Wannabe Balanced | MINDSET Coach
167 episodes - English - Latest episode: 11 months ago - ★★★★★ - 189 ratingsThis podcast started out as a self help podcast for moms trying to find balance in motherhood and business but morphed into a documentation of Crystal and Sean Escobar's journey out of the Mormon church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints). The Podcast has been therapeutic on so many levels for its hosts. They vulnerably share their pitfalls and triumphs as they work to deconstruct a lifetime of indoctrination from the LDS church which they exited in the Spring of 2018. Sexual shame, marriage, parenting, science, spirituality, personal development, healing, sex abuse, are some of the topics they focus on.
At episode 100 they both decided they were done processing their experience in the church and shifted their focus on helping others heal and grow in all areas of life. Crystal became a Certified Life/ Mindset Coach in 2020 and now offers free education in personal development via her podcast.
Her mission is to help women overcome past trauma and limiting beliefs, empowering them to create the life they were meant to live through her podcast, Time Management Course, and one on one coaching services.
Schedule a free session with her to find out how she can help you.
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Ep #160: Season's Ending, New Beginnings, & Letting Go
May 21, 2023 15:07 - 14 minutes - 13.1 MBSeasons come, seasons go… switch things up and ride the flow. Being consistent with what you’re doing in pursuit of your goals does not mean you do the same thing every day. You must learn how to align with the seasons & switch things up in order to experience FLOW. When each season comes to a close we tend to experience momentary boredom or even a bit of anxiety or depression. Feeling uninspired or unmotivated. When the energy of one season shifts to the next we may notice feelings of...
Ep #159: HEALING | Mind, Body, & Soul
May 09, 2023 20:09 - 47 minutes - 43.1 MBLet’s take a look at your symptoms, physical AND mental. Do you have any pain in your body? Extra weight? Skin conditions, thinning hair? Are you dealing with any anxiety or depression? What ever the symptom is, there is always a root cause and that’s what I hope tonights class can help you identify. With my rash I explored all potential causes. Through deep introspection and researching breast implant illness, I was able to narrow it down. When I began reading about breast implant ill...
Ep #158: Lose Yourself | Post Explant Surgery Mindset
April 20, 2023 15:18 - 30 minutes - 27.9 MBNot gonna lie, seeing my smaller chest for the first time was emotional. I broke down in tears, but quickly shifted back to acceptance. Now I see them as an elegant beauty rather than hot sexy. Both versions are awesome, so I'm choosing to embrace my new look. Focusing on what was gained rather than what was lost. They don’t look perfect, but even without the implants, I’m not going to be able to stop the process aging. Letting go of resistance I have to my body changing with time, and ...
Ep #157: Organize Your Mind & Your LIFE
April 05, 2023 20:52 - 1 hour - 46.3 MBOne of my specialties is organizing. It’s something I’m naturally good at, but also something I often promote because of the incredible benefits it can have on the brain. Having things neat and orderly is extremely important to me. My kids don’t always love it though. I try to impress upon them the benefits of a clean room and a made up bed, but they just think I’m a bit of a perfectionist. I tried for years to get my oldest to make her bed each day and she’d always say, why, nobody is ...
Ep #156: Creativity for Problem Solving & Manifesting More of What You Want
March 06, 2023 21:11 - 47 minutes - 43.5 MBWhen we hear the word creative, we often think of artsy people who spend their days painting or writing songs and poetry. But creativity is one of THE most powerful energies we can all access. This energy is not just for the people who we deem as creatives, but it’s available to ALL of us. Not for the sole purpose of creating art per se, but it can be used in our every day lives for creative problem solving, inspired ways of extracting what we want out of life, and innovatively contributi...
Ep #155: Explant Surgery | Saying Goodbye to my Boobs in PURSUIT of Health
February 21, 2023 21:23 - 27 minutes - 25.2 MBIn 2 weeks I am officially bidding my boobies farewell. It's been an extremely emotional decision but I'm ready to let them go in pursuit of better health. As many of you know I've been struggling with skin issues for years. This last fall I had an alarming outbreak that caused me to look deeper into what might have contributed to this horrific rash that practically covered my entire body. I went to 2 different doctors, even had a biopsy, but neither one of them could give me an answer...
