The Unbreakable Boundaries Podcast
94 episodes - English - Latest episode: 6 months ago - ★★★★ - 3 ratingsSetting and defending boundaries is the difference between letting someone else run your life, or you getting the life you've always wanted. Through my experience of being in recovery of a severe drug addiction, and managing my codependency with toxic people, I have learned a thing or two about the importance of boundaries. Boundaries is something that is forever changing, growing, morphing, and something to keep a constant check up on. This podcast is your check-in for your own boundaries, and maybe even give you the strength and wisdom to set the boundaries you know you have been needing to set for yourself.
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#69 Reddit: What Was Dating In Recovery Like For You?
October 18, 2023 15:00 - 34 minutes - 23.9 MBAnother Reddit Story/Question. What was dating in recovery like for you?
#68: Reddit Story: AITA for refusing to forgive my drug addict BIL
September 27, 2023 17:00 - 39 minutes - 27.4 MBAnother Reddit Story for you. This one is AITA for refusing to forgive my drug addict BIL.
#67 Reddit Story: Parents of live-in adult children struggling with addiction - how do you cope?
September 21, 2023 15:00 - 29 minutes - 20.7 MBI share my perspective on how to cope with a loved one's addiction, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries.
#66 Real Conversations with Mothers and Daughters
May 02, 2023 12:00 - 2 hours - 84 MBWhat happens when mothers and daughters have to “adult” together? In this episode, My mom, Lynn Carnes and myself, along with another mother Christine Dickson and her daughter Lauren Martinson got together and talked about the challenges, the experiences, the memories, and some hard conversations we've experienced and how we navigated them, as well as the healing journey we've taken to mend, repair, grow, and thrive in our relationship with one another. We did something different with this ...
#65: Let's Talk About that Dirty Word Called SHAME
March 22, 2023 12:00 - 27 minutes - 19.2 MBAre you willing to dive into some of the things that are coming up for you in order to be the support person that your loved one needs?
#64 Caroline Holke: How to Deal with Resistance When We're Trying to Make Changes.
February 08, 2023 12:00 - 53 minutes - 36.6 MBCaroline Holke works with Type A, high performing women who drink more than they intend to sometimes. It wouldn't be classified as a drinking problem, but they have a problem with using it as a crutch and want to get their control back. They hire her to get rid of the shitty parts of drinking (and this doesn't necessarily mean all drinking) and this enables them to build a life that they enjoy so much that they don't want to numb out of it. Most people focus on what to DO to cut back on ...
#63: Chelsea Curtis: The Power of Sharing From the Heart
December 16, 2022 11:00 - 1 hour - 47.4 MBChelsea is a Narcotics Unit Paralegal Specialist with the U.S. Attorney's Office for the Eastern District of Virginia, and a member of Silent No More. Addiction has rattled just about every one of her family members, ultimately claiming the lives of her two oldest brothers Steven and Scott. Steven passed away from a heroin overdose in 2009 and Scott passed away from an overdose attributed to a mixture of Fentanyl and a new synthetic opioid called Isotonitrazene. Her stepdad passed away from ...
#62 Michel O'Hare: Breaking the Cycle
December 02, 2022 19:00 - 57 minutes - 39.6 MBMichel has lived through absolute hell and can smile on the other side of the abyss. Her life's work is to facilitate healing and to guide people back to the knowingness of their own inner strength and to not just survive, but to live their lives fully. Outline: What does it mean to live in absolute hell? At the time that you are experiencing this, what were some of the beliefs that you had about your life and why? The day she met her son’s father. Looking at the problem from different...
#61 Tanya D: Finding Peace in Recovery
November 11, 2022 14:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MBTanya D. is a Certified meditation instructor (C.MI™), Usui/Holy Fire® III Karuna Reiki® Master, Sound Vibrational Reiki Healing Practitioner, Animal Reiki practitioner, Certified spiritual life coach, and Yoga4Sobriety Teacher Ambassador / Student Liason. She uses her experience, strength, hope, intuition, and teacher trainings to help people find peace and serenity in recovery from addiction. In recovery herself, she offers a unique holistic approach to finding freedom in recovery throu...
