KickStart Your Edge: Play to Win Leadership
198 episodes - English - Latest episode: about 15 hours ago - ★★★★★ - 15 ratingsThe KickStart Your Edge Play to Win Leadership Podcast is where we’ve flipped the script with our groundbreaking modus operandi to bring you real, relevant, relatable tactics and techniques to master your Play to Win mindset. Whether you are leading yourself, leading others, or leading the business, your mindset makes or breaks you. Talk about a superpower; it’s time to iron your cape! Welcome to the Edge, where playing not to lose is not an option.
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Episode 235: Reality Testing: What’s really happening here?
September 13, 2021 13:00 - 10 minutes - 18.9 MBWant to boost your reality testing skills? This is a crucial piece of your emotional intelligence AND, as a coach, in guiding your clients to putting the brakes on when it comes to fantasy instead of reality. In this episode, we’re talking about our ability to see what’s really happening around us … ahem ... objectively. We’ve got questions to help you gauge where you are on the scale of make-believe to fact. Want to know more about EQ-I 2.0 certification? Go to kickstartyouredge.com/eqi
Episode 234: Optimism: The Stress Link
August 30, 2021 13:00 - 7 minutes - 15 MBFeeling stressed? Did you know the emotional intelligence skill of Optimism plays a key role in that? … along with your Flexibility and Stress Tolerance? In this episode, we’re talking about how your thoughts contribute to your optimism or your pessimism. And it all wraps up with a deep question you need to ponder as a coach. Join us Fridays at noon ET for our Facebook Live in our group.
Episode 233: Optimism: The Confidence Builder
August 23, 2021 13:00 - 7 minutes - 14.1 MBHey … can you handle it? As a coach, can you let go of your agenda so you can be in the moment with your client? Releasing yourself from the outcome as a coach is an indication that you’re confident in your abilities. Get there by using your emotional intelligence and your optimism. It will open up the possibilities in your coaching. Bonus alert: Jenn also shares her go-to question when she gets to tough places with a client.
Episode 232: Optimism: F- the How
August 16, 2021 13:00 - 11 minutes - 21.7 MBYou might be surprised what Karen had as her ringtone back in the day. Take a listen. Not only will you learn what that tune is, you’ll also learn about the concept: “F- the HOW.” Karen tells her story about achieving her goal of Police Chief despite not knowing HOW in the beginning. As a coach, are you aware when your clients are stuck in the HOW? Our Facebook Group Our free coaching series
Episode 231: Optimism: The Groove vs. the Rut
August 09, 2021 13:00 - 8 minutes - 16.5 MBDoo doo doo doo doo feelin’ groovy! Picking up where we left off last time, we’re digging into the emotional intelligence skill of Optimism by breaking down the difference between being in a groove and being in a rut. And in our coaching, there’s a fine line between the two. Optimism is a key to keeping in flow and staying inspired. Here’s where you can register for our free Holy Sh*t master coaching series.
Episode 230: Optimism: Where are the Unicorns?
August 02, 2021 13:59 - 9 minutes - 17.9 MBWhere have all the unicorns gone? Spoiler alert: Optimism (the focus of this episode) is more than unicorns and rainbows. It’s a choice that doesn’t let the “what ifs” cloud your vision. And it isn’t about fake positivity. We’re connecting optimism and Playing to Win. How does optimism show up in your coaching? Jenn mentioned our email list with our awesome free download. It’s here. And you can register for our free master coaching series here.
Episode 229: Social Responsibility: The Development Trio
July 26, 2021 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.4 MBTime to put the exclamation point on the topic of social responsibility for this month, coaches and friends. Are you connecting the dots for your clients when it comes to social responsibility? It’s about committing to setting specific goals, building relationships, and caring for others. In this episode, we’re focused on increasing our social responsibility through the EQ-i 2.0 subscales of self-actualization, interpersonal relationships, and empathy. The ripple effect continues.
