School Of Attraction Podcast

The Male Self Esteem Epidemic - Why Are Some Men Immune To Adversity?

March 03, 2021 15:00 - 20 minutes - 13.8 MB

Why are some men immune to getting low self-esteem, when so many others are struggling to feel like there's any hope for them in the dating world? It's harder for men now than any other time in history to find a partner, and yet some men overcome their adversity and still find success, while most struggle and feel helpless to change their situation. Martin Seligman, wrote about a condition known as learned helplessness in his famous book "learned optimism" - which not only explains how u...

Can Average Men Still Attract Women? - How Dating Advice Can Ruin Your Self Esteem

March 01, 2021 15:00 - 11 minutes - 8.01 MB

Can an average man still attract women? Or has modern society doomed the average guy to a life of involuntary celibacy? I've been a dating coach for both men and women for 12 years now and I want to share with you the complete truth - I don't want to hold any punches, instead telling you exactly what an average man can and should expect. Trying to flirt with and date women is only a part of the puzzle, and there are many social and dating skills men need to learn. BUT who you are as a co...

Working On Your Masculinity - The Awkward Truth - Interview With Dave Booda

February 24, 2021 15:00 - 1 hour - 42.8 MB

I interview Dave Booda from https://boodaism.com/ about his journey and experiences working on his masculinity with a range of different men's work coaches and programs.

Is Anxiety And Depression Pyschological Or Physiological?

February 18, 2021 00:00 - 15 minutes - 11 MB

Is your anxiety or depression all in your head? Is it just the result of bad thinking patterns in your mind? Or is it the result of something going wrong inside your body? I'm going to talk about my journey with anxiety and being told I was simply suffering from panic attacks when in reality I had a major serotonin and stress hormone regulation problem that nobody guessed at until I did my own research. If you suffer from a lot of stress, or you find yourself becoming frequently neurotic...

Cure Your Premature Ejaculation - Bonus 'Mystery Box' Technique

February 10, 2021 14:00 - 21 minutes - 14.9 MB

Stop feeling the shame of premature ejaculations and learn to last longer in bed - Here are 3 strategies for curing your premature ejaculation. I'm also going to teach you how to have women see you as being amazing in bed without even curing your PE first. As a bonus, I'm going to share my mystery box technique which creates a massive amount of sexual tension and arouses women into hyper-horny state without even engaging in penetration. There is a lot of shame for men around how long y...

Attraction Isn't A Choice! Or Is It...... The Truth About Female Attraction

February 04, 2021 00:00 - 12 minutes - 8.64 MB

David De-Angelo famously sadi that attraction wasn't a choice - That women can't decide what guys they are attracted to - it is just a primal and sub-conscious process, and there's nothing us guys can do to change that fact. In truth, I agree with the basic idea that most women are on autopilot when it comes to what kinds of men they choose to date. But the truth is also more complicated than most men realise because they come from a scarcity mindset rather than an abundance mindset. ...

Why Dating Is (Probably) the Most Important Skill You'll Ever Learn

January 28, 2021 00:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MB

Most of the success I've had in my life I attribute to the skills I learned trying to become more successful with women. From my relationship success to my business success, I've used these critical life skills in every part of my world. We often don't realise that we learn ego strength, self-esteem, sales skills, networking abilities when we work on our seduction and attraction skillset. The dating advice you have to learn to attract high-quality women are the same skills you'll use ...

Your Seduction Demons - And How They're Holding You Back

January 21, 2021 00:00 - 21 minutes - 14.9 MB

Do you know What Your Attraction Demons Are? Did you know they're responsible for a lot of the pain you've suffered in dating and your relationships? Our attraction demons lead to the relationship dynamics we create in our romantic lives, whether we're just looking for something casual, or something more long time. It's very easy to feel that women are all untrustworthy or gold diggers, or just out to hurt men - but most of the time we create these dynamics ourselves as a result of our...

