School Of Attraction Podcast
196 episodes - English - Latest episode: 6 days ago - ★★★★ - 10 ratingsA place for men to learn about everything from approaching and attracting beautiful women, to men's personal development, the politics of sex and much much more. There's no topic Damien won't discuss as we dive down the rabbit hole of learned seduction and men's health.
https://schoolofattraction.com
https://www.youtube.com/schoolofattraction
https://www.instagram.com/theschoolofattraction/
https://www.tiktok.com/@schoolofattaction
Homepage Apple Podcasts Google Podcasts Overcast Castro Pocket Casts RSS feed
Episodes
A Female Dating Coach Perspective - Biggest Mistakes Men And Women Make - Laurie Gerber
May 08, 2024 23:00 - 53 minutes - 36.8 MBWhat are the biggest mistakes men and women make when trying to meet and date each other? I speak with Laurie Gerber, a female dating coach who's been featured on the Dr Phil Show and the Today Show about how she perceives the problems with modern dating from a woman's perspective. www.lauriegerber.com
Attachment Styles And The Power Of Psychedelic Assisted Therapy - Thomas Westenholz
May 01, 2024 14:00 - 55 minutes - 37.8 MBI talk with the host of "Exploring Humanity" Podcast who is a therapist that specialises in resolving attachment styles and psychedelic assisted therapy. How do attachment styles play such a powerful role in our dating lives? How can the professional use of psychedelics help us to rapidly move through previously intractable emotional traumas? psychedelicmedicine.earth coupletherapy.earth
3 Steps For Men To Enter Their Masculine - GS Youngblood
April 24, 2024 14:00 - 55 minutes - 38 MBMen's Work Coach and author of "The Masculine In Relationship" - GS Youngblood discusses with me the 3 phases men need to work on to step into their masculine - Both in relationships and when first meeting women. gsyoungblood.com IG @gsyoungbloodmir
The Importance of Deep Social Connections To Mental Health - Florance Ann Romano
April 17, 2024 14:00 - 41 minutes - 28.3 MBFlorence Ann Romano - the author of "Build Your Village" talks about the critical importance of having a healthy series of emotionally fulfilling relationships in our lives and not solely placing all the pressure to feed our emotional needs onto our romantic partners which is a common reason for relationships to fail. https://florenceann.com/
How To Make Her First Time In Bed With You Amazing - With Leah Piper
April 10, 2024 14:00 - 56 minutes - 38.7 MBTantra and Sex coach, and co-host of the "sex reimagined" podcast - Leah Piper talks to me about getting women aroused, creating an incredible first experience and the big mistakes guys make which ruin the experience. Last 10x Longer for Men & my free gift. https://www.sexreimagined.com/last-10x-longer
How To Increase Your Testosterone - Interview With Nick Soulias
April 03, 2023 14:00 - 36 minutes - 24.9 MBI interview online men's fitness and health consultant Nick Soulias about how men can identify and increase low testosterone levels leading to more energy, better sex lives, more motivation and much much more. You'll also be able to book a FREE strategy session with me: https://nicholassoulias.typeform.com/to/RisPo3Ex
Do Women Hold All The Power When You Approach Them?
March 20, 2023 14:00 - 13 minutes - 9.62 MBWhen you approach a cute girl in a bar, at a house party, or out during the day? You'd be forgiven for thinking women hold all the power in dating because they have the ability to accept or reject the guy, and he has to put in all the effort. But if you continue to feel powerless when approaching women, then you'll always be giving your power away. I want to show men how to feel empowered when picking up women 1:1 Zoom Coaching Sessions With Damien: https://schoolofattraction.com/pho...