Episode 228: Social Responsibility: The Lady Di Phenomenon
July 19, 2021 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.7 MBWhat could the late Princess of Wales have taught you as a coach? Why was the world so touched by someone who could have been seen as having it all? Well, she rocked social responsibility. This episode is about how you can develop the social responsibility aspect of your emotional intelligence with tips on how to use the power of observation, how to learn from others who care, how to use great questions, and how to take action.
Episode 227: Social Responsibility: The Treadmill Rule
July 12, 2021 13:00 - 11 minutes - 20.7 MBIt’s important to remember, as coaches, that social responsibility is not just about “charity.” Social responsibility-- whether at home, on the playground, around the conference table, at the food pantry, OR at the gym-- means caring about the welfare of other people. It’s a sign you’ve tapped into the superpower that is emotional intelligence. In this episode, Jenn shares a recent story about an experience on the treadmill that illustrates the concept in a way you might not expect.
Episode 226: Social Responsibility: The Ripple Effect
July 05, 2021 13:00 - 7 minutes - 14.8 MBAs coaches, are we asking our clients to think beyond themselves? Are we asking ourselves to do the same? Do we look to the greater good? Does social responsibility feel inconvenient? In this episode, we’re getting real around the concept of social responsibility. It’s the aspect of emotional intelligence asking us to understand the impact of our actions on our team, our company, and society as a whole … the ripple effect.
Episode 225: The password is … Empathy
June 28, 2021 13:00 - 11 minutes - 21.5 MBEmpathy. Stop the sad conga line. It’s not a pity party. It’s about acknowledgment, understanding, and expression. In this episode, we break it down by sharing insights from a coaching perspective. We share where empathy can be a game-changer in relationships at home and at work. And guess what? You can develop empathy! We wrap up with a bunch of great coaching questions ready to go!
Episode 224: Insights from the Amazing Intern
June 21, 2021 13:00 - 10 minutes - 19.2 MBWe pulled even more amazing insight from Karen’s niece Jacqueline who is wrapping up her time with KickStart Your Edge. Jacqueline shares more about what the EQ-i 2.0 assessment of emotional intelligence has brought to light for her. She has a new perspective now on relationships—most importantly—with herself (despite being only 17!). Then … dun dun dun … we ask her what she’s going to work on moving forward. This is super insightful stuff no matter how old you are.
Episode 223: A Bit About T-FAR
June 14, 2021 13:00 - 10 minutes - 20.2 MBKaren’s niece Jacqueline is back! She’s sharing more of the insight she’s taking away from working with KickStart Your Edge--T-FAR in particular. Jacqueline thinks everyone in the world needs to know this stuff! Why? T-FAR (your thoughts, feelings, actions, and results) is the foundation for how we run our lives—good and bad. Jacqueline walks us through her understanding of it with her real-life example. And we break it down … you know … like coaches do.
Episode 222: Your Brain: Left vs. Right
June 07, 2021 13:00 - 12 minutes - 23.9 MBLeft brain. Right brain. Structure and common sense vs. creativity and big picture. With our special guest (and Karen’s niece) Jacqueline, we’re talking about understanding left vs. right, where our strengths lie, and how to exercise the “other side.” We’ll also share how relying too much on one side of the noggin can keep taking you down a bad path and why there’s a huge benefit to coming at tough situations with the WHOLE brain.
Episode 221: Interpersonal Relationships: One Size Fits None
May 31, 2021 13:00 - 7 minutes - 14.7 MBPulling the right emotional intelligence strings when it comes to Interpersonal Relationships is not a one-size-fits-all operation. You’ve got to size up the who and the what… and a host of other w’s before fitting the situation with the best EQ subscale for the job. In this episode, Jenn poses a question and Karen’s answer provides great insight into the interplay of all elements of EQ with examples instead of textbook definitions.
