Latest Overcome sex addiction Podcast Episodes
All the ways we convince ourselves we are “entitled” to act out in our addictions
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - January 18, 2022 13:00 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThere are MANY reasons the ego-addict part of the brain convinces us that we are entitled to escape into our addiction outlets. These can include: I'm not getting enough sex from my spouse; I have no other way to cope with hard things; Every guy does this to some level; I've tried to quit a tho...
How do we move out of a “Trauma Response” into “Relationship Authenticity”? (Part Two)
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - January 11, 2022 13:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsOnce you recognize that you and/or your partner are caught in a "Trauma Response," HOW can you intentionally move into a place of "Relationship Authenticity"? Assuming you have completed and openly discussed your "trauma map," proceed as follows— - Take a break from the situation—the people ...
How do I Recognize when I or my Partner are Caught in a "Trauma Response"? (Part One)
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - January 04, 2022 13:00 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThere are MANY "trauma triggers" that can create great conflict, pain and difficulty between partners. If you truly desire to work on mending your relationship and/or deepening your trust, connection and intimacy, it is CRITICAL that you each learn to recognize when you are becoming caught in a ...
New Year’s Resolutions Can Make Addiction Worse! Try this Instead.
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - December 28, 2021 13:00 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark & Steve talk raw and real about why the traditional "New Year's Resolution" failed for them SO many times—and often had the effect of making their addictions even worse! What is the Psychology of the New Year's Resolution? Why do they often fail? Why do we keep doing this...
How to Balance Christmas (and other holidays) with the Trauma of Recovery & Healing
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - December 21, 2021 13:00 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn what can sometimes be the "hellish" experience of addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing, can we still find wonder, enjoyment and even a little "magic" in our special holidays and celebrations? In this episode Mark and Steve will share with you a very simple formulas they have perso...
When Stress Hits—STAND UP for Your Personal & Couple-ship "Bill of Rights"!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - December 14, 2021 13:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsEveryone faces different kinds of STRESS in everyday life. But, when we're in addiction recovery or healing from betrayal trauma, that stress is often multiplied and magnified! Then add on top of all of that "holiday stress" and you have a recipe for some daunting challenges! In this episode Ma...
This is Our 100th Episode! In the Pain of Addiction & Betrayal Trauma—There is GREAT HOPE!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - December 07, 2021 13:00 - 20 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsAlthough we can't quite believe it, this is PBSE's 100th Episode!!! Thank you to all our listeners who made this possible! It would never have happened without YOU! In this episode, we talk about a SUPER important part of recovery and healing--HOW do we find HOPE in the midst of the immense st...
My Spouse is in Recovery but will NOT have Sex with Me! What Can I Do?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - November 30, 2021 13:00 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThere are plenty of situations where an addict spouse wants to have sex all the time. There are situations where the spouse suffering from betrayal trauma does not feel safe having sex with their sexually addicted spouse, even when that spouse is in successful recovery. But what about a situat...
How Do We Find Connection When There’s Been “Mutual Betrayal”?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - November 23, 2021 13:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsA PBSE listener recently sent in a situation and question— He has been in recovery and "clean" for a year. At one point during that year of recovery, his wife admitted to having an affair while he was in recovery. His question is—"How do I help my wife trust me again while I'm also having troub...
What Should Come First—Him Ending His Affair, or Us Starting Couples Counseling?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - November 16, 2021 13:00 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsWe know—the title of this episode is INSANE!!! But it comes from an actual question sent in by a PBSE listener— My partner and I are STUCK. We have been separated for almost a year now but living together for financial and child reasons. I have told him that he has to break up with his affair ...
How Can I “Adequately” Explain to My Spouse WHY I Looked at Porn?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - November 09, 2021 13:00 - 20 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsHere's a question from a PBSE listener— I am a recovering sex and porn addict working on my recovery and trying to reconcile with my wife and heal our marriage. She is constantly asking questions as too why I looked at porn and web cams and also commented and looked at women with lust. I strugg...
My Husband Watches Female Professional Wrestling. Is That a Problem?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - November 02, 2021 12:00 - 19 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a listener who asks a very important question about one of her spouse's favorite pastimes—watching female professional wrestling. While this sounds pretty straight forward, there is a LOT to consider here! I caught [my husband] watching women’s wrestl...
As an Addict, How Can You Move Past Your Defensiveness to Truly Connect With Your Spouse?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 26, 2021 12:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's sincere inquiry about HOW to move through his defensiveness in response to his wife's legitimate trauma triggers. Here's his message and question to PBSE— I am a sex and love addict, I have found that I perceive my life in negative de...
As an Addict, How Can You Move Past Your Defensiveness to Truly Connect With Your Spouse?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 26, 2021 12:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's sincere inquiry about HOW to move through his defensiveness in response to his wife's legitimate trauma triggers. Here's his message and question to PBSE— I am a sex and love addict, I have found that I perceive my life in negative de...
Has Your Addict Partner Truly "Forgotten" His Past Betrayals OR is He "Gaslighting" You?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 19, 2021 12:00 - 19 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve take on a PBSE listener's question about her husband's "claim of not being able to remember the details of his previous disclosures to her. Several months after he finally came clean and told her "everything," he backtracked and denied ever disclosing those things...
