Securely Attached
249 episodes - English - Latest episode: 4 days ago - ★★★★★ - 74 ratingsSecurely Attached is your go-to parenting podcast, supporting moms and dads from pregnancy all the way through their child's adolescence and every stage in between.
Join us every Tuesday as clinical psychologist and mom of two Dr. Sarah Bren shares her expertise and interviews top experts in the field, simplifying complicated concepts and pulling back the curtain on the brain science and psychology that drives and shapes the parent-child relationship.
And now, every Thursday, Dr. Sarah Bren is joined by Dr. Emily Upshur and Dr. Rebecca Hershberg for a special segment, Beyond The Sessions. We’re answering YOUR parenting questions from the perspective of clinical psychologists highly trained in developmental science and real-life moms who get that parenting is messy, and sometimes we have to laugh, cry, and throw out the “rules.”
From toddler tantrums, to effective discipline strategies, to leaning into the principles of respectful parenting, and to managing your own mental wellness as a parent—this podcast is your ultimate resource for judgment-free, research-backed information you know you can trust.
About Sarah Bren, PhD
Dr. Sarah Bren is a licensed clinical psychologist and mom of two who helps parents understand the building blocks of child development and how secure relationships form and thrive. Her work is focused on helping parents find their inner confidence so they can respond to any parenting problem that comes along and raise kids who are healthy, resilient, and kind.
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147. BTS: What are practical tips for dealing with whining kids?
November 02, 2023 09:00 - 18 minutes - 25.6 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 1:51 - Understanding the context and circumstances of why your child is whining. 4:01 - Responding to the content of your child's feeling or unmet needs rather than the tone. 7:26 - Getting to the root of what your child is trying to communicate, rather than asking something more of them in the moment. 8:20 - What to do when your chi...
146. The hidden dangers of an achievement centric approach with Jennifer Breheny Wallace
October 31, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 82.8 MBUncover the shocking impact toxic achievement culture is having on our kids' well-being - and what we can do to change that for the better! 😵💫 With her extensive research and thought-provoking insights, author of the NY Times best selling book Never Enough, Jennifer Breheny Wallace brings to the forefront the challenges our children face in this high-pressure world. In today's episode, we'll delve into the subtle and not-so-subtle ways in which the toxic achievement culture inf...
145. BTS: Will encouraging my child's big imagination lead to lying in the future?
October 26, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 35.4 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:18 - Having a big imagination is a form of cognitive play for child and a very healthy way for them to make sense of their world. 6:32 - How can parents respond and engage with your child when their fantasies are aggressive. 9:47 - After the "toddler fantasy" stage parents often see a "preschool denial of behavior" phase come next. ...
144. Couple goals: Unlocking the secrets to a thriving partnership as you parent together with Dr. Suzanne Burger
October 24, 2023 09:00 - 51 minutes - 70.3 MB❤️ Practical strategies for nurturing your relationship while navigating the ups and downs of parenthood. 👇🏻 As couples embark on the journey of parenthood, their relationship naturally undergoes a huge transformation. However, in a society that often places excessive focus on children, it's easy to overlook the vital need to nurture and prioritize our connection with our partner. Clinical psychologist Dr. Suzanne Burger is here to share valuable insights on how coup...
143. BTS: How do I raise a street smart kid who understands risks without creating a heightened sense of danger and fear
October 19, 2023 09:00 - 27 minutes - 38.3 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:07 - Putting a scary experience into perspective and viewing it as an opportunity to have a conversation on safety and boundaries with your child. 5:17 - You can review ground rules with your child without using shame or fear to make them impactful. 9:41 - Understanding your unique child's level of impulsivity and how they learn best. ...
142. Becoming the parents your kids deserve with Gary John Bishop
October 17, 2023 09:00 - 44 minutes - 61.2 MBUncover the secrets to raising intentional and reflective kids! 🌱👨👩👧👦 How does our perception of life shape our sense of self? And how can we teach our children to examine the meaning they make of their feelings and experiences to help them learn to be intentional in their actions? Prepare to expand your horizons, reconsider your perspective, and embark on a transformational journey with this week's guest and the author of GROW UP: Becoming the Parents Your Kids Deserve, Gary...
