Was That Good For You?
139 episodes - English - Latest episode: over 1 year ago - ★★★★★ - 282 ratingsWas That Good For You? is a guide to all things sex and relationships. Every week, sex educator Raya Carmona talks openly and honestly with guests on topics ranging from navigating interracial dating to normalizing kinks in the bedroom to the trajectory of becoming a sugar baby. Through candid conversations with friends as well as interviews with leaders in the sexual health field, this show works to destigmatize the sexual journey we are all on. Recurring guests include Raya’s partner Kelen Capener and her best friend Gabby, who help answer listener-submitted sex and relationship questions. For more, follow the show on Instagram at @wasthatgoodforyou.
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Episodes
Should a High Number of Sexual Partners Matter?
October 17, 2019 07:00 - 53 minutesThis week, Raya is joined by couple Travis Canby and Judy Lovingfoss to discuss the stigma behind the number of people a person has slept with and how it's basically the opposite for men and women. Travis talks about the pressure that young men feel to boost up their "number" in front of other men, while Judy and Raya explore the real damage that "slut shaming" has done to women and why they often lower their "number." Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stor...
Does a High Number of Sexual Partners Matter?
October 17, 2019 07:00This week, Raya is joined by couple Travis Canby and Judy Lovingfoss to discuss the stigma behind the number of people a person has slept with and how it's basically the opposite for men and women. Travis talks about the pressure that young men feel to boost up their "number" in front of other men, while Judy and Raya explore the real damage that "slut shaming" has done to women and why they often lower their "number." Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stor...
Does Body Count Matter?
October 17, 2019 07:00 - 53 minutesThis week, my favorite couple Travis Canby and Judy Lovingfoss come on to discuss the stigma behind someone's "body count" aka the number of people a person has slept with. Travis talks about the pressure that young men feel to boost up their "number" in front of other men, while Judy and I explore the real damage that "slut shaming" has done to women and why they often lower their number publicly. For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Let's Talk About Masturbation
October 10, 2019 07:00 - 49 minutesEntertainer, actress, and fire-breather Georgie Leahy joins me to talk about everyone's favorite subject: masturbating! We We also discuss why some people find it awkward to masturbate in front of a partner, why having more sex actually drives women to masturbate more, plus the time Georgie lost her virginity to a deaf dancer. Word of the day: Anilingus For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Masturbation
October 10, 2019 07:00Entertainer, actress, and fire-breather Georgie Leahy joins Raya to talk about everyone's favorite subject: Masturbating! Georgie and Raya explore the many differences between the way women and men masturbate. They also discuss how awkward it can be to masturbate in front of a partner, why having more sex actually drives women to masturbate more, plus the time Georgie lost her virginity to a deaf dancer. Word of the day: Anilingus Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any w...
Good Timing vs. Bad Timing in a Relationship
October 03, 2019 07:00Bridget Moriarty and Raya discuss timing when it comes to relationships. Sometimes it can be perfect, other times it can be terrible, but is that ever a good reason not to get into a relationship? Bridget talks about the perfect timing with her current boyfriend and Raya shares a time she when the timing with someone was all off, but that actually helped the relationship transition to a healthier phase.. Is timing just an excuse or can it really ruin a relationship? Have a question or comment...
Good Timing vs. Bad Timing in Relationships
October 03, 2019 07:00 - 40 minutesBridget Moriarty and Raya discuss timing when it comes to relationships. Sometimes it can be perfect, other times it can be terrible, but is that ever a good reason not to get into a relationship? Bridget talks about the perfect timing with her current boyfriend and Raya shares a time she when the timing with someone was all off, but that actually helped the relationship transition to a healthier phase.. Is timing just an excuse or can it really ruin a relationship? Have a question or comment...
Should You Always Trust Your Gut Feelings?
September 26, 2019 07:00 - 48 minutesThis week, Raya is joined by Kelsey Hellenbrand to discuss what it means when you get a gut feeling of someone being unfaithful or lying. Is it always right? And how much trust can and should you place on a person? Raya and Kelsey talk about times their gut was right, and some other times that it led them down the wrong path. Word of the day: Emotional Play Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any futur...
