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Finding Jalapenos In Your Olives
March 29, 2014 00:00 - 15 minutes - 21.7 MBWe all have rough patches from time to time. Nobody is happy all the time. If we were, we wouldn’t be people, we’d be game show hosts! It’s been a rough week here at the Transform Radio ranch, and when I found jalapenos in the olives I was using to make enchiladas, I realized that sometimes life is like that. ——————————— Subscribe to the Transform Radio podcast on iTunes…. and g’head and give us a 5-star review so more folks can transform their lives! Connect with us on Twitter, ...
The Second Agreement - Don't Take Things Personally.
March 10, 2014 00:00 - 15 minutes - 13.7 MBWhen you take their opinion personally, especially if it’s negative, by your offense you’re agreeing with what they have to say about you. The second agreement is all about being secure in who you are, knowing yourself, and accepting who you are. You know your path. You know your journey. You know how far you’ve come and how far you’ve yet to go. People who fling insults at you don’t. Taking them personally is agreeing with them and giving them power to control your life. You ...
The First Agreement – Be Impeccable With Your Word
March 07, 2014 10:22 - 22 minutes - 20.5 MBNow, if you’re like me, the initial impression of this first agreement is that it simply means “do as you say, say as you do” and “tell the truth…always.”. Well, that’s only a minor part of it. Almost every major religion/philosophy has a teaching about the power of words. In Christianity it’s “the tongue has the power of life and death”. In Buddhism it’s “Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind they can change our world.”
The Four Agreements: Introduction
March 06, 2014 00:00 - 21 minutes - 20.1 MBIn the introduction to The Four Agreements, Ruiz talks about how we, as people, are domesticated like our pets by our parents, our teachers, our family, our friends, and we learn, through a series of rewards an punishments, what and who everyone else thinks we should be in order to gain acceptance. Changing from this norm creates fear, and that fear keeps most of us trapped in dull, drab, unhappy, unfulfilled lives. We create this idealized version of who we're supposed to be...som...
Luck will get you to Pittsburgh...
March 04, 2014 00:00 - 54 minutes - 12.7 MBOne of our family routines is we watch a show called "The Middle". Tonight, the Hecks won a trip to New York City, yet were besieged by challenges in getting there to the point that their flight was rerouted to the nearest non-snowed in city, which happened to be Pittsburgh. As they landed in Pittsburgh, everyone but Sue Heck, the middle daughter, wanted to quit and go home. She stood firm, determined to celebrate the biggest thing that ever happened to her and not let her dream di...
What Would You Do?
March 03, 2014 00:00 - 18 minutes - 16.8 MBThere's a television show called "What would you do?" that presents morally and ethically challenging situations and the films the general public, unaware, and what their reactions are. Character is often said to be composed of what you do when nobody is looking. I think the amendment to that is character is what you do when everyone is looking and it's damn uncomfortable. A discussion at the dinner table tonight about Star Wars, Doctor Who, and the ethics of sacrificing who you a...
There's being offended...and there's choosing to be offended
February 26, 2014 00:00 - 20 minutes - 18.4 MBThere's no disagreement that there are some truly offensive things in life...war, death, famine, poverty, racism, injustice, etc. There's also not much disagreement that there are things that are offensive to some of us but not others. This isn't what we're talking about. We're talking about choosing to be offended at everything! You know, those folks who take EVERYTHING personally, view EVERYTHING as an attack on them... the Debbie Downers and Paulie PartyPoopers. Chronic "offended...
Black Sheep Are People, Too!
February 25, 2014 00:00 - 23 minutes - 21.9 MBIn a recent post on TransformingMonday.com, I asked "Are you the black sheep of the family?" Based on some of the responses I got, some are, some aren't, and man, are there a bunch of misconceptions about who black sheep are and what they believe. Listen in as we: dissect the myth that black sheep are simply rebellious, unmotivated, directionless slackers who hate their families decipher that "family curses" are simply familial beliefs passed down, often unintentionally, through gen...
Learn NLP - Change Your Inner Voice
February 21, 2014 00:00 - 13 minutes - 12 MBWe all have those inner voices that constantly tell us we're no good, we're not smart enough, we're not pretty enough... these are the voices of our limiting beliefs. How awesome would it be to be able to change those voices, even silence them, any time you wanted? It doesn't matter how long you believed it, or who told you the horrible ugliness, you can change that voice in mere minutes. Listen in for the first powerful lesson in NLP and silence those negative voices forever. -----...
