KickStart Your Edge: Play to Win Leadership

Episode 335: It Takes Confidence to Fail

August 29, 2022 13:00 - 7 minutes - 13.5 MB

The more you are willing to fail, the more confidence you have. It takes confidence to take risks. Confidence that you can handle the failure. Confidence that you can grow and go. Confidence that you are not your outcomes.

Episode 334: Failing Your Way to Success

August 22, 2022 13:00

To get to where you are capable of going there will be failure all along the way. Thank goodness! The more failure, the more we put ourselves out there. Own it, embrace it and aim for it….yes, aim for failure. The only way is through. Success is on the other side.

Episode 333: Does Quitting Mean Failing?

August 15, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 12 MB

Just because you quit does that mean you failed? There’s a saying: smart people quit. If you decide that you are done with something – you have to determine whether you like your reason. Your reason is the difference between making a decision or feeling bad about not following through

Episode 332: What does Failure Feel Like?

August 08, 2022 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.8 MB

We aren’t afraid of failing. We are afraid of what failing feels like. You create your reality by what you think about the results you produce. Once you know you can handle disappointment, discouragement, sadness, etc. you have cracked the code on achieving whatever the hell you want in life.

Episode 331: What’s Your Relationship with Failure?

August 01, 2022 13:00 - 8 minutes - 16.3 MB

Your mindset about failure determines your relationship with it. What does failure mean to you? How do you interact with failure? Where do you avoid it? Where do you gravitate to it? You get to determine what you want your relationship with failure to be.

Episode 330: Break the rules

July 25, 2022 13:00 - 9 minutes - 18.1 MB

“This game is rigged. And it does not reward people who play by the rules. You either got to stand in the corner or get in the ring.” Ramona, from Hustlers. What rules do you need to let go of so your game isn’t rigged? Find the ones that work FOR you vs. the ones your parents, society, etc. say you should follow. It’s time to get in the ring.

Episode 329: Why we fall.

July 18, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 12.5 MB

“Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves back up.” Batman got this one right. Are you willing to stumble, trip and fall to really get to know what you are made of? This is what life is all about because falling isn’t the same as failing.

Episode 328: If it makes you happy, then why are you so sad?

July 11, 2022 13:00 - 6 minutes - 11.7 MB

“If it makes you happy, then why are you so sad?” Sheryl Crow’s documentary Sheryl shares how even though Sheryl sold millions of records it didn’t necessarily make her happy. More times than not, people imagine once they get to a “destination” then they’ll be happy. Get out of the milestone moments and start to focus on what really matters.

Episode 327: I don’t need easy. I just need possible.

July 05, 2022 14:34 - 10 minutes - 19.8 MB

“I don’t need easy, I just need possible.” Ninja Warrior contestant. Self-inflicted limitations will often get in our way. The question is, are you willing to open the door to possibility even when it isn’t going to be easy?

Episode 326: Stop Chasing Happy

June 27, 2022 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.1 MB

Guess what? You have the power to choose happy. Listen to how it’s possible to just make that decision for yourself in this episode. Forget yesterday. It’s okay that you weren’t happy yesterday. You can be somebody different today. It can change in a moment—and you don’t need a plan. What can you decide now about yourself?

Episode 325: All-Purpose Decision Making

June 20, 2022 13:00 - 7 minutes - 13.4 MB

What does Formula 409 have to do with decision making? Find out in this episode where we’re talking about taking action—flippin’ trying stuff and maybe even failing!—versus that ugly ass habit of overthinking (you know, the thing that’s keeping you from living your best life). Here’s a hint: make the decision, THEN make the decision right.

Episode 324: Decision Making: The Rabbit Hole

June 13, 2022 13:00 - 8 minutes - 15.7 MB

Are you going to take the red pill or the blue pill? Jenn finally figures out the Matrix – and she’s staying in Wonderland. WTF? Well, this episode is about how decision making says so much about you and what could be in your life. You can change IF you’re willing. P.S. If you’re late to the Matrix party, there’s a spoiler in here.

Episode 323: Decision Making: On the fence?

