The Unbreakable Boundaries Podcast
94 episodes - English - Latest episode: 7 months ago - ★★★★ - 3 ratingsSetting and defending boundaries is the difference between letting someone else run your life, or you getting the life you've always wanted. Through my experience of being in recovery of a severe drug addiction, and managing my codependency with toxic people, I have learned a thing or two about the importance of boundaries. Boundaries is something that is forever changing, growing, morphing, and something to keep a constant check up on. This podcast is your check-in for your own boundaries, and maybe even give you the strength and wisdom to set the boundaries you know you have been needing to set for yourself.
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#23: The Early Recovery Series: Sharon tell us about your journey
November 23, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 57.3 MBParents want to protect their kids and many times they do this by not telling them everything. The parents maybe waiting for the kids to become more emotionally mature to handle certain information. Maybe parents fail to realize it is important information. We don't often get to know how the information will impact our lives. For Sharon, her family kept a secret and she found out. It started making her realize a few things about herself, about her life, and about her family's secrets. Find o...
#22 The Early Recovery Series: Rhett shares with us his journey
November 18, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 60.4 MBWe are whoever we need to be while we are in active addiction. We don't often know how to be anything else other than a chameleon. Rhett shares with us about his journey into finding himself and being comfortable with who he really is. He also continues to help other recovering addicts working in a great rehab in North Carolina. To hear a great story of overcoming obstacles, challenges and finding oneself, listen to this episode now. I've also put something together from this series. Throu...
#21 The Early Recovery Series: Jamie shares with us her journey
November 11, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 41.6 MBThe desire for us to fit in somewhere is so strong that we will almost destroy ourselves to find our place in the world. Jamie shares with us the challenges she faced long before the drug abuse and how she coped with the world around her. Growing up, she always felt a little different than the rest of her family. Later, she found out why and it was surprising. She felt like she had been living a lie for her whole life. Find out what her family was hiding from her in this episode.
#20: The Early Recovery Series: Sarah shares with us her journey and how her family supported her
November 04, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 42.6 MBSarah's journey through recovery is both the same and different than most. She came from a good family, two loving parents, two siblings...it seems like the American Dream, and yet, Sarah battled with her own addiction. What would make her turn to drugs? And how did her family handle it? Find out in this episode.
#19 The Early Recovery Series: Natasha P. Tells Us What Boundaries Her Family Set Out for Her
October 28, 2020 11:00 - 1 hour - 61 MBEvery family is different in what works, what boundaries to lay out, and the experience they have with their loved ones battling addiction. Natasha P. tells us what some of the boundaries her family laid out for her. She also goes deep into the mindset of what was going on behind the scenes and informs us of some of the red flags to watch out for.
#18 Bonus Episode: How Bilinda Uncovered Important Patterns
October 22, 2020 12:00 - 56 minutes - 39 MBAs humans, we all have unconscious patterns that impact our relationships around us. For Bilinda, a mother with two kids with substance abuse issues, the patterns she uncovered will forever change her relationship with her kids. She discusses a exercise that is part of my Unbreakable Boundaries Program that helps unlock these patterns. If nothing changes, then nothing changes. For the families, we need things to change. If you have a loved one in addiction, this exercise could be life changi...
#17 The Early Recovery Series: Mike Fills Us In on his Powerful Journey
October 21, 2020 09:00 - 1 hour - 44.2 MBVery quickly, Mike begins by telling us about all the different masks he put on. We often do this where we are whoever you need us to be. The challenge is when we are ready to be ourselves, we don't know who that is because we have been hiding ourselves for so long. Mike shares with us how he began to break free of his masks. He also goes into the story of how he got clean, which wasn't totally normal. He ended up in the hospital with a traumatic brain injury that forced him to learn how to ...
#16: The Early Recovery Series: Amanda Shares her Journey with Us
October 13, 2020 21:00 - 56 minutes - 39.1 MBGrowing up in a good home, how did a person like Amanda find herself hiding her drug use from her parents for so long? A good girl that didn't like to get in trouble turns to using some of the hardest drugs out there. Where did she start finding herself? What were the things she put her family through. Amanda shares with us her story and some helpful advice for the families out there.