7 Ways To Build Sexual Tension With A Woman
March 13, 2023 14:00 - 23 minutes - 16.1 MBSo you've been flirting with a girl at a bar or house party, but you want to know how to start creating some sexual tension and really get her craving to be intimate with you - where do you start? I'm going to share 7 of my favourite ways I share with all my clients to build sexual tension. 1:1 Zoom Coaching Sessions With Damien: https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/
Sexual Esclation Vs Sexual Tension - A Mistake Many Guys Make
March 06, 2023 14:00 - 11 minutes - 7.95 MBDo you know what the difference is between sexual tension and sexual esclation? I get men contacting me every week asking me how to sexually escalate with a woman they've started dating, or a woman they'v ejust met in a bar. But this is the wrong question to ask, because more men should be focussing on building sexual tension with women instead. And the two are not the same thing. In fact, if you sexually escalate when there's no tension, you can actually turn a woman off of you for...
How Bad Are Racial Dating Preferences? - A Critique Of The ‘OK Cupid’ Statistics
February 27, 2023 14:00 - 14 minutes - 10 MBHow bad is racism when you're dating? OK Cupid released some shocking statistics a few years ago, which have led many men and women to presume dating for them could indeed be hopeless. But statistics can be misleading - and there is a lot more going on behind the scenes determining the sexual and romantic preferences of men and women both offline and online. 1:1 Zoom Coaching Sessions With Damien: https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/
No Luck Online Dating? Here’s A Completely Novel Approach
February 20, 2023 14:00 - 11 minutes - 7.75 MBOnline dating can be really frustrating - it doesn't matter whether you use Tinder or Bumble or Hinge or any of the other competitors out there - most men are struggling to get matches. But the solution to your frustration could be hidden in the research done in the 1980s in the hunt for the perfect pasta sauce. Let's find out what changes you could make to your profile to get more right swipes and dates with cute women. School of Online Dating: https://schoolofattraction.com/tinderco...
Why One Night Stands Are A BAD Casual Sex Strategy
February 13, 2023 14:00 - 12 minutes - 8.37 MBWhenever most guys think about getting casual sex, they often think about trying to get one-night stands - They picture going to a bar, finding a cute girl to talk to and trying to get her home that night. But this can be the worst strategy to have sex - it takes a long time, there are lots of ways to get rejected - and most women aren't looking to find met to sleep with this way. Book A 1:1 Zoom Coaching Session with Damien: https://schoolofattraction.com/phone-coaching/
Should You Be More Masculine To Attract Women?
February 06, 2023 14:00 - 10 minutes - 7.14 MBI often hear guys wanting to learn how to be more masculine, or how to be more alpha, and the reason for this is to better attract women - because everyone knows that women lust after masculine men right? But what if our hunt for masculinity was a red herring causing us guys to chase our tails, while still having no more success with girls than we did before? Dating women is never simple, and building our self esteems as men is always an important part of the puzzle, but I have a suspicio...
My Funniest Dating Failures - Best Ways I've Crashed And Burned
January 30, 2023 14:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MBIt's easy to talk about our most successful dates ever, and share stories of success with beautiful women - But nobody ever wants to talk about the biggest failures where we did something stupid that ruined our chances. I want to share 4 true and funny dating stories about how I crashed and burned with beautiful women because of something stupid I did or said. Because it doesn't matter who you are, we all screw up sometimes, and I want to normalise the sharing of failure stories - especi...
What's The Best Way To Meet Women These Days?
January 23, 2023 14:00 - 15 minutes - 11 MBWhat is the best way to meet women in 2022? While so many of us spend time on online dating these days, this isn't necessarily the best way to find attractive girls to date. I'm going to explore a range of different ways of meeting women from cold approaching to social circle, introduction agencies, mail order brides, and travelling overseas. I'll tell you the very best way to find cute girls - and rank all the other options from best to worst.
Feeling Stuck With Women - Use This Checklist To Get To The Next Level
January 16, 2023 14:00 - 20 minutes - 13.8 MBMaybe you struggle to approach women because you have approach anxiety, or you keep getting told "let's just be friends" - Or maybe you keep finding men who aren't ready for a relationship yet. There 1000s of ways we can become stuck in a repeating pattern of failing to get the results we want when dating. Often, the solution lies in doing some deeper work inside ourselves before our dating lives will change. But where should we look? Here is a checklist of areas all men and women sh...