Episode 220: Interpersonal Relationships: Keeping it Light
May 24, 2021 13:00 - 10 minutes - 18.8 MBA simple message on a greeting card is what kicks off this episode on Interpersonal Relationships. We’re talking about how our personal relationship is based on fun and how we show up. We don’t take ourselves too seriously and we don’t live in fear. What fun is that? Listen and ask yourself whether you could give that card to someone and how your emotional intelligence could impact your answer.
Episode 219: Interpersonal Relationships: Inspiring Better Connection
May 17, 2021 13:00 - 10 minutes - 19.7 MBHey Rockstar! Relationships are all about how you make someone feel. And as it turns out, making someone feel special strengthens relationships (you don’t say?!). But what does that look like? In this episode, Jenn shares a story about Karen’s crazy strong ability to make people feel connected and inspired with some seriously high emotional intelligence).
Episode 218: Interpersonal Relationships: What Makes Us Work?
May 10, 2021 13:00 - 16 minutes - 30.7 MBWhat is it like for us to work together and be married? What makes it work? Nope … magic ain’t it. We keep intentions top of mind. We divide and conquer based on our strengths. We embrace the ebb and flow. This episode puts emotional intelligence (Interpersonal Relationships) under the microscope with our real life as the sample.
Episode 217: Interpersonal Relationships: Going Deep into Connection
May 03, 2021 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.3 MBCannonball!!! We’re heading back into the deep end of the Emotional Intelligence pool, talking about how to coach around Interpersonal Relationships. It’s time. People need deeper connection beyond Zoom. In this episode, we have key questions for you as a person and a coach.
Episode 216: Accountability: When it Goes AWOL
April 26, 2021 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.6 MBWhat gets in the way of the results you want? When it comes to accountability, it might be the big “E” word (excuses), confusion, and other B.S. In this episode, Jenn and Karen talk about why and how commitment and accountability get replaced by all this B.S. and put the kibosh on high-performing teams. Learn how to work through this, and coach our clients and teams around accountability when it goes AWOL.
Episode 215: Accountability: The 6 Parts of Intrinsic Motivation
April 19, 2021 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.3 MBWhat do IKEA cabinets have to do with accountability? Well … it’s about the tools, people. Got your Allen wrench handy? Listen up coaches, in this episode, Jenn and Karen walk through (although we might say run) the pieces of accountability. This is going to be a framework (ooooh sounds serious) for accountability with teams. And if we want to get tactical, it sets up your checklist. And in the end, remember … “If it is to be, it’s up to me!” (*Insert eyeroll)
Episode 214: Accountability: Redefining the concept
April 12, 2021 13:00 - 10 minutes - 19.3 MBWhat does accountability mean to you? To your team? What does it even mean? As Karen will tell you, the dictionary falls flat on its face when defining accountability. But have no fear! In this episode, Jenn and Karen fill in the blanks, giving the concept great coaching context and beyond. Accountability is tied to relationships, alignment, and expectations. Listen in and try to get beyond Jenn’s knock-knock joke.
Episode 213: Accountability: The Unwritten Requirement
April 05, 2021 13:00 - 8 minutes - 15.9 MBReady to hold up your end of the bargain, people? Accountability is that unwritten part of every job description (and we’re talking at work and at home). It’s the part that has a hella-impact on results. Every. Single. Time. In this first in a month-long series, Jenn and Karen peel back the layers of accountability and pose some great questions for yourself, your clients, your team, and your coaching. Here’s a hint: it starts with you!
Episode 212: Commitment: The Six-Step Process
March 29, 2021 13:00 - 7 minutes - 14.3 MBJenn and Karen put the smackdown on Commitment in this last episode of the month. Grab your notebook, because this one’s got some serious gems (FYI, Karen hates the word nuggets). Learn how to get more commitment out of your intentions. Jenn and Karen both share their three questions (or together, their “six-step process”) to test commitment. And Karen’s got a story about how those questions worked for one of her clients … priceless.
