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Be Positively Selfish

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - April 22, 2024 19:35 - 20 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
This audio was recorded in 2006, long before Hijackals became Dr. Shaler's focus. Rethinking Selfishness: "What if I told you that I now value selfishness? Would that be shocking? Not only do I value it, but I encourage others to value it and practice it." In this first of our upcoming Legacy...

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Be Positively Selfish

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - April 22, 2024 19:35 - 20 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
This audio was recorded in 2006, long before Hijackals became Dr. Shaler's focus. Rethinking Selfishness: "What if I told you that I now value selfishness? Would that be shocking? Not only do I value it, but I encourage others to value it and practice it." In this first of our upcoming Legacy...

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DRAMA-DUMPING: The #1 Thing NOT TO DO When Meeting a Person for the First Time

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - March 12, 2024 04:01 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Whether you're looking for a new friend or a potential new relationship, you don't want to be trauma dumping. When you let your whole story fly, someone else is likely to get crushed by it. Out of the gate, with someone new, it's smart to establish a relationship dynamic based on balance, mutua...

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DRAMA-DUMPING: The #1 Thing NOT TO DO When Meeting a Person for the First Time

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - March 12, 2024 04:01 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Whether you're looking for a new friend or a potential new relationship, you don't want to be trauma dumping. When you let your whole story fly, someone else is likely to get crushed by it. Out of the gate, with someone new, it's smart to establish a relationship dynamic based on balance, mutua...

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Expecting Emotional Maturity from a Narcissist? Don't Hold Your Breath!!!

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - March 05, 2024 04:54 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or miserable middle schooler, right? Learn more about recognizing the patterns and altering your exp...

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Expecting Emotional Maturity from a Narcissist? Don't Hold Your Breath!!!

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - March 05, 2024 04:54 - 27 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
SOOO frustrating! You hoped for a partner, parent, sibling, or adult child with whom you could communicate, collaborate, and co-operate, but no. You live most of the time with q tiresome toddler or miserable middle schooler, right? Learn more about recognizing the patterns and altering your exp...

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Narcissists Make OUTGRAGEOUS ASKS. Learn to way NO,

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 27, 2024 04:38 - 43 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Narcissists ask for too much...and they expect to get it. It's essential to hear that a question is outrageous so you can respond differently. If you've been with a Hijackal for too long, you may have stopped hearing their questions as outrageous; This episode will sharpen your listening skill...

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Narcissists Make OUTRAGEOUS ASKS. Learn to say NO,

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 27, 2024 04:38 - 43 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Narcissists ask for too much...and they expect to get it. It's essential to hear that a question is outrageous so you can respond differently. If you've been with a Hijackal for too long, you may have stopped hearing their questions as outrageous; This episode will sharpen your listening skill...

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Narcissists Make OUTRAGEOUS ASKS. Learn to say NO,

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 27, 2024 04:38 - 43 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Narcissists ask for too much...and they expect to get it. It's essential to hear that a question is outrageous so you can respond differently. If you've been with a Hijackal for too long, you may have stopped hearing their questions as outrageous; This episode will sharpen your listening skill...

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Standing Up to Narcissistic Intimidation -Here's How!

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 20, 2024 05:20 - 46 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Being with a narcissistic person is scary, right? You are usually wrong...even when you're right!. You never know what mood they'll be in. They lie, gaslight, rage, and fall silent. They are intimidating! They keep you on edge! What can you do to reduce the intimidation? Listen to this episode...

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Standing Up to Narcissistic Intimidation -Here's How!

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 20, 2024 05:20 - 46 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Being with a narcissistic person is scary, right? You are usually wrong...even when you're right!. You never know what mood they'll be in. They lie, gaslight, rage, and fall silent. They are intimidating! They keep you on edge! What can you do to reduce the intimidation? Listen to this episode...

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How Being the Golden Child In the Family Hurts You

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 13, 2024 04:43 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Can't do anything wrong? Get away with nonsense? Get extra goodies? Attention? Time? Might sound good but it can get old fast and leave you with very poor self-esteem and a lack of identity. Have a sibling who is the Golden Child? You envied them and now you se them differently? VERY IMPORTANT...

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How Being the Golden Child In the Family Hurts You

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 13, 2024 04:43 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Can't do anything wrong? Get away with nonsense? Get extra goodies? Attention? Time? Might sound good but it can get old fast and leave you with very poor self-esteem and a lack of identity. Have a sibling who is the Golden Child? You envied them and now you se them differently? VERY IMPORTANT...

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It's Smart to Stop Trying to Please a Narcissist

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 06, 2024 04:29 - 35 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Narcissists love it when you run after their approval. You hope to explain yourself and be heard; they hope to explain you away. In this episode are five iron-clad reasons to not even try to please a Hijackal - save your energy, save your time, save your self-esteem. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS ...

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It's Smart to Stop Trying to Please a Narcissist

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - February 06, 2024 04:29 - 35 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Narcissists love it when you run after their approval. You hope to explain yourself and be heard; they hope to explain you away. In this episode are five iron-clad reasons to not even try to please a Hijackal - save your energy, save your time, save your self-esteem. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS ...

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STOP OVERSHARING. It's dangerous.

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - January 09, 2024 05:15 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
You want someone--at least one someone--to hear you, see you, believe you. So you share. Sadly, that often turns into oversharing, leaving you a little red-faced. if you fully embarrassed a little later, right? "Why did I do that?"  There are good reasons you overshare. Don't beat yourself up f...