How To Set Boundaries Witih Women - And Be Respected
January 09, 2023 14:00 - 13 minutes - 9.08 MBMany men and women struggle with setting boundaries when it comes to dating - they have the belief that boundary setting must always break rapport and feel like a reprimand. But actually poor quality boundaries are aggressive - Those of us with strong boundaries know how to do it in a way that builds rapport rather than breaks it. Setting strong boundaries with women builds attraction and respect, so if you're struggling with constantly getting your boundaries pushed - watch this video.
How To Approach A Girl At A Bar - Without Being A D-Bag
January 03, 2023 14:00 - 12 minutes - 8.78 MBFor most guys, walking into a bar and approaching women is a completely alien idea - it's scary - and there's just so much you don't know. There are plenty of videos online teaching you how to approach women in bars, but most of them try to get you to pretend to be a super-confident d-bag in order to get women to pay attention. I want to show you my own style of picking up girls in bars which is heavily focused on the mindsets which women will respond strongly to.
How To Build Powerful Banter Skills - Interview With Comedienne Kristen Carney
December 27, 2022 17:00 - 1 hour - 43.9 MBI'm going to discuss strategies for building a great sense of fun, comedy, and banter when flirting with women. This light-hearted discussion will cover some surprisingly deep aspects behind banter and the psychology of humour and attraction
Being Needy Vs Confidently Expressing Desire - A Crucial Distinction
December 21, 2022 14:00 - 10 minutes - 7.55 MBAre you constantly worried about being too needy when dating? Most men and women try hard to avoid looking too desperate or needy with their partners, and this often leads to wants and needs not being met. Needy behaviour is often seen as being repulsive by both men and women, so naturally, this is something we try not to do when attracting a mate. If you are asking a girl out on a date, or asking a man to spend more time with you, you need to be able to do it in a way that feels conf...
How To Exploit The Tinder Algorithm In 2022 - Niching, Netflix, And Venn Diagrams
December 14, 2022 14:00 - 9 minutes - 6.81 MBLearn how the tinder ranking algorithm has changed in the last few years, and more importantly how you can exploit that system to help you get more matches. Online dating has seen a lot of gradual changes, so it has become very important for most guys to stay ahead of the curve if they hope to continue getting matches and dates along the way. It's still possible for the average guys to do okay, but he needs to understand the art of Niching to get there.
Is It Worth Turning To Tantra To Build Our Sexual Self Esteem? Interview With Marcin - Kinky Guru
October 10, 2022 03:00 - 50 minutes - 34.8 MBI interview Tantra coach Marcin aka the Kinky Guru about how he became more sexually confident in himself as a man - not by learning to pick up chicks, but by turning to the world of tantra. We're going to discuss some of the big lessons he learned on his journey to get to where he is today.
Why All Men Need To Learn How To Connect Deeply To Others
October 02, 2022 17:00 - 49 minutes - 34.3 MBOne of the biggest things lacking from the lives of most men is a deep connection with other men, women, and people in general. We are suffering from a lack of community, connection, and generally feeling understood. But even if all you want to do is learn to meet more women, this is a skill that will help you a lot more than you probably realise.
Learning To Overcome The Grief Of Breakup
September 26, 2022 03:00 - 47 minutes - 32.4 MBDealing with breakups can be emotionally traumatising - There's all kinds of self-doubt, and self-esteem damage. We can feel like we're coming off of a drug addiction. But there are some really amazing strategies for moving on from breakups and minimising the amount of pain that we need to go through. And that's what I'm going to talk about today.
Using Online Video Chat To Safely Explore Our Kinks - Interview With Femme Fatale From Arousr
August 31, 2022 14:00 - 35 minutes - 24.6 MBI talk with a Femme Fatale, a representative of website arousr.com and talk about the ways men can begin to explore their kinks in the safety of online video.