Learning NLP - Set Up Your Own Control Studio
February 19, 2014 00:00 - 29 minutes - 26.6 MBNeurolinguistic Programming (NLP) is the science behind how we communicate, how our concious and subconcious thoughts affect our physiology, and how we can change our neural patterns in order to create the life we truly desire. In order to move from where you are to where you want to be, you have to be able to eliminate all of the horrible ugliness that holds you back so that the awesome goodliness can flow through you. Tonight, as we begin a new series on how you can shift your beli...
Want More Out Of Life? Then Show Up.
February 17, 2014 00:00 - 15 minutes - 14.3 MBIn a book I'm currently reading, a lesson is given that the best spiritual practice is just showing up. In life, our best practice, period, is to show up and show up consistently. Whether it's in relationships, in business, in your own growth... showing up consistently will get you better results than showing up occasionally. What does it mean to 'show up'? Listen in and find out! ----------------------------------------- Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On T...
Own your @#&^, Own your life
February 14, 2014 00:00 - 28 minutes - 25.9 MB“The victim mindset dilutes the human potential. By not accepting personal responsibility for our circumstances, we greatly reduce our power to change them.” - Steve Maraboli Too many people refuse to take responsibility for their lives. They live as victims of circumstance, letting life happen to them instead of making their lives happen. Taking control of your life begins with owning your #@#$^%! Taking responsibility for your words, your actions, and your choices will move you f...
Leave The Politics To The Politicians
February 13, 2014 00:00 - 18 minutes - 17.1 MBOffice politics are an ugly game. It's a game of power, of status, of unearned privilege. Superiors who demand the game be played define themselves by the fealty they receive. Subordinates who play the game are looking to get ahead not on talent, but by schmoozing the right person. It's a recipe for frustration and bitterness. Don't play the political game. Keep it professional, keep it honest, keep your integrity beyond question and you won't have to sacrifice your self-esteem t...
Don't Be Afraid To Sit At The Bar
February 11, 2014 00:00 - 13 minutes - 12.4 MBEvery once in a while in our house both kids will find other places to be on a weekend night. This last Friday was one such occasion. While sitting at the bar at Bahama Breeze waiting for our table, we struck up a conversation with the couple next to us. Turns out the husband was Shawn Seipler, CEO of CleanTheWorld.org. It's pretty impressive what his organization does. What's more impressive is his story of success to failure to success, a story Shawn will be sharing on a future ...
Million Dollar Dreams, Minimum Wage Work Ethic
February 10, 2014 00:00 - 15 minutes - 14.4 MBYou cannot have the life you want if you're not willing to work for it. Too many people make excuses and accept that things will never change or they sink into believing the life they have is all they'll ever have. You cannot achieve your million dollar dreams with a minimum wage work ethic.
Boost Your Influence Part 1 - Rapport
February 07, 2014 00:00 - 23 minutes - 21.3 MBBeing able to establish rapport with other people is important in all facets of life. Most of us have no idea how to do it, and some are really bad at it. Being able to establish rapport relaxes the other person's objection reflex, makes them more open to what you have to say, and establishes a subconscious connection between the two (or more) of you. Imagine how much your business life, your career, your dating life, your relationships with others could improve simply by being able...
Kick The Yabbit Habit
February 05, 2014 00:00 - 18 minutes - 17 MBWe've all said it. We've all used a single phrase as a way to justify not doing either what we're supposed to or what we truly want to do. Yabbit. Listen in and kick the yabbit habit! Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ [email protected] Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar. Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywhere you decide it to ...
Groundhog's Day
February 03, 2014 00:00 - 13 minutes - 12.6 MBOver 20 years ago, the movie Groundhog Day premiered. It's a story of a man who gets trapped in a single day in time until he learns what his true passion is. When you rolled into the office today...is it the same as it ever was? Do your days just blur together? Well, perhaps it's time to discover what your passion, your calling is so you can stop living your own Groundhog Day. Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we...
20 Seconds Of Insane Courage
February 02, 2014 00:00 - 8 minutes - 8.18 MBMost people believe that it takes a significant amount of time leading up to the moment your life changes. It doesn't. All it takes is 20 seconds of insane courage and the world opens up before your eyes. Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ [email protected] Thanks for visiting and have a fantastic day, rockstar. Remember… it is what it is and the next stop is anywh...
Shame And Forgiveness
January 31, 2014 00:00 - 23 minutes - 21.6 MBShame is probably the most prevalent emotion around today. It's sold to us through the media. It's used as a tool for control. Social media amplifies shaming with its global reach. It's everywhere. And it's garbage. Shame comes from defining ourselves by the events that occur in our life. The things that happen are simply things that happen. It is what it is and no more. The first step to escaping the shame spiral is forgiveness. Forgiving others for the things they did to you ...
