Latest Gerle Podcast Episodes
The Disorienting Silence Of No Drama
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - May 16, 2024 22:14 - 13 minutesThis post is sexually explicit and very AIDS-y. Two states older gay men know well. Those adhering to the standard narrative I wrote about in my last post will find this content disquieting. So, with that warning, here goes. * A few months ago, on my knees, among hundreds of bodies writhi...
What Really Happens on a Gay Cruise?
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - April 18, 2024 19:08 - 12 minutes“Hey! It’s you guys. I didn’t know you’d be on the ship!” It takes me two full seconds to recognize the tall, lean Italian with dark eyes and grey-speckled beard stubble before a surge of joy-filled love overtakes me. I embrace him with one arm and squeeze my husband’s wrist in the elevator b...
One Bag Of Bones At A Time.
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - April 08, 2024 19:08 - 3 minutesEasy to say. “You’re perfect.” “I see you as perfect.” All you need to do is let go of all the thoughts, beliefs, emotions, mental constructs, advertisements, comparisons on social media, and the tap tap tap of that nagging voice that says, “Don’t fall behind. You can still catch up. You c...
An Opening of the Raw Self
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - February 29, 2024 18:20 - 3 minutesJust feelings. That’s what this week is about. Preparing for an ayahuasca plant ceremony is an opening of the raw self. It’s day 6 of taking away most of the things that help me avoid feelings. Coffee, weed, alcohol, refined sugar, red meat, lots of other things… and, wait for it, ejaculatio...
Beyond Sport F*cking
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - February 02, 2024 02:42 - 10 minutesMoments after the door to my condo closed behind us, the stranger I’d cruised on the subway locked his mouth on mine. I eagerly accepted. The tension of 30+ minutes of eyeing each other in the train car, up the escalators, down Sunset Blvd., to this moment, piqued our primal need to engage. He...
The Mostly Contempt Leather Remix
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - January 24, 2024 19:53 - 16 minutesMy last post, Love, Contempt, and Leather Contests, ended up being a lackluster whimper that confused a few people. Thank you guys for the feedback. “Where’s the contempt?” they asked. And they were right to ask. In haste to meet my publishing deadline (on the 1st and 3rd Thursdays), I rushed ...
Love, Contempt, and Leather Contests
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - January 19, 2024 00:22 - 6 minutesOverwhelmed by crowds of geared-up men at my first leather event, a Tom of Finland “Butt Boy” party in Hollywood, I escaped to an outdoor patio for a cigarette. I was in my late 20s, in the mid-1990s, wearing gear I’d purchased specifically for the event: a harness, armbands, a classic leather c...
Battlefield Awareness: Finding Focus in Sexual Playgrounds
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - January 04, 2024 20:18 - 12 minutes“I blink, and you’re hooked up with someone!” My husband says with his testosterone-fueled competitive voice. I get a wonderful turn-on when I see this side of my normally deferential, even-mannered, Vulcan-like boy. It’s dangerously delicious. His full 42-year-old, tall, masculine body radiate...
Yes, I Said “Old.” Calm Down.
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - December 21, 2023 15:00 - 9 minutesI was recently at an all-gay birthday party, standing in a small gaggle of well-known friends comparing ages. The birthday “boy” was 44. I let the group know I will be 59 this April. Then said, “I’m old.” “You’re not old!” One of them insisted, his eyes confused. I stood my ground and insi...
Winning the Party
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - August 04, 2023 01:12 - 10 minutesTwo years ago, while in my 57th year, I began going out to dance parties again. To my surprise, reentering the gay dance party scene at 56 proved to be, and continues to be, a much more edifying experience than it was in my 20s. I give credit for this transformation to decades of seeking with ...
Inspired Sex Masterclass: "Let's Talk About Sex" BAM Episode Revisited
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - November 06, 2020 01:00 - 27 minutesInterested in a 3-way? ... Sign up for our Masterclass Trio: Sex / Love & Relationships / Spirituality & Intuition Bundle In these courses, you'll learn tips, tricks and insider information from 3 generations of gay men. You'll leave knowing how to prepare your mind, body, and spirit to give ...
Exploring Mentorship with Sister Unity
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - October 30, 2020 14:00 - 10 minutesInterested in a 3-way? ... Sign up for our Masterclass Trio: Sex / Love & Relationships / Spirituality & Intuition today! In these courses, you'll learn tips, tricks and insider information from 3 generations of gay men. You'll leave knowing how to prepare your mind, body, and spirit to give ...
Exploring Shame with Sister Unity
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - October 16, 2020 14:00 - 11 minutesHello GerleMen listeners. She is hilarious. She is irreverent. She is devastating in her academic acumen and her theatrical talent. And, although we may be laughing, her messages are packed with wisdom and insights many listeners will find life-affirming. While we pause our regular episodes a...
Exploring Intuition with Sister Unity
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - October 02, 2020 14:00 - 11 minutesDear listeners - join us next week for our Sex, Love & Relationships virtual workshop!! We'd love to see you join the discussion and connect in real-time. xo Hello GerleMen listeners. She is hilarious. She is irreverent. She is devastating in her academic acumen and her theatrical talent. An...
Exploring Inspiration with Sister Unity
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - September 18, 2020 14:00 - 11 minutesHello GerleMen listeners. She is hilarious. She is irreverent. She is devastating in her academic acumen and her theatrical talent. And, although we may be laughing, her messages are packed with wisdom and insights many listeners will find life-affirming. While we pause our regular episodes a...
