The Behind The Shades Show : Marriage, Mental Health, And Trauma Recovery
528 episodes - English - Latest episode: 1 day ago -This is a show where we ask our guests how can we find love again. Each episode is a story for you. Your pain, your trauma, your success, and your path to happiness. Tuned in and ask us The Behind The Shades Show, why is it so hard to find love? We have the answer to that question.
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Behind The Shades Episode 076 - Leticia Interview
February 19, 2022 18:00 - 27 minutes - 63.8 MBA painful childhood. Leticia joins us to speak about her mental trauma during her childhood. From an early age she was told she is the reason for her parents divorcing. From that experience, she searched for comfort and love. She temporary found what she needed in the wrong places and ended up in an abusive marriage. Leticia speaks about recovering from this and finding her strength. From a low point to inspiring people across the world. Leticia shows how important it is to her to help other...
Behind The Shades Episode 075 - Julia Interview
February 12, 2022 18:00 - 35 minutes - 82 MBA teacher's love. Julia joins us to discuss her teacher's journey of 20+ years. She shares how teachers are the 2nd parents of children and are a part of their future. We touched on the importance of children and the roles teachers play in their lives. Children are precious and vulnerable at the same time and we must protect them. Julia shows us how she will continue to help children in the future. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 074 - Linda Interview
February 05, 2022 18:00 - 51 minutes - 118 MBIn episode 74, we continue to speak about relationships. Linda joins us to speak about "protecting your peace". She elaborates by sharing the importance self-fulfilling love and how difficult being happy is. As we talked, mental health came up and she shared how she had her own struggles with it. Many of us spend a lot of time alone and this may trigger unproductive thoughts. Linda found a way to keep herself happy by filling her day with happiness and wants to share how. Remember to share a...
Behind The Shades Episode 073 - Sherley Interview
January 29, 2022 18:00 - 1 hour - 152 MBWith episode 73 we talk about relationships. "it's easier to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission". Sherley joins us to speak about that quote as well as the impact of infidelity in a relationship. She mentions how she had to learn make her relationship work again. From denial to acceptance, the stages of grief can enlighten us in profound ways. Sherley shares how importance receiving and giving forgiveness is. Forgiveness and responsibility her and her spouse continue forward in t...
Behind The Shades Episode 072 - Natasha Interview
January 22, 2022 18:00 - 45 minutes - 104 MBWith Season 2 we speak with the 2nd half of a married couple. Natasha joins us for part 2 as we spoke with her spouse Jachym earlier. Natasha shares her join of identifying behaviours from her childhood that was negatively impacting her marriage. Natasha went through a period of self-reflection to help strengthen her marriage. She discovered parallels between her marriage as well as her parents which she wanted to fix. Natasha is now helping women find themselves and discover happiness withi...
Behind The Shades Episode 071 - Jachym Interview
January 15, 2022 18:00 - 39 minutes - 89.5 MBWith Season 2 we speak one half of a married couple, part 2 with his spouse will follow. Jachym joins us to speak about working on a marriage and not giving up. He mentions some of the challenges he experienced in his marriage were routed in his family experiences as a child. He works to identify and correct these engrained behaviours to strengthen his marriage. Both partners explored an open marriage and it revealed situations that neither were prepared for but ultimately learned how to nav...
Behind The Shades Episode 070 - Nelson Interview
January 08, 2022 18:00 - 27 minutes - 63 MBIn celebrating Season 2, we have a touching story. Nelson joins us to discuss his journey being born out of a sexual assault. He called it the "unlucky sperm club" but it doesn't define him. Nelson has grown to be a successful father and husband. He is using his childhood experience to raise his sons in a loving and nurturing family. We talked about his goal of being married for 25 years and hopefully 50 years. The goal of helping the next generation turn childhood trauma into adulthood triu...