#60: Freida Macdonald: You Gotta Know Hope
October 19, 2022 14:00 - 53 minutes - 36.7 MBKnow Hope North Carolina's mission is to remember those we have lost, support those in recovery and give hope to those still struggling. Create memorial banner and billboards with faces of those lost to addiction in NC. Refer clients to detox and treatment centers. Facilitate grief groups. Outline of Podcast Topics · The power of creating a space to honor your feelings in a safe way. 8:17 · Grief doesn’t always have to be a direct result of a loss. 15:24 · Don’t go down ...
#59: Tracy Redfearn: Finding Your Voice
October 19, 2022 14:00 - 1 hour - 45.7 MBIn this episode, Tracy and I get into a great conversation about what do kids need and how that translates later in life. Safety, Security, and Love are three important things and in that, creating a safe place to be heard and how important connection is. Tracy Redfearn is a Licensed Psychoeducational Specialist who is certified by the SC Board of Education as a School Psychologist II, the National Association of School Psychologists as a Nationally Certified School Psychologist, and the I...
#58 What to Expect When They Get Out of Rehab
October 07, 2022 10:00 - 48 minutes - 33.3 MBIt can be a really confusing time when your loved one gets out of rehab. It can be confusing for you as well as them. It's emotional, it's a little chaotic and not at all what you would expect it to look like. In this next podcast, I share a little bit about what you can expect. This is generalization, so if you have questions about your own loved one, please reach out to me. [email protected] maneelyconsulting.com
#57 Michele Rogers: A Mother's Pledge
September 19, 2022 18:00 - 1 hour - 52 MBIn this episode, Michele Rogers shares with us her journey of losing her son. This was a powerful conversation about what happens next as well as her experience. The biggest take away from this conversation is, this is not a parenting problem. Here is just a little of Michele's story and what she has to say: I grew up in Tidewater Virginia and later attended Saint Leo College in Florida. I had two sons, Clayton (1989) and Bradley (1992). When I divorced in 1996 I moved with my young sons ...
#56 Lisa Falbo: Facing Every Parent's Worst Nightmare
August 13, 2022 15:00 - 1 hour - 48.8 MBLisa grew up having a great family life with 3 brothers. She moved from Ohio to NC when she was twelve 12. She has two sons from first marriage and divorced after 9 years of marriage. Lisa raised her boys as a single mom and home schooled them until they entered high school. Their high school years were full of struggles, some normal, some not. Both boys started using drugs in their mid-teens. Sam (oldest son) escalated to IV drug use and meth. He was "in recovery" on MAT (Medically Assisted...
#55 Pamela O'Leary: A new year's resolution that actually stuck
March 25, 2022 13:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MBMy next episode includes a guest that made a new year's resolution to get sober and 4 years later, she is still sober. She talks with us about her journey into sobriety and how she did it. It wasn't the typical path, and it has shown to be successful for her. She writes openly about it in her blog titled "Wishes from the Bottom" This was her first time speaking about and I am honored to have had her as a guest on this podcast. Pamela O’Leary is the Founder and CEO of Blossom Badass, an em...
#54 What does "Letting Go" really mean?
March 09, 2022 19:00 - 29 minutes - 20.6 MBYou hear it all the time with people who have loved ones with substance abuse issues. The "Letting go". But what does that really mean. Sometimes we have a misconception on what "Letting Go" really means. It's more about letting go of our ideas of what should be or shouldn't be. This is what this podcast explores.
#53 The Key is a Mother's Love
February 05, 2022 16:00 - 47 minutes - 32.9 MBLinda Sue Key is my next guest on the Unbreakable Boundaries Podcast. She is a Mother of a son who has been in his addiction for over 25 yrs. She worked for over 20 years as a substance abuse counselor, including working in a men's prison. Recently, she started a new ministry called "The Key to Recovery is a Mother's Love." She loves the Lord with all her heart and God has called her to help moms of addicted adult children overcome the chaos, confusion, and brokenness that substance abuse ca...