June 06, 2022 13:00 - 7 minutes - 14 MB

One of us bought a house in twenty minutes because that’s just how she rolls. Not everybody can make that decision—sometimes we hang out on the fence, asking ourselves questions that keep us there—self-sabotage much? In this episode, we’re talking about putting decisions in perspective and what’s getting in the way.

Episode 322: T-FAR and Self-Love

May 30, 2022 13:00 - 14 minutes - 26.8 MB

In this mind-bending episode, we’re talking about how your thoughts dictate your relationship with your past. Think T-FAR™: Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings create your actions, and your actions create your results. When you change a thought about your past, it can change your whole relationship with something that happened. What could that mean for you moving forward?

Episode 321: Self-Love: Perspective Check!

May 23, 2022 13:00 - 9 minutes - 18.5 MB

Zoom out! In this great big world, what are you focused on? Are you making things happen or are you spending way too much time on what other people think (not to mention your inner critic)? In this episode, we’re going to show you how to take a helicopter view for a new perspective on your own life and your place on this spinning ball hurtling through space.

Episode 320: Self-Love: A Moving Target

May 16, 2022 13:00 - 9 minutes - 18.1 MB

Life hack: start loving your life! We’re going further down the road of self-love and sharing insight into loving yourself. Nope, it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. It can feel like a stinking pile of sh*t. But how can we take things that happen to us and give them meaning and learn from them? Listen in … especially carefully toward the end and see if the final question in this episode doesn’t spark a big aha moment.

Episode 319: Questioning Self-Love

May 09, 2022 21:09 - 7 minutes - 13.9 MB

Eat the f-ckin cookie or don’t … We’re returning to the concept of self-love in this episode and putting the hard press on self-love. Is it serving you and your clients or keeping you stuck? It’s not the same for everyone we’re ready to call it out. We’re going to show you what it looks like when self-love sabotages your goals.

Episode 318: The Obscure Concept of Self-Love

May 02, 2022 13:00 - 8 minutes - 15.7 MB

Which one of us do you think readily admits she would date herself if possible? Listen to this episode on self-love and you’ll find out. More importantly, you’ll hear us dig into how we might define self-love. It turns out, it’s a little murky and self-love is not always a good thing. We want to know how your relationship with yourself compares with the relationship you want to have with yourself (and what’s getting in the way).

Episode 317: Unfu*k Yourself: Perspective

April 25, 2022 13:00 - 11 minutes - 21.4 MB

Your entire life is nothing more than your personal experience of it. An angle. A way of looking at your life that became much more than just a simple viewpoint. It became an excuse for why you keep falling into the same destructive patterns. But it doesn’t have to be.

Episode 316: Unfu*k Yourself: You are Your Own Con Artist

April 18, 2022 13:00 - 8 minutes - 16.3 MB

Who’s scamming who? What makes self-reflection challenging is that you’re both the con artist and the one being conned. Whoa…where are we pulling the wool over our own eyes? Jenn and Karen talk about how we are 100% in control of setting ourselves up for success.

Episode 315: Unfu*k Yourself: Pick Your Battle

April 11, 2022 13:00 - 10 minutes - 18.9 MB

Choose. What are you going to fight for? The past or the future? Your self-sabotaging BS or long-awaited freedom? All of your past is based on how you currently think about the past. Jenn and Karen talk about how your self-sabotaging is just trying to get the pain over with all because you told yourself stories about who you think you are.

Episode 314: Unfu*k Yourself: Still Stuck?

April 04, 2022 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.5 MB

If you know why you’re stuck and you’re still stuck, that ain’t it. Jenn and Karen take a page from Gary John Bishop’s Unfu*k Yourself calendar and talk about if you know why and aren’t taking action ... what is the thing behind the thing?

Episode 313: Emotional Expression: Calm the F- Down

March 28, 2022 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.5 MB

Calm the F- down! Actually, we’re too zen in this episode to yell at you. We’re wrapping up our month on the emotional intelligence skill of emotional expression by talking about how to find your sense of calm despite what might be swirling around you. What other emotions make up calm? We want to inspire you to find what works for you to get you to that place. Let’s get the right questions and observations going.