Behind The Shades Episode 069 - Sabastian Interview
January 01, 2022 18:00 - 53 minutes - 122 MBCelebrating Season 2 with mental health. Sabastian joins us to speak about the downside of the last 2 years. He speaks about the struggle on his business taking a hit and the mental difficulty of dealing with it. We touch on how how the past can come back to haunt us in the form of "cancel culture". It was an interesting perspective as he is looking to turn around his business in a different way as well as his life. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 068 - Wali Interview
December 25, 2021 18:00 - 30 minutes - 70.5 MBWith episode 68, Wali joins us to speak about the impact his parents had on him growing up. He also touches on how comedy and unite people through difficult times. Laughter may be a remedy to many of our issues and Wali and I discuss this. Wali shares his personal journey and the closeness of his family in his younger years. He mentions how his grandfather and father helped to cheer up others. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 067 - Daniel Interview
December 18, 2021 18:00 - 31 minutes - 71.9 MBWe spoke about issues impacting the world in episode 67. Daniel joins us to speak about the social issues happening in the world. We discuss his struggles with his daughter and how he had to overcome their differences. I mentioned human connection and how there seems to be a disconnect between each other recently. It was a conversation that highlighted the importance of connection and understanding. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 066 - Nigel Interview
December 11, 2021 18:00 - 41 minutes - 94.6 MBIn episode 66, Nigel joins us to speak about relationship and how it impacts our mental health. Nigel gets to the root of many dating myths and experiences. We speak about how some common beliefs are actually not common and how focusing on superficial items may not be beneficial. Nigel then expressed some concern regarding men not being able to express their emotions and what can be done to assist. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 065 - Mark Interview
December 04, 2021 18:00 - 34 minutes - 80 MBIt's episode 65! We spoke with Mark about mental health and the struggles of acceptance that many experience. Mark shares his own story about his mental health and how it has affected his relationships in the world today. As he approaches 60 years old he has a different view of the world and speaks candidly about it. He shares with me how he sees the world now versus years ago. He also shares what he is doing to help improve the experiences of others. Remember to share and follow to keep up-...
Behind The Shades Episode 064 - Purdeep Interview
November 27, 2021 18:00 - 45 minutes - 103 MBBack with number 64! Purdeep speaks to us about empowering men and making sure positive examples of men are being promoted. We discussed the expectations placed on the family unit and the need of men to be role models in their communities. I highlighted the differences between our grandparent's social communities versus the social communities of today. The conversation touched on the importance of unity, understanding, and respect within the household. Remember to share and follow to keep up...
Behind The Shades Episode 063 - Dai Interview
November 20, 2021 18:00 - 40 minutes - 93.8 MBIt's episode 63. Dai speaks to us about overcoming alcoholism and living sober for over 10 years. He explains the impact it had on him as a father and husband. It took years of self-reflection and honest conversations for him to overcome alcohol. Dai also lets us know how travel the world with his family strengthen the family's bond. The wonders of the world they shared together is inspiring. It shares his favorite moments of travelling with his family as well as what it taught him. He share...
Behind The Shades Episode 062 - Alejandra Interview
November 13, 2021 18:00 - 46 minutes - 106 MBWith episode 62 we talk about broken relationships. Alejandra speaks about coaching women to make better choices while dating. She speaks about creating dating boundaries for yourself and their importance. We discussed how pressure from friends and family members can negatively impact our decisions. These impact can leave us lost, frustrated, defeated while dating. Alejandra shares her personal experiences and what she has learned that helped her find a partner. Remember to share and follow ...
Behind The Shades Episode 061 - Rachel Interview
November 06, 2021 17:00 - 1 hour - 158 MBIt's episode 61. Rachel joins us to speak about childhood trauma. Rachel experienced sexual abuse growing up from a trusted person. we discussed how many crimes are committed by someone you know or someone close to you. She also mentions her state of mind during the abuse and it's impact on her future relationships. We both shared how awareness of abuse within the home is important as well as the healing process. Children are vulnerable growing up and Rachel shares this and wants others to s...
Behind The Shades Episode 060 - Laura Interview
October 30, 2021 17:00 - 55 minutes - 126 MBEpisode 60 features a well traveled person. Laura joins us to speak about her childhood trauma and the different ways it has impacted her life. Feeling like the "ugly duckling" in her family, Laura attempted to find a number of ways to be seen. This all lead Laura down a destructive path that came together in a difficult marriage. School was Laura's safe place and it brought her the joy she was seeking from her family. Her and I related on a number of topics and seemed to enlighten each othe...