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STOP OVERSHARING. It's dangerous.

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - January 09, 2024 05:15 - 34 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
You want someone--at least one someone--to hear you, see you, believe you. So you share. Sadly, that often turns into oversharing, leaving you a little red-faced. if you fully embarrassed a little later, right? "Why did I do that?"  There are good reasons you overshare. Don't beat yourself up f...

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5 Must-Do's to Save Your Sanity from a Narcissist

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - January 02, 2024 04:44 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Steps to emotional freedom require knowing where the path starts. These five "must-do's" are fundamental to saving your sanity, self-esteem, and self-confidence. When you're in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal, it's even MORE critlcal. Know the importance of each of these and h...

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5 Must-Do's to Save Your Sanity from a Narcissist

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - January 02, 2024 04:44 - 30 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Steps to emotional freedom require knowing where the path starts. These five "must-do's" are fundamental to saving your sanity, self-esteem, and self-confidence. When you're in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal, it's even MORE critlcal. Know the importance of each of these and h...

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How to Avoid Falling in to Reactive Abuse Trap

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - December 19, 2023 06:27 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Oh, how Hijackals love to poke, prod, and provoke you into losing it and reacting, right? And then they like to wind you up further so you'll yell, blame, complain, and meltdown. Crazy-making? Yes, INTENTIONALLY CRAZY-MAKING! Learn ways to not go there, to not react, to not behave like the Hij...

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How to Avoid Falling in to Reactive Abuse Trap

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - December 19, 2023 06:27 - 28 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Oh, how Hijackals love to poke, prod, and provoke you into losing it and reacting, right? And then they like to wind you up further so you'll yell, blame, complain, and meltdown. Crazy-making? Yes, INTENTIONALLY CRAZY-MAKING! Learn ways to not go there, to not react, to not behave like the Hij...

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5 Good Things Narcissists PROMISE...but NEVER DELIVER!!!

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - December 12, 2023 05:37 - 32 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Narcissistic Hijackals know what you want. Yet, they withhold giving it to you. They know what you need. Yet, they refuse to fulfill it. They know how to make you happy, but prefer disappointing you. Think deeply about these five "would be good" things narcissists promise but fail to deliver......

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5 Good Things Narcissists PROMISE...but NEVER DELIVER!!!

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - December 12, 2023 05:37 - 32 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Narcissistic Hijackals know what you want. Yet, they withhold giving it to you. They know what you need. Yet, they refuse to fulfill it. They know how to make you happy, but prefer disappointing you. Think deeply about these five "would be good" things narcissists promise but fail to deliver......

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NEVER TRUST A NARCISSIST

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - December 05, 2023 05:09 - 40 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
You want to be able to trust a person, right? It's natural. It's healthy. Yet, you cannot trust narcissists or any variation of Hijackal. And, I know you want to.  In this episode, hear the many ways you CANNOT trust them, even when you want to. Hear ways you convince yourself you can believe t...

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NEVER TRUST A NARCISSIST

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - December 05, 2023 05:09 - 40 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
You want to be able to trust a person, right? It's natural. It's healthy. Yet, you cannot trust narcissists or any variation of Hijackal. And, I know you want to.  In this episode, hear the many ways you CANNOT trust them, even when you want to. Hear ways you convince yourself you can believe t...

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10 Ways You Can Get Used to Being Emotionally Abused

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - November 28, 2023 04:45 - 41 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Little by little, nasty, bitter, unfair things start becoming part of the day-to-day with a narcissist. Those Hijackals are relentless in wearing you down and getting their way, right? You might pass it off as another "little thing to avoid" to reduce the abuse. WHAT? You're doing things to red...

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10 Ways You Can Get Used to Being Emotionally Abused

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - November 28, 2023 04:45 - 41 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Little by little, nasty, bitter, unfair things start becoming part of the day-to-day with a narcissist. Those Hijackals are relentless in wearing you down and getting their way, right? You might pass it off as another "little thing to avoid" to reduce the abuse. WHAT? You're doing things to red...

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27 Sneaky, Nasty Ways Narcissists Try to Rule the Roost

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - November 21, 2023 04:52 - 44 minutes ★★★★★ - 264 ratings
Some Hijackals are subtle, some are sneaky. All are to keep your relationship in chaos, preferably with you giving in to their whims, demands, and expectations. Most of all, they want to be in charge and in control of all the things. Be informed. See them for what and who they are. They are alw...

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27 Sneaky, Nasty Ways Narcissists Try to Rule the Roost

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - November 21, 2023 04:52 - 44 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
Some Hijackals are subtle, some are sneaky. All are to keep your relationship in chaos, preferably with you giving in to their whims, demands, and expectations. Most of all, they want to be in charge and in control of all the things. Be informed. See them for what and who they are. They are alw...

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Don't Let A Hijackal Harden Your Heart. Harden Your Attitude Towards Them.

Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships - November 14, 2023 04:53 - 33 minutes ★★★★★ - 44 ratings
When you're on guard every minute, hypervigilant about the next accusation, you might think I'm suggesting something impossible...maybe even crazy. I'm not. It's important to recognize that you can stay in charge of yourself, no matter what kind of crazy-making the Hijackal or narcissist engage...