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Ending Conflict
April 13, 2022 11:00 - 18 minutes - 17 MBI love how coaching tools can help me better live the principles of the gospel! In our recent general conference, President Nelson said, "None of us can control nations or the actions of others or even members of our own families. But we can control ourselves. My call today, dear brothers and sisters, is to end conflicts that are raging in your heart, your home, and your life." Today I'm sharing three coaching tools that will help you do just that.
A Happy, Thriving Mom
April 06, 2022 10:00 - 16 minutes - 15.5 MBWe know from scripture that "Men are, that they might have joy." That also means "Moms are, that they might have joy." We are created to have joy in this life! And yet all too often, we get so bogged down with the to-do lists of life that we forget to have joy! Or we get so caught up in taking care of others that we lose touch with ourselves. We actually forget how to experience joy! Tune in this week to find out why it's crucial to the health of your family that you learn how to cre...
The Future
March 30, 2022 10:00 - 22 minutes - 23.1 MBHow many times have you lay in bed, playing a movie over and over in your mind of what you think the future will look like? I've done it so many times I can't keep track! And how many times has everything played out exactly how you envisioned it? If you're anything like me- probably little to none. One thing we DO know for sure about the future, is that nothing is for sure! All the worrying and trying to fix ours and our children's future before it even happens is probably actually causing...
Joy in Your Posterity
March 23, 2022 10:00 - 20 minutes - 21.2 MBSomething we are promised as we keep our covenants is that we will "have joy in our posterity." But we also know that we can't experience joy without sorrow and difficulty. So it stands to reason that "negative emotions in our posterity" would also be part of the plan right? In a previous podcast episode I explained the difference between clean pain and dirty pain. This concept also applies to parenting! Here are three things I think we do with that dirty pain that just tend to suck the jo...
A Call to Moms
March 16, 2022 10:00 - 22 minutes - 23.6 MBThere was a cheesy church video about the Law of Chastity that came out back the the day. I looked to it up recently to see if I was remembering correctly, but this time there was a song that really stood out to me. In it was the phrase "you will not get lost if you walk beside her." Wow. That is so powerful to me, and exactly what I want those around me to be able to say about me! In order to become this person we need to 1. Be constantly increasing our own faith and 2. Invite people to wal...
The Parable of the Fruit Trees
March 09, 2022 11:00 - 19 minutes - 20.1 MBSeveral years ago, we bought a house that had been foreclosed on and neglected for a year and a half. One of the most exciting parts of this property was that it had a ton of fruit trees on it! The problem was- we had no idea what kind of fruit trees they were. So we worked hard on those trees. We made sure they had good nutritious soil, water, sunlight, and that they were pruned enough to thrive. Then, we sat back and watched with delight as all these mystery trees slowly revealed so many k...
How to Not Freak Out
March 02, 2022 11:00 - 22 minutes - 23.3 MBWe've all been there- your child does something that sends you over the edge and you just lose it. It happens to the best of us! But how do you feel afterwards? How is that relationship affected? For me- no good ever comes from those freak-out moments. Luckily there are SO many things we can do to make sure they are few and far between. Here's a few of them that I'll talk about in today's episode: Be kind to yourself, and make sure that your needs are being met. Learn to pause and breath...
Loving Yourself
February 24, 2022 06:23 - 18 minutes - 19.1 MBFor our last "love" topic for the month of February, I want to talk about loving yourself. Although, really, this one should come first. Here are five dead giveaways that you are great at loving yourself: You speak kindly to yourself. You take care of yourself and meet your own needs. You can comfortably acknowledge ALL the parts of yourself- the good and the "less-than-good." It's easy for you to love others. You are able to feel the love of God. Listen for specific examples in ...
Loving What Is
February 16, 2022 11:00 - 21 minutes - 22.3 MBHave you ever heard the story of the cows and the buffalos? To sum it up for you- animals have a sense of when a storm is coming, and cows and buffalos have two very different ways that they react. Cows sort of panic and run the opposite direction. The storm eventually catches up to them, and since they're still running in the same direction, it prolongs the amount of time they're in it. But buffalos do pretty much the opposite. They band together, put their heads down and charge the storm! ...