141. BTS: How can I support my teen who is having trouble adjusting to college?
October 12, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 35 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:07 - Addressing your own anxiety and the "what if's" first, so you can separate your emotions from your child's experiences and feelings. 6:59 - Shifting this parent's thoughts from "I am responsible for fixing this" to "I am responsible for paying attention." 8:44 - Utilizing school resources and familiarizing yourself (and your chi...
140. How understanding our child's sensory sensitivities can help us strengthen their emotional intelligence with Alyssa Blask Campbell
October 10, 2023 09:00 - 55 minutes - 75.9 MBHelping our children learn to understand, process, and make sense of their emotions can be pivotal for fostering their mental well-being all the way into adulthood. Join me for an enlightening conversation that promises to empower you as a parent or caregiver is the author of the new book TINY HUMANS, BIG EMOTIONS, Alyssa Blask Campbell. Discover practical strategies to support your child's emotional regulation, build resilience, and foster empathy, and explore the ways sensory s...
139. BTS: Can my kid be securely attached to me if I'm insecurely attached in my adult relationships?
October 05, 2023 09:00 - 22 minutes - 31.3 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 4:12 - The quick 101 on attachment theory - it's most simple definition. 7:29 - Understanding the difference between making bad choices and having unhealthy romantic relationships versus having an attachment disorder. 10:12 - If a person does have an avoidant insecure attachment style, what can they do not to pass down this attachment styl...
138. The most crucial 20 minutes: How bedtime stories can deepen relationships and help kids let go of their day with Andrew Newman
October 03, 2023 09:00 - 59 minutes - 81.7 MBUsing the end of the night to help a child unwind, make sense of the day, and prepare for what’s to come tomorrow can be a valuable tool for shifting their brain and body into a state of rest. Joining me to talk about how parents can use the last 20 minutes of the day to promote social and emotional learning is the author of the children’s book series, Conscious Stories, Andrew Newman. Helping our child to feel safe and connected to us just before it’s time for them to drift off ...
137. BTS: What are appropriate consequences when my child doesn’t listen?
September 28, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 35.1 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 1:49 - What should consequences for my child be when there are no natural or logical consequences that are easy to identify? 4:05 - Understanding the developmental difference between your child being able to intellectually comprehend something versus their ability to inhibit an impulse. 7:41 - Helping your child keep their autonomy while teach...
136. When none of the gentle parenting scripts and tips work for your kid with Dr. Cindy Hovington
September 26, 2023 09:00 - 58 minutes - 80.6 MB>> Click here to watch for my FREE masterclass, From Battles to Bonding: Overcoming Power Struggles! And gain insights and tools that can lead to a more peaceful and enjoyable parenting experience, free of daily power struggles! << Knowing what to do, when, and how is a challenge in parenting! If you're doing the right thing, but at the wrong time, you may be left questioning your methods and feeling like you're failing in parenting. Here to help moms and dads learn how to be...
135. BTS: What can I do when all the "rules" for setting limits don't work for my sensitive kid?
September 21, 2023 09:00 - 30 minutes - 42.1 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 6:22 - How to allow sensitive children to feel seen and understood, without making them shut down or feel uncomfortable with too much direct attention. 7:17 - Behavioral interventions to use with sensitive kids when they are fully dysregulated and as they start to cool down. 9:05 - Being intentional about using structures and systems preem...
134. Change your child’s behavior in just 3 weeks: How to create your own personalized action plan
September 19, 2023 09:00 - 49 minutes - 67.9 MB>>> HEAD HERE TO GRAB THE FREEBIE FOR THIS EPISODE: Your Step-By-Step Guide for How to Change Your Child's Behavior in Just 3 Weeks! Want to learn how to change your child's behavior in just 3 weeks? In this episode, I am breaking down the 10 simple steps I teach to the families in my clinical practice to help them make small shifts to their own behavior that will result in some big changes in their child. Plus, download my interactive workbook for an easy-to-follow, custo...
133. BTS: Why does my child lose it more with me than anyone else?
September 14, 2023 09:00 - 22 minutes - 30.6 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:18 - You are not alone! Kids holding it together all day with other people and melting down with us is very common (and healthy, even!) 2:57 - How to make transitions smoother to help reduce dysregulation when children get home. 7:26 - Children do behave differently with different caregiver and parents respond differently to differen...