#52 People Can't Give You What They Don't Have
February 03, 2022 14:00 - 34 minutes - 23.6 MBWhen we go out to get support and our emotional needs met, we have to be careful and make sure we are going to people that can give us what we need. Some people just can't give you what you are asking for. Within that, we have to be clear about what we are asking for and who we are going to. Otherwise, we end up in a worse space going to the wrong people.
#51 The Exchange Principle
January 24, 2022 13:00 - 18 minutes - 12.5 MBThe Exchange Principle is something I use to navigate a lot of my decisions when it comes time to help someone. I want to make sure I am helping, and that means I can't put more energy into something that the other person is willing to. When people ask for favors, help, or anything that involves putting my energy or money into the equation, I run through this thought process first.
Ep #50 Dr. Susan Birne-Stone: How to See, Hear, and Listen to Yourself
December 21, 2021 20:00 - 1 hour - 48.4 MBCreating unbreakable boundaries is really about honoring yourself and others. In this episode, Dr. Susan and I get into some really great conversations about creating awareness around the question that Dr. Susan loves to ask, "Why does this make sense?" Having a loved one with substance abuse is complex, challenging, and it's important that we can honor ourselves and really see ourselves, hear ourselves and be willing to listen to ourselves. About Dr. Susan For over 35 years Dr. Susan has...
#49 What to look for in choosing a rehab for your loved one
December 13, 2021 19:00 - 37 minutes - 25.7 MBIn this episode, I go through some different things I look for when I sit down at a computer and look into a rehab. This is just to start narrowing down all the different options you have. *How long have they been open *How many people per room *Family Program *Detox management *Holistic Approach *Accreditations *Rehab story Reach out and ask more questions: www.maneelyconsulting.com Email: [email protected]
#48 Mental Health does NOT Equal Mental Illness
November 15, 2021 13:00 - 32 minutes - 22.1 MBWorking on our mental health is preventative like working on our physical health. Sometimes though, we hear mental health and we think about anxiety, depression, bi-polar, addiction, etc. It is just as important for you to work on your mental health as it is for your physical health. All that chatter in our brains if we don't learn how to quiet the chatter is like if we were waking up and eating chocolate cake for breakfast. Your mental health dealing with someone that has mental illness is ...
#47 Live as if your prayers have already been answered
October 08, 2021 12:00 - 40 minutes - 28.1 MB"Live as if your prayers have already been answered" -Tony Robbins What would happen to your life if you started living as if your prayers had already been answered? Would you be sleeping better? Eating better? Enjoying doing the things you love more? Connecting better to your other friends, family members, etc? That's the idea behind this quote. You can have all those things NOW. Often times we get caught up into the idea that if XYZ would happen THEN I would be ok. IF this person just go...
#46: Opening the Can of Worms
September 28, 2021 13:00 - 34 minutes - 23.8 MBIn this podcast, I discuss the can of worms. What gets in our way of "going there with ourselves?" What do we need in order to go to the depths of ourselves that we need to go to? We need people in order to help us go there so we don't fall into our own shame spirals. I discuss some about my new project in order to help people feel like they can open that can of worms. This is a great place to start. https://theyanaconnection.square.site/
#45 The 4 Non-Negotiables of Recovery
September 19, 2021 17:00 - 42 minutes - 29.4 MBIn this episode, I talk about why I took a step back from recording podcasts for a minute and what you can expect moving forward. I also go into the 4 non-negotiables of recovery. My Website is https://www.maneelyconsulting.com/
Ep #44 Adam Gunton: Tell Your Story
July 21, 2021 12:00 - 54 minutes - 37.3 MBAdam Gunton is helping other people in recovery to tell their story. In this episode, we talk a bit about how he is doing that and why. Adam Vibe Gunton delivers a powerful message of hope for any audience. His story of overcoming homelessness and drug addiction to becoming a 7 figure business owner, bestselling author, and coach for other recovered addicts to write and publish their stories – in only two years – motivates every audience that hears him speak to take massive decisive action...