Languages of Love
February 09, 2022 11:00 - 19 minutes - 20.3 MBChances are you've probably heard of Gary Chapman's five love languages. But rather than thinking of them in a romantic sense, today I want to put those love languages in the context of strengthening our relationships with our children and, even more importantly, ourselves. Words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, gifts, quality time, and I would add food ;) all have a place in helping our teens feel loved, whether they choose to accept it or not. It's also important to make ...
Love at Home
February 02, 2022 11:00 - 21 minutes - 22.5 MBNobody likes listening to fighting at home. In fact, the Book of Mormon even tells us that we should be teaching our children not to fight and quarrel(Mosiah 4:14-15). I don't know about you, but my knee-jerk reaction when I hear my kids fighting is to jump right in the middle of it. I used to think that in order for everyone to love each other, I had to get them to stop fighting. But what if that's backwards? What if, in order to get my family to stop fighting, I have to create an atmosph...
The Power of Words
January 19, 2022 11:00 - 20 minutes - 21.7 MB"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal..." Those are arguably some of the most powerful words in history that previously, and even at that time, weren't actually believed by most. But when they were written down, all of a sudden, it set a new standard for mankind. What are some of the most powerful words you've heard in your life? Our words create our reality. The words we speak to those around us and especially to ourselves have a profound impact on our t...
Reducing Conflict with Teenagers
January 12, 2022 11:00 - 23 minutes - 24 MBPicture this: Your teenager is on a rampage this afternoon. Huffing and puffing, slamming doors, snapping at siblings, rolling their eyes at you and demanding to know how you think they're supposed to get everything they're supposed to done in time. Sound familiar? First of all, remain calm. Easier said than done, I know. After all, you told them to work on their school project instead of hanging out with friend last night! But remember- giving in and matching their emotionally heightened,...
When Your Child Leaves the Church
January 05, 2022 11:00 - 22 minutes - 22.8 MBOne thing that a lot of my clients are struggling with or have struggled with in the past is one or more of their children questioning and/or leaving the church. It's so easy to let our fears take over in this situation- What if they live a life full of misery? What if we don't get to be together forever as a family? While we can't predict the outcome, we do know that Heavenly Father has a perfect plan for each one of us. And in the meantime, I have a few tips that can significantly ease the...
Light of the World
December 15, 2021 20:45 - 13 minutes - 12.7 MBSpecial treat today on the podcast! I have a guided meditation to help you slow down this Christmas season and focus yourself on Jesus Christ, the light of the world. Here are the scriptures I used: D&C 93:8-9 Mosiah 16:9 John 8:12 Ether 4:12 D&C 84:45 D&C 93:2 Find a quiet, comfy spot and enjoy meditating on the Light of the World!
Tips for Family Gatherings
December 08, 2021 11:00 - 17 minutes - 17.9 MBWe all know that the Christmas season is supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, right? I know it is for me! But what about that mother-in-law that always criticizes your parenting or the sister that tries to guilt you into staying longer than you have the energy for? Family get-togethers, work parties, or gatherings in general are such a huge part of the holidays for most people, and for many of those people they can be a source stress, anxiety, or maybe even dread. Well to th...
Gathering
December 01, 2021 21:08 - 15 minutes - 14.2 MB'Tis the season for gathering! Gather is a word that is often on my mind. It also hangs on my wall as a reminder of the work I am committed to. In today's episode I'm talking about the importance of gathering. I'll share a few tips on how to make your holiday gatherings more joyful. I'm also talking about how my own gathering efforts will be changing next year. Click here to talk to me personally about joining our coaching group! Quote by Stephen W. Owen
This is What it's Like to Be Human
November 24, 2021 11:00 - 13 minutes - 14.5 MBDo you remember the catch phrase 'YOLO'? My teenagers would use it when they wanted to do something risky or something I normally wouldn't let them do. But what if instead, it meant something more? As members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we believe that we lived with our Heavenly Father before we came to this earth. We believe that we knew the plan and we knew that our mortal journey was going to be hard, but we wanted to come anyways! Well what if 'You Only Live O...
A Recipe for Joy
November 10, 2021 11:00 - 19 minutes - 20.3 MBWe know from the scriptures that we are created "that [we] might have joy." But, much like some of the most delicious recipes, feeling joy can sometimes take a little more effort on our part. Luckily, my recipe for joy only has four ingredients. 1. Presence- What are you experiencing in this very moment? What are you seeing? Hearing? Smelling? Feeling? 2. Gratitude- Think about all the small, beautiful blessings we are so lucky receive in this life. No matter how hard things seem right n...