Ep #154: My Addiction to the "Sean Drug" | Codependency & Self Worth
February 08, 2023 19:04 - 57 minutes - 52.6 MBI didn’t know I was codependent until about 2 years ago when Sean "Ferberized" me. For most of our marriage Sean was my source of feeling good about myself. He always made me feel loved, cherished, sexy, safe, and valued. I’d often say, "boy Sean, I wish I could just see myself through your eyes". It’s like pure ecstasy to be loved and seen by Sean. But the only problem was, I got addicted to the "Sean drug" and eventually became dependent on it. He became my main source of feeling goo...
Ep #153: Making Peace w/ Relationships That Have Ended
January 31, 2023 19:44 - 7 minutes - 7.22 MBWe've all had our fair share of painful relationships and break ups. What if we could talk to the higher self version of the person we "broke up" with. I imagined us high fiving back stage somewhere. Congratulating each other on a job well done. “Out standing performance” I say. You really taught me some valuable lessons. That all felt so real. I was so in character that I completely lost touch with reality… {Want access to my FREE Journal Prompts and Work Books? Sign up HERE to assist ...
Ep #152: I have some CONFESSIONS to make
January 24, 2023 21:57 - 23 minutes - 21.9 MBI have some confessions to make… For some reason the podcast feels like a safer space to be more open and raw. Maybe because I know that the people who take the time to listen are the ones who truly resonate with what I'm sharing. So you listeners, thank you! I’ve attempted to be real open and raw on Facebook and Instagram and it didn’t always go over well. I guess you can say that I’m a little trigger shy now that I’ve tested those waters. Confession. The word confession has always be...
Ep. #151: Depression | DEEP REST from the Character You're Trying to Play
January 17, 2023 21:08 - 28 minutes - 26.4 MB"Depression is your body saying, fuck you. I don't want to be this character anymore. I don't want to hold up this avatar you've created in the world. It's too much for me." ~Jim Carrey Everything was going great, I was on top of the world, ready to take on 2023... Then I saw her coming my way, I tried to hide so she couldn’t see me. I ducked, I pretended I didn’t see her, but nope. She spotted me with her petrifying gaze and under her spell I went. This past week I encountered my le...
Ep #150: Is Your Brain a Dog or a Cat?
January 12, 2023 03:12 - 1 hour - 64.3 MBWe often hear people describe our inner chaos and continuous thoughts as our “monkey minds”. But tonight I want to teach you about your Dog Brain. Allow me to explain… So the dog brain. Let’s call it a Golden Retriever. Golden retrievers are a breed of dog that we know are highly intelligent and for many reasons are the dog of choice as the star in many of those feel good movies. When I think of a Golden Retriever, I think loyal, happy, playful, eager to please companions. Golden Ret...
Ep #149: How to QUIT Sugar, Alcohol, or Coffee
January 04, 2023 16:05 - 30 minutes - 27.9 MBI’ve attempted to quit plenty of things over my lifetime, as we all have. But ever since 2020 I’ve discovered an entirely new level of discipline. It’s like something suddenly clicked in my brain and I was able to conquer many of my addictions, cravings, and urges. Things I’ve kicked since 2020, sugar, gluten, coffee, alcohol, pizza, chocolate, my addiction to social media, gossiping, and much much more. Since noticing this huge shift in my ability to conquer these things, I’ve began t...
Ep #148: WHO do you Wanna BE in 2023?
December 20, 2022 18:30 - 6 minutes - 6.24 MBI love this time of year! It's the time to COLLECTIVELY reflect on the previous year, and set our intentions for the new year. We often hear people say, "you don't need to wait until the new year to start making resolutions." I agree, it's good to take inventory throughout the year, pivot when needed, and continuously ignite your enthusiasm when it comes to your vision. So who do you wanna BE in 2023? Wannabe... this term usually has a derogatory meaning. It's how we usually ...
