Empowered Love Radio
300 episodes - English - Latest episode: almost 7 years ago - ★★★★★ - 124 ratingsMelanie Tonia Evans is an author, radio host, relationship and dating expert and coach. She’s the author of the books Breaking the Chains of Painful Love and Take Back Your Power. Melanie’s work resulted from her own nearly fatal experiences with narcissistic abuse, co-dependency and relationship addiction. Melanie is now a world expert on empowering women and healing painful love. Her deep core writing, teaching, coaching and healings are now liberating women world wide to stand up and take back their power in order to create a life of deservedness whereby they can attract and sustain genuine and healthy love relationships.
Heal the past. Heal yourself. Create real love!
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5 Steps To Ignoring A Narcissist Who Tries To Punish You
June 30, 2017 01:38 - 21 minutes - 19 MBIgnoring a narcissist is critical, and ignoring a narcissist is crucial when a narcissist tries to punish you. Narcissists love to get your reaction. As soon as they do, you are handing power away. And … when a narcissist hooks you in, everything you used to think is tipped upside down and turned on its head. We hand power away and can be significantly abused. Until we know better we think that combatting a narcissist is the answer, but it isn’t. IGNORING them is … and please learn the fi...
The Narcissist – Soulmate, Twin Flame Or Cell Mate?
June 09, 2017 01:03 - 25 minutes - 22.9 MBThere is SUCH a deep soul familiarity to relationships with narcissists. Are narcissists Soul Mates who we were meant to get it right with, but just couldn’t, or are they Twin Flames; deeply impactful souls called forth to surface and purge our darker pieces that they reflect, so that we can evolve? In this blog article I share with you what I deeply believe to be the truth about this … regarding what VERSION narcissists are and WHY they are Soul Contracted to come into our lives. ...
Disarming The Narcissist - The 5 Essential Steps To Reclaiming Your Freedom
May 12, 2017 01:05 - 22 minutes - 19.6 MBThis radio show is one that many of you have been asking for – some conclusive steps regarding how it break free from a narcissist and recover from narcissistic abuse. I understand how hard it can be when we don’t know how to recover, or even what it is that could help us. There is of course tons of information we can read on the net, and we may be given advice from lots of people, including family and friends. I felt the same for years, and that is why I am passionate about sharing my brea...
The 10 Most Impactful Ways To Start Self-Partnering Right Now
April 08, 2017 01:15 - 23 minutes - 20.5 MBI get asked by people ALL the time …“Can you please explain to me Melanie HOW to self-partner?” And that is such a great question! As are these questions: Is self-partnering something that can become automatic? Is it essential for abuse recovery and even MORE than that? I believe it is … absolutely! I will even go as far as to say I believe self-partnering holds the key to not only our Highest Potential and the Game of Life … It also unlocks the literal power of All of Creation its...
Boundaries With A Narcissist If You Can't Go No Contact Part 2
March 10, 2017 00:56 - 46 minutes - 41.6 MBIn Part One of this series, we looked at how to detach, and not a grant a narcissist narcissistic supply, and why this was so important. In this article – Part 2 I illustrate the 3 different ways we can try to deal with a narcissist – and the results of each And we also take a deep dive into the growing up of our traumatised parts that the narcissist could previous hook us with, and what that then looks like. I also answer specific questions from people in the Community about this very...
How To Set Boundaries With A Narcissist If You Can’t Go No Contact
March 04, 2017 00:23 - 33 minutes - 30 MBThere are many people in the Community who aren’t No Contact with narcissists. Maybe they are family members or you have to work with one … Or … maybe you are co-parenting with a narcissist. Or perhaps you are just not ready to let go yet. Whatever the circumstance, if you are still connected to a narcissist, please know it is possible to manage this and even have your rights upheld. Throughout this two-part series you will understand how and why.
How To Evict The Narcissist From Your Head And Move On With Your Life - Part 2
February 17, 2017 00:38 - 34 minutes - 30.6 MBCan we break free of the ongoing painful thoughts that can be so tortuous? Ones that … Bring us to our knees. Strip our Life-force. And leave us feeling so empty, broken and alone that we wonder how we can live, love and trust again. The answer is “YES!” Totally. Let me explain to you, with a deep dive into “how to” in Part 2. Read along and join the conversation on the blog here.