#43 Training for the Obstacle Course of Addiction
July 01, 2021 15:00 - 33 minutes - 23.1 MBWhen it comes being a family member with a loved one in addiction/substance abuse issues, we have to come at it like we are training for a obstacle course where we don't exactly know what the obstacle course is going to look like, so we need to be prepared for anything. How do we do that? One, we don't do it alone. If I had to actually train for a marathon or obstacle course, I'd have to find people to help me. This is important for self care, so when the event happens that we don't know abo...
#42 Allison Livingston: Remembering to Connect with Yourself in Chaos
May 04, 2021 13:00 - 51 minutes - 35.3 MBI met Allison as part of my Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Book Club. Wholehearted living is so important for people who are dealing with loved ones in addiction. Through the situations we find ourselves in during this time period, it's important to connect with yourself and with others. Allison has a 5 steps to connect process to help people come back to center in the chaos. Contact Allison www.5stepstoconnect.com There are two ways to work with Allison: 1. A membership with classe...
#41: Nicole talks recovery for the families; we all have our journey
April 13, 2021 10:00 - 57 minutes - 39.3 MBIn this conversation we talk a lot about the family dynamic of what it means to grow up with an alcoholic parent. Family has a big influence over our lives, it can be both positive and negative as in Nicole's case. Having grown up in a home with an alcoholic, she spent many years comparing herself to her family member and deciding she couldn't have a problem because "she wasn't that bad." Only, as it goes with Substance Use Disorder, it progressively gets worse. She found her way into a fell...
#40 Nick and Kaitlin: Sometimes you just want to punch them in the face.
March 30, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 58.2 MBI sincerely doubt I will ever find another opportunity to get to interview a couple like this again. Nick is a person in recovery, his wife Kaitlin is what we often will refer to as a "Normy", meaning someone who does not has substance use disorder. What makes this so unique is Kaitlin has witnessed the very beginning of the progression Nick made along his addiction journey. Meeting in High School, and riding the ups and downs presents a opportunity to us that will be hard to come by ever ag...
#40 Nick and Kaitlin: Sometimes you just want to punch them in the face.
March 30, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 58.2 MBI sincerely doubt I will ever find another opportunity to get to interview a couple like this again. Nick is a person in recovery, his wife Kaitlin is what we often will refer to as a "Normy", meaning someone who does not has substance use disorder. What makes this so unique is Kaitlin has witnessed the very beginning of the progression Nick made along his addiction journey. Meeting in High School, and riding the ups and downs presents a opportunity to us that will be hard to come by ever ag...
#39 Jeff Jones: We are changing the conversation about addiction.
March 24, 2021 12:00 - 1 hour - 44.6 MBJeff Jones is a licensed therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist and family recovery coach. He has a mission to change the conversation about addiction in the addiction/recovery space with family members and professionals alike. To that end, he’s in the process of writing a book that reframes the family member’s dilemma as looping. Through his years of experience working with families with a loved one at various stages of addiction or recovery, he’s created a 3 phase process for fami...
#38 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives tips on how to save your sanity
March 16, 2021 10:00 - 1 hour - 43.9 MBDr. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She helps people on the journey from recognizing to recovering and rebuilding after toxic relationships. Even the United States Marines have sought her help! Dr. Shaler empowers the partners, exes, adult children, and co-workers of the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals® to recognize emotional abuse, realize the effects, heal, and transform. She helps ...
#37 James Brown: Steven Spielberg can't even make this stuff up
March 09, 2021 11:00 - 1 hour - 62 MBJames Brown, struggled with sobriety his whole life He came from a partying family, he was abused as a child, traveled quite a bit. He had numerous DWIs, lost a home due to a fire, was stabbed by ex wife, which is the story we dive into right away. He spent 19 months in Alaskan prison for DWI and got sober and active in recovery for nearly 12 years. He had a relapse due to pain and surgeries, got 2 more DWIs and finally made his way back to sobriety. When we are in active addiction, crazy ...