Change Your State, Change Your Life - Setting Anchors
January 30, 2014 00:00 - 27 minutes - 25.5 MBDid you know you could change your emotional and physical state in an instant? Imagine how awesome it would feel if you could shift your state from nervous to confident or from sad to happy or from anxious to calm... all in the blink of an eye? Listen in and learn how you can use this simple yet powerful tool to shift your emotional state, control your world, and boost your self confidence. Connect with Transform Radio - On Facebook , On Google+, On Twitter, On Pinterest, On iTunes...
Living With And Managing Depression
January 29, 2014 00:00 - 28 minutes - 26.4 MBAs someone who has struggled with depression most of my life, figuring out how to recognize when my mood starts shifting and being able to manage my emotional and mental state was huge. So, let's talk depression. I'll share my story, my ups, my downs, my own personal experience and how I manage my emotional and mental state. I'll also share what to do and, more importantly, what not to do or say if you know someone who struggles with depression.
Live Your Life Like Doctor Who
January 27, 2014 00:00 - 12 minutes - 11.3 MBThere's a very specific reason for the outro music on the show. It's titled "Next Stop Everywhere" and symbolizes the infiinite possibilities in life that all start with making a decision. So, jump in your TARDIS and make the decision to go where you truly want be.
The Biggest Mistake You Can Make Is Not Making One
January 26, 2014 00:00 - 11 minutes - 10.9 MBMistakes. Most people are afraid to make them, so they live boring little mistake free lives that are full of doubts and regrets. Making mistakes is a part of growing, it shows you're willing to step outside your comfort zone and take chances. If you go through life avoiding making mistakes, it'll be the biggest mistake you've ever made.
What Makes A Good Woman?
January 23, 2014 00:00 - 28 minutes - 26.3 MBTonight Charlotte takes over the lab and delivers a female perspective on dating, relationships, and what a "good woman" really is. It isn't the Susie Homemaker vision of the 1950's nor is it faking it, wearing an uncomfortable media creation of what a "good woman" is. Listen in as Charlotte delivers a powerful episode on empowerment, confidence, and how compromising yourself for the sake of a relationship is the worst thing you can do to yourself. Check out Charlotte at MomsWithAPas...
We're all Pavlov's Dog
January 22, 2014 00:00 - 12 minutes - 11.3 MBIf you don't reward yourself and are just waiting for someone else to reward you, you could be waiting a long, long time and end up discouraged that nobody is noticing how awesome you're doing. It doesn't have to be anything fancy or expensive, but take the time to reward yourself for the awesome progress you're making. It builds your confidence, your self-esteem, and it gets you hooked. Once you're hooked, you're gonna want more.... and how do you get more? More progress. See whe...
Doing What You Love Is The Key To Success
January 18, 2014 00:00 - 20 minutes - 18.8 MBAn article from Slate crossed my Facebook feed today that really gets it wrong. The article claims that the mantra "Do what you love. Love what you do." somehow devalues work and is the reason for all of the evil in the world today. Doing what you love is the key to success. It's the key to fulfillment. It's what drives you to get out of bed in the morning, work harder and longer than anyone else, and creates those people who change the world. If you do what you love and love wha...
Don't Sweat The Small Stuff...And It's All Small Stuff
January 18, 2014 00:00 - 14 minutes - 13.2 MBThe life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence. - Norman Vincent Peale Stress and worry never changes anything. It only causes tension, health problems, and damages relationships. Focus on what's truly important...the immeasurable, the priceless, and don't sweat the small stuff, because in the end...it's all small stuff. Connect with me: On Facebook On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via E...
Do you want a participation ribbon or a gold medal?
January 17, 2014 00:00 - 14 minutes - 12.8 MBA discussion with my daughter got me to thinking about the whole "everyone gets a ribbon" philosophy. At the end of your life, do you want a bunch of participation ribbons or do you want a bunch of cool photos, memories, scars, and a couple of well earned trophies to tell the story of your life? Connect with me: On Facebook On Google+ On Twitter On Pinterest On iTunes (oh, and we love 5 star reviews!) Via Email @ [email protected]
Meaningless Actions Lead To Meaningless Lives
January 16, 2014 00:00 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MBMost people take the shotgun approach to taking action. They lack the focus on their goals needed in order to make their actions meaningful. When people take meaningless actions, it can lead to meaningless lives. Lives full of frustration, disappointment, resentment, and resignation. The key to meaningful action is to both be clear about what you want and also be sure that your values and beliefs are in line with each other and congruent with who you are. On Facebook On Googl...