Episode 312: Emotional Expression: Challenging Fear

March 21, 2022 13:00 - 11 minutes - 21.7 MB

As we continue down the Yellow Brick Road of emotional expression, we run right into fear, uncertainty and doubt, oh my! In this episode, we’re talking about how to challenge fear and uncertainty, and consider whether we’re feeding or fighting these emotions. We’ve got some aha moments in here if you have trouble articulating your fear and limit your opportunities. If this is you, or you’re a coach guiding your clients through fear, you need to listen to this.

Episode 311: Emotional Expression: Confidence Building

March 14, 2022 14:00 - 11 minutes - 20.9 MB

Bad pun alert (you’ve been warned)! Let’s amp our confidence this week. Confidence is one of our favorite aspects of emotional expression and it’s the emotional intelligence skill we’re focusing on all month. How do you get more of it? Listen up and learn about the emotions that make up confidence and ask yourself what resonates and what you might do differently. And don’t forget to listen to episode 310!

Episode 310: Emotional Expression: Turn up the Bold

March 07, 2022 14:00 - 11 minutes - 21.7 MB

What does a song played on the ukulele have to do with emotional expression? And why are we so pumped to be talking about it? In this four-part series of episodes, we’re putting our J&K spin on the emotional intelligence skill of emotional expression. This time around, we’re talking specifically about what it means to be bold. Listen in and try to tune into what feelings come up for you around boldness.

Episode 309: Assertiveness: B-E Assertive

February 28, 2022 14:00 - 9 minutes - 18.7 MB

Don’t worry! It doesn’t have to happen overnight, but you CAN learn to be assertive (or more assertive). This episode is devoted (not hopelessly) to developing more of this important EQ skill. We’re sharing some very real and very doable tips for using your voice in growing your assertiveness. Remember to start small, and realize your boundaries and opinions are important to you. They deserve airtime.

Episode 308: Assertiveness: People Pleasing

February 21, 2022 14:00 - 10 minutes - 19.7 MB

Saying “yes” when you want to say “no”? What’s that all about? Are you still putting other people’s needs above your own? Are you worried about what they might think? In this latest episode about the emotional intelligence skill of assertiveness, we’re talking about why people pleasers give their power away. Of course, we wrap with a series of questions for you (or your clients) to wrap your head around your relationship with assertiveness.

Episode 307: Assertiveness: Respecting Yourself

February 14, 2022 14:00 - 11 minutes - 22.2 MB

Turns out when you’re part of a team, respecting yourself is part of respecting your team. It’s all part of the emotional intelligence skill of assertiveness, because being able to express yourself and being clear about what you want is your contribution. Listen in and get more comfortable with “going there” and even making a few mistakes along the way. R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Find out what it means to me.

Episode 306: Assertiveness: Walking the Fine Line

February 07, 2022 14:00 - 8 minutes - 16.1 MB

How do you strike a balance between sharing your thoughts and not coming off like an arrogant ass? How fine a line is it? We’re talking assertiveness, people. This emotional intelligence skill shows up in good, bad, and ugly ways at home and in the workplace. Where do you fall on the continuum? In this episode, we’ll conclude with a fun little exercise to help you explore this concept. Here’s the EQ-i Certification link again: kickstartyouredge.com/eqi

Episode 305: Self-Actualization: Impossible Goals

January 31, 2022 14:00 - 12 minutes - 24.2 MB

Go ahead… fail! And fail like a champ! Try it. Don’t take the results personally, and figure it out. The more willing you are to fail, the more likely you are to achieve your “impossible goal.” We’re going new places in this episode, exploring the emotional intelligence skill of self-actualization. Lots of ahas to take in, to help you manage the mindset around failure. And of course … a story that’ll bring it all together.

Episode 304: Self-Actualization: Hold the Cheese, Pass the Commitment

January 24, 2022 14:00 - 10 minutes - 19.2 MB

Just rollin’ on by the cheese shop for the win! In this episode, we’re talking about taking the kind of approach to our goals that kicks obstacles to the curb. It’s about being connected, making decisions, and holding to them. Despite the craving, it’s about commitment and taking action. We share a couple of fun stories … and a totally cheesy example to illustrate our point.

