - 49.4 MBChange is hard. Or it isn’t. Sometimes it seems easier if the change is necessary and an expected outcome of a choice you’ve made. Then there are changes that happen in our lives that we didn’t ask for. Many of us try to resist and even fight what we perceive as forced change, even though doing so depletes us of our precious energy. I’m going to share the most important concept to keep top of mind when the world around you seems to be going in a direction you didn’t plan on taking. What woul...
E26 - I Didn't Ask For This! Change Resistance
September 24, 2020 09:00 - 31 minutes - 44.9 MBChange is hard. Or it isn’t. Sometimes it seems easier if the change is necessary and an expected outcome of a choice you’ve made. Then there are changes that happen in our lives that we didn’t ask for. Many of us try to resist and even fight what we perceive as forced change, even though doing so depletes us of our precious energy. I’m going to share the most important concept to keep top of mind when the world around you seems to be going in a direction you didn’t plan on taking. What woul...
25. No Challenge, No Change
September 17, 2020 09:00 - 30 minutes - 47.3 MBWhat do you do when you the thrill of reaching your goal doesn’t seem to be there anymore? You pushed through the initial challenge, now what? As I see it, there are two major types of change in our lives. Those that we choose for ourselves and those that are chosen for us. I’m going to talk about the former today, including how to recognize when you are becoming complacent and ready to throw in the towel. Learn how to see your goals all the way through once and for all. It won’t always be c...
E25 - No Challenge, No Change
September 17, 2020 09:00 - 30 minutes - 42.8 MBWhat do you do when you the thrill of reaching your goal doesn’t seem to be there anymore? You pushed through the initial challenge, now what? As I see it, there are two major types of change in our lives. Those that we choose for ourselves and those that are chosen for us. I’m going to talk about the former today, including how to recognize when you are becoming complacent and ready to throw in the towel. Learn how to see your goals all the way through once and for all. It won’t always be c...
24. Dancing With Depression: A Perspective
September 10, 2020 09:00 - 33 minutes - 51.1 MBIs depression always a chemical imbalance or can it show up in other ways? This is a weighty subject, but it needs to be shared. Having experienced many shades of depression in the past, I no longer dance around the topic. I’ll explain the one surprising thing that I eliminated from my life that helped more than anything else aside from the consistent thought work that I do today. In no way is this episode intended to provide medical advice or alternative treatments. Rather, it is through s...
E24 - Dancing With Depression: A Perspective
September 10, 2020 09:00 - 33 minutes - 46.6 MBIs depression always a chemical imbalance or can it show up in other ways? This is a weighty subject, but it needs to be shared. Having experienced many shades of depression in the past, I no longer dance around the topic. I’ll explain the one surprising thing that I eliminated from my life that helped more than anything else aside from the consistent thought work that I do today. In no way is this episode intended to provide medical advice or alternative treatments. Rather, it is through s...
23. Misery Is A Choice
September 03, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 44.9 MBOften, we wallow in misery without realizing we have complete control over it. If you’ve ever felt miserable at your job, for example, I want you to understand that is a choice you have made. It’s not your manager, it’s not the commute, and it has nothing to do with the work environment. It has everything to do with how your brain functions. Changing your circumstances isn’t going to make anything better without the tools that I’m going to share with you in this episode. Take back your powe...
E23 - Misery Is A Choice
September 03, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 40.4 MBOften, we wallow in misery without realizing we have complete control over it. If you’ve ever felt miserable at your job, for example, I want you to understand that is a choice you have made. It’s not your manager, it’s not the commute, and it has nothing to do with the work environment. It has everything to do with how your brain functions. Changing your circumstances isn’t going to make anything better without the tools that I’m going to share with you in this episode. Take back your powe...
22. How To Be A Good Mom
August 27, 2020 09:00 - 30 minutes - 48.1 MBHey there, mom! I have a little something especially for you today. I know you are tired and stretched thin from trying to please everyone all of the time. That can really wear on you. Isn’t it time to take a good, hard look at the way you’ve been doing things, explore why you have made these choices, and perhaps consider alternatives? I get it. Change is uncomfortable. But the results on the other side of this work (especially when born of your very own new and improved outlook) will be ama...
E22 - How To Be A Good Mom
August 27, 2020 09:00 - 30 minutes - 43.7 MBHey there, mom! I have a little something especially for you today. I know you are tired and stretched thin from trying to please everyone all of the time. That can really wear on you. Isn’t it time to take a good, hard look at the way you’ve been doing things, explore why you have made these choices, and perhaps consider alternatives? I get it. Change is uncomfortable. But the results on the other side of this work (especially when born of your very own new and improved outlook) will be ama...
21. What Do You Think They'll Think? People Pleasing 101
August 20, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 45.5 MBWe are going to dive in to one of my favorite topics: people pleasing! I continue to be fascinated by all of the worry, stress, and anxiety we bring on ourselves when concerned about what other people think. There’s a valid reason why we do this, though. You’re not doing this life any differently than most other humans. However, there’s a way to approach this with mindful awareness which is a much better alternative than constantly stressing over trying to become a mind reader. To be clear...
E21 - What Do You Think They'll Think? People Pleasing 101
August 20, 2020 09:00 - 28 minutes - 41 MBWe are going to dive in to one of my favorite topics: people pleasing! I continue to be fascinated by all of the worry, stress, and anxiety we bring on ourselves when concerned about what other people think. There’s a valid reason why we do this, though. You’re not doing this life any differently than most other humans. However, there’s a way to approach this with mindful awareness which is a much better alternative than constantly stressing over trying to become a mind reader. To be clear...
E20 - The Power Of Belief And Binary Mindset
August 13, 2020 09:00 - 23 minutes - 33.4 MBOur beliefs are very powerful. They can either hold us back or propel us forward. Applying a binary mindset on top of those beliefs can send us into the space of right and wrong, this or that. Only two options. I want you to know there are truly endless options available to you. Whatever beliefs you hold, you can certainly keep them if they are serving you. But consider other ways your life experience could open if you release all or nothing thinking for just a few moments and explore. Vis...