132. How to move out of power struggles and into cooperation with Jen Lumanlan
September 12, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 87.8 MBDo you feel like you are constantly ping-ponging between two extremes—throwing around your authority and overpowering your child or feeling like they're running the show? Jen Lumanlan, the creator of Your Parenting Mojo and the author of the new book, Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family—and the World, is helping parents learn how to embark on a journey towards harmonious family life and a better world! Say goodbye to time-outs,...
131. BTS: How do I help my child with ADHD utilize school support systems without feeling embarrassed or self-conscious?
September 07, 2023 09:00 - 28 minutes - 39.8 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:24 - How this current generation is working to lessen the stigma of having learning difficulties or a neurodiverse brain by approaching it as a difference rather than a deficit. 4:20 - How parents can be collaborative with their child's school to help them feel comfortable getting support in the classroom. 7:26 - Understanding a chil...
130. How to support our kids' autonomy and independence, minus the power struggles, with Dr. Emily Edlynn
September 05, 2023 09:00 - 46 minutes - 63.3 MBWe all want our children to succeed. But, the way they get there can feel counterintuitive to many parents and mainstream parenting approaches. We need to let our kids stumble, let them make mistakes, and allow them to struggle a bit. Here to help parents understand how to support their child's autonomy in a way that promotes family harmony is psychologist and author of Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children, Dr. Emily Edlynn. ...
129. BTS: How can I support my sensitive, "spicy," highly emotional child?
August 31, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 34.9 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:37 - What is a "spicy" kid and how is that a more positive term than "sensitive" or "highly emotional"? 4:05 - What is the difference between continuum and categorical and how does this apply to these highly reactive kids. 4:54 - Helping kids who easily go to feelings of shame while setting limits. 8:32 - Teaching our children the ...
128. How mold, Lyme, pesticides, and other toxins may be impacting your child's physical and mental health with integrative pediatrician Dr. Pejman Katiraei
August 29, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 94.4 MBAddressing the root cause of our children's physical and mental health challenges, rather than just treating the symptoms, can allow the human body to function as it should and positively impact energy, mood, and overall feelings of wellness. Joining me to discuss the benefits of taking a holistic and integrative approach to pediatric medicine is Dr. Pejman Katiraei, a board-certified pediatrician and the co-founder of WholisticMinds. We'll explore how physiological and environme...
127. BTS: Is there anything I can do while I’m pregnant to make me less vulnerable to postpartum anxiety?
August 24, 2023 09:00 - 24 minutes - 33.8 MB>>> Download my FREE Mental Health Postpartum Checklist that walks you through creating a personalized mental health support system and allows you to feel more confident and relaxed, knowing you have a plan for whatever your unique postpartum experience may be. <<< Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 1:44 - Setting yourself up with a postpartum support system (like a therapist...
126. Fostering secure attachments in peer relationships: Helping our children form strong friendship bonds with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore
August 22, 2023 09:00 - 59 minutes - 81.8 MBAs children grow, their friendships become increasingly more important to them and are an integral part of their developing sense of self, of relationships, and how they fit into this world. Helping them learn to understand, process, and manage the multitude of emotions that come with early peer relationships can have a major impact on their development and mental health. Here to talk about the way children make, maintain, and nurture friendships is Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore. Eileen is ...
125. BTS: Is it okay to let my child quit an activity?
August 17, 2023 09:00 - 23 minutes - 32.6 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 5:38 - How to determine what is driving your child's desire to quit an activity. 6:15 - Weighing the pros and cons between letting your child quit (and potentially not learning to persist, make a commitment, and tolerate struggle) versus not letting them quit and forcing them to do something that may no longer be serving them 7:05 - De...
124. Finding support in pregnancy, birth, postpartum, and parenthood with Doula and activist Chanel Porchia-Albert
August 15, 2023 09:00 - 40 minutes - 56.2 MBThe care we provide for mothers, helping them to feel seen and supported, not only changes the way they internalize their self worth, but the trajectory of the perceived value they internalize and pass along to their children. Joining me in this episode is Chanel Porchia-Albert, the founder and Chief Executive Director of Ancient Song Doula Services and activist in the fight for birth equality for all, regardless of race, location, or socio economic status. Together we'll help al...