Am I enough?
November 03, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 16.9 MBOne of the big worries that plague us as moms- am I enough? The answer is a bit confusing- yes and no. We can't be enough in this life. That is- we can't be possibly be perfect. But not being enough IS ENOUGH. As long as you're still trying, that is enough. Here's the link to Elder Cornish's talk from October 2016 LDS General Conference- It's a good one!
Parental Leadership
November 03, 2021 04:30 - 22 minutes - 23.8 MBOne of our main jobs as a parent is to be a leader for our family. We want to guide, help, inspire, and be a cheerleader for our children! Today, we talk about how to become the leader we want to be. Some of the best ways to do this are: 1. Leading by example (see Emotional Adulthood), 2. Having a clear vision, which we can then share with our children 3. Truly understanding and connecting with our children 4. Believe in them! Luckily for us, we have the BEST example of leadershi...
Contention in the Home
October 20, 2021 10:00 - 27 minutes - 28.8 MBI think a lot of people would agree that one of the most frustrating parts of parenting is when your kids fight. My husband and I have tried countless things to eliminate contention in our home, some of which were downright ridiculous! But a lot of the times, I ended up getting frustrated and joining right in which, of course, didn't do anybody any good. Can you relate? Luckily for us, it turns out kids being mean or fighting actually has nothing to do with us! And it doesn't have to dicta...
How to Doubt Not, Fear Not
October 13, 2021 10:00 - 24 minutes - 22.2 MBIn Doctrine & Covenants 6:36, we are told to "doubt not, fear not." With everything we face in our lives, this commandment can seem easier said than done, or may even feel impossible at times. But what if I told you that we can CHOOSE to have faith that everything will work out? In this episode we will explore how we can increase our faith to combat those fears and doubts that plague us every day. Mental illness, confusion of faith, contention- these are just a few of the challenges we may...
Teens and Social Media
October 06, 2021 10:00 - 15 minutes - 14.3 MBIn 2014, Elder David A. Bednar spoke to members of the church at Education Week at BYU. He talked about using social media to flood the earth with goodness. But we've seen that social media can also be harmful, especially to young people, when used carelessly. How can we teach and train the rising generation to use this powerful tool in a way that blesses them and the world? I believe it starts with the way we as parents think about it. If we think of social media as evil or destruct...
Age Appropriate Behaviors
September 29, 2021 10:00 - 28 minutes - 26.2 MBHave you ever watched a baby cry and thought to yourself, "I can't belive that baby is crying! They're going to grow into an adult that whines and cries until people give them what they want." No? Then why do we do that with our teenagers? In today's episode we talk about how most of the things our children- especially teens- do is completely normal, and actually means that they are growing and developing right on schedule! And that means it's not our job to control every aspect of their l...
Gospel Appllications
September 22, 2021 10:00 - 23 minutes - 21.7 MBAs members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we are constantly striving to become. We want to become more patient, kind, or humble. We want to become a wonderful parent or a spiritual giant. We especially want to become more like our Savior Jesus Christ. But how do we do that? In this week's episode we talk about universal truths. No matter what church you belong to, if any at all, every single person will be able to take these truths and apply them to their life. We talk...
Brain Loops
September 15, 2021 10:30 - 18 minutes - 17.3 MBToday we're talking about brain loops. You know... like when you're lying in your bed at night replaying the same thoughts over and over and over. We'll talk about why your brain likes to do that, and how you can interrupt that cycle and find some peace.
Resentment
September 08, 2021 10:00 - 19 minutes - 18.2 MBElder Dieter F. Uchtdorf said "There is enough heartache and sorrow in this life without our adding to it through our own stubbornness, bitterness and resentment. It's an easy trap to fall into as a parent. Feeling unappreciated or overworked can easily turn into a pattern of resentment. It doesn't have to be this way! Learning to let go of resentment is a great way to create a more joyful life!
Emotions Don't Need to be Fixed
September 01, 2021 09:30 - 21 minutes - 20 MBJob 38:7 tells us that when we understood the plan for us to come to earth, we shouted for joy! We couldn't wait to have the experience of being human, with all it's ups and downs. And yet now, when we (or our children) feel negative emotions, we think something has gone wrong. We think we need to hurry and solve the problem so that we can return to happy as soon as possible. The truth is that a rich, full life is made up of all kinds of emotions. In today's episode we'll talk about ...