#36 Brittany Brown: Recovery is NOT a Straight Line, for the Addicts or Their Families
March 02, 2021 11:00 - 1 hour - 53.5 MBRecovery is messy, it can be awkward, weird, and totally worth it. It doesn't look the same for everyone and every family will have a different experience. In this episode, Brittany and I discuss, and not in a straight line, a lot of challenges and triumphs recovery has. Passion and finding joy for ourselves as part of our recovery is incredibly important and Brittany has found hers in podcasting and specifically her podcast called NiteCap: A podcast about true crime. I invite you to def che...
#35 Jared Diehl is Fighting the Stigma of Mental Health
February 23, 2021 12:00 - 1 hour - 41.3 MBJared Diehl is from La Verne, California and has been dealing with mental illness his whole life but has spent the last 15 years managing bipolar depression and anxiety. He also has been a suicide survivor. Out of the suffering has come a message. A message of hope for those that feel like they are alone. Jared works with the National Alliance of Mental Illness as a speaker. He helps reduce stigma by sharing his own story and how he copes with mental illness. He also has a podcast on mental ...
#34 Sean Loves his Recovery Life
February 09, 2021 15:00 - 1 hour - 45.6 MBIn this next episode I am interviewing a gentleman named Sean Owens. He currently has almost 7 years clean and he loves his recovery lifestyle. In this episode, we discuss how he got to where he is at today. Sean had a rough childhood growing up with a father who was addicted to drugs. His mom worked 3 jobs to raise three kids and moved around 21 times before he was 18. I moved around a lot myself and I know the impacts it had on me as a kid but I can’t imagine 21 moves. Sean also ha...
#33 Polly Shares with Us Her Journey into Recovery
February 02, 2021 12:00 - 1 hour - 45.5 MBPolly Jessen is a person in long term recovery. She was born and raised in Kingsport, TN and currently works in Johnson City, TN at Frontier Health as a Recovery Navigator for Crisis Services. She struggled through active addiction for 8 years of her life and Is grateful to say that today she has over 8 years of consecutive recovery time. She was one of the first Tennessee Recovery Navigators since the program began in 2018 and her day consists of meeting with and assessing overdose victims...
Polly Shares with Us Her Journey into Recovery
February 02, 2021 12:00 - 1 hour - 45.5 MBPolly Jessen is a person in long term recovery. She was born and raised in Kingsport, TN and currently works in Johnson City, TN at Frontier Health as a Recovery Navigator for Crisis Services. She struggled through active addiction for 8 years of her life and Is grateful to say that today she has over 8 years of consecutive recovery time. She was one of the first Tennessee Recovery Navigators since the program began in 2018 and her day consists of meeting with and assessing overdose victims...
#32 Stacy shares with us the wild ride she put her family through
January 26, 2021 11:00 - 53 minutes - 36.9 MBStacy is a 37 year old person in long term recovery. In this episode we talk about how she was born and raised in the suburbs of Atlanta, Georgia where she fumbled through life the best way she knew how. Her family was along for the ride. After many years of doing everything they could to try to curb the behaviors and the substance use, they were left with no other option but to let go and live their lives waiting for the day that the phone would ring or someone one would come to the door to...
#31 Andrew shares his journey as an adult child of an alcoholic
January 19, 2021 11:00 - 1 hour - 45.4 MBAndrew found out his mom was an alcoholic when he was around 12. In this episode we talked about how he has been affected by his mom's addiction, and some of the resources he uses to cope. He has some great coping strategies and resources he shared with us in this episode that will benefit a lot of other families out there that are experiencing having loved ones with substance abuse issues. But he is more than just an adult child of an alcoholic. He is also a mechanical engineer workin...
#30 Bekah Shares With Us Her Journey And What She Is Doing To Give Back
January 12, 2021 11:00 - 1 hour - 45.6 MBIn her late 20’s, Bekah could not stand to look in the mirror. She couldn’t stand to look her loved ones in the eye and see their disappointment. After nearly ten years of being broken with addiction, she had the sudden revelation that if she continued the way she was going, her life would surely end. She had destroyed her relationships with her family, and shamefully avoided all her friends that mattered most. She went into a wilderness therapeutic program for just shy of 90 days. At aro...