123. BTS: How can I tell my toddler that I had a miscarriage?
August 10, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 35.2 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:15 - The perceptiveness of toddlers and why kids often know more than we realize. 5:26 - How to explain to a toddler in a simple, honest, and developmentally appropriate way that there is no longer a baby in Mommy’s belly. 7:48 - The specific words and language that is best to use with toddlers (and what we want to try to avoid) when tel...
122. Sleep training, bed sharing, contact sleep, and postpartum: The neuroscience of sleep with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum
August 08, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 92.6 MBYou can’t Google the words “baby sleep” without being inundated with a barrage of sleep training ads and methods, all claiming to do it gentlest, fastest, and best. But, what does the science and the research actually show about how effective and healthy sleep training is for our infants and young children? I’m am thrilled to have neuroscientist, doula and the author of the book The Nurture Revolution: Grow Your Baby’s Brain and Transform Their Mental Health through the Art of Nurtured...
121. BTS: Is there something I can do to strengthen my child's relationship with my ex?
August 03, 2023 09:00 - 18 minutes - 25.1 MB>> Do you need support coparenting your child with your ex? Reach out to Upshur Bren Psychology Group to schedule a free consultation call to learn more about the individualized treatment options. << Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:03 - The quality of the attachment in every relationship is different. Kids can have a secure attachment bond to you and a more insecure rela...
120. Breaking the silence: A comprehensive breakdown of selective mutism with Dr. Carmen Tumialan Lynas
August 01, 2023 09:00 - 58 minutes - 79.8 MBHow do you know whether your child has selective mutism or is just shy in certain situations? Joining me today to discuss selective mutism—an anxiety disorder that is characterized by the inability or refusal to speak in certain situations, despite being capable of speech in other settings—is Dr. Carmen Tumialan Lynas. Dr. Tumialan Lynas is a clinical psychologist and anxiety specialist and the founder of Advanced Therapeutic Solutions. Recognizing the symptoms of selective mutis...
119. BTS: How can I keep my child from being spoiled?
July 27, 2023 09:00 - 36 minutes - 49.7 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:30 - The importance of mindfulness and pausing long enough to notice and express when we are grateful. 6:21 - Setting realistic expectations - you can be teaching gratitude and not have grateful kids all the time, and that's okay. 7:50 - The difference between being spoiled or entitled and having desires. 12:26 - How to handle our ...
118. How nurturing shapes our child's brain and sets them up for lifelong mental health with Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum
July 25, 2023 09:00 - 58 minutes - 80.3 MBHow does the way we treat our children affect the makeup of their brains? And how can we use this knowledge to raise children in a style that optimizes their physical, emotional, and mental health? That is precisely what Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum shares in her new book, The Nurture Revolution. From exploring the neuroscience of nurturing to understanding how early caregiving experiences influence our relationships as adults, Dr. Kirshenbaum offers profound insights that can shape how...
117. BTS: Is it okay to let my daughter play with Barbies?
July 20, 2023 09:00 - 28 minutes - 39.5 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:07 - Does playing with Barbies cause children to have an unrealistic body image? 8:01 - Do millennials carry a stigma around Barbies that is not accurate to the way they are being portrayed now? 8:58 - Is it beneficial to ban any toys, or is it better to use these toys as a conversation starter? 10:45 - How can you initiate a conve...
116. Transform mealtimes: Expert tips for raising healthy eaters with Amelia Sherry
July 18, 2023 09:00 - 54 minutes - 74.6 MBWhen it comes to healthy eating habits, it's essential to focus on balance and trust rather than strict rules or restrictions - which for many of us, is the exact opposite of the way we were raised. Amelia Sherry, registered dietitian/nutritionist and the author of Diet-Proof Your Daughter, is joining me today to talk about ways parents can make this mindset shift in order to support and nurture their child’s healthy relationship to food. Throughout today's episode, we'll explore...
115. BTS: Can you get stuck in a state of fight-or-flight?
July 13, 2023 09:00 - 27 minutes - 38 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 1:11 - What actually is the proper scientific definition of fight-or-flight? 3:30 - What is the difference between being mad and being in fight-or-flight? 6:13 - The first step: Simple physiological interventions you can take to decrease your stress levels. 12:58 - The power of slowing down. 16:35 - Reflecting on why you are be...