Your Locus Of Attraction - Stop Dating The Same Women

January 14, 2021 00:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MB

Are you in the trap of constantly meeting the same kinds of women? Do you feel like all women all have the same negative behaviours? Did you know that your taste in women, and the kinds of women you are drawn to are largely not related to attractiveness? Instead, we choose the women we tend to talk to based on our locus of attraction. Your locus of attraction is a way of choosing romantic partners that frequently leads men to choose the wrong women to date.

Develop Your Dark Masculine Sexuality

January 07, 2021 00:00 - 10 minutes - 7 MB

How can you get deeply connected with your dark masculine sexuality? How would women behave differently around you? Today I'm going to share an exercise to start getting you connected with this long forgotten part of who you are as a man. Can you believe that being better connected with this part of ourselves as men, that we will feel more confident, more sexual, more deserving of amazing women. More than that, women will start to take notice of us and see us for the men we really are...

What Is The Difference Between Charming And Creepy?

December 31, 2020 00:00 - 11 minutes - 7.85 MB

Have you ever wondered what the difference is between a man looking charming and a man looking creepy? Many men avoid approaching women because they're anxious of coming across as creepy - but often they're not even sure how to avoid looking creepy to their crush. There's a lot of scientific research into the experience of creepiness and as it turns out - it's not so hard to avoid looking creepy around women.

Is Online Dating Unfair? How Dating Apps Really Work

December 24, 2020 00:00 - 23 minutes - 16.4 MB

There is plenty to complain about online dating apps - You get ranked based on looks, Women are flakey, There are shady business practices. But are these unfair aspects of online dating really worth getting focussed on and obsessed with? Whether you use Tinder, or Bumble, Hinge, or Some other dating app - You're going to get frustrated at times. But I'd argue that there's a healthier mental approach to trying to meet women online, one that will give you the absolute best chance of meet...

Why Being Yourself Is The Hardest Thing To Do

December 16, 2020 14:00 - 9 minutes - 6.75 MB

If I have to hear another woman tell a guy to "just be himself" around women, and he'll have lots of dating success, I think I might have a conniption! But actually - there's much deeper wisdom in this statement than I think the women saying it realise. The simplicity of the statement makes it sound like it has a simple answer - but actually... Being yourself is one of the hardest things a man or woman can possibly hope to accomplish. It's a lifelong journey to work out what and who you...

The Next Dating Revolution - What The Future Holds

December 10, 2020 00:00 - 20 minutes - 14.4 MB

While the whole world is jumping to online dating as a way to keep meeting dating partners, there's no denying that online dating is not an ideal way to meet people. Today I'm going to explore alternate ways that we may soon be meeting our dating partners in the near future - Because the world is always changing, and it's up to us to keep up. Why do you want to keep up with dating trends? Because just like Tinder was an incredibly easy way to meet women back in 2014, new dating trends of...

Navigating Open Relationships - Is It Right For You? 👉👌

November 12, 2020 01:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MB

Do you know what to expect from an open relationship experience? Are you comfortable with your partner being intimate with other people? When you are thinking about opening up your relationship, many men and women don't really know what to expect from the world of polyamory - Because while it can be a lot of fun, most of us will also have to face a lot of demons and insecurities along the way. You will face Jealousy and Shame and insecurity - and you need to be able to communicate that ...

Dark Masculine Sexaulity And Masculine Shame Interview With Sarah Martin

November 05, 2020 01:00 - 54 minutes - 37.5 MB

What is the dark Masculine? How does it turn women on? How can you develop your dark masculine as a man? What shame do men typically hide from the world and why does it prevent them from having the sexually and emotionally rewarding relationships they crave. Join Sarah Martin from Sexual Craftsmanship ( http://www.sexualcraftsmanship.com) and I as we discuss these topics and much much more

The Awesome Power Of Assumed Attraction

November 02, 2020 01:00 - 17 minutes - 11.9 MB

Do you regularly ask yourself how you can make a particular woman like you? Did you know that this question almost guarantees you won't get good results? How can this be? This question seems the most fundamental of all attraction conundrums. But actually focussing on trying to make women like you is the completely wrong way to meet and attract women. So what is the real secret to successfully picking up women? Assumed Attraction - and in today's podcast, I'm going to explain not just ...