Episode 211: Commitment: The Test of Intentions
March 22, 2021 13:00 - 6 minutes - 12.2 MBAre you just wishing for stuff? Depends. Do you put any action behind your intentions? When you say you’re going to do stuff … are you following through? Really? There’s a price to pay for intention without commitment. In this episode, Jenn and Karen go deep with the help of words from meditation expert davidji. Listen in, then listen to davidji, then ask yourself if your “I’m going to” today is going to turn into “I was gonna” … tomorrow?
Episode 210: Commitment: Are you the chicken or the pig?
March 15, 2021 13:00 - 7 minutes - 14.4 MBAre you involved or are you committed? Are you the chicken or the pig? Ahhhhh … there’s the riddle. Tune into this episode and you’ll see what we mean. Karen and Jenn talk about the levels of commitment and how to look at where you’re putting your energy. It’s not about good or bad. It turns out it’s really about what’s meant to fit. It’s time to ask ourselves why we say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ to things in our life.
Episode 209: Commitment: Is it OK to drop the ball?
March 08, 2021 14:00 - 8 minutes - 16.1 MBJenn and Karen wrestle with the concept of commitment in this episode (it’s not quite clear who wins the match). They ponder whether they’re rationalizing their own decision to skip recording an episode last week. Try not to laugh! Plus, they break down the real definition of commitment which should make total sense to coaches. And (yes!), they provide a spot-on interpretation of Alanis Morissette’s 1996 hit, Ironic.
Episode 208: You Can Do Hard Things: Acceptance
February 22, 2021 14:00 - 7 minutes - 14.1 MBThere are no shortcuts. Ugh … we said it. Sometimes it sucks. Doing hard things can wreak havoc on our emotions, and there’s a reason. We should do it. We say we want it. It’s frikkin’ hard. The hardest things are usually part of our big “why,” people. As coaches, we need to move our clients toward acceptance and understanding why it means so much to them. We’re talking about moving them toward the mindset of the person who accomplishes their goals.
Episode 207: You Can Do Hard Things: Your Fuel
February 15, 2021 14:00 - 7 minutes - 14.6 MBWe continue down our path to accomplishing hard things – they just keep coming! Yeah, it turns out life is full of them. So, what do you do, Coach? What do you tell your clients to do? Your most powerful force is your emotions. Use them to fuel you! In this episode, we’re talking about just that—digging into how to adjust your mindset from fear to excitement and embracing the challenge (or “the suck”), and taking action.
Episode 206: You Can Do Hard Things: The Hack
February 08, 2021 14:00 - 8 minutes - 16.3 MBEver coach someone who just never seems able to push through when things get tricky? Or are you the one who’s backing down when the going gets tough? In this episode, we share a very real tip on how to stretch yourself. It’s actually about surrounding yourself with the right people. The ones that have been there, done that, and how that plays into your goals. Sometimes when looking for that transformation, it helps to look outward to look inward. Trippy, but true.
Episode 205: Hard Things -The Realization
February 01, 2021 14:00 - 6 minutes - 12.1 MBUgh… this is hard! In this episode, Karen tells a story (yeah!) about a realization she had while out for a run … it’s about doing hard things. We want you to think about the thoughts and feelings that come up for you when … let’s say … the climb gets steeper … or the you-know-what hits the fan. Some people check out. Some people give in. Even we, as master coaches, need to get real and remind ourselves we can do hard things.
Episode 204: The Crux of Internal Conflict
January 25, 2021 14:00 - 8 minutes - 15.9 MBWhat’s really happening when you say you want something and it’s just not happening? Yeah, you know what we're talking about. When your actions don’t support that thing (that goal) you want … Spoiler alert! Internal Conflict is at play. Let’s take a look at that together, shall we? In this episode, we're looking at ways to combat your inner conflict (Tae-Bo anyone?). Stop being held back by your own damn self! Cue your internal Billy Blanks.