#15 The Early Recovery Series: Travis tells us what his experience was and how he found himself a new way of life
October 07, 2020 09:00 - 52 minutes - 36 MBRecovery is never a straight line. People dealing with substance abuse issues can often find themselves living a life they never imagined for themselves. That was Travis. He found himself in situations he never imagined and being a person he never saw himself being. He came from a good loving home, but even that is not enough to battle someone who goes down the road of addiction. Travis eventually found himself in a community of people that had similar interests as he did. Travis will tell y...
#14: The Early Recovery Series: Luanne gives us some insight about her journey
September 30, 2020 14:00 - 42 minutes - 29.3 MBAlcohol is insidious. Being so much more socially acceptable to drink alcohol, one can find themselves being able to justify and rationalize their behaviors easily, until it is undeniable that there is a problem. Even once a problem is acknowledged, it doesn't make it easy to make the decision to quit. Luanne talks in this episode about how she constantly felt like the world was out to get her and the victimhood that entails, and more importantly, she talks about how she broke free of the me...
#13 The Early Recovery Series: Eddie tells us the difference between abstinence and recovery
September 25, 2020 14:00 - 57 minutes - 39.6 MBThere is a difference between someone who is simply abstaining from drugs/alcohol and what it means to be in recovery. For years, Eddie would be able to abstain from drugs and alcohol on his own. He has been a practicing buddhist for multiple decades, so yoga and meditation practices are deeply ingrained in his daily life, but that simply wasn't enough. He felt like there was still a missing piece to getting him to the next level of self-care, and that was through the community of recovery. ...
#12 The Early Recovery Series: Abbie Gives Us Some Insights About Her Journey
September 21, 2020 13:00 - 1 hour - 45.3 MBEarly Recovery is difficult. There are often misconceptions about addiction and parents choosing drugs over their kids, but in this episode, Abbie shares a different perspective about what is really going on. As challenging as recovery can be, Abbie shares with us her triumphs, challenges, failures, and so much more. Recovery is possible, no matter what.
#11: The Early Recovery Series: Lizzy tells us what it was like for her.
September 15, 2020 04:00 - 36 minutes - 24.8 MBEvery person has a different journey through addiction and through the early recovery process. Lizzy's journey is no different. She tells us what she has done to get to where she is at, and we get to hear her triumphs and her downfalls. There are a lot of different ways to be successful in abstaining from alcohol and drug use, Lizzy shares with us her secrets to success.
#11: The Early Recovery Series: Lizzy tells us what it was like for her.
September 15, 2020 04:00 - 36 minutes - 24.8 MBEvery person has a different journey through addiction and through the early recovery process. Lizzy's journey is no different. She tells us what she has done to get to where she is at, and we get to hear her triumphs and her downfalls. There are a lot of different ways to be successful in abstaining from alcohol and drug use, Lizzy shares with us her secrets to success.
#10: The Early Recovery Series: Steve Knows all too well how Addiction is a Family Disease
September 08, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 42.1 MBSteve talks to us about his journey through early recovery and also his family upbringing. Addiction is a family disease and growing up with it, it's easy to see where addiction would just be a normal way of life. But that didn't stop him from turning things around for himself. He decided he wanted a better life and he made it happen. It wasn't easy, and it certainly wasn't a straight path, but in this episode, listen to how Steve has turns his life around, endures the challenges that early ...
The Early Recovery Series: Steve Knows all too well how Addiction is a Family Disease
September 08, 2020 04:00 - 1 hour - 42.1 MBSteve talks to us about his journey through early recovery and also his family upbringing. Addiction is a family disease and growing up with it, it's easy to see where addiction would just be a normal way of life. But that didn't stop him from turning things around for himself. He decided he wanted a better life and he made it happen. It wasn't easy, and it certainly wasn't a straight path, but in this episode, listen to how Steve has turns his life around, endures the challenges that early ...