How To Evict The Narcissist From Your Head And Move On With Your Life
February 10, 2017 01:34 - 29 minutes - 26.3 MBIt is so frustrating and exhausting to have our heads go over and over and over what happened to us after narcissistic abuse. Why do we keep thinking about “what happened” and all the “what ifs” when we know we can’t change what happened? Maybe, despite you putting in a ton of effort to heal yourself, the “story” still keeps taking you down – not allowing you to move on. Stripping your Life-force. In this radio series we take a deep dive into WHY this is happening, and why is is detractin...
Evolutionary Trends For 2017 And Why It’s Time!
December 08, 2016 22:59 - 29 minutes - 26 MBThis week’s episode is about two very important Quantum topics which I believe are pivotal for 2017. The realizing that time has sped up – and how to align oneself so as NOT to be “out of time” … meaning not living in the now and therefore not in the flow of Lifeforce and Wellbeing. I also discuss how the Feminine Collective Wounds are now rising up with great force to be released, and what this really means for females and males, as well as the healing of unity and humanity. This show may...
How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist - Part 2
November 03, 2016 01:00 - 42 minutes - 38.4 MBThis week in Part Two, we take a deep dive into practical concerns when breaking up with a narcissist, which are not just heartbreaking and gut-wrenching – they turn our lives upside down. Things such as smearing, being replaced, trying to explain to others that you have been abused by someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, trying to have others understand that you are suffering from Traumatic Stress Disorder … as well as many other excruciatingly painful and stressful situations. ...
How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist - Part 1
October 20, 2016 05:38 - 36 minutes - 32.1 MBWhy is it that when we break up with a narcissist we usually feel WORSE instead of get relief? And … What does it take to not just merely (and barely) survive from breaking up with a narcissist, but to actually Thrive as a result? Find out in my two part series. Join the conversation with myself and other Thrivers on the blog.
The 5 Stages Of Forgiveness
October 06, 2016 00:26 - 36 minutes - 32.2 MBThis week’s topic about “forgiveness” was inspired by my friend Sylvia. She really nailed it … regarding “Organic Forgiveness”, and as a result I sat down to write about the truth of the stages of “forgiveness”, what they produce and how they set us free. Ranging all the way from Non-forgiveness, to Logical Forgiveness to the higher states of Evolving, Radical and Compassionate Forgiveness … ultimately leading to Organic Forgiveness. I hope with all my heart that this article will help...
The Malignant Female - Understanding Female Narcissism
August 29, 2016 00:40 - 42 minutes - 37.6 MBThis is a radio show many men have asked for. Within this article we do a deep dive into the characteristics of narcissistic females. What makes them tick? How can they turn from the most beautiful, loving, sensual compassionate women you could ever hope to meet, into an entitled being who is never happy, always finding fault and acting nastily and crazily? And what is the difference between narcissistic men and women – and are there any differences at all? I am really happy to bring thi...
Why Did We Fall For A Narcissist? Part 2
August 13, 2016 02:36 - 37 minutes - 33.6 MBLast week, in Part One, we explored the reasons why we fell for a narcissist and why it can be very difficult to leave and stay away. And why, in this Community, we DO struggle to end it and break free, whereas other people just don’t … even if they were initially hoodwinked by a narcissist. This week, in Part Two, I want to take a deep dive into the understanding of specifically why we were highly susceptible to narcissists, and may have felt (or still feel) it’s almost impossible to...
Why Did We Fall For A Narcissist? Part 1
August 05, 2016 03:47 - 29 minutes - 25.7 MBWhy is it that some individuals who have a run in with a narcissist don’t get hooked and adversely affected, once the mask drops … … whereas some people fall head over heels, make excuses for the terrible behavior and eventually have their life torn to shreds? This is a very important question to have answered … because within the answer is a vital key to break free from the trauma and ensure it never happens to you again. This two-part radio show series will hopefully reveal the truth ...
The Once Broken And Homeless Man Who Brought The Thriver Model To Life - Par
July 01, 2016 08:50 - 26 minutes - 23.4 MBParticipate in this transformative series and go in the chance to win any MTE course of your choosing! To take part please join me and the Thriver Community on the blog here. And join in Neale Donald Walsch's global event by clicking here.