How Trustworthy Are Our Gut Feelings?
September 26, 2019 07:00 - 48 minutesThis week, Kelsey Hellenbrand comes to the studio to discuss what it means when you get a "gut feeling" in your relationship. Is it always right? And how much trust can and should you place in a person versus yourself? We also talk about times our gut was right, and other times where it led us down the wrong path. Word of the day: Emotional Play For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Is There Such a Thing as a Good Breakup?
September 19, 2019 07:00 - 51 minutesAlessandra Demartino and Raya reminisce about some of the big breakups they've had in their past and try to determine if it's possible to have "good breakups." Alessandra talks about the first time she was broken up with and why that means she can probably never watch "Zootopia" again. Plus, Raya and Alessandra list a few ways to handle yourself after a breakup to get back on your feet faster. Word of the day: Impact Play Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex s...
Foreplay with Nikki Limo
September 12, 2019 07:00 - 51 minutesNikki Limo, YouTube star and host of the Shit They Don't Tell You Podcast, joins Raya this week to discuss the types of foreplay and how Nikki was a late bloomer when it came to foreplay. They swap techniques that they learned from old Cosmo magazine clippings and 1998-era Google, and how they both lost their virginities in the back of a car. Plus, Nikki and Raya rundown a few helpful tips to be better at foreplay. Words of the day: Taint & Gooch Have a question or comment on today's topic? D...
The Importance of Foreplay with Nikki Limo
September 12, 2019 07:00 - 51 minutesNikki Limo, host of the Shit They Don't Tell You Podcast, joins me this week to discuss the spectrum of foreplay and how Nikki was a late bloomer when it came to the act. We swap techniques that we learned from old Cosmo magazine clippings and 1998-era Google, and how we both lost their virginities in the back of a car. Afterwards, we rundown a few helpful tips to be better at foreplay. Words of the day: Taint For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoic...
What Deems A Woman "Crazy?"
September 05, 2019 07:00 - 55 minutesThis week, Raya and musician/actor Malcolm Cumming discuss the fine line between passionate and crazy when it comes to women and how easy it is for men to categorize them as such. Malcolm tells the story of his meth-snorting ex-girlfriend and Raya shoots back with the time she threw a bluetooth speaker out of a moving car in a fit of rage. Word of the day: Lordosis Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for a...
What Makes a Girl Crazy?
September 05, 2019 07:00This week, Raya and musician/actor Malcolm Cumming discuss the fine line between passionate and crazy when it comes to women and the double standard in calling men crazy. Malcolm tells the story of his meth-snorting girlfriend and Raya shoots back with the time she threw a bluetooth speaker out of a moving car in a fit of rage. Word of the day: Lordosis Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you have suggestions for any future to...
Calling Women "Crazy"
September 05, 2019 07:00 - 55 minutesThis week, my friend and musician/actor Malcolm Cumming joins to discuss the age-old story of men calling women "crazy" and why they feel it's so easy to categorize them as such. Malcolm tells the story of his meth-snorting ex-girlfriend that he feels deserves the title. Debate ensues. Word of the day: Lordosis For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Age Gaps In Relationships
August 29, 2019 07:00 - 49 minutesRaya and first-time repeat guest Rachel Eck attempt to answer the question who is better at sex, younger or older people? Rachel talks about the differences she's seen from dating all across the age spectrum and explains why a deadbeat dad could make for the best lover. They also discuss the complications and even sexism with older men dating younger women. Word of the day: Acrophilia Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do you h...
Sex With People Much Older or Younger Than You
August 29, 2019 07:00Raya and first-time repeat guest Rachel Eck attempt to answer the question who is better at sex, younger or older people? Rachel talks about the differences she's seen from dating all across the age spectrum and explains why a deadbeat dad could make for the best lover. They also discuss the complications and even sexism with older men dating younger women. Word of the day: Acrophilia Have a question or comment on today's topic? Do you have any wild sex stories you want to share? Or do yo...