Behind The Shades Episode 059 - Beata Interview
October 23, 2021 17:00 - 1 hour - 143 MBEpisode 59 is an episode of being reborn. Beata speaks to us about the pain she felt when her partner decided to end their relationship to much of her surprise. She shares how the man she loved fueled a journey of emptiness and self-doubt. We spoke about what she did to rebound and how a move across the world changed her life. With a fresh start, she had to relearn her life all over again. However, life changed when she stopped running from her past and when she began to come to terms with i...
Behind The Shades Episode 058 - Heather Interview
October 16, 2021 17:00 - 45 minutes - 104 MBIn episode 58 we touch on the impact of marriages. Heather joins us and shares the difficulty she experienced in her marriage. Her mother expressed disappointment in her decision to divorce and this led her to feel isolated by the decision. We touch on the expectation created by family and friends. As an extrovert, she is always seen as someone that should be family despite the many times she's been unable. These expectations became a heavy burden. She was someone that helped others in need ...
Behind The Shades Episode 057 - Melissa R Interview
October 09, 2021 17:00 - 36 minutes - 84.2 MBWith episode 57 we talk about the different lens of parenthood. Melissa speaks about parenthood and all that she has learned. Melissa grew up with trauma from food and it's negative impact. She learned to control her life to break the generational trauma cycle so it didn't impact her children. We discussed the importance of helping the next generation avoid trauma and surround themselves with happiness. It was good to share perspectives from a parent and a non-parent. Remember to share and f...
Behind The Shades Episode 056 - Maggie Interview
October 02, 2021 17:00 - 38 minutes - 87.8 MBIt's episode 56 and Maggie has joined us. Maggie speaks to us about her childhood trauma and the different ways it has impacted her life. The impact is felt from her relationships with her parents to her romantic relationships. Maggie details the death of her mother and the incarceration of her father to us. She also shares how she had to manifest a better version of herself to start enjoying a better life. Both Maggie and I discuss how we all need to love ourselves first before we can ask o...
Behind The Shades Episode 055 - Katherine Interview
September 25, 2021 17:00 - 34 minutes - 80.1 MBWith episode 55 we talk about fulfilling your dreams. Katherine stops by to speak about her family and how important they are to her. She shares how she had to overcome imposter syndrome to truly enjoy her successes. We opened up about giving back to the generation to help ensure they fulfill their dreams. Katherine then highlights why mentorship is beneficial and what she learned from past mistakes. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 054 - Elizabeth Interview
September 18, 2021 17:00 - 44 minutes - 102 MBIt's a return with episode 54. Elizabeth joins us to speak to about upbringing and the changes she made in her life. She wants to be a better person for her children as well as the next generation after her. We discuss what it takes to live out one's dreams. She has started a business, written books, and continues to assist the world through her vision. She details the start of her journey and the events that led her to where she is today. We explored the many reasons why people fulfill thei...
Behind The Shades Episode 053 - Lucy Interview
September 11, 2021 17:00 - 1 hour - 141 MBEpisode 53 is here. Lucy joins us to discuss her difficulty childhood and what she did to overcome it. Her MMA background has helped her to learn different forms of accountability and the positive impacts of it. She shares how she has learn just as much from defeat as she did from victory. She is a new mother herself that sees parallels between her former and current life. As a healthcare worker, she knows what it takes to be a nurturer and present provider. Lucy takes through the hardships...
Behind The Shades Episode 052 - CJ Interview
September 04, 2021 17:00 - 44 minutes - 102 MBWe welcome you all back to episode 52. CJ joins us to discuss her struggles with self-confidence and her inability to gain weight. She details to us how out of shape and unhealthy she was in her younger years. She mentions how she couldn't walk up a flight of stairs or run for a bus. CJ started on a journey to improve her health when she started experiencing chest pains with early signs of a potential heart attack. These days CJ has improved her health by participating in "boxercise" workout...