Episode 203: Updating Your Language Around Candor & Conflict
January 18, 2021 14:00 - 8 minutes - 16.1 MBOur discussion on radical candor takes another step into the deep with the help of the book Radical Conflict (all about being a “kick-ass boss”) by Kim Scott. You’re going to get real (fun) takeaways, including some new language for talking about honesty. Know this: Rocking the boat is a good thing. The homework question for this one will give you pause. Take it.
202: Getting Real About Radical Candor
January 11, 2021 14:00 - 7 minutes - 13.3 MBRadical candor isn’t about spewing honest digs with reckless abandon (e.g., “Your personality rivals a wet napkin”). And it isn’t an expression coined by Bill and Ted (although it’s totally excellent). So, what is it? Well, we’re breaking down radical candor in this episode and talking about its relationship to healthy conflict. Yeah … it goes there. Listen up, because you'll have a great question to ask yourself when the episode’s done.
160: A Doorway to Growth
January 04, 2021 18:52 - 7 minutes - 14.5 MBHere we go … Starting 2021 looking at the concept of conflict. Ewwww … Why? Sounds hard! Want to grow? Well, time to imagine what’s on the other side of that conversation you're avoiding. Let’s walk through it and try on a different perspective.
201: A Doorway to Growth
January 04, 2021 18:52 - 7 minutes - 14.5 MBHere we go … Starting 2021 looking at the concept of conflict. Ewwww … Why? Sounds hard! Want to grow? Well, time to imagine what’s on the other side of that conversation you're avoiding. Let’s walk through it and try on a different perspective.
159: The Trust Equation
December 28, 2020 14:00 - 8 minutes - 15.9 MBCalling all our math geeks! We’ve got an equation for you and the result is trust. Go figure! (Figure! Ha!) Anyway … here are the key pieces: credibility, reliability, intimacy, and self-orientation. We’re going to show you how it works with examples you can probably relate to. The equation comes from David Maister, author of The Trusted Advisor.
158: Two Different Kinds of Trust
December 21, 2020 14:00 - 7 minutes - 15.1 MBYou can’t just have one. Nope. To get you and your team rockin’ those results, you’ve got to have both practical and emotional trust. Guess which one requires the hard work? In this episode, we’re going to show you what you need to know about both to sow the seeds for growth. Tune in … build your trust.
157: Trust in Teams
December 14, 2020 14:00 - 8 minutes - 15.4 MBThink that team success comes from action and checking off the to-do list? Well, no. If there’s no trust, you’re going to crash and burn. You can’t just skip to results, you’ll have nothing to lean on. So, how do you create trust? Well, as we talk about in this episode, you’ve got to show up willing to be a bit vulnerable. We’ve got the questions to ask yourself (the real work) before you get to that other work.
156: The Importance of Trust
December 07, 2020 14:00 - 11 minutes - 22.3 MBA small, but mighty word. Trust is the foundation for everything: relationships at home, at work, wherever … if you don’t have it, you can forget long-term success. What are your expectations? What do you need? We’re going to get down to it in this episode … starting with you and what you need from yourself first. This is the first in our month-long series on trust.
155: Coaching Change in Relationships
November 30, 2020 14:00 - 8 minutes - 15.9 MBOK … You know by now you can’t change the other person, right? Because you know by now they’re not going to change (at least not because of something you said). So, what can you do? Drumroll … You can change! Ba-dum-pum. Oh yeah … you gotta focus on what YOU can control and what you can let go. As a coach, it’s about putting the spotlight on the person present, instead of the people in their story.
154: When You are Forced to Look at Tradition
November 23, 2020 18:55 - 8 minutes - 16.6 MBPar for the course, Thanksgiving 2020 is going to look and feel different. Shocker! We can see this in two different ways - either as a loss or as an opportunity to think about what we really value and what we WANT tradition to represent. Give it a listen ... you'll be thankful.
153: Stress Management: How Do You Handle … it?