114. NICU survival guide: Establishing a secure attachment even when your child is in the hospital with the founders of NICU Nook
July 11, 2023 09:00 - 52 minutes - 72.6 MBHaving a baby in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) comes with a wide range of emotions and experiences that can be challenging for new parents to navigate. And many feel like they’re facing this challenge alone. The founders of NICU Nook, Dr. Stephanie Simon and Amanda Neilan, are working to change that! This episode is filled with encouragement and support with expert advice and practical strategies to help you and your baby thrive. You'll learn strategies for navigating ...
113. BTS: Do you need enrichment classes for baby's healthy brain development?
July 06, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 34.8 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:38 - What is serve and return and how does it impact our baby's brain development? 6:02 - The human brain is hardwired to have dynamic interpersonal exchanges. 8:19 - It's not about the "stuff" it's about the relationships. 8:27 - Why "safety" is the first step for allowing your child to explore their world, develop cognitively, an...
112. Hustle culture is changing the way we parent: Why slowing down is the key to finding balance with Joe Sanok
July 04, 2023 09:00 - 49 minutes - 67.4 MBThe constant pressure to do it all (and do it all perfectly, I might add) is just one of the reasons parents are finding themselves so burnt out. We are so go, go, go that we often forget to stop and assess what is working, what isn't working, and how we can be intentional about using the time we do have to raise our children with the values that we find most important. Here to help parents learn to manage and prioritize their time is the author of Thursday is the New Friday, Joe Sanok...
111. BTS: Is my kid ready for a sleepover?
June 29, 2023 09:00 - 35 minutes - 48.4 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 3:05 - The guidelines we use and the questions we ask to determine whether or not we allow our own kids to have a sleepover with their friends. 5:11 - Why knowing the formal questions about body safety, firearm safety, etc. can keep your child safe, even if you don't choose to explicitly ask them. 10:57 - It's not about one t...
110. Is my child insecurely attached? Unraveling common misconceptions about attachment styles with Dr. Tanya Cotler
June 27, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 85.9 MBSecure and insecure attachment styles aren't good or bad, they simply are. It can be tempting to label these things, but with that can come shame, guilt, and anxiety. Here to help dispel some myths about attachment science and offer parents strategies for building their own ability to help their child feel understood and safe is Dr. Tanya Cotler. Together we'll help listeners learn to zoom out to identify patterns and offer suggestions for deepening the parent-child bond, while f...
109. BTS: When and how should we pull the pacifier?
June 22, 2023 09:00 - 25 minutes - 34.9 MBBeyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:48 - What to think about and how to decide when it’s time to start moving away from the pacifier. 7:11 - What age would we recommend parents stop letting their child use a pacifier to help them self-soothe. 9:30 - Should you slowly ween or should you take the pacifier away cold turkey? 17:23 - Practical strategies to use (and what ...
108. How to talk so your teen will listen (plus lay the groundwork for this when they’re little) with Elizabeth Bennett
June 20, 2023 09:00 - 58 minutes - 80.9 MBBig kids can mean big problems. As tweens and teens start to find their independence and exert their autonomy, parents may feel a little lost as they face new challenges. One of the best ways to break through is to learn how to communicate with your growing child in a way that helps you both to feel seen, understood, respected, and appreciated. Joining me to offer parents tools to do just that is the author of the book Courageous Conversations: A guide for parents to understand and con...
107. A parenting playbook for new dads: What it means to be a father with Kendall Smith
June 13, 2023 09:00 - 56 minutes - 77.4 MBNew parenthood is full of challenges, twists, and turns. But particularly for men who were raised by single mothers, becoming a father can sometimes feel like they are forced to forge a new path without having a roadmap for how it's done. Joining me today to talk about his own experience of becoming a dad and the lessons he learned is the author of Rookie Father, Kendall Smith. So whether you’re a dad who is feeling like you are still a “rookie” at this whole parenting thing, or ...
106. Recognizing and overcoming codependency in parenthood with Alana Carvalho
June 06, 2023 09:00 - 48 minutes - 67.1 MBWhether you are in a fully codependent relationship or not, there can be subtle things people do in romantic relationships, with friends, and within a parent-child relationship that can heighten aspects of codependency. Here to help parents spot the signs of codependency (whether in yourself or in your partner in parenting) and teach you strategies and behaviors to help you create a more healthy and secure relationship with your child is self-proclaimed "Codependent Perfectionist" and ...