Episode 303: Self-Actualization: Identity-Based Habits

January 17, 2022 14:00 - 10 minutes - 20.6 MB

Shout out to James Clear and his book Atomic Habits (and members of our Inner Circle) for inspiring this week’s episode. We’re talking about identity-based habits, the skills, and the mindset needed to achieve what we really want. We promise it’ll be enlightening. If you’ve already scrapped this year’s resolution, listen in and you’ll probably learn why.

Episode 302: Self-Actualization and the Devil’s Skateboard

January 10, 2022 14:00 - 14 minutes - 26.7 MB

What does the Ab Dolly have to do with Self-Actualization? You’ll see. It’s time to grow and strive. So, this week, we’re talking about how fulfillment means different things for different people. Yep… we’re all over the place. You’ll hear about what goal setting looks like for us personally, and we’ll give you some emotional intelligence snacks to nibble on… like being able to recognize the emotions tied to your goals (because that’s what they’re all about).

Episode 301: Self-Actualization: It’s Not Just Checking Boxes

January 03, 2022 14:00 - 7 minutes - 15 MB

Holy cow, it’s 2022! New year, new you? Ugh, that sounds sooo cliché. Even more cliché are “resolutions” (got some?). Instead, in this episode, we’re talking about setting goals and the emotional intelligence skill of self-actualization. When we look at goals, we need to separate the “should” from the “wants.” As a coach, what questions are you asking yourself and your clients? We’ve got some good ones. Listen up.

Episode 250: Reflecting on 2021: Lessons Learned

December 27, 2021 14:00 - 12 minutes - 22.8 MB

Let’s wrap this up! Before we close the door on 2021, we’re asking some key questions for reflection on the year that was. Play along, Coach. In this episode, we’re talking about our lessons learned as the pandemic stuck around and impacted everyone’s lives. There’s some big insight wrapped up in here. And yes, we confirmed we like Zoom (it’s great), but in-person (real people!) is better.

Episode 249: Stress Tolerance: Butter Cookies or Bust

December 20, 2021 14:00 - 8 minutes - 16.5 MB

Feeling a little tense with all the expectations around the holidays and the end of the year? Let’s put the focus where it should be and watch what happens to your stress. In this episode, we’re talking about honoring our values, traditions, and maybe flipping the script on those situations which tend to make us tumble down holiday stress mountain. Hint: It’s all about perspective and thinking about why you’re really making the cookies.

Episode 248: Stress Tolerance: It’s What You’re Thinking

December 13, 2021 14:00 - 8 minutes - 16.2 MB

Yep. It’s your thoughts. That crap swirling around in your head is what’s dictating your stress level. Even though you really want to blame the thing, the person, the timing… it’s not the situation at fault. In this episode, we’re showing you what YOU can control. We’re connecting the emotional intelligence skill of stress tolerance with what you’re thinking so you can improve your relationship with stress.

Episode 247: Stress Tolerance: Navigating the Holiday Waters

December 06, 2021 14:00 - 8 minutes - 16.5 MB

Holidays … they always bring out our best, right? Family, friends, food, and lots of plans … They can make a hella-good time or a whole big ball of angst. How do you navigate the waters? In this episode, we’re talking about the emotional skill needed to surf the waves of stress instead of avoiding them altogether. Hang ten, Coach. You got this. P.S. Thank you, Kenya!

Episode 246: Impulse Control: What does this say about me?

November 29, 2021 14:00 - 12 minutes - 23.9 MB

Time to play along … grab a notepad (yeah … we totally still use them). It’s self-eval time, coach! We’re focusing on your impulse control. Don’t worry, we’re not judging. This is all about you. Karen is our Cosmo quizmaster. P.S. Could you buy the crocodile boots? Would you toss the toaster? Listen up.

Episode 245: Impulse Control: Just One Piece of the Puzzle

November 22, 2021 14:00 - 11 minutes - 21.1 MB

It’s easier to get a clear picture of the puzzle when the emotional intelligence pieces come together. In this episode, we’re talking about the connection between impulse control, assertiveness, and flexibility. We’ll give you examples of how the highs and lows in these skill areas impact each other. Then, as coaches, we can see what needs to be amped up or tamped down. Totally eye-opening. Here’s that link Jenn shares at the end: https://kickstartyouredge.com/eqi

Episode 244: Impulse Control: The Power of the Pause

November 15, 2021 14:00 - 13 minutes - 25.9 MB

You wanna call the shots? Take a moment… a breath… a pause. The impulse control convo keeps going in this episode with the Power of the Pause. That’s right. It’s all about the magic between the stimulus and the response. The control, the freedom in how you respond to a trigger is all on you. So how do you coach someone to use the power of the pause? Listen up.