#9: The Early Recovery Series: Tara Tells Us About Her Journey
September 02, 2020 14:00 - 57 minutes - 39.6 MBEarly recovery is challenging. It can be hard to know what to expect. Families often don't understand what a person goes through during the early stages. The questions we are asking ourselves, the challenges we face, learning how to live a normal life again. Tara knows all to well the challenges she faced during her early recovery. She experienced early recovery more than once and each time was a little different. She also had her husband have to sit back and watch her go downhill and was po...
The Early Recovery Series: Tara Tells Us About Her Journey
September 02, 2020 14:00 - 57 minutes - 39.6 MBEarly recovery is challenging. It can be hard to know what to expect. Families often don't understand what a person goes through during the early stages. The questions we are asking ourselves, the challenges we face, learning how to live a normal life again. Tara knows all to well the challenges she faced during her early recovery. She experienced early recovery more than once and each time was a little different. She also had her husband have to sit back and watch her go downhill and was po...
#8: Amber tells us about her journey through early recovery
August 26, 2020 20:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBEarly recovery is challenging. We go through a lot but we don't always know how to articulate our experience around it. It's emotional, it's challenging, we have a hard time coping with what we have done. Families struggle with knowing what to do and how to help their loved ones. I am doing a early recovery series in hopes that it will help families understand what we go through when we first get into recovery.
Amber tells us about her journey through early recovery
August 26, 2020 20:00 - 41 minutes - 28.7 MBEarly recovery is challenging. We go through a lot but we don't always know how to articulate our experience around it. It's emotional, it's challenging, we have a hard time coping with what we have done. Families struggle with knowing what to do and how to help their loved ones. I am doing a early recovery series in hopes that it will help families understand what we go through when we first get into recovery.
Why do they manipulate and how do they manipulate
July 23, 2020 12:00 - 30 minutes - 20.9 MBWhen you have a loved one with substance abuse issues, manipulation is something you are going to come across frequently. It's hard to understand substance abuse and why they do some of the things they do, but there are things you can do about manipulation. If you can understand the why's and the how's of manipulation, then you can be aware of it and it can stop working. They also work on 4 main emotions. Find out what they are in this podcast.
#7: Why do they manipulate and how do they manipulate
July 23, 2020 12:00 - 30 minutes - 20.9 MBWhen you have a loved one with substance abuse issues, manipulation is something you are going to come across frequently. It's hard to understand substance abuse and why they do some of the things they do, but there are things you can do about manipulation. If you can understand the why's and the how's of manipulation, then you can be aware of it and it can stop working. They also work on 4 main emotions. Find out what they are in this podcast.
#6: The Saga Continues: The Journey of a Mother and Daughter
June 22, 2020 12:00 - 55 minutes - 38.1 MBTwo episodes ago, we heard from a mother, Bilinda. She gave us some great insights to what she was experiencing as she was dealing with both her son and her daughter through addiction. The last episode, her daughter, Marilyn, had a very open conversation with me about her experiences through addiction and coming out the other side. It was eye opening for both the mother and the daughter to hear from each other. So I wanted to do something special, and that was to invite both of them to come ...
The Saga Continues: The Journey of a Mother and Daughter
June 22, 2020 12:00 - 55 minutes - 38.1 MBTwo episodes ago, we heard from a mother, Bilinda. She gave us some great insights to what she was experiencing as she was dealing with both her son and her daughter through addiction. The last episode, her daughter, Marilyn, had a very open conversation with me about her experiences through addiction and coming out the other side. It was eye opening for both the mother and the daughter to hear from each other. So I wanted to do something special, and that was to invite both of them to come ...
#5: Guest Episode: Marilyn: A daughter's story of addiction
May 21, 2020 13:00 - 56 minutes - 38.8 MBLast week, we had Bilinda Blume on, a mother of two kids that dealt with addiction. I had the privilege of following things up with her daughter this week, Marilyn. Marilyn dives deep into her own story of her side of things and what were some helpful things her family did, but also shares with us what were some of the things that were not so helpful. Her story is going to help and impact so many people. Caution: This is a real conversation between two people in a very raw way. It can be h...