Behind The Shades Episode 051 - Gulsah Interview
August 28, 2021 17:00 - 25 minutes - 57.7 MBWith episode 51 we have Gulsah joining us. Gulsah speaks about her goal for the week and the importance of it. We discuss how important self-love and self-accountability is. We wanted to speak about the amount of importance each of us have. Gulsah shares some of her struggles with food, body fitness, and imagery. We highlighted how everyone has goals and the support needed to put those goals into reality. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 050 - Michaela Interview
August 21, 2021 17:00 - 29 minutes - 68.6 MBWe welcome Michaela for episode 50. Michaela speaks about her childhood disability, her early divorce, and the death of her 2nd husband just a few years ago. Growing up legally blind, she had to worker harder than many others to become the woman she is today. Michaela has written about her experiences in her books. Her books are a voice for her children and the other children out there who may have grown up with a disability. Having to deal with marital pain throughout her life, Michaela has...
Behind The Shades Episode 049 - Bilal Interview
August 14, 2021 17:00 - 21 minutes - 49 MBIt's episode 49 with Bilal. Bilal joins us to discuss a personal tragedy. He talks about his son getting hit by car and being near death. He details what he was experiencing as well as how the community pulled together to help the young child in need. Bilal has used this experience to give back to the community that has given so much to him and his family. This is a story about strength and a father's love to see their child recover and live a healthy life. Remember to share and follow to ke...
Behind The Shades Episode 048 - Jason Interview
August 07, 2021 17:00 - 45 minutes - 104 MBWelcome to episode 48. Jason talks to us about suicide awareness and how it has affected 3 generations in his family. Jason had a troubled childhood with both his parents. From abuse to in the home as well as addiction and alcohol dependency, Jason persevered through it all. After surviving his suicide attempt, Jason started a new life with his fiancé ready to turn around all his problems. This 1st step was a heart to heart conversation with his mother at her grave site. Remember to share an...
Behind The Shades Episode 047 - Todd Interview
July 31, 2021 17:00 - 16 minutes - 38.5 MBIt's episode 47 with Todd. Todd speaks about his journey into writing and how it helped him to overcome a speech impediment. Todd shares with us the impact our thoughts have own are lives. Todd uses the art of writing to express himself as well as his struggles to the world. Our discussion today is finding out how are talents and help us to find what is important in life. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 046 - Thomas Interview
July 24, 2021 17:00 - 42 minutes - 96.3 MBEpisode 46 is with Thomas. Thomas joins us to talk about giving up on himself early in his life. He lost a childhood dream of his as he didn't believe in himself to obtain it. Thomas shares how he was able to achieve his dream and how the journey made him a better person. He is feeling fulfilled when looking back on his accomplishments and is proud that he went to obtain his dream. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 045 - Chris Rabideau Interview
July 17, 2021 19:00 - 43 minutes - 98.5 MBWe welcome episode 45 with Chris Rabideau. Chris joins us to speak about his battle with obesity and homeless. Chris has been fighting at a young age to turn his life around. He went from rock bottom with physical and mental health issues to helping others solve theirs. It was great to hear such passion and dedication from Chris. He is someone that wants to pay it forward and ensure everyone becomes the best version of themselves. It's amazing to hear such a journey and how with the right pe...
Behind The Shades Episode 044 - Frank Interview
July 10, 2021 17:00 - 40 minutes - 93.4 MBEpisode 44 is here. Frank joins us to talk about suicidal thoughts and the struggle of dealing with this daily. We discuss his suicide attempt, what led him to this moment, and how he deals with it today. Many of us suffering from mental illness and weakened mental fitness and Frank's perspective is unique. We dive into the moments before the attempt, the attempt itself, and what we can do to assist those with similar thoughts. Today, Frank speaks about mental health and raises mental awaren...
Behind The Shades Episode 043 - Jase Interview
July 03, 2021 17:00 - 58 minutes - 134 MBIn episode 043 we talk with Jase. Jase opens up about his life as a long distance runner and the day he realized he was experiencing burnout. Jase grew up loving sports with his brothers and all 3 were competitive. His love for running helped him to excel in many areas of his life. He remembers the day he experienced burnout from running as he ended up hospitalized. With his then girlfriend who became his wife by his side, Jase recovered and started running again. Remember to share and follo...
