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Ep. 212 Timestamps

00:00-Identifying WHY You Self-Criticize
02:46-The ROOT of Self-Critical Pattern No. 1
05:10-How ADHD Feeds Off Self-Criticism
07:20-Why Am I So Hard On Myself? SOLVED
09:55-When Your Career Demands Your Self Critic
11:45-Solutions That Actually Work for Overly Critical Achievers
13:25-Criticizing Yourself to Create Change
16:45-Hyper Critical Power Dynamics
18:33-How To Stop Beating Yourself Up

 

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