The Cottleston Pie Principle - Accept Who You Are
January 12, 2014 00:00 - 18 minutes - 16.6 MBThe riddle of Cottleston Pie from Winnie The Pooh, is a meditation on accepting our strengths, our weaknesses, and understanding what our own inner nature is. A fly can't bird but a bird can fly... understand who you are and what you were made for. A fish can't whistle and neither can I... understand your limitations, and learn to accept and, if desired, change them. Why does a chicken? ... Why do you do what you do? Why do you make the same choices over and over? Why do you repeat ...
It's The Journey, Not The Destination - Bisy Backson
January 10, 2014 00:00 - 18 minutes - 17 MBRabbit from Winnie the Pooh is always busy. He runs around from task to task, never really taking time to appreciate where he is or who he is with. In Tao of Pooh, Rabbit is the "Bisy Backson".You've heard it said that life is all about the journey, not the destination. Well, if you're like Rabbit, you'll miss the most important things in life that are often right in front of your face. Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday iTunes/Transform...
A Married Guy's Guide To Dating
January 08, 2014 00:00 - 23 minutes - 21.2 MBLooking for that 'special someone'? Tired of the seemingly endless string of failed relationships? Trust me.... it's not them, it's you. Take a page from "The Married Guy's Guide To Dating" and find the happiness you deserve. Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday iTunes/TransformingMonday
The World Needs Dreamers
January 06, 2014 00:00 - 23 minutes - 10.2 MBWe took a trip to Kennedy space Center today, and one thing stood out. The space program was a triumph of those who dreamed big, who dared to dream impossible dreams. In today's pessimistic world, we need more dreamers, more crazy ones, more people who believe nothing is impossible. Connect with us on: Facebook.com/TransformingMonday Twitter.com/XformMonday TransformingMonday.com
Piglet Hesitates...Don't Be Piglet!
January 04, 2014 00:00 - 18 minutes - 17.4 MBDon't Be Piglet “The play-it-safe pessimists of the world never accomplish much of anything, because they don't look clearly and objectively at situations, they don't recognize or believe in their own abilities to overcome even the smallest amount of risk.” They say that leaders are readers. One book that impacted my life, and I know will impact yours, is the Tao of Pooh. In today's episode, we discuss not being Piglet when it comes to facing the fear that comes with trying new th...
Don't Quit Now!
January 03, 2014 00:00 - 18 minutes - 16.7 MBSo, it's the second day of the New Year.... are you already overwhelmed? Are you looking at your list of goals/outcomes for the year and wondering how you're ever going to get them accomplished? We all do. What can make you different than 70% of the rest of the world is not quitting by Feburary 1st. Yep, that's true. 70% of the people who make New Year's Resolutions have quit by February 1st. Some of the reasons are: They're overwhelmed They have no plan They have no disciplin...
Time to have that difficult conversation
December 30, 2013 00:00 - 14 minutes - 13 MBSo your life isn't where you thought it would be 12 months ago. You're still struggling with the same challenges, stuck in the same job, living in the same place, etc., and it seems like for all you've 'done' this year... ...not one thing has changed. It's time. Time to have that difficult conversation with yourself. Time to be brutally honest with yourself and own up to the reality that it is your choices, your decisions, that are responsible for you being where you are. I kno...
Free to speak...not free of consequences
December 20, 2013 00:00 - 21 seconds - 5.11 MBIt's not what you say...it's how you say it We've all heard that saying before, and you know what? It's 100% true. As a communicator, you are responsible not only for what you say, but for how your message is received. Over the last 36 hours, the kerfuffle over Duck Dynasty has given us a real life example of how not to express your opinions, especially when it comes across in a destructive, not constructive way. Now, just like Phil Robertson, each of us absolutely has not only the ...
Make Better New Year's Resolutions
December 19, 2013 00:00 - 23 minutes - 21.2 MB70% Of New Year's Resolutions Fail True. Seven out of ten of you who make resolutions will be back to your old you by February 1st, if not sooner. Why? Simple...they're too vague, they're too big, and you don't have a plan. And a goal without a plan is just a wish... ....and you know what wishing will get you. This year, do it differently. Take a little time to give yourself an honest self-evaluation. Honestly reflect and think about what you want 2014 to bring...then.. make a p...
What It Takes To Be An Entrepreneur
December 06, 2013 00:00 - 34 minutes - 31.5 MBSo, you want to be an entrepreneur...be your own boss. Congrats on making the first decision to set yourself free. Now... that being said, there are some things you'll need to know, be aware of, as you journey into freedom-land. Successful entrepreneurs all have certain traits such as: consistency, dedication, fearless, trainable, ambitious... things not normally part of the human psyche. Join Charlotte and I as we talk about these traits, why they're important, and the importance...