How To Restore Your Trust Again After Narcissistic Abuse
June 25, 2016 02:31 - 32 minutes - 29.2 MBWhen the very person we put our heart and soul into teared our life apart how on earth do we trust again? Learn how to regain your faith in people and rebuild your life in this radio show. Come and join the conversation with myself and other Thrivers on the blog here.
Freedom After Cerebral And Somatic Narcissistic Abuse Thriver Story #31 Aminath
June 12, 2016 13:44 - 47 minutes - 42.4 MBAminath’s story is quite unique, and a little different to most of our Community Member’s backgrounds, because she came from a country and family torn by political unrest and fighting. Her father was incarcerated and her family was shunned and ostracised. Incredible shame and emotional wounds ensued. Aminath’s identity is protected in this interview, for a very good reason. She is a prominent person on a world stage (and incredibly humble about it). Her achievements and recognition came ab...
Are You Addicted To Self-Help?
May 24, 2016 08:04 - 30 minutes - 26.7 MBMany of us have been deeply committed to spiritual practices and seeking information in order to become more enlightened, evolved and better people, and to heal. But why in some circumstances do we feel like we have to always to make so much effort and as soon as we don’t that our anxiety and fears come back and engulf us? Is spiritual practice and seeking truths and information really helping us, or is it just another method to try to manage our wounds, that is keeping us separated from tr...
How To Break Free From Terror And Gain Peace In Your Life
May 13, 2016 08:43 - 30 minutes - 27.2 MBIt near impossible to heal from narcissistic abuse when you are locked into the trajectory of just trying to survive ... Where everyday tasks such as going to work, making appointments, meeting with people or planning out your day can send you into anxiety. Find out how to break free from this powerless state, stop the minute to minute panic attacks and gain peace so that you have a path to heal. Join in the conversation with myself and other Thrivers on the blog: http://blog.melaniet...
Does The Thriver Model Place The Blame On The Victim?
April 24, 2016 02:46 - 38 minutes - 34.8 MBMany people believe if a victim of narcissistic abuse is asked to take responsibility for what happened to them – that they are being “blamed” for the abuse they suffered. Naturally, there a large consensus assert this takes away the accountability from where it should be positioned - which is on the abuser. There is also a lot of belief that the words “blame” and “responsibility” mean the same thing. But do they? Does adopting these beliefs and paths create the same results? Today’s radio...
Overcoming Abuse When It's All You've Ever Known – Thriver Show #31
April 14, 2016 01:08 - 51 minutesThis week’s Empowered Love Radio Show is an interview with Sylvia, a regular and wonderful contributor to this Community. Sylvia’s journey was narcissistic abuse ever since a child, starting with her mother - and then four narcissistic love relationships in a row. Sylvia had always been able to get up and get on with it, until the last narcissist, who she described as her “big bad wolf”. Even though Sylvia endured extreme behaviour and terrible abuse, it wasn’t until she discovered details...
Why Doesn’t The Narcissist Care About Me – Part 2
March 26, 2016 03:44 - 34 minutesDuring Part 2, we will look at how we go beyond the holding of the narcissist accountable to caring for us, and how we can start orientating towards and generating care for ourselves. Why is it NOT true that our life is reliant on whether or not someone else cares for us? How can we empower our children not to need the narcissistic parent to care for them? How can we start authentically generating a Life that does reflect back love, support and care to us? Find out how in this radio show,...
Why Doesn't The Narcissist Care About Me - Part 1
March 19, 2016 02:00 - 30 minutes - 27.2 MBThis question has been coming up so much in the Community lately, and it is certainly always a really big theme in the Private Facebook 3 Keys Groups. It is one of the most invasive reasons why people can stay hooked to narcissists and keep breaking No Contact, because they are trying to stop the agony of not feeling cared for, and can’t stop trying to make the narcissist care for them … Or they give in to the massive emotional relief when the narcissist, after atrocious behaviour, hoovers ...
Is There A Right Way To Leave A Narcissist?