How Do I Overcome the Shame of My Past "Toxic Sex/Me-Centered" Behaviors?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 12, 2021 12:00 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode Mark and Steve respond to a very heart-felt question by a PBSE listener— My wife and I recently listened to your episode on healthy sex vs toxic sex. I realize now that for our whole marriage, sex has been toxic and me-centered. I asked my wife if she identified with the part in...
Is My Partner Lying About His Porn Use? How Can I Know?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - October 05, 2021 12:00 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsHow do you know if your partner is telling you the truth about his porn use and other sexual behaviors? A PBSE listener recently submitted this question and expressed her pain and confusion in a very raw and authentic way. In this episode, Mark and Steve provide some guidance— Is “pornified” ...
How Can I Forgive a Man Who Has Spent Nearly Our Entire Marriage Lying?!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 28, 2021 12:00 - 20 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a very heart-felt message and question from a PBSE listener: a spouse struggling to forgive her porn-addicted spouse— How can you work through feeling like you can't forgive your spouse? The deception, gaslighting, secrecy, disrespect and disregard fo...
How Can I Forgive a Man Who Has Spent Nearly Our Entire Marriage Lying?!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 28, 2021 12:00 - 20 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a very heart-felt message and question from a PBSE listener: a spouse struggling to forgive her porn-addicted spouse— How can you work through feeling like you can't forgive your spouse? The deception, gaslighting, secrecy, disrespect and disregard fo...
How Do I Know if My Spouse is an Addict or Not?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 21, 2021 12:00 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve address a common question submitted by a PBSE listener— I have listened to many episodes of your podcast. They have all been very helpful. My question is: Do you consider every man who views porn an “addict” or “sex addict?” My husband confessed to viewing pornog...
Unhealthy Relationships Can Help Fuel Porn Addiction—How Can You Move from Co-Dependency to Recovery?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 14, 2021 12:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsGrowing up, a PBSE listener suffered from an abusive relationship with his father, which was a BIG factor in the development and ongoing struggle with Porn Addiction. He submitted some questions to Mark and Steve— I've realized that improving my relationship with my Dad is key to my recovery. H...
When Your Partner is a Porn Addict, What Does “Healthy Connection” Look Like?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - September 07, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIf your partner is a porn addict, is it even possible to have any level of "healthy connection"??? In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and open about what is possible and real when it comes to healthy connection when one spouse is recovering from porn addiction and the other is healing fro...
Does Recovery & Healing require that we STOP Internet use, AVOID going out in Public and NEVER talk to the opposite sex?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 31, 2021 17:00 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsWhen it comes to daily life and being subjected to a "sexualized culture," what are the "healthy boundaries" in sex/porn addiction recovery? What can/should an addict-in-recovery STOP doing in "regular" life? What is too strict or too lax? When does an addict cross the line into rationalizat...
Your Chosen Path of Sexual Experience—Healthy or Unhealthy? Connecting or Disconnecting?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 24, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn working with people all over the world, we often get questions from couples regarding what IS and what is NOT healthy and connecting in their sexual relationship. In this episode, Mark and Steve get really DIRECT about WHY we bring certain expectations, practices, attitudes, etc., to the be...
Your Chosen Path of Sexual Experience—Healthy or Unhealthy? Connecting or Disconnecting?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 24, 2021 12:00 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn working with people all over the world, we often get questions from couples regarding what IS and what is NOT healthy and connecting in their sexual relationship. In this episode, Mark and Steve get really DIRECT about WHY we bring certain expectations, practices, attitudes, etc., to the be...
You are "Powerless" to Control What He’s Thinking During Sex—or Any Other Time!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 17, 2021 12:00 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve address a HUGE issue many partners struggle with. Here's how a PBSE listener expressed it— My question is with all the porn videos and images he has seen how does the wife know what he is thinking while having sex with the wife? By this I mean how do we know, eve...
You are "Powerless" to Control What He’s Thinking During Sex—or Any Other Time!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 17, 2021 12:00 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve address a HUGE issue many partners struggle with. Here's how a PBSE listener expressed it— My question is with all the porn videos and images he has seen how does the wife know what he is thinking while having sex with the wife? By this I mean how do we know, eve...
Should I have Daily Sex with my Husband so He can Recover?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 10, 2021 12:00 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsWe know—this title is ridiculous!!! It's intended to be totally SARCASTIC! But it's in response to a lengthy, raw, heart-felt, super authentic email we recently received from a PBSE listener. Her spouse is a sex/porn addict who is NOT in "real recovery," but insists that if she would give him ...
Should I have Daily Sex with my Husband so He can Recover?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 10, 2021 12:00 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsWe know—this title is ridiculous!!! It's intended to be totally SARCASTIC! But it's in response to a lengthy, raw, heart-felt, super authentic email we recently received from a PBSE listener. Her spouse is a sex/porn addict who is NOT in "real recovery," but insists that if she would give him ...
Stuck? Real Recovery & Healing REQUIRE a Trajectory!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - August 03, 2021 12:00 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIt's SO easy to get STUCK in a negative, hame-based mindset; trapped on an endless rollercoaster of dark emotions; feel like your relationship is going nowhere or just downward! In this episode, Mark and Steve get real about their own personal experiences with being STUCK and STAGNATING in reco...
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