Ep #147: Navigating Difficult Emotions During the Holidays
December 07, 2022 21:41 - 55 minutes - 51.2 MBThis time of year, although magical, can also be an extremely difficult time for many. For various reasons it can trigger unresolved childhood trauma, loneliness, and of course financial stress and overwhelm. So my intention for tonights call is to hold space for the loneliness, trauma, and stress, as we gently direct our focus towards healing, growth, and freedom from the past. About a month ago I broke out in this horrible rash. I was so discouraged because I’d like t...
Ep. #146: How to SIMPLIFY Your Life | When it all becomes too much
November 17, 2022 17:50 - 31 minutes - 29 MBThe amount of decisions we need to make each day has only continued to increase over the past couple centuries. Think of the amount of choices we are presented with each day. Instead of having to choose between 2 or 3 options, we now have hundreds of different options in every category imaginable. Food, entertainment, drinks, clothing, skincare, cars, phones, flavors, scents. I just walked through bath and body works the other day and wow, can you believe all the different SMELLS they...
Ep #145: Don't Take Your Personality Personally
October 26, 2022 23:52 - 20 minutes - 18.3 MBDon't take your personality personally, it's not you. You are the watcher, the observer, the director... Like a scientist, you learn through the experimentation of things. You are not the rat. You are gaining insights by watching the rats and how they respond and interact.
Ep #144: How to turn your DREAMS into REALITY
October 10, 2022 21:06 - 24 minutes - 22.5 MBWhen I was about 21 years old I remember telling one of my friends about my crazy life as a child. She said to me, “wow, you’re going to write a book some day”. That ONE comment sparked a tiny little flame of belief in myself. I never would have expected anyone to say something like that to me. I always believed that I wasn’t very smart. We moved about every 6 months growing up which meant I was constantly changing schools and curriculums, not to mention the adjustment period I went thro...
Ep #143: I Want it NOW! | Delayed Gratification
October 05, 2022 21:32 - 12 minutes - 11.4 MBLet’s talk about the marshmallow experiment, except we are going to use eggs instead of marshmallows . Are you a one (instant gratification) or 2 (delayed gratification) kinda person? Don’t forget to join me live on Facebook, Thursday (6:00pm MST) night for our monthly MINDSET call. Also check out my recent YouTube video sharing how I chose what to wear each day and have minimized my wardrobe in order to avoid decision fatigue. And if you’re interested in my Time Manag...
Ep #142: Diary of a Teenage Girl
September 14, 2022 17:31 - 10 minutes - 9.56 MBSpent some time over the weekend reading journal entries from when I was in highschool. It’s so fun for me to look back on the person I was then. To visit the 16-18 year old version of me. Lots of thoughts come to my mind. Wondering how differnt I might have been as a teen if I understood my emotions. I had no clue the effect hormones were having on my mind. Wondering how different my experience might have been if I understood how much emotions, beliefs, and thoughts were impactin...
Ep #141: Relationship Talk and Update on Life After Mormonism
September 07, 2022 20:14 - 8 minutes - 8.15 MBUploading more bite sized episodes, sharing pieces of some of my recent coaching sessions. The kids are back in school and I've been joyously working on my schedule, routines, and time management. Speaking of which, I'm now offering a 4 week one on one Time Management package for $111. I will help you plan out your time in a way that creates more balance, efficiency, and productivity. Time management is one of my super powers! I get so giddy any time I get to help someone in this ar...
Ep #140: ALL or NOTHING Mentality
August 29, 2022 20:55 - 45 minutes - 33.4 MBThe ALL or NOTHING mentality is a cognitive distortion that results in depressions, anxiety, procrastination, binging, and completely sabotaging your progress. It's a black and white way of thinking, perfectionist syndrome, causing you to see reality in extremes. It's good or it's bad... Right or wrong... Success or complete failure... Where does this mentality stem from? I believe it's simply the natural evolution of the human experience. Just like new born babies are only able to see i...
Ep #139: Dopamine Reset
August 22, 2022 16:33 - 13 minutes - 233 MBIndulgences are not bad, it's all about finding a healthy balance and taking breaks from these things for a period of time in order to reset and gain even more control over your urges and cravings. Here's a new video Sean and I recorded, talking about the ER Shred being the perfect Dopamine Reset and how this can be a useful tool in other areas of our lives. www.ERShred.com
Ep #138: Things are shifting for ALL of us...