Episode 243: Impulse Control: Bring It On

November 08, 2021 14:00 - 16 minutes - 30.6 MB

Let’s do it! Add to cart. Bring it on. IF it’s high reward, low aggravation. Otherwise, don’t. We’re dissecting Karen’s impulse control (and her lack of it in many cases). In this episode, we’re looking at how impulse control is driven by emotions. Why does it show up in some places and not others? Let’s have a look at why that’s important and how we should be coaching around it.

Episode 242: Impulse Control: Why & When it Matters

November 01, 2021 13:00 - 10 minutes - 19.4 MB

Can’t NOT say something? Got no filter? Do you need one? This episode is all about the emotional intelligence skill of impulse control. And what you’ll learn is that there is a Grand Canyon-like range of results here. Sometimes high impulse control is a good thing, sometimes it’s not. You’ll see how it plays into decision making, big risks, getting stuck, and some serious regret.

Episode 241: Problem Solving: An EQ 4-Step Process

October 25, 2021 13:00 - 13 minutes - 25.8 MB

As promised, coach, we’re comin’ at you with our four-step emotional intelligence process when it comes to problem-solving. Yes! It’s like a roadmap! We’re going to walk you through these steps with a few examples so you can think about how you would coach around it. Reminder to check our EQ-i certification course starting Nov. 4. https://kickstartyouredge.com/eqi

Episode 240: Problem Solving: Emotions Aside

October 18, 2021 13:00 - 12 minutes - 23.4 MB

Emotions getting in the way of understanding the real problem? Think about it… which “problems” are you working on that don’t have emotions tied to them? Aha! So what to do, coach? Here’s another emotional intelligence wake-up call. In this episode, we’re talking about separating the emotions and getting real about what’s triggering them. Learn more about our virtual EQ-i 2.0 certification course starting Nov. 4: https://kickstartyouredge.com/eqi

Episode 239: Coaches: Back Up Your EQ Talk

October 11, 2021 13:43 - 11 minutes - 21.5 MB

Did you know EQ (emotional intelligence) is four times more powerful than IQ in predicting workplace success? Shut the front door! Yep… it’s the skillset that gets you understanding your emotions and your behavior, and EQ is what helps you understand the impact of your emotions on those around you. Top organizations need it, and YOU should be coaching it. In this episode, we’re talking about why you should be EQ-i 2.0 certified. Learn more here: https://kickstartyouredge.com/eqi

Episode 238: Critical Coaching Insight: TTBTT

October 04, 2021 14:03 - 28 minutes - 51.9 MB

Coaches! Getting to The Thing Behind the Thing (TTBTT) is critical. Unearthing whatever the THING is – not the story – not the “wants” and “ifs” –will deliver the kind of change your clients need. This episode is the audio from our recent Facebook Live. It’s a bit longer than usual but hang with it, there’s so much insight to be had.

Episode 237: Reality Testing: Embrace the true you

September 27, 2021 13:00 - 11 minutes - 21.1 MB

No, you can’t do it all … well. There’s some reality we all can stand to wrap our heads around. Highly developed emotional intelligence means we understand how we show up in the world – where we shine and where we could use a little polish. We’re looking at another side of reality testing in this episode … looking at the reality of our strengths and weaknesses as a coach. Want to know more about EQ-I 2.0 certification? Go to kickstartyouredge.com/eqi

Episode 236: Reality Testing: Check yourself …

September 20, 2021 13:00 - 8 minutes - 15.2 MB

When you’re pissed and ready to go off! … How do you check yourself before you wreck yourself (as the nineties kids might say)? In this episode, we’ve got a question exercise for you coaches that will absolutely help you or your clients who might be frustrated or triggered. This is about walking through reactions objectively. And it’s all about emotions, people. Here’s that link to EQ-i 2.0 certification happening in November: kickstartyouredge.com/eqi

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