All Women Are Like This! - Self-Fulfilling Dating Prophesies

October 29, 2020 01:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MB

Do all women seem to behave in the same way? Have you experienced the frustrating experience that women are gold diggers, or fickle, or superficial, or racist? Dating can definitely be frustrating for guys, but sometimes it's just "obvious" that women just aren't that great, and most women aren't worth dating at all. After I went on a catfish date this weekend, it made me think about how many men and women have a habit of creating dating patterns for themselves which keep creating the sa...

What Is An Alpha Male? - Perhaps Not What You Think...

October 25, 2020 14:00 - 17 minutes - 12 MB

What is an alpha male really? What are the traits that women are really looking for if they're looking for an alpha male? Do alpha males always get the women? When trying to become better men and develop alpha male personality traits, it's important to recognise that we frequently aren't even 100% sure what a human alpha male is. We often try to copy animal dominance traits in the hopes that women will respond well. But in truth, the signs of an alpha male are frequently 'softer' th...

What Happens To 26 Year Old Women??

October 21, 2020 14:00 - 15 minutes - 10.8 MB

There is a very curious trend that I've been seeing as a dating coach for over 12 years - And it involves 26-year-old women. It appears as though many women approach a powerful identity crisis at this age which can have catastrophic effects on relationships and radically alter a woman's personality and life direction. This mid-life crisis seems to happen at a much younger age for women than it does for men. What would be the reason for this? And how could you avoid being hurt by women as...

Control - The Secret Killer Of Attraction and Dating Success

October 18, 2020 14:00 - 18 minutes - 13 MB

Did you know that most men use forms of control when they feel insecure that turns women off and ruins their chances of dating success? Turning to controlling behaviours when we feel insecure is a very common thing for both men and women to do - It's a way to try and get control back in a situation where we feel like we have none left. But that just turns women off and makes them want to get away from you. This can create a spiral of control where the less you feel in control, the more ...

The Red Pill - Food For Thought

October 15, 2020 01:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MB

Is the Red Pill philosophy healthy for men? The answer - is yes and no. It can be very hard for men in today's society, masculinity is under fire, we aren't feeling empowered, men are being shamed in the media, suicide rates are up, depression is up, and university rates for men are down. Books like Rollo Tomasi's "the rational male" which is one of the bibles of the red pill movement propose a series of behavioural changes fo men to help them battle the changing world. But with a kee...

No Tinder Matches? Try This Unique Advertising Strategy

October 12, 2020 01:00 - 10 minutes - 7.42 MB

This is a great marketing strategy used to dramatically increase your success on online dating apps like tinder, bumble, and hinge. It's no secret that trying to get matches, and trying to get dates online can be very difficult for average guys. But there are some really great lessons that we can learn from the world of marketing and advertising which can be brought over and applied to your online dating profile. It's called Niching, and it involves splitting your profile up into vari...

The Dark Feminine - Man's Greatest Paradox

October 08, 2020 01:00 - 8 minutes - 5.75 MB

The dark feminine is both sexy as hell and scares us to death at the same time. Many men have been hurt by the dark feminine in relationships, so they get into relationships with luke-warm women, while they cheat on the side with dangerous dark women. This is an unhealthy cycle. Just like the dark masculine, the dark feminine is a part of every woman, and it can cause great harm if a woman doesn't have a healthy relationship with her dark feminine. It's important for men to have an u...

Can You Be Too Attractive For Tinder?

October 05, 2020 01:00 - 15 minutes - 10.7 MB

Did you know that I regularly get really attractive men reaching out because they struggle to get results on Tinder? Did you know they get most frustrated because some of their less attractive friends are doing better than they are? Online dating is definitely a superficial place - but just being good looking isn't a guarantee that you'll get women matching with you all over the place. The key to getting a swipe right is to understand how women think about the men they're considering m...