Ghosting Stories
August 22, 2019 13:53Janelle Gray and Nash Overstreet join Raya for an examination of ghosting and some of the reasons why someone might be ghosting you. Spoiler alert: They're probably just not into you. The trio swap stories of the worst times they were ghosted and how it made them feel, as well as share some helpful tips on how to not be a perpetual ghoster. Word of the day: Aftercare For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona If you have comments or questions related to this week's topic or all things sex, drop Raya...
Is Sex With an Ex Ever a Good Idea?
August 15, 2019 07:00 - 46 minutesAndrew Cramb from the "Where Are All My Friends" podcast joins me to talk the tightrope of navigating post-breakup relationships. We discuss seeing an ex later and hating that they look better than you, the complications with having an ex that's in your friends' circle, and of course answer the ultimate question, is it ever a good idea to sleep with an ex? Word of the day: Intersex. For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sex and Relationships: Asking For What You Want
August 08, 2019 07:00 - 44 minutesPlayboy bunny Marissa Luck comes onto WTGFY to talk to Raya about asking for what you want in every aspect of a relationship. Whether it's emotional or what you want in bed, defining what you expect is important in understanding a person and setting boundaries for yourself. Raya and Marissa discuss times that not telling their partner exactly what they wanted led to misunderstandings or worse, fewer orgasms. Plus, Raya shares her brilliant tip for getting what you want sexually: send your par...
Asking For What You Want
August 08, 2019 07:00 - 44 minutesI had my good friend and Playboy bunny Marissa Luck on to discuss the importance of asking for what you want in every aspect of a relationship. Whether it's emotional or what you want in bed, defining what you expect is important in understanding a person and setting boundaries for yourself. We also discuss times that not telling our partner exactly what we wanted led to misunderstandings or worse, fewer orgasms. Word of the day: Gräfenberg spot For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about...
Friends With Benefits: Are the Benefits Worth It?
August 01, 2019 07:00 - 51 minutesSam Miller (writer, sexually active 27-year-old male) joins me to discuss the healthiest ways to set up a friends with benefits situation. I lay out rules I've made for keeping FWBs civil, which, frankly, sometimes still lead to feelings for the other person. Sam recounts one particular time that he was scorned by a friend with benefits, as well as his perspective on the longevity of FWB. Word of the day: Klismaphilia For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podca...
The Art of Sexting
July 25, 2019 07:00 - 39 minutesToday my friend and Playmate Shauna Sexton comes to the studio to discuss the art of sexting. We offer the woman's perspective in receiving dick pics as well as the amount of work that goes into making a good sexy video. Do you have the right lighting and angle? Is Netflix blaring too loudly in the background? All important factors to consider. Later we offer a few tips on the proper sexting etiquette and how men can stand to try a little harder before hitting "send." Word of the day: Soft Li...
What Does It Mean To Be "Emotionally Unavailable?"
July 18, 2019 07:00 - 46 minutesToday I'm joined by my good friend Kelley Fox to discuss the meaning of emotional unavailability in relationships. We also talk about how differences in love languages can be perceived as disinterest. Listen to find out if you might be falling for the traps of being strung along by someone who’s emotionally unavailable (or just not that into you). Word of the day: Brat For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
The Truth About Emotionally Unavailable Partners
July 18, 2019 07:00 - 46 minutesRaya is joined by Kelley Fox to discuss the consequences of your partner (or even yourself) being emotionally unavailable in a relationship. From two sides of the spectrum, Raya and Kelley talk about the difference between someone being emotionally unavailable in general, or simply being emotionally unavailable with you. They also talk about how differences in love languages can be perceived as being “not into you.” Listen to find out if you might be falling for the traps of being strung alon...