Behind The Shades Episode 042 - Elliott Interview
June 26, 2021 17:00 - 37 minutes - 85.7 MBNumber 42 is with Elliott! Elliott discusses with us how becoming a coach helped him to be a better husband and father. He turned around a marriage that was heading in a direction he didn't want. Elliott also discusses the importance of high performance and why we should strive to become the best version of ourselves. We had such an open and honest conversation about the pitfalls of life and relationships. He mentioned what we all need to do to identify behaviours that may be holding us back...
Behind The Shades Episode 041 - Haelee And Dedrick Interview
June 19, 2021 17:00 - 47 minutes - 109 MBWelcome Episode 41. We wanted to celebrate Father's Day with a father and daughter duo. Haelee and Dedrick join us to discuss their relationship. Haelee is a young entrepreneur that uses her experiences to fuel her success. From being bullied to being inspired by her father, Haelee has overcome a lot in her life. Her father Dedrick is such a strong man. His grandmother was a big part in her life before her passing and he had to learn about life in such a different since. He has become a grea...
Behind The Shades Episode 040 - Jon Interview
June 12, 2021 17:00 - 17 minutes - 40.7 MBWith number 40 Jon joins us. Jon discusses how his childhood experiences have motivated him to help other improve their lives. We discussed how he uses physical and personal training in his life and his clients. Jon mentions that without his support system he would not be where he is today or as successful. It's a great journey for Jon as he continues to help the world get better and more successful. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes
Behind The Shades Episode 039 - Yolunda Interview
June 05, 2021 17:00 - 47 minutes - 110 MBEpisode 39 is special. Yolunda came by to have a open and self-reflective conversation. Yo, as she is affectionately known, has recovered from alcohol dependency. She opens up about her relationship with alcohol and how strong of grip it had on her life. It's been quite a journey to the road of recovery for Yo. She found and expanded a strong support system which has helped her. From her spouse to her friends, she found the strength to become successful. Living a clean and sober life is one ...
Behind The Shades Episode 038 - Danni Interview
May 29, 2021 17:00 - 40 minutes - 92.7 MBAnd with number 38 we have Danni to talk to us about feeling overwhelmed. Danni discusses a topic that many of us have experienced but didn't know how to handle. From family conflict, to a broken heart, you uncertainty at work we all have felt overwhelmed and powerless. Using her own personal childhood experiences, Danni helps us to move on and move up from what may be holding them back. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 037 - Edoshka Interview
May 22, 2021 17:00 - 22 minutes - 50.6 MBEdoshka joins me for episode 37. Edoshka talks about the impact of depression and how it caused her to have panic attacks. Throughout all of this she found love in fitness, specifically through training with tires. Edoshka lost her father and sister at a young age and she discusses how she misses them both daily. To listen to the pain of loss and the joy of discovery from Edoshka is heart felt and amazing. Remember to share and follow to keep up-to-date with all episodes.
Behind The Shades Episode 036 - Sonia Interview
May 15, 2021 17:00 - 43 minutes - 99.9 MBSonia joins us for episode 36. It was a great conversation with Sonia about the dynamic between men and women. We discussed romantic and personal relationships and the expectation from society on both. She mentions the impact her upbringing had on her view of marriage which didn't last long. She remarried and is helping others find joy after divorce. Sonia shared a lot of her personal experiences which she uses to help others find love and happiness. Remember to share and follow to keep up-t...
Behind The Shades Episode 035 - Amanda Love Interview
May 08, 2021 17:00 - 35 minutes - 80.7 MBAnd it's episode 35. Amanda Love joins us for a conversation about her amazing journey. Amanda was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and she details the pain she felt and how she ultimately used that same pain to motivate others. With the love and support of her grandmother Amanda is looking to change the world one person at a time. We touched on the importance of health, immunity health, and nutrition. The conversation we had with Amanda was amazing and her passion to help others like her grandmo...