How To Stop NEEDING Things From Women - Divya Darling Makes Me Squirm In Very Personal Interview
August 24, 2022 14:00 - 54 minutes - 37.1 MBI sit and interview Divya Darling, a coach, business owner, and neuro-scientist, and a personal friend while we discuss the notion of why we feel we need things from women to feel happy - where our true sense of self, identity, and life satisfaction comes from. Most importantly Divya focuses on me personally as we try to dive deeply into some uncomfortable spaces in my own psyche.
A Scientific Look At The Red Pill Ideology - Interview With Author Cynthia Payne
August 17, 2022 14:00 - 46 minutes - 31.8 MBAuthor of the newly published book - Red Pill Ideology - Cynthia Payne sits with me as we take a very scientific look at the claims made by the red pill community. Which ones stand up under scrutiny, and which ones are disproven by peer-reviewed studies?
How Has Dating Changed The Last Few Years? - Interview With Lloyd From The Single Guy
August 11, 2022 03:00 - 1 hour - 55.1 MBDating has radically changed over the last 10 years with the dating app explosion and then the covid epidemic. What trends and patterns are we seeing shifting as dating coaches, and what are we seeing change as we age and change ourselves?
Being Present And In Your Masculine Around Women - Interview With A Mentor
July 19, 2021 09:00 - 52 minutes - 36.1 MBToday I talk with Jay - an ex School Of Attraction student and current mentor who really stepped into his masculine power and discovered how incredible life can be when you are willing to own your authentic self. Jay has been regularly meeting some incredibly intelligent, beautiful, and sometimes powerful women - and they've responded to him in ways neither he nor they ever expected.
What Top Salesmen Can Teach Us About Attracting Women?
July 07, 2021 00:00 - 13 minutes - 8.96 MBHave you ever thought about how similar sales skills are to seduction skills? If you have, then you're not alone. As it turns out, many of the same skills required to be amazing at sales are also required to attract women. I want to talk about push vs pull attraction today because one of the big differences between average guys and average salesmen is that they both try to PUSH people to do what they want them to do - nagging, and persistence. Neither of which makes you likely to ever ha...
New Hinge Dating Statistics - What Photos Get The Most Matches?
June 30, 2021 00:00 - 16 minutes - 11.7 MBThe Hinge dating company recently released a series of statistics they gathered by combing through 1000 hinge dating app profiles to see which photos were most likely to get the most matches. Today, I'm going to look through the states provided by Hinge, to help you see how you can improve your online dating results. Will any of these results surprise you? Will any of them surprise me? Keep watching to find out. Link To Hinge Statistics - https://medium.com/@Hinge/hinge-the-relati...
Dating Preferences And Race - Is Racial Fetishization Bad? Not Necessarily....
June 23, 2021 00:00 - 17 minutes - 12.4 MBThere's an increasing amount of pressure in the media to make men feel bad about their tastes in women. But recently it's become clear to me that men who have a dating preference for specific races are being increasingly called out as racist. For many men this hit's a nerve - how can they be racist if they find that race sexy? After a fascinating conversation I had with an African woman last week, and spending the rest of the weekend researching the topic, I am aware that the formal res...
How To Get Lucky With Women - Choosing Your Relationship To Luck And Loss
June 16, 2021 00:00 - 13 minutes - 8.98 MBDo you get lucky with women often? What does it mean to get lucky? Is there really any luck involved? Is it all lucky? When you see a cute girl walking down the street, how much luck do you need to have for her to want to go on a date with you? How much of a role does skill play? While it's true some of us men are more lucky in dating than others, there's a HUGE amount to be said about the relationship that we have towards luck and taking chances in life. Some of us are willing to pl...
To Attract Beautiful Women - You Must First Walk Away From Them
June 09, 2021 00:00 - 11 minutes - 7.88 MBHow many times have you seen a beautiful woman and decided to walk away from her if she wasn't interesting enough? I am guessing you have almost never done this. AND YET - this is the exact reason so many men struggle to built attraction, especially around women they find particularly sexy. Women aren't attracted to men who like them just because they're cute. There has to be more than that, and women are most attracted to men when they feel like they had to work for his attention
Women Aren't That Complicated - You Are!