Motivating Teens
August 25, 2021 09:00 - 31 minutes - 28.8 MBTeenagers are notorious for sleeping in late, procrastinating their chores, and putting fun as their highest priority. And while that's certainly not true for ALL teens, many parents find themselves struggling to keep their teenager motivated and focused on the things that matter. In this episode I'm talking as a fellow struggling parent. I'm constantly trying to find more effective ways to motivate without trying to control or manipulate my kids. I've been through enough teenagers to ...
Self-Confidence
August 18, 2021 09:00 - 22 minutes - 20.9 MBWho wouldn't like a little more self-confidence in their life?? In today's episode we talk about what confidence is, where it comes from, and how to have more of it!
What Could I Have Done Differently?
August 11, 2021 09:00 - 16 minutes - 15.3 MBIt's a question most of us moms have asked ourselves. And sometimes maybe it's a useful question, but often it's not. If you ever find yourself wishing you could go back and do things differently in your parenting, then today's episode is for you!
Hearing God's Voice in Parenting
August 04, 2021 09:00 - 17 minutes - 15.9 MBPresident Nelson has said "In coming days, it will not be possible to survive spiritually without the guiding, directing, comforting and constant influence of the Holy Ghost." This is true with respect to our own spiritual safety and conversion. I believe it's also true in regard to our parenting. To be the kind of parents the Lord needs us to be, we need to be able to hear God's voice. We need Him to guide, direct and comfort us in our parenting. Today's episode talks about how to g...
One Hundred Percent Lovable
June 30, 2021 09:00 - 21 minutes - 20 MBToday we're talking about the fact that every human in the world is one hundred percent lovable. Isn't that great to know? That means that we don't need to wait for anyone to change in order for us to love them more. From Dieter F. Uchtdorf "Though we are incomplete, God loves us completely. Though we are imperfect, God loves us perfectly." If we want to love people more, all we need to do is improve our skill of loving! Brene Brown says it this way, "Our job is unconditional love....
You're Not Alone
June 16, 2021 09:00 - 11 minutes - 10.2 MBToday's message is short and sweet. It's a reminder that you're not alone in this struggle that you're dealing with. Struggling is why we're here, and no one is immune. It's the struggles that help us become who we want to be. It's also a message of hope. I love this quote from President Gordon B. Hinckley: "It isn't as bad as you sometimes think it is. It all works out. Don't worry. I say that to myself every morning. It will all work out. If you do your best, it will all work ou...
Believing In Our Kids
June 02, 2021 09:00 - 26 minutes - 24.6 MBReferenced in this episode: "Christ is Risen; Faith in Him Will Move Mountains" by Russel M Nelson Hebrews 11:1 KJV "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen." "The way kids learn to make good decisions is by making decisions, not by following directions." Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
Dealing With Disrespectful Teens
May 19, 2021 09:00 - 22 minutes - 20.6 MBThis episode is addressing a question I get often from my clients. How do I deal with a disrespectful teenager? One thing we know from the scriptures is that the way to have genuine power and influence in someone's life is not through coersion or power struggles. Proving we are stronger and trying to demand respect is not the same thing as teaching or earning genuine respect. True respect and the right to be an influence in our childrens' lives is gained by "persuasion, by long-sufferi...
What it's Like to be Coached
May 05, 2021 09:00 - 20 minutes - 18.7 MBHave you ever wondered what it's like to be coached? How is it different from learning by listening to a podcast or reading a book? Today I'm talking with a real live client of mine, and she shares what her experience has been like. If you've ever thought about working with a coach, you're going to want to listen to this episode?
Negative Emotions
April 21, 2021 09:00 - 26 minutes - 24 MBNegative emotions may not sound like a very fun topic. But like it or not, about half of our earth life experience is going to be made up of negative emotion! Right? Opposition in all things? Learning what to do with our negative emotions is an important part of using our agency. This episode is designed to help you gain some awareness of what is happening when you feel bad, and to give you some skills to help you process those feelings in a healthy, productive way.