Tinder is the Taco Bell of Dating Apps
July 11, 2019 07:00 - 44 minutesOn this week's episode, I'm joined by Adrienne Williams to discuss the many pros and cons of using dating apps. We talk matching with A-list celebs on the Raya app, how apps might actually be making dating worse, and how Adrienne’s boyfriend might want to upgrade from a “kept man” to a “houseboy.” Word of the day: Houseboy For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Interracial Relationships with Imani Hakim and Daniel Weaver
July 04, 2019 07:00On this week's episode, Raya is joined by Daniel Weaver and actress Imani Hakim to talk interracial relationships. They get deep about the challenges that come with dating outside your race, and what they’ve learned along the way. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Navigating Interracial Relationships with Imani Hakim
July 04, 2019 07:00 - 50 minutesOn this week's episode, one of my best friends, actress Imani Hakim is on the show! She and her friend, director Daniel Weaver, talk through the nuance of interracial relationships. We get deep about the challenges that come with dating outside your race or even your ethnicity, and what we've all learned along the way. For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
The Most Popular Porn Searches!
June 27, 2019 07:00 - 44 minutesOn this weeks episode, Raya is joined by good friend Rachel Eck to talk all things porn. They get into their preferences and habits as well as the possible negative effects of consuming too much porn. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Let's Talk About Porn
June 27, 2019 07:00 - 44 minutesOn this weeks episode, my good friend Rachel Eck chats with me on all things porn. We get into our personal preferences, discuss the most popular porn searches and the possible negative effects of consuming too much porn. For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Porn with Rachel Eck
June 27, 2019 07:00On this weeks episode, Raya is joined by Rachel Eck to talk all things porn. They get into their preferences, habits, and even the possible negative effects of watching too much. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Pros & Cons Of Long Distance Relationships
June 20, 2019 07:00 - 46 minutesOn this week's episode, travel photographer Beth Saravo and State Champ’s Ryan Scott Graham join me to talk long distance dating. From communicating when you’re in different countries to hooking up on the tour bus, they cover it all. For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Long Distance Relationships with Ryan Scott Graham & Beth Saravo
June 20, 2019 07:00On this week's episode, Raya is joined by Beth Saravo and State Champ’s Ryan Scott Graham to talk long distance dating. From communicating when you’re in different countries to hooking up on the tour bus, they cover it all. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Social Media Stalking In Relationships
June 13, 2019 07:00 - 42 minutesOn this week's episode, I'm joined by my best friend and recurring guest Gabriela Sibaja to talk about the good, the bad and the ugly when it comes to creeping on social media. Whether it’s snooping on your ex or digging through a new partner’s past, we both agree that it’s time to cut the habit. For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Social Media Stalking with Gabriella Sibaja
June 13, 2019 07:00On this week's episode, Raya is joined by Gabriella Sibaja to talk about creeping on social media. Whether it’s snooping on your ex or digging through a new partner’s past, it’s time to cut the habit. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Does Sex On The First Date Matter?
June 06, 2019 08:00 - 41 minutesKristi Beck from Playboy HQ joins me in the studio for a frank discussion on the always fascinating topic of sex on the first date! Kristi explains how sex BEFORE the first date led to her healthy, long-term relationship (she's now engaged to him)! and why we should shed old stereotypes. For more on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sex on the First Date with Kristi Beck
June 06, 2019 08:00Kristi Beck joins Raya in the studio for a frank discussion on the always-fascinating topic of sex on the first date! For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Is Having Sex On The First Date A Good Idea?
June 06, 2019 08:00 - 41 minutesKristi Beck from Playboy HQ joins Raya in the studio for a frank discussion on the always fascinating topic of sex on the first date! She explains how sex BEFORE the first date led to her healthy, long-term relationship and why we should shed old stereotypes. For more Raya on IG: @rayacarmona Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Was That Good For You? - Official Trailer
May 29, 2019 07:00 - 44 secondsWas That Good For You? is a guide to all things sex and relationships. Every week, sex educator Raya Carmona talks openly and honestly with guests on topics ranging from navigating interracial dating to normalizing kinks in the bedroom to the trajectory of becoming a sugar baby. Through candid conversations with friends as well as interviews with leaders in the sexual health field, this show works to destigmatize the sexual journey we are all on. Recurring guests include Raya’s partner Kelen ...