Guest Episode: Marilyn: A daughter's story of addiction
May 21, 2020 13:00 - 56 minutes - 38.8 MBLast week, we had Bilinda Blume on, a mother of two kids that dealt with addiction. I had the privilege of following things up with her daughter this week, Marilyn. Marilyn dives deep into her own story of her side of things and what were some helpful things her family did, but also shares with us what were some of the things that were not so helpful. Her story is going to help and impact so many people. Caution: This is a real conversation between two people in a very raw way. It can be h...
#4: Guest Episode: Bilinda Blume: A Mother's Journey Through Her Kids Addiction.
May 12, 2020 16:00 - 30 minutes - 21.3 MBAn incredible interview with a woman who has experience with having loved ones dealing with substance abuse. Bilinda is a mother of three; two of her children have struggled with substance abuse, beginning in their teens and into young adulthood. She has been supportive and loving to her children in a healthy way, despite how painful and uncertain addiction can be. Helping others rise above their life's challenges is her passion, life's work, and addiction is one of the driving forces. ...
Guest Episode: Bilinda Blume: A Mother's Journey Through Her Kids Addiction.
May 12, 2020 16:00 - 30 minutes - 21.3 MBAn incredible interview with a woman who has experience with having loved ones dealing with substance abuse. Bilinda is a mother of three; two of her children have struggled with substance abuse, beginning in their teens and into young adulthood. She has been supportive and loving to her children in a healthy way, despite how painful and uncertain addiction can be. Helping others rise above their life's challenges is her passion, life's work, and addiction is one of the driving forces. ...
#4: Guest Episode: Bilinda Blume: A Mother's Journey Through Her Kids Addiction.
May 12, 2020 16:00 - 30 minutes - 21.3 MBAn incredible interview with a woman who has experience with having loved ones dealing with substance abuse. Bilinda is a mother of three; two of her children have struggled with substance abuse, beginning in their teens and into young adulthood. She has been supportive and loving to her children in a healthy way, despite how painful and uncertain addiction can be. Helping others rise above their life's challenges is her passion, life's work, and addiction is one of the driving forces. ...
The Coronavirus and Our Boundaries: Do They Still Apply?
April 09, 2020 13:00 - 25 minutes - 17.2 MBDuring this time, I have seen many people bending, or breaking their own boundaries because of the extenuating circumstances. However, it is important to continue to apply the principles of boundary setting even in today's world because there are no extenuating circumstances under which the principles of boundary settings do not apply.
#3: The Coronavirus and Our Boundaries: Do They Still Apply?
April 09, 2020 13:00 - 25 minutes - 17.2 MBDuring this time, I have seen many people bending, or breaking their own boundaries because of the extenuating circumstances. However, it is important to continue to apply the principles of boundary setting even in today's world because there are no extenuating circumstances under which the principles of boundary settings do not apply.
#2: Guest Episode: Lynn Carnes AKA My Mother
April 09, 2020 11:00 - 1 hour - 44.3 MBThis episode was originally under the End the Stigma Podcast, it was an interview with my mom, Lynn Carnes. It was a great interview about boundaries and some of the things she did for me while in my addiction that helped me.
Guest Episode: Lynn Carnes AKA My Mother
April 09, 2020 11:00 - 1 hour - 44.3 MBThis episode was originally under the End the Stigma Podcast, it was an interview with my mom, Lynn Carnes. It was a great interview about boundaries and some of the things she did for me while in my addiction that helped me.
I am scrapping "End The Stigma" and going to "The Unbreakable Boundaries" Podcast
March 26, 2020 19:00 - 14 minutes - 9.99 MBIt was a hard decision, but I had to go with my heart. I am scrapping end the stigma podcast but replacing it with something even better. The Unbreakable Boundaries Podcast. You will learn the reason why in this latest episode. Enjoy the new format!
#1: I am scrapping "End The Stigma" and going to "The Unbreakable Boundaries" Podcast
March 26, 2020 19:00 - 14 minutes - 9.99 MBIt was a hard decision, but I had to go with my heart. I am scrapping end the stigma podcast but replacing it with something even better. The Unbreakable Boundaries Podcast. You will learn the reason why in this latest episode. Enjoy the new format!