The Hot Crazy Matrix - Explained!

October 01, 2020 01:00 - 16 minutes - 11.5 MB

Did you know that the Hot Crazy Matrix actually has some very valuable lessons for men to learn if they understand it's deeper implications? Whether you're looking for an ideal girl to date, or to find a long term relationship and potentially a wife - there are some really big dating mistakes guy make which can lead to emotional and financial ruin. If you fully understand the implications of the hot/crazy matrix, then you can go on to make far better choices for partners. Finding the p...

6 Biggest Rejections Of My Life

September 28, 2020 01:00 - 20 minutes - 13.9 MB

I'll share my biggest rejections I've ever had from women in my life - some of them are tragic and some of them are tragically funny. I think it's really important for men to realise that no matter how hard you work on your dating skills, you're always going to face rejection - so today I want to share my funny dating rejection stories so you can laugh with or at me and my experiences. It's important for men wanting to learn to be more successful with women to see that all men have to b...

How Unattractive Guys Can Attract Women

September 24, 2020 01:00 - 15 minutes - 11 MB

Unattractive guys can still meet, attract and date women - This is your guide to making that happen. I won't sugar coat it though - dating is always harder when you're not a good looking or hot guy. But that doesn't mean all is lost. In this video, I'm going to focus on teaching you what less attractive men need to work on to still be able to meet and attract women in their lives. This is the dating advice many men have been asking me for, and I think that it's high time that I deliver...

First Date Red Flags - For Long Term Relationships

September 21, 2020 01:00 - 19 minutes - 13.4 MB

What are some sure signs that your date isn't' all you hoped they would be? Going on first dates can be daunting, and trying to work out if they're a good match can feel like an impossible task. But here are 6 red flags (and one bonus flag) that you should look out for which may prove that you should be proceeding with caution. Whether you're a girl or a guy going on a date and want a medium to long term serious relationship with someone, this is a video you don't want to miss.

Discover Your Masculinity - 7 Critical Lessons

September 17, 2020 01:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MB

What were the 7 HUGE lessons I learned about masculinity that changed how I evolved and grew up as a man? Trying to work out what it means to be a man, and what masculinity really means to you can be a tricky field of self-discovery. It seems like you have some people telling you to 'man up' and other people telling you all about the evils of 'toxic masculinity'. And it can be confusing for any guys. As it turns out Men's groups which share vulnerability and integrity with a range of...

Don't Hate The Tinder 20% Rule

September 14, 2020 01:00 - 13 minutes - 9.27 MB

I hear a lot of guys get really upset with online dating apps like Tinder and Bumble and Hinge because you have to be in the top 20 per cent of guys to get any results. But actually - That's a very reasonable outcome for an area where lots of guys want to be successful. It's important to realise that you have to work hard on your online dating profile if you want to stand out and get matches and dates. Tinder is in many ways a reflection of the real world dating scene - But we very of...

Affirmative Consent With Women - Is There A Huge Silver Lining?

September 10, 2020 01:00 - 13 minutes - 8.97 MB

Most men I know felt really frustrated when they first heard about affirmative consent - after all, this felt like yet another example of men being burdened with women's' responsibilities. But I've come to realise that there could be a very real way in which affirmative consent may prove to be a very positive change for us guys in the long run - and there's good evidence existing to suggest that we should consider embracing the yes means yes ideology. What could be the hidden benefit?

How To Stop Being Needy With Women - 100% Effective Strategy

September 07, 2020 03:00 - 10 minutes - 7.29 MB

Here is one proven strategy to stop being needy forever - this has a 100% success rate with all my clients over the last 11 years. Neediness with women is an instant turn off - and it can be almost impossible to hide forever - it always has a way of coming back and destroying your relationships, and her attraction for you in the process. Becoming needy and clingy with women has become far too common with men - and it boils down to not having specific emotional needs met in their day to d...