August 16, 2022 21:32 - 7 minutes - 243 MBNew season of life… We are all finding ourselves in a new season, unlike anything we’ve ever experienced before. A lot of uncertainty and unknowns can feel pretty scary. I hear yah. The last 4-5 years has caused me to do a lot of soul searching and introspection. Unearthing all kinds of things about myself that I was completely unaware of. It’s become somewhat of an obsession to understand myself and human nature for that matter. In this process of self discovery I...
Ep #137: Saying Goodbye 🥲
July 18, 2022 16:59 - 4 minutes - 231 MBThere will always come a time in life when we have to say goodbye... Relationships... Homes... Religion, community, neighborhood... Impermanence is the very nature of life. Music by: Bensound.com
Ep #136: Wanna Feel Better
May 24, 2022 22:52 - 9 minutes - 496 MBI'm all about feeling better not only physically, but feeling better holistically. MIND 🧠 BODY 💪🏼 & SOUL 🧘♀️ Let me walk you through how I coach myself through various things that I struggle with myself. Submit your questions: https://tinyurl.com/2p8fc2hf Print out your worksheet. https://tinyurl.com/2p975h86
Ep #135: BELIEFS and How to Change Them
May 16, 2022 19:15 - 59 minutes - 54.5 MBInnocently many of us believe that our life circumstances are what make us feel good or bad, happy or sad, angry or peaceful. I used to believe that my happiness came from other people's love and appreciation for me, or when you make a lot of money, or when you reach your goal weight, are from being in a loving relationship. We grow up learning that happiness must come from within, but I never understood HOW to do that. Some things in life we perceive as GOOD and others we perceive as B...
Ep #134: I Accept I do NOT Know
March 29, 2022 20:48 - 23 minutes - 21.5 MB"I don't know..." Is that a statement we should learn to get comfortable with? Is it the way to creative flow? Or is it a statement the BLOCKS the creative flow? A way of giving up? Or is it surrendering to the higher power within us? Depends on how YOU want to interpret it. It has everything to do with the meaning you put behind it. You can say, "I don't know" then decide you'll NEVER know. Or you can say, "I don't know" with the confidence that the next step or idea will r...
Ep. #133: No Shame, No Blame, Life is a Game
March 15, 2022 15:09 - 25 minutes - 23.2 MBSome guilt crept up in me the other day as I was remembering something. I realized I had yet to resolve this in my mind. My goal is to be extra attentive each time a past memory or thought comes into my mind and it causes a low vibe emotion. I want to gather all the pieces to the story and see if I can rewrite it. I still hold guilt for Owen’s ear. Two reasons come to mind when I think about what may have caused his birth defect. Let’s start with not calling it a birth defect, not that ...
Ep #132: No Filter
March 07, 2022 22:06 - 12 minutes - 11.4 MBMy skin, my greatest teacher. I used to believe my skin was my greatest enemy. Like it’s role in my life was to torture me and make me feel insecure. At one point I even believed it was God’s way of keeping me humble. I don’t want to hide my imperfections anymore. I don’t even want to SEE them as imperfections. I realized I’m causing my own stress because I want to have flawless skin more than I want to appreciate what my skin is trying to teach me or how it’s my bodies way of communicati...
Ep #131: In the Grips of Social Media
March 01, 2022 20:57 - 21 minutes - 19.8 MBI remember back when I was really actively pursing my goal to grow my Instagram following. How much anxiety, stress, jealousy, and overwhelm I felt on a DAILY basis. Often times I would wish I could let it all go. I honestly felt trapped in my own mind about it. For so many reasons I thought letting go was not an option. I thought… I’ve invested too much time and money into this, I can’t stop now. Sometimes I would meet people that weren’t on social media at all. Some part o...
In the Grips of Social Media
March 01, 2022 20:57 - 21 minutes - 19.8 MBI remember back when I was really actively pursing my goal to grow my Instagram following. How much anxiety, stress, jealousy, and overwhelm I felt on a DAILY basis. Often times I would wish I could let it all go. I honestly felt trapped in my own mind about it. For so many reasons I thought letting go was not an option. I thought… I’ve invested too much time and money into this, I can’t stop now. Sometimes I would meet people that weren’t on social media at all. Some part...