Modeling as a Parenting Tool
April 07, 2021 09:00 - 20 minutes - 19.1 MBSometimes it seems like our teenagers aren't listening to us anymore. Maybe it's the earbuds in their ears, the bored look in their eyes when we are teaching, or the door slammed in our face as we try to follow them to their room. What can we do as a parent when it seems like our wisdom is falling on deaf ears? We can focus our energy on what we are MODELING for them. Elder Devin G. Durrant said "Our most impactful parental teaching is our example." Today's episode focuses on thin...
Connecting With Teens Using the Rules of Improv: With Joey Mascio
March 24, 2021 09:00 - 39 minutes - 36.6 MBJoey Mascio is a certified life coach for teens and young adults, a middle school teacher and counselor, and a trained performer. He coaches the next generation on creating more happiness and success in their lives. He has a Masters in Education, coaching certification through The Life Coach School, and is a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Joey currently resides in southern California with his wife and 3.5 kids (his fourth is due this summer!). You can find him a...
Common Parenting Mistakes
March 10, 2021 10:00 - 21 minutes - 19.8 MBI've been coaching parents of teenagers for a couple of years now, and I've BEEN a parent of teenagers for more than 10 years! With all that experience, I've identified a few things most parents do (myself included) that never help. In fact, these common mistakes usually create the exact opposite of what parents are hoping for.
Beliefs
February 24, 2021 10:00 - 20 minutes - 19.2 MBDid you know you get to choose what you believe? Today I share with you some of the beliefs that I have chosen on purpose. These are things that I choose to believe because they serve me well in my family relationships, and life in general.
How to Make Parenting Easier
February 10, 2021 10:00 - 23 minutes - 21.2 MBI don't believe that parenting was meant to be a walk in the park. I think it was intended to stretch us and help us grow. But there are things going on in our world that make it more difficult than it has to be. In this episode we're talking about healthy parent-child attchment, and how nurturing that attachment can make parenting so much easier and more joyful. Referenced in the episode: Relationship Matters by Dr. Gordon Neufeld Parenting Without Power Struggles by Susan Stiffe...
How to Have Hard Conversations
January 27, 2021 10:00 - 21 minutes - 19.6 MBPsychology today estimates that only 7% of human communication takes place through the words we speak. The rest is understood through tone and body language. So while words are powerful, and should be chosen carefully, perhaps we should focus some of our attention on the other components of our communication. Our tone of voice and body language are often not conscious choices for us. They are created by the thoughts and feelings we have going on "behind the scenes," or behind the words t...
The Model
January 13, 2021 10:00 - 24 minutes - 22.4 MBThe Self-Coaching Model is a tool created by Brooke Castillo. She combined the knowledge and work of many other wise teachers to come up with a common sense, hands-on way to apply the best principles. This episode is one that will be useful to listen to, but the real power will come from applying what you learn. If you'd like a worksheet to help you practice using the model in your life, email me and I'll send you one! [email protected]
What is the Goal?
December 30, 2020 10:00 - 22 minutes - 21 MBNew Year's week feels like a good time to talk about goals. But in this episode, we're not talking about the goals that you write down and check off your list. Today we're zooming out and talking about the bigger picture goals that we have for our family relationships. We're talking about how to not get so focused on the short term details that we lose sight of what we are really trying to accomplish.
Toxic People
December 16, 2020 10:00 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBHave you ever felt like someone in your life was "toxic?" Like every time you are around that person you feel negative emotions? I hear people use this term a lot, and I don't think it's accurate. I think that believing other people are toxic puts us in the position of feeling like a victim. What if nobody else had the power to make you feel bad? Tune into this episode to see how that is possible!
Why You Feel Bad
December 02, 2020 10:00 - 20 minutes - 19.1 MBSo many of us think that we feel bad because of the things happening outside of us. We think that if only our husband would do this one thing, we would be so much happier. Or if only our teenager would behave differently, we would feel so much more at peace. If only people would be nicer to each other on social media, we wouldn't be so stressed out. The problem with this kind of thinking is that it puts us in a place of powerlessness. If we have to wait for other people to change so that...
When Your Teenager Won't Listen
November 18, 2020 10:00 - 20 minutes - 18.4 MBIt can be so frustrating when our teenagers start to tune us out! Don’t they know we still have so many valuable things to teach them?? Unfortunately, it happens to even the best and wisest of parents. So at least you’re in good company! Teenagers need to learn to distance themselves from their parents in order for them to become independent, responsible adults. So it is actually developmentally healthy and appropriate for them to stop needing or wanting our input in the details of the...