Shadow Work And Your Dark Masculine

August 25, 2020 00:00 - 12 minutes - 8.66 MB

What his your Dark Masculine? And why do all men need to do shadow work to learn to embrace their dark masculine? Why are women so turned on by men who are dangerous but in control? Your dark side is the portal to accessing your masculinity - and it's often not pretty or socially acceptable. But it's a critical part of who you are as a man, and it should never be suppressed or ignored. Men who want to stop being scared of the world need to learn to embrace and be comfortable with the d...

Is Tinder Gold Worth It In 2020?

August 10, 2020 00:00 - 13 minutes - 9.05 MB

Is it worth getting Tinder Gold in 2020? Many men get really frustrated with Tinder, and especially with Tinder Gold, if they don't end up getting any results. Which happens quite often. In fact, as many as 80% of guys who pay for tinder gold get barely any results at all. This isn't a random effect, however, and there are some very good use case scenarios when paying to upgrade your tinder account is well worth it, and you can improve your results dramatically. In this video, I'll s...

Online Dating Vs Cold Approaching - Which Is Better?

August 04, 2020 00:00 - 18 minutes - 12.6 MB

Is online dating better than cold approaching? Which modality of attraction is best for you? That's actually not as simple as it sounds, for some guys, jumping onto Tinder or Bumble and crafting a really amazing online dating profile is the best way to go - for other guys, it'is worth it to invest time learning to approach and attract women out in the real world. In this video, I'm going to discuss the pros and cons of different ways of meeting cute girls, whether it's online or out in ...

Why Should You Join A Men's Group?

July 28, 2020 00:00 - 12 minutes - 8.63 MB

Men's group sare one of the powerful ways to men to work on their self-development and discover their masculinity in a safe compassionate space of other men who are there to serve you. When I was a younger man, wanting to work on my masculinity and stop being such a pushover nice-guy - men's groups really helped me to discover what it was that I was doing wrong. We live in a climate where feminists and other women are trying to control the dialogue on what a 'real man' really is, and tea...

Is An Open Relationship Right For You?

July 21, 2020 00:00 - 18 minutes - 12.5 MB

Why do I think most couples aren't ready for an open relationship? What are some of the hidden dangers of a polyamorous lifestyle? What are some of the massive benefits to be had from having an open marriage? Today I'm going to discuss my experiences both with my partner and being around many other couples who are experimenting with open relationships and swinging, and what I've seen working and not working which has caused them to thrive or fall apart.

Dealing With Rejection - I Wish I Knew This 20 Years Ago

July 14, 2020 00:00 - 10 minutes - 7.37 MB

How we deal with Rejection and Failure is one of the biggest determining factors in whether we are going to go and accomplish all the things we dream about in life. But the truth is that most of us give up after a couple of failures or brutal rejections, and some of us are so frightened of the pain that we never even try in the first place. But there is a deceptively simple strategy to breaking through and dealing with rejection in a way that prevents it from having a lasting effect on y...

Is Love Transactional? Yes - But Not How You Think

July 07, 2020 00:00 - 10 minutes - 7.16 MB

It may surprise you to hear me suggest that romantic love is based largely on a transaction between two or more people, and that if someone doesn't keep living up to their end of the bargain - then the relationship will fail. It may also surprise you that I still think that love is very real and romance is still alive and well in both men and women, and isn't going anywhere. I want to tell you why understanding the true transactional nature of love can be incredibly empowering and help y...

Online Dating Tips For Men Who Want something Casual

June 30, 2020 00:00 - 14 minutes - 10.2 MB

4 Online dating tips to help guys get casual sex relationships with women from their dating apps. When looking for dating advice for men - it's often focussed on how to get dates, rather than how to create a casual hookup - which is exactly what so many guys are really after. As a dating coach of over 11 years, I'll show you 4 important things you need to do with your online dating profiles to consistently find new friends with benefits.