June 02, 2021 00:00 - 9 minutes - 6.3 MBWoman are really complicated, aren't they? Well... Maybe not - In fact, I'd argue that women are absolutely no more complicated than men. It's true that many men get frustrated with women when dating and flirting, it seems like she constantly changes her mind, and you can never work out what she's actually thinking, or why she does the things she does. As it turns out though - The problem isn't that women are complicated or unreliable, and more matter that men are raised to have a very d...
Why Can I Break Dating "Rules" - And Still Be Successful
May 26, 2021 00:00 - 11 minutes - 8.21 MBSo you want to attract beautiful women? Let me ask you a few quick questions to get you thinking... If you go on a date with a woman - is it a good or a bad idea to write her a text within an hour of saying goodbye saying "Hey, I had a really great time with you, I look forward to catching up again soon!" If you approach a cute girl in a bar, should you buy her a drink? If I'm on a first date, should I share my shortcomings with her - thus admitting to being weak sometimes - is that a ...
Want To Be Successful At Life? - Consider A Therapist
May 19, 2021 00:00 - 6 minutes - 4.55 MBWhy is it that a disproportionate number of highly successful people invest in therapists? Is it because they're more broken? Or is it because they know a secret most others don't? Many of us think that we should only see a therapist if we're broken or on the verge of hurting ourselves or others.... Or maybe if our lives are falling apart and we don't know how to get on track. But I see therapy as a form of emotional hygiene - like going to the gym, for your emotions. You learn how to ...
Evolutionary Theory Of Attraction - Fact Or Fiction?
May 12, 2021 00:00 - 15 minutes - 10.6 MBWhat can our past tell us about what women find attractive? Is it possible to look at our distant ancestors and consider what their lives looked like to help us to understand what a girl's DNA tells her to be turned on by? The Evolutionary Theory Of Attraction believes that by better understanding the sexual behaviours and pressures that would have been present while humans were evolving, that it would enable us to much better understand what women are likely to find attractive in modern...
Do You Flirt With Women From The Wrong Tribes - And Always Fail?
May 05, 2021 00:00 - 11 minutes - 8.15 MBDo you have the experience of approaching women, trying your best to build attraction and flirt with them, but always feeling like a fish out of water? Like no matter how hard you work on your banter or rapport, you can never seem to build attraction with the girls you like? A lot of this could come down to what tribes these women are a part of, and what tribes you generally belong to yourself. Tribe theory of human socialisation is a fantastic lens through which to view the dating world...
How To Have Fun With Girls - Accessing Your Inner Child
April 28, 2021 00:00 - 12 minutes - 8.28 MBDo you struggle to have fun in social situations? Do you feel too boring for women to notice you? Do you hope that fun people will be around so you can have a good time and be more flirty? This isn't something buried in your genetics! This isn't even necessarily because you don't have a particular skill - It's connected to the relationship you have with your inner-child. Whenever we flirt with girls or go on dates with women, we are aware that we want to have fun and enjoy ourselves, and ...
Dating Younger Women - A Complex Morality
April 21, 2021 04:00 - 13 minutes - 9.39 MBYou walk into a bar, and you see an older man dating a much younger woman - Is that guy a sleaze or a legend? Is he to be admired or scorned? Is he doing something inherently wrong? Or is he just following a biological imperative? It's easy to assume that women are just jealous that these men aren't interested in them once they approach their 30s. But actually, there is a fascinating level of complexity in the question of older men sleeping with and dating younger women and age gap relati...
Stop Being Shy With Girls | Overcome Social Anxiety The Easy Way
April 05, 2021 15:00 - 9 minutes - 6.5 MBWhat is a simple daily lifestyle change you can make which will drastically reduce your shyness with girls AND your social anxiety? There are many reasons why the thought of approaching a cute girl will scare you and make you anxious - And believe it or not, it's a far more common problem than most men realise. But if you start to change your behaviours around both men and women on a day to day level - and just start having regular, innocuous conversations with the strangers you encounte...