Exploring Empowerment with Sister Unity
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - September 04, 2020 14:00 - 9 minutesHello GerleMen listeners. She is hilarious. She is irreverent. She is devastating in her academic acumen and her theatrical talent. And, although we may be laughing, her messages are packed with wisdom and insights many listeners will find life-affirming. While we pause our regular episodes a...
Sister Unity talks about Celebration!
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - August 21, 2020 14:00 - 8 minutesHello GerleMen listeners. She is hilarious. She is irreverent. She is devastating in her academic acumen and her theatrical talent. And, although we may be laughing, her messages are packed with wisdom and insights many listeners will find life-affirming. While we pause our regular episodes a...
Exploring Celebration with Sister Unity!
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - August 21, 2020 14:00 - 8 minutesHello GerleMen listeners. She is hilarious. She is irreverent. She is devastating in her academic acumen and her theatrical talent. And, although we may be laughing, her messages are packed with wisdom and insights many listeners will find life-affirming. While we pause our regular episodes a...
Feelings, Sex & Queer Hollywood - Celebrating Season 1
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - July 31, 2020 14:00 - 5 minutesHello GerleMen listeners! I want to thank you for listening to the premiere season of the GerleMen Podcast as we wrap up Season 1. On the show, we explored everything from “feelings” to “sex” to “spirituality” to “queer Hollywood” all sprinkled with the reality of the COVID-19 pandemic and a r...
BAM: Let's Talk About Sex
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - July 24, 2020 14:00 - 25 minutesI need to get honest with you about sex. Because I love it, and believe that celebrating mindful, “conscious sex” is essential for gay men’s dignity. My last "Being A Man," or BAM, episode was about moving from oppression to celebration; and I barely mentioned sex at all. After a long discus...
The Union of Sex & Spirit with Yogi Joel Benjamin
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - July 17, 2020 14:00 - 52 minutesToday’s conversation with Joel our first deep dive into the connection sex and spirituality. Joel helps us try on the ancient Tantra concept that everything about our experience on earth is spiritual -- including our sexual energy. Prior to the pandemic, I visited Joel’s gorgeous studio in Sea...
Rev. Jesse - Just F-ing Love Each Other
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - July 10, 2020 14:00 - 54 minutesRev. Jesse Brune-Horan has been a celebrity chef and a personal trainer, appearing on both Bravo and Oprah. But his true calling is his spiritual work and mission. On this episode, he shows us how celebrating his authenticity as a gay man is key to his spiritual growth. Rev. Jesse has a deep s...
Brian D. Mahan: Healing Trauma & Shame
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - July 03, 2020 14:00 - 1 hourToday I talk with Brian D. Mahan. He is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. I wanted to talk to Brian because he is a treasure trove of information on healing trauma. Trauma is something all humans experience, but gay people and people labeled as “the other” tend to experience more than our f...
Healing Trauma & Shame with Brian D. Mahan
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - July 03, 2020 14:00 - 1 hourToday I talk with Brian D. Mahan. He is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. I wanted to talk to Brian because he is a treasure trove of information on healing trauma. Trauma is something all humans experience, but gay people and people labeled as “the other” tend to experience more than our f...
Adventures in Brotherhood with Chris Kuwahara-Smith
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - June 26, 2020 14:00 - 53 minutesToday’s guest is Chris Kuwahara-Smith. I wanted to interview Chris because he creates heart-centered community through his organization, California Gay Adventures (CGA). During CGA-hosted camping trip in Zion National Park, it became clear to me that Chris is doing something important - some...
Chris Kuwahara-Smith: Adventures in Brotherhood
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - June 26, 2020 14:00 - 53 minutesToday’s guest is Chris Kuwahara-Smith. I wanted to interview Chris because he creates heart-centered community through his organization, California Gay Adventures (CGA). During CGA-hosted camping trip in Zion National Park, it became clear to me that Chris is doing something important - some...
Hey Gerle! Gifts of the Gay Son with Mike & His Dad
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - June 19, 2020 14:00 - 55 minutesToday's is a very special Father's Day episode of “Hey Gerle!” with Mike's father, Bill! The “Hey Gerle!” episodes are designed to be an “ask anything” Q&A between me and you, the listener. I will normally be doing these with the help of my GerleMen Podcast family, Garrett & Lesley. On this sp...
Aaron Ferrante-Alan: Healthy Sex
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - June 12, 2020 14:00 - 52 minutesToday I talk with Aaron Ferante-Alan. Aaron is a very close friend of mine who I deeply respect for his intellect and his bravery, but most importantly, his vulnerable honestly. He’s a man I consider family and I’m thrilled to have him on the podcast speaking about his professional specialty, s...
Healthy Sex with Aaron Ferrante-Alan
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - June 12, 2020 14:00 - 52 minutesToday I talk with Aaron Ferante-Alan. Aaron is a very close friend of mine who I deeply respect for his intellect and his bravery, but most importantly, his vulnerable honestly. He’s a man I consider family and I’m thrilled to have him on the podcast speaking about his professional specialty, s...
Jai Rodriguez - Queer Hollywood
Going Deep: A Gay Guide to Reality - June 05, 2020 14:00 - 58 minutesI was excited to talk to Jai Rodriguez because I’d seen him on Queer Eye, then I realized I’d seen him perform in one of my favorite musicals ever, “Zanna, Don’t!” So I was a bit star struck. I don’t like admitting that, but I was. Then the real magic happened when we spoke, one gay man to an...
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