How The Choice Paradox Is Ruining Dating And Relationships

June 23, 2020 00:00 - 15 minutes - 11 MB

Why are men feeling increasingly frustrated with dating? Could it be because both men and women have too many choices? What does the choice paradox outlined by Barry Schwartz have to do with dating and relationships? As it turns out, it could tell us quite a lot about why finding women to date can be so frustrating in this day and age.

Stop Self Sabotaging With Women

June 16, 2020 00:00 - 11 minutes - 8.17 MB

Do you find yourself sabotaging all chance of success when you really like a girl? It's true that most men I work with have gotten very good at self-sabotaging their own success, and even though they have all the requirements to be quite good with women, they always find a way to fail just before they can get success. The worst thing is that our internal reasons for sabotaging ourselves live in our sub-conscious and so they are often great big dating blind spots for us. I'm going to sh...

Guide To Taking Your Own Epic Tinder Photos

June 09, 2020 00:00 - 11 minutes - 8.1 MB

My complete guide to going out and getting fantastic Tinder profile photos that guarantee you'll get matches and dates. The most difficult part of any Tinder profile is getting the right photos is having access to good quality shots - but most men aren't lucky enough to have any lying around. This guide will help you get out there right now and get some great shots you can use to give your profile that much needed boost.

Friends With Benefits - EASY Process

June 02, 2020 00:00 - 16 minutes - 11.1 MB

Learn how to get a friend with benefits relationship EASILY. How can you know if a woman is open to casual sex? How can you create a friends with benefits relationship with her? How can you maintain a casual sex relationship? I'm going to show you how to find, attract, and establish friends with benefits relationships without making the kinds of mistakes most men regularly make with women.

How To Know If She's A Good Catch - 3 Points To Consider

May 25, 2020 00:00 - 11 minutes - 7.98 MB

How do you know if a woman you've just started dating is actually a good catch? Is there a way to tell if she's about to make your life a living hell once you get into a long term relationship? Today I want to share the 3 relationship flags that every man should think about prior to getting serious about a new woman in his life. This is the dating advice that I wish someone had given me when I was a younger man. 1. What are her friends like? 2. What is her relationship with her fathe...

What A Sugar Daddy Website Taught Me About Online Dating

May 25, 2020 00:00 - 15 minutes - 10.4 MB

I joined a Sugar Daddy online dating website (seeking arrangement) to see what it was all about. As it turned out, I had a really fascinating experience that taught me quite a bit about the current state of women's online dating as well as the true nature of human relationships. I've definitely learned things that can be directly applied to other online dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge. So what did I learn? Keep listening to find out

Interesting Online Dating Trends I've Noticed During The Apocalypse

May 21, 2020 00:00 - 10 minutes - 6.95 MB

How has online dating changed during the coronavirus outbreak? Do women use Tinder or Bumble differently? Do they look for different kinds of men? What are the most curious ways that women have now changed their dating behaviours? With Covid-19 on the top of everyone's mind, we are all coping with the current situation in different ways. I've noticed some very curious changes that have happened in the way women are using online dating apps, as well as the kinds of men they're looking f...

How Your Attachment Style Impacts Your Relationships With Women

May 18, 2020 00:00 - 11 minutes - 7.66 MB

What is your attachment style? How does that attachment style determine whether you're going to face an ongoing string of bad relationships, or whether you're going to find an incredible woman? Attachment theory has been around for over 50 years, and it studies the ways in which our early childhood impacts our anxiety levels around relationships as adults, and can have a massive impact on the quality of the relationships that we have.

How To Stop Neediness With Women

May 14, 2020 00:00 - 12 minutes - 8.77 MB

2 powerful strategies to help you stop being needy around women. Women consistently rate neediness as being one of the biggest turn-offs - and yet so many guys find it hard to reduce the amount of needy behaviour that finds its way into their interactions. Imagine if you could stop feeling so 'thirsty' for women and instead started focussing on what you really wanted from a woman and being willing to walk away. It's a myth that women are the gatekeepers of sex - in fact you should be ...

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