Instant Gratification Nation
November 25, 2013 02:01 - 19 minutes - 17.7 MBIn this world of information overload, where everything is at our fingertips, our desire for instant gratification often impedes our path to personal growth. Personal growth is a life-long journey that takes patience, discipline, awareness, and constant focus.
5 Words You Need To Quit Using Now And The Power Of I Am
November 12, 2013 02:46 - 59 minutes - 28.4 MB“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. - Lao Tzu” The language we use creates our reality. There are 5 words in particular that create a dull, drab reality that is guaranteed to lead to a life of regret. Listen to this episode to learn what those 5 words are and what two phrases you can immediately replace them wit...
Criticism Sucks!
November 05, 2013 00:42 - 1 hour - 13.7 MBNobody likes to be criticized. Nobody. However, if you have relationships with people who hold you accountable, then criticism is an inevitable part of that relationship's dialogue. Tonight we focus not on how to deliver criticism (that'll be in a future episode), but on how to receive and accept criticism without nuking the relationship. There are 3 simple things you can do to be better at accepting criticism AND ensure the integrity of the relationship stays strong. Listen in ...
Kairos, Chronos, and Staying Sane During The Holiday Season
October 29, 2013 02:48 - 34 minutes - 31.1 MBYes, that time of year is once again upon us...the beginning of the holiday season. It's that time of year where we are easily overwhelmed with all we have to do, and easily stressed because of...oh, so many reasons. Tonight we talk about the two types of people: Kairos (event/moment/relationship) oriented people Chronos (linear time/Type A) oriented people. Being a chronos oriented person, it's easy to get overwhelmed when the schedule gets full and when schedules aren't kept. K...
How Do You Mend A Broken Relationship?
October 15, 2013 02:26 - 27 minutes - 24.8 MBWe've often talked about how relationships can be strained, particularly when you're on a journey of personal growth. Others don't understand you, they're confused as to why you're not the same person they've always known, and perhaps they're taken aback by your new-found confidence.... ...and this can strain, and even break, long-standing relationships. Particularly with those closest to you. What do you do when you want to see about healing those relationships? You can't go ba...
Rumors
September 23, 2013 01:26 - 23 minutes - 21.2 MBRumors and the Damage Done Hey Rockstars! In our lives, we've all either been subject of or have even spread rumors. They've either hurt us or given us a sense of power and belonging by "knowing" some juicy bit of information about someone else. Problem is, rumors are often false information. They're based on one person's observation without fact-checking that observation with the subject of the rumor. Listen to tonight's episode to find out: the major reasons rumors get spread h...
Never Give Up On Your Dreams
September 18, 2013 02:45 - 34 minutes - 31.9 MBQuitters Never Win Nobody ever reached their own personal finish line by quitting half way through the race. No seed ever sprouted without being watered and cared for. Your dreams are the same way. In order to make your life "all killer, no filler", you must be willing to do the impossible. You've got to face failure and not let it beat you. You've got to be so determined to get what you want out of life, that it's as necessary as breathing. You must also have patience. Success...
Everyone Has A Story
September 12, 2013 23:33 - 16 minutes - 14.6 MBEveryone Has A Story From the beginning of time, stories have been at the center of the human experience. Even before man could talk we've shared stories. Cave paintings, fables, parables, art, song...all of these and so many more allow us to express our unique stories in unique ways. Your story is just as unique as you are yet parts of your story are the stories of thousands of other people. Your challenges, your successes, your failures...they make you uniquely you yet allow you...
I was just trying to help!
September 10, 2013 02:35 - 31 minutes - 28.4 MBIn a recent post on the Transforming Monday Blog, I talked about "honesty without compassion". This is when we communicate bluntly using phrases like: I’m just being honest. I just say it like it is. You know me… I’m blunt. ...or the #1 answer... "I was just trying to help!" The problem when we communicate these statements without compassion is that we often end up offending and insulting the person we're communicating with. We invalidate what they are feeling because these phras...
Wimpy Whys And Why Your Life Still Sucks
September 02, 2013 23:31 - 23 minutes - 22 MBFinding that reason, that "Why", that drives you to change some facets of your life is what every motivational and inspirational speaker, book, seminar, etc., tells you is absolutely vital to changing your life. It's true. Most people find a "why" that only interests them in making changes. They'll read a book, watch a movie, attend a seminar, and then inevitably fade back into their boring, ho-hum, average life. Why? Their life doesn't suck enough to force them to dig deep and ...