Behind The Shades Episode 034 - Lindsey Interview
May 01, 2021 17:00 - 47 minutes - 108 MBEpisode 34 has Lindsey joining us. we discuss how important educators are for the future of children. Lindsey shares how she had a difficult childhood similar to the children she helps to teach. As an essential worker, she speaks about her love for her job and importance of not leaving any children behind. We asked her if she saw herself in the children she teaches and great it feels being a part of a child's future. Lindsey runs two businesses that help children become successful in the fut...
Behind The Shades Episode 033 - Summer Interview
April 24, 2021 17:00 - 17 minutes - 39.5 MBEpisode 33 is here. Summer joins us to talk about her weight loss journey. We discussed her family life as a wife and mother. She mentioned how she started her weight loss journey and the importance of being healthy with the arrival of her child. It was good to hear how supportive Summer's husband is and the role he plays in her become healthier. After suffering a few injuries, Summer reached a low point but she was able to recover as a stronger person. Remember to share and follow to keep u...
Behind The Shades Episode 032 - Sam And Gina Interview
April 17, 2021 17:00 - 37 minutes - 85.5 MBWe are back with number 32. The 3rd installment in showcasing the amazing achievements of the disability community with Sam and Gina. Sam has autism and is such an inspirational person. With his mother as one of his biggest supporters, Sam talks to us about being accepted in a world that is so different than he is. We discuss feeling isolated and left alone due to his situation and how his life is impacted. Sam and Gina also discuss all the accomplishments such as meeting his favorite WWE st...
Behind The Shades Episode 031 - Kyle And Brent Interview
April 10, 2021 17:00 - 31 minutes - 73 MBAnd here's episode 31. Kyle and Brent join us today for our 2nd installment of speaking with members of the disability community and all their beautiful contributions. Kyle is living with cerebal palsy and is an incredible athlete with his brother Brent. Together they compete in endurance exercises and competitions. It's a strong brotherhood between them and they have accomplished quite a bit together. From watching sports together, to share laughs, to competing side by side this is a great ...
Behind The Shades Episode 030 - Adriana Interview
April 03, 2021 17:00 - 36 minutes - 83.1 MBWelcome to episode 30! Adriana speaks about being born and living with cerebral palsy. She is 1st in our series of speaking to those with disabilities and their great contributions this month. She is a talented young woman who has started 2 companies. She has partnered with companies to help create technology for those with disabilities. We speak about her life with cerebral palsy, her ambitions, and how she is helping to change the perception of those with disabilities. It's a great story o...
Behind The Shades Episode 029 - Jessica Interview
March 27, 2021 17:00 - 47 minutes - 109 MBEpisode 029 is special. In our final installment of our celebrating women and their personal triumph, we spoke with Jessica. Jessica stopped by to discuss the effects of losing her mother and the personal and professional impact it had on her. She mentions how her life hit a number of low points especially in her career. This did not stop Jessica from success as she has enjoyed a number of success previously in her life. Jessica shares her story and what she did to overcome early life strugg...
Behind The Shades Episode 028 - Shilpa Interview
March 20, 2021 17:00 - 42 minutes - 97.1 MBSelf-reflective 28! We spoke with Shilpa in our 3rd installment in women celebrating their personal triumph. Shilpa discusses her failures and how she has learned from them. She mentions how some people around her became unsupportive and the impact it had on her mindset. We touched on the topic of wearing masks in a way to hide our insecurities and imperfections. Shilpa has grown to become successful despite her early challenges and shares her successes with others as paying it forward is im...
Behind The Shades Episode 027 - Fitz Interview
March 13, 2021 18:00 - 45 minutes - 103 MBInspirational 27! Fitz is our 2nd installment in our women celebrating their personal triumph theme. She is a cancer survivor and battled for over a year and beat it. From the day she discovered a lump she used her to determination and focus to lead her to success. She helps others lead happier and fulfilling lives. The "Morning Mile" is a program she created to help children become active by walking with their friends daily. Fitz has a passion to give back to others as her journey has stren...