105. How RIE can evolve into lifelong respectful parenting: Growing your parenting approach as your child grows with Janet Lansbury
May 30, 2023 09:00 - 1 hour - 88.5 MBJanet Lansbury was talking and blogging about respectful parenting long before it became a buzzword. Informed by her mentor and RIE creator Magda Gerber, Janet has spent decades encouraging parents and teaching them how to create loving and supportive environments for their children to help them grow into compassionate, confident, and resilient individuals. Whether you are a follower of the RIE (resources for infant educarers) parenting method and wondering how these principles c...
104. Becoming a grandparent: Embracing the complicated identity shifts that come when your baby has a baby with Carol Merle-Fishman
May 23, 2023 09:00 - 51 minutes - 70.9 MBBecoming a grandparent is typically embraced by society as a joyous event filled with all the love and much less of the responsibility that comes with parenthood. However, in reality, the identity shifts that occur when parents become grandparents are complicated, with a mix of highs and lows. And with this so rarely discussed, new grandparents (and new parents) can feel blindsided and struggle to know how to navigate the complexities of this transition. Joining me today to have a full...
103. Secure attachment vs. social media: Navigating their effects on body image from early childhood to teen years with Dr. Miriam Steele
May 16, 2023 09:00 - 48 minutes - 66.5 MBDoes attachment security impact our perception of our appearance and whether or not we have a positive or negative body image? Are mothers, consciously or unconsciously, passing down their own internalized feelings about weight and worth to their daughters? And how is social media impacting the way teen girls view themselves? These important questions are what Dr. Miriam Steele is working to answer in her vast research in the field of attachment theory. Teens today are strugglin...
102. Breaking the cycle of insecure attachment: How to support your child's secure attachment even if you didn't grow up with it, with Dr. Miriam Steele
May 09, 2023 09:00 - 49 minutes - 68.3 MBUnderstanding attachment theory can give parents an amazing insight into why things are happening in their relationship with their child. But simply knowing this information is one thing—learning the tools we can use to increase the likelihood of our child forming a secure attachment bond is entirely another. I am honored to be joined today by Dr. Miriam Steele, a pioneer in attachment research who is here to help parents move beyond the theory to understand exactly what to do to rais...
101. How to improve your newborn’s sleep without sleep training or crying it out with Eva Klein
May 02, 2023 09:00 - 47 minutes - 65.2 MBGetting proper sleep as a new parent can have a huge impact on your mental health and subsequently the health of your infant. But in order for you to get good stretches of sleep, you need your little one to get into a healthy rhythm. Joining me today to talk about establishing healthy sleep patterns based on our knowledge of child development and biology is Certified Infant and Child Sleep Consultant, founder of My Sleeping Baby, and mother of 3, Eva Klein. So whether you’re al...
100. How to use the principles of attachment science to make parenting easier
April 25, 2023 09:00 - 44 minutes - 61.1 MBIt's Securely Attached's 100th episode! To celebrate, this week's show is a deep dive into what this podcast is all about - how understanding the basics of attachment science and child development can make parenting easier and more enjoyable. I'll give you a crash course in attachment science, dispel the misinterpretations that can make parents feel anxious or guilty, and offer concrete tips for more accurately attuning to your child, which can help them to form a secure attachment bon...
99. Buying, living, and teaching sustainability: Simple steps that can help save our planet with The New York Stylist, Liz Teich
April 18, 2023 09:00 - 41 minutes - 57.3 MBI am celebrating Earth Day by sitting down with stylist Liz Teich to talk fast fashion, sustainability, our excess of clutter, and how we can model living a more sustainable and green lifestyle for our children. With practical tips for making your wardrobe last longer, to suggestions for carefully curating the pieces and toys in your home, this episode will be the perfect way for you to kick off thinking about manageable shifts you can make to take care of the planet this Earth Day an...
98. What do standardized tests really measure? A conversation about intelligence with Dr. Rina Bliss
April 11, 2023 09:00 - 46 minutes - 42.4 MBIf the brain is always growing and developing, how can we measure intelligence on a single test? And are there ways in which our intelligence is affected by our DNA, our genes, and our environment? Joining me today to talk about the genetics behind our intelligence and what the research says about what standardized testing is actually measuring is the author of Rethinking Intelligence, Dr. Rina Bliss. We'll discuss how and why we measure intelligence in our society and offer pare...