Latest Overcome sex addiction Podcast Episodes
My Addict Partner of 33 Years is Out of Control and I Don’t Know Where to Start!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - June 07, 2022 12:00 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThis heart-felt description, question and request comes from a PBSE listener— I’m a wife of 33yrs in betrayal trauma after finding husband on multiple times has had on and off affairs over 8 yrs with the same person and now found he is using drugs. Multiple addictions. I would like to set bound...
My Addict Partner of 33 Years is Out of Control and I Don’t Know Where to Start!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - June 07, 2022 12:00 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThis heart-felt description, question and request comes from a PBSE listener— I’m a wife of 33yrs in betrayal trauma after finding husband on multiple times has had on and off affairs over 8 yrs with the same person and now found he is using drugs. Multiple addictions. I would like to set bound...
How to Surrender Control of an Addict’s Behaviors while Maintaining Boundaries and Accountability.
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 31, 2022 12:00 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIt's very normal for a betrayed spouse to seek to be safe and avoid being "blindsided" by more betrayal, by trying to "control" the addict spouse's recovery. Here's how a PBSE listener describes this challenge— My addict is coming up on 2 years of sobriety and 5th D-Day. I am in therapy and he...
“To Masturbate or Not to Masturbate?” that is the question!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 24, 2022 12:00 - 29 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsMasturbation is an extremely controversial topic these days; one that elicits a lot of heated debate. This is especially true when an addict spouse engages in masturbation alone and separate from his spouse. Here's what one PBSE listener had to say about this— Hello Mark and Steve- I want to sa...
It’s NOT an Addiction if I’m Only Using “Porn Substitutes”—Right???
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 17, 2022 12:00 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThere's a lot of heated debate out there about "what is pornographic" and "what is not." Too often in these arguments, the REAL ISSUES can get pushed aside. Recently, a PBSE listener and spouse, submitted the following with regard to her partner's use of "porn substitutes"— Just over a month ag...
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part Three—The Conclusion!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 10, 2022 12:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThis is Part Three—the concluding episode on "How Mark and Steve moved from defensiveness to fighting for their marriages. In this episode, Mark and Steve talk raw and real to addicts in recovery about—HANGING BACK vs. LEADING OUT. - When an addict in recovery "hangs back" in the marriage, wh...
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages”—Part Two
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - May 03, 2022 12:00 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn "Part Two," Mark and Steve address a VERY difficult situation for recovery addicts and their spouses—HOW to navigate people and places that are "triggering" (for both the addict and the spouse)— - A review of the people, situations and locations that can be triggering for both spouses. - ...
How Mark & Steve moved from “Defensiveness” to “Fighting for their Marriages"—Part One
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 26, 2022 12:00 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsOne of the greatest challenges we face as sex/porn addicts in recovery is becoming "defensive" when our partners offer feedback, speak their truth, stand their ground, face triggering people or places, etc. We easily go into fight, flight or freeze and DEFEND ourselves as opposed to "fighting fo...
How Long Should I Be “Sober” Before I Start Dating or Having Sex Again?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 19, 2022 12:00 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThis PBSE episode is directed at single listeners and those already in a relationship. A PBSE listener who is single sent in the following quesiton— Hi there! I'm so grateful for your podcast- just found it last week on and feel I've already gained a lot. Here's something I'd love love love if ...
Should I Just be “OK” with my Partner's Lusting?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 12, 2022 12:00 - 18 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's question about her struggles with her partner lusting after a co-worker— Hello Mark & Steve, My partner and I are currently in reconciliation from sex addiction and we are in our 4th month of monthly couples sessions as well as I re...
Are you Sick & Tired of Relapsing? Then it’s time to “Be Stubborn”and “Get An Attitude”!!!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 05, 2022 12:00 - 35 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsAre you trying to break free from porn viewing and/or other unwanted sexual behaviors, but you just keep falling back into it?! In this episode, Mark and Steve get real about their own struggles to attain lasting sobriety–what does it really take? How exactly do you get to that “permanent plac...
Are you Sick & Tired of Relapsing? Then it’s time to “Be Stubborn”and “Get An Attitude”!!!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - April 05, 2022 12:00 - 35 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsAre you trying to break free from porn viewing and/or other unwanted sexual behaviors, but you just keep falling back into it?! In this episode, Mark and Steve get real about their own struggles to attain lasting sobriety–what does it really take? How exactly do you get to that “permanent plac...
How can I KNOW when my Partner has finally Stopped Lying and is Serious About His Recovery?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - March 29, 2022 12:00 - 29 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve answer a spouse's questions about her addict husband and how she will KNOW that he is serious about recovery and no longer lying— My husband is in early recovery for his sex addiction which he has kept very well-hidden for years. We had our most recent D-Day’s 6 ...
I Have Discovered My Husband's Relapses More Than a Dozen Times. What Now?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - March 22, 2022 12:00 - 26 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve address a major challenge faced by many betrayed spouses—they keep uncovering and discovering their addict partner's relapses and bad behaviors. The addict may get some "sobriety" under his belt, but refuses to lead out by proactively pursuing his own recovery wor...
When is it OK for my Addict Partner to “Back Off” from His Recovery?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - March 15, 2022 12:00 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsHow long should a spouse expect her addict partner to keep up his recovery? Doesn't there come a time when he can "back off" to some degree? In this episode Mark and Steve answer an excellent set of questions offered by a PBSE listener. Here's what she had to say— My partner and I have been in...