Ep #130: Triggers
February 22, 2022 19:37 - 23 minutes - 10.8 MBThe other day I found myself TRIGGERED by something and wanted to share my process in coaching myself through it. Triggers can show us where our attention is needed. What is unresolved within our subconscious. It's an opportunity for us to do an investigation and it can actually be a lot of fun. Like solving a mystery. You follow the breadcrumbs to find the source of your pain. When did this start? Describe in full detail the story you've been playing on repeat. It's a chance to disco...
Ep #129: Raising Your Emotional Frequency
February 01, 2022 16:15 - 22 minutes - 10.5 MBOur theme this year is Discover YOU in 2022 and I believe the best way to self discovery is through our EMOTIONS. As we get to know our feelings and where they are coming from, we get to know ourselves. We are always saying things like… “I didn’t like the vibe I got from that person… or… what a great vibe this place has… or… we just weren’t vibing with one another. I never really knew there was some scientific validity to the whole VIBE term… Physicists explain that inside every...
Ep #128: Confusion to Clarity
January 18, 2022 01:46 - 11 minutes - 5.47 MBLittle did I know that my initial breakdown/breakthrough would last almost 4 years before I began making sense of things and feeling put back together. The interesting thing though is that it really feels as if I’m putting pieces of myself together but not using any of the old pieces. Like putting a puzzle together that is completely blank. Every piece is just pure white, nothing on it, not even a spec of color. Putting the pieces together gives me a sense of wholeness and a f...
Ep #127: FOMO | Fear of Missing Out {on social media}
January 10, 2022 19:12 - 18 minutes - 8.5 MBOver the break I tried something new... I made a goal to go an entire week without reading books or consuming content via podcasts, audible, and YouTube. I know this seems like a silly goal, but one thing I realized is that I have an addiction to seeking answers outside of myself. I've identified where my addiction to information began and I believe it started when I was a child. Growing up we moved a lot, and I changed schools about every 6 months for a while. Because I always felt ...
Ep #126: Breaking Free From Cults
November 02, 2021 17:40 - 23 minutes - 10.5 MBI believe we are all vulnerable to unhealthy cult like structures. They come in many forms. Not all cults are necessarily bad, but in my opinion, many of them have unhealthy practices that can lead us down a path of even more separation rather than community. In this episode I explain how I've been influenced by cult like structures in ways that has caused me so much confusion about my path and purpose. One of my biggest takeaways from participating in "cults" is that I don't want to be...
Ep #125: Resenting My Husbands Success
October 26, 2021 18:25 - 21 minutes - 9.65 MBThere's no doubt Sean has achieved tremendous success in which I'm so grateful for, proud of, and inspired by. But admittedly, there has been a part of me that resents his success when I compare myself to him. I've spent over a decade trying to build the same kind of success, but in my own unique way. In some ways I'm very proud of what I've created over the years, but when I compare myself to Sean I come up with all kinds of reasons why he's just better than me. My mind spirals into v...
Ep #124: Ghosted...Why I Disappeared
October 20, 2021 21:40 - 15 minutes - 7.37 MBExplaining where I've been the past few weeks.
Ep #124: Ghosted...Why I Disappeared
October 20, 2021 21:40 - 15 minutes - 7.37 MBExplaining where I've been the past few weeks.
Ep #123: Letting Go & Letting it Flow
September 27, 2021 21:24 - 24 minutes - 33.9 MBOur motto this year is really been about letting go and letting it flow. So this week on the podcast I wanted to elaborate more on that topic since I feel that has been such a big part of our experience lately. 2020 has really turned out to be a gift in many ways. Mostly because it has presented us with the opportunity to practice our “letting go” muscle. It’s been one of those huge letting go lessons that has yet again turned out to be the catalyst for receiving MORE. It’s one of the...