November 09, 2020 14:00 - 13 minutes - 25.3 MBYou’re going to learn a lot about what makes us tick (you’re welcome!) … and it’ll help you understand your own behaviors, strengths, and weaknesses. We’re continuing our series on the major elements (composites) related to emotional intelligence by talking about the umbrella of Stress Management and sharing our high points on the EQ-i 2.0 assessment. We define, in real terms, the subscales: flexibility, stress tolerance, and optimism (we might throw in a wee bit of sarcasm too).
152: Decision Making: What’s Emotion Got to Do with It?
November 02, 2020 14:00 - 10 minutes - 20.5 MBWe’re baaaack … with problem-solving, reality testing, and impulse control –oh my! We’re talking about the Decision-Making composite of the EQ-i 2.0 model of emotional intelligence. We’re going to help you understand how emotions play a role in your decision making (say it isn’t so!), how you manage yourself, and how the subscales all play into each other.
151: Interpersonal: It’s Bigger Than You
October 26, 2020 13:00 - 8 minutes - 16.9 MBSo important right now: maintaining good relationships and connection! We’re moving on to breaking down the Interpersonal composite of the EQ-i 2.0 model of emotional intelligence. It’s all about interpersonal relationships, empathy, and social responsibility. These are your social go-to skills—kicking up your trust, compassion, and vulnerability meter. How’s your needle moving? Do you have a handle on what it all means? Do you know the difference between sympathy and empathy?
150: Self-Expression: Communicating Your Truth
October 19, 2020 13:00 - 11 minutes - 22.3 MBJust like Madonna said, “Express yourself.” You know, you know you’ve got to. Right? In this episode, we’re looking at the next composite on the EQ-i 2.0 model of emotional intelligence: Self-Expression. We also touch on the importance of not being a douche canoe (technical term). Self-expression builds off of self-perception (which we talked about in episode 149) for sure. It’s about your communication to others about the inner you broken down into emotional expressiveness, assertiveness, a...
149: Self-Perception: It’s All About You
October 12, 2020 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.2 MBBreak out your notebook and get scribblin’. In this series of episodes, we’re sharing the CliffsNotes (remember those?!) versions of the major elements of emotional intelligence (EQ), starting with Self-Perception. Of course, we’re starting with the one that’s all about YOU. We define self-perception (according to the EQ-i 2.0 model) and break down its parts: self-regard, self-actualization, and emotional self-awareness. How well do you know you?
148: EQ in a Nutshell
October 05, 2020 14:57 - 7 minutes - 14.6 MBEver have someone try to talk you out of your feelings? … “C’mon, don’t be angry.” Uh, what? Hey … emotions are some of the best data for understanding ourselves and others. Why would you want to put the kibosh on that?!! Let’s not gloss over this hidden gold mine. This episode sets the stage for getting our shovels out and digging into all the ins and outs of emotional intelligence (EQ) and coaching it. … Let’s recognize the impact of emotional intelligence because there’s no better time to...
147: Coaching Abundance
September 28, 2020 13:00 - 7 minutes - 14.3 MBDo some of your clients suffer from “lack” thinking? You know … looking at others with that green side-eye and wishing they had … X, Y, or Z? How do you coach around this? Get on the helicopter with us in this episode so we can take a … well … helicopter view of the situation. On the ride, we’re going to talk about some questions that’ll get your clients to think about what is at the root of their beliefs … Strap yourself in … and climb aboard.
146: An Abundance Mindset
September 21, 2020 13:00 - 9 minutes - 17.2 MBHere’s a great, free takeaway from this episode: “People who think abundant thoughts are going to have abundant lives.” So … what are your thoughts telling you? Uh oh! Shhhh … Listen up … because, in this episode, we’re breaking down what keeps people from having an abundance mindset. And, more importantly, we’re going to share advice on how to attract abundance. It’s easy really … and pretty damn rewarding … so much so you’ll feel like you struck oil.