When is it OK for my Addict Partner to “Back Off” from His Recovery?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - March 15, 2022 12:00 - 25 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsHow long should a spouse expect her addict partner to keep up his recovery? Doesn't there come a time when he can "back off" to some degree? In this episode Mark and Steve answer an excellent set of questions offered by a PBSE listener. Here's what she had to say— My partner and I have been in...
What if my Betrayed Spouse Won’t Keep Up?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - March 08, 2022 13:00 - 23 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve openly and passionately address a PBS listener's situation and questions. Here's what he asked— I have been found out for the eighth time. I am working with my counselor to work on my recovery. She says she’s not sure how much longer she will stay in the marriag...
Episode 112: As Addicts, We Can Throw Up HUGE Barriers to Recovery and Mending Our Most Important Relationships!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - March 01, 2022 13:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn this episode, Mark and Steve address a situation and series of questions from a PBSE listener who is the partner of a porn/sex addict and struggling with betrayal trauma. Here's what she had to say— Hi Mark and Steve. first off thank you for all that you do. my partner and I have been listen...
TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part Two: What to do if you are the Spouse.
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - February 22, 2022 13:00 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn episode 110, Mark and Steve addressed the responsibility that a recovering porn/sex addict has with regard to TV, movies and media--both for his own recovery and in creating the environment where his spouse can feel safe and heal. In this episode, Mark and Steve get super real about how cra...
TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part Two: What to do if you are the Spouse.
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - February 22, 2022 13:00 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsIn episode 110, Mark and Steve addressed the responsibility that a recovering porn/sex addict has with regard to TV, movies and media--both for his own recovery and in creating the environment where his spouse can feel safe and heal. In this episode, Mark and Steve get super real about how cra...
TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part One: What to do if you are the addict.
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - February 15, 2022 13:00 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsSomething that can be a BIG issue for couples—when one is a porn/sex addict in recovery and the other is a betrayed spouse trying to heal—is TV, movies and media! A PBSE listener asked Mark and Steve about this— Hi guys! My husband and I are working through his sobriety and our recoveries. We f...
TV, Movies & Media in a Betrayed Relationship—Part One: What to do if you are the addict.
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - February 15, 2022 13:00 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsSomething that can be a BIG issue for couples—when one is a porn/sex addict in recovery and the other is a betrayed spouse trying to heal—is TV, movies and media! A PBSE listener asked Mark and Steve about this— Hi guys! My husband and I are working through his sobriety and our recoveries. We f...
Are Your “Resentments” Holding You Back?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - February 09, 2022 21:00 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsResentment is a POWERFUL emotion! And while it most certainly can be very legitimate based on actual events, history, betrayal, etc., it also acts as a HUGE BARRIER that can block us from moving forward in our recovery, healing and relationships. In this episode, Mark and Steve get real and d...
As a Spouse, You Have “4 Primary Rights” with Regard to His Disclosure!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - February 01, 2022 13:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsOne of THE most important milestones in real recovery is when a porn/sex addict prepares a completely transparent and authentic "disclosure" of his past discretions and betrayals and then presents it to his spouse. This is often referred to as "D-day." And while the addict plays a key role in th...
As a Spouse, You Have “4 Primary Rights” with Regard to His Disclosure!
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - February 01, 2022 13:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsOne of THE most important milestones in real recovery is when a porn/sex addict prepares a completely transparent and authentic "disclosure" of his past discretions and betrayals and then presents it to his spouse. This is often referred to as "D-day." And while the addict plays a key role in th...
How Can I Ever Dare to Trust Him Again?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - January 25, 2022 13:00 - 29 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsWhen there has been Betrayal Trauma, it can seem impossible to ever dare to fully trust again. A PBSE listener describes this struggle as "foreboding joy"—things can be going OK in the relationship, even happy, but there's always this "shadow" in the background threatening to "blindside" her wit...
How Can I Ever Dare to Trust Him Again?
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - January 25, 2022 13:00 - 29 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsWhen there has been Betrayal Trauma, it can seem impossible to ever dare to fully trust again. A PBSE listener describes this struggle as "foreboding joy"—things can be going OK in the relationship, even happy, but there's always this "shadow" in the background threatening to "blindside" her wit...
All the ways we convince ourselves we are “entitled” to act out in our addictions
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - January 18, 2022 13:00 - 21 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThere are MANY reasons the ego-addict part of the brain convinces us that we are entitled to escape into our addiction outlets. These can include: I'm not getting enough sex from my spouse; I have no other way to cope with hard things; Every guy does this to some level; I've tried to quit a tho...
How do we move out of a “Trauma Response” into “Relationship Authenticity”? (Part Two)
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - January 11, 2022 13:00 - 24 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsOnce you recognize that you and/or your partner are caught in a "Trauma Response," HOW can you intentionally move into a place of "Relationship Authenticity"? Assuming you have completed and openly discussed your "trauma map," proceed as follows— - Take a break from the situation—the people ...
How do I Recognize when I or my Partner are Caught in a "Trauma Response"? (Part One)
Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE - January 04, 2022 13:00 - 22 minutes ★★★★★ - 126 ratingsThere are MANY "trauma triggers" that can create great conflict, pain and difficulty between partners. If you truly desire to work on mending your relationship and/or deepening your trust, connection and intimacy, it is CRITICAL that you each learn to recognize when you are becoming caught in a ...
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