March 11, 2016 02:04 - 30 minutes - 27.2 MBAre you at the stage where you are thinking about or getting ready to leave the narcissist? This can be an incredibly daunting time and there are so many questions one might have before trying toexert themself from the toxicty of a narcissist relationship. I hope that this radio show provides the resources you need to gain the courage to move forward into no contact and begin your thriving after narcissistic abuse story. To access all the links visit the blog here:
How Nora Triumphed Depsite All Odds - Thriver Story #30
March 04, 2016 01:43 - 1 hour - 66.8 MBThis week’s blog and radio show is a Thriver Show, about a wonderful woman named Nora, who is also one of the Senior Moderators in the NARP Forum. Nora’s story is quite exceptional. Nora is a woman who suffered narcissistic abuse, which included components such as him taking another wife without her consent, and suffering numerous affairs, neglect, and abuse until she experienced severe medical conditions, which affected her brain and heart and almost took her life. This is a story of s...
A Deeper Look At Idolise, Devalue, Discard - Part 2
February 26, 2016 01:03 - 49 minutes - 44.6 MBIn Part 2 we will be covering in depth ... How the cycles of idolise, devalue, discard can also affect "normal" relationships (just as a different dynamic and level of intensity). As well as ... How to become up-levelled to a state where a narcissist has nothing left to gain from you and ceases to be able to extract narcissistic supply from you. I also explain how even after you have created No Contact it can seem like the narcissist is still attacking you – psychically. I share how virtu...
A Deeper Look At Idolise, Devalue, Discard - Part 1
February 19, 2016 00:57 - 39 minutes - 35.3 MBIdolise, devalue and discard is one of the most painful and horiffic experiences anyone can suffer at the hands of a narcissist. What is this deadly cycle really about? How does it play out? How can we break away and heal from this cycle than not only devestates us but addicts us into receiving more devestation? Find out in this two part series on Empowered Love Radio.
The 4 Blocks That Separate You From Love With Katherine Woodward Thomas
February 12, 2016 05:48 - 56 minutes - 50.9 MBKatherine shares the fundamental 4 keys that allow us to become the person we must be to attract and maintain a soulmate relationship. You can sign up for her world-class event by clicking here: 4 Keys to Release Your Baggage, Blocks and Barriers to Love and Consciously Call In Your Soul Partner.
Ascension, Setting Powerful Intentions For 2016 And My Little Bombshell
February 05, 2016 00:57 - 31 minutes - 28.3 MBWelcome back everyone for another year in this incredible community! In this show I discuss the powerful ascension that is taking place in 2016. More and more people are applying the Thriver Model, and doing the inner work to transform themselves and reaping the results in their outer lives. I also discuss just how important purposeful evolution is, and I share some incredibly powerful 2016 intentions from people in the community to inspire you. Please note if you listen to the radio s...
What Is Self-Partnering?
December 17, 2015 23:52 - 41 minutes - 36.7 MBIn this radio show you will learn how not being self-partnered was the number one reason why we were narcissistically abuse, as well as why it is impossible to heal from narcissistic abuse if we don’t come home to “meeting ourselves”. You will also discover exactly what self-partnering is, what the results of doing it achieve, and how it is a template to not only heal ourselves but heal our world. Truly this is one of the most important recovery articles I have ever written, and I hope that...
Quantum Realities And Healing From Narcissistic Abuse - Part 2
December 11, 2015 00:04 - 44 minutes - 40.2 MBIn Part One we discussed some of the templates for Quantum Realities … theories that at the Quantum Level “there is no outside”, and “we are powerful Creators as per the levels of consciousness we are connected to Life at.” During Part 2, we take a deeper dive into the Quantum theories and I share with you information regarding how modern Quantum Information is not modern at all. As well as this part you may have been really waiting for ... How Quantum discoveries such as The Double Split ...
Quantum Realities And Healing From Narcissistic Abuse - Part 1
December 04, 2015 00:50 - 41 minutes - 37.5 MBThis is the first of a two part series regarding the Quantum Model and how it works in regard to healing from narcissistic abuse. I have been talking a lot lately on YouTube about this topic and people have been asking for a deeper conversation about it. In this radio show you will learn about what “going Quantum” means, and how we can change our “consciousness” to have the power to change ourselves and our lives. By sharing this series I know this will grant you the opportunity to revolut...
Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse Story #29 Premi
November 27, 2015 00:44 - 1 hour - 74.8 MBToday’s Thriver Show is about Prima, a lady who went through a highly abusive narcissistic marriage that had her eventually fleeing, fearful for her life. He had threatened that if she ever left him he would kill her. Now today Prima has not only recovered herself, her emotions and her life, but she was also recently awarded full legal custody of her two daughters. This occurred despite being initially terrified for her and her daughters that he would charm the courts and no-one would ...
Clarifying No Contact - The Common Pitfalls That Keep Us Hooked
November 13, 2015 03:20 - 32 minutes - 28.8 MBAnyone that has experienced narcissistic abuse, knows the feeling like black ink and ice running through your veins, when enmeshed with a narcissist. If you don’t achieve No Contact it is like being continually poisoned whilst trying to detox from the poison that is making you so sick. It’s very, very difficult to get well when you are constantly tied up in the battle of trying to survive the onslaughts of narcissistic abuse. Sadly, no contact is often misunderstood, and even when you havin...
Clarifying No Contact - The Common Pitfalls That Keep Us Hooked
November 13, 2015 01:09 - 17 minutes - 15.1 MBNo Contact is probably the biggest buzz word in narcissistic abuse recovery, and that’s really no surprise because it’s widely acknowledged that No Contact from a narcissist is vital in order to recover from one. Anyone that has experienced narcissistic abuse, knows the feeling like black ink and ice running through your veins, when enmeshed with a narcissist. If you don’t achieve No Contact it is like being continually poisoned whilst trying to detox from the poison that is making you so s...
How We Become Better Parents As We Heal
November 06, 2015 04:25 - 35 minutes - 31.8 MBSo many parents try to fix and help their children deal with narcissistic abuse, but don’t realise that operating from a tormented, agonised emotional state truly makes matters worse. It grants the narcissist more bullets to shoot you with and incites them to use your children as weapons of war. Making it the highest priority to heal ourselves and lead the way for our children, not only helps diffuse situations with the narcissist, it also grants our children the best emotional platform to...
What To Do When Your Family And Friends Don’t Support You
October 29, 2015 23:19 - 29 minutes - 25.9 MBThere are many things that are excruciatingly difficult when suffering from narcissistic abuse. One of them commonly being that people close to you seem to have no understanding of the soul rape that you are going through. Often adding insult to injury, people close to you might believe that you are the person who is disturbed and not well, and even making stuff up … Because the accusations you make seem so far away from the “perfect” model person that they portray to everyone else. It has...
Why Won't The Narcissist Leave Me Alone?
October 23, 2015 03:07 - 28 minutes - 25.5 MBIt can seem that narcissists are relentless, and they will not let up abusing, tormenting and punishing you. Many people ask, “How can I stop this happening?” There is no “practical” answer to this, because the narcissist leaving you alone actually has nothing to do with the narcissist, and has everything to do with you. It’s in no way dependent on who the narcissist is and what the narcissist is or isn’t doing. By listening to this radio show you will understand why. To join me in my nex...
Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse #28 Mike And Catsby
October 16, 2015 02:27 - 1 hour - 58.8 MBMike and Catsby are not only in a relationship – they are in a connected, expansive relationship which I call an “evolutionary relationship”. Meaning a soul-mate relationship – one where once we have mated our own soul – a true soul mate can enter our life. This is the ultimate goal of love relationship, and Mike and Catsby share intimately how to achieve it. How, by reaching a certain level of love and connection within yourself, this radiates out into the world and creates the physic...
When Is It Safe To Date After Narcissistic Abuse? Part 2
October 02, 2015 01:43 - 33 minutes - 29.8 MBIn Part One of this series we were looking at the essentials of self-partnering, as well as the understanding that we will always attract, be attracted to and accept the people who match our own levels of self-love. When we start to understand that people don’t treat us the way we profess to treat others, but rather identical to the ways we treat and feel about ourselves – we know that an “outer” relationship can never give us ourselves; all it can ever do is reflect back more of the authent...