When To Sexually Escalate - Many Guys Get This Wrong
March 29, 2021 15:00 - 10 minutes - 7.07 MBAre you sexually escalating at the wrong time? If you're flirting with a girl, how long should you wait until you start trying to create sexual conversation or 'put the moves' on her? While it's true that a bit of sexual touch or sexual banter can definitely build attraction, sexual escalation is generally not an important factor for building attraction. Most men try to bring sexuality to the interaction long before it will help them. So if you're struggling to be successful with gir...
3 Radical Strategies to Become More Confident With Girls
March 24, 2021 15:00 - 13 minutes - 8.99 MBI'm going to share 3 extreme strategies you can use to drastically improve your confidence with women. These aren't your regular 'how to attract girls' videos, this is going to dive into some really radical ways you can give yourself a huge boost in results and self-esteem at the same time. So if you want to be more confident around girls - AND nothing you've tried so far has worked, this is the video for you.
How To Make Her Chase You - Without Being Manipulative
March 22, 2021 15:00 - 17 minutes - 12.4 MBAre you sick of constantly being the one to chase after the women you want to date? Wouldn't it be amazing if just for once, you could get women chasing after you instead? It's actually completely possible - in this video I'm going to share the strategies that I've been using with my clients since 2009 to get women chasing them. Knowing what women want and what turns them on is only a part of the puzzle - A truly successful man knows how to stop being needy, and instead focus on making ...
How To Discover Your Kink - And Become Amazing In Bed - Interview With Priestess Ava
March 17, 2021 15:00 - 46 minutes - 32 MBMost people walk around thinking that kink is usual.. or unhealthy.. or unnatural... But in actuality it's far more common to have sexual kinks than it is to be 100% bland and vanilla. But more importantly, discovering your kinds can launch you on a journey to discover who you really are, and what you really want from the world - there is a level of psychological catharsis to be found by discovering your kink. You'll also learn what so many men get wrong about their approach to sex, and ...
Why Do Nice Guys Finish Last?
March 15, 2021 15:00 - 12 minutes - 8.73 MBWe've all heard that nice guys finish last, but why does that have to be the case? What is it about nice guys that stops them getting the girl they want? Why do so many women take advantage of nice guys, and then leave them for some other jerk. Nice guy syndrome isn't about men being too nice, it's about men trying to be nice in order to get women to like them, which turns women off and prevents them from being attracted and wanting to become a girlfriend.
How To Become Grokking Successful At Everything
March 10, 2021 15:00 - 11 minutes - 7.61 MBDo you know the difference been knowing something and grokking it? What does mixing alcoholics and psychedelics teach us about life success? Did you know that grokking things is the key difference between success and failure? Whether you're trying to date more women, build a successful business, or lose weight - if you don't grok the solution, then you're going to struggling to get the results you want. In today's video, we're going to find out what you should NEVER try to accelerate ...
Is It Gay To Sleep With A Transgender Woman? The Nature Of Sexuality Interview With Dr Mandy
March 08, 2021 15:00 - 50 minutes - 34.5 MBThere's a lot of shame for men around exploring their sexuality - And this shame causes men to hide or avoid parts of themselves that are left begging to be explored. I interview Sex Therapist and Phd Dr Mandy as we explore the nature of sexuality and the sexual spectrum to try and uncover what it REALLY means for a man and his sense of masculinity and sense of self if he begins to explore his sexual tastes.
The Male Self Esteem Epidemic - Why Are Some Men Immune To Adversity?
March 03, 2021 15:00 - 20 minutes - 13.8 MBWhy are some men immune to getting low self-esteem, when so many others are struggling to feel like there's any hope for them in the dating world? It's harder for men now than any other time in history to find a partner, and yet some men overcome their adversity and still find success, while most struggle and feel helpless to change their situation. Martin Seligman, wrote about a condition known as learned helplessness in his famous book "learned optimism" - which not only explains how u...