Ep #122: Update on Life After Mormonism
September 21, 2021 22:05 - 40 minutes - 56.2 MBToday Sean and I wanted to share an update as far as where we are, mentally and emotionally as it pertains to our journey out of Mormonism. This past year has been quite the whirlwind. I turned 40 and for some reason, along with that came a whole host of internal issues that came up for me. I was struggling with finding a purpose and positive outlook in life. I was confused and overwhelmed by my own lack of beliefs, and unanswered questions. There were so many things swirling around in...
Ep #122: Update on life after Mormonism
September 21, 2021 22:05 - 40 minutes - 56.2 MBToday Sean and I wanted to share an update as far as where we are, mentally and emotionally as it pertains to our journey out of Mormonism. This past year has been quite the whirlwind. I turned 40 and for some reason, along with that came a whole host of internal issues that came up for me. I was struggling with finding a purpose and positive outlook in life. I was confused and overwhelmed by my own lack of beliefs, and unanswered questions. There were so many things swirling around in...
Ep #121: I'm BACK!
September 14, 2021 20:32 - 22 minutes - 30.8 MBI'm BACK at it my friends. I had a crazy busy summer and in this episode I'm just catching you up on what I've been up to the past few months.
Ep #120: Healing Childhood Trauma
June 29, 2021 20:57 - 1 hour - 87.2 MBThe more people I get to know on a deeper level, the more I'm realizing that every one of us has some level of childhood trauma. Not to shame and blame the caregivers because heaven knows I'm no saint when it comes to parenting. We are all doing the best we can with what we know therefore we must offer that same understanding and compassion for the people who devoted so much of their time and energy in raising us. Healing the inner child is not about bringing up old wounds for the inte...
Ep #119: My Weight Loss & Personal Growth Journey
June 23, 2021 17:25 - 1 hour - 108 MBER Shred Ambassador Jesse James Jamnik interviews me about my weight loss and personal growth journey thus far. "As Co-Founder of the ER Shred Protocol, along with her husband Sean, Crystal has a true passion for helping transform people's overall well-being. Especially seeing as though she herself struggled for years before finally cracking the code. Join us as Crystal and I break down the past and touch on subjects that you very well might be struggling with yourself. Sugar & Car...
Ep #118: When people don't love you like they "SHOULD"
June 15, 2021 16:44 - 12 minutes - 16.7 MBFirst of all, how can we possibly know how people SHOULD love us? Letting go of all my shoulds has been the hardest thing for me to do. I want to believe that people should do things the way I think they should. But as Byron Katie always says, when you “turn it around rather than waiting for someone else to do it is the end of the road not traveled”. I love the turn around technique she teaches, it helps me really put things into perspective and switch my focus off the person I’m judging a...
Ep #117: When Life Gets Hard
June 08, 2021 02:17 - 24 minutes - 34.1 MBWe all dream of the days when life ceases to be challenging. When we learn all the lessons there are to learn, we make our millions, solve our problems, achieve all our goals, and ride off into the sunset with our happily ever after. Unfortunately, or should I say FORTUNATELY, life never stops presenting us with a healthy dose of difficulty. Itt all comes down to our attitude and whether or not we’re able to embrace life’s challenges and see them as the perfect opportunity for growth and s...
Ep #116: My Ego
June 01, 2021 03:25 - 23 minutes - 32.4 MBStripping myself down of all the things that feed my ego has been extremely challenging. In this episode I go into more detail about some of the things I found myself addicted to, not realizing the driving force behind it all.
Ep #115: Reinventing Your Life w/ Natascha Weedon
May 26, 2021 03:23 - 53 minutes - 73.9 MBThinking outside the box, new and different ways of doing things. Stepping into the unknown, reinventing, and redefining life. That's what 2021 is all about.
Ep #114: Grieving & Growing
May 18, 2021 16:24 - 35 minutes - 48.9 MBGrief is an emotion I'm learning to sit with these days. Grieving the loss of certain beliefs I've clung to my whole life, and grieving the loss of a pet. Sometimes when we feel an intense emotion like grief it almost feels like you're wearing a shocking device. It hurts so bad you become desperate to relieve the pain. But I've found that, relaxing, allowing, and breathing can be the best antidote to painful situations.