4. Sex as Self-Harm: How BPD Affects Intimacy

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English - August 02, 2021 18:53 - 49 minutes - 39.4 MB - ★★★★★ - 394 ratings
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Borderline Personality Disorder (also known as Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder or EUPD) can have a significant impact on how we experience sexuality and intimacy. This information should come as no surprise since BPD symptoms can affect our emotional state, relationships, and our ability to control our impulses. There is very little research out there on BPD and its effects on sexuality, but more and more work suggests that those with BPD can experience multiple fundamental problems with sex. In this episode, Mollie reads and reacts to a 2011 NCBI article titled “Sexual Behavior in Borderline Personality” by Randy A, Sansone, MD, and Lori A. Sansone, MD.

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Below are timestamps for the primary topics:

01:00 - Why sex and intimacy is such a hot topic in the BPD community / sex as a form of self-harm

04:38 - Introduction to the article “Sexual Behavior in Borderline Personality”

07:00 - Sexual impulsivity, sexual preoccupation, and promiscuity in BPD

10:30 - Early sexual exposure and childhood sexual abuse as it relates to BPD

14:14 - High risk sexual behaviors and BPD

15:11 - The tornado of BPD and the eye of the storm

17:00 - The importance of self-love (Dr. Caroline Leaf’s idea on becoming a “thought detective”)

19:00 - How “impulsivity and victimization” make up the core of our issues with sex and intimacy

26:05 - Making ourselves the slutty butt of the joke (does your BPD make you erotophilic?)

28:00 - Drinking and impulsive sexual behaviors

33:00 - Why we act like we hate ourselves

35:00 - Full bodied sexual consent for those of us with BPD and sexual orientation confusion

39:00 - BPD and victim mentality

40:00 - Outro / wise words from RuPaul on loving yourself

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