#29 Dr. Linville Meadows; an award winning physician ends up in rehab; but lives to tell his story
January 05, 2021 11:00 - 51 minutes - 35.2 MBDr. Meadows is an Honors graduate of the University of North Carolina School of Medicine and studied at Duke University. He later held faculty positions at both institutions. He was recognized internationally for his work in cancer research, receiving both grants and awards; he authored numerous scientific articles. He was designated a Clinical Investigator of the National Cancer Institute. His recovery from addiction to drugs and alcohol began May 7, 1997. Since then, he has counseled a la...
#28 Kawan; A survivor of three brain surgeries, substance abuse, and suicidal ideations
December 29, 2020 11:00 - 34 minutes - 24 MBKawan Glover is a Survivor because he has lived through a stroke and three brain surgeries. He also dealt with suicidal ideations, one attempt, opioid addiction, depression, and been $1.2 million in medical debt. Despite these hardships, he has started his own company called Overcome Adversity, which leverages his ordeal to help others, as the name says, Overcome their Adversity no matter the shape or form. He is also a writer, public speaker, and a self-published author of a memoir entitled...
#27 Alison reminds the families out there how important it is to put yourself first
December 22, 2020 11:00 - 48 minutes - 33.4 MBAlison Jane Ryan spends her days empowering mamas to step into the fullest expression of who they are and who they’re meant to be by creating a Morning Practice. She’s passionate about supporting you through the foggy seasons of motherhood so you can emerge as the woman and mama that feels true and nourishing for you! Alison is an example of what's possible when mothers put themselves FIRST and intentionally make time to prioritize their needs, dreams & desires. Many members of my audience ...
#26 Jason's tragic loss sent him spiraling out of control, how did he get his life back?
December 15, 2020 11:00 - 1 hour - 41.9 MBThis one goes out to all the dads out there. Jason Palmer was raising his wife's younger sister alongside his sons as their child, him and his wife watched her as she fought a battle against a nasty disease HLH. When she lost her fight, Jason picked up a whiskey bottle and dove in. He swam around the bottom of a bottle for a while until he realized it was time for to sober up. It's been 4 years since his last drink. This episode goes into details about how he got his life back. As a foster ...
#25 Helen Hannah shares with us some healthy coping strategies
December 08, 2020 11:00 - 33 minutes - 22.9 MBWhen families are in the chaos of helping their loved ones, we can often find ourselves in unhealthy patterns such as drinking a little too much ourselves. Not alcoholically but enough to impact our minds, our sleep patterns, and so much more. In this episode, I brought on Helen Hanna, a Transformation coach helping overwhelmed women and no one is more overwhelmed than a mother who fears losing their child. www.helenhannahcoaching.com
#25 Helen Hannah shares with us some healthy coping strategies
December 08, 2020 11:00 - 33 minutes - 22.9 MBWhen families are in the chaos of helping their loved ones, we can often find ourselves in unhealthy patterns such as drinking a little too much ourselves. Not alcoholically but enough to impact our minds, our sleep patterns, and so much more. In this episode, I brought on Helen Hanna, a Transformation coach helping overwhelmed women and no one is more overwhelmed than a mother who fears losing their child. www.helenhannahcoaching.com
#24 Marcus Shumate tells us about his ideas on who is successful in recovery
December 01, 2020 11:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MBIn this episode, I discussed with a good friend of mine, Marcus Shumate, what he notices in the recovery community of who "makes it" versus those who don't seem to do so well with the recovery journey. Marcus Shumate did his undergraduate studies in Philosophy and Psychology and completed a masters degree in mental health counseling. He previously worked his way through a residential co-occurring disorders program until he was tasked with developing a program specifically for young men. In t...
#23: The Early Recovery Series: Sharon tell us about her journey
November 23, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 57.3 MBParents want to protect their kids and many times they do this by not telling them everything. The parents maybe waiting for the kids to become more emotionally mature to handle certain information. Maybe parents fail to realize it is important information. We don't often get to know how the information will impact our lives. For Sharon, her family kept a secret and she found out. It started making her realize a few things about herself, about her life, and about her family's secrets. Find o...