When Is It Safe To Date After Narcissistic Abuse? Part 1
September 25, 2015 01:39 - 35 minutes - 31.3 MBDo you feel like it's time to start dating again but you are worried and confused about how to choose someone that's right for you? You may be struggling to trust others, and you may have lost your ability to put yourself out there in a comfortable and confident way. Dating again after narcissistic abuse can be a minefield of confusion and pain if you decide to date too early. You must accept that fact that narcissistic abuse isn’t like a normal relationship breakdown in that there is many...
Is It Possible To Truly Love A Narcissist?
September 11, 2015 03:23 - 39 minutes - 35.3 MBLoving a narcissist is one of the most traumatic experiences anyone could ever go through. But was it ever really true love? It’s so common to feel the agonising, pain, frustration and loss of “I gave this person so much love and this is how they treated me.” This show is deep dive into the truth about Love, what healthy Love is and isn’t – and the real deal about how our levels of “love” were playing out in narcissistic relationships. If you would like to discover the truth about how we c...
The Soul Contract With A Narcissist
September 04, 2015 03:05 - 41 minutes - 37 MBIf this is the case, potentially this would change everything about the way we view these relationships. It could also have a profound effect on how we recover from them. This year, I had an experience that not only confirmed to me that the two narcissists in my life were Soul Contracts, but also shocked and stunned me regarding exactly “how” that came into being and “what” it was really about. Nothing about my previous spiritual or self-development training could have prepared me for this...
The Real Reason Why The Narcissist Punishes You
August 14, 2015 03:18 - 35 minutes - 31.5 MBWhat are the real reasons why a narcissist punishes us? Why are we tapped in abuse with a person like this, and why we can’t seem to let go, move on or heal beyond our suffering. What are the REAL reasons why we still feel like we love this person? Why do we hang in there making all the justification and excuses whilst paying a terrible price trying to make the relationship work regardless of their horrendous abuse? You will find out exactly why in this radio show. To see the transcript o...
Healing From Narcissistic Abuse: Coming Home To Our Bodies
August 07, 2015 02:34 - 1 hour - 61.8 MBWhy it is vital to come home to inside our bodies in order to heal after narcissistic abuse? In this radio show you will learn all about how we originally got disconnected from “being with ourselves” and what that looks like, how it plays out and how it feels. Maybe we think connecting with our bodies is about eating healthily, or exercising and respecting our physical being. Many of us did not realise that “body-awareness” relates to every aspect of our emotional life – our relationship...
Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse No #27 - Val
July 31, 2015 23:14 - 2 minutes - 1.34 MBI'm very excited to bring you this Thriver Story about a woman named Val. Many narcissistic relationships include episodes of rage. However, some narcissists are notorious for these episodes and constant mood swings. If you have been a relationship with a narcissistic rager you will relate to: Feeling like you can't do anything right because the slightest perceived error will result in a barrage of rage. Living in constant fear of what they might do - especially after breaking away from t...
Narcissistic Abuse: The 5 Victim Illusions
July 24, 2015 03:04 - 53 minutes - 47.9 MBThis radio show is a follow-on show from last week. Many people contacted me about last week’s show as well as asked questions. This show is a deep look into those questions through the journey of the “5 Victim Illusions”. It is my greatest desire that this radio show helps you release illusions which have been taking you away from healing and not toward it, as well as granting you access to understandings that will transcend your life capacity way beyond abuse. To see the transcript of th...
The Difference Between Victimisation And Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse
July 17, 2015 04:38 - 56 minutes - 50.9 MBA little over a week ago I had an awakening within me that was so powerful there was no ignoring it, and it’s this awakening that motivated me to create this radio show. We know that narcissists operate from unconsciousness; their True Self has been eradicated and has been replaced by an Egoic Self that is never satisfied. But it isn’t just narcissists who operate from unconsciousness … In this article I want to explore how narcissists bring unconsciousness to the surface – granting us ...
Healing Childhood Trauma And Avoidance Disorders With Clarie [Thriver Story #26]
July 10, 2015 04:16 - 1 hour - 108 MBThis radio show is Clarie’s Thriver Story. An incredible one that I know many people will relate to. As a result of Clarie’s traumatic childhood she had developed avoidance and dissociation disorders. She had very little memory of her childhood, and had through she had dealt with it, and that she was “okay”. Clarie ended up in a relationship in her 50s with a narcissist, which cracked that illusion wide open. The journey of this radio show is about her N-experience and then how Clarie rea...