Males Versus Females in Business
February 08, 2020 14:00 - 14 minutes - 9.76 MBI had an interesting thought the other day when it came to thinking about "Why is the corporate world so male dominated even still?" And I thought about what males learn early in our society versus females. As a business person, I am starting to learn skills that males are taught at a much younger age through dating. What are your thoughts?
Change Your Language; Change Your Life
January 25, 2020 13:00 - 23 minutes - 16.4 MBLanguage is important, how we as individuals use language can quickly change your life. For whatever group you are being hateful towards, maybe it's even a political party, change your language around that group and you will be amazed at how much better YOU will feel. We have stigmas because of the language we use on ourselves. Be willing to be open and vulnerable about your own situation. You don't have to do it alone, we are here to help.
It's just different
January 18, 2020 12:00 - 30 minutes - 21.1 MBSometimes, we look at someone and think their life has been so much easier than our own and we judge, but it's not easier, it's just different with its own set of challenges. Making those assumptions though, can perpetuate our own stigmas for ourselves. We may be more full of self-doubt and insecurities just by comparing ourselves and making assumptions our lives are easier or harder. It's just different.
The Conversation Continues: And Not Just With Me
January 04, 2020 12:00 - 29 minutes - 20.1 MBThis week I decided to share what the conversations have been in the Facebook group I created called "End The Stigma" so it wouldn't be just me involved in the conversation. I really enjoyed reading off other people's messages and their perceptions of what they see in the world as it relates to Stigmas. If you want to be involved in the conversation, you too, can join "End The Stigma"
Getting things done versus putting meaningful things in the world
December 28, 2019 12:00 - 33 minutes - 23.2 MBThere is a big difference between simply getting something done for the sake of checking it off our list or actually investing the time and energy into doing meaningful things. Many times, even when it comes to "our work," we can find ourselves checking things off a list instead of just diving deep and doing something because it betters us. We can find ourselves doing the same thing as it relates to stigma and ourselves. We can share a facebook post, or talk to our friends about how stigmas ...
What are your conditioned responses?
December 21, 2019 12:00 - 29 minutes - 20.6 MBWe all have conditioned responses. Our conditioned responses can be how some things get stigmatized. I go into a few of my own conditioned responses, not all of them make sense to anyone else but me. But how do your conditioned responses impact your life. I talk about #momface and where a lot of our conditioned responses are around our parents and how that can show up in our everyday lives. Maybe you are having a hard time with a boss because they remind you to much of one of your parents so...
Are you an Open-Minded Person? The answer is no.
December 14, 2019 12:00 - 39 minutes - 27.2 MBWe cannot be an "Open-Minded Person" but we can be open-minded about ideas. Stigmas often get created because we find ourselves unable to even hear someone that has an idea different than ours. But I challenge people to do research for the things they passionately believe in. Not to change your mind but to strengthen your belief to ensure it's not simply a conditioned response. We can often shame people into believing what we want them to believe. How many of your beliefs are because you ...
The Psychological and Sociological Ways Stigmas Get Formed
December 07, 2019 11:00 - 32 minutes - 22.5 MBI am throwing my two cents in with looking at psychology and sociology stigmas get formed and how it impacts ourselves as individuals and how it impacts the way we treat others that are not like us. It comes down to survival but we have to challenge our view on survival and ambiguity. This is a simplified brush over of a topic I could spend years talking about and as we go on in the show, we will be unpacking this idea at deeper levels. If we accept ourselves more, our ability to accept othe...
Welcome to the first episode
November 30, 2019 16:00 - 31 minutes - 21.8 MBIn this episode, I give a brief overview of what the podcast is going to be about. Its focus is around mental health and what are some of the different ways you can support someone that does have mental health disorders. Maybe it's substance abuse, gambling, eating disorder, etc. There are going to be a lot of touch subjects talked about, but they are touchy because they have a stigma attached to it and we are going to talk about it so we can end the stigma. Welcome to your journey.